Hard to Swallow Pills - REACTION

[@dontmesswiththelopez]

I heard something the other day that changed the way I look at the world...Good is something you DO, not something you ARE.

[@layse27]

I love your username

[@bigredswife4646]

Me: in Toronto for the second time in my whole life I look over and see a beautiful ginger Me: CHHHAAAARRLLOOOTTTEEE?? Me: CHARLOTTE from KZbin? Me: gasping for breath cuz I’m now sprinting like a friggen zombieland freak “Hey Charlotte it’s me! I’m like ur number one fam and I comment on EVERY video u do and I was ur like fourth subscriberrrr” Her: looking at me like I’m a fkng nut!! Me: immediately going in for a hug like we’re best friends Her: immediately brings up her fist Me: grabbing my nose in pain and wiping away blood as I say “But Charlotte- I’m ur biggest fan I just wanted a pic tgthr I’m so sorry” The end result? Someone named Kelsey McMahon has now placed a restraining order against me and I am not allowed in any of her known areas Me today: one day I’ll meet Charlotte I just know it haha Lots of love from ur biggest fan in London Ontario 💜

[@vivienleigh4640]

That's close to an other truth. Love is not a feeling it's an action.

[@hirtisrandolph4843]

@@layse27 IKR, i think this is how Melania pronounces it.

[@layse27]

@@hirtisrandolph4843 lol so true

[@SammmeeBee]

"You can't keep everyone you love around forever." Charlotte's logic is people break up. My head went "Yup everyone you love will die." clearly I have a more negative head space, lol

[@sabersky1134]

Not negative at all. It’s another realistic fact of life.

[@ashalon8729]

@Sam Russell That is where my brain went too so don't feel bad

[@shannoncasey7630]

Yessss.... my head went to death, as well. Geez. This is why I struggle with depression. Lol

[@sunnyscott4876]

No, my head went immediately to death. 🍁🍂🍃🍀 Sadly it is what it is.

[@aarushikohli6587]

i think the death angle is more natural and positive considering you believe in the strength of your connections with people and believe you won't be choosing to spend your lives apart till you're forced to by death.

[@jackieraulerson2005]

When I was young, my grandmother gave me some good advice on finding “the one“. She said, “find someone whose faults you can live with and they can live with yours.“

[@donellmuniz590]

That's what I finally did! Donell is my wife, and she is 80% awesome, 20% annoying, LOL! But I am about 60% pretty decent, and 40% grumpy, fat, lazy, uncouth lout. So I probably bug her more than she bugs me, lol. But we manage. 🥰 --- Jeff

[@maleandrolemale9467]

My teacher told me that one day when we were going on the same tram in my old hometown, I was ca 14-15 and it stayed with me, and years later I found someone that I truly love and he me as well and we both like each other's good and bad sides! We celebrated 15 years together this year 🥰

[@SpinX522]

Being nice doesn’t mean being a doormat. You can be nice and not let people take advantage of you.

[@lalachenault8523]

Excellent point! It does seem to be the reaction following. 😑 Sad how you then have to put your guard up so people don't mistake your kindness for a gullible bullseye! 😪🎯

[@libera7161]

I think you simply should know your boundaries and be able to say no. No one forces you to do things for others and if they do, do you really do those things out of kindness or out of fear?

[@safala]

Libera The fear might not just be of physical stuff though. Just wanted to add. But I agree that nobody should force you to do the things you don’t want to.

[@elizabethmallory9978]

That was a hard thing to learn. I still feel like a dog when I say no, but I still try to do what I can without spreading myself too thin

[@donellmuniz590]

I have a similar saying: I'm a GOOD guy, but I'm not a GREAT guy. (Yeah, Ima dude. Donell's ol' man)

[@AJTho]

Best quote i've read is "Doing something nice for someone else and then expecting something in return is not an act of kindness but business"

[@tiffanybenefield1980]

Ethics is knowing the difference between right and wrong. Morals is how you act upon that knowledge.

[@decostafamily]

🤯

[@Hey___you]

Tracy Flick!

[@pfalky2k]

I am HIGHLY ethical... 😈🤣

[@tiffanybenefield1980]

@@pfalky2k Ok

[@Frensisbb2u]

Preach my dude 🥂😈Easy stuff means trouble pretty often 🤷

[@limitless7683]

“Be good to people. You will be remembered more for your kindness than any level of success you could possibly attain.” Mandy Hale Charlotte Dobre, you are the Best.

[@saraadam9126]

Definitely She is 😉

[@leesteal4458]

This is not true. Trust me.

[@saraadam9126]

By the way Limitless you have great contents in your channel. Great job.

[@JC130676]

Definitely not true. When you're kind to people the majority of them will have forgotten it the very next day. Occasionally I'll help strangers with small things but most of the time I simply don't care anymore. I used to, but no more. There's less than a dozen people on this planet that can always call on me for help because I know they'll also have my back when I need them. However if all you want is to be remembered, you can also become a horrible person. Be a jerk to someone and they'll remember that for a very long time indeed.

[@cadbane7780]

Charlotte, great topic. You are the best. Only vid that helped me with anxiety, if even for a little bit

[@MyGenXLife]

As someone who's been living with chronic anxiety since the age of 10, I want to respectfully correct you on your point that anxiety is just worrying about the future. There are times when I'm not even anxious about a particular thing. It's like a permanent knot in my stomach and a crushing feeling on my chest. That being said, your statement about "being in the present" does have value. Almost all of the techniques I have learned to get through anxiety attacks are based on some form of "grounding" - which is just a fancy way of getting back into the present.

[@PolymorphicPenguin]

As someone who has bipolar disorder and gets episodes of anxiety once in a while, I totally agree. I think Charlotte doesn't realize that there are some people for whom anxiety doesn't have any sort of rational cause.

[@Hey___you]

I totally agree. I made several calming bottles and they have helped immensely. It's clear glue, water, and glitter. You shake it up and watch the glitter fall. I made little ones and I take them when I fly. No more Xanax!

[@donellmuniz590]

Yeah, to me, anxiety is this feeling of impending chaos, if not downright doom. Ya just know somethin' bad is gonna happen, but you don't know what or when. And the better things are going at any one time, the more I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop.

[@donellmuniz590]

@@PolymorphicPenguin Same with depression. You dont NEED a REASON to be depressed. Everything externally might be going well, but you can still be depressed if you have that chemical imbalance.

