This Year Changed Everything: Toxic Friendships, Failures & Self Worth + GIVEAWAYS

[@GlamGirlGabi]

Thank you for joining me in this VERY VULNERABLE video today. I'm going to be honest, it made me so insecure that I almost didn't post it but I am trying very hard to be okay with imperfection. On that note, here is something I FAILED AT - the audio levels are all over the place in this video because I should have used a lav mic in the house but I used a normal shotgun mic and there was a lot of echo and weird stuff going on. Since I "failed" at the audio in this video, I purchased a great lav so that these vlog style videos will be easier to watch moving forward. I tried a new video form (vlogging), got out of my comfort zone, failed at the audio, analyzed the failure and then worked to improve it for the future. Hopefully that somehow inspires you to be okay failing too. I love you all so much. MERRY CHRISTMAS!

[@kristarenee805]

@@GlamGirlGabi happy you did. You have already helped me just within this hour!!! Love hearing failures and solutions to them, honestly how we will ever grow. Thank you for uploading this video ❤️❤️

[@debrarichlin723]

You may know more about sound than you realize….i was so busy listening to what you were saying (and, let’s be honest, hoping you would show us your bunbun) that I didn’t notice audio 😂🥴😂🎄

[@katy4639]

It can’t be easy to be so vulnerable with an online platform. Thank you for making this video, it is just amazing!

[@FashionPassion777]

I'm so glad you posted this video Gabi ❤ I know it's not always fair but sometimes it takes one very brave person being vulnerable to create so much positive change for many others, like a ripplle effect. I'm so proud of you Gabi and I hope you are also so proud of yourself - yes for this video specifically, but more so for who you are and your approach/attitude in life in general 😘

[@marcelalozano9382]

Thank you for your authenticity! It's refreshing to see videos where perfection takes a back seat. Would love to see a tutorial on best way to clean makeup brushes. Thank you for sharing your talents and your generosity. Tir Tir please!

[@valletta5767]

When I was a kid (in the 70s!) my dad used to tell me: “You own two things, your attitude and your actions”. And I’ve never USED more advice in my life. ❤

[@maryjacob4335]

That is so perfect ❤

[@KarenSchuessler]

Awesome advice.

[@GinaHarrisToo]

Your channel became successful because you are 100% authentic. You’re talented, tenacious and self-aware. It’s quite endearing.

[@cheryltanaka5885]

Let me tell you about you, Gabi! I was initially drawn to your channel because you champion older women like me. I'm thrilled by each and every one of those make overs, because the women are already beautiful and you enhance them using the beauty nature gave them. I always feel you're authentic. That you always felt older women were much more interesting, because of their varied life experiences and you wanted them to shine their light especially on special occasions. I so appreciate the work you put into your videos to often purchase on your own and research an entire brand or an array of eyeliners, eye shadows, concealers, foundation, mascara, you name it. You present solutions to common make up issues. (I'm trying to use your face lifting blush technique as well as shading and contouring areas, etc.) And/or introduce new brands or new products. You also introduce new voices in collabs and guests. Thank you for all that you've already been doing! Really enjoyed this candid "chit chat." At 70 I still deal with being authentic and true to myself as opposed to people pleasing and also with self-worth. I'm so glad you're changing your approach for you and your sons. As scary and painful as "failure" can be, it can empower us as well to regroup and move forward. My failure this year has been in not claiming my retirement disbursements as I'd planned to. Just got too lazy. So that's my #1 priority for 2025, to shore up my "finances." It will be nice to see you cleaning for Pom Pom (your girl in a house full of boys), tidying after your trip, etc. It will be interesting to see what's new for you and beauty in 2025! Looking forward to it!

[@nh2748]

I agree with cheryltanaka5885 comment and nominate her for your giveaway. I could not have written a better comment. Thanks from a senior viewer 😊

[@janethagy8871]

Hey Cheryl! I was so happy to read your post! I'm also 70 years of age and still interested in make up and new ways to bring out my best! I never know how many women are out there who love make up as I do. Nice to know we older women still love to put on some make up!!

[@SA2302]

You can be "logical and science-based" and still be a spiritual person! I'm one of them. You might be surprised how many neurosurgeons and physicists say their prayers at night! 😇

[@amymac41890]

Very true❤

[@heatherparker9820]

I know. That is always a not so subtle insult when people say they are not spiritual bc they are facts and science based.

[@DianaPolo_Realtor]

I agree. Some of the most prominent scientists are believers.

[@heatherparker9820]

@@DianaPolo_Realtorso true!

[@MariLarkin]

I failed at making myself a priority this year. I had to take care of my elderly parents. In the process of moving them, my dad dies. So it's just my mom now and I moved her near me into a AL facility. During all that stress I let myself go and stopped working out, stopped eating good, and just wore myself ragged. I felt like I aged 10 years in just this year. ugh. But I decided in October it was time again to take care of ME. So I'm back at working out, eating good, losing weight, reading my Bible and letting go of things that don't help me be my best self. Thank you for this video, it was precious. We all need to work better at being open, honest and real to others.

[@brendashope1558]

Glad you are back to some self care after that very tough year. Best wishes for 2025 :-)

[@FashionPassion777]

@@MariLarkin 🥰

[@Truthmatters6385]

Mari: You're reading THE Book that I love to read - it gives me encouragement, helps me understand how much I am loved and reminds me to be grateful even during the hard times. Blessings in this new journey . I'm right there with you in many things you mentioned.

[@LP-fz5xm]

It breaks my heart that you say you’re not a spiritual person. You ARE a spirit…..with a body. Love you and praying for you.

[@spirituallysafe]

Jesus said “I am the way, the truth and the life; no-one comes to God except through Me (John 14:6). Jesus wants you to to cast all your cares on Him because He cares for you (1 Peter 5:7). Only by repenting of sin and trusting in Jesus to guide your life are you spiritually safe for all eternity. I encourage you to prayerfully read The Holy Bible.

[@amykolstee5212]

Amen, it will change your life in the most beautiful ways❤​@@spirituallysafe

[@spirituallysafe]

@@amykolstee5212 I testify to that! Enjoy your Christmas sister :-)

[@TLCgoldendoodles]

Tir tir. I'm new to your channel. I did a search about covering grey at home and your video popped up. I'd love to learn about covering two toned color at home, and the best ways to part my hair myself and the best tools to use, as well as best brands available. I'm also wanting to learn about safety with the chemicals. Thank you! The video I watched about coloring our own hair was so encouraging.

