Good Will Hunting | 'It's Not Your Fault' (HD) - Matt Damon, Robin Williams | MIRAMAX

[@Perelinix2]

For those of you who keep coming back to this clip, it’s not your fault.

[@rafaeld.villanueva1826]

lol

[@mohamedahmane1116]

😫😫

[@Perelinix2]

@@ToxicMrSmith it’s not your fault

[@Perelinix2]

@@DeadmanDave it’s not your fault

[@Perelinix2]

@@DeadmanDave no, it’s not your fault

[@waxbe9747]

“It’s not your fault” “Don’t fuck with me, not you” The dialog is just perfectly worded and hits home every time.

[@Dizzydoodoo]

"not you" always hits hard

[@808sdean]

Dialogue*

[@samuelperdegaton4143]

Counselor help us ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@TonyLovell]

@@samuelperdegaton4143 *Couuunselllouuuuur.

[@markjosephbacho5652]

I don't get this. Care to share some context? I'm only here cuz of Stewie and Brian. 😅

[@mesrobvartavarian2914]

The son without a father finds a father without a son. This film was perfect

[@BipolarBowler]

Well that's some good writing

[@codeman9145]

This is amazing man

[@Latchedlungs]

Absolutely

[@roberthamilton7013]

A masterly description of and incredible film in one sentence. Bravo! Can you help with string theory?

[@mesrobvartavarian2914]

Wordsmiths are seldom numerate…

[@dkoodziej2063]

I'm not even American, I'm Polish. My dad was forced to fight in the Soviet Army, he was a good man that was broken. He tried his best, but his life was so terrible that he became an alcoholic. When I was learning English, by some miracle, this was the first movie I saw. I went to my dad and told him exactly this: "It's not your fault". He broke down, and so did I. I owe a lot to this movie, like many people probably do. I will always love Robin for what he gave me, a poor kid from Poland.

[@jesuscm1398]

That's a beautiful story down there

[@TonyRIKKI]

Robin helped the kid in this movie, what's more amazing is he ended up helping some polish guy and his dad, God bless you Robin.

[@Lifegrownsales]

Wow..amazing story

[@peternicholsonu6090]

So many take on guilt. If we are fortunate to not be so hurt...we should reach out and listen to them. In Australia we greet "how are ya going?". Then we don't wait for an answer. Next time just ask "how are you doing?" Although you can predict what they'll say, don't give up. Invite them to open a little.. you could save a life! Or stop someone beating on their partner. Let them get it off their chest. They will absolutely love respect you for it.

[@ACT0080]

That's powerful! Thanks for sharing. I hope you and your father are doing well.

[@kevinleugan6037]

He cries like someone who has wanted to cry about a lot of things but was just saving up for one big cry.

[@michaelcain721]

That was me with my girlfriend. I never show emotion in front of anyone, never cried, cause other people in the past just didn’t give a shit, so I turned into a rock. Eventually she got me to open up and I just broke down like this. Felt like a massive weight had been lifted off me. The thing with us guys is we think crying shows weakness but believe me it does your body a shitload of good if you let it all out once in a while.

[@joedelsteenindergard2817]

Michael Cain Good to hear that bro, it is such a nice feeling to have someone that you can open up to

[@GordonGarvey]

@@michaelcain721 you don't even know you want to cry about these things good therapists really have to see through your cold exterior and find the place that needs to be yanked out of you. For me it was very unexpected when I had to bring up how my mother reverted back to a childlike state a couple of times in her psychotic breakdown when I was a child. We just unconsciously hide the significance of these events from ourselves but they never go away and control your life insidiously.

[@emiach]

This is exactly what it sounded like when I cried to my mom like 15 years ago, haven’t really cried since, never really cried before that. It all just came out that one time. Felt good.

[@ryeguy2256]

A lot of guys save up their tears for one big blow, trust me I do the same thing will does when I get really upset, and Matt Damon captures this perfectly

[@naomismiths]

I swear if Robin Williams looked at me like that I would break down crying like a child too. He has the most humane, genuine, kind eyes I've seen.

[@kitm141]

Same. He had a good heart, clear eyes and we are worse off without him.

[@putrableeker151]

@Korniljus Popaj sadly the concept of the kingdom of heaven can’t claim him due to the way he went, but he sure did deserve better.

[@putrableeker151]

@Korniljus Popaj it’s tough to say man, but yes. The way they found him heavily suggests that he committed suicide. Suicide is a big nono in religion that pretty much blocks entry to heaven for anyone.

[@putrableeker151]

@Korniljus Popaj heaven is purely a religious concept. I follow up on this by saying that this rule also counts for every major abrahamic religion out there. I have yet to find a religion that rewards good people, who come upon such crossroads and make the choice to end themselves.

[@putrableeker151]

@Korniljus Popaj I’d love for that to be the case, but we can only go with the scriptures if we follow what we see as god. Good people get punished for meeting shitty circumstances in their life. It is what it is and it’s fucked up, but what can you do about it? Just invent a new religion with a new god? It don’t really work like that chief…

[@Sol_Badguy_GG]

Imagine being 24 and writing this masterpiece. Matt Damon will always be my favorite actor.

[@sidp5381]

He’s Jason Bourne

[@miloseviczarko45]

Yes, Matt was 24 and Ben was 22 when they wrote it, but filmed it finally when Matt was 27 and Ben was 25.

[@someperson9999]

Maaatt Daaayyyymmoonnn

[@thetwitterlectual9528]

I would also say a huge well done to Gus Van Sant for interpreting it in such an emotive way. Great directing there.

[@brken_blndie]

He was able to write this masterpiece at 24 , you know why? Because my boy's wicked smaht

[@Shane-un8pe]

The way Will stares at the folder as he recalls all the traumas. Sean realizes he finally has a moment to take down Will's guard, so he puts the folder down, squares up with Will, and plants his feet. He's ready for whatever emotions he's about to force Will to confront.

[@janderson947]

This scene and Antwon Fischer movie get me EVERY TIME 😢

[@branduke5620]

Perfect description

[@derpro8125]

I don't think it's that calculated. I think the character's strong intuition very quickly picked up that Will was putting up a wall, and was blaming himself for breaking up with his girlfriend due to him being mentally ill. Sean saw through it and recognized the pattern as a cry for help, and with Sean himself having established that he was a victim of abuse in his childhood, too, he knew what Will needed to hear in that moment. Of course he also saw through him still putting up a wall and trying to act cool when he told it to him (Will is also not an idiot, so he knew on intellectual level), so he kept going until it really reached Will and his true emotions to that sentiment spilled out.

[@hothotheat3000]

The saddest bit is when he says “don’t fuck with me, NOT YOU”. He likes him so much and the thought of this man laughing at him was too much to bear.

[@asperwolf6003]

Can’t believe I didn’t hear him say it until you mentioned it.

[@danjin2886]

Thats crazy, I always thought he said "I'm not you" instead of "not you"

[@lucygibson7120]

@@danjin2886 that’s equally heartbreaking tho bc he always felt like he had to hide his past, especially from skylar

[@corelltempleraps]

I wouldn’t even say it was Sean’s potentially laughing at him- this was more so Will getting close to Sean and seeing Sean as a father figure, and Will didn’t want to get close to Sean because everyone he gets close to or opens up to- inevitably lets him down. Will deals with people from a distance to protect his heart and emotions. Getting close to Sean and pouring out that emotion was an obvious risk because Will would get attached to Sean, and Sean could just abandon Will like everyone else or his father did. Hence “Not YOU”. He literally felt Sean getting closer to him.

[@nickbelane83]

in my opinion that "not you" is the key line of the whole movie

[@thecrooklynite2129]

This movie shall not be touched or remade for eternity

[@minddrift7152]

Some idiot will try.

[@CaptainCocaine]

They should make a girl version with Leslie Jones and Ariana Grande!

[@weasley2o13]

Not possible. But now that you bring it up, imagine this scene in a play in front of a live audience, it could be a life changing experience.

[@tacobellpublicspaandrespir9942]

@@CaptainCocaine ... No.

[@marcbelo7301]

Disney will try, they remake everything

[@MrFarkasOfficial]

he cries so realistically it´s impossible not to empathize

[@eddygci8]

Harom Farkas it’s cuz someone was squeezing his nuts

[@daywalker3068]

@@eddygci8 Who hurt you?

[@eddygci8]

Daywalker the person squeezing my nutz

[@daywalker3068]

@@eddygci8 the ole ball and chain?

[@eddygci8]

Daywalker yeah ur mom

[@autumnbrees5573]

That little cry before he lets it out is so realistic. Very well done acting

[@GhostDrummer]

“Hey Will...look at me son.” Will most likely never had a man call him ‘son’ like that before. The passion and love in Sean’s voice broke him.

[@HipHopfan_]

Its acting you dumbass

[@daniellepeterson1666]

@@HipHopfan_ ok?

[@cthulhu8650]

@@HipHopfan_ who hurt you?