[@Lemoncatsf]

As a mother of someone who has had severe anxiety since he was very small I totally agree.

[@paulalowery7411]

"Arguing with a fool is like having a mosquito on your cheek, you may kill it before it bites, but u will slap yourself either way!"

[@Hey___you]

Ooo...that's good!

[@whowhat.wherewhen]

This is the best quote ever!

[@kisulya2999]

😂😂😂 💯 true!!! Never argue with stupid. They will drag you to their level, and beat you with experience 😂😂😂 But, girl, your quote is so hilarious. So using it! 😅😅😅 thank you for that.

[@gordonhayward4409]

To be remembered as kind and considerate is considerably better than being remembered as rich or successful. We all end up dead.

[@druidriley3163]

So true, but only the rich and successful are remembered. We know about the super rich and powerful like Henry Ford, Andrew Carnegie, Cornelius Vanderbilt, and John D Rockerfeller for over a century because they leave their names on enormous structures and organizations. The not successful, poor, kind and considerate are forgotten within 2 generations.

[@rivertam585]

@@druidriley3163 We remember all of those only I an abstract way because we heard or learned about them. In our personal lives we remember those who were kind to us when we didn't expect it

[@druidriley3163]

@@rivertam585 - but that remembrance dies with us.

[@rivertam585]

@@druidriley3163 it always does. Everything we "know" about any person we don't actually know can have been altered by any number of people writing down accounts about those people. We also know about those people because they left things behind that still have their names on it. But I guess it's always about personal preference. If someone is paying attention to those people who had a lot of money and fame, are tangentially known and had no direct influence in our lives or those who don't but made a personal impact for us

[@markpayne1748]

When someone insults you, essentially what they're doing is holding up a piece of paper to your face and saying, "I drew a picture of you." Nine times out of ten, all they've actually done is to show that they really suck at drawing. Anytime a stranger gets in my face to insult me, I just say, "Wow, you know? That would really hurt my feelings if I gave a damn about your opinion."

[@bianlinka8386]

That was amazing. Thanks for sharing Mark :)

[@nfspbarrister5681]

My personal favourite "people are free to have opinion about me, as i am free to ignore it too".

[@chloelefebvre9236]

Always answering you when you ask questions; my cat is looking at me like i'm a crazy person, but HI from Montreal Charlotte!!

[@CharlotteDobre]

Hi Chloe and Chloe’s cat!

[@kleague41]

The hard pill to swallow for me is probably that there are a lot of people who will be cruel or say anything just because they can. I wonder if those same people are even able to feel anything for others. Have a great weekend Charlotte!!

[@fableSimmer]

So true. Especially on the internet, which is why it’s best to ignore those people. People will even comment on your posts just to get a rise out of you. The crazy thing is that even mean people are usually nice to someone. A cruel person often times still has friends and people who love them.

[@susanfanning9480]

You're right. And at the end of their life, they are going to be very lonely. It will come back and bite them in the bum. They don't get it yet.

[@donellmuniz590]

Unfortunately, some folks just want attention, or want to stir the pot, or thrive on chaos and drama. Others are extremely narcissistic, concerned only with their own needs, issues, and desires. Many lack conscience and empathy for others. Then there's folks like me, with Asbergers and severe clinical depression, who sometimes can't get out of our own head, or just project our anger, fear, sadness, and prejudices on others. For me, I sometimes say things just to be a smartass, or to get likes, or somebody really pisses me off. It's not admirable or mature, but I'm just being honest here.

[@lmoral222]

"I'm a nice guy", 9 out of 10 times, is a red flag. Actions speak louder than words.

[@lmoral222]

@Brad Miller I hear 'ya. Point of what I'm saying is that actions, many times, do speak louder than words. Like, if someone is apparently pretty boisterous, pushes his/her weight around, belittles people by way of snarky remarks or whatnot, and says "hey, I'm a nice person!" - it's...yeah...you get the idea. In your scenario, you're not throwing any red flags.

[@ofthedarknessthemoonlight5412]

@@lmoral222 I agree. Miller's scenario is in response to a particular situation. "Why are you treating me this way?" is very different from the chronic Nice Guy's Complaint. There's a big reason I shy away from men who insist that they're mistreated despite their niceness. Very, very frequently those men are attracted to women who use them. If you expect a perhaps-lovely but petulant, childish, immature woman to recognize your "niceness," you're barking up the wrong tree. Look for someone who's also nice. A lot of these "nice guys" expect women who sell themselves as red hot arm candy to treat them kindly. Good luck finding a user who won't use you too. It's as stupid as the myth that the right woman can make a bad man good. Why I hate romance novels - they encourage people to have utterly unrealistic expectations.

[@lmoral222]

@@ofthedarknessthemoonlight5412 Great reply, thanks for your insight, along with Brad's. 👍 My thing is, if someone really is that nice, would they even actually have to insist on it? Both your responses are insightful and appreciated 😃

[@CoyoteSevenFL]

I have three 'mood' levels: 1. Nice 2. Not so nice 3. May God have mercy on your soul When I describe myself to others, it's usually along the lines of: I try hard (though not always possible, I admit) to be nice and respectful in the beginning, but after that, I will be the type person you are toward me.

[@megaroo6110]

Yes, I agree. I feel like “nice” is a verb and not just something you “are”.

[@thundercho]

When someone doesn't like you, not by anything you said or have done, its usually something in them that they don't like about themselves, or that they are insecure.

[@radhiadeedou8286]

Or you're just not the kind of people they like, maybe they like quiet and calm people and you're very bubbly and talkative for example

[@mikaamberthekittens6368]

1:21 that’s true. A girl that I used to be friends with goes to church, she is one of the most stuck up and spoiled people in my high school year.

[@musicgirl12357]

Definitely I used to get judged by people mainly some old women in Church for reading books other then the Bible. Like seriously ?!? How petty do you need to be to pick on a child reading book?!?