[@marisel0410]

Love this ! Yes !

[@karekausnicolli4890]

Gabi, some people are determined to misunderstand you. I have experienced this with my adopted sister. I tried for 50 years to make it work. It would for a while, but then it wouldn't and she ultimately threw me under the bus based on her vision of how she saw me, even though it wasn't accurate. Sometimes you need to walk away and move on, girlfriend. It's hard, but it brings peace. Sending love!!

[@bambina3148]

I have turned down 5 jobs this year that I really wanted to accept, but didn’t have the confidence. So I’m stuck in a toxic workplace feeling angry with myself. My parents constantly told me I was useless, my ex husband believes that women can’t manage without men. My own 2 daughters are extremely successful in their chosen fields, one in corporate business and the other in her own business. I succeeded at giving them confidence to be themselves, but don’t have it for me. Thank you Gabi for your honesty and integrity ❤❤❤

[@nancymccormick7567]

I get that

[@GlamGirlGabi]

First of all, let me say how incredible you are. 💖 You’ve raised two successful, confident daughters-that’s a testament to the strength and love you’ve poured into them. That’s no small feat! It’s clear you have so much to offer, even if you don’t always see it in yourself. Turning down those jobs wasn’t a failure-it was a reflection of where you were emotionally at the time. But here’s the thing: you’re acknowledging it now, and that awareness is powerful. You have the ability to change your story. Confidence isn’t something we magically have; it’s something we build, step by step. And you’ve already taken so many brave steps by recognizing your worth and showing up here. Thank you for sharing your heart and being so open. You are NOT stuck-you’re in the process of rediscovering yourself, and I truly believe you’ll find your way to a better place. Sending you so much love and encouragement-you’ve got this! ❤❤❤

[@lisapoulsen5452]

I really liked this style of video. It’s not practical for a tutorial or some other content, but when it works, I’m all for it🥰🥰🥰

[@lindahoffman2692]

Bambina, I actually CRIED at your Story because it’s the story of TOO MANY of us, BUT what REALLY JUMPED out to me immediately is that your Self Doubt appears to have Completely BLINDED YOU to the Fact THAT FIVE, COUNT THEM FIVE, Perspective Employers WANTED YOU AND BELIEVED IN YOU enough to Offer you the Jobs YOU WANTED!! From TODAY GOING FORWARD that’s GOT to be your MANTRA - “I’M MORE THAN GOOD ENOUGH!”!! 👍❤️💕 PS I jumped up and down at ONE JOB OFFER out of “I refuse to tell anybody” 😂😂 HOW MANY Interviews so you are ALREADY a SUCCESS!! ❤️🤶🧑🏻‍🎄

[@bambina3148]

@@lindahoffman2692 I cried at your reply. Thank you so much for your kind response. I see the woman I want to be when I look at my girls. I feel like I put the best of me into them so that they would never feel like I have felt my whole life. I’m so lucky to have them and to have a really good friend who lifts me up and supports me. That makes me feel blessed. Thank you again for your lovely comment ❤️❤️❤️

[@vzeimen]

Love your messages today. I'm a 61 year old woman, daughter, mother, wife, cousin, sister, mother in law, daughter in law... and I worked in elementary schools for 22 years. Remember that no matter what you tell your children, they emulate and associate with what they see in their parents more than anything they are told to do or that they are. You can tell your kids that they possess many positive traits, which is absolutely true, and important that you tell them, but if you are not using the same adjectives on yourself in their presence they will not hear what you are telling them about themselves.

[@sherilynschneider]

Agree

[@SeatoSky1111]

So true...Modeling is key , crazy how that works, but true.

[@dionline88]

I think you don't give yourself enough credit; your Psychology degree is 'just an undergraduate degree' is a put-down! Girl, you earned that degree, celebrate it and celebrate yourself! This whole video was utilizing what you learned earning that degree. And you did an awesome job at your life, your channel and especially your kids!! Celebrating their failures in that way will help them for the rest of their lives - simply brilliant on your part!! Don't enter me into any giveaways, I don't need anything. What I would appreciate are more videos like this one. You just being you. We all see people trying to be perfect on screen when we all know no one is perfect. Speaking from your heart conveys far more than just words. It's when people's hearts come together. I appreciate you, your talent, your knowledge and your admission to not being perfect. Kudos to Gabi!!!

[@GlamGirlGabi]

Wow, thank you so much for such a thoughtful and heartfelt comment! 🥹Your encouragement means the world to me. It’s amazing to hear that the video resonated with you.I’m so grateful for this little community where we can be real with each other. Life isn’t perfect, and I think that’s what makes it beautiful-sharing those imperfect, raw, and relatable moments. Thank you for appreciating me just as I am. Your support and kindness truly light me up. Sending you all my love!

[@DMoz13]

Yes! I thought the same thing when she said it was, "just an undergraduate degree."

[@elizabethmaday5263]

Your words were so thoughtful, kind and heartfelt. Gabi is a special person with many talents and she is so authentic.

[@HeatherCrowl]

Came for the makeup, stayed for the real talk and love the mom stuff. You’re such an intentional parent and it really inspires me to be a better mom. ❤

[@SharrellKline]

I love watching your videos. In 2025 I will not be watching any sale videos no matter how much I like the influencer. No Sephora, Ulta, Amazon or Black Friday sales. No "ND's new eye palette release" or other releases. I have to stop buying stuff and use what I have across the board. With that said, I want to see videos on "shop my stash", "declutter what you don't love and use, or what doesn't work great every time", "quick makeup when you don't feel great", "refreshing your makeup later in the day", "party makeup that doesn't look like you're trying too hard", "how to correct mistakes like when eye shadow or liner goes wrong", "mixing colors when something isn't the perfect color like foundation, blush, or lipstick" 💖

[@aoyhan5757]

All amazing ideas! I also have to stop buying stuff. My collection is huge and very nice. I just need to use everything. It's ok though, it's just going to be hard.

[@jmac4313]

Great ideas.

