Grief Symptoms

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• Understanding the Symp...
Let's review the physical symptoms of Grief by understanding how our grieving brain works . How do Grief symptoms challenge the emotional work of Grief. Suggested tools to combat these physical symptoms of Grief.
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[@grieftherapist]

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[@Lizzy_333]

@@julesfarrell5724 your beloved son did not die because of you, please know that and seek help with a grief. Counselor please. I wish you the very best (I know it’s beyond painful) right now but I promise one day, you WILL be feel better and hopefully be able to tell your story to another early grieving mother. May god have his mercy on you sis 💕

[@DyanneGavin]

Thank you, I would love to join Jo's group but I cannot afford it, are there scholarships available?

[@richmilito5417]

Music in background is annoying, distracting and unnecessary.

[@judithkarpinsky8932]

Thank you.

[@fatimacorreia3221]

@@richmilito5417 sorry new at this, didn’t realize that the music was coming through.

[@kennethteo7974]

I am in another world. I cannot relate to my normal friends and they cannot understand me including family members. I only talk to those who lost someone they loved deeply. My threshold of pain has lowered. I cannot tolerate negative news, negative talks etc, I keep a distance. In short, loneliness.

[@sunshine-bs2jx]

I understand this

[@mattparr3038]

I hear ya mate.

[@melissatraficante503]

I feel this to the core rip my sweet mommy 😢😢😢

[@daisymay50kaufmann39]

I'm here for you, I literally just lost my mom and brother within 2 months. Why did they leave me here by myself

[@eric6242]

I’m feeling exactly the same

[@elaineking7]

Every word you have spoken describes where I am. My brain ruminates every minute of the day of my loss and I feel I'm in an eternal hell.

[@elineslone2443]

Omg this is exactly how i feel! I wish i could leave my body. I am literally staying strong just for my mum

[@cathsrq]

I find Joe Dispenza's work very helpful

[@craigsirianni7272]

Oh my God! When you quoted the C.S. Lewis comment about how “no one ever told him how much grief feels like fear, I finally realized I wasn’t losing my mind. Thank you!

[@marija2387]

I used to be an organised, orderly person. I'm simply not functioning as an adult anymore and am more like a demented old lady. I no longer have a daily routine, cook healthy meals, excercise, take care of myself. I find it difficult to validate reasons to live.

[@dianayano4828]

My Gregory died on July 18th of this year. I did not expect him to die, neither did he. We shared over 30 years together. I truly knew love because of him, never judgment, always love. I miss him beyond any sorrow I have ever known. I am afraid of everything now, and question everything I do. He made me always fear safe; I could always go to him. I love him so, and will always.

[@sunriseschubert4391]

My beloved mother died unexpectedly on October 6 2022 and I'm heartbroken 💔😭. I'm single and she lived with me my entire life. She was my mother, companion, best friend, everything. 😢. I'm praying to God for strength, healing, and resignation soon 🙏🏻✝️🕊️

[@melaniemcgee6272]

My mother passed on October 9th and I am still in shock. We were best friends and I don’t know what to do or how to move. I am still stuck

[@sunriseschubert4391]

@@melaniemcgee6272 What's helping me is prayer and the support of my brothers & sisters & friends. I know I'll carry this wound for the rest of my life, but I put my sorrows on Jesus Christ and our mother virgin Mary. 🙏🏻✝️

[@shauwiishiwhite521]

🙏🙏🙏

[@jleach3413]

Talk to her, she's living on through you. You get to speak life into her by sharing her character through you. I see parts of my dad that I mimic and that makes me feel closer to him. I'm always sharing how he's impacted my life and you can do that for your mom. Xoxo 💜

[@robertoastorga1023]

The most challenging symptom at this point is the physical and mental response. I feel heavy and depressed.

[@mapulemokgophi9980]

I went to a pastor to help ease my grief but the things he said was a pain in my eyes. I realised that I was seeking comfort in the wrong place. God is the healer of my grief.

[@przzuscomoditty]

Overwhelming fatigue. Overwhelming brain fog, so I have no desire to make decisions (I am usually the one in our family making all plans and decisions). Appetite is lower. Sleep is totally disrupted. I am going on 5 months of death grieving, but 2.5yrs of illness grieving, prior to mom's death. My head hurts from the waterfall of emotion coursing thru it. I crave hugs, affection, conversation, company, someone else's smile to distract me.

[@jacquelinebrutus8297]

I lost my mom a month ago, she had breast cancer. I was her caregiver for 4 years, saw her deteriorating. I feel lost, depressed, loss of concentration, sad. Im crying all the time. I miss her so much. We were very close. Im trying to deal with grief on my own. Thanks to this video I’m learning that I’m not the only one who feels the way I feel. 🙏

[@dawnholoboff3578]

I am sorry you lost your mom. 💔my mom and I were very close too. I lost her 3 months ago. I am feeling heartache, sadness and loneliness. It’s unbelievable

[@jacquelinebrutus8297]

@@dawnholoboff3578 sending healing prayers 🙏

[@jacquelinebrutus8297]

@@dawnholoboff3578 I’m so sorry for your loss. Sending you healing prayers 🙏

[@ry491]

I lost my wonderful wife 18 months ago after 56 years of love and devotion . I am no better now than on day one . I cannot accept she will never come back . I still have all her things just where she left them . I cry by the hour and don't want to see people . I am lonely beyond words and see no future without her . When I see people I try to be my old self because that is what is expected of me . However its just an act . I am broken in mind and spirit . I am no longer the same person . I often feel there is no point in carrying on . All I have are memories of the past and all they do is hurt me even more . I send love to anyone who reads this and I hope your personal pain eases .

[@adelaideoliveira8663]

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[@bevfaria3300]

I Grieve your loss sincerely .. I TOO have recently lost my husband after 50 years .. I liken my grief the same as yours .. sadly so .. the hurt .. longing .. are unbearable feelings .. the paralysis persists .. God bless us all at this terrible time of loss .. grief and mourning .. x

[@BUBBLESPOGO]

😢I'm so very sorry. I just lost my previous husband. Please continue to try

[@laurahigginsart]

I also loved what you said about how we turn inwards to protect ourselves from fear responses, and that affects our ability to make decisions, to enjoy things we used to, and to be curious about the world. That's SO good to know.

[@marceapardus6526]

I am so comforted by Jo’s Grief Support videos…Laura, your comment resonates with me ✨🦋✨

[@doresgonzalez1251]

I just keep misplacing things. Started to feel like I was going insane. your video really put things in perspective. Thank u so much

[@minervagalvez4748]

When my Mami died, I kept going, going, going, going, running away, and finally numbing. I crashed! I cried for days because I had bottled it up for 4 years. Now, I express my grief for my mother everyday whether it be crying, laughing or simply showing gratitude for having such a wonderful mom!

