Greys Anatomy - Ordinary/What Happened to Me (Meredith Grey).avi

From Greys Anatomy Episode 3x14 - Wishin' and Hopin.
ELLIS: "What happened to you?"
MEREDITH: "What do you mean?"
ELLIS: "You're happy? You're happy now? The Meredith I knew was a force of nature. Passionate, focused, a fighter. What happened to you? You've gone soft! Stammering about a boyfriend and saying you're waiting to be inspired. You're waiting for inspiration? Are you kidding me?! I have a disease for which there is no cure, I think that would be inspiration enough! Listen to me, Meredith. Anyone can fall in love and be blindly happy! But not everyone can pick up a scalpel and save a life. I raised you to be an extraordinary human being, so imagine my disappointment when I wake up after five years and discover that you are no more than... ordinary! What happened to you?!"
MEREDITH: "I'm not sure refusing treatment is what you want to do..."
ELLIS: "Apparently, what I want doesn't matter! It isn't even legally binding! So it's really about what you want, Meredith. You're in charge!"
MEREDITH: "You think that I like making these decisions for you? You think it's fun to get calls from the nursing home asking whether I was planning on giving the nurse, who changes you every morning a Christmas tip? But I do it. Because you have managed to alienate everybody else in your life and I am the only one, so I have to step up and do it. You wanna know why I'm so unfocused? So ordinary? You wanna know what happened to me? You! You happened to me!"
ELLIS: "Then let me refuse the heart surgery."
MEREDITH: "No!"
ELLIS: "Why not?!"
MEREDITH: "Because killing my mother is not gonna be another thing that happens to me."

[@weepingwillows21]

They really shouldn't have killed Ellis so soon. I feel like they missed out on so many more scenes like this one.

[@sayoma555]

She is coming back in Season 18!

[@Fahad-tm3ed]

@@sayoma555 no shit!!

[@weepingwillows21]

@@Fahad-tm3ed She has, actually. So far we've seen her twice this year.

[@bhupeshnagpal3781]

Because she got a series regular role in another series call the scandals !!

[@brigidmadden5577]

Considering how bad her Alzheimer’s was when she was introduced, the writers might’ve realized they couldn’t really use her without making her a complete shell due to the Alzheimer’s or overuse the excuse of her being lucid whenever she would appear, which would make the disease feel pointless. They kinda wrote themselves into a corner by giving her such severe Alzheimer’s at the start

[@cazia9]

I agree and disagree in a certain sense - Meredith is certainly extraordinary but she also talks about feeling complete as a whole person which is also key...Ellis never felt happy about having a family and resented her obligation to them much the same way Cristina would if she had a child...Meredith is clearly in a much healthier frame of mind when she has her own family which is why she can be a great surgeon AND have her happy-ever-after

[@curlyheadedcutie5331]

cazia9 Yes, I agree with you but Ellis did resent having children. She gave one up and said she regretted Meredith. In one of her talks with Meredith when she wasn't lucid she said it.

[@anapassos460]

@@curlyheadedcutie5331 she resented having Maggie. while I do believe she also resented Meredith, she said "he never wanted kids" and she did gave birth to Richard's only daughter. I think she didn't mean Meredith on that particular scene, buy yeah, she didn't want either of them.

[@omarcogle1965]

@@anapassos460 I know this post is a year late, but you notice that Maggie acts more like Ellis in personality, and Meredith made sure she never did.

[@emmajd1]

Ellens acting is spot on

[@angell.4099]

You can hate Ellis if you want. But that woman brought the passion and precision to this scene that is so very critical to understanding how Meredith has both survived and accomplished so much. Yes, Meredith is a more traditionally likeable person. But make no mistake about it, Meredith has that Ellis fire 🔥 in her belly.

[@saralee5660]

I wouldn't want a mom like Ellis

[@stevenjorangers]

Sara lee fuck off about it. She has Alzheimer's, you think it's her fault. Alzheimer's doesn't just take your memory. It takes a every bit of you away piece by piece, they stop knowing how to swallow, how to talk, how to even move and then stop breathing. It makes your attitude turn mean and it's not something someone with Alzheimer's can control. My grandmother almost killed me a while back when she choked me and now she loves me again. It's just the disease that makes you like that. Do research before you say something.

