Am I The A**hole? (advice to Reddit) - SimplyPodLogical #39

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On this episode of SimplyPodLogical, Cristine and Ben look at posts on the popular subreddit r/amitheasshole and discuss cats, underage drinking, the ethics of putting your kids on KZbin, and gender norms.
0:00 - Hey what’s up holo everyone
2:13 - Am I the a**hole for not giving a crying child my holo scrunchie?
6:34 - Am I the a**hole for not talking to my boyfriend because he thinks a cat is ugly?
8:17 - Am I the a**hole for Holo Taco product placement?
12:13 - Am I the a**hole for starting a KZbin channel even though my boyfriend is uncomfortable with it?
17:44 - Am I the a**hole for letting my teenager drink beer with me for the first time?
25:56 - Am I the a**hole for clipping my nails in the living room?
30:09 - Am I the a**hole for suing my ex for disparaging me on KZbin?
37:08 - Am I the a**hole for refusing to appear on my mom’s KZbin channel?
40:22 - Is it ethical to put your kids on KZbin?
49:59 - Am I the a**hole for being mad that my boyfriend calls me and his cat “sweetie”?
54:04 - Am I the a**hole for asking my wife to paint my toenails and what do we think about men wearing dresses?
1:05:54 - Is Cristine the a**hole for making Ben shave his moustache?
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[@danielle6979]

I saw this tik tok and a guy says "well we need masculine men to protect women." then a woman did a duet and said "protect women from who?" and that really stuck with me.

[@c0p.8]

We need masculine men to protect us from men. Makes sense lol

[@wondergirl2642]

Thanks for this

[@catnipaddict88]

Yea!

[@rosee4934]

Thanks!

[@melbapeach162]

Fucking RIGHT

[@sighcantthinkofaname]

"Your hairband broke? Here, come shopping in my daughters room! Who cares that you're 3 and will probably forget about it or lose it within three days, who cares if you happen to pick out her favorite one, I've decided my daughter has enough so just take one"

[@CheshieD]

The same type of parent who would give away the expensive jewelry that your now dead grandma gave your for your birthday

[@raincloud04]

@@CheshieD uh oh

[@CheshieD]

@@raincloud04 not a personal experience dw 😂😂 just somethin that I bet that that mom would 100% do lmao

[@amnakiia]

The grandma is also ....... as a adult in the situation shouldn’t you be the one to stop your stupid friend from doing this to her daughters or maybe that’s just what kind of people the are

[@willowmarie218]

What really bothered me is that the mom asked her, the girl said no and was looking for an alternative, and then the mom ignored her and took the little girl upstairs to rifle through them completely without her daughter's permission. It was never hers to give away and she just did it anyway :/

[@ReadObituaries]

As an adult, I have no obligation to “share” my items. Why should children? The girl said no- and that’s that. It doesn’t matter her age. They are hers.

[@hoziersexual]

I feel this. I still live at home but I have money to buy my own food/stuff I want. My mum says I *need* to share those things or whatever bullshit she comes up with.

[@ReadObituaries]

@@hoziersexual as a parent, it’s something I had to come to terms with. I’m not going to force my child to give up a toy to another (who can play with any of the thousands of other toys- it’s 9x out of 10 they just want it bc someone else has it). Like, imagine if someone walked up to you and demanded you share your laptop (my idea of an adult “toy”). You’d laugh in their face! Well, that’s what my 9 yr old does when he is faced with the same thing. They are his items& no one has the right to demand access to it. Now, I do try and teach kindness and generosity- but I won’t force it on him. Sharing is just a way to control and placate children- which isn’t right bc I’m teaching my son to be an adult when he gets older, not a child.

[@inhaledexhaled5460]

I think to a certain maturity/understanding this is true. We need to force children to share in order to teach them its something that needs to be done. At some point they learn that while its okay to share, its also okay not too. Its about finding the difference between being selfish for better or worse. If someones in need, and you have that need then share. If someone has a want, and you have their want then you CHOOSE what to do.

[@denae4692]

Exactly. My mom taught us, not to share, but Wait turns. No, kids don’t want to share it with someone else when they’re already playing with it. If I wanted something one of my brothers had, I waited til he was done and played with something else during that time. I now teach that to my son. I tell him “you can share ONLY if you want to, but you shouldn’t share with people just because they told you should.” I stand by the fact that it’s his decision. And I’m perfectly fine with what he decides in the end.

[@CheshieD]

@@inhaledexhaled5460 you shouldn’t force your child to do anything they don’t want to do when it’s not a necessity. Literally babies learn how to share without being forced, some naturally already do that. If you encourage that behavior then they won’t have to be forced to do anything later on. What should be forced is when a child wants something but someone else NEEDS it. Because they have to learn they need it more, however this can also be picked up on as a baby. It’s the same as you shouldn’t force your child to hug a family member just because they’re family. If they don’t wanna hug em, they don’t wanna hug em. Also saying things like “How was your time with grandma?” is a better question to ask instead of “Did you have a good time at grandma’s?” since that and similar patterning can actually just groom your child. Especially giving “pet” names to private parts. It’s actually more dangerous to do that than just straight up teaching them what their thing down there is, it makes it much harder for a predator to lure them in. Buuuut that’s another topic.

[@Victoria-dh9vb]

On the scrunchie one, the girl offered to give the little girl a headband. She was totally willing to share. But the whole point of sharing is that the owner has the choice in the matter, particularly about what things they choose to give to other people.

[@sadezem991]

and the one the girl picked was a birthday gift! imagine telling your friend the birthday gift they gave you got given away!

[@hannatuibe8491]

I think her parents are just being passive aggressive about the fact that she collects scrunchies and are trying to make it look like it's all about not giving one to the little girl. I totally understand why this person is upset.

[@clairer342]

Yeah she was happy to share, just not her favorite object which should be respected. Plus yeah the parent owns the house, but you are teaching your kids disrespect when you go rifle through their things without their permission

[@SkyLene]

Exactly, I feel like her mother crossed a boundary by showing the girl the collection KNOWING it‘s something important to the daughter that she holds dearly and wouldn’t want to just give away. What makes it worse is that the daughter was already looking for a headband to give to the girl, so if the mother hadn’t taken the child to show her the scrunchies, she would’ve just gotten the headband and been fine without knowing „what she was missing“ and wouldn’t have started crying

[@rachelann9362]

My nephew (7 years at the time) visited once and saw my collection of plushie toys. He wanted one and picked my favorite. I compromised and offered a few he could choose. He picked one that looked similar but was smaller (and it meant less to me.) He was still stoked and i was told he packed it in his bag for school for a few weeks. If were the scrunchie poster, i wouldve acted sad and heartbroken.. and it would have been legitamate. kids are starting to understand that at 3 years old. Then i wouldve offered my least favorites or ones i know i can replace.

[@babypoof]

Petition to send this girl some holo taco unicorn skin

[@nerdydork2216]

YES!!!! lol

[@strawberrysupernova2748]

*signs vigorously*

[@TrintsuKiishu2]

Yes!

[@Mendingheartshomestead]

I support this!

[@gigidodson]

Yes! I hope she follows and gets in contact. Such a sweet story.

[@katerinazieglerova4243]

I don’t think there’s an episode without Ben saying “maybe I shouldn’t say this, but...” lol

[@LyssaJ]

Don't you just love it hahaha. He doesn't even really hesitate to keep going, he's just like eh this one person might get mad but what are they gonna do. LOL.

[@amandablythe6515]

Its my favorite thing to hear!

[@lilash7918]

and we love it lmao

[@mystiqueivy]

i cackled like a crazy person in my empty apartment when he said that and then IMMEDIATELY started spilling the tea, as always haha xD IM HERE FOR IT! WE STAN YOU, BAE! XD

[@viphanger]

That phrase would make for great Pod merch 😉

[@ZilaidaK]

Whenever I hear Ben say "maybe I shouldn't say this..." I cackle in delight because I know he 100% about to give us the tea anyway 🍵

[@Zeverinsen]

I revel in it.

[@Sunbirdsoup]

Ben doesnt give ANY fucks

[@missmatch9058]

😆 Now THAT'S the tea ☕

[@purplepsycho05]

Yes!!!

[@kaileyy2991]

At 36:50 im really curious which yt couple he was talking about because none comes to mind xD 😭

[@lexyricketts1197]

My father gave away my entire Pokémon card collection to another boy my age because he said "I was too old for them" and the other boy would "get more out of them then you".... and there's where my issues with him started 🤣🤣🤣

[@vornamenachname4118]

I feel for you. My mum did something similar with my video cassettes when I was about 10. She gave them away because her friend's sister was pregnant and I was apparently too old for Disney movies. What annoyed me the most, apart from not being asked, was that her friend's sister had a boy, so she gave everything away to charity after the kid was born. 😭

[@howlwhat4498]

how dare he!!

[@sanskritigupta7980]

Maybe I’m dumb, but if the boy was the same age why would he give them away?

[@taylorjade6918]

@@sanskritigupta7980 No, actually, that's a very freaking good point. It means the dad had other issues with his son having pokemon cards, and that he lied.

