Meredith & Ellis Grey: What happened to you!!?

[@ImDemonAlchemist]

Meredith is truly extraordinary. She is everything her mother was and more. Everything that her mother failed at, she excelled. Love, Parenting, Relationships. She doesn't sacrifice anything, but is still an exceptional surgeon who wins a Harper Avery award, when even Cristina was blocked by politics. Cristina is a Cardio god, but Meredith is the sun.

[@IamCanadian3333]

"When even Cristina was blocked by politics." Which is bs, the same should have happened to Meredith. It was just bs story plot writing because it's Meredith Grey who basically gets away with anything.

[@rommel26717]

Mendicant_Bias The_Betrayer for the sake of defending the storyline, I think that Mer was able to get the award because of how Richard confronted Catherine about Cristina. Idk maybe change of rules whenever there was someone really exceptional? Because they wouldn’t probably get away with someone not winning the award while getting the most votes without getting bad press? Idk that’s just me

[@hofhofandaway]

I love Cristina, but I will always disagree with that speech. Meredith is a good surgeon, but she is not the sun. She’s dark and twisty for fuck’s sake! 🙄

[@ImDemonAlchemist]

@@IamCanadian3333 It can be assumed that things changed in the background to make it possible. The mistake was in not addressing that when Meredith won. It's fair for things to change after 4 years, but it was a poor choice to not at least mention that it's suddenly possible for someone at Grey Sloan to win the award.

[@IamCanadian3333]

@@rommel26717 "Because they wouldn’t probably get away with someone not winning the award while getting the most votes" You know Christina had the most votes. It was just plot reasons for their poster child.

[@GermanMontejano2007]

Later in the episode Meredith answer: YOU happened to me. Best answer ever.

[@thundercookie1014]

German accurate

[@miranda13c]

And it was too late, she was gone again 😭

[@jaqui1401]

Kate Burton deserved an Emmy for this scene. I just rewatched this scene for how great her acting was here.

[@ImDemonAlchemist]

There are a lot of genuinely incredible moments in this series. I feel like it is criminally underappreciated. I haven't seen the last few seasons, and I'd say 14 was a bit below the series' standard, but 1-13 are incredible. 14 was still very good, but felt less cohesive.

[@wishlovato]

this scene is heartbreaking, meredith had this happy baby face before Ellis start w her shit, and then she got so sad 💔

[@SFY30]

Funny how many people seem to believe that Ellis is actually right in that scene. I mean, Ellis was indeed an extraodinary surgeon, and how did that work out for her ? Unhappy first marriage, cheated on her husband, got dumped by Richard, abandonned her second child, tried to kill herself, made her daughter life miserable... Does that sound like a fulfilling life to you ? Plus, Meredith is not blindly in love, she's a great intern, a hard worker, and now we know that she grew up to be an amazing surgeon AND managed to keep a perfectly balanced personnal life. Ellis was a great surgeon, but that was all she had and as a human being she is truly despicable.

[@alanus95]

And you still don;t get it!

[@gurlh3128]

Plus Meredith also won a Harper Avery award! :)

[@thundercookie1014]

Meredith looked so happy at first then Ellis just ruined it

[@anikennedy1986]

@@alanus95 get what?

[@waitforkait]

ThunderCookie101 god that’s what kills me the most!! she seemed eager to talk to her mom, really talk to her for the first time in years, and yet even then she still can’t seem to say the right thing because it’s not what ellis wants to hear. that last shot of her looking crestfallen is so fucking heartbreaking

[@Rukia91554]

It's simple actually. She called her ordinary, and then Meredith tried to commit suicide.

[@lizz2094]

Best explanation 😂😂

[@salliexx7631]

She didn’t try to kîll herself she was pushed into the water by a patient

[@kim-nabi-the-butterfly]

​@salliexx7631, but she let herself sink. She had already surfaced, but she decided to stop fighting.

[@smileyfan16]

Her mother was so wrong. Meredith Grey is now a Harper Avery award winning attending. Her mom's words here were so harsh and not needed.

[@Cassandra765]

Side note: Amazing acting from both of them.

[@Cassandra765]

I feel bad for Meredith. She got crappy people for parents. :( I'm just happy she got past them.