[@michmp1]

Calm the fuck down. Sara lee can have her own opinion. I don't think Alzheimers would change her being overbearing and narcissistic.

[@michmp1]

Sounds like you just have some personal issues to work out. Take it somewhere else.

[@karismalovesglitter]

Michelle P Ellis was completely lucid this episode. This is the REAL Ellis, who nobody would want for a mother.

[@meghanamohan1079]

My mother is Ellis Grey. And I admire how Meredith still cares for and doesn't give up on Ellis. It takes A LOT of self control and compassion.

[@blessedlilyacres8674]

Does anyone else ever feel like that she was upset with Meredith because she didn’t want what happened between her and Richard to happen to Meredith? She loved Richard (another doctor) but she became blinded by love and then he left her and all she had was her career. She didn’t want Meredith to fall into this relationship and loose her career the one thing she thought would be there over a man who could leave her at any minute.

[@eshwarig3983]

i was scrolling down to see if anyone thought like me. Of course, I dont disagree that she was mean, but she also had a point. If she didnt say those things, Meredith would have definitely not been motivated to prove her wrong.

[@Coeurlarme]

It's not "does anyone feel like". It was explicitly said in a later episode, I think during a therapy session following Meredith drowning.

[@anahataa.chandel1290]

she was a bit harsh but still given her psychological condition and past experiences where she struggled so much for love she's right and this dialogue starts to make so much sense in the flashback scenes of season 11 whenever derek and mer have an argument. "everybody can blindly fall in love but not everybody can pick up a scalpel and save life".

[@izz9499]

my mum just told me she isn't proud of me so I came to watch this to cry

[@carolignacia90]

Same. My mom thinks I'm just not capable to be extraordinary, she always doubts my skills and talents. She makes me depressed

[@izz9499]

Carol Ignacia that’s horrible why are they like this

[@carolignacia90]

@@izz9499 i have no idea! Makes me mad. Also do u wear makeup? Bc I do and my mum is like always bitchy about it, she says stuff like "why do u wear "so much" makeup? It doesn't look good" like everything I do it's just wrong

[@izz9499]

yeah I do but luckily my mum doesn’t really say anything about that but she’s always saying that I look spotty and pale (when i don’t even have many spots) so she’s probably glad I wear makeup tbh

[@luizanxy]

Same

[@camilasilva-ei1xj]

Anyone can fall in love and be blindly happy but not everyone can pick up a scalpel and save a life.

[@eshwarig3983]

That was a very good line

[@gilmore7533]

Yeah n that's hard on unfocused medicos sometimes

[@karan_karan_karan]

studying inspo

[@linaria17]

I don't understand...later in therapy when Meredith realizes that when Ellis says "be extraordinary", she wasn't talking about surgery. But here, it seems abundantly clear to me that she IS indeed talking about surgery.

[@Eccentric_Charlie]

Yea when they was in limbo after Meredith and her had a heart to heart and she gave up her life for her to live.

[@BlackGirlMarvel]

I think it echoes Cristina's last words to her that "she's the sun". Ellis wanted her to shine bright and not be behind a man. If only she could see Meredith now and realize you can have it all.

[@yevgeniyaleshchenko849]

@@BlackGirlMarvel Exactly, you really can have both and even more!

[@anissakawther4986]

@@BlackGirlMarvel What do you mean , have it all ?

[@BlackGirlMarvel]

@@anissakawther4986 Have an amazing career and family at the same time. Ellis felt like you had to sacrifice one for the other and Meredith proved you can have it all.

[@karan_karan_karan]

the actor that played ellis did so well.... had ME scared too.. this made me start my homework LMFAO

[@omarcogle1965]

Kate Burton (Ellis) is a "Real" one, and she's theatre trained.

[@ericmendoza7160]

Looking back at the scene and seeing all the Greys episodes, you realize why Ellis was trying to keep Meredith from going through the pain of losing your true love and giving up you me own child. Then you also realize how strong Meredith truly was. Through all the tragedies in her life, she raised 3 children, owns and runs the hospital, is a gifted, innovative, and pioneering surgeon; and is the best friend you want to have when the chips down. Definitely not ordinary! Almost immortal? Lol

[@OneGaurdian]

@@Muratzhangabayev974 You do realize this is a comment section where we are free to discuss our thoughts and feelings in regards to the characters and story taking within the video we are watching?