[@ACIDICcitric]

@@HipHopfan_ it’s not your fault

[@donttouchmytoesbitch2437]

@@HipHopfan_ People can choose to believe it Escapism helps

[@michikomanalang6733]

He cried like a child who’d been kept from crying for a long, long time.

[@AndrewSchlegel]

You learn to cry silently so no one notices

[@nordinreecendo512]

He cried like a man who had always felt forbidden from crying.

[@hasinashraf4423]

@@nordinreecendo512 yes

[@awsedrftgawsedrftg1954]

Sweet relief

[@RevJamesCostello]

Big boys don’t cry.

[@MikeSmith-mp7lf]

Dear Mr. Williams. It's not your fault either. Sincerely, every depressed person you have made laugh. Thank you for pulling so many away from the ledge so many times.

[@moonlitme]

Your comment should have 8 billion likes.

[@MikeSmith-mp7lf]

@@moonlitme thank you. I just wish Mr. Williams had reached out first. He is one of the few who don't show signs prior to suicide that I know of. And if he did reach out for help I hope whoever ignored the cry for help carries it on their conscience forever. Looking back I know that I did to at least 6 friends or family prior to cutting my wrist. I was young and thought it was a guaranteed thing. It wasn't. Very close. But for some reason it just wasn't my time. The hardest thing about surviving is explaining why I have a bad scar across my wrist to my kids. And the looks from strangers as they know what it symbolizes. Still depressed. But I have 2 daughters who wouldnt be here if I had succeeded.

[@tiffb1300]

@mikesmith anyone who has seen the other side of an attempt feels that pain that cant be described with any words. I too remember the final straws and desperate attempts to multiple people that went unheard or unrecognized. For me it was a slice of being glad death didn't take me and another shot to "get it right" but also a deep soul crushing knowing that in my darkest moments I will never belong to anyone who cares enough to stop me and a dash of satisfaction knowing I was right about everything. My pain is 100 percent valid, the world is a truly a fucked up place, and that there really are people in this world that have no one and I mean NO ONE. Hoping life changes my mind but 4 decades of life experience has proven otherwise.

[@MikeSmith-mp7lf]

@@tiffb1300 I fully understand what it feels like to be completely alone. The one thing that I can say is I know neither you or I are. We both know what it's like to go over how in our heads and wishing anyone would just tell us we matter. I may never know you, but I know you better than most and I still care about you. If anything having mental health issues means you're not alone ever. We're out here and sometimes all we have is we're not alone with our struggles.

[@malbert4742]

He may have suffered from depression in his lifetime, but that’s not why he committed suicide. He had Lewy body dementia, a swift neurodegenerative disease I don’t think anyone would want to live through until the end. I’m sorry you’re suffering with depression though, hope you’re doing well.

[@lynsey4224]

I always like the expression on Sean's face during the hug. He looks half sad and half happy that Will is finally letting it all out because he knows he needed to. Great movie.

[@nighttray1489]

Glad someone is pointing out that moment. Great acting and directing

[@lynsey4224]

​@@nighttray1489The best. I sure do miss Robin Williams.

[@siiiiiuu7]

This scene is so important because a lot of people scoff when someone says that their abuse isn't their fault, like "yeah, I know it's not my fault", but then they realize that they've subconsciously been placing the blame on themselves. Sometimes, we have toxic thoughts that we don't even realize are occupying our minds.

[@theunicornbay4286]

It's not your fault, it's mine

[@jasperhalsey8574]

this

[@hauntedbylight]

Exactly. On surface level it’s “yea I know my abusers were shit” but then it sets in that “I was just a kid, I didn’t do anything”. Such a powerful scene

[@BigBri550]

@@hauntedbylight To my mind, it is even more fundamental. Will's inner child had learned to seal up any true feelings. Deeply hurt feelings are probably the most painful, lasting part about surviving abuse. You learn to stop feeling as much as possible just to survive the psychological turmoil and confusion. In this scene, Will finally let those hurt feelings out, and that is why his sobs were that of a little child. So powerfully moving.

[@richiedeans4542]

Well said man.

[@ahsoei9641]

Such a powerful scene......A moment of silence for Robin Williams, one of the greatest actors ever lived.

[@pun9291]

Ahs Oei Moment of peace in the eye of Robin Williams

[@myballshurt5139]

Ahs Oei "nvm I just cried"

[@mikeanderson1994]

Ahs Oei god rest his soul 😢😢😢😢😔😔😔😔

[@vivavaldez87]

His name is Will Hunting... the clue is in the title. What on Earth are you talking about?!

[@adamchewy2284]

Ahs Oei, "such a powerful scene." do u work for the E channel or something ? STFU.

[@LifeGaveMeSourLemons]

Everytime he says "it's not your fault," it feels like he is breaking the walls that Will put up. Hence, why Will has a different reaction everytime he repeats it.

[@timeless_melody11]

nice observation

[@LifeGaveMeSourLemons]

@@timeless_melody11 Thanks.

[@horsejumperoflove]

Thought this too

[@johnnyflorence219]

Everytime his face, great acting.

[@DrMic2112]

Exactly

[@andrewdavis8137]

That hug. That vulnerability. Subdued and contained. For all those years. Released. And in a moment. A comfort. An ending. A closure. Of sorts. A step towards positivity. Towards moving beyond.

[@naomismiths]

They both deserved awards for their acting in this scene. Nothing overdone, no pretense, no exaggeration, just genuine, vulnerable, raw, human emotions.

[@thomasconnearney4849]

Ben affleck and Matt damon wrote this scene themselves and they were just kids robin williams was given one line to say and everything else was improvised by him and that line was “I got to send this to the courts”

[@lonelystoner8594]

U

[@lonelystoner8594]

Y

[@radithan]

@Naomi Walker Jumanji, Mr Williams love dialogue. Search it , watch it and thank me later

[@turtletank4784]

@@thomasconnearney4849 That's not true most of this scene was in the script

[@aggada3115]

The Kids been waiting his entire life for someone to tell him it wasn't his fault.

[@unicornadrian1358]

Nah he’s heard it a million times. He’s been waiting his whole life to hear someone say it and actually mean it. Usually it’s a throwaway line that allows them to dismiss your trauma without engaging.

[@koroborok2719]

Me too

[@BigBri550]

That's why he cried like a little child: I think they had him do that deliberately. They wanted him to produce a cry like it had been stifled, sealed, and welled up inside him by trauma since childhood. Very moving, and a very difficult emotion for Matt Damon to have tapped into.

[@arigoldberger1755]

My thoughts exactly. He just needed permission from someone who cares about him.

[@saneman7177]

He was triggered into emotional catharsis because they’d spent months developing trust

[@thevelointhevale1132]

And there are the millions of kids who never had this moment and had to go it alone ...

[@seal9454]

Which leads to suicide. Life can be really devastating for some people. We could all use a bit of support.

[@thevelointhevale1132]

@@seal9454 Not always, many people self manage and over time are able to realign and distance themselves from the damage.

[@skyguy1988]

im pretty sure that's why i dont want a relationship or anything. but w/e

[@dragoninthewest1]

@@seal9454 can lead to suicide. It also leads to substance abuse to muffle the nightmares.

[@suesmith3744]

Oh yes , God Bless every one of ‘em ..

[@cyprest1114]

After years of my mom blaming me for divorcing my dad, gaslighting me, and now living with PTSD and depression as an adult, I watch this and cry one out. It was never my fault.

[@johnnybowers6679]

I’m so sorry for that everything happened, it was never your fault, and that woman, she’s not your mother, she’s a monster, if I was in your shoes, I would write her out of my life, F*** Her, okay?, I hope you have a great one, and I hope that you’re in peace.

[@veghester3204]

It’s not your fault

[@ermelinda2223]

Never was!! Never will be. I’m so sorry you went through all that shit. It hurts me

[@asresbenayalew3092]

I wish Robin Williams had a therapist as good as himself in this movie in real life.

[@mikemcgrath6150]

He didn't kill himself bc he was mentally weak. He had an incurable brain disease which would leave him in a terrible vegetative state. Know what ur saying before u speak of someone.

[@asresbenayalew3092]

@@mikemcgrath6150 Thanks for the correction. But didn't he also have a serious depression?

[@mikemcgrath6150]

@@asresbenayalew3092 maybe as much as anyone, I dont know, but he ended his life bc of this disease and what was facing him bc of it.

[@niabourdain7921]

Yeah correct because everyone needs their own therapist. The close people that can motivate and be with him. Sometimes we cant really understand ourselves ,only Allah understand us completely. That's why if we have any troubles or any great things in our life, come back to HIM. People keep ignoring this part of me time with your Creator. As a slave to your God, Monolog and talk to HIM. Allah knows u very well. and then , as a human.. you have to talk to another human to express your feelings and to feel accepted by other human. It is what we call as self love. ❤

[@ZipperDeDoDaa]

@Fizza T He still had severe depression, it was the reason he turned to comedy - he wanted to make other people happy so they didn't have to experience what he was experiencing. I don't know if he had depression towards the end of his life but he surely deserved a good therapist if it could have helped him out of it despite how it all ended.

