Giving Reddit Relationship Advice - SimplyPodLogical #35

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On this episode of SimplyPodLogical, Cristine and Ben give relationship advice to anonymous posters on Reddit (r/relationships).
0:00 - Hey what’s up holo everyone
4:42 - My partner doesn’t support my passion for frogs
13:00 - Will buying a girl food make her like me?
16:38 - My dog destroyed a girls $1,200 shoes
23:04 - My boyfriend is lying about being a doctor
28:48 - My husband uses my socks to wash his face
32:29 - My boyfriend doesn’t like me eating beans
37:11 - My boyfriends wants to spoon feed me
40:54 - My dad likes feet pictures on social media
44:12 - My husband jokes about eating my cat
48:47 - My boyfriend doesn’t want to be a “simp”
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[@darkangel012299]

As far as the frogs, the fact that the girl is trying to compromise and the boyfriend won’t move an inch makes me wary for her. She asked if she can keep half (instead of three) and he said no. She offered to pay with her own money for them to have a Frog Room, he said no. He’s decided without her input that she MUST keep exactly 3. Everyone should be suspicious of partners who can’t even try to meet you in the middle.

[@ava_lavender]

I think asking her to keep only three instead of none of them is a compromise. Also keep in mind that we only have the girl's side of the story and maybe he did try to further compromise. That said, with only the girl's side of the story, I probably would side with her.

[@darkangel012299]

@@ava_lavender You don’t decide on a compromise by yourself, you and the other person work on it together until everybody’s satisfied. Also nothing about the story leads me to believe that she would gain anything from leaving out other attempts to compromise on his end.

[@ava_lavender]

@@darkangel012299 I was specifically referring to the "won't move an inch" part because he did offer a compromise. The post didn't seem to include why he didn't want her to have more frogs, and I wonder if that's because she doesn't know or didn't include the information. Either way, I think more information is needed to make a judgement.

[@KittenKat1313]

I was also concerned about that “compromise”. It seemed to me as a way of controlling her, which can lead to more serious relationship issues later on.

[@colorbar.s]

I found the replies to the post online and everyone was supportive of her :)

[@cassiesprague1056]

For the frogs situation: you don't get to start dating someone who has an interest or a hobby or pets and then tell them that you don't like that thing so they have to compromise for you. If you don't like something, that's fine, but you don't get to enter a relationship with someone who does and demand that they have to change that thing about themselves for your comfort. Keep the frogs, ditch the dude.

[@Stettafire]

I'm trying to put myself in that position. If I had four dogs all well cared for and by bf asked me to rehome 2. I'd be beyond upset, I'd be absolutely hysterical. Trying to see it from his perspective... I have a gf who has 20 spiders as pets. But, in that situation if they so generously offered to pay extra for another room to keep the spiders so I didn't have to deal with them. I'd think that was the sweetest thing, and I'd agree to pay half of the extra costs of that room. Heck, I may even offer to pay for the extra room myself since she's making that compromise for me. Yeah, I fail to see it from his perspective really. She's already tried to compromise and I thought she was being very generous. If I were the GF I'd probably get rid of him. If I were the BF I'd want a compromise that kept us both happy.

[@cassiesprague1056]

@@Stettafire Yeah, I think if you're getting into a relationship with somebody and that person already has 20 spiders and you hate spiders, that's on you to choose where your heart lies, not the other person. Because, at the end of the day, your home is your pet's home and if someone comes into your home and says "change this or I won't be with you" then I will not be with them. Someone else will come along who likes my 20 spiders and helps me take care of them.

[@KimberlyByrdV]

Thank you!

[@colorbar.s]

it's a 6 month relationship compared to the pets she's had for TWO YEARS. I think the choice is clear. She'd have to abandon 11 of them if she listened to him, that's awful.

[@tbc_cosplay]

Especially exotic pets! My snake is a lot of work and she comes with me

[@katrinalizon5750]

I have a cat named carrot and whenever I make soup I literally go up to him and say "look carrot I put you in the soup" am I terrible lmao

[@xtinac8328]

that is REALLY cute actually hahaha not terrible at all!! my cat's name is oreo, so whenever i have oreos, i stare at him and just go "nom nom nom"

[@crispier487]

Sometimes I eat Oreos and tell my cat, Oreo that I’m eating her

[@laurac86]

I’m dying laughing at all of these 🤣🤣🤣 Thanks guys I need a good laugh today 😊

[@fenrkinex]

My boyfriend jokes about our chubby cat a lot. He'll grab his back legs (the cat doesn't mind) and says "look at these chicken wings!!" and jiggle his squish XD

[@roxypicasso66]

omg these comments are great hey katrina can you pet carrot for me please

[@mariniland2406]

As a sex and relationship therapist I find it so funny that Christine is having a hard time believing some of these because she thinks they're too wierd, they wouldn't even crack the top 100 weirdest things I've encountered with couples! People be weird, that's why I have a job ☺

[@fmj1978]

I’m really curious to hear about some of your stories now haha. If you’re allowed tell them of course

[@xFyreWytchx]

As a fellow reptile/amphibian rehaber... 15 frogs is not a lot of frogs, its kind of average. Especially if they're more sedentary frogs that basically plant themselves in their enclosures and wait for food. I don't like spiders but my wife does. So we compromised and we have 27 tarantulas.

[@BloodyWiccaG]

The right way to compromise xD

[@user-gs4xe5fc5r]

Honestly that sounds really cute I want a book about the reptile/amphibian and spider couple

[@alisha9803]

:0 how are you not scared of spiders :0

[@cookfamily6141]

Question @Rae Grainger, I used to live near a creek, can’t frogs be incredibly loud? And how much time would it take to care for them? Plus I don’t think she ever said how many there are, they just used 15 as an example, but what if there were more?

[@xFyreWytchx]

@@alisha9803 They're fine in the enclosures. I get super nervous when my wife opens them to feed and water them, ngl. She actually started keeping them to get over her fear and its mostly worked.

[@LoveCrumb]

I'm only 20 minutes into this podcast and I already need at least 5 more episodes where Cristine and Ben give reddit relationship advice!!

[@itsjustbrytt7697]

Same!!

[@beverlyjohnson4783]

I just need Ben to have a channel or a segment just shading other you tubers. I NEED IT.

[@megenashley]

Agreed. This should become a regular segment on the podcast.

[@girltwink0]

same!!!

[@no-st4ft]

@@girltwink0 I like your name : )

[@bethanyayres4332]

Once after a bad breakup I found a post from my ex about me on r/relationships. It basically boiled down to, “she asked me to leave her alone, should I honor that wish?” And almost all of the commenters told him that no, he should pursue me to “let me see how much he cared.” There was one single person who told him to back off, and that person got downvoted into oblivion. Not surprisingly, he ended up stalking me.

[@Lost_Gemini]

That's awful! 😳

[@corneliastreet3559]

That’s a very common issue, it’s prevalent. A lot of people think if you try hard enough or want it bad enough, you’re entitled to it. And to a lot of men (and women), that applies to potential romantic partners. I’m sure the responses on the: if I buy her food will she love me, are varying degrees of “keep trying, you’ll wear her down eventually”. It comes from a lot of rom coms, I think,where there are men who are persistent when the woman is clearly not interested or has said she’s focused on work or whatever, and they keep following her around and trying to get her to like them and then there’s a big grand gesture and she changes her mind. It’s a control thing, they want power over you. Big red flag if they can’t respect your wishes, the things you clearly tell them, and think you’re just a part of their story they want to force to happen and try to dominate you as a result. Unfortunately it leads to a lot of stalking, manipulation, and domestic abuse in real life.

[@hcf4kd1992]

We're you dating Ted Mosby? 😐

[@Anonymous-yy3jg]

cristine not saying jeffree star’s name but saying “who shall not be named” sent me in orbit lmaoo

[@chanapatrchangprasert9581]

JEFFREE BOUGHT HER A BAG? When??

[@katerrinah5442]

@@chanapatrchangprasert9581 a few years back

[@mawithaxdd]

@@chanapatrchangprasert9581: She mentioned it in another podcast. Maybe the one where they answer random questions and comment on cancel culture? He sent her one in PR. They’ve never talked.

[@KylieWagner]

OMG HOW DID I NOT CATCH THIS ☕️😂

[@alexandriav3956]

Especially since Michelle McDaniel always calls him Lord Voldemort haha.

