God Told Me to Adopt But I...

When God called Rita to adopt, she thought that meant she was getting married. Because why would the Lord call her to adopt a child without a husband?
In this episode of Worship Is My Weapon, Rita shares the first part of her story about adopting as a single woman and how sometimes we stall the journey because our humanity is wrestling with God about the purpose and direction He has called us to go.
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00:00 Coming up
00:44 Singleness and adoption
04:38 The mystery in the timing of God’s promises
09:33 Obedience, humanity, and pain
10:11 Compassion for the orphan
11:20 Health challenges and a ticking clock
17:01 Life and faith have a cost
18:01 A season of distraction and toxicity ministry
20:15 Romanian orphans and a word from the Lord to adopt
25:04 Starting the adoption process
26:01 Her experience with a baby from Alaska
32:41 Relationships and abandoned friendships
34:45 The challenge of the adoption process
37:04 Heavenly adoption
40:05 There is always a process
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[@vickivibbert269]

I adopted 2 kids as a single woman. I always believed God would bring a husband. I’m now 56 and the kids are 18 and 13. I also now am the executive director of an adoption agency and get to place babies in Christian homes

[@dnm90077]

Wow oh wow! The LORD continue to bless you and guard you for having HIS heart for the orphans!!!

[@elizabethgould994]

Wow! I love that

[@miriamj.5385]

Thank you for your raw honesty around these topics. No one talks about this openly…especially as single childless women we’re invisible in a lot of ways.

[@kcmusings]

Yes, I definitely feel seen here. The church has a way of making me feel like an outcast as a single, childless woman.

[@Heatherstks]

I’m 34, single and have always had a longing to be a mother. Your podcast always resonates deeply with me. Thank you for being a voice to those like me. ♥️

[@LindsayJurieMusic]

( Hi Heather, I would like to get to know you.) Thank you, Rita; your podcast has always brought encouragement and life. Blessings!

[@rudhadias8994]

I am 42, a Christian woman from India, living in India. I was never married and didn't think I would be when I started coming of age. I am subscribed to your channel because you are an inspiration to me in my down days. You have a very big heart, but also a lot of wisdom. Sending hugs from India.

[@aliveinchrist1455]

I have a single friend who adopted twice, both kids with disabilities ❤

[@jilllingenfelter4682]

The Fact that God has called you to adopt a baby before dating/marriage that’s amazing Godly Fearlessness /bravery my congratulations to you@Rita Springer :)

[@user-kf8wb2cq4f]

I agree and Rita is to be respected. I hope her son got Strong Male Role Models and alot of time with them because.. it's Vital. Women CAN'T teach boys how to become Good Men. No criticism..just Truth.

[@Blueyedgal227]

I'm 54 and never married. I pray God provides me a loving husband who I can enjoy the 2nd half of life. I never had kids and can't have them but I'm open to possibilities!

[@cjohn316]

I turn 62 in one month I’ve been divorced for 16 1/2 years and not dated anyone since, I have three children, one of my own and two girls adopted from China in ‘00 and ‘01. I love your music and play guitar and sing! Live in Colorado! ❤😊

[@JoshuaMO33]

I’m 33 been divorced for 4 years/ single with 2 boys. God bless you John. I honor and respect you. Waiting and wanting a wife is difficult.

[@melissairaheta3701]

Your adopted daughter's are your own too!

[@kaylainchrist5339]

This is amazing 😭 I don’t feel led to marry (no desire, never have had one), but my heart is open for whatever the Lord wants. I’ve always had open hands and just said if the Lord wants me to get married and sends me a husband, He’ll also give me the desire. One thing I’ve always had on my heart though is adoption. Ever since I was a young girl, I’ve felt I was going to adopt a little girl. She’s in my heart for some reason. So hearing this is possible is so refreshing. Marriage is beautiful, and if the Lord wants it for me, I’m open. But right now at the age of 30, my heart is still on adoption and not getting married. Whatever happens, praise the Lord!

