Have You Had Issues With Your Parents?

[@connor5773]

You shouldn’t be scared of your parents, there’s a difference between respect and fear

[@connor5773]

Stan ezen lol I’m not

[@Cloudz4k_]

Stan ezen what does his race have to do with anything? His point stands

[@devin3955]

Simply Shaynah I’m assuming he’s black because my parents told me I should fear my father... just ignorant

[@Kizz_97s]

Stan ezen LMFAOO

[@josh34ism]

Facts

[@dboi4952]

A lot of people, especially in the black community, have experienced child abuse but just think they had "strict" parents.

[@rolln8ths]

dbo I minorities* not just blacks that hit their kids lol

[@devin3955]

Rolled 8th Shut up, if they’re talking about black people then they meant what they said.

[@rolln8ths]

Anime Junky they said parents not black parents not everything needs to be about race. Stay humble

[@onlyplayaseattacoswiththei9433]

@stryfetc1 there's a difference between discipline & abuse. I SEE young women in the streets either beating or cursing out kids , especially boys, all the time

[@biancalord488]

They always say they turned out okay but don’t realize they haven’t

[@JustSheaShea]

Hurt people hurt people. The statement seems to be more powerful when talking about parent/child relationship.

I disagree society is just to soft

[@thevillagehiddeninthehood1573]

Mike Carter nah society isn’t soft the older generation is just abusive af they seen therapy as weak and depression as soft because they also were abused by our grandparents.

[@JustSheaShea]

@ well in some instances I agree with you like when it comes to school bullying and suicide rates.. 40yeaes ago kids just dealt with it, but on the contrary anxiety attacks we're commonly known as a nervous breakdowns 40 years ago which resulted in hospitalization at a psychiatric facility. Nowadays people have mental breakdowns of some sort all the time and are able to cope with daily life.

[@minnesotaslimm211]

Could you please look at my comment on here because I concur

@@JustSheaShea see we didn't have that school bullying shit when I was growing up if someone was bothering you basically you and that person faught it out and when it was done you went about your business but nobody fights anymore they are killing each other

[@johnwade3432]

Shaggy told nothing but the truth here respect

[@stacyr4768]

Very true and so did CTG

[@RealestGuyInTheRoom-]

We did a great job not calling the cops on our parents.

[@justxkendra]

RealestGuyInTheRoom definitely 😩

[@montyspixelhd5910]

They would of whooped the cops ass

[@geminiqueen3754]

My mom said if we called the cops, she would beat us in front of the cops.

[@markmenez4097]

Montys PixelHD cops would’ve killed them

[@chimcham6762]

The True Body of Christ Restored You don’t know anyone on here or their life to say that we’re all mad about being disciplined. A lot of us were abused and people in the black community don’t like to admit that. I didn’t grow up disrespectful and even my mother would tell you I was the easiest to raise cause I never caused any trouble so half the beatings I got were bs. My older brother tho? He was heading down a bad path so I would say he needed to get his ass beaten and disciplined but even then it was overboard at times.

[@biancalord488]

Parents suck sometimes. My parents were toxic and created toxic siblings. Abuse is normalized. I suffer emotionally but I no longer speak to my toxic family members. Having No contact makes me feel sad but it is for the best

[@yjepierre]

Bianca Lord Happy you have found peace! Protect your beautiful spirit by any means. Find your souls tribe and adopt them as family. Be happy you are now at peace and find solace in being alone and safe

[@biancalord488]

Ya Ya E Pierre thank you

[@FineFemFit]

Same here

[@S1lverArr0w]

I'm headed this way too, blood or not they need to go

[@kendramanuel9986]

This resonates deeply with me. I come from a dysfunctional family and I have no relationship with my two older sisters. The relationship between me and my Mother is damaged also but I try to communicate with her because at 73, she does not have alot of time left.

[@tori4255]

Wow! That was deep what Charlamagne said, “when you pray for negativity to be released from your life it maybe your parents that are negative.”

[@sophiaatn5339]

I understand what Shaggy said. I don’t personally think my mother was well equipped to have us. She is part of the reason why I don’t want to have kids. I love black women but sometimes we too stubborn to realise that we all don’t NEED to have kids.

[@bigdurk4115]

Insightful observation

[@Nappy2theRoot]

Very true

[@FineFemFit]

My father most def should not have impregnated my mother. I hate him and he hates me. Crazy thing is...it wasn't always this way. Wasn't until my sister and I started to become adults that he started really tripping. But he used to beat the living hell out of us.

[@oztheman6177]

Im in my late 20s havent had any kids, dont plan on it. My parents are the best but its not for me.

[@chimcham6762]

baldo rodriguez Very wise! Kids aren’t for everyone and not everyone needs to bring innocent souls into this world just to end up wrecking them. I am not saying you’ll be like that as a parent but what I have found is that people who didn’t want kids but had them end up resenting their children so good for you! Live your life :)

[@bigboy20061988]

It was a time when mental Health wasn’t discussed as it is today. Parents just were dealing with stress and often their kids added a bit to that and really the only person they could take it out on.