[@michellehogarth]

I hear you, lots of over consumption these days

[@aimeevandijk1482]

yes yes YES

[@clarissawebb549]

@@SharrellKline agree I have to stop buying stuff too! But I just love it and trying things that come with great reviews to see if they work for me! I think I’ll stop when I find the right mix for me lol. Plus anything buy and then buy somewhere same, give away don’t all works. 😜

[@gilu7992]

You are so right gaby, perfection is never real and very boring. I‘am 55 and learnt in the last years: better you invite someone over in a not so perfect place and have a good time instead of waiting until everything is perfect and maybe it never happens

[@shirleyoickle8307]

My failure this year was my relationship, I was involved with a very shallow toxic man. BUT, I also gained the strength to leave and start a journey of self love and healing. ❤

[@cynthiab9077]

Yea!!!!!!! I’m so proud of you! Please don’t go down the same road again. I see my sister-in-law repeat a pattern of choosing toxic men. Keep your eyes open! ❤❤❤

[@shirleyoickle8307]

@cynthiab9077 ❤️ Thank you

[@GlamGirlGabi]

Wow, that takes so much strength and courage-good for you! ❤ Walking away from a toxic situation is never easy, but choosing yourself and prioritizing self-love is such an incredible step forward. Healing is a journey, but it sounds like you’re on the right path. Sending you so much love and support as you continue to grow and thrive! You’ve got this! 💪✨

[@shirleyoickle8307]

@@GlamGirlGabi Thank you ❤️

[@lindaclements6639]

This sounds like a GIANT win to me. Good on you for advocating for yourself! 🎉

[@ChristinaEaton-qc3og]

Haruharu - my kids are grown but my failures is realizing how I wasn’t the best parent I could be. I still feel it as I feel they struggle to have a relationship with me. My anxiety stands in my way of being the best me. After a toxic marriage it’s made my anxiety so much worse and instead of caring less what people think I’m caring more and I have got to get out of this cycle

[@kristarenee805]

I’ve failed with my workout/healthy lifestyle. So I am trying again, that’s my goal for the end of year and going into the new year. I however accomplished 6 years of sobriety and want to celebrate that with you all!! If I can do that, I can and will get healthy and it’s not about being over weight! It’s about wanting to be as healthy as I can so I can live healthier and be here longer on this earth. ❤❤❤ Thank you for doing this video, I’m inspired and have hope!! Funny how things work out, when your feeling down or overwhelmed. Boom this video pops up and I needed to hear this. Thank you , Gabi!!

[@GlamGirlGabi]

Krista, what an incredible accomplishment to celebrate 6 years of sobriety!!! That is absolutely amazing! You should be really proud of yourself because that is not something easy to do. As for your workout and healthy lifestyle goal - you got this. Next year will be your year! And remember that when you fail for a day, a week or a month, it’s okay because it’s a challenge that’s putting you out of your comfort zone. Just take some time to reflect on why you “failed”, change the situations that led to failure and try again. Perfection is never the goal. Growth is. Sending you a big hug!

[@katy4639]

Congratulations, that is a huge accomplishment!! I understand what you mean about being healthy - it encompasses so much more than one’s weight. I wish you the best of luck in the next year!

[@kristarenee805]

@@GlamGirlGabi Aw thank you!! I really appreciate the compliment. Also those are hard for me lol 😂 so new goal is to take compliments 💓 Great advice too!!! Making mental notes . ❤️❤️

[@cheryltrapp1663]

I have failed at being honest with myself. I am also a perfectionist and a people pleaser. I need to learn that I am enough and I think people will still like me or not! Thank you for this eye opening video.

[@shannonevans6344]

I agree wholeheartedly of removing yourself from toxic people. It really helps with lessening anxiety.

[@karenweinberg5585]

TirTir. I'll be 69 in two weeks, and what I learned about friendship is that sometimes they change, and if they become uncomfortable/negative in your life, then my saying is " I'm weeding my garden ". Keep the good ones in your life. Happy Holidays.

[@PetraEmmy]

Gurl! I am such a people pleaser. But once I hit 50 my mind changed. My worth is more important then trying to make everyone happy

[@niki20072]

The exact same thing happened to me! I've heard from so many women that there is something about turning 50 that changes your outlook.

[@lorimccoy5321]

Perfection an illusion. Its Ego. So let go!! It’s so freeing. My Nonna was such a smart person. As a little girl she saw I struggle with anxiety She told me failing is trying and to succeed at anything you must first try , and what other people think of you is not your business.

[@DebbieK1107]

Great video, Gabi!! I agree with having to let friendships go. I have 2 friends of 20+ years, I continue to try to get together with them for suppers. They never commit to come through. I need to back away and try to move on instead of thinking I can fix this friends separation. My failure is trying to fix relationships that no longer want to exist. It's so hard, because our friendships have always been times of laughter, smiles and tears. Thank you for this video!! Merry Christmas to you and your family!! ❤️🎄❤️🎄

[@mccs5372]

I did that, leaving positive notes in my daughter’s lunch bag. Well she’s a college dropout and works in retail. I’m proud of her she’s supporting herself and learning how to manage money

[@deborah1012]

Gabi, You have always felt like a breath of fresh air. I don’t need a thing but my suggestion is keep doing more of what you have been doing. It’s working. Big hugs! 🤗

[@sairralax8215]

I feel I have failed as a mother of 2 adult children. I love them dearly but our relationship isn’t tight - don’t really know how it went side ways… and as hard as I have tried, once kids reach adulthood, ya lose the ability to re-wind as much as you try. I adore your approach on this channel … how inclusive you are of all age women… you’re much more authentic than you give yourself credit. You have a wonderful gift of making your viewer feel accepted & from there they feel their self worth. ((HUGS)). Your gift to us 😊

[@honestreviewsonly1915]

Wow! How much did I enjoy this video!?! When an influencer incorporates personal info and their vulnerabilities about themselves to their audience, it gives us a better understanding of YOU THE PERSON! I have been so disappointed so many times by women that I thought were friends. I’ve been sad and mad by these people and I find that I am much happier by myself and with my family who always have my back. My husband and our daughters are indeed the loves of my life. You’re a pretty terrific woman and are indeed one my very favorites. ❤️

[@LynnH860]

TRNR skin. This year I failed at being patient with older friends as they enter their 80s and their cognitive skills start to diminish. As someone who turned 61 this year and am feeling the physical effects of aging, I know I need to be more patient with my older friends. I would like to see how to apply makeup for the over 50 in less than 30 minutes. At the beginning of this year, my skin changed from oily, acne prone rosacea (to the point that other than moisturizer, blush and powder, I didn't like to put any products on my face) to dryer skin with stress activated rosacea. My skin care and makeup routine that had been fine forever suddenly stopped working. My pores seemed to become ginormous and deep lines started showing up on my face. Doing research on the internet, I discovered KZbin and that's how I discovered you and your wonderful videos. Over this year, I have purchased so much makeup and skin care and discovered a new love for skin care and makeup. However, my 20 to 25 minute makeup routine now takes an hour. Please help me get back on track with an easier and shorter makeup routine. I find your advice and your spirit so appealing and I love spending time with you, and I love all that you do! Thank you.