[@damia.5974]

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[@olaf3918]

Every Asian parents ever existed is Ellis Grey😂😂

[@2sistas4evs]

I can't believe people agreed with Ellis. I guess I disagreed because my mother is similar to Ellis and I knew/felt what Meredith was going through all her life.

[@saralee5660]

Yea me too

[@lizz2094]

Same

[@Meanie74]

It’s called having a narcissistic parent. Ellis doesn’t care about Meredith’s happiness but rather her achievements because Ellis only sees her as an extension of herself.

[@rayloc420]

I agree with Ellis. Meredith knew her mother. It's relativoley disrespectful for her to respond in this way. I think speech is what turned Meredith into a renowned surgeon

[@MartinSandwich]

Geez, Ellis was one of the greatest surgeons that ever existed, facts. But omg, she's a heartless monster. She made Meredith's life a completely mess, she was a cheater on her marriage and she abandoned Maggie. Plus, Meredith just tried to end her life after that since she was just thinking how Ellis could be right when she told that Mer was a waste of space in this world. Ellis has no right to speak like, she was a great surgeon but as a human and as a mother? She sucks!

[@Jessica-wo6px]

Honestly giving Maggie up is the only good thing she did. She gave her a better life and Maggie had a family who loved her. Wish she would have done that for her older daughter. Sometimes the greatest love is letting them go.

[@karan_karan_karan]

does anyone else watch this when they don't want to study? its like parenting yourself LOL

[@lilmisskatiebug555]

I think they could honestly pass as mother and daughter. They have similarities

[@ilmarahman6047]

No wonder she's so screwed up!! Poor girl!

[@laurenbi]

It's amazing to me, because Ellis is so many things, but I don't think she was ever really "happy" like Meredith is describing here. Being satisfied with the ordinary is fulfilling in itself. Your worth is not connected to your innovations or contributions to society.

[@gurlh3128]

Damn that’s great acting right there

[@glazierblue573]

"Your Happy!? How dare you be happy! What's wrong with you girl!!!?? No parent wants to see that daughter happy!" Yes that logic seems ligit! Nice mum.

[@94Phillies]

My mom kind of just gave me the same speech. I've barely been sleeping at all this year because I'm kicking my butt doing homework every minute of every day, and my mom yells at me and says I'll never get into any colleges and I'm throwing away my future. I get all A's, but I had a B on the last report card. I know, I know, I should be doing homework, but I needed this to help me before I get back to work.

[@mrp_27]

How is it going now?

[@irenekiarie3688]

You're extraordinary!!!

[@naidzasky5748]

Its been 11 years and I really hope that you realized how wrong your mother was. I hope that you are doing something that you love, and not something your mother forced upon you.

[@Comicsluvr]

I have family members that I no longer speak to because they hurt me far less than this. Ellis is a terrible parent and a terrible person. I don't care how strong the bonds of family are, I refuse to let a person like this ride me down. I would have left and never looked back. Her mother does not deserve one ounce of her time or tenderness.

[@asosisos659]

Meredith was really happy when she told her mother about how she found love she was so excited to have a normal conversation about her life with her mother finally ellen was great in that scene they were both great

[@teniola9304]

When I first saw this scene, I really really didn't expected this reaction from Ellis. YIKES! 😟😟

[@MrJordanAz2]

As cruel and harsh as she probably sounds, this was Ellis' way of raising Meredith. She loves her daughter... but she's just not mother material, this is her way of parenting.

[@thundercookie1014]

Ja An her words caused Meredith to try to kill herself, some people should just never be parents

[@robinr4697]

@@thundercookie1014 Facts!

[@christopherarellano3466]

Man meredith did say she was raised by a christina this shows it to be true

[@lizz2094]

I think Ellis was trying to protect Meredith in the only way she knows how

[@Jessica-wo6px]

Please don't justify abuse💔

[@GermanMontejano2007]

She reminds me to my granmother, she was cruel, hard and mean like Ellis.

