Having Long Hair As a Trans Guy

[@Rowan.Evander]

As someone who has no plans to go on T and has long hair past my waist, I've definitely been transitioning on hard mode...including getting flack from cis people and other trans people for not passing or being 'trans enough.' I definitely don't pass now and I probably never will, but in all honesty? I don't care. I'm comfortable with my looks and I'm just as much of a man as any other. If they can't accept that about me, that's on them.

[@valentine.58]

hell yea my guy B) im actually starting T soon, but i am super fem in a lot of aspects and its been hard getting my family to take me seriously because of it. but its fine cuz they're all just little bitches who'll have to grow up and deal with it lmfao. best of luck to you :)

[@Rowan.Evander]

@@valentine.58 Right? There's no right or wrong way to be trans in regards to presentation. Good luck to you on your journey!

[@suzannep]

I think it's so important for everyone to realize that no one has an obligation to look a certain way in order to be who they are. I'm gender fluid but generaly feel nonbinary, but my hair is long and I have big boobs and I am ok with that, I know some people think nonbinary "should" look androgynous but that is only their opinion, it is not reality. Reality is that we can all look like whatever feels most comfortable or is achievable at any point and be ourselves. I have a friend who wears a beard and I don't think of her as any less feminine because of it, I think she rocks wearing a beard, and I have other friends who are nonbinary and wear dresses and others like me who won't ever wear a dress again, and some of my girl friends who will never be caught dead in a dress, it's all about what feels good to each of us. Now if only society would catch up to this idea and stop forcing certain styles and looks onto individuals.

[@Soundwave._]

Dude that's awesome! I cut my hair just above my waist since I kept sitting on it lmao but I also have very long hair and am pre-T. I really recommend voice training if you have any vocal dysphoria, it helps a ton with passing! You can also try looking into drag king beard tutorials if you want to try out facial hair but don't want anything permanent. I know the tips weren't solicited but just thought they might help just in case. Sounds like you have a hella healthy relationship with your masculinity though mate! I envy your security.

[@embeddedgirl]

BASED GIGACHAD -binary mtf silly girl

[@persephone7656]

As a trans girl who has been watching you since before my own transition. I find myself kinda wanting to chop my own hair off to challenge my own internalized transphobia. My long hair has been such a security blanket even since before transition.

[@karatheythemharkins2393]

See mine above, was a binary transwoman with long hair for decades then last year worked out nonbinary and got a short cut

[@Soundwave._]

Go for it! Butchy/tomboyish trans girls look cute as hell! I totally get the security blanket thing but at the same time, you gotta go with the gender expression that feels most right to you. Sincerely, transmasc nonbinary person with *very* long hair ;)

[@karatheythemharkins2393]

@Ana Luisa thanks for saying that so nobody will want to date you too

[@SunIsLost]

Yea

[@gogetyourgun1490]

I'm nonbinary, not on T, but had top surgery. I recently grew my hair out, so I'm not seen as androgynous anymore. That's okay, I honestly don't care at this point. Ever since top surgery, I feel a lot more comfortable being more feminine so I decided to grow my hair out. It's really cool to see myself shirtless with long hair. It's like, I went back to how I looked before I transitioned but now with a flat chest & I finally see how I felt before transition. I also don't like the stereotype of nonbinary people only having short hair. There's also the convenience factor into it, like money to pay for a haircut, my Asian hair sticks out on the sides if it's a buzzcut, having to get my haircut once every month, etc. Will I cut my hair short again? Yeah, when? I have no idea. I'm just enjoying my long hair now & getting them french braided.

[@jordmin]

Thanks so much for covering this topic Jackson! I really want to grow my hair out, but since I’m only about 1 year on T and don’t pass** yet, I’ve been anxious that long hair = transitioning on hard mode. Commenting before watching to boost engagement, but I’m really excited to hear your thoughts. 😊 (**Just want to clarify that of course passing isn’t the goal for every trans person, and it should never be expected/demanded of us. I just consider it an important part of my own personal journey!)