[@Claire-td1ng]

I understood after watching a friend that had a tendency to stress over the tiniest things that you have to learn to prioritize. Try to imagine what would your reaction be in the far future when you're on your death bed and dying of old age for example. Will you still get pissed off because you missed that bus and had to wait another hour for the next one? Will you truly regret breaking off that toxic relationship on the off chance you'd be able to change the other person? Will you even remember or care that you had a poor grade in this subject because you were too stressed and drew blank? Will you really care or remember that you had a bad week because some people were jerks to you? If not, then maybe you should try to relax a little bit and remember that if something bad happened it's not the end of the world. Try to remember and focus on the positive stuff that's happening instead. It's hard to remember the good things when you're too focused on the bad ones but you still have to try. You can only be happy if you let yourself be happy and let go of petty grudges, meaningless frustration or other negative emotions. It's way more exhausting to hold onto those emotions than it is worth it.

[@serenalizinnqui8474]

9:46 No, it's so true! I can relate so baaaad. Messaging people, even those I like, takes a lot of emotional energy.

[@hirtisrandolph4843]

I had a friend who stopped taking their meds... They called me from their Nissan, on the side of a four-lane road, crying... Because they'd locked themselves in their house for 2 days and needed to go buy groceries, but had a panic attack on the way to the store. So I parked their car at a bank and took them to Rollies where we ordered 6 different things so they could watch the girl spread and roll the icecream. They had to wait two weeks before it was safe for them to try a different prescription. I forgot what my point was going to be, but I'm glad that "being in the moment" works for you... I think my point was about being there for your friends and proving the earlier line about self-isolative thought processes being true. This was the same friend who was there for me when my mon said 'get the fųck out', so we're pretty close. Honestly, I'd say soulmates, were it not for the fact that I'm gay and she's lesbian. Yes, I realize that not all relationships are physical, but she also doesn't like chocolate, and that's a deal breaker.

[@phoenixdavida8987]

Ha! That end part about chocolate, that's priceless! I'm a chocoholic too, and with someone who likes it some, but not a lot, and hates dark chocolate which I love. Honestly, I see it as a good thing... More for me!

[@kikiyami5359]

Hard to swallow pills Me to me: I can’t even swallow tiny pills. And then the video plays. Me: oh it’s the other kind of pills

[@basiltheyorkipoo4303]

Awwww

[@safala]

This comment was so adorable.

[@FreakyBo0o]

Hahah bless you. I get scared of swallowing pills. I'm getting better at it with age though.

[@jonny8688]

My ex told me that it was lumpy and hard to swallow some times.

[@theoverunderthinker]

life is not fair? "Sarah: That's not fair! Jareth: You say that so often. I wonder what your basis for comparison is?" -Labyrinth. Life is fair for the most part. Life just isn't all about you!

[@Call3ndra]

Nature sure isn't fair. It's unfair for someone to be born and live with a rare disease while others don't. It's unfair that one woman is born somewhere she will be systematically sexually mutilated and another won't. There's nothing fair about genetics, your place of birth, your family. It's a lotery, you either pick a good or a bad number, and then it's about what you do with it.

[@chadfalardeau3259]

But death is, everyone dies

[@Call3ndra]

@@chadfalardeau3259 But then again, some get to die peacefully in their sleep, while others are, for example, burned alive. Even death is not fair.

[@theoverunderthinker]

@@Call3ndra not sure what "fair" means to you, but I can guess and I think we are using the word differently. When I say life is "fair" I mean: (to use one your examples) ones genetics are what are expected based upon the decision of your parents to mate with each other and the genetics that each provided to the union. Your genetics are what they are supposed to be under the circumstances. They were not altered by someone to give you either a disability or a super power. If you are born into a rich family, it is because your parents or some other ancestor accumulated wealth. The created something others valued. They convinced others to follow their leadership. The were smarter than their neighbors and took risk where others did not or crossed barriers (moral or real) that others did not. They did something to accumulate that wealth and one of the reason that people accumulate wealth is so that their children can have an advantage. The level of wealth you are born in is not of your choosing, but it is the result of the choices that other have made and the consequences of those choices. so when I say that life is fair, but not about you, I mean that life plays out as the consequences of all the choices that people and animals and other sentient beings make, the consequences of those actions, the laws of physics, etc. Your choices alone don't decide the outcome, but when you add all the choices up, life follows it own internal logic. you don't start out at the same level, agreed, but would it be fair if you worked hard to accumulate resources to make a better life for yourself, but when your children are born, they had to start from zero? Or if I made nothing but bad choices all of my life that my kids started out he same as yours? I think life seems unfair, based upon your observations, because a child born today is starting out at something other than the first iteration of the system and many other iterations have gone on in previous generations where ancestor have made good and bad choices that lead to where that child started out. Maybe an ancestor was naive and taken advantage of, or crafty and fleeced another's ancestor. The benefit or disadvantage passed on to the offspring. so if you think it is about the child born today only, or me or you, life looks unfair. Life is not about you, it is about generations of humanity and on that scale , life is amoral but fair (in my opinion). It is just not about the individual except as 1 in billions of actors whose decisions affect each other and the environment and taken as a whole life does as it should with all those decisions as input. to somehow reset to zero every generation would be "unfair" to those who achieved in the prior generation who wanted it to benefit their genes in the next generation. In that event, life would more about selfishness (you achieve for yourself only), because you cannot pass anything on. So I agree that life is not equitable, but to me it seems fair because it follows its own rules. I hope , even if you disagree, that at least you can see what I am driving at, as I understand what I think you meant. That is all I can ask. I think we just define "fair" slightly differently or are looking on a different scale. :)

[@arthriticwarrior5291]

@@Call3ndra I was born with an autoimmune disease (I am in my 30's & mostly wheelchair bound), and I don't see it as being unfair. The way I look at it is that my life is not worse or unfair, it's just different. I have an amazing husband (also my carer) & three wonderful children and we still do all the things other families do, we just makes adjustments to suit our needs. I would never want anyone to feel bad for me because I don't feel that I'm missing out on anything :)

[@TornSparrow1974]

Hard Pill to Swallow: Recording (and/or taking selfies of) yourself doing random acts of kindness makes you look like a tool. Everything doesn't HAVE to be filmed. :o)

[@debigates6096]

OMG...YES! To me that is not a genuine random act of kindness...it's a look at what I did, now tell me what a wonderful person I am.

[@TornSparrow1974]

@@debigates6096 Exactly! :o)

[@melaninqueen1286]

In the bible it says (paraphrasing here) that hypocrites go on the streets so people can see their good works, but you should do your works in silence.