[@shaheenyah5345]

BLACK parents was smoking crack back in my day's , blaze up Scottie 😂

[@str8todamoney]

Word. I'm glad more and more people these days are learning the fact that they should first work on themselves first, before jumping to form a family.

[@stacyr4768]

I totally agree

[@sheeraification]

@@str8todamoney amen

[@MrIsaiahdix]

NOW THIS was a good video. It hits extremely close to home.

[@stacyr4768]

Me too

[@dougiemoyo3050]

Keyword is hit

[@awesomeyou6815]

*hits* 😂😂

[@sparklingdaisy3169]

@@awesomeyou6815 that's not funny. this a very real issue that's not a laughing matter. if you make abuse into a joke people are not going to take this as seriously as they should.

[@sunseedsthoughts592]

This is such an important topic. There's such a huge breakdown in the black family. I'm estranged from my entire family right now due to narcissism and religious beliefs. I'd love to see an expert on this topic be interviewed. We gotta heal the black family.

[@biancalord488]

Same situation! Hope you find peace

[@sunseedsthoughts592]

@@biancalord488 thank you! Same to you.

[@GoldenGraham25]

Noted...

[@AlexaNicolexo]

I agree. I didn’t learn what family meant until I got with my Indian bf. They are so tight knit despite all the skeletons in their closet. Even today, they have issues, but they are family.

[@zazabrown732]

There hasnt been a healthy black American family since the days of slavery. This is nothing new.

[@carren1983]

I didn't realize how abusive my mom was until I had to move back in with her.

[@charlestonthomas7233]

Same here. She turned money hungry out of the blue too

[@biancalord488]

My dad was physically abusive, still is emotionally abusive

[@Boobalopbop]

I had the same experience when I was 26... I was paying all the rent and my own bills and she treated me like I was 14 again. Screaming, going insane if I leave a fork in the sink and crap. I'm now 40 with 2 kids of my own I knew that she was crazy then but now I'm like woooow, she really needs a doctor.

[@malikh7761]

Golden Life lol wtf that sounds like your fault for having to move back with her

[@kefkapalazzo1]

That’s why some countries don’t have the internet. You think the bullshit you live with is Normal

[@beautygiftedjowens]

2 things can be true at the same time: 1. You can love your parent deeply 2. You can acknowledge that same parent abused you We all have hurt and pass it down through the generations. You can still love your parent and have compassion for them while still realizing they are toxic to your current growth. Sometimes we need a break from our parents so we can process who we are as adults.

[@shaquoyag1484]

Facts !!

[@mielissa100ify]

Envy making fun of the lady’s grammar was so stupid. She’s obviously opening up and her story could help someone and that’s what he noticed.

[@MJM8715]

andrea B I caught that - he was foul for that - wasn’t even “listening” to what she was expressing 😡

[@549eric]

Don't mind envy he light skin in slow

[@zazabrown732]

Cos it was such an astonishing mistake. Beated? I've never even heard a kid say that. Nobody says beated even when they are illiterate.

[@innikkac]

Yes I agree not everyone should not be a mother! My mother is mentally and physically abusive to not only her own kids but to other people's kids!!!!

[@yjepierre]

Innikka Chambers sorry you have to deal with that love. Have patience but protect yourself and siblings as best you can. Best of luck and protection 💕💕💕

[@innikkac]

@@yjepierre Thank u!

[@vitola1111]

Innikka Chambers Honest question. Would you have rather not been born?

[@bigdurk4115]

@@vitola1111 what the hell is that supposed to mean

[@innikkac]

@@vitola1111 I appreciate her! But somethings you just should not say or do to your kids! Or others!!

[@Comeondawg]

Beating we’re passed down from slavery it was what our ppl came to understand as discipline learned behavior passed down

[@TheOriginalScorpioBelle]

White people whoop their children too. Don't believe the b.s.

[@davidcampos8032]

Mane365 Mrtnz fax

[@Nappy2theRoot]

@Mane365 Mrtnz Hispanic is not a race. There are black Hispanics so I'm sure they do

[@vik4741]

Africans been whooping they're kids, what you talking about?

[@Dddherdjo]

Black moms beat their husband

[@GoodFilms28]

I don't agree with telling a child to be submissive by dropping trousers, bending over, and allowing someone to discipline you. For a son, That's a form of emasculation imo.

[@biancalord488]

Yea, my dad used to slap me in the face at 18. He was also taking half of my paychecks, insulting me, and threatening to kick me out. I left, thank God🙏

[@zukoher]

Bianca Lord Damn! Same! I thought it was just me! I almost kicked my father’s ass a year ago. Had him in a corner. We haven’t talked since.