[@mooonsi323]

​@muratt264 No one is talking about Ellen Pompeo, but Meredith Grey

[@chocofudge1932]

This is a rare instance of a perfectly scripted and acted scene with immaculate character/dynamic exploration. In the beginning, Meredith is sitting, her knees tucked up (embryonic, but also child-like position). Her mom is standing. Meredith is looking up to her while Ellis is looking down, creating a sense of their power-dynamic, no words needed. Ellis opens the conversation once. Meredith tries to answer but doesn't get to a full reply and stops with a nervous laugh. So her mom has to give her another question with a full direction of what Meredith should tell her. When Meredith tries to answer again, every single one of her answers is interrupted by a follow-up question, indicating that either her reply wasn't good or interesting enough to her mother, thus bringing back old feelings of insecurity and lack of self-esteem that was induced by her mother's absence and disinterest in Meredith as a person. From her mom's perspective, Ellis, who feels like she's made bad choices after having a family she didn't really care for and investing feelings into another man who let her down before she focused solely on her career, the only thing she had left to redeem her self-esteem, is instantly worried when she hears about Meredith focusing on love for now. Of course she feels like that is a mistake she herself has made in the past, and we can collect all of this through the hints that were placed throughout the past two and a half seasons. I also love how as the intensity of the scene grows, as Ellis gets more and more angry and projects her disappointment in herself onto Meredith, who starts feeling hurt by her mother, there are only really tight shots of their heads/faces, reflecting how they are pulled back into old patterns of intense emotional conflict. Before this episode, their interactions in all scenes have been sort of 'skewed' by Ellis's Alzheimer's, but now, in this moment of clarity, we get such a clear-cut instance of what their dynamic was like Meredith's whole life before the illness. And it is not a pretty picture, but such a raw, fleshed-out and relatable one, expertly put to the screen. To the writers, directors and actors of this scene: hats off!!

[@sayoma555]

You should make a commentary channel dude

[@anamariebowman6831]

This was excellent commentary 👏 👏 👏

[@KP_Gem]

Wow you really need to make videos critiquing this stuff!

[@Jessica-wo6px]

Excellent analysis!

[@jessicadaigle1845]

My mom had a brain injury before I was born that rendered her rational thinking fully absent. My mom would always suddenly lash out at me when I was simply trying to talk like Ellis does to Meredith. She was so good at hurting you at your core... so these scenes have hit so much harder than they should. I still don't have a relationship with her because of those problems ongoing forever.

[@ShannonAdams-d1s]

Before yours moms brain injury was she nice like do you have older siblings you could ask or your dad or an aunt grandparents uncle anybody? Also very sorry to here that I hope your doing good

[@alreem9891]

1:22 Epic line

[@jackie-we4ep]

Alreem the line that broke her );

[@UrbanDecayLova247]

@@Muratzhangabayev974 she had Alzheimer’s

[@Fahad-tm3ed]

I came here to watch this scene specifically

[@nkara69]

Tried again these days with my mother. Gave up some years ago with my father. I am almost 50 years old. It is of no use! Among other, she and he happend to me...

[@robbycharmed]

how is life now?

[@Imjusthere08]

What’s odd is that the way Ellis spoke to Meredith is how I’ve been spoken to while a female relative raised me. It didn’t tug my heart, only a flashback came into mind.

[@justcallmejessz3712]

Oh my hell Ellen is an incredible actress

[@vanessarahimi550]

This is literally my relationship with my parents. Although it’s not just my mom, it’s both my parents. And also my parents would never waste their breath so long on me to say complete sentences. I’ve never had a conversation with either of them that lasted the length of this clip. They’d just passively judge and insult every microscopic thing I do, and if I dare respond they would scream and slap me before calling me the most disrespectful piece of shit they’ve had the misfortune to meet. Then they’d leave before I can say anything since they can’t afford to have a whole 3 min convo with me or else the world will come to an end. Watching this scene actually made me envious of Meredith bc at least her mom says full sentences to her and called her a disappointment. Mine just hates me and want nothing to do with me. Any reminder of my existence sends them into chaos

[@GermanMontejano2007]

EPIC scene

[@nivaparia8837]

" I raised you to be an extraordinary human being " - No you didn't . She became an extraordinary human being but you had very little contribution there .