[@jupitersnoot4915]

I am 100% certain that all trans people more or less go through a "what does everybody else think of me? Do I pass enough? I MUST look 100% feminine/masculine!!" phase. In my experience, that sort of anxious apprehensive stage is usually the first phase a trans person will go through after coming out. There is almost a fear that if they don't behave stereo-typically masculine or feminine, they will be looked at as a faker. I remember when I first came out being utterly OBSESSED with the way that I walked. I was hyper-focused on making sure that my hips didn't sway too much. Interestingly for me, I've never really tied my hair to my gender identity too much. I currently have short hair, but only last year I had an undercut, with long hair on top that went to almost the centre of my back. To me my hair has always felt more like an accessory rather than an integral part of who I am. I think as we trans people grow and age and become more comfortable with our identities and more comfortable existing in the world, we eventually grow to no longer care. I am pre-T still despite being out for a good few years, having come out at 12 and now being 21 (that's all gonna change in less than 2 weeks though! :D), and even though I know I don't pass for male, I have grown to the point where I no longer care how strangers in public think or feel about how I look. The opinions of people whose names I don't even know don't matter to me in the slightest. When I'm out in public, I don't spare a single thought anymore to how I walk, how I hold my phone, or anything else superficial like that. To any younger trans people who may be reading this who are still in the anxious and worried phase of their journey - don't worry. It won't last forever. One day, hormones or not, you will be comfortable enough in who you are that you won't even consider the opinions of strangers for a single moment as you go about your days. Don't feel like you have to fit a mould in order to be considered "real" in your gender. Throw away any conventions you have about what it means to be your true gender. You already are your true gender. You always were. You don't have to prove anything to ANYONE.

[@_foxpuppet]

I absolutely feel you on this one! But sort of in reverse? Pre-transition, after high school I cut my hair short (I had it short as a kid because my parents did not want the hassle that would have been getting me to even vaguely look after long hair) and it felt SO DAMN GOOD for "some reason" lol. After a couple years I wanted to grow it out again, I'm goth as heck and I wanted to do the whole long and black look. But every time I started to let it grow out I would get so frustrated with it. It would drive me absolutely nuts no matter what I did and even when I got it past the awkward in-between ear and chin length stage (too long to not be in the way, too short to pull back) I would hate it even more and cut it all off again. Each iteration got shorter and shorter despite my professing that I wanted it long. Then I finally did some honest thinking about my gender and came to accept I am trans. Since starting to transition I've gotten my hair cut maybe once. It is currently around the length you had it in the beginning of this video and I feel fine. It isn't annoying, it isn't making me mad, it hasn't felt like a hassle at all. Except having to buy more dye, lol. It's a silly story but I like that I no longer feel that the only honest gender expression I'm allowed is short hair. I can do whatever with it because I finally know that I'm a dude and hair length has nothing to do with it

[@valerie2776]

I'm sure I've said it before but you and ash hardell cutting your hair short and talking about it got me to finally cut mine, and what a relief it was to do it

[@jackisnotabird]

Aw man, Val, that’s so cool. I re-watched me and Ash’s videos when I was making this one and it’s just cool to see how all us online weirdos have been supporting and inspiring each other for so many years. (I shot that one video with Ash while in town for NerdCon: Stories and had literally just come from crashing with all the Cats so you all kind of felt like a part of it)

[@deoxiribo]

“What’s absurd is projecting our own self doubts as certainties onto others.” Yes! 🎤

[@bsrfuchs55]

maybe those people just want to help another trans guy to not get misgendered all the time and can not imagine that another trans guys doesn't care that he gets misgendered every day

[@deoxiribo]

That’s still not something to project on other people, and that kind of “advice” should not be offered without being asked for it.

[@skysorrow9041]