[@GermanMontejano2007]

Ellis remindes me to my grandmother, cold, cruel but adorable. RIP

[@sarahaksouh]

"Anyone can fall in love and be blindly happy but not everyone can pick up a scalpel and save a life" So true ❤️

[@gabrielaestefaniapenafielv2432]

If you find a real good person that understand the importance of your work, it's possible to be happy.

[@pollo9650]

No cualquiera puede enamorarse y ser feliz sobre todo ahora las personas son muy volatiles.

[@AP-pm9qy]

Well that escalated

[@teniola9304]

I wish that Meredith Grey and Olivia Pope (from SCANDAL)meet and exchange notes about their UNBELIEVABLE MOTHERS. 😁😁😁

[@saimafairywings]

omg! ive never seen this scene, i cant believe how cruel her mother wast her! no wonder shes messed up with a mother like ellis

[@alexbussler9776]

I sometimes wish they kept her mom remembering everything and so her and her mother could work together

[@hothotheat3000]

“I wanna know you!” *knows her* “Never mind.”

[@deborahmcclain9906]

Meredith didn't deserve that ...

[@melissaclark1051]

I think here really she does not want Meredith to be like her relationship wise that is why her demeanour changed when she heard her boyfriend is a doctor

[@amnaturkia8107]

This is published on my birthday like the real one with real year

[@HighSchoolGirl92]

Meredith is anything but ordinary!!!

[@eshagul8837]

This right here is my mom this scene sums up my mom it's funny how some parents chose to show how they love there kids that as you get older you make excuses for ur parents convincing ur self that they love u deep down

[@Destiny_Fvcker]

‘Does he understand the demands of your career?’ ‘Have you chosen your specialty?’ Lol yeap my parents alright

[@lizz2094]

So true 😂😂😂

[@ephramk]

That's the whole conversation.

[@LadyAmerican]

The actress that is playing Ellis is Kate Burton, daughter of Richard Burton.

[@SignatureN0te]

Kate is a beast.

[@carmichael78]

this is season 3 episode 14 ! Open your eyes ! It's under the video

[@mariahmaarte6525]

Idk but somehow my life's like Meredith's. I grew up to an unlucky parents. They are worst. I'm doing my very best to have a complete normal family but they don't want one. And in the end I'm always the one to blame because of their wrong choices in life.

[@gabrielaestefaniapenafielv2432]

Spanish comment: creo que si Ellis quería decirle que la había criado para ser una persona extraordinaria debió escoger otra forma de decírselo. Mi mamá es demasiado buena en su trabajo, pero es una buena madre, cariñosa con nosotros, nos ha hecho mujeres de temple, de ñeque como decimos en Ecuador, pero ha sabido apoyarnos, ella es fuerte y a la vez es cariñosa. Siempre hay formas de decir las cosas... los padres siempre quieren que sus hijos sean mejores que ellos... creo que ella debió escoger otras palabras. Mi madre también me dijo que primero era mi carrera, pero nunca me habló de no tener una vida personal feliz y decente, si puedes balancear ambas cosas mejor que mejor. Y si aparte puedes encontrar un amor que te apoye y te ayude a alcanzar tus sueños, mucho mejor. No debió decírselo así, y ponerle de ejemplo a su amiga. Si quería en realidad conocerla, tenía que empezar escuchándola.

[@pollo9650]

Es una madre narcisista y no estamos para cumplir los sueños de nuestros padres, solo para apoyarlos y ser concientes nada mas, meredith quiso ser feliz y estar en familia y eso es genial fin. Cosa que la mayoría no puede ahora tener pareja no es facil y ser feliz tanpoco las personas son muy volatiles.

[@jamalcollier5339]

this is some real shit

[@Ellie-The-Amazing]

Her mother did genuinely care it’s hard to see but Ellis did care she just didn’t know how to show it right

[@makeshiftairplanes]

I would've been able to live up to her ruthless and cold standard because I do not allow anyone in my life that could compromise my career

[@onedaye1877]