[@biancalord488]

Lachasity Brown thanks

[@biancalord488]

Zuko Here I never stood up to him. I just took the abuse until I gained the strength to leave

[@StevenSanchez_95]

Bianca Lord stay strong 💪🏾

[@diamonddb]

People say I should still talk to my mom no matter what... but like charlemagne said toxicity was removed from my life and I'm better off.

[@kforehand18]

I don't believe in blind loyalty I dont speak to family because I refuse to fake it as an adult

[@khumphrey4623]

What sticks with me is that people will not remember the details of what happened or why they were in trouble. What they will remember is how it, the situation or the “abuser”, made them feel....forever.

[@biancalord488]

Not true, some of us remembers every last detail. It will continue to ruminate in or minds, never leaving our thoughts until it overwhelms us

[@khumphrey4623]

Bianca Lord yes, you’re right. It’s terrible that people think they have the right to hurt people in such ways.

[@AthenaRenee1]

I like these topics. Very healing guys!

[@MJM8715]

Athena Renee Music Yes - sometimes folks feel they are alone and not realizing how many other suffer in silence!

[@robertgray320]

I got beat with extensions cords, belts and switches, whooped when I didn't deserve it, beat till I bled. Many of us have been there....................and to this day all that my mother did to try an instill disciple or punish me for my wrongs you would think I'd have a problem with the many whoopins I got. For some reason the bitchin and complaining everyday, never being happy, coming home angry everyday my entire childhood is what I hated and still hate to this very day. I hate it so much I never see me living with a woman who complains in the least bit. If a person cannot be happy and content just for being alive, if you don't have enough in you to be content with breathing, if you can't wake up with joy everyday, I can't mess with you whether you be family member or friend. I'm pretty sure this is the reason I enjoy my own company more than anyone else's! Thank God for giving me joy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@ebbypetes]

+Robert I agree. I hate the complaining my mom does it constantly. And my dad is just flat out abusive. I have to stay away to save my mental health. It's hard out here.

[@anatejada1100]

Sorry for what you went through as a child...blessing ❤️

[@robertgray320]

@@ebbypetes I agree, you have to stay away from people for your own sanity and quality of life. The peace in my life comes before anyone, and anyone who disturbs it is released like a fish off a hook................I will not discount it for anybody!

[@DJDivaDee]

Psychologically & emotionally damaged from my childhood abuse. I was born as a mistake, unwanted by my father who paid my mum off to abort me, but she didn't being the Christian she is. I was kicked out at 14 years old & put in foster care for no actual reason but because of her religious beliefs that made no sense. I am still healing although fully broken & realise that it was not my fault. Life can test you but never fold, Jah bless us all, I trust in him

[@shamiracollins9357]

🇯🇲DJ Diva Dee🇬🇧 I OVERSTAND AND FEEL THE SAME WAY🙌🏾🙋🏾‍♀️😩😢

[@DJDivaDee]

@@shamiracollins9357 I still question why I am here just to live a painful life, slowly giving up on everything

[@jayknowels7251]

🇯🇲DJ Diva Dee🇬🇧 Keep your head up girl

[@DJDivaDee]

​@@jayknowels7251Jah Jah bless my dear, just so tired of life

[@jayknowels7251]

🇯🇲DJ Diva Dee🇬🇧 everyone feels like that at some point we all go through it don’t let it keep u down tho 🙏🏾❤️ bless sister

[@TheTuellfamily]

I can hear the pain in this man's voice. Thank you for speaking out and sharing your truth. There are so many people who should not be parents. I have two of them, and they also had parents who should never of been parents. It's a cycle of abuse. I'm thankful that by God's grace I've been able to see the abuse for what it was and to break the cycle with my own kids. I'm not a perfect parent, but I've worked hard not to continue the cycle.

[@HiThereEveryone.2.4.6]

Amen

Society is soft

[@devin3955]

Mike Carter You’re a loser

[@anatejada1100]

Thank God for my parents, bless you all and I hope you guys heal...I pray for the children that are currently going through it

[@krbgfx]

I have a whole family (except for my Dad, he passed away) that I don't speak to at all, and they don't reach out at all. I have a mom, brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles. And I know who they are but we either don't speak or haven't spoken in years. I did not like my old family, so I made a new one. My two children. My son and daughter are the only family I need. They are the reason I will never give up on life. Blood isn't family, but your children are always.

[@visionarystar8957]

Charlamagne found the new topic for his next book

[@judahlewis505]

Visionary Star 😂😂😂😂

[@lefty206]

It's really sad because as a child you can't escape, and often even if you tell someone they will downplay it, which is another form of abuse in itself. This type of stuff sticks with us for a long time, often life long.

[@shaunnen7437]

Well it’s crazy cause black children think the abuse they go through is normal and it’s not. I had one friends who’s mom would just walk through the house screaming all day and if one of them asked her too many questions she’d call them bitches, mfs and hit on them and she thought that shit was regular. My mom and dad would do try everything with you before you got that damn whoopin and they never hit us anywhere but our butt.

[@lefty206]

@@shaunnen7437 that's the sad part, kids don't know any better and grow up into damaged adults.