[@laurajose779]

@@melaninqueen1286 🙏 AMEN

[@donellmuniz590]

Real kindness is in the things you do when nobody else is watching. I always pick up nails, screws, etc at the dump, the recycling center, the car wash, etc., so that someone I'll never meet doesn't get a flat tire.

[@angienorton5577]

Steven: I'm a nice guy Also Steven: *Gets pissed off and rants when he's turned down.*

[@bree789-x8c]

This is certainly true, for women too. As soon as someone says "I'm a nice guy/person" I think in my head, why did you have to say it then? If you're nice then I'll see that for myself and if you are not, I know they were just words 😂 Something interesting I found also, I had an ex who had an issue with compulsive lying. He was proven to lie quite a lot. Even about stupid shit. He used to talk about how much he hates liars. He said to his son "I don't like liars, you know its wrong to lie" I sat there thinking "Take your own advice dude".

[@angelsunshine9620]

At this point the only way I'm going to meet someone is if they break into my house. 🤷‍♀️

[@chadfalardeau3259]

Or you could break into thier's.😏😃

[@angelsunshine9620]

@@chadfalardeau3259 ikr lol 😆 😂

[@adamluther5836]

This reminds me of a past Tinder profile Charlotte read about a guy basically saying "I'm the kinda guy who, when someone breaks into my house, I take out my gun and shoot myself in the leg just to avoid meeting new people."

[@angelsunshine9620]

@@adamluther5836 omg too funny!!!

[@robertravena]

^^^^THIS

[@gnashsang]

Thanks Charlotte! Women over the years told me repeatedly that I was “weird”. I asked them to elaborate and their reply was that I was nice, and didn’t force myself on them. Wow, who would have thought being respectfully would be construed as “weird”? My lovely wife always points out that on our first “date” (we’d know each other and worked with one another prior) that I shook her hand instead of trying to kiss her when I dropped her back off at her apartment. Apparently she’d intended to invite me in. But she didn’t give up and called me on my three hour drive back home to let me know what I missed out on! Lmao 🤣 weird=dumb ass

[@pranamikaverma]

Oof🤣🤣

[@PolymorphicPenguin]

Part of the problem is our cultural expectation that men should make the "first move" in a relationship. Men respecting women's boundaries should not be weird, that should be the norm. Both men and women need to be able to talk about what they want / don't want so it's not a guessing game.

[@scottclark798]

@@PolymorphicPenguin so true , I was suspected of being gay in 8 the grade after taking a girl to a movie ( 4o years ago ) because I didn't try anything . CHEERS and be safe

[@libera7161]

Oh, well. I noticed that guys usually have a harder time on reading body language, but I think the way you acted is better than someone who doesn't notice that the woman has no interest and still trying to kiss her. 😆🤷🏽‍♀️

[@druidriley3163]

Mark Tierney - the other women were trying to be nice to you. You were clueless and a dumb ass but they said "You're kinda weird." LOL

[@maeverobertson1108]

Here's my personal philosophy as set down by David Richo. Thought you might like it. 1. Everything changes and ends. 2. Things do not always go according to plan. 3. Life is not fair. 4. Pain is part of life. 5. People are not loving and loyal all the time. -The Five Givens (Good book)

[@alteremma3238]

She actually made me feel better about many things that make me overthink regularly. Man, I love her 🥺💓

[@rachelhatchet]

Your self deprecation is the most amazing and endearing thing about you and why so many of us love you!

[@me034]

Charlotte: Specially when there are lots of people who do like me, right guys? All of us: hit the like button... :)

[@rachaelgibson2330]

I like you Charlotte. I'm thinking of you now. Watching your video and drinking a "clearly canadian sparkling water!" Country Raspberry..Yum!! 💋💖RacHaeL in Knoxville, TN!

[@FilthyBitchGunClub]

Not like, LOVE. And not in a creepy, stalkery way.

[@Kayenne54]

9.3k and counting did. :)

[@bobbianderson5055]

Yep, hit the button at that moment

[@immortalsofar5314]

@@bobbianderson5055 Yeah, I think I'm going to have to confess to my long-distance SO how much time I'm spending with Charlotte.

[@LEMON-bo2bq]

For me it was the opposite, almost every Christian/Catholic I've met was so rude just because I'm Atheist. Glad you had a good experience though

[@MsIvalane]

Dude same. In fact the two worst people I know are a former minister and his wife. Belief in something doesn't automatically translate to being 'good'. I'd even go so far as to argue that needing some Higher Power to tell you right from wrong might make you a worse person, that you have to be scared into being decent to your fellow man.

[@phoebea]

I'm sorry that you had such negative experiences with Christian/Catholic people. I know nice Christians/Catholics and know of some really mean ones too. Going to church every Sunday does not make one better than another person. That is a misconception. Also, I think that some people who are not knowledgeable, secure, or is lacking in their faith may respond negatively or feel attacked when they meet someone who challenges their beliefs or way of thinking. I think that's more of a common humanity issue based on how human psychology works (i.e. most people don't like being challenged or told they are wrong) rather than a Christian/Catholic only issue. Plus, not all Christians/Catholics know how to respond to people who do not believe in the same things as they do. You probably caught them off guard with your questions or statements that are contrary to their beliefs. I am a practicing Catholic, meaning I do more than just going to church on Sundays: I try to live my faith in every aspect of my life (I'm not perfect, of course), and I even teach the faith to teens/young adults. I've taught cradle-Catholics, non-Christians, agnostics, and even atheists. Yup, atheists come to class because they want to learn more about Christianity. Contrary to what people might think, I don't force my students into the faith. I inform them of the basic teachings of the Church and let God transform their life. Some students drop out of the class if they don't want to be there, and others go through the entire course and decide they don't want to be Christian/Catholic. I've even spoken to parents who want their teen to be a Catholic, but the kid doesn't want to be one. I explain that if the child/teen doesn't believe in or want the faith, then they have to make that decision for themselves. I'd rather have practicing Christians/Catholics who are joyful in their faith than unhappy ones because their parents forced them. Heck, my oldest friend since childhood is atheist. Believe it or not, we share enough things in common to remain friends for more than half of our lives. We discuss our different beliefs and choose to love each other as friends despite the fact we see things differently. Basically, this is a really long letter of apology for making you feel like you are not good because you don't believe in God. You are good. If you want to ask your questions or discuss Church teachings, I suggest that you talk to a priest or nun that is trained in teaching the faith and know how to respond to your questions. Some priests have degrees and doctorates in the sciences, too. They're really good at explaining the commonalities of science and religion, if that is your main objection to Christian belief.