[@huesosdeperro3081]

When Robin Williams said "it's not your fault." I've really felt it, after being abused as teenager this scene speaks volumes to me. Miss you Robin. You were a great human being.

[@jonathanmolina1428]

You only knew him as an actor.

[@hel2727]

@@jonathanmolina1428 and you must know someone personally to feel sad about them not being alive anymore? if that's a rule, where's it written?

[@animeasmey2]

me too, i also experience childhood trauma and i cannot begin to explain how this movie made me cry during this scene for the first time... in that moment this movie was top 3

[@jedsteelwell2354]

Me and my mom both got abused by a piece of shit when I was a kid! We ended up leaving and that guy went on to kill a woman! He's rotting in jail now! It's not your fault indeed.

[@andrewnaugle]

I’m pretty sure that’s why most of us are here. I’m not glad it happened, but glad we’re not alone.

[@AtypicalAdventurer]

Even after being told "It's not your fault" again and again, Will still says "I'm so sorry" while breaking down crying. Absolutely heartwrenching, and reminiscent of real sufferers of abuse.

[@thepower6785]

Nice wrench pun

[@maloperverso8118]

What was Will Sorry about!?

[@RustyShakleford01]

@@maloperverso8118 Everything.

[@godwantsplastic]

@@maloperverso8118abusers usually gaslight their victims. From experience, the physical stuff is easier to deal with than the emotional abuse. Most people see the pics of his bruises and they think that’s the worst part of it, it’s not, it’s not even close.

[@CaptainGuntu]

@@maloperverso8118 He still blames himself for the abuse. That's what many survivors do for a number of reasons.

[@jamesbmull]

The looks on Robin's face when they hug... happiness, relief, just soaking in the moment of his friend making the first big break through. He's counseled veterans, he knows what PTSD and everything looks like and more importantly what it looks like to see someone have a glimmer of hope and healing. It must be very fulfilling and that sly slanted eye smile just conveys his knowledge, experience and satisfaction.

[@ericmichelsen3931]

The zoom on Sean’s Eyes, as he knows he finally got to him. He’s finally made a significant impact on this kid. What a hauntingly beautiful mixture of happiness and sadness

[@davidscher1620]

Very well put.. 👍👍

[@albertoguzman8341]

Thats right. When they hug and we see Sean's joyfull eyes its because he felt so proud and fulfilled with his belief that love and understanding conquers anything and anyone, regardless of how tough and hard anyone thinks they are. He was so happy he helped will and that he proved love is allways the awnser.

[@drakothysnaco]

1k 🤙🏼

[@browningwayne5619]

If that doesn't brind a tear , your not human

[@Real-Name..Maqavoy]

@@browningwayne5619 Biased Opinion..

[@RiversPlaylist]

This is probably my favorite scene of all time. The way Matt Damon physically says no when he says "I know" is just amazing. Everytime he says "I know" he winces and looks away, becuase hes lying. Perfect acting. I tear up every time he puts his hands in face and let's out that first cry, you can hear all the pain finally escaping from the bottle of his mind.

[@thenemophilist308]

zerocool Precisely

[@N12Gautam]

River Rasmussen its just a movie its not real

[@luckystarpiano]

Wow “Pain escaping from the bottle” what a powerful way of putting it

[@AdityaPatil-xp6zm]

Matt Damon was also bullied and abused in his school days that,s why it looks that he acted here naturally

[@angrysealion2259]

@@N12Gautam the movie is portraying something that is very real and happens every day

[@wallymarcel1]

Good luck finding a therapist this good.

[@cheothegeo2742]

wallymarcel1 ‘cause 99% of them are fucking hacks.

[@bigdonut001]

Id pay extra

[@myopinion3229]

I agree

[@tysonmaceachern9673]

the good ones are out there. trust me its the reason why im still alive to this day

[@bramvanleeuwen6898]

@@laxale I understand what you're saying. Find a therapist that has what you are looking for. If you are looking to stop suffering, look for a therapist/coach/counselor that is genuinely happy, because a person can only give away what they have inside. Your current therapist probably pushes you to think about your pain more, but that's not where the solution is. I'd be glad to talk a bit more about this with you if you'd like to. I hope the best for you

[@corbett1970]

I love this scene. Robin, you absolutely deserved the academy award for this. Matt, you are no slouch either.

[@blackout2189]

The brilliance of this writing. Sean not hanging "it's not your fault" on a single beat. To know abuse, know the damage it does, and know that abuse victims have subconsciously put a wall up to that phrase when used in passing. Use it as a pick to chisel the wall away and get to Will. Damon and Affleck knowing this topic enough to know how real this has to be. It's music, how they formed this scene.

[@zenpuppy2627]

Don't forget Robin Willaims giving the most realistic compassionate portrayal of a Therapist

[@michaelyoon9355]

I thought Robin Williams was so perfect as the therapist.

[@kata3492]

"It's not your fault" when I told the first person ever in my entire life, nearly 40 years of not saying anything to anyone about it, was exactly what broke that wall down for me, just as you stated. That person set me free by saying it in a way that I somehow finally "heard" it. That person saved my soul. My life. They opened up a door for me and helped me walk through it. I was finally seen. I was finally heard. I could finally begin to break free. I agree. This was artfully written, and Robin Williams (Sean) played that character in the most brilliant, truthful way.

[@christhefiend]

@SpitsworthThere are a lot of people who do amazing things in their 20s. You know Attack On Titan. The writer, Hajime Isayama, was only 23 when it started serialization.

[@raffaelecafiero3608]

You know, Matt Damon was 16 and he wrote the script , together with his friend ben Affleck (they went to the same school but Affleck was one or two years older). And won an Oscar for best original script, together with many other awards !!! At 16, i was playing soccer with my schoolmates...☹️

[@batmanvsjoker7725]

I like how Will goes from more and more defensive at each “It’s not your fault” to fully embracing Sean at the last one. Why? Because right there his defensive shield just broke. I also like how real the crying sounds. If anyone ever has doubts about Matt Damon as an actor, just show them this clip right here to shut them up.

[@jimthompson8947]

Thanks but I'd already seen Deadpool 2 and eagle-eyed him..or should I say 'eagle-eared' him. Yes, Matt Bourne Will is a helluva actor and human.

[@leeann8411]

the sobs were insanely well done, heart wrenching jfc

[@dhsjakhdsajk]

even as it progresses how his facial expressions change ever so slightly but enough to pick up on, hes a brilliant actor

[@johnpratt8502]

something tells me that wasnt acting and he dealt with something similar in his own life so there was no need to fabricate anything

[@IAmTheRealUsopperGoddamnit]

I just watched this movie, and I got to say that scene felt extremely real.

[@PS-Straya_M8]

Being abused as a child and having survived 3 suicide attempts i came across a psychiatrist who said something similar to me ... it completely changed my thinking and will to live. 13 years later i am happy and my life has completely turned around :)

[@calcala5742]

I'm happy for you brother, god bless you, i was an abused child too, i know how strong you are, god bless 🙏

[@OldSchoolCurt]

Good to hear!! God bless!

[@themoviechef9413]

👌

[@Davido50]

God bless ya bro be good to others even when they dont seem to appreciate.

[@caponekingpinking9917]

Yes

[@fe0408]

he cries like a child. beautiful and genius acting.

[@music4lifesux]

It's brilliant how the flashback of the drunk dad walking up the stairs could be Will's dad or Sean's dad. In fact in could be anyone's drunken father, the proverbial wife beater, that wounded monster, coming up that dark and dusty staircase.

[@tittfestx3]

Great catch.

[@damson9470]

exactly. it's put together so nicely. the viewer could think it's will's dad cus of the camera panning in on his head during the beginning. but the viewer could also think it's sean's dad cus of the fact that he started the talk about his drunk dad. fucking amazing work by the director. it creates a flair of mystery which makes YOU think about the scene, and not let it just happen.

[@headlong_gypsy]

@@zachhayes9512 The ex-wife that molested your children, the agonizing pain of fighting the uphill battle against a system the remains preferable to women even in spite of their abuse against your own flesh and blood, the realization of your own mother being so dysfunctional while figuring out the abuses you suffered as a child came from those that were supposed to be your protectors... I hear you loud and clear, and I hope in response you understand there is no gender when it comes to abuse.

[@aidenjohn4937]

my dad used to be an alcoholic, he’s been sober for 5 years now. I’m just so lucky that he wasn’t abusive when he drank.

[@moonlitme]

with my dad, it was him walking down the hall...me hiding under the bed.

[@caleblim6890]

Hard to believe Damon and Affleck wrote this scene. Really mature and hard-hitting dialogue.

[@shawncicalese4094]

Kevin Smith DIRECTED

[@der_black_barongaming8158]

@@shawncicalese4094 they wrote it.

[@BlotRorschach]

@@shawncicalese4094 Gus van Sant directed, genius.

[@Ratchet2431]

I was going to tell you that William Goldman helped with the writing but I just found out he denied it in his book.