[@Machenziethemodel]

You’ll be the main person to get married and have kids. It’s like God doesn’t give it to the ones who want it

[@leahh4727]

@@Machenziethemodel I pray for you, I hope you're not bitter towards God because of unmet desires. These are the tests of life Machenzie. I as well have had to lay down marriage on the altar, a sacrifice if need be. He can have it all because HE paid it ALL. I am not my own and I've learned to be satisfied in Christ, YES IT IS HARD at times. I've learned so much the last 8 or so years and I've come a long way, I'm 30 yrs old. I can truly say that if I never get married I am satisfied in Christ, but I've learned to wait upon God and let Him be my delight in life. I know that even if I got married and had children outside of God and by my own will or married the wrong person because I didn't wait on God, much like Sarah trying to bring the promise child and had Ishmael instead. I would be worse off if trying to make these things happen because at the end of the day these are only blessings God can give and His perfect WILL is accomplished in His timing and the person He has for you is in His control, I can not force it to happen nor would I be happy if it wasn't God's choice for me. So I will wait for the promise because I won't delight in anything less, it would just eat me up. HE IS SO WORTHY OF IT ALL. HE DOESN'T WITHHOLD TO TORTURE US, HE WANT'S US TO TRUST HIM.

[@brendaharding8010]

I hope you do it God willing ❤

[@chinasourcing_withpuly]

Oh wow, I wish I didn’t have the desire. You’re blessed to have the desire.

[@oceancameron]

Thank you. I’m a single Mom of two and got here by being obedient. Your story helps me process my own journey with God.

[@mistyhowell4745]

Please keep telling your story…there are layers here…my prayer is God will provide revelation as He did for me. Blessings to you for your obedience, Rita. Thank you ❤

[@taetow7915]

My heart sank when you said people of faith didn't want to sit with you because of the baby... God bless you Rita, I can't imagine how both lonely and overwhelming that season was. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing 🫂🕊

[@RemnantBride49]

Thank you for opening up this convo. I'm 49, also never married. Having my own family is my BIGGEST dream

[@Dan-sb5sf]

I wasn’t married until 35. My husband’s best friend got married last year to a woman who was 43. All our first marriages with no kids. All women were Asian! A pattern I’ve noticed!! :-/

[@applefeliciaonly]

Wow what an amazing journey with God and a reminder to obey and listen. I think we reason too much through things. This really made me pay attention and pray for the sensitivity of the Spirit. *Tears* it just reminds me that God sees us all. Thank you for sharing

[@brendaharding8010]

I am 48. I have been open to adopting. Im single. Im financially ok but do not have my own home. Prayer for the best solution, way forward. House prices in the place where my employment is is massively expensive.

[@WhatsOnYourMind.]

If someone asked me what flower reminds me of Rita's heart, I would have to say a Daylily ❤

[@jessiegonzalez3022]

Hi Mrs. Springer, you have an incredible grace when you speak. I am a single mom to two handsome, young men on the spectrum. I was glued to your story.

[@lyndabarbermusic]

There will always be a cost. He paid a high price. You are so honest and lovely. Thanks for sharing so we can learn and glean. Blessings in it all.

[@refugehouseofprayer3726]

Great God story! I really like hearing your journey of being single and adoption. God is using you to help others in their singleness. You’re a brave woman! God bless you ✝️🙏

[@1nganucheau]

You are so precious showing us the preciousness of the Father.

[@MichelleLaMotte]

I resonate so much with you and your singleness and not being a mother so much. Thank you so much for everything. I learn so much from you. You’re one beautiful, amazing human being. ❤

[@splash883]

💯percent of what you said is true. Sometimes God’s invitations don’t turn out the way we imagine, but in the midst of it…He is there by our side. Like your song, “it’s gonna be worth it.”