[@elliemae5526]

i feel this! my mom just decided while i was at school one day i was too old for my 500+ Littlest Pet Shop collection. she gave away over 500 of MY toys id been collecting my whole life, some i got from friends, some from family who had passed, some were limited edition. im 18 now but still hurt about it simply because my mom had no respect for me🤷🏼‍♀️ now LPS can sell for like $400 each🥲

[@lobeliaowl2482]

About the scrunchie thing - didn't the girl mention that she was looking for a regular hair band to give to the 3 year old? That means that no one needed to take the scrunchies since regular ones are easily accessible, which I think just doubles down on how much the narrator is not the Ah.

[@veronikapop8161]

I’m feeling really sorry for her ... her parents are giant AHs

[@kaybrann]

That and her mum allowed/encouraged this kid to enter OPs personal space to see/steal her belongings. So wrong.

[@hihihin]

I agree.

[@Blackcanvasart]

Hard agree

[@christeaaa]

Agree like everyone else here. No respect of boundaries in that household it seems.

[@rowenaleahy7631]

Anytime I hear the words “Reddit,” “cat” or “soup” I always think of the last time you guys did this and just think “IM GONNA PUT YOU IN THE SOUP”

[@nevergonnagiveyouupnevergo9439]

First like lol

[@briecatalan]

omg I forgot about this one I'm laughing so hard right now

[@alyssaferry600]

I made my husband watch that part of that episode so that when I tell him, our daughter, or our pets, that I'm gonna put them in the soup, he gets it. Makes me laugh every time!

[@kayleeo.5431]

Everytime I see a soup can or bowl I always whisper or think "Cat soup" 😭

[@zoekelley7021]

Me too. my mom was making soup and i said I'm gonna put the cat in the soup w/o thinking about it. we do not own a cat...

[@suemccashland]

"oats can be delicious, nutricious, and hip" ok thanks dad

[@molepole1998]

😂😂😂

[@godrocksandruels]

Ben trying to convince people Oats aren't just for the elderly: "Oats can be hip" Me: Oooh so close XD

[@lauraladyll]

I think Ben was purposefully joking when he said that

[@cheyemily6066]

Oats are hip if you need a hip replacement. (Jk. Although I don't really like oats. Love oat milk tho, best milk.)

[@Ana-sj4et]

the girl with the scrunchies said she started trying to find another hair tie for the little girl, but the mom took them to her room 🤷🏻‍♀️ girl isn’t in the wrong whatsoever, they couldn’t have a regular hair tie? they just had to try to give away HER scrunchies? nope 👎

[@lollylula6399]

The parents are definitely a holes, overstepping her boundaries and then being mean to her on top too.

[@NoxLoch]

Ikr. This was more about the mums ego trying to seem like she was a great person for giving away her daughters things. Doesn’t matter how small your things are in value. Your property is your property.

[@user-db1ec2lw4w]

She should probably try to keep her scrunches in a lockbox, you never know what will happen if she goes outside and her parents being friends over... What if a few goes missing because of them?

[@xxoldmagicxx]

I had a younger cousin try to take a toy away from me by telling my mom she wanted it, my mom looked at me and I threw it in the drawer and said “well I guess no one will play with it 🤷🏻‍♀️” and my mom goes “well it’s her toy...so...” like my mom would NEVER and it’s bizarre that a mom would try and force her kid to give something she cherishes away....

[@inara4402]

It’s like the mom was trying to make the daughter look bad. The mom could just not bring the little girl into her daughters OWN room and show her the scrunchies, and the 3 year old wouldn’t be upset.

[@urmumzknt]

The scrunchie thing happened to my mom back in the 60s, but with Barbies instead. My grandmother gave away my mom's entire Barbie collection (complete with a closet full of doll clothes and accessories) to a neighbor's kid. My mom was only like 10 or 11 years old and was very upset. Parents: Don't treat your kids like that.

[@alisavandertang3165]

I would have screamed bloody murder! My mom kindly keeps dragging it around with me at 25 :’)

[@rm-iu4gs]

my parents would never give my stuff away without asking first. . . i feel bad for anyone who has had that happen.

[@murphymcmittens4786]

but why?

[@tamhuy10]

Murphy McMittens they dont see the value in it, feel like if you dont play with it daily you lost interest, think of children as not deserving property, dont see children as seperate beings yet. Im in my twenties and hosted for my family a dinner my parents told my niece to take some of my things even though i dont live with them anymore. .. I guess they felt like itd be a bonding experience for the both of us ?

[@PotatoRed148]

My mom will always ask first because she knows I don't like other people even touching my things.

[@kleineoOoStern]

A lot of parents think that every possession of their children are their's. My parents were divorced and my father always gave me money every two weeks after our week-end together and I bought some things like shoes, stationery etc.. but these objects regularly disappeared from my room and I founded them later with my mom's belongings and if I took them back she became furious and take everything back saying that I stole her and that I don't have the rights to use her possessions as mine because I already have everything I need. The robbery that hurt me the most was when she took my new pair of Dr Martens which cost me 159€ in sale (I saved money during one year to buy them). These shoes finish in her closet in no time. I bought them and never had a chance to wear them because the next day when I came back from school the Dr Martens were on her feet and the shoe box in her closet and she acted like everything was normal. When I asked her to give them back to me she became verbally violent, the next day when I returned from school I was shocked to see all my belongings in the garden, as a revenge she just threw all of my pens, books, trinkets, shoes, clothes, etc.. by the window of my room at the second floor of the house. The rain destroyed my books and various other things and I had to clean and tidy everything and when I was sitting on the floor, sorting what can be saved she came to me and said "I hope that this taught you to never be selfish again, you have everything you need and more" (she had a well-paid job at that time). She never show any kind of regrets and continued to still my belongings when she wanted and my big brother also did this and I didn't said anything because I was always the bad one. My mom was the most toxic and selfish person I ever met and I'm proud to be her exact opposite, she apologized when she was really sick on her hospital bed but it didn't mean anything to me even if she was dying, I needed a mother when I was younger, it was to late for the apologies.

[@tamhuy10]

Anaïs L. Sorry that happened to you

[@itzelc7033]

i’m so sorry that happened to you :(

[@monjaahrens8777]

My father is srt of the same. He doesn't see my possessions as his but whenever he buys me something and we later get into an argument he always threatens to take it away or says that he wants it back. Whenever he does a tiny thing for me that is actually a parent's duty (like buying food for your kid to eat) he will forever hold that over you and against you. How can I be so ungrateful when he does everything for me(he barely does the minimum, I mean I may live in his house rent free). He's recently been trying to apologise and be more active in my life but I needed a father when I was younger and don't need one now.

[@raayaswidler1049]

My heart goes out to you

[@isabelgonzalez4662]

I’ve had my mom do this with money. She’ll give me $100 and then a month later she’ll owe me $30 and be like “well I gave you $100 earlier so that covers it!!!” Noo. That $100 is gone. It’s been a month. I had to buy a bus pass- $50, buy food $20, Uber $20-$30, and look the $100 is gone. Funny how money works

[@draughtoflethe]

Family vloggers: I think that when a child reaches the point of being able to withhold consent, and chooses to do so, then you need to respect that.

[@Kif_Lee]

I hear you but try to explain this to a narcissistic person... That story broke my heart.

[@kailasmith7414]

To me, the son going to the party and drinking at home beforehand, is INCREDIBLE parenting. Ofc he should have told his wife and made sure she was okay, but I wish more parents would try stuff like this out.

[@pumpkinprincess3786]

My parents do this, and it’s actually pretty cool

[@Chelsea-dq9og]

"if you're gonna be stupid, be smart. I'd much rather you drink at home with your family around then at a stranger's place and do something dangerous" - my older brother

[@erikperhs_]

I'm even more radical in this situation. I don't think the mom should have an opinion in this since it's not an opinion based situation. *It is a fact* that that was the safer option.

[@CheshieD]

@@erikperhs_ I think one of her main issues was that she wasn’t there to also judge how the son reacted and couldn’t weigh in on her she thought he was acting at each number of beers later. Which is reasonable because what one person may think is totally drunk someone else may think is just kinda drunk but not dangerously. However the conclusion was a good number to settle on and the husband’s reasoning for not saying anything was understandable.

[@mirandajones7816]

@@Chelsea-dq9og THOSE ARE MY PARENTS WORD FOR WORD

[@Antikia]

So I'm supposed to believe that the mom does not own 1 single hair elastic herself, seriously?! Parents need to respect their childrens boundaries, you don't just give away other peoples properties especially not when it's par of a collection

[@dawnthegoblin]

@M K as someone who has short hair, I keep my old elastics just because my hair may grow out and my friends have long hair and may need it. While it's definitely possible this woman doesn't have any personal elastics, she also has a daughter so odds are there are no less than 5 elastics somewhere in that house.

[@dawnthegoblin]

@M K oh hard agree, having them and being able to find them are two separate issues lol

[@mireille0115]

regardless of whether or not mom has her own hair ties, i find it ridiculous that she would offer up her child’s scrunchies AFTER she had explicitly said not to. and it wasn’t that OP didn’t want to help the girl, she was looking for a normal hair tie, she just didn’t want to give away any part of her sentimental collection which is entirely fair. mom’s the ahole here 🙄

[@meanbean6011]

She probably viewed her child as an extension of herself so in her mind, yes she did have hair ties, cuz her daughter has hair ties, and anything her daughter owns, so does she.