[@Luminaring]

The premise was someone else's...

[@houria1390]

For each “ it’s not your fault” statement made, a barrier of numbness falls down, until the last one penetrates right through the core of the hidden pain, then explodes in tears. Pain is to be recognized, felt and processed in order to heal and move on.

[@mrshadrack8554]

Hey guys we got a new Socrates here But don’t worry It’s not your fault

[@edmmitch]

That sounds very sophisticated yet very condescending too

[@houria1390]

@@mrshadrack8554 has it occurred to you that I may have experienced a similar pain?

[@houria1390]

@@edmmitch neither was intended.

[@DeathnoteBB]

@@edmmitch Not really

[@andreacarroll3851]

I am a victim of emotional abuse. I was led to believe for so long that it was my fault. This scene always comes to mind to reassure me.

[@schweenieboy]

It's Not Your Fault

[@Psychedelic430]

How did this happen though? How can someone make you believe its your fault? In my mind this is no sense im sorry i dont understand. Is it because lack of self esteem?

[@CiderHead]

Hope you find peace❤

[@abidmadeit]

@@Psychedelic430it's easy to believe and get convinced of someone who you look up to as a hero, especially when you are young and don't know better

[@Psychedelic430]

@@abidmadeit i guess it depends on the person. I never took anybody words that serious , i just didnt care at all. High levels of EQ play a huge role on this matter too.

[@Lahgic]

This clip applies to much more than just parental abuse. Being bullied, rejected, led on, forgotten, ghosted, excluded. It’s not your fault. This world is broken and full of broken people who sometimes take it out on you. Even if you in no way deserve it. Keep your head high and push forward. You are worthy and not forgotten.

[@stonecold5373]

This world is not broken. It may seem like that. Give some hope.

[@kingmajin]

i can't believe that about myself. it's always my fault because i must be doing something i don't know i'm doing because WHY do i keep getting kicked when i'm down by life and everyone? why do people i trust end up pointing guns at me and robbing me? it must be my fault. only way it makes sense to me

[@mattg4836]

That's because those people don't realize it's not their fault.

[@salmonandsoup]

@@kingmajin The only person you're in control of is you. THEY decide to hurt you and you grew up into a system that rewards dishonesty and cruelty-you are not at fault there. The only thing you can do is take care of yourself and try your best to move through life with grace.

[@2jcward]

This comment needs to be pinned!!! Abuse can come from a lot of people within a lifetime and it hurts just the same. 😕

[@michaelmoncur7678]

Hearing him cry is the most real Hollywood acting I’ve ever seen. Bar none.

[@N3c777]

The only one that beats this cry is Midsommars.

[@PlasmidJunkie]

You should watch First Blood

[@justandardprocedure]

@@PlasmidJunkie agreed. Stallone gets a bum rap. He was amazing in first blood.

[@rakuencallisto]

@@PlasmidJunkie that fucking scene DESTROYS ME. the guy who is Rambo's superior was in WW2 and had his own issues with dealing with the war afterwards. You can see it in his eyes the pain both of them feel. It's palpable.

[@PlasmidJunkie]

@@rakuencallisto Yeah, it's especially heart wrenching for someone who has ptsd. Incredible scene tho

[@Rekken200]

This moment must be truly special for Matt now, all these years later...

[@andrewpearce7936]

Bruh, come on you can’t be that thick that you didn’t know what they meant.

[@mgiantsxlvi5209]

@@andrewpearce7936 what? Did something happen to Matt?

[@Maudluvv]

@@mgiantsxlvi5209 ... the passing of Robin Williams maybe

[@adamskobe5350]

@@williamjaeger9865 maybe at least remembering it

[@thegreathutt]

@@watchcitydog i‘m not sure if i‘m right but wasn‘t matt damon one of the first guys that tried to seperate himself from that monster weinstein?

[@lelemsays]

I was watching this movie on my cellphone while doing the dishes and by the second time he said "it's not your fault" it got my full attention and I started crying, this was so strong 💔 RIP Robin Williams

[@chessenthusiast]

Those were the tears of a lifetime, the sobs of a little boy desperate for the love of a father. Will found Sean. Beautiful.

[@snisbet721]

Funny Thing Is My Name Happens To Be Sean Too

[@dahlia3796]

"You don't know about real loss, 'cause it only occurs when you've loved something more than you've loved yourself" -Robin Williams

[@AbrahamLincoln4]

r.i.p Robin Williams

[@Jaydogg222]

Well actually more like -Matt Damon & Ben Affleck but close enough I guess...

[@KaseyJefferson-i7y]

Wow

[@xxCelticFC]

I think what really broke Will down after being repeated “it’s not your fault” so many times was when Sean the psychiatrist understood him fully and hugged him and for the first time ever Will felt like a kid with a father and felt the pure love he had missed his whole life. The love he’s been wanting since as a child.

[@dawnferrer5385]

dude. you made me cry harder. why would you day that?

[@dawnferrer5385]

dude. you made me cry harder. why would you day that?

[@xxCelticFC]

@@dawnferrer5385 I’m sorryyyy

[@TrollHunterxXx]

Word

[@declangill5138]

@@dawnferrer5385 it's not tour fault

[@valentinodipaolo2011]

I just cried watching this. I recently had to move back into my dads house due to me losing my job in circumstances that I couldn't control and I remember now why I wanted to move out of this place so badly the constant verbal abuse and him being drunk every night I tried to do a nice thing because I had the day free and clean the whole house and as soon as he came home I was called lazy and a failure. I repeat those types of sayings my dad say to me to myself every night while I try to sleep and I often stay up for hours resenting myself. I just wanted some sort of adult figure in my life to come help me out and support me. My mother wouldn't come to my birthday but would come to my sisters ones and often spent more time to them growing up. This part of the movie just depicts what I want in life so badly, just some sort of love from somebody some sort of support I give up.

[@auhsojpay777]

Hey bro, you ain't alone in this ❤

[@donniecatalano]

You are definitely not alone, and I can tell you I know now you feel because of personal, direct experience in this department.

[@jampubharadwaj9374]

When you smile, it's fake. When you cry, it's true. Sometimes, crying wholeheartedly is good for one's mental wellbeing. It offers a resolution, a new start if you say. If you resent yourself for whatever your past is, I have been through counseling and had the fortune of meeting a good one. It helped me where I had not stepped into it for years of having some stubborn pride, that I can overcome on my own, but couldn't. Add to that factor, that the ones who would become villains in my story were also my heroes. So, I was reluctant to speak. Today, I can talk about this as an objective truth and understood my role in it was part of a chain that I had to break. I am brave by choice today, for every single decision I make. Every single time, I beat a sucidial thought, is because I want to live. Know that even a thought of a suicide comes from the inherent instinct of wanting to cherish your own life and something in your life is preventing from cherishing that. You can break your chains as well. I am not saying counselling is the option, but it's one. Having genuine and accountable people around you can also slowly change. People who really care to listen every "dragging" (no offense, as I tend to be dragging myself) detail you might tell. Just know that some fights are meant to be fought as a species rather than an individual. So, taking help from others is not a weakness. There are many ways. I found this route. And, to find yours, and the resources you need, I wish you the best.

[@johnnybowers6679]

I’m so sorry, man, it’s not your fault, your father and your mother, they are never your parents, I’m sorry for everything that happened, if I was in your shoes, I would definitely write them out of my life, and I would never see or talk to them again, f*** them and if you were my son, I would love you dearly than the one who calls himself a father, I’ll keep you in my thoughts, never forget that, okay?, love you my friend.

[@theuncookedpie2423]

Don't give up. Please, don't give up. That's exactly what they want. Don't give them the satisfaction.

[@thaddiusglunt2424]

The saddest part about this scene is knowing that this sort of shit actually happens to kids all over the world: kids being starved, intentionally burned with boiling water, locked in unlit closets for hours on end, hit with closed fists, molested, and sometimes even mutilated... there is no limit for human cruelty, even against those who deserve it the least.

[@MNAHN-T.GOF-NN]

Not to mention the many, many forms of psychological abuse and neglect that leave no obvious wounds or scars but are still just as detrimental to your well-being.

[@thaddiusglunt2424]

@@MNAHN-T.GOF-NN Indeed.

[@SightForMemories]

Remember to allow yourselves to get angry, oftentimes people who are dealing with tyrannical fathers tend to shy away from anger and "negative" emotions. Because they feel when they are young, that they want to not be like "that".

[@ayodari_style]

Nobody more cruel than those that abuse children, the elderly, and animals.

[@greggerred5949]

And yet for as far human cruelty can get, there’s no limit for human kindness. In my opinion there could be more human kindness the cruelty if we all could help and give people a chance.

[@Metin__01__]

what a scene, great script and acting, deserved oscar

[@TheBarber5550]

Metin Karademir I think this movie got an Oscar for Best screenplay.

[@RascalFascal]

it`s not their fault.

[@s.g.7572]

Also, Robin Williams got an Oscar. And thank fuck for that.