[@donitalester2600]

I so enjoyed what you shared in so many ways. I laughed at times because God does call us to do things that we think He would never do. I think the power of your ministry and anointing comes from all that you have gone through. It's the crushing that has made you who you are.🔥 Blessings, Dr. Donita

[@dorinadoce2989]

Hi Rita, sending love from Romania. God is speaking a lot through the podcasts and we are all blessed with your honesty and vulnerability. Thank you for being so faithful and sharing God's works, it is beautiful to look at. A big warm hug for you :)

[@nancystorm]

My husband was diagnosed with brain cancer three months after we adopted 7 year old twins with severe mental/emotional/spiritual problems. He passed 11 months later. Impossible situation. But YHWH is the God of the impossible. He carried me through. The twins are now 20. They are still struggling but God told us to adopt them. He was not taken by surprise. I believe...

[@inspiredmegz58]

Yessss, Thank you Rita for sharing the deeper journey through the tough. My husband & I haven't been able to get pregnant & so we are going through an embryo adoption process & I had some of the most similar thoughts & conversations with my husband, like, "God, what if people who just got pregnant had to go through all of this? cuz man, they have no idea this process & how many hoops & house things that have to be inspected." God has been speaking so much to me about His adoptive heart over me & it's still so fresh but I really desire to get it like you have, to understand Abba Father in a way I can't unless I/we go through this with Him teaching us along the way. As an artist I've always wanted to see Him in everything & be able to declare Him in everything but this one has been the hardest ones so far but your heart & unique journey with the Lord is helping me hear Him better. So thank you.

[@cindylou82kingdom36]

Such a beautiful story! Thank you for sharing. 😊

[@carelvanderwesthuizen5220]

thank you for sharing - the journey and process resonates much - may love’s expression come to its fullness in you

[@kirstynalmeida7761]

Thank you for sharing!! My husband and I are in the adoption process and are in the matching process… it’s a surreal place to be. I thought God would have us buy a house for- we wanted to feel “stable” - but God asked us to adopt first. You are such an encouragement 🤍

[@nadinetchaho2618]

This is so strong. Your heart for God is so Still. My heart breaks for what breaks the Lord’s Thank you for standing with him 🙇‍♀️

[@DanielleFerreira-kt7ix]

Powerful as always!!

[@daniellebrooks4102]

I resonate so much with your story! Thank you for sharing!

[@herfamiller139]

Worship is my weapon!!! I ❤❤❤ this title. Thank you.🙏🏾❤️

[@lilianatoler5031]

Wow, beautiful testimony Such a blessing!!!❤

[@suebrucker8428]

Rita your transparency is so amazing, beyond words. I have been ministered to by your music for decades and have respected you. (Actually got to see you worshipping at a church in Fort Smith, Arkansas over a decade ago). But listening to some of your recent podcasts on singleness and hearing so much of my story of singleness in your story blesses me. And although I haven’t adopted, at age 59 He called me to take legal guardianship of a pre-teen and her teenage sister for two years while their mom went through addiction recovery. I can’t thank you enough for bearing your heart in such a raw and real way. God bless.

[@prayeduppreppedup341]

God bless you Rita! Focus on loving God, your beautiful child and yourself! ❤

[@lavished2lovedance509]

38:59 im crying! This is beyond beautiful. My Lord!! Your testimony is speaking to me

[@888hereandnow]

God Bless you & your son Rita! ❤Thankyou for sharing your heart & for your obedience!Before I was in my mother's womb ,You knew me!

[@Yoshiko05281983]

Thank you SO much❤️

[@user-hi8rg7bl2s]

How encouraging. “Adoption is different”. Powerful how God called you/calls us to hard things and his words of “I have gone to prepare a place for you.” What a beautiful Lord/Father/King/Lover. He is so good !-initiating a love relationship, forgiveness, faithfulness, suffering for us, lavish generous grace,guidance…

[@npn1998]

Beautiful!!