[@LonaWu]

Beyyyyyn: what if I hated cats? Menchie: * bumps her head into his shoulder * no you don't, dad

[@wayneessar7489]

😅

[@TheEllie138]

🥰🥰

[@madison_088]

Aww 😊

[@kimk.9168]

The story about the boyfriend always wanting to feed the girlfriend had an update and it escalated to him getting mad at her for refusing and they broke up

[@joo2697]

Seriously?! I hope the girl is happy now

[@Vocalinds]

Yeah, and he said some awful things to her before he stormed out!

[@wolfferoni]

Was looking for this comment. I didn't see the original, only the update, and holy heck. Here's the link www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/j0dgqk/update_my_boyfriend_loves_to_feed_me_my_meals/

[@katc2040]

That's the problem with guys with fetishes. They can have their fetish but they always try to push it on other people

[@dexa6623]

@@wolfferoni Yikes. Thanks for the link.

[@RistrettoReader]

Ben said let’s “hop” right in to the frog story and no one is pointing out this precious pun so Ben I SEE YOU AND I APPRECIATE YOUR PUN

[@ariellesayshello]

For the lying doctor one: girl needs to run. i've heard this story before - and the guy murdered his wife.

[@articxunodorseggnej8016]

What the, do you have a link?

[@amandacutebutevil6539]

@Ln_ Ope this is an episode on Netflix’s unsolved mysteries

[@kawaiibocchan533]

Sounds straight out of an episode of “who the Bleep did I marry?!”

[@jadziajan]

@@amandacutebutevil6539 I don't know if you're saying that it sounds like or actually is one (I don't watch Netflix but I'm guessing it might be), but it's a very well-known story in France and often makes the news, as the perp is still on the run.

[@dullasparagus6369]

@Ln_ Ope just searched him up and didn’t find anything doctor related, but i did find jean claude romand who was in the related section and lied about doctor stuff

[@skyeholio]

i would LOVE an aita (am i the asshole) episode with ben and cristine omg !!

[@lizzylue92]

I would love this!

[@RodneyAndMeVideos]

Yes! Absolutely

[@Destiny-uf5fv]

YES!

[@girltwink0]

right??

[@babypoof]

Yessss

[@913zzzn]

FROG GIRL DESERVES TO BE IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE WHO LOVES FROGS AND WHO WANTS TO HAVE A BEAUTIFUL FROG FAMILY TOGETHER 🐸💚🐸

[@Poodlesnpussies]

This was very entertaining. BTW Cristine as I was showing off my Menchie nail polish in front of my boyfriend he told me he grew up playing with you at the cottage... remember Kevin and Andrew? LOL what a small world! Can't wait for the new polish!

[@deepikaparthasarathy1033]

A like to push it up.

[@glittersoop]

aww i hope simply sees this!!

[@claraberg1214]

Thats so cool☺☺ I hope she sees this!

[@noodie_doodie]

I really really really hope she sees this

[@rainbowosprey1619]

Commenting to boost this

[@rebella8898]

For the frog story: she needs to leave him. He is being controlling. Forcing her to act in a way he wants. It definitely is a power move. No one should force you to get rid of your beloved animals. She isn’t hoarding frogs, she rescues them. 14 frogs is nothing compared to what others have. I have 4 African Dwarf Frogs, but they are tiny and live in a fish tank, but I wouldn’t hesitate to get 10 more. I also have 3 dogs. Three dogs that all have their own expensive medical issues. I’d never give them away. This girl needs to find a man that loves her frogs as much as she does.

[@jednrrp]

Especially to invite her to a new area where she has no connections, and require that she get rid of her lifeline. That is a serious set up for abuse fosho

[@PhDchick]

Yup. I would be like sorry to see ya go.

[@allisonh2340]

I agree so much. Frog enclosures aren't even that big of a nuisance. It's not like she has a bunch of frogs hopping around the house. If it bothered him that much, he shouldn't have invited her to move with him to begin with instead of making it a conditional offer

[@maryhorn2028]

Here’s the real question: she had frogs when they met. He didn’t like them all along. Now he gas her hooked on him and asks her to rehome them. Why did he infiltrate her life past date 1 if he didn’t like frogs and knows she does? Abuse set up. Control freak.

[@PhDchick]

@@maryhorn2028 I told a dude one time I couldn’t date guys with dogs. He thought I was crazy. I asked him which was better. To not like dogs all along, and then come to the dog or me, or to just not date people with dogs?

[@kimguthrie6779]

Ben: “As your partner I want to be-“ Ad for thermal socks: “JuSt LikE A tHeRMosTaT”

[@bisinzhu8685]

lmaoooo

[@happycamper88]

😂😂😂

[@rheabooth7862]

The spoon-feed thing is 100% a kink

[@avanic477]

it was, I saw an update on an Instagram page if anyone is interested here's the link instagram.com/p/CFn1JhbH6XF/

[@karly.asshhh]

He's probably into dd/lg

[@squatchen]

Feeders is what they call them. not sure what the term for the one being fed, but there are probably people out there that enjoy being fed. Not my cup of tea to be honest. Im a gamer, and i enjoy gaming with the hubby.. even just over voice chat while playing separate games.

[@bry7487]

@@squatchen feeders/feedees. Some feeders like to feed in order for their feedee to gain, others just like to feed. My husband likes to feed for the feedee to gain but I don't want to gain so he has a feedee on the side for that. But I do like being fed in a dd/lg sense cause that's what I'm into. Kinks are hella fun.

[@alisavandertang3165]

@@bry7487 i read this and really needed a moment to process this 😂

[@jenemben]

For the last story: I swear some people don't know what it means to be a simp 🙄 being affectionate towards your S.O isn't being a simp lmao. The term simp is used for people that incessantly pine over someone that clearly shows no interest in them. Simp is the last thing you would call someone in a relationship where the romantic and/or sexual feelings for their S.O are reciprocated 💀😂

[@cottage-core_]

I mean my girlfriend calls me a simp but she's got a pretty ironic sense of humor so to each their own Edit: wrote this before I watched that part, but yeah I hate they emotional distance guys are pushed towards by being called stuff like simp

[@mind0fash806]

Well some people have changed the meaning of the word and now alot of people call their so a simp, it depends on how your using it

[@bubble_espeon]

God reminds me someone called my boyfriend a simp for a now ex-friend because he was a good teammate in Mario Kart's battle mode... while i was present

[@nickr.5396]

Honestly I doubt 14 frogs are taking up much space. They’re probably small, and that’s very different from 14 cats lol.

[@messibessi11]

Right? Like are they all in different tanks or does she have like a large aquarium to house all the frogs? I’ve never taken care of multiple frogs I’ve only ever had the one and I’m not sure if you’re able to keep them all in the same tank so idk

[@danip2476]

I thought that but then what if they’re croaking all day or night

[@Rin-ef2tp]

Not sure if it’s the smell but it could be the noise. I’m not sure how noisy 14 frogs would be but when I lived in Japan there were lots of frogs in the rice paddies I lived near and it was very loud through the night, it was the soundtrack through the rainy season

[@taylorjade6918]

I imagine them in multiple terrariums. They probably can't all be housed together. I also agree it's gotta be a noise thing over smell.

[@snakesonaframe2668]

@@Rin-ef2tp it depends on the species of frog. As far as I know, most species commonly kept as pets aren’t loud enough to disturb you if they’re in a separate room. Or even in the same room. My African dwarf frogs make noise, but it took me forever to realize that it was actually them calling and not just their filter running, and the noise doesn’t wake me up or bother me at all.

[@crunchyoats1862]

I didn’t like this guy but he kept buying me food, now we’ve been dating for 8 years. 😂

[@TheUpikz]

Between the two guys who was interested in me I dated and MARRIED the one who bought me food :D

[@tearsdrop2797]

These are both amazing

[@kristinavee1012]

My husband coerced me to date him with soft pretzels LOL

[@tazzy29]

Food has helped resolve many an argument in my household. Don't underestimate the power of a well timed meal.