[@smokeylonesome4328]

+Gio Lingad- Lost Highway or Boogie Nights deserves best picture that year. But why do I care? Why am I typing this? Why to I get out of bed in the morning?

[@donnya.oryankingdonny230]

Titanic beat Good Will Hunting to the punch.

[@colleenboniface2525]

The best acting scene I have EVER seen! Outstanding performances from Robin Williams and Matt Damon!!!

[@donaldbrown2206]

Totally agree

[@KingGhidorah5464]

600th like, deserves 600 more.

[@meanyomama]

made me tear up just watched it for the first time today

[@Chief_Bill]

@@meanyomama samee

[@ShinzoX90]

Lmao you seen like this and only this? Wow if this is the best youve seen lol

[@alpacachino3647]

What really sells this for me is the fact that both Williams and Damon manage to convey the akwardsness or clumsiness that is often there when you take a risk and dare to breach relationel borders we all put up to get closer to another human. Look at Williams when he first decides to tell that "all of that shit" in his journal is not his fault. He's not over confident and super smooth. He's nervous. He knows that he is takikg a chance here, and it's all conveyed with a sublime sublety in his voice and eyes. Meanwhile, Damon is doing an excellent job playing the boy who's still very much using defensive mechanisms to ward off attempts at talking about him. I'm a psychologist and a trained therapist, and this is the most accurate portrayal of situations like this I have ever seen.

[@veghester3204]

You should learn how to spell simple words first before posting this 😂 …

[@mariapena1965]

@@alpacachino3647 Thank you!

[@KennethBishop-hj1kx]

​@@veghester32043:03 3:05 3:05 3:05 3:06

[@KajianTemp]

Damn... T_T

[@jeremydaly8293]

The way he cries man. "Oh god, oh God I'm so sorry" is so goddamn realistic

[@CronoXpono]

I honest to hell think Damon literally let himself go all in on that, the way he apologizes from the deepest parts of himself. That ain’t “just acting”. Goddamn what a scene. RIP Robin, we miss you.

[@rafaellima83]

Rewatching that scene after a recent breakdown and suicide attempt, I am scared how fucking realistic it sounded indeed.

[@juventusventuno9213]

reminded me of the scene in Talented Mr Ripley where he kills his gay lover on the ship.

[@user-xs3og8us3d]

Das ist... da... nein!!!

[@rocsto]

Tony Almonte great comment

[@kevinp665]

“Dont fuck with me, not you” after he pushes him is the saddest part of the moment. He was worried about losing his friend if Robin Willians character didn’t mean what he was saying

[@gfreshski]

I also think it let us into a window to how much that character was fucked with, for a long time, by a lot of people. Maybe in particular those he was closest to or trusted. This likely happened more than we know to the character through the movie we watched. He couldn't bear the thought of this person, who has achieved a level of trust that just about no one has, possibly deceiving, or fucking with him. This scene does a lot in a little bit of time. Well done Matt and Ben. Can't stand Ben's "acting" usually but he has talent as a director, and they both did a hell of a job on this script especially when you consider they wrote it in their early 20's.

[@ebob4177]

My father was a gentle person, and my mother has never been abusive, so it's not easy for me to relate to the trauma of domestic abuse, but man, did I cry like a river. And I savour every drop. Every drop. Emotions can be so beautiful.

[@thurstarca4995]

I envy you

[@frappalina]

I'm so happy for you

[@peterpoli2839]

Everyone has their trauma

[@danielray6689]

Ur probly an introvert u feel every1 elses pain yes can be very nice to be there for every1else but shit when

[@rosehelen1757]

My thrauma it wanst phisical but emotional

[@The-Flassh]

I'm usually an non emotional chap, but this scene made me cry. I loved Robin, as many did, he made me howl with laughter, and in his serious roles he can make you cry. Bloody hell i miss him. RIP you legend! 🙏

[@mariamusilli2771]

This scene makes me cry every single time. It goes beyond the context of his abuse. I remember hearing this for the first time when I was 19 and had just lost my mom to a brutal fight with cancer, and it hit me in just the way it needed to. We blame ourselves for a lot of things, and I think a lot of us are waiting for someone to come around and let us know that it’s not our fault.

[@aarons6935]

Don't attention seek.

[@DIRTY530BMXRACING]

@@aarons6935?

[@ShanBojack]

​@@aarons6935? ur comment makes no sense

[@DomPeriod]

@@aarons6935 Your autism is showing.

[@godwantsplastic]

@@ShanBojackop has never been abused and is belittling victims of abuse by pretending like losing a loved one is on par with psychological and physical abuse. If you’ve never been abused you can’t understand and you shouldn’t pretend like you do for clout. It’s cool that they want to share but a little self deprecation would go a long way.

[@JH-yj7kk]

I can relate to Will here as someone who is in the habit of intellectualizing my emotional pain instead of processing it. They talked about this scene on Cinema Therapy and the host said "You can understand everything there is to know about healing, and still not heal". That hit me like a ton of bricks. The things and people and situations from my youth that scarred me, I know they weren't my fault. Rationally, I know I didn't deserve to be neglected, mistreated, and hurt like I was. But the emotional wound that says "it happened because you deserved it" remains. It's an incredibly difficult disconnect to move past. This scene illustrates that human experience so beautifully and honestly.

[@SirBojo4]

I never heard of it that way.

[@serenaleahy-higgins3]

ive always tried to rationalize my shit. yknow? this is whats happening this is how i can fix it. heres how i feel better. i always got frustrated why my emotions didnt follow logic. id cry randomly for no apparent reason. have no clue why then id cry more because im angry for crying. theres a reason why logic and emotion are seperate. a really annoying reason but either way. i cant purge all emotions that dont follow logic. i find myself in will shoes so many times repeatedly. "its not your fault" "i know." the unsaid part being "i know. ive heard that. im (not) fine" "its not your fault" "you said that i know why are you pushing" "its not your fault" "stop. dont fuck with me cause if i show you emotion your gonna hurt me. i cant lose you cause you hurt me. dont fuck with me" ive been there. i find myself there so often...

[@naku4]

You opened my eyes a bit wider. Thank you sir.

[@dylanmehmedovic5527]

This is one of the best breakdowns of the scene that I've come across, completely accurate imo and perfectly articulated. I'm very sorry that you can relate to Will in regards to intellectualizing. The fact that you have the cognitive ability to intellectualize and the mindfulness to be aware that you struggle with this means that you are FAR ahead of most though. Keep pushing through your struggles brother, you can and WILL break through!

[@z6ppa325]

Thank you for this comment. I’m in high school. Things have gotten a lot better over the past half year or so, and I’ve tried to rationalize everything as much as I could. Something still felt like it was missing or off. I’m still not happy despite knowing I can be and that it’s over, at least for now. This comment really helped me understand that I still have healing to do and that I’m still affected by everything from the past.

[@alexsosna7180]

men don’t feel like they’re allowed to show their emotions so when they (we) cry we cry hard. We got feelings too

[@theiran]

When I cry, everyone in the house can hear me. Loud, gut wrenching sobs. But oh how you feel better after...

[@kilogreens3449]

I do my best not to cry, boi is it ruff not trying to cry

[@ivag.5398]

I wish guys would feel free too cry because it"s important to let it out, there is absolutely nothing wrong with it

[@weasley2o13]

Will you marry me Alex?

[@tylerdaniels9000]

Men don't cry at least not in front of other people, cause then we'll get called a pussy or something. Me personally, I never cry since I was a kid, even when my best friend died in an accident, I just kept thinking that crying over it would change nothing, so I've always been keeping my feelings to myself, I guess just like most other men.. it's just how we are

[@definitelynottommywiseau3037]

We lost the great Robin Williams ten years ago. Forever missed.

[@teresaadmire5697]

Truly one of our greatest losses

[@ChristopherMetzermacher]

hes has a grace to him its like touching an angel i. am very jealous i never met him

[@LordSos91]

so many men need a man like this in their life

[@bmillerdrums]

LordSos91 Amen to that

[@verzeda]

and so many men dont and will commit suicide because of the lack of one.

[@caponekingpinking9917]

Yes

[@testpattern23]

you mean ones that kill themselves? Robin was many things...great comedian...great actor...great help to our soldiers over in the field. What he wasn't good at was showing his own pain and asking for help. He was great at a lot of things, living wasn't one of them and I get it...but he could have used his disease as a speaking platform to raise awareness instead of hanging himself in a closet.

[@tayayub8453]

LordSos91 I'm a woman, but yh, I agree and god, hope if need be, that they find them.

[@4nik8]

Humanity would be saved if we all could hug Robin Williams when our lives got rough

[@meanyapickles]

If given the opportunity, would you? Would most people? Or would they be too afraid, too nervous, too shy? You have people in your life you can hug when your life gets rough. And if you don't have them now, trust that you'll find them. And even better, you can _be_ them. _You_ can be the person someone hugs when their life gets rough. Robin was a brilliant man. Find people you love, people you find just as brilliant, and be each others rough-life hug. That's how humanity is saved.

