Good Grief

In this episode we talk about grief. Not just in our only personal experience recently but about grief in general in hoping that it will help one of you through your journey as well. We also wanted to thank each and every one of you who have reached out in condolences to Andrew’s dad, Guy, who recently passed away unexpectedly on December 27th, 2022.
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[@rene6371]

Knowing WHERE he is and WHO he is with changes the impact of the stages of grief. There is an underlying joy that we have as Christians when our loved ones ascend. I hope that with your platform you can share and expand that knowledge so others can see Christ in you. You two are doing a great job. Just take each day as it comes and stay in the word. The word expands and grows in us when we go through these moments. Much love to you both and your family.

[@kasssandrabuck2604]

Losing a parent is the most bizarre mix of feelings ever. Like Andrew said, there has been 20 days that he has been on this planet without a father. I lost my Dad 6 years ago and I so felt that statement. It's a whole different feeling that no one really thinks about until it happens. God bless you and your family ❤️

[@crissiemartin135]

I also had a wonderful godly father. He was apart of my daily life. He has been gone 9 years. I still have times that I miss him so badly that I breakdown and cry. Christmas is especially hard because he loved Christmas. He will always be a part of me. I know that he is with his Lord and Savior. My daughter named her son after my father. I wish my dad could see him. I also had a dream of my father talking to me two days after he died. I think that is Gods comforting Holy Spirit. As a Christian, God provides the comforter.

[@sarahjane1903]

Shawn, I love how you refer to him as dad, and Andrew’s family as yours. It’s really beautiful. These days a lot of people, including myself, don’t see their in-laws as their own family and would never call them them mom & dad. It’s really refreshing to see

[@johannahenderson18]

That is what I really enjoyed too. How Shawn is really part of the family. They are good human beings. Mortal life is brief even though at times it doesn't feel as brief.

[@evamckenna232]

my spouse called my parents mom & dad

[@berniking8805]

I never called my in laws by their first names. Out of respect, I called them mom and dad. And my hubby called my mom and dad that. My daughter-in-law doesn’t. She calls us by our first names. My daughter’s husband calls us mom and dad. So weird.

[@Karatemom68x3]

My husband called my parents mom and dad.. my father passed a few years ago but he always calls my mom, mom!! His parents are no longer with us. My daughter in law called us by our names ( a little uncomfortable) because we loved her like our own . At other times she would call me Momma Lyle which I Loved!!!!

[@TheAshley9697]

My husband calls my parents mom and dad too. He lost his dad when he was 11, so when we met, it wasn’t long and my dad stepped in the role for him. And his mom has made some choices that have kept us at arms reach…sooo my mom kinda helps that role too..

[@jamiecarr8528]

I lost my one and only child, my daughter on Dec 27, 2022. The same day as your dad. They both we to meet our Savior. I cannot understand how people can do life without Jesus. My daughter was disabled and I was her caretaker. She needed care with every aspect of his life. The pain. Is real and raw. And I am in the waves of emotions astheu come and go. No one person is the same and everyone grieves differently. I have peace that I will see her again one day because and through Jesus and I too am his child. In the mean time I have to trust God and have faith in him. For his plans & ways are always greater. In the hurt of not having her here I know that God is Not done with me and looking forward to eventually getting see the full picture of what God is going to do with me. He promised to see us through to a victorious end. God is good and I am so thankful I have many pictures & memories to get me through the next part of my journey. Thank you for sharing your story. I find it helpful when you talk about that person & your journey

[@mantleofelijah]

God bless you. Praying for you on this one year anniversary. Feel held by prayers and by the savior.

[@eskylover65]

I lost my brother at 5, mom at 21 and dad at 24. You are addressing grief in a very healthy way. Everyone’s grief journey is unique and your own🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@margaretlacey8480]

I am in the trenches with you. I lost my 27 yo son almost 3 months ago. Parents should not have to bury their children. Hardest thing I have ever had to deal with and I’m struggling to make sense of it. It helps knowing he is with my mom, his NeNe, in heaven. Love you guys and your family. Praying for continued strength as you all navigate through this change in life.

[@ronpetersen1262]

I am so sorry 😢 Andrew I’m very sorry he was your best friend.

[@rodfrazier8008]

Such a great pod today! Seeing the vulnerability from you, Andrew, and the quiet, supportive love from you, Shawn, was powerful. Being up front and forthright about how your relationship with Jesus has been your North Star was a blessing. Andrew, you will now be able to shepherd Shawn through this process when the time comes for her in ways that you never would have known before. Give yourself permission to grieve as long as you need. We love you as part of our big giant family of God.

[@positivelypietz]

Andrew I lost my dad when I was 29 he was 56. It has been 14 years he’s been gone. I want you to know it never feels “back to normal” it’s just a new normal. The stages of grief come at different times for different people. At the 2 year mark I actually had to take a low dose anti depressant because grief was so overwhelming. I had never need any type of medication. It shook me. All that to say don’t be afraid to process everything you need to and be aware that it’ll come in waves.