[@tameikalexis]

Thank your for this podcast Mr. Rita

[@rebeccasander7595]

Thank you!! I kinda want to stop there because that is by far the greatest thing I am feeling. And I kinda want to write you an entire letter like a girl would to her best friend or her mom because you have so opened my heart. Rita, we are living in such lonely times and I often don't realize how much it affects even me ("even" because I am truly not alone in many, many ways). I see it now as I am powerfully drawn into this podcast. I never listen to anything like I was tuned in here. Only to live conversations when I am present with someone who has walls down and is being very transparent. I suppose I need more of those conversations, judging from my response here. Thank you so very much for offering me one. I am now subscribed. I want to say only one of the things that would have been in my letter. When you say, "and God said to me...", especially when you are specific about His tone and demeanor, I fall in love with Him again there on the spot. He sounds just like my own heavenly Father when you share your encounters. Yes, I do know there is a fairly obvious reason for that. And maybe it is because we have the same amazing father that you feel to me like a sister though I've only listened to the podcast (and your music, of course). Whatever the picture may be, I am so very, very thankful.

[@paulinestevenson2705]

I love you Rita. You are my inspiration. Love from the North Coast of Ireland ☘️☘️☘️☘️☘️ love to your beautiful sister

[@Justmesarahelizabeth]

This is so beautiful ❤

[@leahh4727]

I love your heart and pure devotion to God, I'm definitely subscribing!

[@nishazana]

I'm 25 years old, and I'm incredibly appreciative of these stories and the wisdom they teach. I appreciate you sharing 🙏🏾.No matter how many years pass, sharing is never simple. I'm thankful that God enables you to share, as it serves as a testament to the reality of life and its challenges, but mostly to the fact that God is always present and He is faithful to His character. 🙌🏾😭❤️ thank you❤

[@ivetakovacova4969]

Thank you for this podcast. You have really helped me. I love your humour btw.

[@katkatsanis]

Love your story! This is my first time visiting your podcast, Ms. Rita, even though I’ve been a life-long believer. ☀️ Gosh, this was the perfect place to land on Good Friday, 2024 - other than a church service, of course! 😌 - because your unique testimonial embodies these truths: 1.) God can actually heal anything (ANYTHING!), if we listen to him and have faith. 2.) God loves to bring life out of situations that - in a worldly sense - were destined for death. 3.) When we do life on God’s terms, not our own terms, then our walk with him is full of pleasant surprises - even when there is pain along the way. Thanks for the affirmation of these truths, based on your lived experiences. May God always bless you, and your child, too!! Please keep sharing your ❤ with us. -A sister in Christ in NYC 🙏🏻✨✌️🤓

[@angelapope]

Wow this is really real! I had a dream that died. Or so I thought. I am now beginning the process of opening a daycare. I’m 55 now and divorced.. it’s never too late with Jesus❤

[@sarakemp3174]

It's almost like your telling my story and I'm just at the beginning. I'm not happy about it AT ALL. Obviously I'll obey but I don't have to like it. I've been a single mom. IT SUCKS. Ok, I'm finished grumbling now. This post was a divine appointment. Happy to see I'm not alone. Subscribing to your page.

[@tmmoe9]

THIS though! I naively thought the longing for a husband/kids would go away, that "the peace of Paul" would be had if singleness was destined. My heart just hurts at the thought that singleness could be a permanent part of my reality... It really, really SUCKS. I have always wanted a husband and a family. I'm almost 38... 💔 The "clock" feels like its just ticking away and I'm terrified that I delayed things by trying to take over for God when I was younger (and a heathen). Similar to Rita, I'm trying to be obedient now while not trying to fall into legalism. I'm still hopeful...just tearful too 😥

[@leahh4727]

@@tmmoe9 I as well have had to lay down marriage on the altar, a sacrifice if need be. He can have it all because HE paid it ALL. I am not my own and I've learned to be satisfied in Christ, YES IT IS HARD at times. I've learned so much the last 8 or so years and I've come a long way, I'm 30 yrs old. I can truly say that if I never get married I am satisfied in Christ, but I've learned to wait upon God and let Him be my delight in life. I know that even if I got married and had children outside of God and by my own will or married the wrong person because I didn't wait on God, much like Sarah trying to bring the promise child and had Ishmael instead. I would be worse off if trying to make these things happen because at the end of the day these are only blessings God can give and His perfect WILL is accomplished in His timing and the person He has for you is in His control, I can not force it to happen nor would I be happy if it wasn't God's choice for me. So I will wait for the promise because I won't delight in anything less, it would just eat me up. HE IS SO WORTHY OF IT ALL. HE DOESN'T WITHHOLD TO TORTURE US, HE WANT'S US TO TRUST HIM.