[@charzemc]

No offence all you church going folk but if you told a psychologist that you pray to a man in the sky to give you guidance on how to live your life & you read a book full of contradictions while also going to weekly meetings in which a person in a kaftan lectures you about acts of evil & wants you to pay them for the privilege, i'm sure you may set off alarm bells for them.

[@chadfalardeau3259]

My mom used to say "every group has assholes".

[@marypetrie3513]

@@charzemc so does judging a group of people who you haven't met and calling them crazy for not agreeing with them. Most psychiatrists would call that paranoia, just saying.

[@pearlofthedarkage]

"We're not all clones, and we're not all sheep." Dolly has left the chat.

[@Hey___you]

😂👏🏻👏🏻😂

[@maeblossom]

This was clever, thank you XD

[@rayhutchinson640]

It's so cathartic watching you vent your own anxieties and frustrations as you watch these! Thank you!

[@JubeiKibagamiFez]

9:20 LMAO! I love how the pill in the background turned donut sized.

[@eeveequeen15]

7:41 just because you have anxiety doesn't mean that you have anxiety disorder. Anxiety is a normal emotion we have. Anxiety disorder is when the brain can't shut off anxiety on its own. But most people with anxiety just make themselves think that something's wrong because they experience the emotion.

[@mr.coolcrafts5655]

When you don’t even know what the title means, but since it’s Charlotte you click on it.

[@cothromcirt]

This is me every single morning. It's like the best part of my day. Charlotte could be reacting to dog poop and I would be here.

[@djamelhamdia134]

@@cothromcirt Same!

[@cannibalculture4499]

I feel so seen. Sending this to a few people. The thing is, when we're REALLY down, it's super easy to forget a lot of these. Reminding yourself of a lot of them will help you get back up again. I have arthritis in most of my body and some nerve issues that started around 25. I was either treated like a drug seeker by doctors, or I got pain meds thrown at me without any real treats or imaging being done. It took me years before I found a good doctor willing to listen and get to the bottom of things, and I had to drive over 30 minutes just to see them. The problem was that I had been on pain meds for years before I found out what was actually wrong with me. I didn't want to live on pills for the rest of my life, but unfortunately, if you've taken them for that long, quitting is next to impossible to do alone. Because of that and tons of family issues and job issues, I fell into a DEEEEEEP depression. I almost lost my husband because of it. We've worked things out (we are actually soul mates, which I know is SUPER rare, so I'm so glad we could fix it). I almost didn't make it out of that deep deep DEEEEEEP hole I was in. Life can be VERY hard. But, it can be pretty great too. If you can keep going, keep climbing back up when you find yourself so far down you aren't sure which way is up, you'll eventually find your way out and feel like a person again. Only surround yourself with those that TRULY care, and remember to be there for those that need you. You can use the negative times in your life to try to help others to not make the same mistakes.

[@lissiennaji6924]

As the Rolling Stones said, " You can't always get what you want, but if you try, sometimes, you get what you need."

[@tallulahbum763]

You’re literally my favourite person on the entire internet!!! 💖💖💖🥰

[@billymoody8163]

Corollary: Some people, no matter how vile YOU find them, will have lots of people who like them...

[@ronaldedwards4637]

A lot of these comments used to be true, before social media. Social media has made people rude, self important and obnoxious. It's also one of the main reasons relationships don't last the way they used to. A hard pill to swallow is the world has changed for the worst and will continue to do so, no matter what

[@venezhiacharie]

Those ppl who think that just because they devote their whole lives to God, they think they can do no wrong. 🤨🤨🤨🤨 They do know that they are just human beings, right? That they are not perfect? 😂😂😂

[@rachaelgibson2330]

Amen! Preach it bro!

[@andreasmith335]

It supposed to be the opposite actually.....the more you devote to God the more you realize just how flawed you really are and seek ways to show more love, kindness, and respect to all around you.

[@TaxidriverBarbi]

@@andreasmith335 Exactly! Personally, I've always thought those people who go around with their list of people "going to hell," like at college campuses, preaching hateful things, are actually trying to push people away from God.

[@mariskajoe252]

@@andreasmith335 I was going to comment this then I saw your comment. The closet you get the more you realise just how human you are.

[@radhiadeedou8286]

You're describing my mom, she acts like she got her VIP pass to heaven

[@shyhrk]

Maybe occasional video about contemplating life or about the truth that you need to accept even if it’s hard to do, just like this video, is very nice. It helped me feel and do some self introspection to make myself be a better human being for people that I care about. Thanks Charlotte! Love you as always.

[@damaclinemowry5373]

I have the exact opposite reaction. Some of the worst people I met are from church

[@LEMON-bo2bq]

Ya me too. They make me feel horrible about myself.

[@welliminitnowso]

Facts

[@welliminitnowso]

Beautiful profile photo by the way .. just beautiful 😍

[@immortalsofar5314]

I did meet an anarchist vicar, once, but like most of the best religious people I've met, they tend to be at odds with the church itself.

[@trish694]

I'm remembering "Touched by an Angel" TV series from many many years ago. What really struck me and stayed with me throughout my life is when a character said, "Religion is a man thing, God is a God thing". I have encountered very few people who understand this concept. Most Christians are not representative of God and His love.

[@patriciazernone-wood5423]

2020 has been a wreck, but in all this I'm grateful still. Not just because we still have our jobs and homes, but being together so much we've learned to be appreciative of one another and what we bring to the family

[@nicolelavigne1700]

"You know, I used to think it was awful that life was so unfair. Then I thought, wouldn't it be much worse if life were fair, and all the terrible things that happen to us come because we actually deserve them? So, now I take great comfort in the general hostility and unfairness of the universe. " - Marcus Cole, Babylon 5

[@donellmuniz590]

Life may be unfair, as very few are born into freedom, wealth, health, privilege, and opportunity that a small percentage of Americans have. Imagine being born in one of the sandy, barren, hot hellholes of the world like Afghanistan, or the Sudan, or in places like North Korea, China, Cuba, Siberia, etc. But TIME is the equalizer. We all end up the same: dust. IF there is an afterlife, we'll all be equals. If not, we'll still be equals.