[@patriciabochko367]

I’ve had 2 house rabbits, and they each had their own personalities!!! Lots of work and lots of love!!

[@WondersNeverCease]

Just be you, Gabi. Don’t try to compete and compare yourself. God mad you a unique individual. Your charm, sweetness and honesty what drew me to subscribe to you a longtime ago. 💜

[@mechellegoetz747]

I really enjoyed this video. Don't ever be nervous to be your authentic self. None of us are "perfect". Haru haru wonder. Make up trends that you wish would go away, a fashion video, or a travel vlog.

[@kellym.1803]

Oh, my. The universe truly led me to this video today. I have never left a comment on any video before now, but I feel I need to. I think you have underestimated the amount of insight you’ve gained from your education and life experiences, and I am so glad you shared some of this with us here today. I can relate to your comments about perfectionism because that is absolutely one thing I’ve failed at this year, and even though I’ve failed at it year after year I desperately keep trying. The difference is now I see that failure is integral to growth, and I thank you for reinforcing that. I hope you do more of these reflective videos in the next year.

[@Neurodiva75]

Your success comes from your ability to be genuine to be yourself to be vulnerable. This is something that so many people should learn. Many years ago a Canadian company incentivised its employees to report errors, mistakes etc. this became a global phenomenon in business. In business being true to oneself will build trust and will be based on shared values. Thank you ❤

[@eileenmorales3475]

I failed at developing an exercise program and journaling daily. I live alone so these are necessary for my well being. Bravo!!! You were awesome!!

[@lisaremmers4492]

I have failed at meeting my personal weihtloss goal despite really trying and am within 5 pound but realize it is the holidays and I am giving myself Grace and celebrating how far I've come.

[@nicolebenigno8599]

Congratulations, that is a great accomplishment. 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@stephaniecasey8557]

Gabi you are so intelligent and well spoken. Even this 60 year old learned something from a much younger woman! Have a wonderful holiday with your family!

[@loufox4954]

So I’m 32 and a mom of 3 boys. What I failed in this year, is not truly learning how to rest and hang with my sons. I’m always doing something to keep up with the house or catching up with work. My husband is awesome at being present with boys but me I’m always the getting shit done parent. So I tried to step back from it but I failed miserably at it this year. So my goal for the new year is to keep learning how to push things to the side and be present playing with my kids and times we aren’t running around.

[@JeannetteGay-p8v]

I'd venture to say you are a bit of a perfectionist with your home, career, & other areas of your life. Be a perfectionist at keeping appointments with your family & being in the moment. The shit can wait but the growing, changing people can't. Make appointments to be present & watch your families relationships strengthen. My children don't remember this but what I'm about to say is one of my most favorite memories of when my children were 5 years old. I hosted Easter at my house. Everyone left & there was so much cleanup to do! I started cleaning & said SCREW THIS! I went outside with my twins and bounced balls against trees, played catch, ran around in circles and played. It's truly a treasured memory. This is your permission slip to say SCREW THIS! :)

[@deniseyounger6004]

I use to have a quote on my studio wall! There is no failure here! Everything is a learning experience and I think the reason you are successful is your person is honest your light is real and I love that about! Keep smiling❤

[@Montanamountaingal]

FAILURE - one of my failures this year was focusing too much time on my job, and losing focus on more important things that were going on in my family at the time.

[@cynthiab9077]

I give my workplace my time for free frequently and it needs to stop! I just have such a hard time keeping up. I keep trying to make adjustments and I will keep trying!! Good luck to the both of us! ❤

[@natachathoennes6809]

One of my biggest failures this year that I am still learning from is remembering that even when things are not okay, that everything will be okay. To feel it and give myself space to say it to myself versus wanting to hear it from someone else as a sign or something. Another failure that taught me something that means something is my lack of motivation is temporary and things change. 🙏🏼

[@nicole_a_11]

I really enjoyed the realness of this video and the different topics you touched on. This shows you are such a genuine real person which is relatable and refreshing. I alwasy enjoy your content, it's authentic and uplifting.

[@GlamGirlGabi]

Thank you so much for this lovely comment! 🥹💖 It means so much to me that you appreciate the realness and authenticity I try to bring to my content. Knowing it resonates with amazing people like you makes it all so worth it. Thank you for always supporting and uplifting me-it truly means the world!

[@ClaireWexler]

You are AUTHENTIC! That's why after a long day of working w. people that are stressed, crabby, etc, I view one of your videos and get a lift. You are positive, up beat and truly authentic. Keep it up!!!

[@JoniMIller-ee7cv]

So glad you posted this Gabi. I think all of us go through these types of self sabotaging thoughts, especially as women. I went through a very traumatic childhood/teenage years. It took me a long time to create my own power. Relationships are complicated and you can't please everyone. That's just the way it is. Keep going!!!

[@karlieneporter4939]

I have failed more than once this year, accepting my body , being a good mum, and a good partner . Most importantly, I failed at giving up because every day, I have the privilege to age. I never stop trying to be a better version of myself

[@monikachlebowska6269]

Being your authentic self is never a failure. Having imperfect house is not a failure, it is life with all it's struggles, ups and downs. Your chanel is a sucess because you are real and willing to show that. This vid was one of the best you have made. If more people were willing to look inside themselves , the world would be a better place. My suggestion for future vid would be: we all have blushes we don't use, or don't know how to use on our skin tones, "how to layer different colour blushes together to give multidimmentional, rich blush and use those not so perfect purchases" and my preference would be for haru haru wonder.❤

[@janetsantoro9639]

Haru Haru Wonder Thank you for being you, Gabi! I have been a stylist and a vocalist/performer for most of my life, also a mom, a wife, etc and I struggle with the issue of not being enough constantly. I try to avoid other people’s negativity and look in the mirror every morning and tell myself I love you! Prayer also works!