I'll admit, I have complicated feelings about hair length & dysphoria, almost in reverse to the ones you're talking about, probably due to my upbringing. I was raised by an old rocker, almost all of the men in my life that I knew personally, had long hair, & most of the woman I knew personally had short, or at least shorter hair than most of the men. I grew up going to places like bike ralleys & rock gigs/pubs, where most of the men had long hair. 3 of 4 of the men my Mom dated over my childhood, had long hair. Almost all of my masculine influences from celebrity world, the music I was raised on, like Meatloaf, Queen, Alice Cooper, Twisted Sister, The Darkness, Aerosmith, Bon Jovi, etc, had LONG HAIR. I was raised with the idea firmly ingained that long hair was very much a masculine trait & didnt really encounter the more mainstreamed belief that most people saw the opposite way untill I was in school, & was often qenuinely baffled by the idea when people brought it up. Despite getting misgendered more by other people when I kept my hair long, & being bothered by that, I actually found I felt more disphoric during the two times I tried cutting it short, & felt very uncomfortable untill it started to grow back. Having long hair has always been kind like a security blanket to me, & has always been a firm boost to my sense of masculinity, despite the occasional doubts, like you've described. I suppose, in the end, it's all about perspective, as you say. 🤷

[@micahroberts8383]

I'm loving growing out my hair! I wasn't allowed to cut it as a kid. Chopping it all off was extremely liberating in undergrad, despite barely acknowledging my queerness, let alone my transness, at the time. Now, I'm reclaiming my long hair (with the help of facial hair euphoria) and it brings me so much joy! I just hope it grows fast enough that it's long before it's gone, lol.

[@tylerthompson7461]

I also wasn't allowed to cut my hair as a kid. I don't know why my mom was so obsessed with me and my sisters having waist-length hair. (especially because she complained about styling our hair every day when we were younger)

[@SingBlueSilver76]

It amuses me when a lot of trans men talk about having long hair when it only just touches the shoulders its not really what i personally would consider to be long. I'm a transman and my hair is down to my mid back and I NEVER cut my hair when I transitioned even though people would ask me if I was going to cut it I refused to even in the early days when I didnt pass. Although I've always been into alternitive music (since the 90s because I'm old now) like heavy metal, goth and industrial its very common for men into that to have long hair and is very normal.

[@taltheweirdo]

holy shit this video is SO on point. I'm also transmasc and had a similar experience- during the pandemic I tried to grow back the Fluff™ , but I just couldn't find a way to like how it looked (with it's natural volume the only way I can where it is back, not loose). btw- I've been following you for a few years now, and seeing your journey in parallel to mine has helped me grow so much. Thanks for being awesome!

[@jayflight5351]

I've been having a hard time being around other trans men recently because of a combination of internalized transphobia, dysphoria, and seeing myself in them, so some of what you talked about really resonated with me. I think getting past this discomfort could be a big part of feeling more comfortable with myself.

[@kirbycobain1845]

I feel all of this so hard, I've had a very long and non linear transition but I'm currently 6 months on T and have been having similar feelings :/ I have complicated gender feelings every time my hair gets to my shoulders and it's rough man

[@sparkypete9221]

We care too much about the " others " in almost every regard..always do what is best for you. We decide what that is , not the OTHERS. . I hate the others . .almost like Im hearing other ppls voices and thoughts. It's what we listened to and now think. But we are stronger than most of those OTHERS..good vid

[@corwynolivergrey606]

I'm transmasc, pre-T, and currently growing out my hair! I cut it all off when I was 14 and every attempt to grow it out so far has ended in "changing it up" lol

[@tylerthompson7461]

I hate having to style my shorter hair and I think my face looks better with longer hair. I've been thinking about growing out my hair longer but haven't because I was worried about people misgendering me and my family thinking I was detransitioning. I was also worried about dysphoria even though my boyfriend and half of his friend group have long hair! So this video was just what I needed to have the courage to just do whatever the heck I want with my body. Thank you Jackson! :)

[@butterflypooo]

The new cut looks SoooooOoooooo good. 🤯 It really suits your beard and facial features so well. Truly, you look more masculine and mature. It’s very clean and I just love the vibes. 💯 I get your hair insecurities. When I was questioning my gender and for the first year since I came out, I had about chin length hair that I tried to make look androgynous. I actually really liked it, but eventually realized that it made my pre-T face look softer. In the heat of summer, I cut my hair super short, hoping it would mak my face look more masculine. It sort of does, but I struggle to cut it myself and don’t feel safe going to a barber until I can pass. I DO rely on a backwards baseball hat a lot but occasionally love my shorter hair. However, I’ve noticed how much effort it is to trim short hair. It’s more work than my androgynous mid length cut, and when I pass more, I could definitely pull it off better. I just started T and have been thinking about letting my hair grow out a bit (aiming for Aragorn hair style) and see how I feel about that as my face looks more masculine. But yeah, I LOVE your waves - This is the best I’ve ever seen you. you look amazing. killing it.