[@kvisa82]

I have to add one more note, Shawn is right. For 14 years I've vacillated among all of the stages. My life has rebuilt around the grief. But the grief is still there. There are days when the loss of my dad (even though I'll see him again one day!) Is so profound I have a hard time functioning. Then there's days where I'm so happy he has been enjoying Jesus face to face for these 14 years. The hardest is he never met my children. We hold to the hope that one day they will meet at Jesus' feet. But, Andrew and Shawn, give yourselves grace for however you feel at any given moment. There is no one way through this. Tears of sadness are ok, too. Cling like you've never clung before to Jesus. Study, pray, let your raw emotions out to him in prayer. You are all in my prayers daily. I hope my rambling comes across in all love. ❤️

[@milesclark9217]

Mr. East was a great man and role model for many. Thanks for sharing Andrew.

[@familymade]

MILES!!!

[@Julie-uq7sz]

Andrew, you are so eloquent with your words, and you are both mourning well! What an incredible testimony of the goodness of God in the midst of loss! You will be reunited in heaven one day! The tears and sadness of this life is temporary, but for all who know Jesus, we have the hope of eternity in heaven! Thank you for being light in the darkness! Glory to His name!!!

[@marinevetmom3137]

Shawn, kudos to you for quietly allowing Andrew to just speak uninterrupted about his dad, and sharing your love of family and faith. Andrew, the hurt of losing your dad, as your one friend mentioned, will never go away. You do learn to live through it. You already expressed how his legacy will live through you. His most important example was that of his love for our Living Lord. Hold tight to your relationship with Christ Jesus. Dig into the scriptures so that your own children will have the opportunity to live with their grandpa's love of God through you and Shawn. Missing my dad since 2016.

[@shruggs5279]

I can't tell you how amazing this video is. 1. Seeing how supportive a spouse can be in such difficult times is beautiful. Watching Shawn in the way she loves and respects Andrew shows me what I have been missing. 2. Hearing Andrew work through his grief in such a thoughtful way gives me so much hope. That breakdown he takes on each statement is so emotional and yet perfect in its connection to the Lord. 3. The respect the two of them show for family, whether it be siblings or in-laws, is absolutely breathtaking. Having the ability to love and grieve with everyone in your family is a blessing and I truly enjoyed listening to you two talking about the way you did this. You are a beautiful couple, and God will continue to bless your family.

[@sharontitsworth5845]

I heard a pastor say when his dad died. A quick death is GOD’S kiss upon the soul. It gives me great comfort. My heart was broken when my dad died at 57 like your dad. My mother suffered so long I could really appreciate the quick death upon the soul. Your family will be in my prayers.🙏❤️

[@teresamartin6975]

The "firsts" for me were the hardest. You never stop missing them, but eventually, you start smiling when you remember them.

[@bethskweres1078]

I've been blessed as well with my father until I was 48yr.old. But, 42yr old when I lost my mom. No matter how long or little time we have them you will always miss them. Keep active and say his name often. Know his spirit and presence is always with you. Embrace your feeling, it's a process you need to go threw to feel the pain of your loss. Exercise is my key to keeping me balanced and presence for those in my life on earth. Prayers for all of your family as you continue this new phase of life.

[@juliecarter5809]

You never get over the loss. I lost my husband five years ago. I still am grieving for him. We were high school sweethearts! I miss him ! You just put one foot in front of the other and take them with you, in your heart. I remember how great my husband was. I thank God he sent me my Jack! To me we are still together and I still wear my wedding rings. But he was my first love and last but most of all my soulmate and forever love. I lost my Two Dads also my Father and Stepfather. I miss them . I know we will see our loved ones again. God promises that in his word the Bible. I hold on to the memories and the love that my husband gave to me and our children and grandchildren. He was a wonderful man and loved by many people! God is good. He has been with me for the last few years. I look back and know in my heart. Yes that part was a God thing. Can’t wait to see my loved ones who have passed on. But my husband is the one whom I will most want to see and hug! My heart goes out to you and your family and friends who loved him. Prayers and love always! 🙏❤️🤗🙌🏻

[@lauriebrown9714]

I am very sorry for your loss. The number of deaths “unexpectedly “ or “ suddenly” that has happened in the last year and a half or two is beyond alarming. They all seem to have a commonality. May the American public wise up to what is being inflicted upon us by a company or two who are liability free.

[@markoliver7500]

I lost my Dad in 1995, 28 days later I lost my mom because she grieved herself to death. It was tough to deal with but as a family we got through it with a lot of help from God and family and friends. Grief will come in waves and it will hit you pout of no where , with Gods help and your beautiful family you will be fine , some days you will question that but you will be fine. Prayers for you and your family.