[@redrandomness3493]

*We dont have childern,* Menchie and Zyler: Are we a joke to you?

[@juliamorgen1305]

I like Ben’s mustache. However, I do understand Cristine’s argument about not liking to kiss someone with a mustache - it’s very prickly.

[@dawnthegoblin]

Hard agree.

[@annmac3170]

Jup haha

[@missywoford1809]

Right? I love my hubby's moustache (he's had it almost the whole 11 years we've been together and he looks strange without it) but it's still prickly and tickles to smooch him sometimes, lol.

[@juliamorgen1305]

@@missywoford1809 the sacrifices we make, right? Lol

[@idkman3096]

agree

[@Zxgrhexbj]

Y’all remember that post of the girl who wanted her boyfriend to rid of his cat because he was “too affectionate” towards it and everyone was like “you’re jealous of a cat...”

[@miscdruid1994]

I remember this post too! Everyone was making fun of her for being jealous over a cat. She deserved it. Lol

[@anadacosta4043]

@Pastadudde Op is not talking about a post they discussed on the podcast, but about a famous reddit post!

[@user-db1ec2lw4w]

@Pastadudde (unneeded comment but i wanted to say it, this just reminded me of it) my friends all joke about eating their dog for christmas dinner or their birthday and it’s extremely worrying until i realize they’re kidding, lol

[@TheEliseRodgers]

Knowing that Reddit picked up on this makes me feel better for the time I broke up with a boyfriend because he kept insisting I needed to get rid of my Service Dog because “The dog loved me more than it loved him”

[@jp8649]

@@TheEliseRodgers Ew, I'm so glad you were able to break up with him. That's so selfish of him. It reminds me of 2 of my exes. It started with, "Do you love your horse more than me"".... Duh. They knew the answer. "You love that horse more than you love me!" It's so weird. My dad and I nursed that animal back to health after being on the brink of death from starvation and neglect. My dad died a few years later and Comet was the link that kept me together and kept a connection to my dad. You'd hope people would be understanding about something like that or even just any pet. It's like getting jealous of your partner's child. I hope you find or found someone who is deserving of you AND your doggo. Definitely a big ol' red flag

[@DreadFuzzyKitten]

I’m autistic and just this episode realized the, “We were going to have X person on but ran out of time” was a joke. 🤦🏻‍♀️ I for real just thought they always ran out of time for their guests.

[@RebeccaClemonsCW]

Oh my goodness you know how long it took me?? It was bad xD

[@erinrichardson3387]

I was today years old when I realized that, and only after reading your comment. lol

[@Zeverinsen]

Some times I fell for it too 😂

[@samd8872]

I'm not autistic but the same thing happened to me

[@tierneyisrael1390]

It’s actually a long standing late night show gag! Jimmy Kimmel used to say that about Matt Damon on every show.

[@Sexiraina1993]

I mean. If someone was death threatening me because someone lied about me being an abuser I’d probably sue them. Or at least pursue some kind of legal action against them.

[@PrincessLelouch]

So I was on a European cruise once where the drinking age was 18+. My parents have always been pretty relaxed about me trying alcohol, but another girl my age had a super overbearing mother. She drank herself silly and got roped into peer pressure drinking and all I could think was “if her mom wasn’t so strict, she wouldn’t be this desperate”.

[@kitbracadabra]

Or maybe if someone stood up to her?

[@ThaliaVitalis]

Just saying: real men wore floral embroidered colourful clothes, shoes with heels and powdered wigs for hundreds of years and robes (dresses) for thousands. So what is masculine?

[@Username-1939t9]

being masculine is basically synonym to toughness or strength so anything that is considered those things im guessing would be. like if at the time embroidered brightly colored clothes were only limited to the rich, it would be a symbol of power and therefore masculine, at least that's how im assuming it could work.

[@missrobinhoodie]

Just as Karolina said :) kzbin.info/www/bejne/qKCzgn57j7BljpY

[@ThaliaVitalis]

@@missrobinhoodie exactly ;)

[@ThaliaVitalis]

@@missrobinhoodie I mentioned her in another comment. But don't comment that often. Good to know you can share a link to the video like that!

[@TheEliseRodgers]

So the song explanation for this is amazing, and available on KZbin! - make sure you watch the video version. Song title: “The Creation of Man” from The 1997 Broadway hit “The Scarlet Pimpernel”

[@emmaphillips7063]

In France children on social media are under the same legal regime as child actors, so there's a limit on the number of hours they can film, protections in place on their earnings etc.

[@ramboroxy123]

My sister's husband doesn't wear chapstick. His reasoning is that it's 'gay'...

[@airari24]

He must have fairly crusty lips, then

[@MsSmile300]

Ah yes. Everyone knows how manly having chapped lips is lmao

[@ayushi8978]

Nothing says manly like dry chapped lips .

[@nahomy3249]

Thats literally so sad.

[@cyb3rg1rls]

My ex bf doesn't wash his ass because its "gay"... im sobbin g

[@randomharts]

When you were talking about clothing and some people’s thoughts that it’s “wrong” for a guy to wear a dress or nail polish, I thought about the conversations and disagreements that would have happened when women first began wearing pants or really when any major cultural changes have occurred. It’s normal for women now to be in pants but can you imagine the shock created when the first woman pulled on a pair of trousers and strolled around town!!!🤔

[@Zeverinsen]

Not to mention that men largely used to wear dresses, skirts, heels wigs and makeup before, so in reality it's not that weird.

[@CheshieD]

Yeah it’s crazy to think that somewhere somehow all of a sudden there became very strict rules about what a woman could wear and what a man could

[@KaylaKasel]

Same thing with bathing suits. Women's bathing suits becoming less fabric was a huge controversy. It's wild to think that even the old style (that covered most of the torso and with shorts) was considered too risque knowing how much more skin is shown in things like bikinis. Strict social gender roles are entirely arbitrary and we always have to acknowledge and question the need for them.

[@Fluteperson01]

Regarding the mom that is a KZbin and vlogger, I think the moment your kid no longer wants to be in the videos then it’s time to change your content, you should never force your kid into a uncomfortable issue.

[@S-CCCC]

For real! The fact that the parent tries to “negotiate” the teen into agreeing to appear online is so gross. It’s basically coercion and I can definitely imagine how some of those conversations went...

[@makeupmymind3264]

CONSENT!!! What are we teaching our children about consent as trusted adults in their lives if we are constantly violating their boundaries?! This goes for scrunchy girls parents too! This is a form of emotional abuse. Children whose parents constantly do this to them grow up choosing friends and partners who violate their boundaries and or opens them up to victimization. It’s just sad

[@Fluteperson01]

@@makeupmymind3264 I so agree, just like how we force hugs and stuff on kids makes them think affection is mandatory

[@Suzor9297]

@@makeupmymind3264 100% this for both of those stories

[@EmEm78]

I would never dream of putting my kids on KZbin or any other social media in the first place, even if it could make me a lot of money. It's not fair on them, and it's not safe.

[@bmariec88]

That roommate 100% used filing nails in the livingroom to distract from them being a poor dog owner.

[@CoachRoFlores]

yes, it was totally manipulative, they were trying to detract from the initial and valid critique. if it was really a problem, it could have been addressed later during a separate discussion.

[@glitterberserker1029]

Totally whataboutism.

[@aliciaclaire81]

I agree, the roommate is disgusting, leaving the dog to pee and crap in the house. Poor animal and poor roommates.

[@samw9089]

Yeah that dog owner was just kinda a terrible owner for sure.

[@Geini0]

I feel so sad for the man who’s wife refused to paint his toe.

[@acidalix]

meanwhile im here trying to convince my boyfriend to let me paint them

[@CheshieD]

It’s actually really sad thinking that this belief of “you can’t do that, it’s only for girls” thing still exists. I’m sorry, is makeup only for girls too because last time I checked makeup was originally worn by both rich men and women.... Like it’s... it’s messed up. It’s wrong to say someone can’t do something just because you’ve been told it’s wrong. WHY is it wrong? Give me an actual reason. If you can’t give me an actual logical reasonable reason for it, then the only thing wrong is your belief on the topic. (You is being used as a general term not specifically you, the person I’m responding to, in case I gotta make that clear cuz apparently that’s something most people don’t pick up on... irl or online...)