[@truthseeker3773]

Husband of 32 years died over a year ago. I still find motivation/ passion difficult. Still hard to feed myself. Still spend way too much time in bed. I'm nearly 60. People say I'm young and have much to look forward too. Would another companion/partner bring me joy again? Dunno, I think the work is to be done inside myself. I can speak gratitude, but the world is still grey. As someone with an artists heart, I find it difficult to look at this 'grey' world. The tiniest of things remind me of our future plans together. Yet life had other plans for me. I'm just broken, sad, mad, and tired. Send prayers of encouragement and faith in the future. Bless all of you who are grieving.

[@shauwiishiwhite521]

prayers for your strength during this loss. I pray you start to see colors in the world again and that your artist heart will create beauty.

[@przzuscomoditty]

So true. So true. I feel this. I cannot offer any words of consolation. I worry about losing my husband, after losing my mom a short while ago. But stop those thoughts quickly bc it only causes more unnecessary pain. I will send you my prayers.

[@Mranstedsf]

I know exactly what your going through.My husband left last Feb I call him my space cadet. I visualize him exploring the universe.I talk to him in my prayers. Hope he's having fun as he waits for me. I believe we'll meet again. I'd go nuts if I didn't hang on to that I often see him in my dreams I have a hard time looking at places we planned to travel to They say God.has a plan I keep.asking to be shown what that plan.is Why was.I left behind alone We did so much together Queen Elizabeth said with love comes pain. .All the best.to.you ...Nati A

[@lindajohnson9282]

I was already suffering work-related PTSD when both of my parents died in the same year. I was there when they both passed; Mum was in a nursing home so I was manually monitoring her heart rate and breathing, and was the one who called time of death. That was in 2008, and I’d already been living in a state of fear for the eight years prior. Have had so many problems with sleep (used to be able to sleep a lot, mainly due to the ridiculous medication they had me on… which ended up causing metabolic syndrome… great for someone with diabetes and heart disease strolling casually through their families). GI problems are par for the course; it’s an auto-immune thing, so I believe. Probiotics have been of immense help to manage the gastritis without the use of proton pump inhibitors. But I still have intestinal issues, which exploratory procedures have shown nothing unusual. It’s a psycho-somatic thing. Then there are all the other bizarre, one-off things, the two most notable are having throat problems, having an ultrasound and unsuccessful fine needle biopsy. Nodules in one side of my thyroid and microcalcifications in both. Wouldn’t have the biopsy done again, but went back for an ultrasound two weeks later and everything was normal. And my prolactin levels going through the roof, well past menopause, with no brain tumour in sight, and then bloods returning to normal after the scans. My personal take on this is that I’ve been locked in ever-increasing loads of grief, either primary or subsequent, and no-one can/will share my grief in order to diminish it. It makes me feel even worse because people get sick of me being depressed/sad/anxious etc. but they’re really part of the problem. Grieving people need to be with people who feel the same way they do, but preferably from within their own personal circle of loved-ones. And I also believe that grief is love with no-where to go. So I send you all much love and healing 🙏🏼❤️

[@joelburdsall9308]

My wife of 35 years passed away in March 2022. We did everything together including raising a child into a great man and running a business together for 15 years. I was my wife's 24/7 caregiver for the last 3 years. I feel the loss, yes, but the heavy feeling in my chest is really something that is new to me. I now know what heartbreak feels like. So meditation and deep breathing are helping for a while but I still have the underlying feeling of loneliness and loss.

[@lisabennett1253]

I am so sorry your wife passed away Joel. It is so painful and I hate for anyone to feel what we feel. Thinking of you and so sorry you are hurting.

[@soime5849]

I am sorry for your loss, Joel. I hope you find peace and healing 💕

[@terryhenson3350]

I loved my husband very much and miss him so much. He died a year ago. We were married 45 years. I go around sad a lot, but am functioning alright. I have resumed some of my interests, but not all of them. The thing that has caught me off guard the most is that I haven't cried as much as I thought I would. Certain music makes me cry, but I don't listen to it much to avoid crying. A group of friends contact me through texting and sending cards, but they all live out of state. My son has moved back home and he is a comfort to me and he helps me with things around the house. Our kids all took the loss of their dad pretty hard. Our son takes me to the cemetery whenever we want to go. Many friends just don't know what to say, so I think a lot of them don't call. I feel so lonely often times.

[@raew5263]

My whole life got hijacked. All I do is cry 😢- the sorrow is heavy most days. Grief is a thief, imo. Time doesn’t heal really. The loss becomes more profound. We are changed forever. 🙏🏻 Blessings to all

[@debrabatson6678]

Thankfully, I just found your channel. I am in deep grief and do not know what to do. Always a go-getter, this is horrible to feel.

[@zhannaallen4391]

I experienced all physical symptoms. I lost my beloved husband almost 2 months ago. I liked everything that was said in this video. I also understand, how difficult it is to deal with a grieving person. It requires a special touch.

[@Jukilady]

I so agree with this. My daughter who is 50 was diagnosed with untreatable cancer at Xmas 2022, she died last Friday in a hospice. I’m absolutely devastated but can’t show it in front of my granddaughter to support her. I lived for her and my granddaughter. Now at the stage where nothing means anything, yes it feels like heartbreak but understand it is brainbreak. It helps to understand this and this lady is brilliant.

[@tammymullins1151]

I lost my husband a year and a half ago. 41 years together. I have experienced many physical symptoms. I was never sick but the first several months I was sick a lot. Insomnia is still a problem. I lost weight. Finding purpose has been important to me, but difficult. The loss of people I thought would be there for me but who haven’t. Trying to find out who I am now without the person who loved me the most in the world. Having to make decisions without him is also something I’m struggling with now.

[@mariatoth4673]

I so understand. My husband & I were together 40 yrs. He died in aug 2022. It’s a difficult scary awful feeling. I’m over the shock of losing the love of my life. I am grieving him all the time. I’m not sleeping, insomnia if you will. Although I have a great support system, I still want to lock myself in the house & be alone. Some days I think I’ve made it back to me. Most days I’m still lost. I try my best to go out everyday even if it’s for an hour. I have accepted the fact that the grief of losing him will always be with me. I keep waiting for the day it starts to become tolerable. I pray for all that are grieving.. May God Bless them. Always keep Jesus in your heart, knowing that He is healing us everyday, even though we can’t feel that healing. Many prayers to all throughout this difficult journey. 🙏🏻🙏🏻💔💔

[@tammymullins1151]

@@mariatoth4673 thank you. Yes without Jesus I don’t know what I would do. He is healing me slowly but surely. Sorry you are walking this path too. God bless you.