[@sophiamagner1861]

Watching this three weeks after I lost my dad. Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing your thoughts and how you're processing everything. How blessed are we to know that our dads are in heaven with Jesus. That is what has given me peace through this sad time.

[@pamelar5868]

I pray you are also doing ok with Jesus and support in your loss❤

[@erino5206]

I lost my dad unexpectedly in 2021 - this episode was hard but so good to listen to. I have always felt like I wasn’t grieving the right way, but hearing your thoughts and feelings is comforting knowing I am not alone. Andrew, the days will get easier .. you will be able to talk about your dad without tears every time, the sadness will turn to more smiles and laughter. I try to think how lucky I am to have someone like my dad to miss, to have had his love and guidance for the years he was here and to know he lived his life until his last moment. ❤️

[@ljss2850]

What God doesn't protect you from, he will Perfect you through. Sending my prayers

[@taraanderson8850]

My father had dementia for years before he died. Which he is finally not in pain and this happened a year ago on my daughters wedding day. Your words are so true. I think going fast would have been easier than watching your loved one slowly die. It’s so crazy how grief pops up even a year later & tears are flowing hearing your thoughts on this topic. Praying for you that your continue to have peace & comfort ❤

[@hayleyshull4703]

That was such a beautiful podcast. I lost my Dad six years ago now. And you couldn’t have been more right on. Thank you for sharing the love of your father with everyone. You are doing a great job! I know this was a long time ago now but that’s okay. I hope you are in an even better place today with your grief. It really is such a beautifully hard thing to go through. Thank you for reminding me ❤

[@shaedenise407]

My dad died the exact same way, 11 years ago at age 45. I was 24 at the time. Literally would have never imagined in a million years that would be it. 🙏🏽🕊️

[@loribalzer6753]

I lost my Dad 11years ago he was 68 and my mom 5 years ago she was 72. Dad had cancer so expected and My mom was suddenly of a brain aneurism. I found her in the car. I recognize all the things you are saying and living through. Thank you for this. And the stages of grief are on going, Shawn is so right. I still have the dreams and trigger moments. Grief is a journey ❤️❤️. Sending love and prayers🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@soldbypaige6676]

The following is the most profound description of grief, & what to expect moving forward, that I’ve ever read, & I share it with *anyone* who needs to hear it. It’s long, but very worth the read!…. Someone on reddit wrote the following heartfelt plea online: "My friend just died. I don't know what to do." A lot of people responded. Then there's one old guy's incredible comment that stood out from the rest that might just change the way we approach life and death. This is what the old man wrote: "Alright, here goes. I'm old. What that means is that l've survived (so far) and a lot of people I've known and loved did not. I've lost friends, best friends, acquaintances, co-workers, grandparents, parents, relatives, teachers, mentors, students, neighbors, and a host of other folks. I have no children, and I can't imagine the pain it must be to lose a child. But here's my two cents: I wish I could say you get used to people dying. I never did. I don't want to. It tears a hole through me whenever somebody I love dies, no matter the circumstances. But I don't want it to "not matter". I don't want it to be something that just passes. My scars are a testament to the love and the relationship that I had for and with that person. And if the scar is deep, so was the love. So be it. Scars are a testament to life. Scars are a testament that I can love deeply and live deeply and be cut, or even gouged, and that I can heal and continue to live and continue to love. And the scar tissue is stronger than the original flesh ever was. Scars are a testament to life. Scars are only ugly to people who can't see. As for grief, you'll find it comes in waves. When the ship is first wrecked, you're drowning, with wreckage all around you. Everything floating around you reminds you of the beauty and the magnificence of the ship that was, and is no more. And all you can do is float. You find some piece of the wreckage and you hang on for a while. Maybe it's some physical thing. Maybe it's a happy memory or a photograph. Maybe it's a person who is also floating. For a while, all you can do is float. Stay alive. In the beginning, the waves are 100 feet tall and crash over you without mercy. They come 10 seconds apart and don't even give you time to catch vour breath. All you can do is hang on and float. After a while, maybe weeks, maybe months. you'll find the waves are still 100 feet tall, but they come further apart. When they come, they still crash all over you and wipe you out. But in between, you can breathe, you can function. You never know what's going to trigger the grief. It might be a song, a picture, a street intersection, the smell of a cup of coffee. It can be just about anything…and the wave comes crashing. But in between waves, there is life. Somewhere down the line, and it's different for everybody, you find that the waves are only 80 feet tall. Or 50 feet tall. And while they still come, they come further apart. You can see them coming. An anniversary, a birthday, or Christmas, or landing at 0'Hare. You can see it coming, for the most part, and prepare yourself. And when it washes over you, you know that somehow you will, again, come out the other side…Soaking wet, sputtering, still hanging on to some tiny piece of the wreckage, but you’ll come out. Take it from an old guy. The waves never stop coming, and somehow you don't really want them to. But you learn that you’ll survive them. And other waves will come. And you'll survive them too. If you're lucky, you'll have lots of scars from lots of loves. And lots of shipwrecks" ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@brendathoms5588]

The Fathers teachings, passed down from God to your dad to you and now you can share with your wife and children remember always be a blessing and He will honor this. ❤

[@tammielasater6507]

I am so sorry for your loss, it is extremely hard to go through. I lost my Mom in 2012. I miss her so much when Spring flowers bloom but knowing she is in Heaven with the Lord is such a Blessing. God Bless you. You are in my prayers.