[@swaygfx]

You can’t make excuses for people who don’t make any efforts. I don’t talk to my parents because they both are negative energies and never meant me no good. And they just not worth shit.

[@Learningisfree808]

“Hurt people hurt people” my ass it’s not my fault as child that your life is going a certain way. Buy a punching bag, don’t punch me. STOP MAKING EXCUSES FOR ABUSE.

[@MrIsaiahdix]

Real shit.

[@Nappy2theRoot]

Preach

[@RationallyMe]

Agreed! And if you know you are a "hurt person" don't have kids until you work through your hurt in counseling.

[@vincem2759]

FACTS

[@brainiacblack7590]

Minorities don’t talk about things that hurt them. Point blank. It’s seen as weak in the back of your mind and it stays there. That’s when all rationale goes out the window. There’s only so many ways a human can communicate

[@kingkhoilan]

A thing I've learned to do is calm myself down before I discipline my child so I can go in with a clear mind and not just anger. No situation is worth causing your child mental issues and fearing you for the rest of their life.

[@beastmode7169]

Dnt nobody got it worst then a person who has A AFRICAN AMERICAN PARENT AND A CARIBBEAN PARENT .. !! .. i love my parents and sympathize with them they did the best they could,

[@johnwade3432]

they different smh lol

[@caltron5000]

Trust me the only race that got it good is white people you don't even wanna know about asians Indian specifically ... you don't wanna know

[@neeshespieces]

Facts!! My jamaican parents crazy af!!!

[@kyled6168]

Going through some right now this is really what I needed thanks 🙏🏼

[@biancalord488]

Same here

[@Boobalopbop]

AMEN!!

[@biancalord488]

I hope you find peace Kyle 🙏

[@stacyr4768]

This is why I'm skeptical about being a parent

[@jackdamenace13]

My father doesn't want to talk to me anymore because he can't come to terms with why his kids have issues with him. He remarried and helped his second wife get two college degree meanwhile he refused to help any of his four kids when we were all in college. My mother was abusive, both mentally and physically, but he was pretty bad himself. My older brother used to be obese but now he's leaner because he went vegan and started working out. He used to body shame my brother til my brother would be in tears. He used to call me a faggot, retarded (I was diagnosed with aspergers when I was young) and all types of other names. He even threatened me with a stun gun when I was 14 because I told his 2nd wife she wasn't my mom after she tried to physically put her hands on me. When I was eight, he slammed me into the hood of his car several times because me and my younger sister were jay walking. I wet my pants while he was doing it. When I was 13, he was trying to get me tell him information about his ex-wife for his upcoming court hearing, so he pinned me to a couch and started punching me. Sometimes I have thoughts of beating him up or even strangling him to death. It's sick but he's that disgusting of a human being. That and his father have caused me to want to change my last name. My father is a doctor too.

[@Cloudz4k_]

What does hurt people hurt people have to do with anything. That’s not the children’s fault you should not take it out on them.

[@PeaceBeStill-]

That's the cause of the abuse. Pent up stress, frustration, and past issues are being projected onto the children.

[@erickh380]

Envy ain’t never had any issues in life i seems lol

[@anacuskova8563]

he was 5'2" that was his issue. in his podcast too it's how they present to the world

[@iloveeeerihanna]

Lol look how disconnected he is from this topic. No empathy or sympathy whatsoever 😩

[@neeshespieces]

No baggage lol

[@Candie5000]

So what you jealous?

[@erickh380]

@@Candie5000 Jealous? haha never I actually applaud him. I'm just saying he basically can't relate to any of those callers

[@Boobalopbop]

Wow, it's so refreshing to hear all this. I'm going through it! I'm almost 40 years old and my mother had done some real messed up things to me all the way up until I was 32. She just came to visit me in Germany, where I live now and this visit was just as fucked up as it was when she visited 4 years ago. I've alresdy accepted that she is a hateful person and I am just an easy target for her, because nobody else in the family will even bother with her. She claims to just love my 2 kids blah blah but the 2 weeks she comes to visit, my kids has never heard so much screaming and disrespect to the point where my 5 year old asked me why doesn't Grandma love you? She went down the list of everyone that loves me, including my in laws but she doesn't understand any Grandma hates me so. I don't have an answer for her. The positive in this is that my daughter will learn that not everyone is going to love you, even if you think they should. It's a valuable lesson. I didn't learn until my teens.

[@ebbypetes]

Aw baby. You're story is so familiar. Once I turned 13 my dad turned vicious. I stay away from him. God bless you. 💙

[@meciasrivera4769]

my siblings & I got beat like str8 animals from a country farm, day in day out. just picture a mule, bull, horse getting whoop. that cause anxiety, fear, negativity, PSTD, paranoid, depression, anti-social, lack of people skills, confuse, self-steem issues, low confidence

[@boujiebarbie3198]

People's confessions of their dealings with parents are amazing to me. I didn't have these experiences with my parents. I think my parents had the abuse in their childhoods that they tried to spare us from. My heart goes out to all these ppl. I hope they find peace after these traumas.

