Receiving Singleness as a Gift | Sam Allberry

Sam Allberry leads a breakout session at TGCW21 on receiving the gift of singleness. Allberry encourages Christians, both married and single, with three reasons why singleness is a gift and not a curse.
He explains that the culture, and even sometimes the church, has taught us that we can only find happiness and intimacy through marriage.
But the true, Biblical view of singleness shows us that:
1. Singleness is good, and we should embrace it as a gift.
2. Singleness allows us to find intimacy and deep friendship within the church-our true family.
3. Singleness reveals our longing for Jesus, our true and perfect Bridegroom, and we can rejoice in the marriage we have in Christ.
With this in view, singleness can become an opportunity to taste the goodness of God. When singleness is seen as a gift, the single Christian can therefore be thankful to God-and gratitude changes everything.
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[@Visforelvenshireling]

I've wanted to be a 'good girl' and be a wife and mom since I was nine. I am thirty-four and still single. There are so many experiences and deep friendships I have been able to have that may not have been in the cards for me if I had married younger. I still hope to be married at some point but this is very validating and encouraging. Thank you!

[@okEPlant]

42:35 through 44:13 "If marriage gives us the shape of the gospel, singlness shows it's sufficiency."

[@eeebbb-je4tu]

Singleness is very difficult. I'm 42 years old women, I've been single all my life. Singleness brought a lot of suffering and sin in my life.

[@FrenziedGuitarist]

This was so good for me, a married person to hear, as I am a friend to singles and was once single (and may one day be single again). Love this sharing of the Biblical perspective of singlehood and intimacy.

[@joannayeung3705]

Thank you for this Pastor Sam. I never really wanted to get married until I wanted a family. My ex-husband didn't want a family, so we parted and divorced. There are nights when I am lonely and fleshy that I wished I worked harder at loving my husband and not desire a family of my own. Life is a God's gift. If we are true to our Lord, we would live a life of purity and holiness as our worship and service for others. Lord have mercy on us. Let us carry our cross and work out our own salvation with fear and trembling.🙏✝️💖💪

[@robertlaabs5066]

The State of being Single as a Gift. Thank You! Because I struggle with Self- Control in the area of sexual purity, I have not thought about Singleness as a State. Truth will Set Us Free!

[@elisabeth_wales]

Thank you. Beautiful message from someone who knows🌷

[@missNCW]

If he knows then why is not talking about how difficult singleness is, but can talk about how difficult marriage is? Why are married people’s pain validated, but single people’s is belittled so that it looks like they’re complaining about nothing. Easy to say that singleness doesn’t make you incomplete and that your experience isn’t less than married people - but then your pain is not even acknowledged. Yet married people’s troubles are even though this is about *single* people. Married people get the validation in sermons about singleness as well as sermons about marriage. And single people are basically told to get over their pain and unmet desire. Whilst sermons about marriage are all about celebrating marriage. Sermons about singleness is just to remind them their gift is to work. That is not the same experience, one is about joy in a spouse AND God. And the other, singleness, is about serving others, but while doing so, being treated like a child who must be happy with a gift they didn’t want. Having your desires unmet but treated like they’re not important. Yet those same desires are important for married people. Completely unfair.

[@cjhennessey9876]

At the beginning the speaker identified the title of this talk as "Don't Waste Your Singleness". It would be great if the title could be changed to this. As a single longing for marriage, yet another message titled "Receiving Singleness as a Gift" would have been off-putting and I would not have clicked, though after listening I understand the title. I am now happily married and if/when I find myself single again I hope I will be more gracious and at peace the second time round. This is a very good message. I really appreciated the parts about meaningful friendship and combating loneliness in the church.