[@deniseriegert5877]

Faith is a positive thing and what got me through the death of my Dad 7 years ago. The day my Dad died we were with him when he took his last breath, we had our tears for sure but after his last breath my brother and I stood at the end of his hospital bed and all we could do was smile. Dad was in heaven with his Lord and was in no more pain. Now we are going through my Mom’s illness with congestive heart failure waiting for the Lord to take her home. We don’t know when that will be. We are just thankful for everyday we have with her. She is 87 and has lived a wonderful life. My prayers are with you and your family and know your faith will get you through.

[@annsaldivar550]

I lost my mom suddenly at 71 and everything you are saying is so real to me. You will be going through this for a long while.

[@his27queen]

I lost my dad unexpectedly when I was 11, over 20 years ago now. Grief is definitely a fluid continual process, and I have to continually remind myself of that even all this time later. A few years ago, I read somewhere that over time your grief doesn’t get smaller, but your heart continues to grow around that grief. I’ve felt that so much over the years, and clinging to knowing that he’s with Jesus has pulled me through more times than I can count. I’m so sorry for your loss, and I hope you find comfort in remembering your father. ❤

[@jessicafox5629]

I lost my dad in 1998, in 2028 it will be 30 years, and I still find myself grieving that loss. Anger, depression, resentment that my kids never got to know the most incredible man I was blessed being a part of. It's a real struggle, and I feel like it will be constant. Many blessing on your journey of grief.

[@teresaleiner4200]

Shawn is 100% right. The pain, anger, shock and denial will never go away. You just learn how to live with it. My Mom died at the age of 44 and has been gone 24 years now but I still have all those emotions. Just remember your Dad will alway be with you and watching over you.

[@karenennis6109]

My dad died with a heart attack, easier for my dad, tougher for family. My mom died of cancer and suffered and fought for 4 months. We got to say goodbye, easier on family to say to goodbye while she was alive. My mom has been gone 29 years and my dad 25 years. And I was thinking and reminiscing as you were talking about your experience. I don't think that ever goes away. And crying is a release, doesn't matter who you are. Carry tissues with you for the next couple of months for those times that sneak up on you.

[@debbieinitaly]

Andrew & Shawn, Thank you for being soooooo raw and real. We need folks with your balanced perspective in moving generations forward with technology on platforms like this if we are to be able to reach the world! This platform is exactly that! You both are a LIVING testimony of the faith and courage of ppl like Guy East tilling dry soil where someone else likely planted, watered, fertilized and/or harvested him to be the foundation for your legacy after him. I love that while we all have choices in life no matter our lot- we can CHOOSE TO CHANGE to become a legacy with whatever God has for each of us. We just have to ASK. SEEK. KNOCK ✊ and he will provide a Guy or Andrew or Shawn or Me ☺️ or anyone to pour into. God bless you 2! You touch my heart more than words express.

[@avblank71]

I lost my mom at 16 yrs old almost 17 and she was only 44. Melanoma is not kind. It’s hard. You will struggle at different times and it’s okay. Give yourself grace. Just know he is in a beautiful place with his creator. He is always looking over you all. Hugs to you all during this hard time. Just know to keep moving forward because that is what he would want you to do. LIVE YOUR LIFE ❤🙏🤗

[@lisaflippin6824]

I lost my sweet mom Thanksgiving week 2022. It was quick for her as well! 10 days in ICU on life support. My dad had to make the tough decision to take her off of LS as he knew she was ready to meet Jesus too. She loved the Lord and she loved people, never meeting a stranger. She too left a legacy. 4 children and their spouses and grandchildren are all saved as well and all love Jesus as well, many are in full time ministry.. Before we took her off of LS we celebrated her 90th Bday in the ICU w/her family; grandchildren and even grandchildren w/balloons and banners. Everyone kissed her goodbye knowing that was the last time on this side. My siblings and my dad were by her side and only had to watch her suffer 40 min before she took her last breath and entered the arms of Jesus. A bittersweet moment as we all know Jesus and knew where she was going. Ironically, she loved her praise music so we kept it playing by her bedside on her phone while in the ICU. God in His graciousness the moment she took her last breath… the song “I can only imagine” was playing on her phone 😊 Unlike your Dad, she had reached a ripe ole age and had been saying for months, I’m ready to go home! Yes, I have my hard days and I think about the wonderful ways of my mom and all that she taught me about life! Life is good! We know where our parents are and the greatest gift of all is knowing we will join them on our final journey! Our job now is to continue carrying on their mission: be a blessing to all God brings across our pathway. Thanks for so much for sharing your story! ( I have on occasion asked God to give my mom a message…) Blessings upon both of you and your families!