[@tonihall3609]

my mother was mentally abusive and it affects me today and I am 47 years old

[@biancalord488]

Stay strong! Be peace knowing that although you can’t change the past, you can shape your present and future by giving little to no time ruminating over something you had no control over. Try to stay positive & Make your day to day a happy environment... peace be with you... I’m 37 and. Still am traumatized but I try to laugh at my pain. We will never understand the motive of toxic people

[@agirlhasnoname6637]

That's the truth!!

[@tinaloveseddie]

Emma XTC Dang🙁

[@PrettyBeigeJazz]

Narcissistic and self righteous describes both my parents. I’m over both of them 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@Pewpewpew1991]

i got big smoke w my mom sometimes. but i love her 2 death n thats my smoke. nobody else's

[@wewantAJ]

Michael Surrett lmao bru u right💯

[@kaenkano1927]

Fuckin Rite Ma G!!! That's Our Smoke NO BODY ELSES... edit: Thats Real shit

[@mnjof82]

Hell yea I feel you

[@iloveeeerihanna]

💯💯

[@Will-oj3un]

This is why I love the Breakfast Club. They can go from dildo jokes to talking about mental health and giving their childhood stories and connecting with the fans. Much respect and love y'all.

[@anatejada1100]

Some people truly don’t deserve children ,so many don’t teach their full potential in life just because with who they are being raised...children go through so much man

[@egyptiankitty3]

Ana Tejada exactly really lots of people don’t deserve to be parents

I wish people understood that acknowledging someone’s hurt can heal relationships. It’s about showing interest in making thing better for the future since we can’t change the past. I can’t have a relationship with someone that is not willing to put in the work necessary for the relationship to thrive and heal because then we not growing, we just stuck in the cycle.

[@greenkidsblueplanet]

This exactly what I am going through. It is hard to move on when someone doesn't acknowledge that they did anything wrong. It feels worse when it is your parents...ugh. I want things to be better but they're either delusional or willfully ignorant.

[@yoruba21]

Exactly! I wish my parents understood that. I guess surface relationship is what they want.

Laddy Lau Sometimes it’s best to take a fasting from people and understand our worth for when something does happen you are emotionally prepared. It’s hard, but necessary at times for your own sanity. Keep your head up.

Sade_Ashley We have to be the example in showing our parents (the ones with communication issues) the correct way of communicating without the disrespect. While showing them the ability to open and honest dialogue in order to have a better relationship, but once you notice that you have done everything on your behalf to have an active communicative relationship and it’s still the same, then thats when you make an conscious choice to not allow other peoples hurt, hurt you. Hope you get a real relationship with your parents because we all deserve it. Peace.

[@greenkidsblueplanet]

@ Thanks for that. I like your thought process of fasting. In a way, I was fasting and since becoming a mom to my first child, a lot of reflection has happened. I have to be strong and happy for my daughter. I have released my parents from any expectation that they will be a part of her life. I have to accept that.

[@JH-vo1pv]

I am so glad Black men are starting to speak out against the beating and emotional abuse that many of us experienced. No grudge against my parents but we have to stop the cycle.

[@Troubleboi561]

But at the end of the day we didn’t ask to be here , they owed us the world and should be treated as prince and princess not slaves getting beaten when Disobedient , shouldn’t have to force a bond

[@curlywurly70]

I was beaten with belts, extension cords, fan belts, switches you name it. Often for very minor things. Also, verbally abused regularly. This caused depression and anxiety growing up and it lasted until I was in my forties. I didn't realize until I was in my late forties that my anxiety and depression that I experienced my whole life was caused by the abuse that I endured as a child. On one hand you are being abused. On the other hand, you are being told it's because your abuser loves you.

[@phoenixrising55555]

Kirk Williams this speaks VOLUMES ❗️❗️❗️ and people wonder why some people stay in abusive relationships when they are adults ... well as a kid they were told it equals love ❗️

[@agirlhasnoname6637]

I hear you. I was just diagnosed with borderline personality disorder as a result of my abusive upbringing. Its sad to think things could have been different/ better if I had different folks....or just wasn't born at all

[@ogenwafor5369]

Our parents want us to fear them not respect them

[@rachelsweets]

True

[@briattnybrittany6843]

Facts! The trauma is real out here... I vow to never do my future children like that. I will break the cycle.

[@DJObiSmalls]

LOOOL @ Envy's problems vs Charlamagne & Angela Yee. Sometimes he is a bit clueless.

[@MAD_BST]

My mother stole my fathers retirement. It was meant to pay for college with, her actions leave me in about 40-50k worth of debt. No forgiveness. I loathe her for her behavior throughout my life. My dad gets a pass now that im old enough to know what he would of had to have went thru dealing with my mom.