[@arielseescoral2607]

I will paint fingernails but I hate feet 😂 that grosses me out 💀

[@rat3015]

@@arielseescoral2607 tbf he didnt want HER to do it, he wanted to paint his own toenail with her nail polish

[@shootingcomet082]

I have to disagree about the story about the guy suing his ex, youtuber girlfriend, I don't think he took it too far by going through with the suit. Its one thing when people insult celebrities as they they tend to not be that close to them and can be dismissed, as well as the celebrity has a public platform that they can defend themselves on and a public history to give them credibility. If this guy is not a youtuber and if he wasn't in her videos all that much, then a court of law is the only place that he has a voice that will matter to the people harassing him. Her lies led to him being harassed and receiving death threats, I don't think that's a small thing. It would be one thing if her reaction to being sued was to say that she will take down the video, post a retraction, and tell her fans to back off; instead she posted more videos making him out to be the bad guy. This thing could have easily snowballed and going through with the suit was the only way for him to clear his name. I'm not a lawyer, but I believe that to win a slander case, you must not only prove that what's being said is untrue, but that the person saying these comments knew that they weren't true. She intentionally lied about him to make money and continued to make many more videos making him out to be a bad person. She gave him no other choice and any consequences to this are all on her.

[@HappyAbbyDog]

“Lets call her Jane” is a good name for a nail polish ngl 👀💅

[@leanak09]

"lets call her Jade" and its a gorgeous emerald green holo taco! =O

[@user-hello2]

A simply podlogical holo taco collection!!! I’d love that!!!

[@emilyinspace2255]

@@user-hello2 my name is Emily Rose lol

[@placeholder8392]

Or they “let’s call her Jane” and it’s green 😉😏🍃 jk I know that’s not really on brand lol

[@Elliesprettycool]

Any name is a good name when it’s from Hilo taco

[@imapandaperson]

With the scrunchies the mom crossed her daughters boundaries--- and therefore put her on the spot. If she gave away her fave scrunchie she makes her parents look good to their guests, but her parents treat her like her opinions don't matter, and if she doesn't they're mad cuz she made them lose face. Believe me, the 3 year old isn't scarred for life, at that age they actually need boundaries (gently placed, but they need to know they don't get what they want all the time) Besides, before the mom offered up scrunchies that weren't hers to give, her daughter was already digging around for a regular hairband, trying to be helpful. Lmao me trigggggeeeerrrreddd

[@mmmmmmolly]

Agreeeeeeed!

[@abbypayne4496]

Exactly! The scrunchies weren’t the mom’s to give and she needed to respect the daughter’s choice.

[@helenf.7221]

no way would i give that kid my scrunchie and i would argue to the fact. i am also triggered lol

[@erinflanagan2382]

Yeah, there’s a scenario where the mom asks her to go grab a scrunchie as a favor, and the daughter has the chance to grab on of the more replaceable drug store ones without the three year old seeing the full bounty of scrunchies on offer. Of course when given the choice, the three year old is going to go for the most exciting shiny one!

[@amyb7823]

I'm triggered by the bratty daughter who refused to share even one of her cheap scrunchies with a literal baby. Lol I guess we all have different opinions! 🤷‍♀️

[@bbutterfly]

I love imagining Ben searching “holo,” “cat,” “nail polish,” “KZbin,” etc. to find these 😹

[@emersonelizalde6536]

That guy that sued his girlfriend for saying he was abusive if it isn't true that's slander. If his career looks heavily at that it's probably very important to rectify that....

[@shannonf101]

I feel like, a lot of parents don’t understand sentimental value In stuff.

[@jasperj.d.g.4147]

They do unless it's about kids.

[@christinamatzen4214]

No, it’s not that “parents” don’t understand, that’s a generic stereotype. It’s a human thing. Some humans firm attachments and have sentimental value in things and some don’t. I’m 45, 2 kids. I have and completely understand my irrational attachment to inanimate objects - ie, placing sentimental value on things. My mother and brother do not. One example, I can’t get rid of my Raggedy Ann doll and my mom took her engagement ring (she is still married to my father, the man who gave her the ring) and made it a pinky ring and wears a ring that isn’t hers as her engagement/wedding set. So, it’s not a parent thing, it’s a human thing.

[@yannikarina8096]

@@christinamatzen4214 you're right, but there are also people who can't part with their own belongings but then think nothing of people's belonging even though they should understand. That said, sometimes I need someone to took away all the stuff I can't let go of because it's getting out of hand 😂, so I understand parent's position in this

[@amalmed9753]

Also, they kinda feel entitled to their kids belongings.

[@WishAtElevenEleven]

Lol the youtuber girl from the court case one is the reason why the dude from the beginning didn’t want to date a KZbinr

[@rakamukherjee9070]

I wonder how true his story (the court case guy) is... because it sounds real and everything but to go to such an extreme as to sue someone is revelatory of an extreme personality... idk maybe he WAS emotionally abusive. He didn’t disclose why they broke up

[@ava_lavender]

@@rakamukherjee9070 If I were receiving death threats from strangers as a result of lies spread about a previously relationship, I might also go to some lengths to stop them from spreading more misinformation on their channel, and a lawsuit may be the most efficient way to do that. However, we only know one side of the story.

[@andreil1313]

@@ava_lavender I’d probably do the same honestly. Especially if my name would come up in google search results etc.. z

[@andreil1313]

@Charlotte Cornett He didn't try though. He sued her and won lol

[@aliceros1]

Maybe he's putting it on reddit to get some validation b/c he did say friends and such said that he had gone to far with a sue.

[@SuperJezzara]

The thing with the relationship advice trending to "break up": you also have to think about the fact that theyre so fed up they're posting on Reddit asking for advice... Chances are it's not the first incident or an isolated incident.

[@KatLovin]

But how do you know it isn’t an isolated incident? There are definitely some situations that are so extreme that I get why people are like “break up with this person” but there is this tendency for people on Reddit to label every relationship disagreement or issue as toxic and unfixable. Most relationships go through rough patches or big arguments at some point. It’s hard to judge people or a relationship off of one incident.

[@erikperhs_]

@@KatLovin As the original comment says, if the person got to the point of going on Reddit to ask for advice, it's probably not the first time that's happening.

[@aleka..]

@@erikperhs_ we know how to read. 🤷 we can just disagree, It a. might be a lot of those ppl are "at home" on reddit, so no reason to think it's an effort, too much that they are fed up with same type of behavior b. also - some _many times happening_ stuff ≠ irreparable; people may have good strong bonds *and* issues. there's couple therapy to suggest, not be easy on encouraging break ups. (everyone should go to therapy - not saying you need to have really serious issues to do that. Check out Psychology in Seattle yt for couples therapy and all other psychology related content)

[@CheshieD]

@@KatLovin well I mean if it was something that they went to the internet to get advice for then it’s fairly... uhm.. “advanced” in emotions and limits. They said they’ve had disagreements but never something like this or this extreme. That type of behavior, with and without context, is slightly concerning. The concerning part is if they complied with it and then the partner did it more often then that’s like... creeping into control. Also whenever things come to what somebody does with their OWN life and their OWN image on social media, nobody else has a say on what they can or cannot do with content that only involves them. Period point blank. If someone is willing to go as far as to completely avoid all possible references to their partner in videos and their partner still does not want them to post anything, that’s not ok. At that point you really just gotta be like “I love you, I care about you and your opinions, however this is my choice and mine alone. You’re not involved in this, no personal items if yours will ever be seen or heard about, nothing will specifically link to our home, I am going to do this because I want to for fun and possibly for some side money.” If that causes a break up, then that person was not meant to be with you anymore. People are ever changing, but you can’t let someone stop you from doing something just because they’re uncomfortable with you being yourself on the internet. That’s literally a controlling thing to do, intentional or not.

[@Sophia-hs7et]

Well, sometimes early on in a relationship people have a lot of uncertainties and they don't want to just make decisions on their own, but they don't have close people to confide in so they want other opinions on the situation they can't always get from just talking through it with their partner.

[@Sian660]

This is why a “family blog” cannot be a family’s main source of income.

[@vivianho7252]

3 yr old: she was already getting the kid a different headband to wear. The parents shouldn't have volunteered her collection up without her consent, especially when a solution was already in the works.

[@dawnthegoblin]

Seriously agree. Flashed me back to when my parents did this sort of thing all the time.

[@someonenothere8818]

Wow I thought I was the only one, thank god Q_Q My parents used to tell me not to be spoiled as a tiny kid, but another kid cries and I have to be the mature one? Fuck that lol.

[@dawnthegoblin]

@@someonenothere8818 like I get that I should share but I'm not sharing when there are other solutions

[@whyareyoulikethisfletcher7216]

This was very timely as my seven year old has started telling me she doesn't want me posting certain pictures of her on Facebook. My Facebook is private and I post pictures of her for family and friends. Now I don't post pictures unless she gives me the green light and we have had lots of conversations about the internet in general so it's been really good.

[@ninawth]

That's so wholesome. I really like this comment.

[@w0rmery867]

i'm really glad that you're respecting her wishes! personally, my mom never posted photos but she did talk about me and my brother on twitter a bit, referring to us as 'child 1' and 'child 2'. i'm pretty sure that i was kind of unhappy about that at the time, but we never had a real conversation about it since i guess she thought that she was in the clear by keeping it anonymous. so having that conversation and trying to explain as much as possible to her so that she can make informed decisions seems like a really great thing to do.

[@clarajaymorse3487]

That's nice. I actually don't mind if my mom posts about me, since I don't have social media and I'm not allowed to, and also because we have tons of friends/family who don't live near us. I'm glad you're respective of her wishes and have talked about this with her.