[@TheMakeDoMorgan]

The best analogy I've found for grief is that grief is a ball in a box. Life is the box, and grief is the ball. In that box is a botton that is pain. At first, the grief ball is huge and takes up all the space in your life, so it is constantly pushing on that pain button. As time passes, the ball gets smaller, so it presses on the pain button less often. As the ball gets smaller and pushes on the pain button less, you can continue life with less pain, but when the ball hits the button, it is just as painful as when it first started. The pain doesn't become less. The grief ball just hits it less often. And some days, that ball feels just as big as ever. But it's nice to know that it won't always feel like that.

[@joannecramberg8632]

I am so sorry for your loss. You have an amazing extended family. I lost two male family friends with the same heart situation. We were told it was one of the strange side effects of the virus injection. I rejoice with you that your father as well as my dear friends are in the presence of the Lord. You both are so precious and I love all that you represent. I will keep you in my prayer.

[@taylorarthur2726]

You earned a new guardian angel! I know Andrew mentioned how great of a dad and leader he was, but that leading doesn’t stop. He’s still looking over you and leading you ❤️

[@ShelleyFayles]

You can't overmemorialize your dad, Andrew! He is more alive then ever in heaven! Keep letting your heart speak of you dad and bless his life! Thank you for sharing! It blessed me! 💞🙏

[@chickscoobydoo1]

The Lord is good and His mercy endures forever!! I lost my mom to cancer 3 years ago. I love your perspectives on all of these things. My favorite memory of the morning of my mom’s passing was her last breath here and the next being with her Savior!!

[@sharongriswold8914]

What is really special is that your Dad is with Jesus now. His faith is sight now! He is at peace and is full of joy!!

[@peggymcdonald3983]

I’m so sorry and praying for you all and your family. I’m praying for you all. I lost my grandma very suddenly in 1994, my freshman year of high school, 15 minutes later we got a call that my great- grandpa on the other side of our family which we were expecting, then the day after my grandmas visitation my boyfriend died in a car accident. To this day I get hit with a memory or something they are missing and I will break into tears. It just serves as a reminder that tomorrow isn’t promised and we should always tell those we love that we love them.

[@karril2663]

This was beautiful. Andrew you do not need to apologize for your emotions. Own them and talk all you want about your dad. Your feelings are your own and no one should judge that. Peace and prayers to you and your family.

[@carolineann5518]

It’s been nearly 7 years since I lost my dad and it still doesn’t seem real. Your dad visiting you in your dream is to let you know he’s ok I totally believe this.

[@debbieinitaly]

Grief is not linear dearest Andrew & Shawn. It ebbs and flows in and out of emotional cycles as life events come and go. Also- God is showing me that since we are made in His image as a 3 in one being, life affects our body, soul & spirit. The soul => our thoughts and feelings which make up our choices and will. 🥰. And- it’s ok to have all emotions. We in 🇺🇸 have morphed all emotions into “bad”. They are JUST emotions God has given us similar to what He likely has for us. Deep thoughts. ❤

[@reneepalkendo4237]

I unexpectedly lost my father when I was 19 and it honestly still feels raw at times 11 years later. He missed my college graduation, my wedding, and the birth of my son. Just when I thought I had found peace in my grieving, we had a baby. Now I am grieving the loss of my child's grandfather, who he will never meet, instead of just the loss of my dad. Grief is for the rest of your life, but it is not just about being sad. There is so much beauty in healing and in love. I don't think grief is love you weren't able to give, but is love you still have but don't know where to put now that they are gone. I hope you are still able to remember that love and find ways to spread it instead of letting it fester in sadness.

[@meet_the_jordans]

Such a beautiful thing to see the way you are experiencing joy in the midst of all of this very raw grief. That, in and of itself, is such a testimony to the love of Jesus. Oh, what a joy it is to know you will both see your dad again one day in the presence of JESUS. Praying for you both.

[@nancymachold8006]

You were blessed to have such a strong God-loving father who clearly gave you the foundation to be rhe loving supportive man you are. God bless.

[@lisao1717]

It has been 2 1/2 years since my dad passed. There are still many times it comes to my brain, oh I should tell or show dad. Then reality slaps me upside the head. Keep holding onto to God and your faith. For my dad it was not expected either. I know when my sister told me he passed I screamed. My husband said he hopes to never hear me do that again. God for sure helped me through it. The fact that my dad was absolutely with God in Heaven, helped so much. Andrew not a cry baby at all. You are totally being intentional with your thoughts and feeling. My dad took every opportunity to witness to others. Keep sharing your thoughts and feelings.