[@mahou.shoujojo]

My current boyfriend bribed me with Starbucks and Wendy's. We've been dating for 3 years now

[@erica1800]

honestly the simp one made me kind of sad, like why do we live in a world where men showing affection is considered weird or like “unmanly” of them? even as a joke, i think it starts to become a bad habit. like i have friends who use simp jokingly (mostly) but it still used to always bother me since there shouldn’t be the world notion abt what you have to do to not be a simp and even more so, why is being a simp a bad thing? i will say tho, if you’re a guy and your friends keep calling you a simp to the point where it actually starts to make you feel bad or feel conscious, that’s not good and you should tell them honestly that it affects you and that it’s problematic. and if they laugh and still call you a simp for admitting that, idk if you’re really friends honestly 😅 like i get jokes and making fun of each other but be conscious of when it stops being fun and it becomes hurtful and quick note abt the frog one: honestly if you are willing to make sure that the frogs do not make life harder for him and he really does not have a genuine reason aside from “thinking they’re ugly”, honestly don’t move in with him 😂 you shouldn’t have to give up so much of smth that makes you happy for a kind of dumb reason

[@derrypalm945]

the word simp does have a meaning, and i quote :Simp is a slang insult for men who are seen as too attentive and submissive to women, especially out of a failed hope of winning some entitled sexual attention or activity from them. I don't get why these people are confused about that, being a decent boyfriend isn't simping 🤦‍♂️. honestly these boys should be embarrassed that they cant even understand a simple meme.

[@Corn22]

because patriarchy and toxic masculinity lol

[@riotgrrrl8807]

Because misogyny always seems to overtake. I think "Karen" is a useful term, but just look at the comments underneath KZbin Karen compilations. So much misogyny. Actually, people ALWAYS find a way to be misogynistic, no matter the subject.

[@johndododoe1411]

If former friends drive the boyfriend away by teasing and namecalling, it may push the young couple closer together, which is a potential benefit in the greater scheme of things.

[@mansionofcardboard]

Fragile & toxic masculinity is a horrible thing.

[@allisonk8316]

Re. The frogs - it's a 6 month relationship. He's moving for grad school. It's probably going to end anyways. Also don't date someone knowing their hobby and passion then make it an issue later. That's a dirty trick.

[@tracydammit7243]

Thank you! I'm shocked nobody said anything about the six months.

[@osllq9355]

Is it just me or... when guys don't want to be "simps" they're simping for their friends instead 😂😂

[@CheshieD]

Exactly it seems 😂😂

[@wildador]

On the shoe story (AHEMMMM I watched a lot of day time court in my past) he is liable for those shoes. He’s responsible for the dog and therefore the damage to her shoes. BUTTTTT I doubt they’re new so she’s only entitled to the depreciated price of the shoes. Not a brand new pair of shoes

[@gabrielledonn4098]

See the Three letter word but. Also if she says she’s a sugar baby then sugar baby it up 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️ also she went somewhere completely new tho not knowing what was gonna happen. So she could of been like hey “ I haven’t been to his house before so idk if o should wear my expensive items. “ let me where something not as much value until I get a feel for the house”

[@solangeperry5489]

Yep, I am a law student and he is liable for damage done by his dog. But there will be mitigating factors etc. Case by case how much he is liable for.

[@CheshieD]

I think technically the dog never having done this before PLUS it being at the guy’s house WHILE ALSO both of them being in another room together the whole time is prooobably more in favor of him than her. Especially because if she was worried she shoulda said somethin beforehand. Also like.... he’s a stranger why wear 1.2k shoes to his house??? That’s insane like bruh ya don’t know what might happen like geez

[@celinaamaralsahagun7471]

I mean maybe she went to his house already wearing those shoes, not really thinking about only going there. But also nothing would had happen to her shoes if he wouldn’t made her take her shoes off🤷‍♀️

[@messibessi11]

Right? Like what’s the retail value on a used pair of shoes? Even if they’ve only been worn once and are in spectacular condition... Probably not worth the lawsuit. I think it would make sense for him to pay some money but I think if she’s trying to do a lawsuit she would have to get a really expensive lawyer to win the case and that would without a doubt cost more than she would get for the shoes and for that reason I highly doubt that any lawyer would be willing to take this case pro Bono... if they were like million dollar shoes or something and the person was financially able to cover the damages then that’s another story. A lot of the time you need to look at what a reasonable person would expect in that situation. Was it implicitly stated that the shoes would be safe in the entry way? Was the shoe owner doing her due diligence to ensure that her shoes were not ruined? Was it reasonable for him to assume that she would be bringing 1,200 dollar shoes to his house? Had the monetary value of the shoes come up beforehand? I would argue that you do assume some risk when you take your shoes somewhere no matter the price for example if you go ice skating and someone steals your 10,000 shoes from the cubby where you left them it’s not typically up to the rink to pay for them because you assumed some risk by taking off your shoes and putting them into the cubby and the ice rink may be responsible to cover a reasonable amount for the loss of your shoes but at the end of the day they offer the cubby holes but do not claim they are a locker/will keep your personal belongings safe so it would be stupid to take super expensive shoes there.. but I’ve only taken a few business law classes and am def not a lawyer so I might not have a feel for the situation

[@thammymikulski]

Menchie rubbing her head on a $2000 laptop is everything

[@cuddlingteddybears]

Are they $2000? Thought they were more like $1500, still crazy expensive

[@andreil1313]

@@cuddlingteddybears it depends on the type of CPU, RAM and storage. The price can go up easily if you start personalizing it.

[@unefillesimplee]

My cat does the same thing on my mac every time I work on the couch 😹

[@AhhhSukeSuke]

@@unefillesimplee they know how to appreciate quality stuffs, lol

[@Amy-bw3to]

My cat uses my MacBook as a bed 🙃

[@tifanyshirley]

Cristine: “You are allergic to cats . . . And I’m not trying to kill you.” Menchie: “I am though” **rubs all over Ben**

[@arualblues_zero]

It's 100% a kink, and there's a whole feeder community, they make videos and stuff. There's nothing wrong with having a kink, but you can't force a kink onto someone else.

[@MsMusicObsession]

He could also be a daddy and want to slowly bring in things that could encourage her to be a little

[@NunnuS98]

”Google someone before dating” Me: dating someone named Muhammad Ali.... Yup yup so easy 😂😂😂

[@suluhaxsuluha1499]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@daniverdusco9452]

Relatable 😂😂😂

[@heenagidwani3696]

I m pretty sure you got atleast 500+ results😂😂

[@daniverdusco9452]

Thankfully mine is Hanafi Osman. Not that many Hanafis in the world. Thanks mother in law!!😂😂

[@helenf.7221]

I can’t relate on a famous level but my boyfriends first and last name are so common that you cannot find him. My friend and i tried googling him when we were first going out and there were so many people with his name. And the fact that he lived in nyc made it near impossible

[@sanakulkarni2986]

every simplypodlogical; Cristine: du du du du (dances to non existent theme song) Ben: Whats up Holo everyone *They talk* Ben: idk if i should be saying this Cristine: Tea, oats, menchie, zyler, BEYYYN *Ending talk* Ben: apologies to 'X person'

[@maxine1333]

yup

[@nailsonpointbynina]

and that‘s how we all love it 😅😂

[@zazaurum600]

the simplypod bingo

[@kstadlerova]

and we´re HERE FOR ITTT

[@CancerQueenKy]

"That's why you're going in the soup" is one of the funniest things I've ever heard

[@abigailhawanchak3353]

I cannot stop laughing at the “I’m gonna put you in the soup” threat. My sister and I both regularly threaten to turn out pets in to a rug. One of her cats she got at the shelter on sale because she was a sassy old lady (her name is Blanche) and she also likes to tell the discount bin cat “that costs more than you” every time she paws at the furniture 😂

[@katiemcintyre4276]

Literally, we live near a lake and if my dog is misbehaving we joke that we’re throwing him in the lake with concrete boots on and I know it seems dark but there’s no meaning behind it 😂

[@katiemcintyre4276]

We also threaten to make ‘hot dogs’

[@nadiamillones9979]

we like to tell our dog he's going to the stew pot or with rice because it rhymes or you can sing it easily hahashdh

[@atinity6749]

Omg I do that too, I'm constantly joking how I'm gonna stuff my cat in a funny position when she's dead and put her in mantle or something 😅 Also I just love being able to share this, I've read some pet forums and those guys are really... intense. Like they literally treat you like murderer and want to take your pets away from you if you even joke about stuff like that. It's so rampant I sometimes wonder if I'm a bad person for making dark jokes about my cat? But irl everyone who is a pet owner makes weird jokes about their pets so... it's just crazy cat/dog people of the internets who think that.

[@RhiaBuzz]

Ben assumed the "if I keep asking her out and buy her food" one was a young person/teenager but lemme tell ya, there are men in their mid/late 20s that also have this mindset!!! It's incredibly awkward - sometimes it's because they're inexperienced, sometimes they're just creeps!

[@sydnegernaat195]

Here's the thing that seals the deal for me when it comes to the frogs thread - this person offered a compromise. They offered to get rid of HALF or pay for a separate room. And their partner did not bother to compromise. It's three frogs or no deal. They're better off finding someone who actually cares about them, their interests, and willing to communicate and work things out.