[@colomghetto]

I was a sensitive young kid, and my dad had anger issues. When he got angry he took it out on us, hit us, beat us, and this has effected me my whole life. I don't know how I feel about my dad, and we have a lot of issues still till today. Now my father is older and he pretends he never did anything to us. That really strikes a chord with me.

[@MimiMadness94]

My parents didn’t abuse me but there was a lot of negativity in my household because my parents had issues they couldn’t work through and it effected us. That stays with you for a long time and I was angry and sad and alone for a very long time. My parents have been more supportive lately and I feel like we’re closer than I thought we could be.

[@tinaloveseddie]

MimiMadness94 my life🙁

[@agirlhasnoname6637]

Just cuz they're your parents doesn't mean you have to keep them in your life. Toxic ppl are toxic ppl. Relatives or not. Its bothering me that envy keeps saying "I hope y'all can work it out" maybe it's better that they DON'T.

[@backto-il9ne]

Damn! Yee's dad was an old school Chinese gangster. I'm sure he grew up or his parents grew up during the harsh ass cultural revolution. He must have tough as steel.

[@monember2722]

I can't imagine he is old enough to have experienced the cultural. revolution. Also he is west Indian. Trini I think. West Indians beat their kids. Asians too, but her father is west Indian.

[@ExistNNature]

We're all suffering or have suffered from our parents and/or family. The thing is some people cant come back from the trauma they've endured.

[@dayreal3243]

As adult. You set the boundaries with your parents. Plus change the dynamic of the relationship. Doing this you will understand your parents. I did it with mine. Am rare human being I didn't get PHYSICALLY abuse some emotional abuse. Am not playing when I was young no hiring me. I fight back. Moon or anyone.

[@toniomacaronio7785]

My parents whooped me from morning till night,most of the time for no significant reason, so this definitely hit home.

[@hiso..4531]

I am a white person from a small rural town. I grew up like this too. As a 32 year old woman I'm just now realizing all the ways my parents have messed me up and why all of my relationships were abusive. I think most ppl should not have children. Not to mention passing down depression, addiction, health problems, etc. It just becomes selfish to procreate at that point.

[@natalieb8988]

I am blessed and highly favored. My mother has been a strong 💪 positive influence in my life. I wish my father was more involved he provided us with our needs and wants financially. But morally he wasn’t. He didn’t discipline he wasn’t physically involved. My father died 2wks after the birth of my daughter 11yrs ago. We didn’t have the time to mend our relationship but we did become closer when I gave birth to my son. Moral of the story life is to short to hold grudges on someone for their imperfections.

[@lewiswilborn5415]

Always cool to see the Breakfast Club talk about stuff we need to discuss to get better as a people

[@DialloMoore503]

My parents divorced when I was a kid and it devastated me. It was for the best, though. They were always arguing and fighting (physically). They both struggled with their drug addictions and I witnessed it all. Both my mother and father were very talented and attractive people, but they made some poor choices in their youth and they suffered the consequences. The hood really was like a village. Relatives and people that knew my family made sure I stayed on the right track. I felt the LOVE. I was going to enlist in the military after I graduated high school, but my dad was worried because I’m his only son (I have five sisters). Anyway, that’s enough about the past. Despite of their flaws, I still love my parents and I will never disrespect the people that gave me life. Parents, if you know you have a gifted child, make sure you push them to succeed. Sit down with them and research career options and opportunities. This has nothing to do with class, because poor people are the most capable. Young people need guidance. Most of all, they need SUPPORT. God bless.

[@TK-go3vu]

"Hurt people hurt people" ive never heard that before but that is so true

[@twistedtee648]

I didn't realize until I was older with my own children the anger and sometimes extreme physical discipline my parent showed me was the same treatment she received as a child. Once I realized that, the resentment I felt towards her turned into sympathy. She didn't figure out a way to unburden herself from that pain. My children never knew what is was like to be punched, slapped, cursed because I made a choice to forgive.

[@kevinlambert5854]

Idk your situation but if you were abused and you decided not to abuse your children, what’s her excuse 🤔

[@chedrickg]

Thank you to the Breakfast Club for being so honest and open. This will help alot of people.

[@FuturePro95]

And people love saying "But that's still your mother/father" like yeah I need reminding.

[@Brandon-kx6oq]

Envy was stuck on the facts she said Beated >.

[@Sixdawg06]

A lot of people shouldn’t be parent because a lot of people aren’t mature. Y’all think age correlates with mature indefinitely but it doesn’t. Too many adults with immature minds.

[@StevenSanchez_95]

Christopher Johnson that part 🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@angelicacuriel9977]

I am grateful that you guys had this conversation. I felt ashamed for having so much anger and resentment towards my parents. I hated them for even having me. What Charlamaigne said is true, we need to be patient with our parents. Easier said than done but it's for our personal growth and healing. I forgive my parents for leaving me with a bunch of fucked up mental shit to deal with in my adult life. It's not easy but having my son gives me the daily reminder that I want this little human being to experience a much better childhood and to NEVER question my love for him. I can truly say that my son restored my humanity.