[@annekebrinkhof991]

I so understand what you mean It could be my story Wish you strenght and peace of mind

[@mariatoth4673]

@@annekebrinkhof991 Thank you 🙏🏻💔

[@celiafodero7350]

Chronic pain, fatigue... grief HURTS

[@annlazzeri618]

My husband of 35 years passed away last month and I didn't realize how much fear is playing a part in my grief....

[@martinadanielova4867]

First four months after my dad passed away suddenly I felt like I was dying myself. I had high blood pressure, panic attacks, couldn’t breath, woke up in sweat every night to the point Iwas afraid to go sleep..so I had insomnia and my brain just stopped functioning. …I never thought I would be able to start sleep or working again. When I realised how much love my father had for me I started to feel that love all around me. It filled my presence and my healing started. Knowing my father isn’t looking for me because he is elsewhere but feeling him and his love allowed me to finally sleep..Accepting my physical symptoms and not fighting them made them to become less intense. I realised I started to avoid people. Not because I didn’t need them. But because I was afraid to be close to them and loose them. Losing a loved one is as traumatic as death itself. Living with the fear and grief is even worse. I am not over it yet and I still struggle to look forward to the future. Or be excited of any of it when it feels so uncertain and it’s as if the clocks are ticking. There is no happily ever after after finding out how life can hurt us the most. But the love we felt and feel is worth it. I know I loved because it hurts so much.

[@myheroesofamerica719]

I lost my Dad a week ago. I'm going to find a grief support group and one on one therapy. Your youtube is great. Thank you.

[@MsChimerical]

Yes, grief causes us to behave in many different ways. I never imagined that in response to my loss I would be frantically cleaning the house, often in the early morning hours. That phase lasted a few months and now I am mostly dealing with feeling alone and on my own. It's tough when the one person who truly understood you is gone. But anyways, this video was nicely done and very calming.

[@grieftherapist]

Thank you Ms. Chimerical! Early morning hours are a vulnerable time. I hope you find some ease in your grief. 💞

[@louised9396]

I have lost my husband 4 months ago. It has taken me about 2 months to be able to cry. I was afraid of the sadness overwhelming me, but now I realise that crying is also a releasing of pain after which I feel somewhat more relaxed. But now I am feeling more and more depressed, not enjoying anything I liked doing before. Interesting that you mention fear as well, I am feeling the fear of loosing my sanity and also the fear of staying numb for the rest of my life. Knowing this belongs to a certain phase of mourning is comforting.

[@williamclymer1602]

Lost. My wife of 53 years February 12th 2022, have 100% PTSD from Vietnam. Every day seems like never ending despair.

[@moirahill6397]

It sounds like you're having a very difficult time. I'm so sorry 😞 Sending hugs, praying for peace to come into your heart and soul and thanking you for your service because it's people like you who have kept us all safe. God bless ❤

[@lawrenceroberts6674]

Well this has been so useful, it really helped explain the mess I am in, I am very frightened, now my wife of 35 year has passed with cancer on the 17th of October after an awful 25 month battle. Lonely, not eating, not drinking, little hope, I am just 60 and I actually thought I was dying too. Thank you for such well presented advice, so concise, really made my think this evening, about trying to have a relationship with my grief.

[@longrifle.]

Different Circumstances, same grief. I thought the death of my father, my hero, was hard. But this is debilitating! As men we are taught if you do certain things in life it makes you less of a man. I am at the point i dont care what it takes, man or not. I have to do something. Its obvious i cant find my way through this on my own, i can barely care for myself or most times form a complete thought. This has convinced me its time for therapy, as hard as that is to admit to myself. In my grief research i came across the national widowers organization. Perhaps those that have been through what you have can offer some help. Good luck

[@friedaticer3156]

I lost my husband of 59 years in May and Iam totally frozen with fear of anything to do with paying bills,driving,and I don’t want any communication with people,except my sister.

[@alisoncarr3722]

It consumes my thoughts all the time. My mum collapsed and died suddenly and unexpectedly. She was 80, I don’t feel her age is relevant though. The loss is enormous. I’ve lost her and in a way, I’ve lost my Dad too as he is a broken man without her. They did absolutely everything together. I think about her all the time, I feel sad that she is missing out on life and I look to the sky and ask out loud where she is. The overwhelming loss and emotion is huge. It’s so final, nothing I can do to get her back and I miss her more than words can describe. I’ve lost interest in everything. I’m not living, I’m existing.

[@lv5980]

my sincere condolences - it is so hard - I hope you can find a support group to share with - I am going to one this week looking to share with others

[@jrwheeler81]

I can totally relate to all of this. Grief truly does feel EXACTLY like the most intense fear you've ever felt. I very suddenly and unexpectedly lost my husband almost 7 months ago. We had been together for 22 years, since I was only 18 years old. His passing left me in a state of paralyzing shock for the first several months, but I definitely experienced intense feelings of fear. I just couldn't wrap my head around the fact that he is gone and I was (and still am) terrified of the uncertainty of my future without him. The night before his passing, we were eating pizza and making plans for the house that we were in the process of buying. The very next day, not even 24 hours later, he was gone. When he passed away in the emergency room, it was almost like getting punched in the face and having whiplash. Ever since then, I've been an entirely different person. Having been with my husband since I was only 18 years old and having never been on my own before, fear has been the most prominent feeling I've experienced in my grief. I still bought the house that we were going to buy together, but I constantly question all of my decisions, wondering if I'm doing the right thing. My husband and I always made decisions together as a couple. It was never just me. Now, it is. He was my best friend, my rock, and my soulmate. We were a team. Even nearly 7 months later, I'm still having an extremely difficult time coming to terms with his death. I still feel as though he was just here. We were rarely ever apart in the 22 years we were together and did everything together. Not having that constant companionship anymore has been a massive shock to my system. I don't know how long it will take me to come out of this state, but I know that I will ALWAYS grieve the loss of the love of my life. He was my first and only true love and I miss him so much it hurts.

[@marilynmccormick3731]

I can feel the pain in your words. The agony of your loss is overwhelming. When my first son died I would sometimes wonder how my heart kept beating, how my lungs kept breathing, but they did. Now with the recent death of another son, I feel those same feelings again and wonder why I don't die from such a wounded heart. I wish you healing of the deep, paralyzing pain you are feeling so you will be able to smile again. For me, journalling helps; it brings my thoughts out of my heart onto paper. Every couple of weeks I re-read the disjointed and desperate words of pain I wrote and I sorta mockingly say to myself, yes this person understands me. It might sound crazy but it somehow helps.