[@Aila8]

See this is how I know my mother is toxic. When I was younger I was extremely camera shy and I requested my mom wouldn’t post pictures of me, she responded with “your MY daughter, I can post pictures of you whenever I want”. I wish she would have responded like this.

[@clarajaymorse3487]

@@Aila8 Jeez, that's awful. You may not be able to, but have you considered telling her your concerns to see if that has any effect?

[@discordiasreturn1222]

Drinking age in Germany is 16, 15 with parents at a restaurant so it seems just really funny to be that freaked out over beer :D

[@frozenyogurth]

Feel you, same thing in Austria 😂

[@discordiasreturn1222]

@@frozenyogurth dann Prost und so :D

[@frozenyogurth]

@@discordiasreturn1222 in Zeiten wie diesen hat man eh Grund um sich zu besaufen (: prost!

[@Ava-cw3jf]

In the UK it is 18 to purchase alcohol, but you can drink at home with a responsible guardian from the age of 5 I believe. We have something similar where you can have a glass of beer with a meal from 16 in a restaurant

[@Ava-cw3jf]

In the UK it is 18 to purchase alcohol, but you can drink at home with a responsible guardian from the age of 5 I believe. We have something similar where you can have a glass of beer with a meal from 16 in a restaurant

[@watson483]

Okay calling your cat and boyfriend the same name. My cats name is Leopold and my partners name is Leo and it’s fucking hilarious. I was yelling at my cat and he thought I was calling him out for no reason. But we both have cats and call them by pet names and each other by them.

[@nectarina3891]

I hope child labor laws catch up to family vlogs and stuff. I think if the child is a part of bring in the income they should have a right to some of the money

[@mowganashwey]

In the perfect little world in my mind, the platform they post to would need to semi-regularly check in on the child and their willingness. It would also be awesome if their portion of the earnings were set aside for the children, only to be touched by them when they are of age. I look at people like the Ace family, obviously spending insane amounts of money, and wonder if their children will get anything out of this other than a public childhood. The way they blow money... I just hope they have a hefty savings built up just in case, for the kids.

[@recoil53]

Have you seen how old some of these politician's are? Some of them probably think of YT as a bunch of home movies.

[@TheSylda]

France is working to provide KZbin child stars with the same legal protection as child actors and models and I suspect that it will soon be expanded to the rest of the EU

[@tyffanii1]

I kind of get why the boyfriend that sued his ex took it that far, cause is my ex was slandering me with my full name about something that serious on the internet where my boss or friends or family or even future lovers could see, I would too have done the exact same thing. Not to mention what all that hate directed right at someone might do to someone's mental health, like someone who already has a bad headspace could possibly take things to even worse place in their head where they could be thinking of taking their own life. He was totally in the right, if it was true that he didn't emotionally abuse her.

[@Zeverinsen]

Not to mention that people that do this, will often do it again in the same way, if it doesn't have consequences. They could tell stories without naming the person, but they (allegedly) chose not, and have to face the consequences.

[@shadowbunny7892]

Yeah for sure, this kind of thing can cost you your job if it goes far enough, or job opportunities even years later. I perhaps would have offered to drop the court case if she made a video admitting wrongdoing, I don't think she should have her life destroyed over it either, but if she didn't take that out I'd do what I needed to do to protect my reputation. This of course provided we have an accurate account of what happened, the fact that his friends were saying he took it too far makes me a little suspicious.

[@LPSRed]

i think, believing his side of course, him suing was completely fine. if she slandered him at a point where random people started harassing him online, it’s clearly defamation, BUT i don’t think he should’ve been constantly commenting under everything. at that point, it seems like he’s stuck on watching her videos and content and is a little obsessive, yknow?

[@daria8950]

@@LPSRed and what should he have done? kept it quiet? let people to continue to harass him? Because if he doesn't show he was right ( hence the comments he posted ) people would continue to believe the girl

[@mathildem6714]

Does anyone know who this KZbinr is?

[@teenat511]

You should make a Polish named “let’s call her Jane.” 🥰

[@denia1594]

A new shade of Unicorn Skin 🦄

[@urvijoshi8737]

or a creme called "Plain Jane"

[@jillkatz5483]

I had incredibly strict parents, like when I was in college and came home to visit my curfew was still on. All friends had to come in and meet them b4 I could leave and even as a 34 year old I feel odd drinkinging in front of my parents. I rebeled in college and developed a severe drug problem and landed in rehab. Luckily after a 10 year battle I am finally 3 years clean and sober but I find super strict parenting leads to major issues.

[@yvonne5698]

Congratulations on being clean and sober for 3 years! :)

[@catalinacruz7801]

That’s what happened with my siblings. My parents were very strict and didn’t allow us to leave the house. They went to college and went nuts rebelling with drinking and drugs (only one did any of this). My mom’s parenting style shifted after a major health incident and seeing how my siblings reacted, so I was allowed to do more things. That kept me from reacting the same way, so I had a healthier approach when I left the house.

[@autoimmunewarriorqueen7130]

I know this post is super old but congratulations 🎊 on your 3 possible 4 yrs now of sobriety! It’s a tough journey and you made it!!!

[@jillkatz5483]

Thank you soooooo much!!!!!!

[@ILuvAyeAye]

I'm so glad you got help. I do think super strict parenting can lead to major issues. That said, I have also known people with parents who let them drink at home as a teen who ended up having addiction issues, and believe their parents' position made it worse - if you drink at home, and you drink with your friends, you can end up just drinking a lot more than the average teenager. But I suspect that ultimately, the issues in both examples go deeper than just the parents' position on alcohol. I think a parent that is very controlling and strict about alcohol is very controlling and strict in other ways that are also unhealthy. And on the other hand, a parent who lets their kid drink to excess around them regularly, might be neglecting or enabling other problems too. (I'm not saying that's what the guy on Reddit did, but that's what was happening for the people I knew who ended up having problems.) I don't know where the happy medium is, it probably depends on the family. I do think it's important to make sure the kid knows you're going to love them no matter what, and that they can always call you if they need a ride home. Drunk driving kills too many young people.

[@hollyj4529]

Regarding the guy who sued his ex... In this age of cancel culture, this guy could have lost job opportunities and/or other relationships in the future based on her online accusations. I don’t think he was wrong to pursue this to a legal conclusion.

[@Aa-st6ml]

agreed

[@andinkify]

I agree. If it was defamatory, he was on his right to sue his ex

[@jeanthepants7905]

Me too

[@blue-qh5ye]

I’d love to know who it was but I’ll probably never know

[@edunlap6594]

Absolutely. Libel is a thing even if we know one side of the story as an audience.

[@liyanai151]

For the scrunchies, the mom should’ve known better than to offer a toddler something she might have to take back.

[@pvic6959]

the mom had NO intention of taking it back

[@liyanai151]

@@pvic6959 absolutely. Wish she had as much respect for her daughter’s belongings as I’m sure she has for her own!

[@Suzor9297]

In the vane of if only I had been there to have the argument with the mother on the girl's behalf, if the Mom thought it was alright for her to give the daughter's scrunchies away, then the girl should be able to give the mother's expensive jewelry away to anyone who throws a fit and wants it, including items gifted to her, like say her wedding / engagement ring

[@venushakirupakaran9094]

I think it shows how distant the parent and their kid are, cuz the parents should know that their kid has sentimental value for their scrunchies

[@stop-.-2517]

The scrunchy situation had me remembering about the time I collected seashells. I'd collect a single shells from any beach or bay I went to every time I went as a child. Fast foward to when I was 16, my aunt saw my collection and told me to give it to my little cousin because she has a bigger collection. I said no but then she (aunt) got upset and took it anyways. I didn't know what to do in that situation...when she gave them to my cousin she said she didn't want them. She didn't even like shells! My aunt then mixed them up in my cousin collection. A few months later they threw out their collection 🙄

[@AetherEmpressTreJinn6o6]

Scrunchie girl... so many of my friends had parents like this, i never understood. Mine tried to respect my privacy and things i owned.

[@TheCoolCookieKitchen]

As a mom of a 3 yr old... kids don't get everything and they shouldn't be taught because they're young that they do. I would be ok as the mom if she wasn't willing to hand over something she cared about. I would also say I'll steal it back from my kid and return it the next day.

[@kenzie9220]

absolutely! and, most three year olds would love that scrunchie for like a day and then it would be old news, so i think she was right not giving it away

[@alyssaferry600]

That last part. I would 100% attempt to level with the teen and be like "dude. I'll take it from her tonight before bed an bring it back tomorrow. Thanks for being a champ. Sorry your mom brought us here without your permission." and if she still wasn't okay with that, I'd also understand. We'd just find a rubber band or a piece of sting. Ndb.

[@erica1800]

I totally agree! My mom was very much like this and I’m glad she didn’t allow me to become kind of spoiled in that sense. I would also say maybe if the kid really wanted it, I would just say I’ll ask where the scrunchie came from and tell them where to buy their own. But in all seriousness, never feel ridiculous for not giving a kid your stuff. You aren’t obligated to give it away especially if it’s just someone who took fancy because it looked cool.