[@placeb0fication]

Yeah. Compromise is a huge part of being in a relationship and this seems like a red flag that he might not compromise on other important things in the fututre.

[@jackieelizabeth8614]

There's no difference logically speaking between 3 or 7 frogs. It's all about control and this early in the relationship. I cannot no matter what way agree with him. Ditch the guy

[@GSutton]

That and the fact that they've only known each other for six months. Too much, too soon.

[@samipope13]

Cristine: mentioning how Ben is allergic to cats Menchie: let me rub all over him and his laptop

[@barbarasusej]

I broke up with a guy who annoyed me a lot asking me when my senior dog would die. It was hurtful and I told him to stop but he didn't. I have NO regrets. Edit: posted this thinking about the frogs, a boyfriend should respect your love for your pets :)

[@marelisemyburgh]

You did the right thing

[@lucylfanal5670]

as you should! if you told him to stop and he didnt then imagine what other boundaries hed constantly cross

[@barbarasusej]

@@lucylfanal5670 I agree!

[@laurac86]

The only people who have issues with your boundaries, are the people who benefit from you having none

[@timmyman1997]

yeah screw that guy tbh

[@jeanettekakareka]

We literally alwaaaays talk about eating our cat when he's being extra floofy and adorable. It's cute aggression 😂😂😂

[@ania5038]

Yas cute aggression is the best type of aggression lol

[@Le_Cube]

I say the same thing about my dog. Cute aggression is spot on. 😂

[@kim-md1mp]

same! I tell my husband's cat that I'm gonna eat her leg because it looks like a turkey leg😂

[@jeanettekakareka]

@@kim-md1mp we always call his legs "chicken legs" 😂 I get you

[@Fingerscrossedout]

Hahaha I would always say to my cat that I will slurp her brains out because she's so cute 😂... yeah it sounds a lot fucked up. 😂😂😂😂

[@tc103point3]

The way Ben reads these stories is sooo freaking funny. His monotone voice combined with the way he emphasizes certain words, like “simp,” is too good. 10/10 entertainment

[@LostApotheosis]

The soup cat one kills me. I feel so bad, but that's exactly my sense of humor. My boyfriend calls my cat football cat because she's constantly under foot and we trip over her all the time when we're cooking. Soup cat is so funny to met that I'm going to steal it. Just the mouth sound of "soup cat" is so delightful to me.

[@nippleninja255]

About the cat story: I'm pretty sure that the girl is mostly conserned about the jokes because he's asian. Like, she mentioned that he's vietnamese. That is a strange thing to bring up unless you're thinking about the asians eat cats and dogs stereotype.

[@marlet-rodriguez]

I should be studying for my education research methods exam. But no, I'm watching this instead, I don't think Cristine would be proud lol

[@marlet-rodriguez]

@KAREN.NIVEDITA Grade 7 I wish my brain could do both, but I can't pay attention to both things hahaha

[@hannahms3029]

Is that a sociology exam?

[@user-hello2]

I’m supposed to being doing German revision but I’ve already done it for like an hour so I think I’m ok lol

[@dayzyrules1]

Its self care to do things that make you happy, just be sure to know when to hammer down!

[@jojobrainrot8482]

Its best to take a break sometimes, try using this as white noise as you make yourself a tea/buy some tea to calm your nerves.

[@ifuckedyourtiger]

I can’t put my finger on what it is but Cristine looks extra gorgeous today

[@mystiqueivy]

hair loose :)

[@ifuckedyourtiger]

@@mystiqueivy awww yesss. She should do that more often on camera. Let them locks fly

[@mystiqueivy]

@@ifuckedyourtiger yasss i agree 😍

[@adriannegreene7567]

She has her hair down

[@commanderwaddles3483]

I was thinking the exact same thing. I think it's the hair, the awesome hoodie, & the rainbow shimmery cat ears all together lol

[@2999michaeljackson]

When I met my partner I had 8 axolotls, a bearded dragon, a snake and 2 newts. I genuinely wouldn't have stayed with him if (3 years ago) when we discussed living together he made me choose between either him or my pets. We came as a package. I think cats are different because you can't avoid them in a household, but just... don't interact with the frogs? I can assure you, they don't do much. A tank is pretty benign.

[@rochelledliu]

That 'simp' comment makes me so sad. Since being in quarantine, my boyfriend bought me Holo Taco for my very iso birthday, and one of the happiest times in stage 4 lockdown in Melbourne is just having a date night once every two weeks where I paint my boyfriend's nails with Holo Taco as we watch Disney movies. He likes showing them to our friends and he's even asked that I paint his nails when we finally have his mum over for dinner. I can't imagine what life would be like if my boyfriend not only refuses to indulge in fun nails but just public displays of affection like holding hands or doing anything nice for me just for fear of a stupid label. (To be fair, his friends are not the type to be assholes about stuff like that because they do not conform to gender binaries/expectations. You do you as long as you're not hurting anyone, is their general motto.) Sending lots of love to the OP for that 'simp' post.

[@destinyguinn1717]

In the US, from a legal perspective, he is responsible for replacing her shoe. He would only have to pay for the value of the shoe at the time of the incident (which could be more or less depending on how the value of gucci shows fluctuates). If he had homeowners insurance I believe he could use that. But she would absolutely have legal standing to sue him for damages since it occurred due to his property (his dog). You can argue whether its a dick move for her to ask him to pay, but a judge would most likely have him pay.

[@haniapopowska8966]

Dogs are living creatures.

[@sheenat3]

@@haniapopowska8966 what's your point?

[@haniapopowska8966]

@@sheenat3 It hurts me on many levels to read "due to his property" referring to the dog. I also would not agree, that it isn't on her to know things. Any reasonable person would agree, that a responsible person checks facts before and upon entering another person's home, as well as engaging in sexual activities. In the same way that I would argue that it's his fault for catching an STD if she had had one.

[@annaoffergeld2468]

So to me it seems that he is liable for the actions of his property. He was clearly negligent because he knew that she dressed in expensive clothing and that his dog was prone to chewing shoes. However I think she would have contributory negligence that would significantly diminish the amount payable

[@b4itstarted]

@@haniapopowska8966 yikes that's victim blaming. Is it a girl's fault for getting raped because her clothes were "too revealing"? No, it's 100% the rapist's fault. I don't care if the girl was walking around naked. If someone's car gets broken into, is it their fault for not researching crime rates and parking somewhere safer? No one bit. The woman has every right to be upset that someone else's dog destroyed her property regardless of how rich she is or how poor the dog owner is or how expensive the property is. She has every legal right to seek compensation and she would probably win. Whether or not you agree with the law and her actions is a completely different question.

[@SockGal]

Honestly the frog question made me very sad. And I feel for her. It sounds like she is being extremely reasonable and has more than one suggestion to compromise with him so she can keep her frogs. He said "you can only keep three". That was his one rule for her to live with him. I know we don't have his side of the story but I get the feeling this guy doesn't have much respect for her passion and just kind of puts up with it. Even if he doesn't understand it personally he seems unwilling to understand what it means to her. Re-homing pets is so heartbreaking. He doesn't get what he's asking her to do. Personal story! My husband has an intense passion for carnivorous plants (I know its very specific haha) and while living together we have had to discuss how many plants were reasonable in a small apartment. There was always something we could do. And the most important thing is respect and understanding. He understands and respects that we can't keep buying plants to fill up every room. I understand that this is his passion and we should have some dedicated space for it. These plants are not my thing but its a beautiful hobby and it gives him so much joy. Caring for these frogs give this girl so much joy and purpose. I hope he can agree with one of her suggestions that doesn't put her in a lot of pain.

[@brill34536]

i mean, we don’t really know how the presence of the frogs affects him. personally, if i was with someone with 15+ frogs, i would most definitely not be comfortable living at home with them. so i think she needs to consider his feelings and he needs to consider hers too. and ultimately, if both of them are uncomfortable one way or another, they probably wouldn’t be able to live together.

[@meg1653]

@@brill34536 it makes me think these people have never lived in an apartment, or the point where it becomes hoarding. in her post, she SAID she keeps bringing home frogs. we do not know how well she takes care of them, if she has already broken compromises, if these frogs are preventing him from finding an apartment they can be in and therefore not go to grad school. it is VERY. VERY one sided

[@jackieelizabeth8614]

He entered this relationship knowing about her love and passion for the frogs and then expects her to get rid of them with no real explanation why and no compromising, not even living things that mean so much to her. Fuck the guy, even if we had his side hes got no excuse to have that level of control

[@jackieelizabeth8614]

@@meg1653 14 frogs is not a lot for someone who is probably studying them. He entered in this relationship knowing about the frogs and expects him to give them up. They don't need a lot of space, that's why she suggested the extra room which she would pay for. What's unreasonable about that? If it was an apartment issue he would of told her that but hes 'allowing' her 3, doesn't make sense. He just wanted to control her.