[@susankotchea3046]

Dad went missing 12 yr ago. He was 92 yo. How can he just go missing? He could barely walk alone. 2 weeks later we (not the police) found evidence he may have been harmed badly and died and buried somewhere. I feel angry at times the police did not take us serious. I'm suspicious of family members that were there at that time. I have anxiety and panic attacks, heart palpatatings. I miss my dad dearly. And often wonder what happen to him. Please pray for us. 😢😔🙏🕯

[@moirahill6397]

That is so awful on so many levels. My heart goes out to you and I pray you will find peace ❤

[@tonyacook3281]

Goodness, LOVE YOUR HEART. I’m going to remember you in my prayers. My heart will goes out to you forever. ❤️

[@corrado533]

The hardest thing for me is reaching out to people. My partner and I were together for almost 19 years. With his sudden death 2 weeks ago, I now feel overwhelmed by other people. For years these people have been quite distant. The only person I had to reach out to, was him, we were a team, it was just us and our children. I'm also finding the paperwork and phone calls hard. I've lost weight, including muscle mass. I was already quite skinny. The shock of my weightloss has helped boost my appitite or make a conscious effort to force it. Having children I still have to try to keep them fed/safe/clean/normal. I just want to cry or sit and stare into space but I can't, which is probably a good thing. But it also reminds you of a team member being gone. He was an awesome cook. I am dreading things breaking. I need to learn DIY to finish fixing our home. I can't believe I am now alone.

[@e.m.n6032]

I am grieving the loss of my husband. He passed away this January 2022. The physical I feel is pressure on my chest and hard to breathe. I don't like to leave home or do anything because it's not the same without him. We did everything together to the point I didn't have to ask he just knew. Crying just comes it hits and you can't stop. He was my world... What I lived for, my reason for living. I miss him so much especially in the evening when he should be walking thru my door. I still talk to him as if he was here... It gives me some comfort. Loneliness, emptiness and lost is what I'm dealing with more. I miss him so much.

[@gknowles5415]

I will pray for you and your peace of mind.. Take it one step at a time. I have been there.. Cry as much as you need. Find comfort with those that mean a lot to you. You're feeling this pain because this is REAL.. just always remember that ..

[@e.m.n6032]

@@gknowles5415 thank you so much. I appreciate it very much.

[@gknowles5415]

@@e.m.n6032 You're welcome. Its ok to cry, its ok to feel sad, its ok to miss them, its ok to feel lonely... This is ALL apart of the grieving process. Dont run away from it and dont get scared.. Embrace it, you will feel so much better

[@lindaosborne1617]

hallo EM I lost my husband last October. I feel for you. so true that grief is different from one person to another. I have felt many things. It is a challenge. safety and control is essential.

[@toniwaugh1823]

Hi E.M.N. My husband also passed away in January 2022. Just a week after we celebrated his 55th birthday. I could sense that my beloved husband wasn't himself since the Fall of 2021 after having a terrible fall outside of our home. We did everything together for 21 years. I miss him terribly as well. July 20th,2022 would have marked our 20th wedding anniversary. That day will definitely be a difficult one for me. I feel cheated but at the same time I'm comforted that his severe pain of osteoporosis and his congenital heart disease is now long gone. Take baby steps . One day, one minute of a time.

[@bonniebikowski7478]

Dear beautiful souls. I just lost my little baby boy Saturday 3-26-22. I am in unbearable heartache pain to the core of my soul!💔😢😭 please pray🙏 sending love and light from my heart to yours❤🙌🌈💜

[@bhupinderbrar5567]

May God bless u

[@nakeacallender8267]

I lost my son too Almost a year ago. I'm praying for us. I love you

[@insideoutbeauty3170]

i cannot imagine your loss, my heart is with you, sending you love and light.

[@j.aolani6869]

🙏🏽 Praying the Lords comfort and strength over you. In Jesus mighty name♥️💔♥️

[@kelleymcfadden9675]

So sorry for your loss! God bless you. I know grieving over the loss of a loved one can often seem unbearable to the point where you don't even know how to function at times. I'd like to share my best friend's story with you because she offers such wonderful hope. Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** Tribute to Ethan Lakey kzbin.info/www/bejne/e5nSk5aHj5uEmJo

[@bellinthetree8949]

Hi Joe. I have come back to hear your kind words. It has been a difficult family Christmas and I am having a major relapse. I am hurting. This coming January 9th will be one year since my Mary’s death. I pray for her every night. Now everything has come back to me at once, being alone at 81, still capable but not eating, sleeping badly, not showering. I had a mental health visitor who was a confidante and I have been prescribed mirtazipine, 45 mg, but it is as if I am once again at that terrible precipice. I must say there is something about your message that has a special comfort for me. Thank you for still being around. Edward.

[@mjs499]

I feel disconnected to people places around me. Loose interests in things I enjoy. Feeling lonely. Sleep a lot.

[@cecpartygurl]

I lost my blind brother. In August of 2022. He was my everything, 54 years together. I took care of him. Now I feel dead inside. I don't know what to do with my life. I just can't find anything that pleases me. I just want to be with him.

[@cassandraheard7811]

❤

[@BernadetteOntong]

Hugs💞🌹

[@moirahill6397]

My heart is with you. Sending hugs 🫂

[@sybille1234]

First it was crying for two days straight. Now my body sometimes just cramps and it feels that there aren't any tears left. Then sometimes tears come up. Sometimes I cry out very loud, sounds that I never knew my voice could produce. I hear the tone of her voice, some comments that were typical for her. My appetite is at times now coming back. I don't enjoy things anymore that I really liked before. It's often a sad "she would have liked this", "she would have found this funny", "she can't enjoy the day and the sun anymore". Sometimes my body out of the blue takes a deep breath and releases it. It's all different now. My whole reactions are different. I have a hard time concentrating, sometimes even a hard time finding words (in a normal context).

[@virginiag5580]

My brain is in denial. Keep thinking my husband will come through the front door any minute. He suddenly passed 20 days ago from a Pulmonary Embolism, he was a healthy 42 year old man, we were together for 15 years. I cannot comprehend he’s gone. I’m heartbroken 😢

[@fosagenespringer7757]

I’m so sorry. Your husband was way too young, and I’m sure you were shocked by his sudden death. I know how exhausting and relentless grief can be. Hugs and prayers🙏❤️🙏

[@virginiag5580]

@@fosagenespringer7757 thank you. I’m still in very much disbelief, I cannot understand it. 😢

[@BUBBLESPOGO]

Awww. I'm crying for you. I'm so sorry for your heartbreaking situation 😢

[@virginiag5580]

@@BUBBLESPOGO thank you. It is very sad and for me as time passes it seems to become more real so it hurts more. Blessings 🙏

[@jamiewilliams8107]

My fiancee died a few days ago and I was with her when she passed,if it wasn't for the support from locals and our cat don't think I'd cope,pets are a great distraction for grief.