[@heatherharper8950]

Thank you for sharing. I'm single as well and have always wanted to adopt. Not necessarily a baby, but I'm in the process now for like 3-4 yrs. I know I'm called to adopt. I'm always a wreck too

[@Sharon-ls4bt]

I've been fostering for 20 years. It's something I don't recommend to anyone. It can be painful to the point of death. Adoption is God's plan.

[@brina71902]

As a single foster parent (of teens 😅) I can fully relate to the part about the outlets and fire escape ladder! BECAUSE just like no one is asking a bio parent for these requirements, the same is true for the parents these children go back to!! 😳 That’s a hard truth. There are sooo many things that make me go, if these were my one kiddos, no one would bat an eye to the way I decided to parent. Foster care is a crazy thing to be a part of.

[@libradajenkins48]

Hi Rita. In 2011 we met at New Life in Jacksonville, at a Women's conference.. My name is Librada (Liberty) We spoke at the request of the Lady who was the other speaker that weekend.........................................

[@Shelly-qe5ur]

My second aunt, fostered and adopted children. She never married.

[@user-dr7bx3uo6z]

I don't think it's fair that God would deny someone marriage but ask them to be a single parent.

[@shezleypaul1236]

I think a takeaway from the video is that God hasn’t promised us that things would be fair. In fact, what would be fair is for us to perish because the Word says that the wages of sin is death. Jesus saving us isn’t fair and we don’t deserve it. What He has promised us is that He will never abandon us. He will give us grace for whatever He calls us to. 💜

[@teohproject]

She has the financial means to adopt and raise a child and she has tons of people in her life so why not! Her story is not the norm for single folks who a lot don’t have the resources for it as she does!! So she’s got means go for it!

[@TwoSharpRocksPodcast]

I don't think it is fair Jesus died in my place. When I deserve death.

[@RitaSpringer]

Well, life isn’t fair but I’m not looking for what is fair to me, I am looking to be used and loved by God! That’s the most rewarding! ❤

[@RitaSpringer]

@@teohprojectactually, I had no money. God provided every dime. I lived around no family and had little help! So, we can’t assume things that make excuses for the hard stuff. Sometimes God calls us to hard things we don’t think we have strength in! But he becomes what we need! ❤

[@cindyc]

🤗❤️

[@missminalor]

Do you have a solution for the way we slow God down?

[@jimberry9664]

Godliness with contentment is great gain . But when you can not control yourself and asked to remain single is like cutting paper with a blunt sloppy pair of scissors . ✂️ but contentment pleases our Lord . The finality of His word . Greater is He who is in us . Sharpen the scissors tighten the connection again . Stronger and stronger . To create a stronger 3 cord stand . Hallelujah! Apart from him we can do nothing, strengthened in Him we can do anything. His Exploits, yep there His . Us who know Him can be apart of it .

[@joycepatterson7518]

💜💖💚💛💜💖💚💛

[@mtnborn]

You didn’t finish the stories what happened with the babies?

[@RitaSpringer]

Part two and three coming in the next two weeks

[@debraswinley3018]

I am thinking of fostering age 66 no husband

[@Pacifica74]

You can't cancel out your human experience with scripture. It's just not possible.

[@EricSchumann007]

I sat in church 20 years no wife they dated Jesus never good enough so I had a more worldly girl she died from sickness 15 years ago I would not have kids with out a wife