[@meg1653]

@@jackieelizabeth8614 looking at your profile you look like a kid so i'm not going to argue but hello, apartments have limits on animals, and just because she says she is taking care of them doesn't mean she is telling the truth. you just don't know.

[@jaydiaries333]

I’ve never bought any luxury items (shoes, bag or anything) and I think I would be scared to carry something so expensive around as well. However, I strongly think that just because someone owns a luxury over priced item doesn’t make it okay for you to assume that it’s okay to not pay for the damage you caused to their item. Even if it is difficult for you to pay for the entire sum, I think you should at least offer to pay for a second hand price for that item even if you have to pay them little by little over a longer period of time especially in a situation where it was completely your fault the item was damaged... regardless of how wealthy they are it’s their choice whether or not to say they don’t need a compensation and it doesn’t seem right to say I can’t compensate you because you own ridiculously expensive things..

[@taylorjade6918]

Absolutely this!! You don't get to say you're not paying for the damages you caused because the price is inconvenient.

[@corneliastreet3559]

Thank you! Their whole explanation was coming from a place of where they thought it was logical, but it seems victim-blame-y to me

[@that.ll_do_pig]

@@corneliastreet3559 agreed. No mention of the fact _he_ _requested_ she remove her shoes. She wouldn't have done that if it was a remote chance his dog would chew one.

[@AK-cx6di]

i dont like the fact that the person with the cat soup thingy so quickly connected his race and ethnicity to his jokes :D sumn weird about that you had to point out hes vietnamese

[@SjofnBM1989]

Yeah definitely racist.

[@halloweenallyearround4889]

Yup, racist af. Besides making an issue of a light joke seems super exaggerated to me. If she talks to him and mentions his nationality as a possible "reason" in her mind for the jokes, she's gonna show him what a piece of trash she is. What a horrible person. I used to tell my childhood dogs I was gonna eat them (by kissing their foreheads and cuddling them). My fiance and I say those things to each other sometimes on video call because we can't wait to cuddle, kiss and hug each other. And many other people world wide ( I forgot to write "wide") say that about babies, and about pets. It's a common thing, it's not a "countries were people eat cats and dogs" sort of thing. And they're married!! Can you imagine being in a relationship, then being married for a while, and after some silly jokes because you find the other person cute when they get slightly upset; your spouse brings up some nasty racist campy assumption? All those wasted years, Jesus...

[@CheshieD]

Yeah that was gross

[@jen6294]

Thank u for saying it !!!!!!

[@messibessi11]

Tbh it makes his joke more funny my boyfriend likes to joke about the fact that he’s filipino and maybe he’s playing it off using his race and that’s why she brought it up i wish we had all the information..

[@RhyannanC]

The cat story had me DYING. My cats can be naughty and we always tell them they are going into the air fryer to make air fried kitty 😂. It's all jokes we love our cats dearly.

[@_gremlinboy]

We threatened to eat our kitty all the time- cat kabobs or casseroles usually

[@xFyreWytchx]

Or YEET the dog. Frequent threat in our house. Never would, but some days.....

[@shannonperez3779]

@@xFyreWytchx omg yes, "I will YEET YOU!" is a regular threat around here

[@shannonperez3779]

the AIR FRYER AHAHAHAHAHAHAHA, goodbye

[@lauren7376]

^^ I messed with my cat like this too. I used to, on occasion, roll him back and forth on the floor and call it "roasty toasty" (like roasting over a spit). It caught on on my sister now does it to her cats lmao. Never once has any malintent *ever* crossed my mind. That lady needs to chill.

[@ajtopant]

About the doctor thing: it is not impossible to be a doctor and have hours like that. Under my residency I worked 8 am - 2 pm, only workdays, as the speciality I trained in have strict safety measurements because of radiation. Now I work in a different country (better radiation protection) and my hours are still 8 am - 4 pm, only workdays. So while it is true that a lot of doctors have varying and long hours, not every speciality is like that. And yeah, it is not at all impossible that someone at a hospital doesn´t know another person who works at a different ward.

[@heyyouyou1000]

It depens where she lives, where i live residence is you go mon-fri from 6 am to the end of the day when you finish everything you have to do after 4 pm, and you have to do wards twice a week that are 36 hrs. So unless he is already a doctor with a contract at a hospital i would believe the schedule she says.

[@amolpreetkaur3443]

Radiologist?

[@Sophassofa]

Cristine to ben: you are allergic to cats Menchi to ben: *sniff head bonk*

[@livvieRAWR99]

The second one, aaaah! If someone said they dont want to date you, dont persue them romantically at all. If you like them as a person, you can continue to hang out with them and be friends, and who knows! Maybe they will change their mind! But dont go into it hoping for that, thats how you become a Nice Guy and get your heart broken.

[@cassie4099]

Ben: "do you have any other good guy friends?" Christine:" i don't know any good guys, I put them all in the soup"

[@cassie4099]

@zonescat soory autocorrect

[@Cubs-Den-Reactions]

Re: Frogs 🐸... she offered a separate room, and it’s clearly extremely important to her(to the point of informing her chosen profession!) keep the frogs and lose the man... 😔

[@Cubs-Den-Reactions]

As for the simp of it all 🙄... that’s not what it means... the idea is that the guy is being super submissive/subservient to a woman in his life that he will get nothing in return from... so he’s exerting a lot of time, energy(sometimes even money) and will rarely get anything out of it other than the favor of the lady in question. So, in my opinion, no Beyyyn isn’t a simp because while he is considerate and subservient to a degree he gets appreciation, love, and whatever else from Cristine as a result. I don’t like the term, or what it suggests (it’s pretty toxic honestly)though I can appreciate the sentiment of “don’t let someone take advantage of you”

[@CheshieD]

@@Cubs-Den-Reactions nah being a simp is someone who literally will do anything to get in a girl’s pants. Now tbf yeah a girl could use that and manipulate the guy, but at the core it’s just a guy doing anything and everything to make sure he can get in those pants.

[@kanatraful]

Oh my god, I remember that feeding thread-turned out the guy had a fetish and wasn’t willing to tell her about it; I can’t remember exactly what happened after she confronted him but I think they ended up breaking up 😂

[@HotFriesMmm]

I think she realized that he was being manipulative about it, especially after she checked his exes and they all left the relationship fatter than when they started b/c of his feeding.

[@taylorjade6918]

@@HotFriesMmm I'd be pissed! I don't know any woman who wants to GAIN weight.

[@sarahtrue98]

speaking to the frog situation: my grandparents at one point had 13 cats, mostly because my grandmother is a huge animal lover. they started out with a few of their own, and then strays would always show up to their house for food and they would eventually take them in if they couldn't find a home for them. their friends and coworkers also learned how many cats they had, so eventually anybody who knew them who had a cat they couldn't keep would just pass their cat on to my grandparents lol. it definitely wasn't my granddad's idea but he has always been very supportive of my grandmother and it's honestly really sweet how they've taken care of all of their animals together. their relationship is one of the sweetest I've ever seen. as long as they're healthy, your partner should support your interests!

[@alinagoberman1827]

One of my favorite threats to my horse is calling him an “overpriced can of Alpo” when he’s being a jerk. I also tell him that I will sell him to the Amish, and that he would make a great bottle of Elmers. He still makes happy horse noises when he sees me, because I am the bringer of food.

[@ailishoconnor3365]

you have a horse?! i wish i had one

[@lillymorris4545]

I always threaten that I will sell my horse to the Amish or that I will I tell them they will make great dog food, but I love her and spoil the shit out of her.

[@Demeste]

Anyone else still go “huh? Oh yeah, it’s Tuesday” every time there’s a new video.

[@julianabeesly8070]

100% i was taking a math test and my phone dinged and i was like omg ya its Tuesday

[@phenomenalwoman6111]

I need a pod call "Ben Uncensored" . He is so funny & I'd love to see where he takes some of these thoughts when he isn't made to stop lol

[@leila77]

I would love to see an “am I an asshole?” Reddit version 🤣

[@leila77]

@@smk._.1416 haha ur right 🙈

[@minapazderak5867]

Not to mention she's going to school to be a biologist because of the frogs. Like... he knew what he was getting into. On a lighter note, I bet those are *really* well taken care of frogs.