[@TheCoolCookieKitchen]

@@erica1800 Sounds like you had good parents. Entitled children breed entitled adults and as somebody who worked enough customer service in her life I, can't let that happen to my kid.

[@minwellitsanicknamebegrate2531]

She shouldn’t have offered her daughters things to the child anyway and if the child cried just give her something else to tie her hair with and explain they were gifts so she can’t give them to others. Kids have to learn anyway when I was kid and my parents said no that was it end of story but for my brother he would cry and they would immediately take him/Us home or explain why we can’t have it and you could ether stop crying or go to your room they never let someone give us something just to shut us up.

[@LoveCrumb]

Alternate title: Why Cristine's dad is a cool guy.

[@woozle7561]

The cat one has me DEAD. I call my cat babe, baby, my love, my world, etc. I call her these things infront of my boyfriend and he gets confused sometimes but he doesn't think I wanna marry my cat or anything 🤣🤣😂😂😂 I'm so dead

[@chloegreen1003]

Another point around the 'am i the Ahole for suing my ex one ' is that a lot of people get searched online by potential employees- if a search result like this turns up that could absolutely ruin any future job. If she was telling the truth then fair enough but if she was lying then she absolutely should have been sued

[@corneliastreet3559]

It’s defamation, he was getting death threats, and clearly he had a solid case if they ruled in his favor. It was a major issue for him, and it will impact the rest of his life even though he’s actually won.

[@ginajohnston5104]

Or when he started to date again all future dates would look him up and find that.

[@vaishnavisingh9244]

I guess it would depend on how much she exposed him in the video, like was his full name and face shown in her videos? I am more in the middle of the road with this one. Because as much as I would like to believe in "justice serve" type of deal, it's also very likely that a dude with a bit of money and desire for revenge did some damage to his ex by suing her. It's a very big decision to take, and the most correct response would be to talk with his ex and sort it out. I don't like how she deframed him, but also don't like how he dealt with it.

[@wow4089]

i still can't get over how soothing beyyn's voice is, it's crazy

[@MeanPsyduck]

bruh it's true! Is it his pitch? It's like he was born to be talking in these microphones

[@veronikapop8161]

He could make audiobooks if he’s tired of KZbin 😁

[@expensivepink7]

love ben

[@8Forester]

@@MeanPsyduck iiyy

[@8Forester]

@@MeanPsyduck iiyyi

[@LochNessNess]

The anti nail polish mom is really rude, she just demeaned her husband instead of taking this as a bonding moment. 😒

[@doodlelady8289]

I agree when I was little my dad would paint his toe nails because his girlfriend liked to paint them and I thought they looked cute in him and I we would match our nail polish It was really fun and a great bonding moment and I think this could have been a similar moment (sorry if I went on a but if a tangent)

[@ExhaustedSquirrel]

I heard it like Boy come be my husband i want that kind of involvement in my nail polish

[@ImperialVideo]

She basically took it as, I don't wanna turn my husband gay by allowing him to paint his nails. I will never understand why so many people are concerned about other people's bodies. It is fine for men to wear nail polish, it is fine for women to have short hair, its fine to kids to play with the opposite sex's toys, its fine for girls to wear "boys" clothes and boys to wear dresses. We get so caught up in trying to fix a mold that is ultimately made up and stupid lol. You think nature gives a f*** if you wear a dress or paint your nails if you are a guy? No, its a random human idea we made up to fight over.

[@InsoIence]

@@ImperialVideo You and all the rest of you. Thanks for being cool people. It's refreshing to see healthy perspectives once you step out of certain type of bubbles.

[@0tterMom]

Yeah... It's almost certainly fake... Almost all of AITA posts are fakes for likes and awards.

[@francescam5422]

I think there is a difference between a child actor, that act a role, and a family vlogger, who shows personal and real life

[@tamhuy10]

Fra ottini yeah family vlogging is worse becauseit gets personal

[@Cake-um7je]

@@tamhuy10 on teh other hand, presumeably if the parent is a good parent, they know the kid best and can amke them feel at ease the most and amke teh situation elss stressful, then again regulations in private atmospheres are hard to make...

[@tamhuy10]

@@Cake-um7je yeah presumably. there are bad or selfish or just dumb parents out there, not saying there arent good parents. I was just saying that in the case of children actors, the audience know that they are playing a role, they know that what is on screen is not the real thing. In the case of Vlogs it "documents " real life, so ppl assume everything is real and not very doctored, so ppl think they know the child, their personallity, what they think or feel. its very differnt

[@Cake-um7je]

@@tamhuy10 that's a very good point, I wasn't trying to diminish that fact, dw I'm sorry if it came off that way

[@artistryiscomingback]

Re: the unicorn skin one, I wish they had understood the question a little better, cause I'm curious about the thoughts. The post said that the Dad's girlfriend owned the nail polish, not the little girl herself. So maybe the Dad's girlfriend had let her wear it once, but she wasn't allowed to use it whenever, and the poster wanted to know if it would be overstepping to just get a bottle they could both wear whenever they want. Also, the socio-economic implication that the Dad and the StepGirlfriend said it was expensive and special, and the poster was willing to buy it without a second thought might have some impact on the kids understanding of money that a parent might was to avoid. Anyone else have thoughts??

[@sandracaraballo9830]

"Until you're 18 or move out" *my hispanic parents LAUGH*

[@haniyakhan8191]

Hispanic, indian, asian...i think most non caucasians....lol

[@FXStarshine]

Oh even Caucasian parents lol I'm almost 40 and my mom still tries to dictate what I do / eat 🙃

[@MsJeanneMarie]

Hahha yeah, even Caucasians! lol I’d be curious to know the statics on that in the US today. My guess would be that most people don’t move out at 18 anymore or that most people return at some point as an adult.

[@mystiqueivy]

LMAOOOO i kept thinking during that whole segment (as it often happens in these podcasts haha): "as a latina, i intensely disagree with that statement" hahahaha we clearly did not have the same experiences AT ALL loool

[@user-fc8mf2is4b]

​@@haniyakhan8191 it's pretty common in "3rd world" countries lol i'm brazilian and most of my cousins could only afford moving out after like 26. and even then, most of them only left when they got married lol

[@AlyssaEm]

Lol when my fiancé comes home he says to me and my dog “how are my two favourite girls?” I think it’s the cutest thing ever! I love my dog to death and when he calls her “his girl” it warms my heart! I don’t think it’s weird and neither should that other girl and her boyfriend calling his cat “sweetie”

[@CheshieD]

I guess the only logical reason would be if he said it in a really weird like super intimate way, like tooo intimate for a pet type of way. Like beyond considering them your own child. But idk if he did it that way so ya know

[@sydneytaylor8128]

Yeah, I think it's awesome and adorable when guys love animals. I'd love to have a boyfriend who loves my pets as much as I do!

[@CheshieD]

@@sydneytaylor8128 honestly if ya ask me, if a guy can’t show any love for an animal as much as they do for a human then they should be avoided as far as partners go.

[@makaylagalaxy4958]

I think the girl is overreacting for sure but I mean,, if she asked to not be called “sweetie” then he should just not? Even if in his mind if it’s stupid and irrational just don’t call her sweetie and it’s easily solved ??

[@Elena-bk4fs]

@@makaylagalaxy4958 yes i agree, it would be the exact same as him asking to not be called “boo” or something

[@jodieasterling1992]

I applaud the daughter for realizing what family vlogging may mean for her future adult life. A lot of family vloggers post things like first bra shopping and first period news. Future employers do not need to know what age those things happened in their employees lives.

[@sarabeaarr]

01:01:23 I just finished writing a thesis on gender stereotypes and stereotypical gender roles in schools and preschools. several studies show that boys and girls will keep performing at different levels as long as these stereotypes are enforced because they aren't met with the same expectations (boys will be boys, girls are the more quiet and "productive" ones, etc.). boys and girls will always grow up being drawn to gendered things such as toys etc. but it's been proven that everyone does better if they're given the same opportunities and if they're met with the same expectations regardless of gender.

[@AlliEnchilada]

Ben: this is gross behavior when you have roommates Cristine: but what about homeless people

[@mystiqueivy]

LMAO WHAT! xD also, i thought when she said nail filings she didnt mean nail clippings, so, idk what you all think? i think i dont mind the dust from filing nails, but i do my the clippings of nails/toenails. Or is everything gross? what do you guys think?

[@leila77]

@@mystiqueivy yeah I wouldn’t mind filing but I would mind clipping or anything related to toes 😂

[@annikabar606]

To the family blogger: I think it's the modern form of children's beauty pageants. Some of the kids might want to do it, but the parent's interests seems to play a big role in most of the cases.

[@Zeverinsen]

I'm glad that there are mostly old analog photos of me as a child instead.

[@mikidefr]

That's a really great analogy I hadn't thought about. I can't put myself in that teen's shoes bc the only pictures of me on the internet are on my private Instagram. If it were me though I think I would be ok with pictures of myself as long as I was asked before they were posted. When personal information is released though, I draw the line. My dad will tell people embarrassing stories of me and I hate it. I can't imagine my family putting that online. I would hate them.