[@lisamcgee1345]

Letting go of trying to control someone else's feelings is so freeing. Walking away from toxic friendships is so hard, but so healthy. I'm so happy you are on this journey, as am I, of taking care of yourself. I would love to hear more of real life problem solving, as well as your beauty tips. I would be happy with any of your giveaways. Keep being you! Lisa

[@nicolematthews5930]

I just have to say that your light shines, even when you don't realize it. Truly. This year I failed to honor my body the way that I should. I have a complicated relationship with my body image and am harsh and critical of my appearance. My goal was to make strides toward not just accepting my body but cherishing all it endures as someone with a chronic terminal illness (Cystic Fibrosis).

[@all_ears_]

Failure... after hearing you talk about feeling worthy, it's that. I'm successful, but believe it's luck. Thank you for reframing that!

[@jlo2474]

I looove when we get to see vulnerable Gabi! In my opinion, it’s endearing to talk about imperfections, insecurities, and everything in between because EVERYONE has them. I failed this year at not being able to come to terms with the age that I am and embrace it. I really dislike getting older, and it’s very hard for me to deal with. But, I love your channel and I look forward to your content every week. You bring a lot of joy to my days, so thank you!❤

[@marilainefontenot8220]

This video had to the best one I've seen on KZbin in forever. Thank you for being you and sharing your feelings and taking us around the house while doing your errands. It was fabulous. Pom Pom is gorgeous. TRNR SKIN I would love to see more videos like this one as it makes us think about our lives, people that are in them, are they toxic or a positive, how can we better ourselves to accept the challenges in our lives. Also, would like to see maybe travel vlogs or a day in the life of Glam Girl Gabi. What about a video on how you chose your content for the video, how you get your sponsors and promotional products. I FAILED in knowing my self worth. I too (after your video today) will put forth more effort in not having to be perfect. Thank you for being YOU!!! Merry Christmas to you and your family.

[@MariLarkin]

TIR TIR!! I will be 64 next month and find it hard to do my face with makeup like I used to in my 50's. Please do more older woman makeup videos. Thanks. I absolutely love and adore you! ❤

[@comosi519]

TIR TIR - I would actually like to see more videos like this one! It's because you're so relatable. Not only are your beauty videos incredibly helpful, but it's also the way you draw your audience in with your vulnerabilities. You're open with us, and it's sweet. So, the beauty tutorials are fun, and it's also nice when you spend time chatting with us like we're hanging out on a Sunday morning.

[@GlamGirlGabi]

This comment just warmed my heart! 🥹💖 Thank you so much for your kind words and feedback-it means everything to me. I’m so glad you enjoy the mix of beauty tutorials and those more personal, cozy chats. I love connecting with you all on that deeper level-it’s like having a little community of friends! 🥰 I’ll definitely keep that in mind for future videos. Sending you a big hug and so much love!

[@user-ko3hj3xh8e]

​Gabi, just wanted you to know that when I'm feeling down, I love to watch your videos with your son when you have him guess what the makeup is used for. It always makes me smile. Your love as a mother shines through and you have everything with your family.

[@Jammin1013]

Hi Gabi. Really loved this video. I was a people pleaser too but the older I got (currently 66) the more I felt it necessary to voice how I felt and not do things I didn't want to do. Of course I always try to be diplomatic and kind when saying no - because that's how I would want to be treated. My parents passed away very close to each other and one of the lessons I learned was that life is to short to be unhappy and you must do what brings you joy. Understand it doesn't bring me to joy to say no to people BUT it gives me a sense of self worth to be true to myself. My failure this year was I stopped exercising due to arthritis problems in most of my joints. However I came to the realization that I had to get MOVING. Now I make it a point to do some walking every day and I actually feel better. I've been on a tear buying makeup since black Fri (and before). I'm struggling with how to organize it all - both skin care (bathroom) and makeup (my vanity - not in the bathroom). What organizational tools do you use? Would love to see a video on that. A merry and joyful Christmas to you and your family!

[@brendashope1558]

Good idea, I need these ideas too.

[@PetraEmmy]

Gabi you are a GOOD SOUL 💟 stop giving ignorant rude people space in your head and heart. Merry Christmas to you and the family

[@sandybrand3230]

Ouffff….that was some video❤️. I must say that I never once questioned your authenticity….you are simply adorable! Failure is a result of trying however big or small, mundane or important. I became a gramma this year and it sent me on a crocheting craze😂😂😂. Plenty of fails there let me tell you🤦🏻‍♀️. But I’ve gotten pretty darn good at it if I do say so myself🤓. As a mom of four adults, I still fail at not letting the younger two “fix” their mistakes……I feel they’re pain so acutely that it pushes me to act when I should stand back…..66 years old and still learning🤷🏻‍♀️. As for video ideas, i love anything to do with mature makeup application….my age should be a clue😂😂. Happiest of holidays to you and your sweet family! ❤️❤️ from a fellow 🇨🇦 in Quebec 🥰

[@sherrylucas3815]

Giveaway aside- I love the mindset that you are embracing. We are all human- none of us are perfect, we are all a little messy, a little chaotic and showing us that side of yourself will draw us in and make us love you even more

[@gailmoody8178]

My biggest failure, although I would call it a disappointment is being too hard on myself when things that I expect will work out or change, do not happen due to some unforeseen circumstances. I do know as women, we expect to be perfect, and we certainly are not. We all have our own differences and experiences, that is what makes each of us unique.

[@Therese479]

When you said..."You are enough", you made me cry. I feel like I am anything but enough. Coming from a Christian world perspective, it compounds the sense of failure because my sense of self worth, should be solid. So where do I fail? Loving myself. Thank-you for your positive, and helpful message today. God bless you and all your people. Merry Christmas!