I love this relationship. It is unfortunate Shonda killed Ellis off. When Ellis is telling her to be extraordinary, she's telling Meredith not to be like her. She wants Meredith to be better than her. She just doesn't see being a doting wife and a doting mother as being real goals for her or her daughter. She wants Meredith not... to let a man drive her to cut her wrists for attention. Not to let a man's abundance of ego or low self esteem slow down her growth or make her feel inadequate. I think that's why Meredith becomes so happy when she realizes her mother wasn't really saying you'll never measure up to me but, really, saying "I want you to be better than me" in season 4 (with the therapy). I love that Ellis is not maternal to a dysfunctional degree. It happens. She was career oriented and she had a child by accident with a man she didn't really love. She finds herself left with the kid she didn't really want without the man she didn't really want and with a career that now has that much more obstacles in front of it. Meredith becomes predominantly an obstacle. What I do think is unfortunate was the suicide "attempt" they wrote in. I don't feel Ellis would have ever done that for attention or for real. I love that Meredith could not hate Ellis and low-key worships her despite how messed up Ellis is (as a mother). I imagine there may have been a few moments of near warmth and sometimes a child hangs on to that with a death grip.

[@FamilyGuy770]

I can somewhat see where her mom is coming from?

[@austin1052]

"Not weeping in a party bathroom Some actress asking me what happened, you That's what happened, you"

[@jade4537]

Ew you’re happy?! What a disappointment meredith 🙄

[@kaylalynae8]

I understand both. Yes Meredith got distracted. As a woman you should try to find your career and path first because love indeed gets you distracted. And we can all agree, Derek was not the best for Meredith at first. He completely manipulated her MULTIPLE times (Ellis knew this). Which is why she went off on Derek lol. On the other hand, Meredith needed a Mother. She needed someone to give her motherly love and support but Ellis is a strong surgeon who lacked empathy towards that stuff. It’s just who Ellis is. And this is very upsetting because Meredith did lose a Mother, Lexie’s Mom.

[@Anna-zh3pn]

Bish no. If I was there, I would hand it to Ellis.

[@FamilyGuy770]

Her mother does have a point. Meredith does dance around the bush about her career, but her mother was a little too brutal on her choice of words.

[@marissaklein303]

You don’t have to choose a specialty until your fellowship. Cristina yang just knew early . So ellis didn’t have a point

[@thundercookie1014]

She was a first year, she has time. Cristina is just special

[@MrTwettybird]

I know how she felt my mother did BAD Shit to me till I finally away for good.

[@stellamaeve172]

pls what is this episode? I have the same sweater!

[@jamesrawlins735]

3-14 Wishin' and Hopin

[@jessebabe23]

I think she's mad because Meredith cares more about her love life then her career.

[@jvsalas6915]

Does she stay with her memory or it fades away again

[@dianazaflores4388]

Por favor que termine esa serie ya que no funciona

[@Oltl21]

I may sound corny but maybe Ellis was jealous that Meredith have a “DOCTOR” boyfriend knowingly she wanted Richard to take her serious and it didn’t happen

[@esmeline]

Excelente!!

[@patsalas5170]

Ellis the narcissist...say she wants to know her daughter...so she relaxes and opens up only to have her mother be judgmental and condescending...🤢💔

[@mileymontana181]

what episode name is this?

[@Impossible998]

I dont remember seeing this episode.. Did she get her memory back?

[@thundercookie1014]

Megan she became lucid for a day

[@gabrielaestefaniapenafielv2432]

No, she's Alzheimer.

[@woohooboy]

Scenes like this illustrate why I could never get into "Greys Anatomy". Because right from the start Meredith has always been the go to character when it comes to a never ending array of personal setbacks and tragedy. From an emotionally distant career focused mother to a father that up and left her when she was a child, to losing multiple loved ones (abruptly), to miscarrying a child whilst performing surgery no less, to being brutally attacked, to near drowning to surviving plane crashes, to falling for someone only for their ex to show up after been missing for years, Meredith isn't a person anymore. Instead, she's a ridiculously indestructible plot device. Granted she's upset and teary eyed for a few episodes after something awful has happened to her, but sure enough she bounces back to her usual level headed self before too long whilst maintaining a high profile successful career (and winning awards) with kids and a nice home to boot as if nothing terrible ever took place. Simply put, she is a tool for the writers to throw every possible disaster at, that a person can face. Anyone who has been through half of what Meredith has gone through would have either lost their minds or the will to live but good old Mere keeps soldiering on because the show requires her to do so.......