[@beachbum7425]

I’m watching this and feeling so grateful for my husband who stood beside me and comforted me while I ordered my mother’s ventilation to be shut off yesterday morning after she was declared brain dead from an aneurysm. I’m so sorry for your loss Andrew and Shawn. Our angels will make heaven a little sweeter.

[@sarahh6279]

Hearing about Andrew's dream made me cry. I lost a very close friend in a car accident when he was 27 years old. Close to three weeks after I had the most realistic dream I have ever had. I could hear his voice singing, see in extreme clarity the details of his face and in the middle of the dream I started crying cause I knew it wasn't real and that I would wake up at some point. When I did wake up, I had been crying for a while and my pillow was soaked. I remember thinking, and still to this day feel like, this is such a blessing. It was almost like it was the best last memory I could have of him. It was beautiful and I am grateful for it.

[@zaceronandfalcons]

No one ever loses the feeling of grief, it doesn't go away--, people just learn to live with grief.

[@taylorvilla]

I lost my dad about a year ago whos my bestfriend passed at 62. I was in tears this entire episode. This episode meant so much to me because the process is so different for everyone dealing with loss but you opening up about this means so much to so many people. Thank you east fam, stay strong and I’m keeping you guys in my prayers. ❤

[@conniemckenzie7801]

Andrew there's no right or wrong way to mourn. Do what you are moved to do. Thank you, for sharing your most inner thoughts, and feelings, as you process , such an enormous loss. 🙏❤️🙏

[@leekillman802]

Lifting a prayer for the entire East family to have peace and strength during this difficult period.

[@shanoteri476]

Having lost my dad suddenly just 2 years ago.. just feel whatever feelings come that day. It's not a list that you can check off boxes. I'm so sorry for your loss.. sending hugs and prayers to all of you.

[@mariaquiros1982]

God sent 🙌🙏 I lost my dad 02-01-23. I miss him so much. God bless you both and whole family.

[@mnhernandez10]

So sorry for your loss.. my mom has been gone for 13 years. I became a mother and wife without her. I still have moments of instant tears. Grief is a solo process because everyone had their own experiences with that person but stay close with your siblings because they will understand your grief.. But he’s around all of you just in a different way. Talk about him, say hello, he will be right beside you… 🥺🙏🏽 praying for you and your family!

[@kmp6422]

Unexpectedly lost my dad in April of this year (2024) at 61. My parents were married nearly 37 years. He leaves his wife, 3 kids, 2 in-laws he considered his, and 4 grandkids(2 which are mine). This really HIT home.

[@crystalhawkins334]

So sorry about your dad Andrew but like you said God Is Good . And heaven got amazing man he is singing and watching your family and your his amazing bride . Prayers to your wonderful family.

[@sherricarter6303]

I’ve lost both parents within last 4 1/2 years …. My mom passed away 4 years ago and my dad just never recovered …. He took his life back in September …. Both of my parents were believers and loved the Lord passionately… I can say that grief is a difficult process ….I’m the hardest part of it comes months later when reality hits …. Shock last for a while …..longer than you think. Give yourself grace and time to grieve…. It never really stops …. I can say that once a year had passed after my mom’s death, it got better. Knowing they are in heaven is such comfort and peace …. However, you still miss them, can’t just call them or talk to them…praying over you Andrew.

[@pammusick2264]

Beautiful. Thank you. I lost my dad suddenly at 64 many years ago and I’m still cycling grief; as others have said in the phrases you hear, in memories and so much more. Even smell. My dad had a huge old oak desk in his office and I requested it when the day came and received it. But I could never use it despite my efforts. Each time I opened a drawer I smelled his after shave scent. So I sat beside his desk, at my smaller desk for many years. He sat beside every day of my life for many years. May God continue to richly bless you and your family. ❤

[@laurapatterson2396]

Andrew, I am so deeply sorry. I feel your pain because our family went through something very similar. Sending you prayers for God’s complete comfort and peace. Cling to your wonderful memories for they will see you through the years. You will always feel the pain but God will enable you to manage the grief through the years.

[@terri7864]

I'm so sorry Andrew. What a beautiful example he was for all. God is in the center

[@marissajohnson6366]

I lost my mom 6 years ago. My best friend and twin. I’m so thankful to have had the opportunity to witness to her and be there whenever she asked Jesus in her heart. Grief is so difficult and different for everyone. Thank you guys for sharing your story. Praying for y’all’s family.

[@berniking8805]

My moms been gone 2 weeks before 9/11. I remember in my grief, I could hardly absorb that. I miss her every single day. It’s been over 20 years. It never goes away.😢

[@robertarohwer3861]

The strangest things will cause you grief and angst for as long as you need them to be there. I lost my Dad when I was 9.... and my Mom when I was 56. They were and continue to be very different kinds of grief. You are allowed to feel whatever you need to feel to make it from day to day.... don't let anyone force you to think any differently. My sincere condolences to you both and your family. Life isn't always easy... we learn to navigate as best we can. Your path through grief is your own. Thank you for tackling a very difficult situation.