[@clairetwomey7936]

As my mother's coffin was being lowered into her grave, I caught myself breathing more heavily - laboured, sad breaths. Six months later, I still catch myself breathing like this.

[@louisejohnson6625]

My husband died in 2020 during covid shutdown. I could think, I couldn't drive myself I couldn't concentrate, I was like a robot I knew the things I had to do and did them but couldn't think coherent enough to hardly go in the kitchen and cook myself a meal it get a glass of water. yeah I felt like I was losing my mind. In three months I lost 20 lbs. All I did was cry for the first three months and prayed, then one day I said Lord I can't live like this I need help. I continued to cry that day, but the next day I cried less and each day it got easier to cope. With the real world. It's been 2 years and now I'm doing much better, sometimes I still cry over the smallest things but God is good and always helps me through another day.

[@jrwheeler81]

Same here. My husband passed away almost 7 months ago very suddenly and unexpectedly. We were together for 22 years. I had been with him since I was only 18 years old and became a widow at 40. I, too, have lost a significant amount of weight since his passing and my sleep habits have entirely changed. I used to always be a total night owl and stay up until 4 or 5 in the morning. Now, I'm in bed and asleep between 12 and 1 a.m. because I'm just so exhausted by the end of the day. I feel like an empty vessel that's just going through the motions each day. I can barely even focus or concentrate because all I can think about is how much I miss him and how lonely I am. I hate this life and this feeling. :(

[@lizelleschonken4142]

My husband also died from covid early 2021. Today i hear that grief is a fear response. So true for me. I didn't want to get emotional because i would have terrible heart palpitations after crying. This helps alot with understanding the way i feel.

[@Apollo_Blaze]

I feel scared/afraid all the time. sometimes worse than other times but it is always there...I am so glad to see you talking about feeling scared...I think I feel it worse at night...Thank you for talking about that here and for being here for us

[@deecee901]

Pretending to like my life is my biggest challange.

[@bellinthetree8949]

I have only recently discovered and no one ever told me that going over and over past events and ‘I wish I had only…’ thoughts is an obsessive compulsive disorder. Edward.

[@myrnahernandez6244]

I have to understand about expectations during my grief. Grief is so lonely 🥺

[@fosagenespringer7757]

Now know why I freeze and eventually throw out food give. To me.I also don’t always want to socialize. I get the feeling most people don’t get what I’m going through.

[@user-do9rt3ov1g]

Thank you so much for sharing! I lost my husband of 27 years to brain cancer July 8, 2022. I’m on medication and I felt that all these symptoms you mentioned were just side effects from the meds. You have helped me understand grief a lot better. Great info!!!!

[@jackieshearer1339]

I lost my husband 01/12/2021 to covid after 40 years … I’m now having a lot of muscle pain all over and so tired and even after having 2 new grand babies I just want to be on my own but I do love them all

[@Bluebalicious]

My. Life stopped. I wouldn’t drink, or eat my life became surreal and as if I was in a movie. I’ve become something I’m not. Grief has become a very serious, critical place for me. Grief is a killer.

[@simplyaj4006]

My husband of almost 13 yrs passed 2 months ago from cardic arrest ..taking it day.by day. I find this video to be helpful..thank you.

[@auntiebarnes]

Hugs.

[@normavelez9945]

I lost my dad a month ago… 😞.. Grief is so hard… loss of appetite… panic attacks.. anxiety… Everything you said I’m feeling.., I feel as if I’m sick… It’s something new everyday …. It’s so hard .. I don’t feel myself… I just want to feel normal again…. I miss my dad so much 😞… THE FEAR is real ..

[@insideoutbeauty3170]

my heart goes out to you, i loss my dad suddenly on the 14th of february. I also have anxiety at times, fear of loosing everyone i love. What helps me is to reach out , talk, and cry about it , stay connected with loved ones. I am sending you so much love. I also miss my dad immensely

[@freethinker2381]

Same here. I lost my dad 10 days ago. It hurts so much 😢😭. You are not alone. Stay strong 💙

[@normavelez9945]

@@insideoutbeauty3170 so sorry for your loss.. & Thank you for your words.. I’m doing much better now.. I’ve got a daily reading routine & praying & talking to God & walking daily.. Talking about it helps too.. crying if you need it .. ♥️🙏🏽

[@normavelez9945]

@@freethinker2381 so sorry for your loss.. It’s so hard.. Best thing to do is keep busy and get a daily routine going to keep our minds busy…

[@insideoutbeauty3170]

@@normavelez9945 xxx sending a big hug

[@sirenofsound]

The shallow breath symptom was a huge surprise! I'm a classically trained singer, and I just can't... Get... There right now. Executive function and reptilian brain responses are also both shocking and validating. I haven't heard anyone tell me that this is a bio response yet. Incredible. Thank you for your video. I lost my mom almost 2 weeks ago and this is just anguish. It's an emotional roller coaster.

[@nadiawright8999]

All relate with me but my biggest obstacle was about the parasympathetics system. I lost my partner 4 months ago in a motorbike crash and was first on the scene. I suffered from major anxiety attacks within this time and still do in random moments. I did not eat for days on end, I drank alot of alcohol and I never slept, when I did, I had bad nightmares. Now, I seem to sleep way too much and have my days where I still don't feel like eating but am trying to my best to help this. Thankyou for this video, it really helped me understand a bit more about these things. I felt like i was just going crazy!

[@ruthsears7783]

Fear and indesiveness esp on wake. No appetite. I want to sleep but I can’t.

[@annekebrinkhof991]

Feals like fear! Exactly

[@happygirl532]

Thank you so much, my son was murdered on 4/23/ 2021, you have explained a lot, I’ve been tired, scattered, and fearful, and yes I need to take time for myself, I’ve tried to be available at all times for my daughters, but now I need to be here for me

[@kendratate4483]

My son was murdered 6-28-2021. My heart is shattered. Sending healing energy and prayers to you🙏🏾😔

[@grieftherapist]

Yours is such a recent and tragic loss....Sending hope for you to find some ease in your Grief Symptoms. 💟

[@grieftherapist]

Kendra, yours is also such a recent and tragic loss...Sending healing energy to hold your heart. ❤️

[@justine1271]

My daughter 30 (who had 4 children) and her friend 27 (who had 2 children) both girls were violently murdered in 2020. Me and my husband are now raising my daughters four children. I am trying so hard to remain strong for her children but sometimes it’s so hard.