[@missNCW]

Exactly, single people are almost ALWAYS forced to see singleness as a gift and are put off marriage. Does the Church respect single people though? Does it celebrate them and acknowledge THEIR service. No. They do that for married people while ignoring the contribution of single people and treating them like children who don’t deserve marriage. Singles are ALLOWED to want marriage but their constantly made to feel like they’re not good enough for it. Or singleness is compared to marriage (even though we’re not supposed to compare but it’s okay when married people do it to say they have harder lives) as if singleness is better. But yet, the Church and married people celebrate marriage and talk about its joys, so single people aren’t allowed to want that and see it as a blessing that they TOO can have, they’re supposed to be so grateful for singleness that they don’t want marriage. That’s ain’t something that marriage people had to prove. But singles must chose lifelong singleness even though God doesn’t expect that of them

[@missNCW]

Unwanted singleness is an affliction. Married people are allowed to have afflictions and single people for some reason must serve 24/7 and aren’t allowed to say their lives are difficult because only married people experience struggles apparently. Even though they clearly do not have the pressure to constantly serve in the Church. They serve a person who also serves them and has sex with them. That is easier and more joyful than serving strangers. But married people are treated like the better Christians and single people are treated like they STILL don’t do enough.

[@josedopwell9645]

@ Jenny, I will pray for you. You might want to reread your post, or better yet, have someone else read it back to you and give you honest feedback. A sister from my church, who went to be with the LORD a couple of years ago, would say, "The only thing worse than being single is being married and wishing that you were." It seems you assume a lot about married couples. The grass is always greener when you're not the one who has to mow it and pull out the weeds and rake the leaves. I've seen some genuinely happy marriages between Christians. But I've also seen ones where you can feel the tension and stress. You might want to consider who you're ACTUALLY complaining against. Who are you ACTUALLY unhappy with?

[@Warhol-jb9zx]

The Bible honors celibacy as a worthy calling, but it also makes clear that celibacy is a gift that not all have (1 Corinthians 7:7-9, Matthew 19:11).

[@gregorythepoodle2508]

As lonely as I am sometimes, I'd also wouldn't mind staying single through out my life and buying a house all to myself. I just need pets personally.

[@borkapajic4154]

💖Thank You Sam for sharing Subject of Singleness that Has No boundaries. As the Saint Mother Thersa Asked if we can see the face of The Christ in everyone we meet. And we Are Not meanto be HERE to P l e a s e anyone yet to Be True to our S e l f and to stand in our True lD and Honor What lS Spiritual(y)Truth. So we First look Within and Ask "Now, Father, Thou show That Which Thou hast Choosen". Than we Are Serving Father Every time wheather we are married or of single status. In our Conscious Oneness with God we Are Always standing on The Holy Ground. As The True Master Has also washed the feet of His disciples. So we can see that There Are diferent levels of Life and different lessons to lean. The Spiritualy Awake Master respects His servant and so the Spiritualy Awake Servant Respects His Master. Ultimately we Realize The Oneness of Life. And So the Scripture point: " lf thy Eye be Single thy body shall be full of Light "🙏

[@jamesdavidson676]

Why would singleness be a gift? Return to sender.

[@ryannurburgring]

Read the Bible, brother. 1 Corinthians Chapter 7. There you will find the answer :) God Bless you

[@jesussavesjesusgodlove7042]

🛐🙏😭🕎✝️📖💌🕊️💦💗💞💗💕 Heavenly Father Jesus God, I know that I am a sinner. I know that I deserve the consequences of my sin. However, I am trusting in Jesus Christ as my Savior. I believe that His death and resurrection of him provided for my forgiveness. I trust in Jesus and Jesus alone as my personal Lord and Savior. Thank you Lord, for saving me and forgiving me! In Jesus Mighty God's holy name, Amen!" 💗❤❤💞This Gospel message if you continue to believe this message, you will be saved: For I delivered to you as of first importance what I also received: that Christ died for our sins in accordance with the Scriptures, that he was buried , that he was raised on the third day in accordance with the Scriptures, and that he appeared to Cephas, then to the twelve. Then he appeared to more than five hundred brothers at one time,

[@user-jr2ue9nu6y]

How does hypergamy and "not" wanting to settle or dating down contribute if in anyway to this? Meaning he needs to earn more then me. Be 6 Foot, 6 Figures etc

[@user-jr2ue9nu6y]

I guess Singleness as a Gift can be called INCELdom and or FEMCELdom

[@ryannurburgring]

Huh