[@sashapriboy]

Well I think the scrunchy one is very much about how emotional and feminine valuable items are not taken as seriously as actually expensive and probably masculine. Imagine the father of the family had an car toy models collection which are incredibly pricy. And a boy crushing his toy car at their place and asking for one of his instead. I absolutely see a situation where it would be seen as an impossible move and if eg his wife tried to persuade him he would likely to be throwing a stubborn tantrum himself. And everyone will see it as an okay situation cause they are money-expensive but emotionally-expensive and childish/feminine can be just tossed as unreasonable. And if it so happens that the man actually gives one of his expensive collectibles away it will be seen as such a grand gesture. But whatever, it’s about her mother and her poor boundaries for bringing this up in the first place anyways

[@fromthemoonandmybed]

Such a good example! I wonder how that would’ve played out if that scenario happened?

[@paulinajuodsnukyte7597]

i was just listening and thought "wow they sound like a really good parents" and then remembered that they don't have children

[@maxine1333]

Then who are Menchie and Zyler????

[@MariW736]

I’ve loved Christine for years, but nail art really isn’t my thing so I was not a big watcher, but these podcasts have sucked me in. I love you both, I love that you seem like great people and intelligent and rational and fun. I legit wish we had more people like you on public platforms 💗💗 This is now the channel that I always remember to watch for on Tuesday mornings, love you guys!

[@MsJeanneMarie]

Hahah same. lol nail art is cool to look at but I rarely paint my nails. I love their personalities and how they view things in a sort of intellectual way.

[@Katielovegood44]

I think a lot of us are here because we are Cristine and Ben fans, not nail art fans :) I also love how they use their platform for education and realism

[@stapels22]

Their conversations are encapsulating

[@MsJeanneMarie]

@@stapels22 do you mean captivating? Or what do they encapsulate?

[@michaelpencil666]

You guys mentioned "the youtuber couple bandwagon" and I think it would be really cool if you guys touched on the decision to have ben become more and more involved with the channel.

[@rainyhaze2053]

I'd like that, too. Also just skipping ahead: I feel like there's a difference between relationship content and content people do together, while happening to be in a relationship. And I think, Cristine and Ben are the latter. :)

[@recoil53]

@@rainyhaze2053 Yeah, it's not "look at us, a picture perfect couple". Ben just gradually had a bigger part in videos, until they did a podcast. And before the podcast a lot of posters wanted more Ben.

[@JuliaH9595]

"Would you be offended if I called you boo boo canoe?"

[@Crystelgames]

😂

[@RestingCuntFace]

“Kidnapped by an Uber driver. Or my ex is a psychopath. Who is it that makes those videos?” My mind immediately: tana

[@jenrivera5893]

The issue with the parents exploiting children for views is that there’s no legal rights given to the children for their money. With child actors most states have legislature protecting the income for the child. Nothing like that exists for family bloggers. That’s what it always comes down to for me. There’s nothing protecting the rights of the children. It’s super scary.

[@sfsin3380]

Ya I imagine we a few years out from gown up children of family blogging stars campaigning for protections the same way former child actors did decades ago. There probably going to be a few horror stories coming out then as well.

[@laurenlaker]

The wife being off put about her husband wearing nail polish has a full set of baggage. Her daughter can use "boy" valentines because its ok to aspire to be masculine. To be feminine is to be lesser and her husband wanting to feminize a part of him would make him less of a man.

[@dodgethis_]

Exactly. It boils down to the same sexism and female being the lesser. That's why homosexual men are hunted more than homosexual women. In a lesbian couple (and this is a very dumbed down version), one of the females takes on the "giver/male" role, which can be tolerated. However in a couple with two men, one of them is taking on the "receiver/female" role and that is absolutely not acceptable - a betrayal of patriarchy. The same reason why "tom-boy" girls cool/strong, whereas more feminine/sensitive boys are "weak" and it's by default bad.

[@flowerdolphin5648]

@@dodgethis_ yeah, this is such a sad reality. Personally I really don't mind feminine men. They have their own charms and rights to express themselves the way they want.

[@staceysholter5677]

Yes, this. Painting nails is seen as feminine, or ONLY something homosexual men can do, which is so crazy to me. Like paint doesn't make you any more attracted to men? It seems like the woman is almost insecure or scared of her husband becoming a "feminine" person because of his..... speckled toe?

[@frozenyogurth]

@@staceysholter5677 I don't get this as well, especially since I find nailpolish (especially dark colours/ black) super attractive.

[@Christine_990]

I honestly thought the dad & his son drinking was really impressive way to handle it between him & his son. It doesn't shame him into thinking he can't ever do any drinking like some might've freaked out cause he's underage & that always ends up with teens way over doing it just to prove a point. He learned his comfortable limit so he knows he can go & have maybe 3 beers just to be tipsy & enjoy it with his friends rather than have 10 cause he's trying to keep up and do what everyone else is doing that seems right and gets in trouble somehow or something happens to him. As a wife, I would've preferred he told me so I mighttaaaa snapped at first but once he explained why like he did in the post, off the hook.

[@IXcircle]

Alcohol was always around the house growing up. My parents sometimes, although rarely, offered small sips. I'm pretty apathetic about alcohol. It's just there. I think it is because of my upbringing.

[@mirandajones7816]

Big same. It’s a very healthy way to handle it. And also with sexuality.

[@oranji7258]

Same as well. Before I turned 21 my mom would buy me alcohol if I asked only because I didn’t drink it except rare occasions and would instead use the alcohol for cooking. When I went clubbing with my friends I’d always text mom when I got back to the friend’s house, if I drank so I wouldn’t drive, and when I’d be home. If you’re honest with children about adult substances then they won’t see it as something to sneak around with

[@erika-sf6ei]

+1 this is the right way to do it

[@christinegarcia8230]

Same for me. And I'm really transparent with my parent when I go out with friends to bars.

[@valentinaartusa6683]

Ben talking about italian drinking at a younger age Me, an italian: ah yes, they gave you wine when you are 6

[@rchhcsupernova]

Prosecco in my case, soda, no no, prosecco.

[@CrescentMond]

My grandpa would give me our wine to drink when I was six, yep... Just sips of course, I was the one refusing it! I still don't reeeally like wine all that much, and my mother even used to sell brunello. And cookies or bread soaked in espresso too, that one I loved.

[@mrspokitstheriot477]

I think I was about 6 too.

[@alana.dyer.author]

I was 5...nona said it was fruit juice and I believed her. Slept like a baby apparently lol

[@lavishgoblin]

I'm French, so people always assume I've been drinking wine my whole damn life and to be fair... they're not wrong bc I started tasting the wine my parents were drinking when I was about 6 lol

[@bakersbooks]

Re: painting a guy's toenail(s)-I used to paint my dad's nails when I was a kid too! I didn't think/know it was a big deal then, but now I'm really proud that he wore sandals and showed them off even though they were bright pink.

[@saggguy7]

Your dad sounds awesome

[@rinam4198]

Thats amazing

[@alana.dyer.author]

My dad was my practice when in highschool cosmetology. I would do designs and everything and put them in my portfolio project. He would come home from work talking about how all the ladies loved his nails. I was 15,16,17 and 18 for all of this. If who ever I have kids with isn't like this I'll tie him down for my kids to use his nails for practice 🤷‍♀️

[@dylanb3413]

I'm glad they included their personal experiences about drinking and general responsibility information about that kinda thing because its such an important lesson for younger people to learn

[@brianna7210]

As a nail tech, i cant tell you how many women would come in with their husband or boyfriends and they would refuse to get a pedi until they saw an older/masculine man getting one. It happens so often.

[@kikihyde2299]

Scrunchie: she's not the a-hole. I have lent out my favorite books to adults and friends and not ever gotten them back or gotten them back bent and damaged, I would not give something I value to a 3 year old.

[@johannamueller9061]

“Oats can be hip” - BEEEEYYYYYYNNNNNN

[@samw9089]

Iconic 😂

[@gem9535]

If someone tried to take my stuff because "sharing is caring," and called me immature for not wanting to, my MOTHER would be foaming at the mouth. That's how it should be

[@carlajane369]

I love how Cristine is jealous of Ben taking Menchie’s cuddles but Ben’s jealous of Zyler’s time with Cristine 🤣

[@prettypeach13]

Some celebrities actually wore the exact same clothing whenever they were in public so when the press took pictures of them they couldn’t profit off of those since they all looked like they were from the same day or something. Another thing that celebrities done were to wear some kind of holo sweaters and clothes so then the camera would be reflected in the pictures and the person couldn’t be seen in the pictures so it was useless to take pictures.

[@ishadalal9034]

didn't Justin Bieber get a reflective car for that sole purpose?

[@prettypeach13]

@@ishadalal9034 maybe!

[@dawnthegoblin]

Yeah Daniel Radcliffe did that.

[@prettypeach13]

@@dawnthegoblin yeah, that’s where I got the wear the same clothing each day one from. It seems like a bunch of people who are famous did things like that. The reflective sweater was actually an Indian celebrity I think.