[@lv5980]

my deepest sympathy- thank God those girls have you and your husband to care for them

[@fosagenespringer7757]

I’m so sorry for your tragic loss. Life is hard. God bless you and your husband for taking care of those two girls. Sending hugs and prayers for all of you.❤️🙏❤️

[@user-kp6ug7fe7h]

Im 17 years past losing husband to cancer. What helped me was physical activity. I rode my bike every other day, i learned to play piano, and traveled and slowly, i felt better. Took about 6 years. Now i have a wonderful guy and am happy again. Hang in there and make yourself active even though you are in pain

[@RobynSnyder-rr5wv]

Thank you! I needed your encouragement today ❤

[@martierowe5955]

Listening to this have actually reassured me I am not loosing my mind but I am grieving

[@beulahmashego]

I lost my partner on the 6th of February and we buried him on the 16th.i was sitted before my ringlight on the 1st of February proceeding my vlog only to receive a call from him that I must come see him at his place. I went there within 30 minutes he fell after praying for the food ,I helped him sit on a chair he was no longer able to stand on his own.helped him drink juice and water ,I was totally unaware that he was leaving me although he was sick and recently discharged from icu ,I totally wasn't aware that he gonna leave I am in so much pain,he was my best friend ,that same night we rushed him to the hospital and he was taken to High care I thought he'd wake up from the coma,after 4days he left .we were together for 6 years and I'm not coping .I cry a lot and experience chest pain and shortness of breath, grief has isolated me ,I stopped going to church ,when I sometimes take a walk on the streets I feel like everyone sees my tears.i miss him so much and I'm so scared 😭😭😭

[@1stdirective6]

All of these make perfect sense. Decisions elude me and hence making plans to live my life impossible.

[@oliviamarie4590]

For me, I’ve been experiencing all of these. September 24th I lost my sister to Covid. It was sudden and unexpected and by far the hardest thing I’ve ever experienced. I found myself wanting to do things but lacked the follow through.. like my mind and body are not aligned. I shut off the entire world. I’m normally a social person so it took me by surprise to see just how much I rather shut everything out. I love how you mentioned getting back into your body because that’s what it feels like. I’m trying so hard to do that and get back to life. I am scared and without realizing I’m scared. Everything I knew I feel I’ve forgotten. I just miss my sister. The expectations part was the best part for me to hear. Thank you!

[@reverenddeborahedwardsdth5460]

My sweet baby girl, I know losing your sister has been the hardest thing you have been through. Janelle would want you to go on. No matter how much pain we are in I am always here for you also. She isn’t suffering anymore she is with her brothers and the rest of the family that has gone before us. Thank you sweetheart for showing me this video I have subscribed to it. Janelle may not be here physically but she is always with you hold on to the beautiful memories of an amazing sister that loved you so very much. This video has been very helpful, it doesn’t make the pain go away as we both know. The 1 thing I know is I am here for you always. I love you sweetheart.

[@marianhofmann6380]

I have no interest in anything. No joy in anything I have to get things done. Get my taxes done. Get my car inspected. I can’t do it. I feed my dogs. But that is an effort. I have no interest in food. I find it hard to watch TV. especially shows we would watch . Rob died Feb 22 so it’s a little over a month.

[@afraislam9147]

Hey, you're not alone in this.

[@Grungefan2018]

Oh you are not alone. Not at all. I know it feels like you're alone. I'm so glad you spoke up cause I feel very alone.

[@hestervanstaden6205]

Feeling the same. Lostmy Husvand 30 Dec21 due to covid. Find it very hard to except the way he suffered his last 2 weeks on the ventilator.

[@kelleymcfadden9675]

You are definitely not alone. Jesus loves you more than you can ever want to be loved and he knows exactly what you are going through. Let Him be your comfort through the scriptures. Please allow me to share my best friend's story. Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** Tribute to Ethan Lakey kzbin.info/www/bejne/e5nSk5aHj5uEmJo

[@kelleymcfadden9675]

@@Grungefan2018 you are not alone. Jesus loves you more than you could ever want to be loved and He is waiting with open arms to help you and comfort you if you will turn to Him. Please allow me to share my best friend's story. Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** Tribute to Ethan Lakey kzbin.info/www/bejne/e5nSk5aHj5uEmJo

[@sharomscheller1430]

I am experiencing several of those symptoms in different categories however the one that affects me most is the not being able to think clearly and difficulty remembering things. There are times that I question my sanity.

[@atoetsie]

Oh my goodness, I held onto the hope that this year March I would have "finally made it 1 year" since my mom's passing. Only to find that since then I've felt a steady decline in my attitude, emotions, desires & just overall outlook on life. All I want to do is sleep. Just be with myself. Cause I'm still grieving. And I didn't know I would still feel this way "a year later". I'd love to learn more about getting into a relationship with my grief. That one sentence changed my whole perspective ❤️ Thank you Jo. I'm not losing my mind, I'm just grieving.

[@grieftherapist]

Toetsie That makes me so happy to hear that my video brought you a new perspective. That's where awareness and change can start!! Be sure watch my next video as I review my humble theory of Grief Stages that might help you to navigate a new relationship with your Grief. 1 year anniversary of loss can be a very tricky time and often " symptoms" re emerge. So yes you are Grieving.

[@marceapardus6526]

“I’m just grieving” has become my go to phrase to others & my mantra for me…Toetsie, your comment resonates deeply, big gratitude ✨🦋✨

[@aaronhorvath3291]

Everything you talked about in the video is exactly what I'm going through. It is so tough. Prayers are the only thing for me that helps

[@Mishyree]

Lost my Mom two weeks ago.She was bedridden for a year and a half and I cared for her as well as having a full-time job ( my kids assisted as well). So unsure whether what I am feeling is okay.I have days when I feel like it never even happened, sailed through the funeral (had total control and comforted everyone else) .Other days i burst out in tears in the store or when a stranger randomly asks how I am It's an uneasy feeling that I could never even begin to describe.Been eating everything that's bad..shaky ground.

[@jobo8143]

I'm experiencing EXTREME BRAIN FOG and it made me search for videos like this. I actually got lost driving to work where I have been going for 25 years!!! I'm having a hard time thinking clearly, executive function.

[@melissawilson3944]

My little sister died this past August. When I would drive to work I would get nervous because I couldn’t recognize where I was. I’d been taking that drive for four years. Gradually that fog went away with time for me.

[@jobo8143]

After a few days the fog cleared. I'm okay. I spend a lot of time in prayer.