[@SophieJackson1993]

He needed the hug.

[@janderson947]

Him and Denzel crushed their performances in their movies kzbin.info/www/bejne/hp2ueoyph7uImtUsi=i0fHLkknfcZdwkSz

[@lilwaffles714]

Its saved through jesus Christ just accept him

[@janderson947]

@@lilwaffles714 yep he used people like Robin Willams sometimes God uses people and tragedies to heal others a person who has been through it can help. Pull you out to sometimes it. Takes longer like the woman with the issue of blood took a whole DECADE but her testimony went into the Bible you cannot stop life from happening but u can praise him throughout

[@MrSniperscope]

funny how the smallest of words make the biggest impact

[@Bee-0108]

Peace&Love yeah, I remember I consoled a friend after her sister passed away, I forgot it because it's secomd nature for me do that but she still remembers after 3 or 4 years

[@MSDJHERO]

All words are small if you compare them to the sky

[@MSDJHERO]

What's important is to create meaning. (See my comment above)

[@julianmx13]

I agree, the part when he says “Fuck them, okay?”

[@tylerchapman3013]

There were many steps involved that led up to this scene even being possible. Once Will knew Sean had been abused like him he fully let his guard down. Sean then told him what he needed to hear so that he doesn't waste his potential like he did. Excellent movie i loved this scene

[@tylerbutterfras3421]

Will finally had someone who genuinely cared about him and his feelings. Someone who didn’t just give up on him but reassured over and over again even when Will was harsh. This overall premise of this movie is beautiful. You can be all sorts of things, smart, funny, athletic, beautiful etc. but if you’re not a understanding and empathetic person, what good does everything else bring?

[@thebeginning2595]

This scene is my therapy. If you ended up crying from watching this there's your answer.

[@averen15]

Frrrr

[@aminaj.7032]

Same here

[@VivaLaDnDLogs]

One of the best breakdowns in cinema. No sexy tear, no dramatic posing, Will's sobs are real and full of honest emotions. It's almost childlike in its abandon of any pretense or restraint. These are the tears Will has been holding back his whole life.

[@chrisbuchheit]

This.

[@michikomanalang6733]

I lost it at “sexy tear” but yes!!

[@hothotheat3000]

Yup, you don’t see men onscreen sobbing like that too often.

[@aaprt586]

This scene has some of the best acting in film history

[@ruibento7045]

I still have some of these movies I learned couple of lessons in some of them

[@mauron3402]

Absolutely Yes!!

[@kadenarnett528]

They were acting?

[@ronniestar8762]

I wonder if Matt Damon watches it over & over since Robin died 🥹

[@alexisgilmete9151]

Its not that often that you find a "perfect" movie. The writing, directing, casting, acting, audio, scenes, transitions..... This is one that is just awesome. Robin Williams is (was) a true genius. God bless that man for all he contributed to this world. Gone too soon.

[@3081e]

The reason he's crying is twofold. He never meditated on the words "It's not your fault", and when he pushed the one person who stood by him, that person didn't go anywhere, but instead, he leaned in

[@Lumens1]

I didn’t even realize that part about Will pushing Sean and Sean leaning in. Damn. Thank you for showing me that.

[@mikerivers695]

you mean in his growing up years there's no one able and responsible adult who will guide and understand him in becoming a man

[@customtheatres]

10 times "it's not your fault"...by the 6th time the crying face was forming, 7th time he was losing it, 8th time the breakthrough finally happens, by the 9th time he's burst into tears, by the 10th time he's liberated

[@FRSpartan]

Dhiraj rai fuck off with your religion

[@thisisme2476]

Damn it. Now you got me counting them.

[@geraldburke5147]

Customtheatres it takes time to heal. You have to let it bleed a bit and let it drain but it's a good start. Some people hold on to their pain as if letting let it go, they lose something important something they need. The pain is all they had for so long its a most precious to them, certainly a known quantity and something that they are familiar with and all that they do gives them a kind of Shield around themselves I wear it like a suit of armor to deal with the little disappointments of daily living it allows them to keep people at a distance and protects the wearer from disappointment but it's a burden, a burden 1 grows accustomed to. Sometimes people can't won't let it go of their burdens not just because they don't know how to but because it becomes so much a part of them they don't think that they can live without it. That's why some people eventually get over it and some people never do. It's a very fine film and I'm glad it ended the way it did. The things only get better if people make the choices that lead them there. But those paths are usually the hardest to cross because they require us to confront and then let go of our pain. And as I said some people are unable or unwilling to let go of their pain. If a person believes that they can be stronger than their past if they believe that they deserve peace and cicotte then everybody can have a happy ending like Will Hunting. And if they can't they can't. But it is a very fine film and I miss Robin Williams.

[@macdonaldakanu369]

Damn that was some MAD psychology; did you study psychology, the way you described burden was very interesting

[@MSDJHERO]

And it worked because?... They were not sentences, they were feeling.

[@Kapacs]

If Joker had Robin as his therapist Gotham wouldn't need Batman.

[@Samstar369]

I got a tad confused when you said Robin, Batman’s sidekick one, not Williams

[@fredererpower]

Nah, even without Joker, Gotham will still need him because of Catwoman, Bane, Two-Face, etc

[@latchie8893]

Gotham always needs batman

[@devmiles]

Epic comment!

[@juliaonoszko4662]

oh my god I THOUGHT THE SAME btw Robin and Joaquin are the best actors in the fuckin' world and nothing can ever change my mind.

[@audreyprovo8143]

A teacher of mine introduced me to this movie and it immediately took a place in my heart. Anyone who isn’t sure if they’d like this movie should watch it regardless. It’s heartbreaking and healing at the same time

[@andrewburgemeister6684]

I showed it to my Mum and Dad who absolutely adored Robin and his movies given I had visited Boston last year and had gone to the sites where they filmed the movie (sitting on the park bench in the Public Garden was an amazing experience) and they absolutely loved it!! This is definitely a great movie and I think it’s a great one to watch with your friends, a spouse/SO or your parents etc, you definitely learn a lot of different perspectives on trauma and growing!! ❤

[@CasualObserver9493]

A lot of people miss the more detailed meaning of this scene. Specifically, *why* saying "it's not your fault" is causing Will to be uncomfortable. Will is telling the truth when he says he knows it's not his fault. So why does Sean keep repeating it? Because he's not saying, "it's not your fault," so much as he's saying, "there was nothing you could've done to stop it." Why is *that* important? Because look at the entire movie. Will is *constantly* trying to avoid pain by staying "one step ahead" of a potential bad thing happening to him. He breaks up with Skylar because, according to his own words, what if he goes there and it doesn't work? He refuses to call her back at first because, again in his own words, "she's perfect right now," and he doesn't want to find out she's not perfect (and vice-versa). He refuses to take any of the jobs his professor gives him the opportunity to interview for, making many excuses. He even burns his research right in front of his professor when his professor gets mad at him for it. He decides he wants to stay with his "brothers," thinking he's making the right people happy, only for them to get angry at him because "you know what any of us would give to have what you have?" He even makes a fool of himself in front of many psychiatrists because he's afraid they're gonna dig up his dark past and force him to relive it (but he has to meet with them or go to jail, so he stays "one step ahead," and instead of just outright skipping the meetings, he acts like such an ass that they quit, so he can say, "hey, I met with them. They quit. You can't put that on me"). He's always trying to stay "one step ahead." In other words, he *does* blame himself for all the bad things that happened to him. Specifically, he thinks if he had been smarter, if he had been one step ahead, he could've prevented them. Sean is telling him, and forcing him to internalize, that that thought is false! That *nothing* he could have done would've prevented those thing (or at least, if he prevented *that particular* bad thing, another one would've happened, because it was *never* about *his* mistakes)! Why does this make him cry? Simply put, look back up at everything he did to try to "stay a step ahead." He hurt a lot of people! Not just random people either, but the very people who cared about him, supported him, and believed in him *the most.* Skylar loved him despite all his problems. The professor took a huge chance on him and got him out of jail because he *believed* in him. He even did the unselfish thing and set up meetings with him outside the university (even though he wanted Will to work for him), because he wanted to do what was best for *Will.* He hurt his brothers by not taking advantage of his opportunity, as his success was finally giving them hope (for both themselves and their kids), and his squandering it made them feel trapped all over again. He even hurt Sean by trying to get rid of him at first, like he did all the other therapists (who, even they didn't do anything to deserve it. If anything, they were going out of their way, working pro-bono to help him. Yes, because the professor asked them to, but they still were making a sacrifice for *him,* and he made them regret it by trying to "stay one step ahead"). He did all that, not caring if they got "a little hurt," because he thought it was important to "stay a step ahead" to prevent further pain (for both himself and others). At that moment, he's realizing he hasn't helped *anyone.* All he's done is hurt the people who cared about him the most! That's why he cries. That's why he hugs Sean and says, "Oh my God! I'm so sorry!" He's not only apologizing to Sean. He's apologizing to everyone he's ever hurt. And *that* is why, for the rest of the movie, he's basically going back and trying to mend the bridges he burned. He goes back, commits to an interview, and accepts a position. He decides to go back and make up with Skylar. He makes his brother's "dream" come true (by leaving). He tells Sean all about it and actually fully commits to following his advice (not just picking out the bits and pieces of Sean's advice that he finds interesting. He now fully trusts Sean and is putting himself at risk to follow Sean's advice and make him happy, as a friend). Everyone points out that "everything is coming out at that moment." But I'm not sure people ever fully understood *what* "everything" was, *how* it came out at that moment, and *why* it completely changed his behavior. My hope is that this finally, in detail, explains *exactly* what happened there (in part, because I've seen a number of people try to repeat this without understanding what *really* happened, and fail miserably. And when I say "repeat this," I mean say it to someone in real life)!