[@tamhuy10]

Isha Dalal isnt that illegal ? It might cause accidents

[@GaylenOraylee]

54:09 It makes me think of the intro to Madonna's 'What it Feels Like For A Girl.' Girls can wear jeans and cut their hair short Wear shirts and boots 'cause it's okay to be a boy But for a boy to look like a girl is degrading 'Cause you think that being a girl is degrading

[@draughtoflethe]

Exactly. Also, that is a great song/video.

[@avalonloube7715]

My grandmother got me Play Rose from Holo Taco one year and I love it. My dad asked me to paint his toenails red and then put the play rose over top but only one coat. He absolutely loved it and now it is one of my favourite combos!

[@DannyPlaysCello]

Cristine getting distracted from the post by how happy she is that a kid was enjoying holo taco warms my heart 🥺

[@hannablackburn9237]

So fun story time! I am engaged and when I moved in with my fiancé I brought most of my nail care products and polishes I had collected. Once a week I would go into our bathroom and watch your videos and tend to my nails. He got sooo fascinated with nail art and so one day I asked him if I could paint his toenails and take care of his extremely ✨overgrown✨ cuticles but he refused. I asked him why and he said “cause I’m not a girl?” so I challenged him by asking “what about self care and self expression is not for men?” He said “I don’t know,” and agreed to let me give him a pedicure. He was so cute when I told him that we could go to the store the day we were going to do it and he could pick out the color he wanted on his toes. I’ve never seen this man so invested in picking a color out, he asked me which brand was the best and which one was the best that we could get in store, (we had the lesson on what an indie polish is and what a drugstore polish is). He finally decided on a purple, we went home, and I got to work. We soaked our feet together, we did a nice buffing sugar scrub and gentle exfoliate on our calluses, (we both work in fields where we are on our feet all day). I painted his toes and he was like “how do I walk?!” He was so scared he’d smudge the polish and I almost peed myself laughing at him walking on his heels to avoid messing them up. After the first time I let him paint my toes and lord was that a bad idea. It was a blood bath 😂 polish was ✨EVERYWHERE✨ although I do have to say it is one of my favorite videos I have to date because I got to capture his laugh when he plopped a huge blob on my toe. So I really have to thank you for making one of my favorite memories happen.

[@MissCaraMint]

This is so cute.

[@MsEverAfterings]

That is do cute!!!!! 🥰

[@kathyo.6217]

This is so wholesome.

[@alana.dyer.author]

This is adorable

[@katthor7311]

Plot twist: What if the guy that didn't want his girlfriend to start a youtube channel was so adamant about it because he's in the witness protection program?👀😳

[@Atomicqueen9]

Ohh I didn't think of that🤔🤔

[@tvgubber]

🤯

[@recoil53]

And not being mentioned or shown isn't enough?

[@sprigganpanda]

@@recoil53 can never take risks man

[@pegaseg70]

She would probably know because she would be protected too right?

[@KarinaElizaBear]

I'm a bi female and I used to live in a very freeing city for 6 years where my sexuality and gender wasn't an issue. I've moved back home to a (somewhat) conservative town, and at the place I work I've heard a coworker call another coworker the f-word (towards their sexuality) thinking that it was no big deal. The same coworker also told me I'm not allowed to look at women but he's allowed to... In regards to the first thing, I really should've told my boss, but since I've told him off and told him never to say that word around me or the coworker he was referring to. But I'm not sure how to go about the second situation :/

[@claireeebee]

I've been saying this about family vlogging! This may be a strong stance, but I can't stand it. How do kids consent to their whole life being on the internet? When does the work day stop? What's real life vs stuff for content? Ugh. Very concerning. I'm sure there's people that have found the balance but idk. I think it's best not to do it. Kids in Hollywood have more protections and that's not saying much.

[@denia1594]

There should definitely be child protective laws in place for this! I feel so bad for the girl with the vlogging mom! Parents can share their experiences, tricks and tips online without showing it in action on their child. I believe some short videos, or pictures are OK, but only if they show something appropriate and they do not capture your whole life. It is also very concerning how this can be used by pedophiles. 😞

[@cd842]

I love how people ask AITA and get upset in the comments when people call them the A**hole.

[@HalideT]

lmao true

[@alecia5447]

My favorite is seeing the narcissists seeking external validation choke on a cold dose of reality for once in their lives🤭

[@cd842]

@Lilyana Barnett Oh interesting, who is she so I can Google her? I'm always on the lookout for doppelgängers

[@recoil53]

People want to be validated, not find answers. Some people.

[@ania5038]

That mommy blog one is really heartbreaking. The parent vloggers on here really have no self-awareness of the extreme extent of information they have shared about their children, and many of them genuinely think they are doing their children a favour because of the revenue they get exploiting their children. If I had to point to gaps that exist in protecting vulnerable people I would say that protecting children of family bloggers/vloggers online is in the very top.

[@aliciaclaire81]

I think you’re very right about these kids falling into a gap. Should they not be protected the same as any other child in media? I find it appalling when people post their children online, and I think future people will find it quite shocking.

[@rm-iu4gs]

@@aliciaclaire81 i think children in general should not be on the internet unless they're on the parent's private accounts. they're not old enough to give consent.

[@katek8311]

Just wanna say, the video got recommended to me and I wanted to listen to something while doing my tasks. I have no idea who you are, but I listened through the whole thing and I really enjoyed it ☺️

[@leavemealone5845]

for the one about him suing his ex, honestly I dont blame him. clearly there wasn't enough evidence that he was abusive otherwise he wouldn't have won the case. she was slandering his name and people were sending death threats, if there had been actual abuse he wouldn't have won the case because then it wouldn't have been slander.

[@corneliastreet3559]

I think defamation in this case, but one of the criteria for that is that the claims are untrue so your point still stands. Not to mention that even though he won the court case, he didn’t receive financial compensation, and he will carry these false claims with him forever. Future employers or girlfriends are going to see the KZbin videos before they see the result of the court case, and that’s going to be very damaging for a very long time. A very unfortunate situation all around.

[@PudgeySeal]

One of my favourite things when I taught swimming to kids was when a little boy came to class with all his nails painted a different colour, because everytime I asked him about it, he would get soooo excited about how he chose all the colours himself and which one was his favourite, or how they matched his mom's nails, or him and his sister who was also in the class would have matching nails. It was so cute, and it actually happened really often

[@TryingMyWorst]

So on the last post, with the dad wanting to paint his toenail, Ben mentioned that there's an argument that schools are trying to take male traits away from boys. Not exactly that, but thats the gist. The thing is structured school time is bad for boys and girls. Sitting still and being quiet for 8 hours a day, largely in sequence is not what kids are meant to do! Which is why classrooms that provide fidget toys, bouncy straps on the desks, etc have way better success rates with keeping kids attention and calm. Where it comes to that boys do worse in school than girls, I firmly believe its because how the two are raised. Typically girls are scolded for being "out of control" whereas boys are given more wiggle room because "that's how boys are". So when they're entered into school the girls have already had a lot of experience of being stifled when being told to sit like a lady, dont be so loud, stop fidgeting, etc whereas the boys don't. It's damaging to all children, but girls are more used to suppressing what they want to do Edit: Not saying that the struggle boys face in school is not important. But just that this is why girls don't struggle as much. I think we need to overhaul the school system as a whole to benefit everyones mental health as much as possible. And to let kids be kids

[@quinnd6273]

Abso-f-ing-lutely

[@CasparChance]

Boys will be boys 🙄 I hated hearing that every time a boy did something that I was always told not to or scolded for doing. Great post/explanation OP!

[@CheshieD]

As a girl, I’m so thankful my parents let me play in mud as a child just because I wanted too. We had a mix of “girl” toys and “boy” toys, we weren’t told we couldn’t have it just because it wasn’t for girls. HELL I got a microscope for my like 7th birthday! My first two elementary schools also didn’t really push that onto us which, looking back on it now, is surprising considering the area and beliefs from older people and some of the other parents. I mean all the girls and boys got to paint using a dead fish if they wanted to, don’t ask it was a weird field day/instructional day event thing I don’t understand what the point of it even was to be honest. I got to help build the walking trails, imagine a tiny 6-7 year old having to push a normal sized wheel barrel full of wood chips up and down hills. I guess my only advantage was that we literally were out in the middle of nowhere so everyone was very exposed to nature and often times farm animals. But after moving I did notice it more from others, but I didn’t care. Ima play with mud if I wanna play with mud, even at the age of 19 I will play in mud if I want to do that there ain’t no stoppin me.

[@erinaa9486]

Yeah the school system is all about suppressing individuality and forcing conformity, not promoting creativity and intelligence

[@CheshieD]

@@erinaa9486 errr depends on the state and country you’re in as well as the individual school. My schools, especially middle and high school, were very creativity and knowledge oriented. (Not intelligence oriented because that’s something you just have and can’t really be taught.)

[@bethanypollard6940]

I’m honestly kind of disappointed that more people aren’t talking about Christine and Ben’s comments on the story about the guy suing his ex. The girl was slandering his name and he had every right to take her to court. In no way was he in the wrong. I’m shocked that Christine and Ben didn’t see this.

[@leetaylormorris]

I am LOLOLOLing “ would you be offended if I called you boo-boo Canoe.” But mostly Cristines face 😂