[@donellmuniz590]

Charlay, I've only watched 3 minutes so far of this video, but I've spent probably 2 hours reading the comments and leaving my own. Time well spent! Commiserating, and even debating, with so many people, is rewarding, relieving, and educational. Thanx.

[@caitlinhehehe8456]

Okay This time I stopped eating my Mac and cheese for this... LOVE YOU CHARLOTTE AND THE VIDEO!!!!!!!❤️

[@marciawebber4347]

Charlotte, I have loved you (a lot) over the last few months- you popped up outta nowhere. I love your essence, personality, talent, kindness, and wit. I know most likely you will never realize this comment is here, but I wanted to tell you I needed this video today. Among other things, I can relate to the Christian youth group teenage years, and appreciated and loved them as well. Thanks for being you, and know that your true, multifaceted character shines like no other - we adore you!

[@kathyshirley9913]

i think you are wonderful. i am retired and i have lots of time to watch your stuff .it must be hard to put yourself out there every’ day and you are appreciated!

[@briangraham5156]

"You can't keep everyone you love around you forever." So true Charlotte. You mentioned relationships breaking apart as a reason. But there's more: people die.

[@melanyebaggins]

The social media one is absolutely true, and people not believing that it is causes a lot of anxiety for those of us who don't have the social bandwidth or mental energy to respond to every message right away all the time. I really hope you took that one to heart, because introverts and people with chronic anxiety or who are just exhausted for whatever reason don't owe anyone a reply until they're ready.

[@artfully.liz.]

i'd love to see more just plain advice/commentary from you! i feel like you try to slip that in, but i'd watch without the reaction! also makeup experimentation - i can tell you love it!

[@beast6213]

“the only person you can change is yourself.” I love how you said you didn’t get what you wanted, but how what you got actually turned out to be better for you :) because sometimes we think we want something, but actually we find something better we never would’ve thought of/considered 🤗🤗🤗

[@jodilynn2017]

I need a tshirt for each of these. Bonus quote for Charlotte: "I wouldn't want everyone to like me. I would think less of myself if some people did." ---Henry James

[@imkluu]

My anxiety comes from others hanging their own emotional troubles and worries on me. Because of a trying time for others when they were calling me nearly twice a day, I still get anxiety every time the phone rings for fear of having to hear someone throwing their shit on me.

[@abellewis3062]

"Not everybody will like you no matter what you do. Some people will just not like you." I know this personally. It's facts. All day, everyday.

[@Hey___you]

I think you look really nice, Abel.

[@abellewis3062]

@@Hey___you Thank you for that compliment.

[@IAI88]

Go go girl , your positivity is your most valuable asset

[@upsetcocoon]

Charlotte has screamed her way into my dreams, i dreamed that she was walking past me on a sidewalk (exciting i know)

[@roosterescreamingsunset1878]

Haha XD

[@pranamikaverma]

😳🤤😂

[@phatbuddha1]

Did she yell "Subscribe!"?

[@upsetcocoon]

@@phatbuddha1 sadly, no

[@jennsem476]

One I've learned over these past few months: Just because you've known each other for a really long time, isn't a reason to stay in the relationship no matter what. Toxic relationships are toxic relationships and the sooner you realize and walk away, the better.

[@pascalenimue1392]

Not all anxiety is solved like that. Ppl who never had severe attacks have no idea how it feels, not talking to you charlotte. But anxiety is not always about past and future worries.

[@MannyBrum]

I think she's talking more about general anxiety. Anxiety disorders are a whole different thing. Everyone gets general anxiety, whether you suffer from an anxiety order or not. It can be handled a lot differently, and avoided a lot easier.

[@kimmyisgreen2929]

Anxious=adjective Anxiously=adverb Anxiety=noun Not everyone is using the same meaning/definition!

[@pascalenimue1392]

@@MannyBrum anxiety attacks during the day is what she means I think and what I replied to

[@pascalenimue1392]

@@kimmyisgreen2929 keep in mind this is the world wide web. Not everybody their native language is english.

[@kimmyisgreen2929]

Pascale N I apologize, I wasn’t trying to criticize anyone here. I meant not everyone in my personal life is using the correct word or meaning. They say they struggle with anxiety but don’t know how it feels, they’re merely using the incorrect words.

[@lnc-to4ku]

This was great, also appreciated how you shared some of your thoughts and experiences in life! ♡

[@estellegetty1995]

I tell my humans "everyone is a bad guy to someone"

[@donellmuniz590]

We all have a dark side. It may be only 5% in some people, and 80% in others. Other than a Hitler, Stalin, and other murderous tyrants, nobody is 100% evil. Nor is anyone 100% pure, kind, and faultless. Just be the best you can, and continually try to be a better person, however you may define one.

[@dixersdc3963]

That one about not being able to keep the people around you forever made my heart sink. In my teens and early 20's people I loved dropped like flies. My two best friends both died before we turned 17. A full year went by with a funeral every month. Never been the same since. Life was not fair to them! But on a positive note, we all appreciate you here, Captain Dobrato!

[@sprout6687]

Hard pill to swallow, my hair will never be as beautiful as Charlotte's

[@Futu06]

That "some of your problems are your own fault" is very true. I always liked the saying "Everything happens for a reason. Sometimes the reason is that you're an idiot and made bad choices." Worth to keep in mind for all of us, really.

[@Gingermycat]

Charlotte in Canada: talking about Christians are good people Me in the US: 😂 we must have a different breed of christians over here 😂

[@theoverunderthinker]

maybe it's you. You might be sending out some Anti-christian vibe that they are picking up on. my experience is that they are neither better or worse than any other group of people. Some are great and some suck!

[@Gingermycat]

@@theoverunderthinker I grew up in the church went to Sunday school and Wednesday bible study for my whole childhood. My grandfather is a pastor as well. I have seen to much to know how horrible the Christan church is. From the outside the church looks welcoming and accepting but what's really happening is judgment, talking behind your back, saying this person deserve to die, saying they are not racist but they just got done talking about killing people who are not white 5 seconds ago. The church is super toxic!! I get PTSD even getting near a church.