[@schachow]

Wow, this just made me question my decision from 7 months ago to quit my 3 year relationship with my then gf. This is really random I get to read your comment. 5min ago I was watching Rick and Morty and looked "Elliot Smith" up and then I ended up here bc I think his music appears in this movie. Then I realized how well this movie tells my own issue and you just summed it up perfectly. I want to thank you for it. Thank you. She meant everything to me and I broke up because it was the best thing to do and it was indeed. She still thinks this way. But your coment made me realize that it might be worth a second try. I is really hard to explain. Just thank you for that explanation of yours.

[@sharonroy2645]

Wow you ah wicked smaht!

[@Jameszhangdude]

Great analysis!

[@Sprite_525]

This was genuinely helpful. I’m glad you took the time to write this so thoroughly.

[@Jameszhangdude]

Make sure to save your piece somewhere. Great write up

[@thesnagglewolf]

This scene makes me cry every time. I miss Robin.

[@MrGillystar]

My Mrs. Doubtfire. Hope he found peace but when i meet him i will kick him in the balls for all the money i spend on tissues.

[@HipHopfan_]

Fuck robin..

[@ConstantinCatalin]

@Wade Smith You are so right.. THAT movie is a masterpiece.. the way Robin plays the "human face" of a robot is magic.. i have that movie and i never get tired to watch it.. over and over again;the end is sad and brilliant.. because of that film i consider Robin a huge actor

[@HULK-HOGAN1]

Bless him

[@suzyqq3443]

@@HipHopfan_ "It's not your fault" 😆😆

[@instantpartyWTF]

I never realized how much this hits home to me just now, crying as I write this. When I was young, my dad was an alcoholic, I never understood why he came home so angry until this scene. I watched him beat my mom so many times, heard it happen. I saw him drag her out by her hair out of a casino, because my mom would hide there and gamble her problems away because my dad was that scary. I even saw him cut her hair off with a pair of scissors. Those are images that will literally never leave me ever. I'm 28 years old now, and my father has passed from cancer, my mother ran away to Hawaii and have rarely talked to her since. I told my mom as I got older that I wish I wasn't abandoned, but she always put her troubles before mine. I grew up without parents. I also grew up with no citizenship to any country, as I was born in South Korea but came to America when I was just 3 years old, wasn't even in South Korea long enough to become naturalized and the irony of my life is that I grew up feeling like an alien to everybody (when quite literally, I was legally an alien to every country). Almost everyone I knew had parents, (obviously) and almost everyone shared memories and love together as a family, I could never once relate to such a feeling, and to all the kids who were like me and didn't have parents, you would imagine I would have gravitated to those people because they are just like me, but those kids were usually super hard to be friends with because everyone dealt with their trauma in their own way, which in my case almost everyone that seemingly had a rough childhood as I did, were mostly gang affiliated or violent. I grew up in a low income, ghetto neighborhood with all kinds of different gang members. I do not wish to explain to you what that feels like when you see families express love every single day of your life only to remind me that I will never once experience that. Coming back to this scene, my father would also wear rings sometimes when he was drunk, I still remember his. His wedding ring was made of 10 different rings given down to him from his family and melted into one, big ass golden ring. I still remember my father adjusting the ring to make sure it acted as a knuckle, and the most early memory I have for when I came to America was this exact one, he adjusted the ring over his middle finger and punched down on the top of my head, I still have a dent there to this day, kinda nice though because over ear headphones fit really snug due to the dent... (the only joke) I have had a subconscious fear of abandonment the entirety of my life and I know why I always try to contact my mother and I know that I still stayed by my dads side because I didn't want to lose them. I grew up starting fights with bullies that picked on kids who couldn't do anything because that was me trying to make up for all the times I did nothing as my mother got beat. I got into so much trouble for things like this and I even got jumped by a group of kids because I tried to help out the kid they were bullying, this last one was only 6 years ago. This trauma does not leave you until you understand it and heal from it, and as I mentioned earlier I never had citizenship, well I finally applied for U.S. Citizenship after being a permanent resident for the time needed to be naturalized. I am 28 years old now and this is the very first year of my life that I can give myself closure through understanding, this is the first year of my life where I begin the healing process. I just want you guys to know that I've been through absolute hell my entire life, I've cried to the point where tears quit coming out of my eyes. I've gotten hit by my dad by literally every single house hold object you can imagine. He was a general contractor by the way, you can only imagine what kinds of things he had laying around the house that he used to hit me. But through all those moments, I never once gave up. I could never stop giving up. There's a small window of time at a very young age when you go through this where you end up being someone who never gives up, or you become defeated that moment and live your life through the echos of your trauma. I took that opportunity and decided to be and stay strong. I'm still alive today, I'm almost a citizen. I still am healing from all this, I still think about it and my dad every single day. I still love my dad, no idea why but I do. But the most important part about all this is the idea of never giving up. Don't ever give up okay? Use me as an excuse. Seriously, if I can make it, you can too. I don't know why I wrote this, it just happened and it needed to be said, something triggered me to do so. I will be okay, just make sure you tell yourself you will be okay too. I have so much compassion for humanity based on these polar experiences that I know many would despise humanity for. But I understand duality now, and I understand our universe is biased towards love, which is the only reason why I chose to stay strong. That is why we must lead with compassion, it's abundant in nature and there's more than enough for everyone. It costs us nothing, and it can make you happy. If you took the time to read this, I love you and I promise that if something ever ails you, don't give up and you will soon find that those moments will end up serving you, in the greatest way possible. You can't give up, I can't give up, we can't give up! EDIT: I've read every comment and wow, moments like these can cure the world.

[@moidqureshi3075]

Much love for you brother

[@9999-z6z]

Very touching story and wish you nothing but the best buddy💪

[@melandy54]

👏👏👏👏👏😘 I from Brazil. Thanks for your words. God bless

[@pamjohnson3504]

Please watch some Dr Jordan Peterson KZbins. Please.

[@rileyrorke5551]

wow. you are so strong brother. i wish nothing but the best for you :)

[@Skttlezz]

the way will sobs and clings to sean he finally lets himself cry everything that he held inside for so long all the self loathing and blame comes out in that cry as he hold sean and it’s so emotional and raw it makes me cry everytime

[@danofsteel785]

When you really think about it, this is who Robin Williams was in person: just a gentle, down to earth, and easygoing man who could really bring out the best in you if he needed to. His comedic talent was second to none, but this is who he truly was. He was the best of both worlds.

[@amazingabby25]

I was lucky enough to meet him once, it was a wonderful moment I’ll never forget

[@jackfanning7952]

The best of both worlds? WTF? Anyone who kills themselves is a basket case.

[@TimedRevolver]

@@jackfanning7952 Depression does shitty things to your brain. Speaking as someone who attempted suicide, there's something nobody seems to get: in that moment, when it's at the darkest point and you're about to make a very permanent decision...it's not a selfish act. Not really. I truly believed I was making the lives of everyone I knew worse, and that my death would somehow make everything better for them. THAT is the real power of depression, and something more people need to understand. Saying "Suicide is a coward's way out." doesn't help. It's a chemical issue in the mind. It rebels against us. Changes things we know as facts into disregarded nonsense. So you can take that basket case comment and fuck right off.

[@TimedRevolver]

@Zia Ur Rehman Malik I've moved past it. Not in a healthy way, though. I live on now to spite the people who want me to die. Pissing on someone's fun is a surprisingly good motivator to not commit suicide. Spite is empowering.

[@Suuulan]

@@amazingabby25 known as the funny guy since the 70's and he gives this performance. Brilliant casting.

[@vitterpup]

It’s the line ‘Look at me son’. The character had probably never heard the word ‘son’ being directed at him with such humility and care. Heart wrenching acting.

[@byronbranch4645]

Same here

[@TILLEYJS]

This scene makes me cry every single time. The line "cause fuck him that's why" is so much my mentality throughout my life. Shield yourself and build up your defensive walls because life circumstances keeps bashing up against you. If you've ever come from a broken home. Just looking for love without strings. Never finding it. The it's not your fault line is so powerful and resonant with people feeling that desperation for a simple and loving connection.

[@louiethorarit-brown498]

I really fucking felt that

[@Widderic]

We're all more alike than we know. Life is tough!