[@maj6190]

I lost my dad 40 years ago and my mother 20 years ago. Your honest, raw grief triggered grief or memory of grief for them. I will never stop missing them.

[@karenperez8879]

Thank you God, for the Blessings of Beautiful People, who share nuggets of Love & Joy, & offers me a Lesson of Life well Lived. At the End he said I have fought a Good Fight, I have Finished my Race, I have kept the Faith. Henceforth there is laid up for me a Crown of Righteousness. We serve a Good, Good, Father.

[@mscaljanart]

Andrew, nothing is coincidence, it's all in God's timing. My sincerest condolences, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.✨🙏💖🙏✨

[@julesmisty]

I'm so sorry that you lost your dad. I lost mine too, but much older. I fact, your dad was a year older than me. I hope my daughter dies not have to bear this kind of grief for a long time. We knew my dad was dying. My mom died in the hour I went out to get her medication. That was a shock I'm not over. You have handled this with grace, dignity and humor. It's all needed. Keep your family close. My deepest condolences. Your dad was a huge part of your world. ❤️

[@kellegaus6457]

This is the most important part and also natural way of grieving. Communication and acknowledgement of how you feel and expressing your emotions. The grief process is a true reflection and you will experience them all, over and over again. The first 5 years are the toughest, the first year is the worst. Keep your communication with each other first and do not feel guilty for how long you grieve.

[@janetvasquez7654]

I know the feeling all too well with loosing a parent and as of today I've lost both of mine. My mom passed the 26th of December 2018 with her battle of dementia. Seeing her deteriorate little by little was the worst thing I had ever had to live through and wouldn't wish that experience on anyone. She was my heart and I have never been the same since. We lost dad the 26th of April 2022 and it was fast. He had a stroke that his body couldn't come back from and then went into cardiac arrest. When people say you will get through the pain, it's not true, but you learn to live with it. I like Andrew wright my feelings down which helped me tremendously. I pray for your family and that God covers you all with his enduring love. 💙

[@mariehernandez8431]

You two are the cutest couple. You discuss the best topics with all the rawness 🙏🏻❤️🌻🍁🍂Love both of you! ❤️

[@christeenhenry6448]

I ve watched this again...Again .again.. Thank You... Shawn...You really gave me a truly more emotions. Still hard.

[@maureens100]

And dear heart Shawn..you are heartbroken also...you will know what to do..he will emotionally lead the way..and you lived Dad also...big love for you..your an angel.

[@Karatemom68x3]

I wanted to say how sorry I am for your loss!! I will say, in losing my father about 6 years ago, I honestly believe it does get better… you never get over it but depending on your beliefs and knowing what your father believed you will get through this way better than those who are not believers. We have the hope of Christ and we know our loved one is in a place we long to be one day, a place better than anything he knew on this earth, which I’m positive was a wonderful life filled with love and joy from and with his family and friends!! Those who are not believers do not have the hope of a beautiful eternity with the Lord!!! It absolutely does get better.. but every now and then things creep up and we do get sad for a moment but then the joy of your fathers love and the memories of great times come back and take away the sadness again!!! Sending much Love to you and your family!!!

[@teresabozovich6368]

Something I learned from loosing my dad, was how to be compassionate towards others that go through this. I think we as a society, don't know how to grieve with others, how to love them well. That shifted for me.

[@barbc.3093]

I Loved what Shawn said about being able to navigate through the stages of grief throughout life. It's so true, because as I sit here listening to your podcast, I'm crying my eyes out. I lost my Dad 23 years ago January 7th. I hate to say I'm still heartbroken, despite knowing he's in Heaven and not in pain anymore, but I still and always will miss my Dad and my best friend 💔 😢 🕊

[@yusq626]

Andrew i love how you had such a great relationship with your dad. I envy that because i never had that. You're so lucky to have the time you had with him and to have the love of a father. I also love your perspective and how you talked through your emotions. I find that you have a deeper way of thinking and i think you got that from your dad. Because it seems like your dad had a lot of depth and was a visionary. Its so amazing to see how when one person emanates so much good, they can impact so many people. Your dad raised you well. We need more men and fathers like this in the world

[@rhondaberry419]

Thank you so much for sharing. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all. As I listened and the tears rolled down my face - I can agree with Shawn- the different stages of grief come and go. I lost my dad in 2010 and things will still pop up and I catch myself crying or angry or confused, etc. Love you all!

[@suemoracing]

Andrew, you are not a cry baby. You only get one Dad in life and imagining your next yrs with out him will always be hard. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. There is no time line. Be gentle with yourself. I am so sorry you are going through this - it is so very hard. So much love to you and your family❤

[@candyarmstrong9147]

Your love for your Dad is very evident. No one really prepares you to lose a parent. I lost my dad in December 2020. He was my hero and I will miss him every day. You were so blessed to have all the wonderful memories of him and to have just spent Christmas with him. May God bless you and continue to heal your grief. Your family is in my prayers daily.