[@Ladyscarface]

I thought exactly the same thing

[@theoverunderthinker]

@@Gingermycat I have seen all of these behavior in non church going people as well. Was you expectation that people stop being people once they enter a church building? My experience is that knowing if a person goes to church or not tells me almost nothing about who they are as a person. Some people go there knowing they are messed up and wanting to change, others go there to get permission to keep being messed up and not think they of themselves as a bad person, some go there to get strength to keep being a good person. They can all get through the door, so you find them all inside. The fact that you find bad people in a church does not make church invalid, it just means that people still have free will and are not brainwashed once they go inside.

[@rohiniguiland4873]

Yes you do LOL.

[@BettyAlexandriaPride]

I really needed this today. Something happened at work and I was caught in misunderstandings from various higher ups. It's in the process of being cleared up because I had the proper documentation; but even though I tried to be kind and transparent, those who said they would advocate for me believed the false accusations. Even after my boss called them and explained where the communication breakdown was, they still sent passive aggressive emails and refused to actually look at the documents until Monday. I felt like I was being called a creepy criminal. It wasn't fun, and it still hurts, but it's a tough pill to swallow. I'm grateful for those who waited to gather the facts before placing judgment and I'm grateful that the person who started the misunderstanding is willing to pay to reinstate my badge for work. I'm also grateful to my boss who advocated for me and also had proof of the documents I sent to everyone beforehand. Thank you so much for this video.

[@cothromcirt]

THE LITTLE BLINKY LIGHTS ARE BACK!!!

[@CharlotteDobre]

The video was filmed before I took them down 😬

[@bigredswife4646]

Charlotte Dobre we miss them 😢 PS: I thought I saw u and it resulted in my almost getting arrested It’s in the comments lol True story

[@bigredswife4646]

Charlotte Dobre Me: in Toronto for the second time in my whole life I look over and see a beautiful ginger Me: CHHHAAAARRLLOOOTTTEEE?? Me: CHARLOTTE from KZbin? Me: gasping for breath cuz I’m now sprinting like a friggen zombieland freak “Hey Charlotte it’s me! I’m like ur number one fam and I comment on EVERY video u do and I was ur like fourth subscriberrrr” Her: looking at me like I’m a fkng nut!! Me: immediately going in for a hug like we’re best friends Her: immediately brings up her fist Me: grabbing my nose in pain and wiping away blood as I say “But Charlotte- I’m ur biggest fan I just wanted a pic tgthr I’m so sorry” The end result? Someone named Kelsey McMahon has now placed a restraining order against me and I am not allowed in any of her known areas Me today: one day I’ll meet Charlotte I just know it haha Lots of love from ur biggest fan in London Ontario 💜

[@thenightowl9859]

@@bigredswife4646 👁👄👁

[@anka0903]

@@bigredswife4646 😯😯😯

[@annexcelestial]

I was just watching some of your older videos and I miss how you used to report space news...I hope you still enjoy...thank you for all of your time!!!

[@pete365now52]

Love your channel thank you

[@loftonharris5632]

Charlotte, this was the best post I’ve seen from you, and I am impressed! One thought, though. I am a counseling psychologist and have treated MANY people for anxiety. The first question I ask is “what are you afraid of?” Anxiety is nothing more and nothing less than FEAR. Fear is the problem, not a $500 label called “anxiety.” Please think about this. Please. Be well and keep being the amazing person that you are. Really.

[@bengu3987]

My vitamin c pills are really hard to swallow they’re massive

[@MoeMalikPortfolio]

eat some guava

[@darrenrobinson9041]

Buy chewables.

[@bengu3987]

Muhammad Faateh Malik tf is that lol

[@bengu3987]

Darren Robinson they’re expensivee

[@MoeMalikPortfolio]

Why eat pills when you can naturally get it. Its a fruit

[@paulettecatchristina5942]

I really needed to hear about these different topics today! Thank you kindly for some clarity on the different issues going on! It makes sense! Keep up the great work!

[@anakelly76512]

I say, "Sitting in a pew makes you no more a Christian than me sitting in a garage makes me a car". I've met great Christians and those 'Sunday Christians' who need to go back to the drawing board.

[@prisonwifeprisonlife790]

I just found your channel last night and I have binge watched so many freaking videos literally all of the entitled people ones and now I’m going through all of these ones... I swear personality wise we are so alike.. 😂😂😂.. you dead ass became one of my favorite people on here

[@andreasmith335]

Hardest pill for me to swallow is looking at the comments, and reading how most here have awful experiences with Christians. I'm sorry to all of you.....that is NOT the message of Jesus. John13:35 "By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.” Basically if you encounter a Christian and walk away from the conversation feeling unloved....you didn't encounter a Christian at all.

[@melancolielupine2023]

This is in every religion. Some Muslims are very mean too. Some Buddhists are racists towards Muslims 🤷 Those people don't understand their own religion lol. It's an entitlement, like ''I'm religious so I can be mean because I'm perfect (?)''. But if their God watch them, He won't be happy with them. It's weird. Like, being religious don't make you automatically good. You have to act good to be good. Some atheists are nicer than religious people. They just want to act good, no brag about their God. I saw a religious saying that doing good without really wanting it, was ok, because what matters is the result... I disagree so much lol. The intent is very important. Being a good person is also wanting to be a good person.

[@AmbivalenceIX]

Unfortunately there is no one “Christian” religion, there are many. There are some that fixate on the messenger to the exclusion of the message. There are some that insist that having a “personal relationship with Christ” is enough even though Jesus himself said that was not the case, you have to do good works. I remember reading an article where some public schoolteachers were pissed because they wanted to pray at school and the school gave them a tiny little room to pray in. Dude, your savior literally told you not to pray in public where everyone can see you, like a hypocrite. He told you to go into a room and shut the door and pray in secret. Jesus had some great wisdom, and it’s a shame how some of his followers distort and dismiss his teachings because they’d rather worship a god that hates all the same people they hate.

[@immortalsofar5314]

@@AmbivalenceIX If you don't like what the church has to say, find another church. There's always going to be one out there that takes your biases and shortcomings and turns them into *THE WILL OF GOD*

[@Kzinix]

If you think that no real Christian would be a prick to others, you should look up the No True Scotsman fallacy.