[@karenboromeo5752]

Yes l agree..we all need love.

[@factsdontlie4342]

I always tear up when he says that. I must've said those words 1000 times myself.

[@dxmyr]

Love your analysis

[@andrewburgemeister6684]

Robin was at his absolute best in this film and this scene along with the many others showed how brilliant he was accurately portraying a compassionate and caring psychologist, he brought his beautiful and kind nature into the role of Sean which enhanced the performance and the film even more, along with enhancing Matt’s performance as Will. Even nearly 10 years after his passing he is still dearly missed, the world lost not only his humour but his kindness and meaningful presence and perspectives he had to offer ❤

[@gens8013]

The first time I saw this, I seriously cried like Matt did here, just sobbing out loud. As somebody who endured a lot of traumatizing physical and emotional abuse at the hands of a parent for most of my life, it can still be hard to remember sometimes that it’s not my fault and I didn’t deserve it, even after years of therapy. Peace & Love to all the homies here in the comments who still struggle to remember that we didn’t deserve what happened to us.

[@benjammin5252]

It feels so good to admit they wronged you and owed you to be a better parent. Then let that weight go by forgiving them and making peace with it. I learned forgiveness can only begin, until we realize we’re canceling the debt. So part of forgiveness is admitting how wrong they were to treat you that way.

[@ourselves8640]

Sending love your way. Thank you for being vulnerable here by sharing your story. This is and will always be one of my favorite movies due to the way it touches so many hearts.

[@Sarah-bj1di]

You can hear him crying loudly but you don’t actually see any tears coming out lol

[@ksa4061]

What do to mean by an abuse by a parent? Trying to understand

[@yohanncedric8782]

I never went through this but hearing him cry and imagining what people who went through this shit must’ve been like made me cry too

[@darrelwilson]

I forgot they were acting

[@lolosaith8512]

They weren't

[@neilgibson41]

Darrel Wilson everything about this film is genius. Full. Stop.

[@metal87power]

Honestly, I felt Diamond's cry was still acting. He was trying, but still acting.

[@pugzi101]

@@metal87power Bro he was crying with all his heart out. This was actually the best part of this scene. Very hard to pull for any actors.

[@HipHopfan_]

Bullshit

[@littlegreenguy4130]

The detail that makes it so incredibly heartbreaking to me is Matt Damon’s hands clinging on to Robin’s back, clenching his fists and releasing all that sadness. Flawless performances. Absolute masterpiece.

[@Weegie_Huddle_Cuddle]

This is probably my favourite piece of acting every from both these but especially Matt, doesn't get any better than this.

[@THayond_x93]

3:20 That look on Robin’s face in his character just screams “Breakthrough, I’ve got you son, it’s going to be okay” perfect acting!

[@ThomasMckenna-yg9jd]

don't think he was acting

[@billybadass7718]

I remember Mrs. Howard, my 4th grade teacher told me, “it’s not your fault”, many years ago. I cried uncontrollably like a baby. Things were not great at home. I’ve never told anyone this before. Thank you Mrs Howard All these years later I still don’t believe it though. Years of anxiety and depression, I still can’t escape it.

[@Julia-cm9ir]

Thank you for showing people they're not alone. And you are not alone too. It's not your fault. It's not your fault, I promise. Please, try to belive me. It has never been your fault.

[@captainstubbing1]

Never will

[@annmariefrank8803]

it's not ur fault for u......... just as it was not my fault for me❤

[@dreamsicleblues]

I go back to that clip to hear again what I never heard. That validation is so important, and Matt Damon played it perfectly. Thanks to Mrs. Howard you weren't alone. She got you. That's really good.

[@RobinPM86]

Maybe you don't have to escape it. Maybe, as I'm trying to learn, you can use your experience to help other people.

[@commonbroadcaster]

I've cried that cry, it's the realization someone can be there for you, it's a very, very profound moment for someone who was abused or abandoned. This moment struck a nerve, love this damn movie.

[@alexaflowers3732]

As a survivor i cry that cry every single time i watch this scene

[@sombat2788]

Such a beautiful catharsis. The love he finds for himself through Sean eclipses a lifetime resentment.

[@tarunmood]

The way he hugs him tightly.. That's powerful and moving stuff..

[@uscman]

It's just like how I hug my dad when I'm going through tough shit

[@chadsr3455]

Honestly this scene breaks my heart every single time. It just hits so personally.

[@michealcorleone5442]

It's not your fault

[@sldw3221]

It's not your fault

[@cynthiahoward2285]

Same

[@erinjensen8023]

They just don’t make movies like this anymore. This one was a diamond in the ruff.

[@brentcrude8565]

While Damon and Affleck thoroughly deserved the original screenplay Oscar for this, it was Williams' unforgettable performance in this pivotal role that elevated the film even further, and the Academy agreed. It's hard to pick a favourite Robin Williams performance, but I'd say this is definitely up there at the top.

[@Naomi4everyoung]

Well, Matt Damon had the harder role to play.

[@Thunda1986]

its a shame what the oscar have turned into, rewarding movies and actors that dont deserve it

[@partypiano0729]

Notice Robin shaking while holding the file? It's the little things.

[@gotaminutereviews]

partypiano0 exactly. Tells you that this is the make-or-break moment. Incredible work by Williams as an actor, incredible restraint by Van Sant as a director (notice his quiet cutting, slow camera pushes and that he leaves Elfman's music out until after the breakthrough).

[@sniperdoug1969]

Patch Adams had a few parts like this.

[@JoSheperd]

You can't convince me that not every person on earth needs this atleast one time in their life

[@redhotchilifan98]

One of the most tear inducing scenes I've ever seen Robin was a national treasure

[@SmallFaerie]

I'd say he was an international treasure even.

[@RUSTA5]

​@@SmallFaerieOMG yes, we love him in Russia. 😢

[@williamseipp9691]

when you cry like that, you unravel some tight, tight knots in your heart.

[@jeui91]

Indeed. And yet it's also really hard to pull those emotions out from the deep down inside of your heart. Like the tight knot is harder to unravel than the loose one.

[@Haedox]

this is really something that resonates with me man, i miss robin :(

[@cospitch8963]

We all miss Robin. Fan of your content btw :)

[@jelegance7415]

It gets me too. I use to pray to be adopted. But my files got thicker, We're stronger to get away.

[@Daddywood2230]

me too. We lost him to soon.

[@oliverwagunaere1697]

@@jelegance7415 did you get adopted friend?

[@aliasiskey4434]

It's not your fault🤗

[@TheWrathfulSlayer]

When I saw this particular scene in the film, I couldn’t help but tear up a little bit because it was at this moment I knew how vulnerable us men can be when face our insecurities like Will was facing his insecurities!! And I seriously have to say that the writing by Matt Damon and Ben Affleck as well as the acting by Robin Williams were absolutely stellar!! There is something about this scene that connects to every person in confronting something that happened to them that they had no control over!!

[@mattparks6100]

The way Matt Damon says "Oh God" as he experiences all the emotion that's been stuck in his mind for so long.

[@midna5750]

As someone who went though years of childhood sexual abuse, I cannot express how much of an impact this scene had on me. I realized that for years, I've reacted the same way as Will when told it's not my fault: break eye contact, say you know, chuckle a bit to make yourself less vulnerable. I have yet to have the catharsis of weeping like this and having the phrase truly set in, but I'll get there one day. Everyone does

[@baseddz9180]

Stay strong and remember God is always with you

[@BennyNegroFromQueens]

It's not your fault.

[@mazdaatenza6668]

@dr4kz0r *LMFAO* I was about to comment the same

[@andikaputri2625]

i'm reading your comment and i'm in tears i'm so sorry for what you've been through. i hope you you will feel better soon, i hope you can forget those awful memories and live your current life happily. i'm wishing all the best for you, i hope you can get thru all this fine. hope you and your loved ones are doing well and staying safe ❤

[@Laura-sg6ss]

@dr4kz0r you are being so unnecessary. If u don't believe then move on. Stop getting stuck on what people believe. You saying that or agreeing with that other person won't stop them believing. Mind your business.

[@TheBarber5550]

For everyone who was abused in their childhood, myself included, you're not alone.

[@RascalFascal]

it`s not your fault.

[@mr.fisshy7057]

I still am to this day

[@godfather7174]

I got you right here bro you never left my heart even tho you do not know me but yet you do ;)

[@gwd5119]

I feel like everyone was hit but me personally it wasn’t as bad as it was described in this scene

[@jeffreymeeks4051]

Me also. But there are good people out there to talk to who can give us hope.

[@NWAWskeptic]

I think this scene resonates because Robin Williams felt this way to everyone he met, where he wanted to say the exact right thing to make them feel better. And his way of conveying that was with his humor and his heart. A man with his own flaws and mistakes who saw the humanity in everyone else and unrelenting empathy and compassion. Who ignored so much of his own hurt and need to try and lift it from everyone else. A truly caring and amazing human being. And for that he will always be missed.