[@debbiehaferkorn6259]

Lost 4 family members in 2020. I cry at least 5 times a day. Crying so deep my heart feels real pain. So sad and alone. Does anyone cry and hurt so deep, after 2 years? I have times that it is hard to find a reason to continue.

[@danielstocks6943]

It's been 2 years and I feel it still. Especially the fear

[@judygrubaugh5424]

I lost 4 as well in 2020 and 2021. I cry every day. Not a crier by nature it took some getting used to, but I find I need these tears

[@happydays3678]

You're traumatised as well as grieving after such a devastating loss. Please, if you haven’t already, seek help from others. Speak to your Doctor about your desolate thoughts. Blessings 🙏❤

[@ButterflyMcCoy]

I have experienced eight deaths in 18 months, from my father and grandmother to my best friend/mentor, meditation teacher, a musician friend and a beloved dog, who was hit by a car and died bleeding in my arms. I am shellshocked to the point where it never occurred to me as I take care of all the memorials, that I might be having effects. I’ve never been guided on the subject of grief at all. It’s a relief to learn that my complete lack of interest in my creative work could be related. A real relief because it’s extremely unlike me. Usually I am incredibly inspired and motivated, but right now I feel like I’m just trying to find my way out of a tailspin that I didn’t know I was in till I saw this. So thank you. I subscribed . 💖

[@maswartz8689]

I feel you. Sounds like my story, mostly my dead puppy in June about killed me after losing everyone else. Peace be with us. Thank you. Subscribed.

[@biondna7984]

I started yoga about a year and a half before my beloved spouse died of Alzheimer's. That and the breath work my teacher emphasizes during the practice, have been wonderful in helping me release pain and tension in my body, heart, mind and soul. Where I'm confused is, where does my grief for my lost husband end, and my grief for myself begin, and is this all the same bereavement? I cared for him for six years before he died of Alzheimer's. As the book title "The Long Goodbye" puts it so well, I grieved his (steadily increasing) absence for a LONG time. When he died more than a year and a half ago, I was already used to living without him. When I cry now it feels most of the time about feeling sad and sorry for myself, that I'm lonely, and want a loving man in my life again. Is this bereavement too? I miss him but I'm glad he's free from Alzheimer's.

[@Jade_902]

I’ve had way too many losses in a very short time. Today is one of those extremely hard days of despair.

[@rositareyes8583]

May God Bkess you and our mother mary cover you in her arms of love

[@Jade_902]

@@rositareyes8583 Thank you so much. I have a strong devotion to the Blessed Mother. I’m also a rosary maker.

[@rositareyes8583]

@@Jade_902 that is wonderful to hear. I just started praying the rosary and I know understand the strong love and devotion people have to the blessed mother. I am going to keep near her to help me move along with my struggles. God and the rosary are very powerful he promises to heal all our wounds. God Bless! 💖♥️

[@karonroach790]

I'm still a widow, and as I had chosen to be attached to one person until I died, he beat me to it. It's been four years. I told him that I would manage and endure so he wouldn't worry while being so.desperately sick. I am doing well, but I feel like I dangle from a connection I will never end. Navigating on my own is still influenced by how I know he would do it, which was always a relief. What do I want? I don't know. I pursue ways to deal, yet often I don't want to deal at all. I'm not sure why I'm sending you a comment. You seem to know what's going on.

[@katescott5]

Thank you for this video. It has made me feel I am not going crazy. My grief is like a rollercoaster. I have really good days and really bad ones where my grief is overwhelming. Remembering to drink, eat I seem to now have under control, but sleeping and nighttime are the worst.

[@vernonelmer3978]

It's been 5 months now since my brother passed away and I miss him every day. Now I'm all alone with no other family or friends for support. I find myself unable to leave my house for days at a time.

[@ARCH-INNERGY]

Dearest Jo I do a crisis counciling for people in ntense emotional pain. Very rarely are there therapists on your level of ❤️. You're a real gift to all.

[@judygrubaugh5424]

Agreed.

[@margaretrochester9342]

I lost my son he was just 27 I miss him so much I feel like I can’t go on without him. I have 2 other son that lord Jesus Christ blessed me with I adore them there wonderful young man, my heart is broken💔

[@Twystedsista]

I just lost my brother a couple of weeks ago he was 30. My mom looks pitiful, I look pitiful.....it's just a mess. I'm sorry for your loss 😢.

[@Becky-pv4yg]

I lost my son suddwnly aged 21 at the end of February- i can feel my heart pumping out of my chest, i have a burning in my chest, i know its true but cant accept it. I have another son who is doing so well- i am so sad for him and for the bpy i lost- i feel nothing will ever make me happy ever again

[@margaretrochester9342]

I’m so sorry for your loss 😞 I feel your pain may our lord be with us😞 we must go on, my faith knowing that one day we will meet again I’ll give him that kiss the hug I so much need we’re in your hand lord❤️

[@ruthsears7783]

I have all the feelings you mentioned. I’m having a lupus flare. Painful and nauseous. I liked the grief hostess term. I’m a codependent people pleaser but I want to isolate. My 27 year old daughter died a week ago. We lived together since my husband died last year. Your video appealed to my logical analytical need for explanation and my emotional need to handle my feelings. Thanks

[@mysterydiaz5302]

My 27 year old daughter died in 2020. My first daughter died in my 8th month of pregnancy. I have no family due to narcissistic mother and her flying monkey and narcissistic children. It’s taken me a life time to understand and digest the til ghecNarc family played

[@jillmontgomery4856]

I think I have all of the symptoms of grief. Frozen, totally withdrawn, sitting in my room..I had been married for 50 yrs. I see no future.

[@moonglow7303]

I sit outside in my car with the heater on in freezing rain 🌧 during the day, and sunset in the eves. I write notes to myself to drink water and eat something, anything.

[@moonglow7303]

I never married. Currently feel withdrawn as well and isolate myself.

[@SalomaMohammed]

My husband died April 22/2023,I missed him dearly can't slp sometimes, can't eat, all or concentrate properly...missed him dearly.Only when yr in it u know...

[@deborahpalmer8298]

I feel the same. I lost my husband, a Veteran, on November 11, 2022. I wake to feelings of impending doom, feeling panic and fearful most of the time. Haven't got through even 1 day without tears, seeing couples together makes me cry. Driving home after being out is the worst; I cry all the way home knowing my Jim won't be there to hold me. Life has no purpose or meaning anymore.

[@HeatherReid-pk2wd]

So true.

[@HeatherReid-pk2wd]

So true

[@user-zj1ig9ni3r]

So true. I lost my beloved husband in February 2023. I miss him so very much. My Everything. Life for me is so different now.