[@andreacheck1749]

TRNR Skin. Lips from start to finish. Healing dry cracked lips, conditioning them, setting the foundation for color that lasts as well as the rest of the face. Also, I’d love to hear how you and your group of creators keep yourselves “safe” from how overexposed you are to your communities. That’s not a criticism, it is a gift to us, but I’d imagine it could leave you raw. Please keep yourself cyber safe as you move to a mode of showing the public more of your life and family. ❤ My failure for the year was not truly engaging with my Tribe in the way I really wanted to, failing to contribute more to my support system.

[@marybryson1888]

What a fantastic surprise video! I hope more creators do this so we can appreciate your hard work and that you are a regular person, as we all are. I failed spectacularly on a painting Monday and painted over it yesterday

[@maureenturk8578]

You have achieved great success growing your channel - you develop the content - you are the MUA - and your audience loves you. We love your personality, creativity, empathy and humor. Look in the mirror - you are also quite beautiful and offer us tips and methods for making the most of our features. All of these assessments you are making now as you mature are perfectly normal. At 68, I still feel as if I’m a work in progress. Still learning. But please don’t blame yourself when people cut you down. We can’t please everyone nor should we try. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ My favorite videos are makeup tutorials, especially for older women. Take care! I don’t need a giveaway, but it’s very sweet of you to offer these!

[@janethagy8871]

Thank you, Gabi! Whether you're trying to be perfect or not, your authenticity and the love you have for your audience always shines through! Onward!

[@GlamGirlGabi]

Thank you for your kind words. It means so much to me! ❤️

[@erikamaria2875]

Omg Gabi what a lovely video. I can feel the appreciation for your audience and your insights are so on point. It's interesting that I said this to my son today almost with the same words..... That he is enough and must not compare himself with others bc he is perfect the way he is and doing his best he can and being authentic is everything he needs to do because I love him anyways. I appreciate you so much Gabi, I am so happy I found your channel and now let's grow together into our authentic selves even more. Sending you much love from Austria! 🥰🤗

[@lisaswank7316]

I'm 63...I wish I had your learned wisdom when I was younger. Thank goodness I had a mother that was my biggest supporter, but to this day, I struggle with worthiness and insecurities. I was successful in my career despite all my securities because I was so passionate in all I did. Lifetime of consciousness. Finding positivity in everyday life really helps. It's a mindset.

[@danielles7476]

As you get out of your 40s… you tend to not want to be perfect. I met you in Sephora in Austin and you. genuinely seem so special. Self worth is not following the crowd. It’s ok not to be good at everything and to be ok where you are.

[@paulatoussaint9484]

this year I strived to improve my health. Instead I got a leg infection and had to have part of my foot amputated. Im struggling to walk again and become independent in my own apartment again. thank you so much for showing everyone, boldly, that none of us are perfect. Nothing in life is. and its okay I have a struggle ahead of me. Some people are so much worse off. Tir Tir. Thank you for the giveaways

[@MusicLover-sb7mo]

Tir Tir, please! Video idea: L’Oréal has soooo many mascara formulas…..Telescopic, Voluminous, Million Lashes, Lash Paradise, Panorama….and so on. It would be interesting if you tried them all on and explained the different performance on your lashes, pro and con. Pom Pom is so cuuuute! Gabi, I relate to the perfectionist syndrome. Fear of failure drove me professionally. I hated losing more than I loved winning. That attitude proved to be healthy as it pushed me to become a knowledge master in my industry and I loved it. I had a very rewarding career and the ability to retire at 60. That is when I discovered I didn’t need to keep climbing. I learned to stop being so hard on myself, start to accept myself and embrace the joy of fulfillment. Toxic people were thankfully very few, largely work related and we have parted ways. Trust me, real friendships will thrive even more because you will have more time for them ❤. Your attention is no longer divided trying to please the toxic ones. 😊

[@lindahoffman2692]

Gabi, I’ve been following with on your Journey long enough to Know how VERY HARD it was for you to do this Video showing your own VULNERABILITY and IMPERFECTIONS because you’ve shared how HARD you always strive for PERFECTION!! This was SO VALUABLE and I’ll be Listening on REPEAT because I know I’ll get something I missed last time!! THANK YOU, Sweetie!! ❤️💕🌹

[@LinkUpWithLenka]

I applaud your parenting skills. Well done. 👏👏👏 Congratulations on an excellent 2024! May the New Year bring abundant happiness, love, great people, powerful connections, laughter, good health, and much success. ♥

[@JeannetteGay-p8v]

Gabi, you are by far my most favorite creature for your topic & I adore that you want to be more authentic! This video had me in tears for multiple reasons, the first being that you did not say you cut out family members. Keep family at arms length if needed but don't cut the relationship. Friends and others....they should be lifting you up, not difficult. I'm so proud of you for recognizing what changes are needed in your life so you won't be like me who's biggest failure this year has been self forgiveness. I'm trying to forgive myself for not standing up for myself in ways that effected my soul. Somehow, this year, I want to forgive me. Thank you for being beautiful on the inside.

[@whatsnewwithnadine4988]

Also loved your video last week with your husband!

[@LSUCandi]

I failed at appreciating myself and not appreciating my own self-worth. You've encouraged me to focus more on that with this video. Thank you Gabby! You're the best ❤

[@Kimmie546]

I suffer tremendously with anxiety...I know that struggle. I never feel like I am enough, and a lifetime of disappointment has only re-enforced that. I have never been enough, therefore, I am not enough. Miss Gabi, you are enough, you are strong and smart and kind. (You are beautiful but our worth needs to be based on more than our looks, but your beauty is tremendous!) Your kindness shines in your eyes and your soul. I can see it, and I can feel that.

[@jeanniesmith3705]

I will be praying for you❤

[@Kimmie546]

@ I truly appreciate you for that! Prayer can move mountains!!!! xoxo

[@spirituallysafe]

Jesus said “I am the way, the truth and the life; no-one comes to God except through Me (John 14:6). Jesus wants you to to cast all your cares on Him because He cares for you (1 Peter 5:7). Only by repenting of sin and trusting in Jesus to guide your life are you spiritually safe for all eternity. I encourage you to prayerfully read The Holy Bible.