[@damianporter942]

"male brain... is soup" i am male i can confirm. brain is soup.

[@Zaolan123]

No thoughts. Head soup.

[@bexc.5842]

The shoe question is almost exactly the plot of a Sex and the City episode where Carrie went to a party where guests were required to remove their shoes. At the end of the night, her shoes were stolen and the host of the party was berating Carrie for spending $500 on shoes. In the end, the host paid for the shoes. He should definitely pay as his dog damaged the shoe. Unfortunately, it is a lot of money, but they are still responsible for the damage caused while in their home.

[@anglmill]

She also didn’t choose to take off the shoes (in this question and in the SATC episode), so the host is really responsible here.

[@sm-lb5xm]

But like... If you don't have the money, how can you pay? Are you taking a loan, or making a payment plan with a random hookup? I know I'm extra careful with my shoes, purses etc. when there are animals in a household. Just because I know animals are animals. Cats will sometimes pee in purses and dogs will sometimes chew up some shoes. Or at least potentially. But then again I also disagree with that Sex And The City episode. I wouldn't hold the host personally responsible for someone stealing my stuff. I would expect them to provide me with a list of the guests so I could contact the guests myself.

[@Jeszrox1]

Maybe like set up a payment plan? Is that weird? I think she’d rather slowly get her money back then no money

[@besamecuh1217]

or compromise and pay maybe half? i mean it depends on his financial situation. if he’s struggling but offers to pay like $200, i think thats even

[@Stettafire]

Yeah, if I were the guy in that situation I'd offer to repay her monthly.

[@ceuti]

If someone doesn't want to kiss or be intimate with someone for any reason, they shouldn't have to and shouldn't be made to feel guilty if they don't, even in a long term relationship. Many people are absolutely grossed out by many foods and putting your mouth on someone who just ate something that makes you gag or puke is really unpleasant. It's not that hard to either give that person the time and brush your teeth before you ask for intimacy or just not eat that thing around them. It's not that hard but guilting and forcing your partner to do anything with their bodies that they don't want to isn't right

[@dexa6623]

I understand, but theres a difference between "don't eat that near me" and "don't eat that at all". I am incredibly sensitive to textures. I can't look at jelly because I get stuck thinking about how it feels. It's so disgusting. If someone in my house wants jelly I say "Eat that away from me." Where I can't see, hear or smell it. Grosses me out knowing it's in the house, but it's not going to touch me, I don't have to eat it, or interact with it in any way. Consent is absolutely key. No matter if she's interacted with a trigger food/ item or not, but that's kind of a seperate thing. He shouldn't kiss her if he doesn't want to, but that doesn't mean she shouldn't be able to enjoy the item away from him.

[@geministargazer9830]

He’s berating her while she eats it and then giving her the cold shoulder for hours afterwards. That sounds like emotional manipulation to me.

[@ceuti]

@@geministargazer9830 No matter the reason, if someone doesn't consent to something then they shouldn't be forced to do it. Also, if that was true it would be like that for just about anything the OP did, not just one specific random thing and also it's not uncommon for people to genuinely be extremely grossed out by certain foods. I agree that there is two sides to every story, but as domestic violence specialists, I think Ben and Cristine would have mentioned something if they felt that vibe.

[@geministargazer9830]

@@ceuti wtf? how is he being forced to do anything?

[@Editorialzero]

@@ceuti she obviously shouldn't force him to kiss her. That's absolutely not fair, but he can't control what she eats or yell at her while she does something he doesn't like if she's trying to do it privately. I have a big phobia of getting my blood taken. I have panic attacks sometimes with minor triggers like a band aid on the inner arm. It makes me really uncomfortable just to hear if my boyfriend was getting a shot or going to a blood bank. That doesn't mean that no one I ever live with is allowed to go to the doctor or donate blood. Even though that makes me uncomfortable, as long as they are trying to reasonably keep it away from me, I will never berate or control them. I know that phobias are something you can't control (I have a couple major ones), but that isn't am excuse to be abusive. It's your problem to work through and others shouldn't be punished because of it. It would be totally reasonable for him to ask her to brush her teeth afterwards in a kind way, or ask her to eat them in a different room, but not what he's doing now.

[@chickennuggets7092]

"If I blink 3 times in a row in a Simplynailogical video please send help" BEN 💀💀💀😭😂

[@sandhyabagwati3191]

Hotel for Dogs? ❌ Bedroom for Frogs. 👌🏽

[@Lilyibanez]

Oh hell no, the frogs stay! How dare he....

[@melancrolypoly]

Marry the frogs instead and make him the ringman

[@AnniCarlsson]

Exactly. As long as she able to care for all of them he need to accept them if he want her. I not a fan of frogs so would not date someone with frogs. But I would not start date that one either because I need to accept they like frogs. Get in a ton of new ones after move together different story.

[@GarliccDread]

Right! Her compromise was very fair, that she offered to pay extra and care for them herself

[@Ziinamaya]

Me at yt: BREAK UP W HIMMMM Like it's her passion, she studies biology, they help her etc and then the dude has the nerveee

[@hannabooklover]

I would initially side with the writer but I'm curious about the boyfriend's side of the story as well.

[@jits8767]

the joke with simp is supposed to be that it is ridiculous? kind of sad that it was evolved to actually shaming boyfriends... we should be making fun about people who call people simp, not being scared by them

[@AyaaAcademia]

Ben: well, the male brain is (paused) Cristine: DUMB! LMAO

[@aizahmalik814]

read this exactly as they said it!

[@jesmahanni]

This episode made me realize how different insurance policies are depending on the country you live in. In Germany he'd have insurance for the dog and himself that would cover the cost 😅. And same for the car: you don't get insurance for the specific model which you'd get back in case of an accident, but for the worth of that specific car. Interesting how that differs.

[@empichel5690]

Insurance companies protect you and don't treat you like a cash cow? Must be nice. Here they will make any excuse not to pay your claim

[@just_some_makeup_pans5128]

Yes exactly @jesmahanni we have the same in the Netherlands

[@kailasmith7414]

American insurance is ass...for real.

[@theenicc6483]

US insurance will cover the customizations, you just have to tell them and update your policy to include them. It can impact your rates, but it is part of your responsibility when you agree to the contract. If you don't do that part, then they will go based on the VIN.

[@rominawitschnig]

That's exactly what first came to my mind😂

[@wildador]

“don’t be a Kendall be a Cristine” Phil 2020 👏🏾

[@pixiedust429]

Dang it, I was going to leave this comment on her next main channel video 🤣

[@wildador]

Hahaha only thing is I was like idk when she’ll next post there!

[@pixiedust429]

@@wildador ooh, so true haha

[@MadBear1118]

There was so much more to the feeding story. The OP ended up confronting the significant other after an incident, and pretty much confirmed it was essentially a feeding fetish. Hope you guys revisit that Relationship Advice post.

[@thebrowneyedgirl97]

For the frogs thing: 14 frogs is a significant amount of enclosures. That means a lot of outlets for heat fixtures, lighting, filters for aquatic species, and humidifiers. That many enclosures, if properly maintained, all adds up in electrical bills and sheer square footage in an apartment. Frogs are loud, so are the sheer amount of crickets you need for 14 frogs. My sister has 2 frogs and we buy crickets 100 at a time. 4 frogs is a being a hobbyist. 14 is being a pet hoarder. It sounds like she’s in her early 20s and only started this pretty recently. I think scaling back the number of frogs kept is a completely reasonable compromise. He’s not saying no frogs, he’s saying that’s too many. And frankly, yeah.

[@qj-b1624]

Fourteen frogs is average in the frog keeping hobby. Any frog owner can tell you that. And also, it depends what kind of frogs.

[@noemichaw]

About 16:38, law student’s perspective - a person is liable for the actions of their animals and, accordingly, he is indeed liable for the damage to her boots. As she had not been to his house previously, there is no reasonable basis for her to expect that her shoes would be destroyed by his dog nor is such behaviour to be expected in the ordinary course of life. Furthermore, even if she had previously been to his house, he stated in the Reddit post that such an incident of his dog chewing up shoes has not happened in years - she would not have reasonably expected this to have occurred. Accordingly, it cannot be said that she knowingly undertook any risk for wearing her Gucci boots to his house nor should she have been afforded a lower standard of care so as to justify the dog’s behaviour and circumvent the imposition of liability on the owner. The fact that he is unable to afford $1,200 shoes is immaterial to whether he is legally responsible for the damage caused to her boots. Otherwise, many criminals would be vindicated on the grounds that they cannot afford to compensate the damage they caused - it’s just logically inconsistent with the service of justice. In other words, he’s gotta pay. Literally.