[@sharanichole]

I don't have a relationship with either of my parents by choice. I love them both but I dont really want anything to do with them honestly. No one will ever understand

[@tinaloveseddie]

Shara Nichole I have siblings like that. I love them whole heartedly, but I don’t like them. If that makes sense.

[@gilliankennedy3836]

As I've gotten older I've realized that as f@$ked my parent's were messed up from their own childhoods x

[@caltron5000]

I used to get my ass beat for no reason so many times , my parents were straight up Christian's no alchohol no drinking but they just thought they were disciplining me . At a point I started keeping a record of how many times I got beat for no reason and I was like one day they gonna see but as I grew up I let it go but the scars are there it doesn't go away ,..

[@CarlosAfraka]

Ive never had issues with my parents, of course they weren’t perfect, but who is ? They’ve always been there and done their best to protect and lead me in life. I’m truly blessed to have the parents God gave me.

[@g_s_g9658]

Yes 😢 I'm 30 & me & my mom are not good at all. That hurts but I can't change that. It is what it is 🤷🏽‍♀️ I hope I make my children happy ❤ I love this generation,we open up 🙏🏽❤

[@tinaloveseddie]

giovanna G I’m sure you make your children happy🙂 The fact that you’re thinking about their feelings, shows how much love you have for them.🥰

[@kengy1991]

This is why I truly feel blessed by God for my mom and dad. They both came from broken homes but came together to provide my siblings and I with a strong family unit. They’ve been married for over 30 years and still love one another and us kids.

[@2000wattz]

My siblings and I were tortured by my mom and stepfather. They would take turns beating us with plunger sticks, belts, cords, you name it. My mom would even laugh at us when we got beaten, said we "looked funny". I moved out when I was 15 and I never really looked back. My mom has since divorced my stepfather after 22 years together and she wants to have a relationship with us. But the damage is done. Her son is selling drugs on the streets and in and out of jail. Her daughter is addicted to crack and selling herself on the streets. And the rest of her kids are depressed and stuck. I find it difficult to build a relationship with her because she's the same toxic person, and she always trigger me. I want to have kids but most likely won't because I don't want to be like my parents. The moral of the story, beating your kids will only lead them down a path of being emotionally unstable adults who may resort to self medicating.

[@biancalord488]

Sorry this happened to you and your siblings. Praying for your peace

Please consider therapy if you haven't already.

[@Amada__]

My mother left me to go to another country when I was a toddler and left me with my dads side of the family. There I was molested, beaten and not given any food for three years. I had tape worms in my stomach and I would of been dead if my grandma (moms mom) one day didn’t come up and check up on me within that last month. Then my mom met someone else and they had a very toxic relationship and they were both trying to kill themselves infront of me and I had to take care of my younger siblings. It was a new traumatic experience everyday until I turned 18 and left. I didn’t speak to my biological mom or adoptive dad for a while when I left. I didn’t speak to my mom for three years and then we had a long talk and told her everything that i have seen in my eyes. Now we are working on our relationship(father as well). Just give the relationship time guys, work on your toxicity that you carry amongst yourself. Don’t carry it to the next generation. When you work on yourself be the best person you can be and start loving yourself. I bet there’s a lot of love you’re not giving yourself. I’m still working on myself everyday.

[@Nevertoyoung20]

My mom was narcissistic and abusive. She totally shouldn’t have been a parent. I completely agree with shaggy.

[@yoruba21]

I was adopted as a toddler and was really close to my bio mom, she was an addict, so we were taken. As a child when I would talk about my bio mom or feelings about it I was told to stop and forget about it. So after awhile of being told that a lot, I internalized everything and probably been dealing with depression and anxiety my whole life. A few years ago I sought counseling and my mother told me that she took me to a counselor one time as child. She said she didnt like what the counselor said to her so I never went back and never got help. So I suffered because her feelings were hurt. Yet me being traumatized taken away from everything I knew didnt matter. That still bothers me. Yes my parents are good parents but they suck at emotional support and still do. They need counseling themselves but will never go.

[@issavirgo4838]

I think it was sickening how parents would let you get the weapon they were gonna beat you with or pick between weapons to beat you

[@TheeKaylaMarieOne]

I love my parents enough to care for my inner being the way they should have, I.e removing people who harm me with no hesitance, including them.

[@jiggysjungle948]

I grew up with a mother from Trinidad so I was beat with any and everything she was able to lift and swing more than once 😂😭 it became normal to my siblings and I

[@estherbradley3218]

I love my parents, but obviously they had their own unresolved issues that negatively impacted their ability to parent. I have done my absolute best to heal and not pass that bs on to my children. I'm glad you all are discussing this and not pointing fingers, because so many times when you try to talk to other people they often blame you and tell you to just get over it, not understanding that grief comes in other forms other than death..