[@jasminsantiago1390]

Losing my oldest son it's been hard so hard going thru my emotions 💔waking up different and I miss him so much I Need to breathe at times

[@leoniegray6404]

Lost my boy to acute t cell lymphoblastic leukemia on the 16th of September . I have no hunger, no joy , nothing left but tears and sore shoulders .

[@sharonlujan9497]

I am just in a wheelchair all my grief has absoluttely overwhelmed me!!!

[@sharnelgezwint3990]

I still have to process the passing of my mother... November 1st it's 1 year since she's gone. I haven't dealt with it... I miss my mother.

[@CarrieMInFL]

In 2019 I lost my 2 Cavalier King Charles Spaniels due to Cancer and Heart disease ages Emma 11yo and Stella 7yo. I have always been such a strong go getter and had high achieving power jobs but still in 2022 I can’t seem to move on and be who I was or want to be now. The lymbic system that you talked about in this episode is exactly what I am doing or better not doing. I don’t want to leave my house. I was blaming it on COVID but that’s not true. Nothing is as special as it was before. It’s a new norm that is like a black cloud .I have a new sweet Cavalier Henry , he is 3. I pour all my grief into him and latch on for emotional support. That’s a lot to carry for a sweet little dog. I will watch more of your channel and hope I can arise above this WHEN I better understand why I have these avoidant behaviors.

[@vikkibutler5813]

My husband and I were married 62 years. I was only 16 when we started life together. He died a few months ago but I am having a difficult (to put it mildly) time with grieving not only the loss of him but grieving the loss of my whole life. I've known only being his wife since I was nearly a child. I have family and friends, but my life as I knew it is gone.😿

[@richardmcguinn732]

Oh I’m really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will want to see us happy wherever they’re. I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lockdown in a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 God and time are indeed the best healers.

[@janelleblair8410]

I hope you find peace

[@lv5980]

I also went from my parents house to my husbands house - and it is very disconcerting to be alone and on one's own now - makes the house feel very different! It takes a while to settle in to a solitary life - and I recommend getting out with friends/family/ volunteering - anything to be out with others a portion of every day

[@Mranstedsf]

I was in the hospital with COVID My husband was murdered I never saw him again until he was ashes I can't listen to music we listened to together I keep his pictures under my pillow It's hard for me to look at them I can't cook anything he loved.I constantly look at cloths I'd normally buy for him He was so handsome and we'll dressed.We were going to travel but it's all gone now I'm 70 to old to start over Our only son is too important and busy to be botherrd .

[@AfricanSpiritChronicles]

Am so sorry that you are in pain. I pray that you find peace and comfort from the least excepted places.

[@Mranstedsf]

@@AfricanSpiritChronicles thank you it's veryhard

[@AfricanSpiritChronicles]

@@Mranstedsf 💕💕 sending hugs.

[@juliesherman6710]

Thank you so much, my husband, and a Dear friend passed away in 2022. I thought I was loosing my mind. Though your messages I’m understanding my grief.

[@poppyharper5531]

Thank you for your video, this has made a lot of sense! I am 2 years and 1 month into my grieving process and have now come to realise that I will grieve forever, as opposed to thinking, " I'll get through it or it will be better after year 1". Grief is the most painful and traumatic experience of my life and something I was never prepared for or really understood. After it happened I was in a state of shock, disbelief and as if I was on autopilot with sorting everything out and then year 2 hit and I felt even worse!! It was if this huge wave hit me and the reality of the situation and my life would be forever changed. There are many dark days, emotions, sadness and tears, which drains all my energy and in the mist of all of this you are still floating with life, work and responsibilities.

[@grieftherapist]

Poppy it is true that 2 years sounds like a lot of time but it really isn't in Grief. I find that the 2 year mark is tricky as we think all the firsts have passed and it will be different now...And different it is... but it IS often worse...And it also feels that the world has gone on and we have not... Extra self care and compassion please!!🙏

[@ftkinsella]

Oh wow I can’t think that far ahead. I didn’t expect to be grieving for 2 years and people are saying it’s a lifetime. I don’t know if I want to be feeling this bad for much longer.

[@knitnpaint]

@@ftkinsella yes. I still feel so much grief at the end of year 3. Never expected that.❤️

[@happybunny8704]

My mum passed yesterday .. she was Ill and we knew it was coming she was also old, but I thought I would be strong and that I could deal with it but I can’t…I feel so numb, don’t want to talk to anyone wish they would stop saying the same stupid things I just want to curl up in a ball.. I don’t want to pick up the phone and talk to anyone I can control the tears but feel weird ….work has given me compassionate leave as if this is all going to be better in a week I’m not convinced based on how I feel .... I’m eating and drinking but not sleeping. I guess everyone is different.

[@josihahn6243]

Five months have gone by since my husbands’ passing. I have many people praying for me which helps a lot. I talk to Father God everyday, all day long. I feel His presence and listen to His voice. He knows me, and He knows you, too. Just plug into His Word and you will be comforted. I still do not feel normal and am extremely lethargic. I have no appetite and have lost 10 #’s. Fortunately, I need to lose more. I know I will never get over the loss of Vern, and will forever miss him. But, I know where he is, and look forward to seeing him again, along with all my brothers and sisters in Christ. My purposefull life is not done. I will continue until it is my time to go home. Thank you for posting this video. I did turn the volume down and read the CC. I do have profound hearing loss so I always have the CC on. Keep posting and I will continue to follow you. 😔

[@samzach2057]

My 79 year old Father passed away suddenly on Easter of this year, and I knew losing a parent would be hard, but I never imagined it would hit me this hard. We were extremely close and I miss him dearly. My biggest grief symptoms are a constant thirst and I feel like I could sleep for days, I am constantly tired..

[@Rose_budd]

I'm so sorry for ur loss 💔 i pray it gets a lil easier in time

[@ceeleemetcalf2780]

Since I lost my daughter I want nothing to do with anything in the world and its been along time. I know there is no time limit all I want todo is be alone.

[@heidevanness2788]

Me too...

[@moirahill6397]

Same. My son died ❤

[@ramonariley4790]

Escapism……found myself either working all the time if participating in bad habits 😞

[@DyanneGavin]

Yes, my dad passed away on 2/20/21 and my son and best friend, Christopher 35, committed suicide by hanging himself in my garage and then my mom died on 7/3/22. The physicality was not being able to breathe deeply, and then I couldn't and still can't sleep, and I used to be able to meditate, but now I still cannot meditate without feeling short of breath, or going to sleep. So now I turn to you.

[@tracer5951]

I can't even imagine what you are going through. I'm sorry, and I hope that one day you're able to find at least a bit of peace.

[@leahsmith1679]

My heart goes out to you 💔