[@Kimmie546]

@@spirituallysafe I am a God Loving Christian woman....thank you though ❤

[@jennymeyer7128]

You are a very wise and extremely kind person! Thank you for this video. I failed at putting myself first. I have two elderly parents with many special needs, a son who has had constant health issues for the past year and a half ( as a result of COVID) and a husband. I’ve learned I MUST take good care of myself, if I’m going to be able to take care of them. ❤😊

[@GlamGirlGabi]

It's so true. If you aren't 100% it's harder to take care of the people in your life that need you.

[@susanschwartz7315]

So very true, I ve felt like that always, it’s almost a fear of success

[@kristarenee805]

Ikr!! Same!!!

[@cat99manchor32]

I am interested in winning TIR TIR. Please show us how you organize your day and accomplish tasks without getting sidetracked. What do you do for exercise… you are tiny and in great shape. Bravo for dumping toxic people that bring you down!!!

[@jen.nightingale]

You are the villain in far far fewer people's story then you are the hero! And that's what you need to focus on. You have so many people who absolutely adore and love you and people like me wouldn't know what we would do if we didn't have you and your channel in our lives. Wishing you all the best for the new year and I hope you have a wonderful holiday season with that beautiful family of yours!❤😊❤😊

[@Donna-vh5ym]

I agree. Well said. 👏

[@GlamGirlGabi]

This comment just filled my heart to the brim-thank you so much! 🥹💖 Your words are such a beautiful reminder of why I do what I do, and it means everything to know I can make even a small difference in someone’s life. You’re right, focusing on the love and positivity is what matters most, and comments like this inspire me to keep showing up as my authentic self. Wishing you the happiest holiday season and an amazing New Year! Thank you for being such a bright light in this community. Sending so much love your way! ❤😊❤✨

[@goldfinch102]

Very interesting thx

[@Swritersinger]

100% Yes😊😊😊❤

[@jen.nightingale]

​@@GlamGirlGabiit's difficult sometimes believe me I know. But you just made me cry and now I know why I follow you. You are a beautiful soul and your light shines through so much brighter than I think you could ever believe or imagine.❤

[@HaydeeSophia]

Hi Gabby ☺️👋 When I watch your videos, you remind me of myself. When I'm feeling lost or feeling beaten down by the world around me, I remind myself that having a caring heart is nothing to be ashamed of. I've been through a lot, but I refuse to let those things change me into something I am not. There are times when I shed tears and fall asleep praying even for those who've done me wrong, and when I done wrong, I make it a mission to do better. You're beautiful inside and out and deserve many blessings. You've worked hard, and don't ever doubt you deserve good things in life. Sending love ❤️

[@JoanM-n7m]

Wow! Anything Tirtir, especially their Vitamin C SERUM. So generous of you. I love your mature skin videos. I'm 72 and need all the help I can get😂

[@clarissawebb549]

I love Tirtir! I just bought all their skincare products

[@michehue]

How I have failed this year-living in hiding, fear and not feeling like a victim. Lots of death, illness, car wrecks have been the norm the last few years. Life is finally starting to flow again but if I’m being honest I’m scared to put myself back out in the world and trust the process and myself. I will say I’m freaking resilient at this point just still very scared to really live. Ty for this forum💗

[@FranNoesse]

TRNR Skin, Video idea: How to figure out which products you need and which brands/formulas will work best for you.

[@Rose21558]

TIR TIR Gbi, thank you! Your honesty, vulnerablility and clarity are an inspiration! Along with your expertise with cosmetics and skin care for our outer beauty, this dimension adds to the overall inner beauty and well being for all of us who follow you. I would love to see more like this, hanging out with your bunny, sitting with coffee and just chatting about life. I am a 67 year old nana with a family overwhelmed by trauma and love your words " where did you fail today?" and "you are enough" Thank you for being such an encouragement!

[@LSUCandi]

DESAVERY. Hi Gabby. How about a video that focuses on what you’ve done to improve your hair after your experience with hair loss/thinning. Thank you for all you do for us! Love you 💖

[@DM-dy9cw]

Desavery! Would love to hear about hand and feet daily treatments?

[@AnnieBarrett-kh1tt]

Oh sweetie, you have me in tears over here. I am like YEAH, I am cheering for you like you’re my kid! I think when we approach our 40’s mentality in life changes. I see you think deeply and therefore feel things deeper than most. I am happy you are finding your way and share your insight with us. I appreciate your transparency and relate with so much of your content. My biggest failure this year is letting my kids and my husband down. I had a traumatic brain injury years ago and it along with other health issues prevents me from a lot of activities and tasks. If I have an appointment outside of our community it will take me a few days to recover usually. My kids are the same age as your kiddos and they are in a lot of extracurriculars . They go to two different schools this year and I am exhausted everyday from the transporting. Thankfully my husband helps and he never misses any activities. I feel guilt and shame everyday simply to have them see me fatigued. I don’t want them to remember childhood and think mom was very ill with all of her issues. I also had to let go of the ‘having everything be perfect.’ The great part about life is that nothing stays the same and change is imminent. I always tell my kids, “It’s not the strongest nor the most intelligent that survive but the one that is most adaptable to change.”

[@desireeohrbeck2282]

OMG! - The thoughts about friendship and that you understand where they are coming from when they hurt you and when you then try and put up boundaries and start crying because you feel empathy for them and know they are hurting. And in that process you are hurting yourself. I'm struggling with that with a friend... Thank you for sharing.

[@reneebertram2365]

Gabi, sometimes especially friends that were good for you at one point t in your life, aren't necessarily good as we grow, change, and evolve. I have let go of a couple friendships that didn't serve me positing longer. It is self-preservation in a way. Good for you!

[@annettehankins3268]

Haruharu Wonder - we all have periods of doubt. This year I had a partial lung removal on January 8 and melanoma surgery on my leg. Then my dear brother died suddenly in July. It’s been a hard year for me. But, I’m getting better, stronger, and more positive. Btw, I put a note in my son’s lunchbox, snack box, book bag, and eventually his car telling him how great he is and how much I loved him. It must have sunk in - he is an IT Robotics specialist in the medical field!! I’m so very proud of him. He is my only child, born when I was 39. He was such a blessing!!!

[@bethanymcdonnell6115]

I love listening to you talk. You have such a nice voice to listen to. And I love your talk about toxic relationships. "You will always be the villain in someone's story." How true! There are some people that will take what you say or do in a negative way no matter how hard you try to be kind. Bring some peace to your life and let go!