[@98ore]

maybe you would give up and lose your mind, doesnt mean there arent people who wouldnt soldier on.

[@woohooboy]

@@98ore - There is surviving setbacks and hardships (which we all go through in life) and then there's Meredith Grey who isn't even a person anymore. She is simply a means for writers to serve up a never ending array of heartbreaking tragedy to endure because nothing grabs viewers more than watching old Mare suffering yet another crushing obstacle........

[@judigemini178]

@@woohooboy I'd get it if this was a video of the bomb in a chest, shooting or plane crash because that's definitely made for tv drama, but this video is a normal case scenario in terms of someone dealing with a difficult life thing. And people do go through this and a succession of many bad things after without "losing their minds", you honestly just sound like you're sheltered and living in a bubble.

[@woohooboy]

@@judigemini178 - My take on Meredith is on the whole and not just this clip. Over the last sixteen years, she has endured more heartbreak than a dozen people would go through in their entire lives. Granted this is a tv series, but it never feels as though the writers treat Meredith as an actual character. Rather they view her as someone (ie: plot device) who needs to go through yet another crushing personal setback/tragedy because we can't have her too happy for too long.

[@ninsmzln]

honestly i think most of us can relate to this scene. i mean, parents want their kids to go through life with least difficulty and not make the same mistakes as they did. if only ellis went about it in a more caring way, the point wouldnt be lost on meredith. but yea... life is hard enough without your mom wanting you to live a certain way- or to live HER life the way she wants through you.

[@maleehakhan7649]

which episode is this from?

[@jamesrawlins735]

Season 3, Ep. 14 - Wishin' and Hopin

[@Mini-Toast_]

If your parents happen to be people of color than this is just everyday talk. At least for my friends and I.

[@jamalcollier5339]

This kind of stings

[@k4lrh33]

why is my dad ellis grey

[@adrian123781]

Ellis has a point! Anyone can fall in love and be blindly happy but Not everyone can pick up a scalpel and save a life

[@cheenugarg306]

Yea u r right becoz the person who picks a scalpel doesn't deserve to love and be happy

[@DelishaPowell]

She definitely does. Everyone cannot be a surgeon. However, the fact that Meredith chose that career already shows she’s not ordinary. She could’ve lived in her moms shadow but she wanted to carve her own path. The average person wouldn’t choose such a road filled with disappointment. Mer did

[@pollo9650]

Pues es una frase de mierda no cualquiera puede ser feliz si eso fuese cierto no habria suicidio y asecinatos etc.

[@1sl2m]

the word extraordinary is so big, so inspirational.. I admire ellis grey's this speech

[@savannahbrown5722]

Meredith parents ndver deserved her. Mother a great surgeon but a lunatic and father a weak azzz drunk. Im glad meredith overcame her parents bs.

[@incredibilisLexi]

Ellen/Meredith is awesome!

[@aeraxxis]

Me and my mental health

[@bluesevern]

ok, it sounds strange but I understand Ellis, she was in love like Meredith and she just wanted to protect her....why everybody hates her?

[@thundercookie1014]

Valerie Bee because her words made Meredith try to kill herself...

[@sarapereira1454]

😍😔😔😔😔

[@MsTinkerbelle87]

Alzheimer’s is vicious!!

[@jeffyboi21]

“ ... a force of nature..” Cristina used this same phrase to Lexi. “Anyone can fall in love and be blindly happy..” I agree with her mother here. Derek did make her soft.

[@thundercookie1014]

jeffyboi21 Derek saves her from becoming her mother

[@jeffyboi21]

ThunderCookie101 He got in her way. She was able to do so much better after he died.

[@thundercookie1014]

jeffyboi21 not a person, maybe a better doctor but that doesn’t mean she was a better person for it. He actually saved her life so I don’t see how he “got in her way”, that makes no sense to me. If he hadn’t been there then there would be no season 13 because she would be DEAD. Derek was her “better half”

[@jeffyboi21]

ThunderCookie101 okay.

[@thundercookie1014]

jeffyboi21 kk

[@wengy44]

this scene started out so nice too