[@Jessica-wo6px]

I honestly prefer being "ordinary" over being mentally abused and broken by my toxic mother all my life.

[@FrIsTmiUsIcXD]

I know what you mean but the worst thing is that her success (at everything) is thanks to Ellis, because she learned to be emphatic, kindish, and focused because everything she lived

[@teniola9304]

OOOOOOOO I remember this scene when I first saw it. Honestly it blew my mind😲🤯. What I thought about Ellis Grey was totally OPPOSITE I was hoping that Ellis and Meredith spend more time together, girl talks, forgiveness, regrets, BLAH! BLAH! BOY was I dead wrong. And I won't be surprised that THIS RELATIONSHIP btw Ellis and Meredith Grey does exist and very common in the real world especially at home.

[@kaylakoerper6892]

It does

[@cranberrysoda9051]

Her mom is beautiful goshh not in this clip but on Netflix with the original colors

[@kauancarneiro8781]

Essa cena aterrorizou minha cabeça por anos, mesmo em terapia, medicação, ainda escuto essa voz. A decepção é muito pior que qualquer sentimento de raiva ou indiferença.

[@rayloc420]

This is the moment Mer became Catherine Fox award winning surgeon Dr. Meredith Grey. Good job, Ellis!

[@anahataa.chandel1290]

she was a bit harsh but still given her psychological condition and past experiences where she struggled so much for love she's right and this dialogue starts to make so much sense in the flashback scenes of season 11 whenever derek and mer have an argument. "everybody can blindly fall in love and be blindly happy but not everybody can pick up a scalpel and save life".

[@alejandroolvera4918]

As a child with parental issues myself, I always have to step back and look at Ellis point of view. She made a lot of mistakes because she was so blindly in love and unfocused from her own career choices. Richard hurt her a lot because she had fallen in love with him despite her marriage to Thatcher and their shared daughter Meredith. Meredith is right. She hasn’t been so focused because everytime she’s upset over her mother or father is dawns on her pretty hard. I feel then she should start to fumble or become not as good at her job. Meredith would talk about Derek when he would hurt her, but I felt she would still go into medicine with drive, at least for the first few seasons, however, it never really made her stumble or fall too out of line like her parental issues would.

[@kendalllopez2844]

Mother of the year 🏆

[@sydneykramer2926]

Man it's so similar how christina and ellis are

[@geraldinewirth4016]

yes but with one huge difference: Cristina knew she would be a terrible mother and chose not to be one cuz she didnt wanna fuck up a child. It‘s absolutely okey to not have kids for any reason and it‘s definetly right not to have kids if u dnt want to have them or think you would suck as a parent. It‘s not okey though to have a child and then put all ur resentment on them, be a terrible parent and fuck them up. (speaking as a child who had an ellis as a mother😅)

[@efoulaki1]

well... in her defence.... 1:09 is a very real fact.

[@MrMokoush]

This is my situation with mother, who i to give advice because im a nursing student

[@rosemary2176]

My mother is like meredith she doesnt care about my academic successment and she wants me to be happy and normal. and i think i'm like Ellis. Because i do not care about "happiness" . I always want to be top (in School life) actually getting the highest grade from math is making me happy. So Ellis motivates me a lot more than my parents do.

[@yevgeniyaleshchenko849]

You can be BOTH happy and successful, you know this right? You don't have to be miserable just to stand out.... Trust me. Please be BOTH happy and ambitious.

[@sydneykramer2926]

Then youll end up alone if you dont learn to be happy. There's more to life than education

[@diegochavez6520]

Why ? in the end we all die so don’t stop worrying about shit like that and find eternal happiness

[@Widad.A]

For some people education is the true happiness. You must respect everyone’s choice. It’s not because she finds Ellis inspiring that she will end up making the same mistakes as her.

[@nivaparia8837]

Clearly you & your mother have different definition for happiness & there's nothing wrong with that . Problem is when one person tries to force their idea of happiness on you .

[@extazeeee]

yeah, I think that too, Ellis is right in her own way.