[@ashko808]

Yes, thank you! I can't believe they came to the conclusion they came to lol. If I was that dude, I would be incredibly apologetic and embarrassed, and at least TRY to pay her back for her damaged property...

[@charlieg.804]

THANK YOU!! I'm only a first year law student and was sure he was liable for the reasons you brought up, but got thrown off by the conclusion they came to... thanks for giving me back a teeny bit of confidence in my major!

[@darkangel012299]

He also explained that he directly ASKED HER to take off her shoes before coming inside, because he doesn’t like guests wearing shoes in his apartment!The only way she could’ve avoided getting them eaten was by disrespecting his wishes and insisting she keep them on.

[@amelianekomimi1936]

BUT it says shes a sugar baby- can she prove she bought them?

[@charlieg.804]

@@amelianekomimi1936 Doesn't matter if she bought them or not, as long as she has legal ownership over them. Same as a gift- You own it, and you'd be owed a replacement if someone destroyed it.

[@emmalineonline9599]

The sock thing is probably a fetish, but he's too scared to talk about it. Idk why he can't buy specific pairs that he can use for his face too. That seems like a good compromise.

[@sophie709]

Right? I would have just bought him socks specifically to wash his face.

[@Jeszrox1]

Tbh I kinda wonder why he doesn’t buy his own socks? Like her specific pair

[@gowatchbonesprettyplease1038]

I'm pretty sure it's 2 guys based on thumbnail and the title of the original post itself

[@emmalineonline9599]

@@gowatchbonesprettyplease1038 sorry I got the gender wrong. I listened to this/didnt watch it and just now saw the thumb nail.

[@meikusje]

My thought exactly. Just get a pair of face washing socks. If it's a fetish thing, have your partner wear them and then use for washing. But don't just take your partner's socks! I would be annoyed by that too. It also feels disrespectful, like he is not respectful of his partner's boundaries.

[@aliceroared]

If this was my podcast it would’ve been over in ten minutes because my answer to 99% of that reddit thread is “break up with him” 😂😂😂

[@nailsarelife]

"Basement Hummus" 😂😂😂😂💀 Oh, that has me crying laughing so hard. 😂😂😂😂😂

[@lenaboyer6981]

Relationship advice subreddits are my guilty pleasure. Some of the stuff you read on there is WILD. There was a post from a guy asking for advice because he found out his gf was wiping her butt with his socks and he was running out of socks.

[@marieo2244]

I remember that one! The updates were wild!

[@carinam.9447]

To the shoe situation: I was reminded once again HOW German I am, because my immediate thought was: Why doesn't he have a "Haftpflichtversicherung"? 😄 We have insurance for absolutely everything 😂

[@CheshieD]

What... the fuck.. is *that* ???

[@r.s.6357]

@@CheshieD Haftpflichtversicherung is an insurance that you have to have in Germany, that basically takes care of instances like that, where you break someone else's property so that no one ends up in a situation where someone can't pay for something they broke

[@janinave7729]

@@r.s.6357 Basically you are constantly paying insurance to save your butt if something like that ever happens

[@gummusamongus5061]

hier gilt das gleiche

[@marylotrx3661]

Absolut. Gibt's des in anderen Ländern nich?

[@MariW736]

13:00 I would love if we would teach young men in our society that no means no, instead of that no means keep harassing me.

[@marylotrx3661]

Well, she said yes to the second date, or did I get that wrong?

[@vanessadelgado2920]

If I was frog girl, I would dump him ASAP. It’s only been 6 months, and he’s going to grad school. It probably won’t last anyways. Keep your frogs girl.

[@LaurenAnne6]

Based on my experience in the kink community, the bf who likes to feed his gf sounds like a kink and he could be into the Daddy/Baby dynamic. I know some people have a main relationship where they don't engage in that kink and have a baby on the side. Everything is above board and everyone is consenting to the relationships. That dynamic not my thing and I am not into polyamory or sharing my partner. If it were me I would have some serious conversations about boundaries and limits to this kink to find some balance where we are both comfortable. If that can't be reached then I would probably end the relationship.

[@urlhoney]

Definitely a feeding kink 100000%

[@SaraBliese]

It's kind of icky of him to bring her into this kink dynamic without consent. And by kind of, i mean completely.

[@LaurenAnne6]

He wasn't? I thought they he was asking to feed her and she said yes. I thought that if this is indeed a kink of his, he hasn't been forthcoming yet. Which I can understand because it's nerve wracking to approach a new partner about a kink.

[@sydneyashelton8597]

There was an update to that post on reddit and wow it is a wild ride www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/j0dgqk/update_my_boyfriend_loves_to_feed_me_my_meals/

[@julesmallow]

I would disagree, he's definitely a feeder

[@elinericsson2113]

I used to call my rabbit "the stew" when she misbehaved. I did not like it when everybody else only called her that tho.

[@sfp987]

My boyfriend isn't from Vietnam but he is from Asia and said the reason the "cat soup" guy says "soup" is because cat soup -> catsup -> ketchup.

[@CeaseEcho]

Frog lady: Imagine falling in love and being with someone who loves frogs as much as you do. Now lay down your ultimatum that lets you pay for that extra bedroom to keep your frogs or it's over. Life is too short to waste time with someone who doesn't respect or at the very least tolerate all of who you are and what you're passionate about.

[@writerspen010]

That second question is a Sex and the City episode come to life xD What she needs to do is marry herself, register with Gucci, and only tell this guy, who DOES owe her for the shoes. It may not be his problem or business that she bought or was given a pair that expensive, but he is responsible for his dog's actions. He asked her to take them off, and knows his dog has had a history of chewing up shoes. The dog may have been more reliable as of recent, but there are clearly still behavioral issues that this guy may have been negligent in noticing. And it's not this girl's responsibility to ask the guy if he has a dog--she may not even have seen the dog when she got in or knew if he had one at all, and the average person has no reason to think their personal property won't be safe when they stay at a person's house. (Granted, yes, the argument could be made that she should've gotten more info, since this sounds like a one night stand, but I still don't think this is unreasonable to assume.) I sympathize that he can't afford to pay her right now, but he does owe her money. They'll just have to work out a payment plan.

[@veronikapop8161]

Yes, just like Carrie 😁 if my dog/kid/or even I accidentally break someone’s expensive phone, I also know I will have to pay for it and no one will question why you have such an expensive iPhone 12 for example. Why it should be different with shoes or anything else 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@lolsous]

@@veronikapop8161 I might question it actually, because I would not buy a new phone ever. Also, I have insurance on all my expensive equipment, jewellery and such. So if someone broke my phone or whatever I would probably only ask for the sum I have to pay to use the insurance.

[@mysicknightmare]

I disagree. As someone who has animals, anytime I go to someone’s house I don’t leave anything on the floor for this reason. If I have something (like expensive shoes) that I really care about, and I would be upset if something happened to that item... I make sure I put it up. I probably would have put them in my bag or just asked if I could keep them somewhere off the floor. I don’t think it’s the guys responsibility to repay her for those shoes.

[@destinyguinn1717]

@@mysicknightmare legally, it would be his responsibility. cases like this happen all the time. it does not matter what you personally would do, it only matters how a judge would rule. a judge would rule in favor of the girl, and he would have to pay the actual cash value of her shoes at the time of the incident.

[@writerspen010]

​@@destinyguinn1717 Exactly. Legal standards should always trump a subjective standard for how you handle personal items. This man brought her into his home full well knowing he has a dog who has chewed up shoes in the past, and didn't tell her to safe guard her belongings. End of story. He's the homeowner (or renter) and the pet owner; he's legally/financially responsible for the damage to her property.