[@waterwitch8902]

I met my husband at 16 yrs old, I'm now 64 and we are still together. If anyone thinks it was meant to be is foolish. It takes work to stay with the same person. If both work and want to be together obviously it works. If you go into a relationship thinking if it doesn't work out it will be ok,your only giving yourself an excuse to fail. Everyone stay happy healthy and safe Blessed be

[@leen-treeske]

The “one” is not perfect but it’s a person with flaws that you can live with for the rest of your live

[@susanluster9301]

Charlotte, We all love you, because you are a truly sweet, kind and caring person.

[@madaleinemorales7740]

YESS LUNCH HAS ARRIVED AND I HAVE BEEN UNLEASHED FROM THE INDIVIDUALITY AND SPIRIT REMOVING CREATURE CALLED SCHOOL. So what does that it means that means I can watch you Charlotte. Woah that sounds creepy. I meant your videos please do not murder or skin me. Eeek love your videos btw

[@JubeiKibagamiFez]

I love these so much!!! I wish I'd found these sooner. Honestly, none of these statements should be hard to swallow.

[@arunikaghoshal9027]

Drop a Jazz Cover Charlotte! Love your voice.

[@katharineharrison9091]

Arunika Ghoshal she has gorgeous voice but come for her facial expressions

[@arunikaghoshal9027]

Her voice is underrated. I love when she sings. In India we have a saying that if you can't say good things, just zip it. And I am an Indian, through and through.

[@vivienleigh4640]

Maybe Charlotte has to correct me, but I think there ARE recordings where she sings jazz? She even got fantastic reviews.

[@arunikaghoshal9027]

Scarlett O'Hara, do you have links for her recordings?

[@vivienleigh4640]

@@arunikaghoshal9027 No I'm afraid I don't, but she's got a homepage. I think I read about it there.

[@bejomavi]

Charlotte! I am a quiet follower and I have been with you since the good IO days!! I love your content. Definitely cheers me up when I’m stressed! I felt the need to reach out today to let you know that your content matters to us ❤️ Keep it coming!

[@mariamabimbola6795]

The worst part about looking back at your past is remembering the dumb crap u said

[@donellmuniz590]

If you were male, there would come a time in your life, probably in your 50s, where all you think about is the girls you COULD have boinked, but didn't! 🤣 I've only boinked 2 in my 55 years, and tried to do a third but had, er, uh, complications. TMI. There are about 5 that I could have, but did not. Now I have someone to boink, but the boinker is broken. D'OH!! And the pills ain't workin. ---Jeff, Donell's ol' man.

[@smashleemichelle]

" Some of your problems are your own fault, and won't get better until you actively do something about it " a lesson I have been applying to my life this yr throughout all the chaos. I deal w sev. depression and anxiety and THIS is a must apply in my life.

[@smashleemichelle]

and of course " Your anxiety will never disappear. Rather you are going to have to learn how to manage it so that you will not avoid life altogether".

[@xevira]

"2020 can't get any worse." "But, 2021 can!"

[@sirpiddlefartiii]

2:57 reminds me of that Golden Girls episode where Rose tries so hard to get this guy to like her and she ends up accidentally killing his bird and driving him crazy lol

[@Luckinbill1982]

You might actually see my comment this time. Shout out to the Potatoe Queen!!! Keep The Lights!!!! Lol

[@dangerouslysane]

It's really good to own your sh*t. Then you can decide what you do about it and how. And, yes-I like Charlotte. Gal sparks joy!

[@classicalgas8297]

So...my husband fell in love with me on out second dance. He even told his friends he was going to marry me! We have been together 35years! It can happen! (Just not very often.

[@vickirutherford1992]

I am a subscriber & love 99% of ur videos! Today’s was a good reminder of things u know just need to remember. Especially... NO ONE IWES YOU ANYTHING!!! My fav!! Great video keep up the good work.✨😁👌✨

[@BeastGuyver]

"You can't make someone love you." Stockholm syndrome would disagree.

[@nappingwithkitties8069]

That's not love.

[@Andariel79]

I love your excessive facial expressions, Charlotte. They are just adorable. :) I wish you all the success in your acting career. I hope we can see you in something huge in the upcoming years.

[@hildedejong9618]

Except you deserve your basic human rights like food, water, a roof over your head, safety, medical care and education. This might be an open door, but I feel like sometimes people think you need to deserve/work for basic human rights as well and thats just not true. Have a lovely day guys!

[@lkf8799]

Totally agree. That one rubbed me the wrong way, too. People deserve a lot of things, but unfortunately the world doesn't run as a meritocracy and as one of the other pills said: life isn't fair 😕

[@hildedejong9618]

​@@lkf8799 True, however if we're talking in a really idealistic way, meritocracy doesn't do it for me either. If you want to achieve your goals then yes, it should be based on effort and talent instead of wealth, but human rights should just be given no matter what in my opinion

[@lkf8799]

@@hildedejong9618 Absolutely 🌸

[@lesleyhawes6895]

In this world though, unfortunately everything has to be paid for, even basic human 'rights'.

[@heatherkeeney6599]

Charlotte you're the sister I always wanted. You're beautiful inside and out. Your humor always has me laughing. Everyday I'm looking for a new video. You honestly brighten up my day. Sending big hugs and lots of love.

[@robertcohen1888]

You can’t keep everyone you love around you forever. Says who? Signed Norman Bates.

[@basiltheyorkipoo4303]

😂

[@jaimicottrill2831]

Lol

[@sallyhay3369]

Aww, Charlotte, it's sad to hear that you don't read the comments much anymore - although I do of course understand why: because there are a lot of us out here who don't like you. We don't. Instead, we LOVE you 🥰🥰🥰. This one's a great subject, with much food for thought - would love a 'part 2' - and, as always, my day is brighter 😊

[@juycedream]

Question to ask is "who's the most important person in your life? Answer: Me, self ☺ Because without you making things, like getting up or taking that breathe each day you couldn't be here to help yo self and others 😊🥰

[@leskobrandon7613]

I like you Charlotte, you make me laugh and smile. I believe you are a genuinely beautiful person. Keep up the good work, and know that you've made at least one person happy today. Thank you.

[@michaelawoodhouse6530]

"...someone who really needs to be liked by everybody" - Hey, I like you! :-D Just trying to make you feel nicer. Have a good day!

[@scarletia14]

Hi Charlotte~ I like this video because your intellect, philosophy, perspective, mindset, etc shone more here. I think that must be why I find you endearing compared to others. Thank you always for all the laughs and optimism ^_^.