[@britishroyalfamilyvideos]

My mother has said plenty of cruel things such as this. You can’t take it personal

[@lizzymartinez2078]

I know that lots of you in the comment section are going to hate me for saying this, but Ellis is right about what she said to Meredith. At some point, Meredith lost focus of her career as a surgeon and Ellis was simply calling her out on it. In the beginning Meredith was all about being a surgeon and she was determined to be great. However, as time went on she started to settle for less until eventually she was more focused about what was going on outside of work. I know it was pretty brutal, but she was being honest about it. I’m not saying Meredith isn’t great because she is, but she definitely could have been better if she had stayed focused. FYI I’m a Cristina, so maybe that’s why I see it that way. Please don’t hate me for it.

[@aya123444]

🤦‍♀️ That mother, blegh.

[@alexismoser7201]

What season and episode?

[@J_jj777]

Alexis Moser season 3 ep 14

[@Zahara-ps2ce]

People tell me my standards are too high. But, this is basically what I say to every partner from past relationships: 1:23

[@pastsubstance2930]

How would you like it if someone says that to you? Repeatedly. No matter how successful you are out there, you are still ordinary to them. It’s not that your standards are too high or not, it’s that you are an ass.

[@Zahara-ps2ce]

@@pastsubstance2930 Oh my gosh!! It was funny three years ago...and its just as funny today! Thank you so much for reminding me of this video (this made my day). BTW, I do research at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology. So, even if I'm an a**, I'm a smart-a**. XD

[@shellym2008]

I thought my mom was bad, but I’m starting to think she’s not that bad 😅

[@MariaHeathman]

I kinda hate Ellis for what she says to Meredith. Especailly when she says that meredith used to be a force of nature and that shes ordinary. Ellis is completly wrong mer is most definetly a force of nature and shes extrordinary. I think that Ellis always resented mer because she thought mer was holding her back.

[@nnacht6215]

I runderstand her and relate to her so well...

[@Heresheis0818]

1:23 tough mom 😢

[@Espeonchan]

When Mer's voice breaks at the end, she sounds like Maggie for some reason, or is that just me?

[@Sardothien5021]

I partially agree with Ellis.

[@wg6889]

can relate

[@onuchialamba]

What episode and season is this

[@saariebaarie]

nuchi.gucci season 3 episode 14

[@onuchialamba]

Joanne x thank you

[@stellamaeve172]

which episode is this😭 I have the same sweater as her

[@salliexx7631]

Season 3 Episode 14

[@jordanwhite8099]

Well, meredith did spent too much time trying to fight for derek.

[@taisiasmile]

Does anyone have a script for this scene?

[@15Brig]

What a sad mom she is, I feel more sorry about her than Meredith.

[@biggestgreyfanever]

Lol Ellis Grey is an Asian parent

[@Theonly1oneabi]

What's this episode and season?

[@salliexx7631]

Season 3 Episode 14

[@salliexx7631]

Season 3 Episode 14

[@salliexx7631]

Season 3 Episode 14

[@jaydensvoboda7756]

Which episode is this?

[@DavGeo21]

It's from Greys Anatomy Episode 3x14 - Wishin' and Hopin.

[@kelvinenyongesa8932]

Ellis is right,

[@johnyjohny4168]

😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢

[@Heresheis0818]

1:31 feels like the conversation between Billie Rosita and her mom 2:02

[@j21wowstar72]

I think she should back off her daughter deserves someone in her life we are allowed to have our own lives a job is not the only thing in life. We should enjoy the beauty of life not become famous because of being able to pick up a surgeon tool yes it’s great to be able to help but live life as well.

[@Christian92177]

I actually do understand why the mother would react like that. I don't think my reaction would be any different.

[@thundercookie1014]

rwynn christian never have kids

[@celesten.4489]

never have kids

[@Christian92177]

@@wangwang2211 This is a mediocre lifestyle, and the need to find someone else to blame. Own up to your decisions.

[@darleneortiz8511]

How?? She called her daughter “ordinary” and basically said she wasn’t enough and she was disappointed..

[@Christian92177]

@@wangwang2211 I would raise my children to strive for the best, not a mediocre lifestyle. "Waiting to be inspired" what is that supposed to mean?

[@yejieke92]

wtf was that

[@akalax4791]

This is why you have multiple children from different women to hedge your bet