[@dmarkey4360]

Oh I love this!!! I sent it to my daughter that is struggling with these same issues. I agree it’s not about being perfect. I am older and that was something I had to learn because when I was younger I was terrible about that and it is freeing. I still am learning to step back and not have to fix everything. I’m a fixer, but I am getting better. ❤️

[@terriep1066]

I adore you, Gabi! And, PomPom is so sweet! My daughter and I had Flemish Giants (sisters, gray), named Gracie & Bella! We just have dogs and kitties, no bunnies right now, but we miss them sometimes. I started my own dog & cat treat company a few years ago, and recently decided to put “more” into the entire business! Yes, we’ve (hubby as well) made many mistakes along the way, but how else are we going to learn? We have learned to talk and talk with others in the industry (or similar situation)… and, why not learn from others’ mistakes as well as our own! You have an amazing attitude and your children will definitely thank you for it later in life…as have mine! 🥰

[@debbiewiseman1]

You are 100 percent right…you don’t need people in your life that just make you feel bad!

[@ExploringCanadaInfo]

You are such a leader in this space Gabi, thank you for being vulnerable. Merry Christmas and wishing you and even more amazing 2025.

[@HannaTK]

Goodness... I really didn't think that someone so beautiful and so successful could have the same issues and struggles like the rest of us! The imposter syndrome, the anxiety, always feeling like I'm not enough - I so understand! I've been brought up to always strive for more and I get what my parents were trying to do, but they pushed so far, I never feel like any of my achievements are good enough. Tough standards in everyday life. But I so love your idea of seeing failure as a motivation rather than a disaster! Wow, I'm so afraid of failure, I'd have never thought like this, but it makes perfect sense!! Thank you so much for sharing, Gabi!! And thank you ever so much for all the amazing videos. You're my 2024 discovery and I've been hooked from the very first time I watched your channel. I hope you continue this amazing mixture of make-up/ beauty, hair and sharing your more personal observations in 2025. It's so good to get your tips on the beauty, but it's equally amazing to get to know you a bit more. Merry Christmas to you and your beautiful family!!!!!! TRNR Skin 😉

[@GlamGirlGabi]

Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I was nervous posting this video but I'm glad I did. I can feel such positivity from everyone in the community here. We do all have similar struggles and I love that we can grow and learn together. Thanks for supporting the channel!

[@GraysonMaddox65]

Wow! I so loved this video. I have loved every video of yours that I have watched, but this one was exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you for being so vulnerable and authentic. I have read many of the comments written and I couldn't agree more with all the positive things others have said about you. YOU ARE INCREDIBLE! A future video I would like to see is one where you help us determine our correct foundation color. I get so confused with trying to figure out if I have warm or cool undertones, so I usually go for the neutral. I've heard that you need to look at your vein color or what color jewelry do you wear....it's all so confusing. I biggest failure this past year, has been to declutter my home. I seem to have a hard time letting go of things. Thank you for all the work you put into your video's and for being a ray of sunshine!

[@sandramuir5964]

Tir Tir Love your videos. I’m 78 years old and have always looked young for my age. Never told anyone how old I was. My mother always said age is just a number and had no problem revealing hers. 14 years ago when breaking up with a toxic (7 year younger) boyfriend I starting going to the gym where I met some women who were so open about their ages that I just started revealing mine. It was freeing and I could be totally me. Today we are all still friends and transparency really does help in making new friendships! Also the wisdom one acquires through the years of course. I also went silver during the pandemic and even though my head is authentic, I still get people always guessing that I’m in my 50s. I am so grateful. I love make up and do learn from you guys online on how to apply it perfectly for my age. Video idea. Older women embracing their age to their full potential. Make up, hair and clothes that are appropriate for our vintage ladies to reach their full potential and make them like what they see in the mirror. BTW Another good book LET THEM by Mel Robbins addresses many of the issues you had in your video today.

[@pamorama]

TIRTIR (I love this brand). And here are some ideas: 1. I'd love a video on how to pack for a long-term trip. It's easy to pack for a weekend but how do you choose skin care and make up if you're going to be gone for 2-3 weeks or even more? 2. I would love to see what's in your pro kit and how you use it. 3. You are so good at explaining things, and you've done videos like this before, but I do love a step-by-step tutorial on how to play good features and play down not so good things. How to cover up dark circles when you're tired, how do minimize the look of aging with make up, how to cover a zit or problem area on your skin, etc. 4. I really enjoyed this one where you talked about what you do with your sons to motivate them, how to turn around and negative experience, and you could even do that within the framework of skin care make up. I think you're hilarious and thoughtful and I just like doing what you have to say so those kind of videos definitely work for me. 4. I always love a good cost saving dupe video where I find options for a little less money for things I love to use. So thanks Gabi for your warm smile and great advice throughout 2024! There may be trolls out there, but don't forget there's way way more of us who think you're awesome! 🤗

[@jen.nightingale]

As I pondered about new videos that you can do in the upcoming New Year, I was thinking about it when I laid in bed last night and since I woke up this morning. Do more videos like you just did. Let us see you in your real element and real life. I know you have so many people posting wonderful comments when you and your son are talking about makeup. It's quite adorable! I think the reason why you have so many followers is because you are a good soul who is so real and down to earth. Let's see more of that side of you Gabi. Love you girl! You know whatever you decide to do your viewers are going to support you with whatever direction you end up going.❤❤❤

[@GlamGirlGabi]

It means so much to hear this! I really appreciate your support. I agree that I need to make more videos where I’m not just in studio but I am out and about and you can see more of my real life and how I navigate everything. I was always worried that no one would care but I am starting to think that people crave connection more then just makeup information.

[@theresataylor9390]

Tir Tir. Videos that take you outside of your comfort zone for makeup, hair and opening up about your biggest highs and lows. Thank you for being you and please don’t ever stop ❤

[@djshawn2013]

Tir Tir. You are amazing !! ❤. I've been in your shoes with friendships. I let them go. You will feel amazing and free !! Never let anyone make you feel any less than what you are. You don't need to prove yourself to anyone. I tried to, and all it did was make me feel worse. You are amazing!! I love all your videos. I started following you because of your knowledge and your personality.