[@kevinvalencia7541]

Realistically parents should understand that once they conceive a child they lose privacy it's not the child's fault that wanted to be conceived.the parents couldn't keep it in their pants and still trying to figure out life as they create one.

[@ajthomas4254]

Not all parents but some people see couples & people with babies thinking that it is all fun & games

[@cheterry17]

My Grandma has 7 kids total and she has admitted many times that she never hugged or told them she loved them because her parents never expressed that to her or her siblings. Luckily something changed down the line because she always tells her kids, grands and great grands that she loves us now. And those simple gestures has gotten me along way. I love you Grandma Beauchamp.

[@mr.steeltoe8780]

That pregnant Envy doll in the back with Charlemagne standing behind 😂

[@lissette15]

These stories are sad and scary and I’m thankful I was raised with love and respect. My mom never abused me or my sister, I never even got a slap from my mom. My grandma and grandpa never abused their children. Honestly it’s all thanks to my great - grandma who was born to a slave. Her father was sadistic and he abused all of his kids. My great grandma didn’t pass on that abuse to her child and as a result, I never experienced any kind of abuse.

[@briannamcclain9302]

I see alot of physical beating comments what about emotionally and mental abuse and toxic ideologies that black communities valued?

[@TheThriftQueen]

Brianna McClain girl yes!!!!! A lot of mental and emotional manipulation and abuse in my household. Beatings were present too. My best remedy was to live far far away from my parents. I always struggled with Ephesians 6:2 but I come to find out with time I need mental and spiritual peace in my life.

[@briannamcclain9302]

@@TheThriftQueen I definitely agree. It's so hard when its toxic and emotionally unavailable

[@shinebabyshine.]

My mom is emotional abusive too. I’ve always been afraid to speak on this, a way of keeping her secret. We need to start having these convos with each other, esp. in the black community.

[@migzwilliams2049]

had 0 relationship with my dad. my mom was too young to take care of mentally. my grandad raised me. my mom used to beat me all the time. grandad only hit me once.. he used words and i understood.

[@ozonejar]

O y’all hit a nerve with this one. Yes very deep issues. I’ll probably never speak to them again

[@rroberts7073]

When you learn better, you do better. I will never strike a child again. That is an extension of slavery and it is a learned behavior.

[@StevenSanchez_95]

R Roberts 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@lorenloren1942]

Child abuse can have long term effects on people. A lot of times its not even the physical abuse that hurts and stays with you, its the verbal/emotional abuse. I'm a grown woman and I still have a hard time feeling like I'm worthy, confident and deserving of good things because of things that were said to me as a child almost everyday. I feel like people are more open now to talk about child abuse and mental health though. Even though I've forgiven this person in my heart I have no relationship with them which I am 1000% okay with. But maybe trying to understand why they did those things has kind of given me a little comfort and allowed me to open my heart and maybe have a conversation with them in the future. It may or may not happen but either way, I hope having conversations like these help someone to heal and move on ✨❤

[@TOskiii86]

Cthagod sed when you pray to remove negativity .....sometimes it might be the embodiment of that negativity....God only says children obey your father and mother and sometimes you get a group of parents not aware of there responsibility and perfecting it but as children all we are required to do is obey.....

[@phoenixrising55555]

Antonio Travis that’s us black folks problem now 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️ I’m a strong follower of God , but let’s be REAL

[@TOskiii86]

@@phoenixrising55555 well God wants us to be in Christ and in Christ there is no group of black folks Galatians 3:28 ....It is God that gives us the will and the do of his good pleasure.....just obey.....

[@atonshabazz-bey911]

That doll baby in the back gonna be traumatized by its parents' freaky sex positions

[@AwkwardlyIntroverted]

I loved this interview! It’s so common in black households and we need to talk about it.

[@victoriadream]

I’m so amazed that trauma and abuse are being addressed in our community. Thank you guys for focusing on this subject.

[@aciceron7501]

My Unpopular opinion within the black community is that a lot parents don’t want to grow/heal and hardly ever apologize to their kids

[@1022gd]

My dad was difficult to deal with growing up. Now as an adult I can understand that him not having a father affected how he was as a father. He didn't have real men in his life to teach him better. I love my dad and he is the best grandpa to my kids.

[@axeslinger94]

Just because your dad didn't have a strong male figure growing up in his life doesn't mean what he did was okay. A lot of the older generation uses this excuse, or religious excuses, or any other bs to justify playing out their traumas onto their children instead of seeking professional medical help and mental health services. We as younger people need to break those chains and stop making excuses for them. They may have "done the best they could with what they had at the time" but we need to know that sometimes their best isn't enough, nor is it actually healthy. You don't have to force yourself to love family members who affected you in this way just bc it's the right thing to do.

[@1022gd]

@@axeslinger94 I'm not making excuses for him or saying it's ok. I was sharing that I'm glad my dad got the help he needed so now we have a good relationship.

[@misssincere5762]

ME & my Mom are not on speaking terms either!