[@TheBethaiable]

- Frog-girl: she had them BEFORE they talked about moving in.. i'd understand if it was pets brought in after the fact, it's not., its a red flag that he retroactively wants her to get rid of something that makes her so happy. He ain´t worth it. Keep your frogs, kick out the toad. if he isn´t interested in your compromises, then dont give in to his ultimatum. - Food-guy: buying affection wont really work. Showing her attention and getting to know her and her getting to know you. :) - shoe-chewer: you're kinda responsible for your pets behavior, and therefor have to pay damages. But i have sympathy for your trouble. - Fake-doc: kick him to the curb, if he lies about this, what else does he lie about? and how can it be so easy for him? - Face-sock: at least he doesn't wipe his arse with it. Another unfortunate man had a gf that wiped their behind with socks because she was a germaphobe. - Bean-nommer: If he makes you so insecure... Red flag.. have a serious conversation. Tell him what it does to you. If he persists, then you need to get out of that. - Man-feeder: It is not your fault.. you have a line too and it doesn't get to tell you where your line goes. Have a conversation about this with him. Be open and try to be free of judgement. - Foot-daddy: While it's embarrassing, you should probably ask him. Maybe your feet isn't his type. - Soup-cat: say the same to him. I normally call my cats geese.. When i was angry at my dog in the past i'd tell 'im i'd make a pair of mittens and a hat out of them. I never mean it. But he wants you to react. You turn it onto him. Take the trash out or i put you in the soup! - Simp-boy: He's severely insecure. Toxic masculinity. Have a heart to heart with him :C Had fun coming up with my version of advice i'd make :P

[@deanduvall9980]

If he truly loved her, he would get her love for them, is he gonna Be there for her when she mourns losing them to move with him? Or when one of them passes? I’d say she should leave personally

[@charlotteashley04]

@@deanduvall9980 100% agree

[@mrsfieri]

soup cat. lol

[@katherineg8126]

keep ur frogs, kick out the toad 😂😂

[@IrmaGonzalez]

If someone destroyed my $1,200 shoes, I would expect at least the guy trying to pay half of them. The dos owner should take responsibility. Also being a sugar baby is a job, she worked for it, please don’t undervalue her.

[@_bebeboudeur_]

also, she might not have the actual money since the clothes could have been gifted by a sugar daddy, so you can't say "oh it's nothing, she can afford this lifestyle" maybe she would have sold the clothes afterwards, if she hasn't been making money in the pure sense of the term

[@lotus_dream]

Im surprised by how insensitive people are.. like i would offer to pay right away.. maybe not fully but in some type of installment bc ultimately, it's my dog...

[@Sssssssssssssssssssssssssssz]

He should pay what he monetarily can but I don’t think it’s all on him. She could have just as easily asked “hey can I put these in a closet? They’re really expensive and I see you have a dog.” This would be more understandable if he promised her the dog wouldn’t do anything to her shoes.

[@corneliastreet3559]

@@Sssssssssssssssssssssssssssz well I bet you he did tbh. Cause he said well my dog has never done this before, so he clearly didn’t expect the dog to eat them either, so he probably assured all his guests: take your shoes off, you can leave them here, they’ll be fine

[@ValdezV]

The cats don't understand and they are not being yelled at lol or mistreated. I tell my cats I'm going to eat them or kick them out all the time 🤷😂

[@anvitashah8998]

Ah! Who better to give "unsolicited" relationship advice, than our "unofficial" dad and momlogical..!

[@indigohansen3547]

I’m gonna start telling my cat i’m gonna put him in the soup

[@emmafoley8987]

When your socks get holes in them, instead of throwing them away, cut them into a rectangular face washing cloth. Up cycling!

[@cruztastrophe]

If you have a dog that chews shoes, you can't also have a "no shoes on in the house" rule. If you're gonna say that all visitors must remove footware, you have to give a secure location for the shoes where the undisciplined dog won't destroy them. Guy owes her $1,200 shoes.

[@recoil53]

Yes, it's like saying "you must leave your wallet where thieves are".

[@timetravelingpenguin]

But his dog has never chewed shoes before

[@Harri_Jay_Kay]

@@timetravelingpenguin He said his dog hadn't cheered shoes 'in years' so he has chewed shoes, just not in a long time. It's a bit different to never.

[@recoil53]

@@timetravelingpenguin He has - also his dog, his responsibility.

[@SjofnBM1989]

I'm just saying if I had $1200 shoes and I had to take them off in a house with a pet or kids I would ask for them to be either shut up in a closet or put them somewhere up out of reach.

[@rschook]

As a dog owner, regardless of how much the shoes or item costs, it is the dog owners responsibility to replace whatever was destroyed by your animal. Just because they cost 1200 dollars doesn't give us to right to judge the girl that owned them just because she owned them. It is his responsibility to replace the shoes, or she can and should sue him as he was an irresponsible dog owner and should've known the possibility of any dog to chew anything regardless of how much they cost.

[@CharlotteeSmithhh]

I agree he needs to pay her back for the shoes. It also doesn't matter where the money for them came from, they're still an investment in herself that she made and clearly, they were important to her, otherwise, she wouldn't insist that he pay her back. At the end of the day, his dog ruined her shoes, and he is responsible for the animal. Also, I wonder how they would react if it was a different expensive object, like are they judging her because they're expensive shoes? What if it was something else?

[@chloedufour-desrosiers7543]

I think it’s more the fact that she asks that he pays the full amount if he has explained he doesn’t have that kind of money. I know me living in Canada on minimum wage and almost half of my money monthly is my rent for my one bedroom appartement. So it would take me a pretty crazy time to put that money to the side. And maybe that’s just me but I don’t think the person in the scenario would be fine with the guy taking 6 months to give her the money back. What if the shoes can’t be replaced because they were limited edition ? Is it about the money or about the shoes in that case ?

[@RoyalReyna]

She can sue, but most likely wont win. You take the chance when you go on private property that you can be injured. This includes damage to your personal property. I know it sucks, but she should have paid better attention in where she put them.

[@RoyalReyna]

@@CharlotteeSmithhh It seems like the shoes were a gift from her sugar daddy, not something she bough herself. And you can't pay for something with money you don't have. Its not like his attitude was "tough shit" but that he really can't afford to pay 1k for her shoes, and I couldn't either.

[@jessicam5616]

@@CharlotteeSmithhh not the full amount surely, she likely didn't buy those shoes as a sugar baby. They both didn't assume something like that would happen and no one working average jobs/salaries can afford 12k shoes replacement on the jump. I think she needs to be more reasonable in a way to come to some reparations but not the full amt. That's way too much to expect.

[@PhotoGirl2792]

In reference to the young woman who’s BF was lying about being a doctor. Point of fact most hospitals in the US who have residency programs have them listed in an online directory. For example my husband is currently a resident at a large research hospital and when I googled his name and program he was the first google result. So it’s pretty easy to confirm if he’s a doctor. Big question is if the hospital he says he’s at even has a residency program. In the US they typically are only at larger public or private hospitals. That being said resident schedules can be very sporadic depending on their specialty. Also if it’s a large hospital and the if the BF is not in her uncle’s specialty he might not interact with him at all. So would definitely do some more research before confronting this guy.

[@georgejohnston2515]

23:32 When Menchie and Zyler “kissed” and Christine just looked at the camera so confused😂😂😂

[@emilygu1013]

I love that cristine sings the intro every single episode and Ben just starts talking 🤣

[@pooka994]

I dated a guy with a foot fetish- it actually IS the case that people with that fetish view feet as a sexual organ. That is, their brain reacts to feet the same way it reacts to seeing breasts/booty. So in her case, I’d probably recommend wearing socks at home. Also I’m DYING at the soup cat story 😂😂

[@lindseybarnes4176]

How did you feel as the recipient of this foot fetish kink ?

[@garo9891]

But if it's his daughter his mind shouldn't even go there.. If people with foot fetish see the foot as a sexual organ why should the daughter feel insecure?? He shouldn't be thinking about her like that in the first place...

[@pooka994]

@@garo9891 I agree! But i’d cover the feet for the same reason you wouldn’t walk around topless around your parents

[@halloweenallyearround4889]

The issue is that any dad that's attracted to his own daughter is effed up, kink or not. Daughters cover their breasts in front of their dads (and mum's, most typically too) because of social convention in cultures that sexualise breasts. But ideally/ healthily/ from basic decency, it shouldn't really be an issue. For instance some families are nudists at home, and nothing awful should come from that.

[@dionmardianto]

Try AITA next... I wonder what you and Ben would think about some posts I usually read it on instagram bc reddit is blocked in my country and I'm too lazy to use vpn lol

[@rasheesaalea7805]

Do you live in indonesia? Because i have the same problem as well lmao

[@dionmardianto]

@@rasheesaalea7805 YESSS. HAHAHAHA

[@rasheesaalea7805]

@@dionmardianto omg hii nice to meet you! Also go to sleep its almost 1 am lol

[@marylambert4478]

"Floppy noodle feet"-Simplynailogical Quote of a year.

[@johnjon4688]

Oh, bean eating thing is sooooo real. I caught a LOT of grief from my ex for eating cold cans of beans. That girl should dump her boyfriend. If he's belittling her for doing something so mundane, he's not worth it.