[@CinderShar]

I'm sitting here crying as you tell your journey... Losing my dad 7 years ago was the worst day of my life... I'm still grieving it doesn't get easier... Some days you'll be fine other days is a loss.... Big hugs

[@barbaralemcke4324]

Andrew and Shawn - I am so sorry! Your Dad sounds like he was such an awesome man who loved Jesus!! As you guys said, can you imagine when your Dad saw Jesus!! What a homecoming! Please remember there is no right or wrong way to grieve. Give yourself grace and treasure all the beautiful memories you have. It sounds like your Dad did a wonderful job making memories for his family. God's Blessings!!!

[@jeanniehuskins6218]

My dad died 24 years ago and watching your podcast brought back all that grief again. It never really ends. When you talked about getting angry how other people were just living their lives like nothing happened. I remember going our to a store to pick up something and how mad I got that not everyone was grieving my dad. 24 years later I still remember that so vividly. Things change and get easier I guess but you never get "over" it. A loss like that is too great. I am a Christian as was my dad. I know I will see him again and get that bear hug. I often wonder what people do or how they cope without that hope. I am so sorry for you loss.

[@letashort2325]

I lost my mom in 2015 and my brother in 2019. The phone calls and their voice is what I miss the most. I also can't remove their numbers out of my phone. I am so sorry for your loss, Andrew. I will keep your family in my prayers.

[@emilychant3327]

I’m sorry for your families loss. I have been praying for you all during this time. I read about your dad (and know it doesn’t do justice to knowing your dad) and he seems so amazing. You are your dads living legacy, each and everyone of you.

[@gabriellacallahan2649]

You are so lucky for having such a good Dad!! I read his obituary. You and your siblings are meant to carry on his legacy.

[@emilycaperton1512]

I think losing a parent is one of the hardest things you can go through, especially when it’s premature. I lost my dad very suddenly 6 months ago to a pulmonary embolism; he was only 59. I’m 23 (was 22 at the time), and the thoughts of how he’ll never walk me down the aisle, meet my husband, or be a grandfather to my kids consume me everyday. Everything y’all said in this video is spot on, thank you for this. Praying for y’all and your grief journey

[@waterfall412]

I have such a similar story to yours. The same thoughts consume me, even now 8.5 years later.... Sending strength to you!

[@Karatemom68x3]

You Are not being a cry baby!!!! You love your dad, you valued his advice and opinions and you enjoyed your time and talks with him.. you will cry over not having that in the flesh anymore it makes sense it is the expression of your love!!!!

[@megansax8997]

Yes to all of this!!! Being the "in-law" you just want to help and be there for everyone. I know how it feels, I lost both of my parents in 4 years, my dad in 2018 and my mom in 2021 and then I ended up losing my Father in law not even a year after my mom passed. I was the rock for my husband, sister-in-law and Mother-in-law as well and planned most of his funeral because they could not, I did not want to show my emotions because I knew they needed me but at his wake I lost it when the police department gave their final salute to him and I just could not hold it back. You are never going to get over losing them but it does get easier but you will think of them every day no matter what.

[@yadiramedrano1508]

I'm three years in from losing my mom. Everything you are feeling, I still feel at random moments. However, I can say our faith in Jesus gives us comfort. There is a story in the Bible where King David lost his son, but He still got up and ate because he said his son could not come to him, but he could go to him. Knowing that promise of seeing his love one again someday, is I think God's way of keeping us uplifted and ready to continue our race. Hugs and prayers to you both. God Bless.

[@marlinclaudio2007]

I start watching this 12 minutes ago and I’m crying. The long grief part, food, things make you remember. I remember my dad Almost every day. 2 years have been pass since my dad die sleeping sitting in my living room, watching tv, my kids playing there,me folding laundry like 3 feet’s away from him. I feel blessed it happen that way. Yes it was the hardest thing I ever experienced in my life, but he was in peace.

[@marlinclaudio2007]

Those waves.. I would said is more like days. 1 days I’m good, I remember him but everything is ok. But then 1 day I wake up and is grey. I feel sad, or I feel guilty because I remember that last week I was kind of 😒 with him.

[@marlinclaudio2007]

I Can said my only fix with my grief is cry and talk about him. Just cry even scream if you need. Better if you’re alone.

[@TheCataldos422]

Andrew from a Christian empath clairvoyant... what a blessing that he came to you in your dream as if to say "hey buddy, im good im here im not leaving. But im good!" Such a beautiful cathartic moment

[@sheriturner6118]

Andrew, Shawn and the rest of the family, especially Mom East my condolences to you all. I was moved to tears by this whole podcast.