[@camtheartist]

i've been growing my hair out and i've been out as trans for like 10 years now haha so i'm late but i felt really seen by this , thank you for sharing

[@cronicales]

I’m Agender 🙌 This video reminded me in the early days when I was questioning everything. At that time I hated my hair, I wanted it cut short. And I did, I was happy with it but I wasn’t completely happy, and years later, I cut it even shorter and I was happy about it but. I now realize I don’t want hair, I just want it buzzed off. (Many personal reasons why) and now I’m getting it buzzed off. and the thought of it makes me feel so relieved 😌.

[@mika2483]

im a trans guy and i would love to have longer hair again :c but i always am seen as a girl and if i grow out my hair itll only get worse i fear. im not on hormones yet and its so hard

[@2111jade]

Same. I’m not on hormones either. So seen as a girl regardless. -_- Part of me has given up

[@mika2483]

@@2111jade honestly its so hard because it will just make it harder but i wanna have long hair i miss it :c

[@Soundwave._]

Ey I'm pre-t too but there are some things you can do to help you pass while you wait! There are videos on KZbin if you look up "Voice Masculinisation Training" or "Voice Deepening Exercises". I recommend looking at the ones by trans guys specifically. Some of them are also pre-t so you can see how well they work (it's the same techniques trans girls use to make their voices pass since estrogen doesn't affect their vocal chords, so remember to thank our trans sisters for that wisdom) There are also tutorials by drag kings for using crepe and spirit gum to make yourself pretty realistic facial hair. Does wonders for passing. Obviously, they also have good fashion tips for passing too, especially the ones who are also transmasc. Good luck!

[@mika2483]

@@Soundwave._ thank you!!!

[@Soundwave._]

@@mika2483 No problem dude :)

[@KJ1234]

It's a good reminder "it's just hair". I was going through a hair crisis today. I dyed my hair blonde. The back and sides are cut short and were brown. The top was blonde from months ago. I bleached all of my hair including the blonde bits and then put toner on and it made the tips of my hair purple/grey. It really bothers me because I don't want that color and it makes my hair look grey. I know it will grow out or fade in time. Also, I could just cut it. Either way. It's just hair *sigh* Love your vids, thanks for sharing!

[@thom_is_trans]

The new haircut looks awesome, and I 100% resonate with everything you were saying about having longer hair as a trans guy. I've often thought to myself that I'd like to experiment with slightly longer hair and less stereotypically "male" fashion choices, but my need to be gendered correctly (as someone relatively early on in transition) is the most important thing to me right now, so I stick with the short hair and clothes that scream "guy" to outside observers. I'm hopeful that down the line I'll feel more comfortable experimenting with hair length and my general outward expression, so it's definitely heartening to hear that you were able to reach that point yourself of being comfortable with your longer hair. Anyway, tl;dr, thank you for talking about this - I'm always glad to see new videos from you!

[@krystalpearl1958]

It's your hair. Keep it the way you want to. I am a woman with short hair, and I cut it because I don't have the best hands (cerebral palsy) and it's hard for me to maintain it. Your hair looks amazing. Do what you want with your body.

[@lindenbug]

I want to try growing my hair back out eventually but I don’t really feel ready yet. Maybe I am still dealing with some internalized crap, but it’s also like, I worry about looking in the mirror and getting super dysphoric again. I haven’t had top surgery and my body hasn’t changed a whole lot after about a year and a half on T, so my hair is still something I’m clinging to for self affirmation at this point. Also, since the pandemic I’ve gradually learned to cut it myself, and it feels good to get it exactly the way I want, whenever I want. But my hair did look really nice when it was long on the rare occasions I actually did something with it. It would be nice to be get a chance to explore that again without all the dysphoria someday.

[@karatheythemharkins2393]

Interesting ppl talking about hair, i was a binary transwoman for 20 years and had long hair since the early 70s, last year worked out i was nonbinary and wound up having the first short cut in 50 years, which also meant having nonshort hair styles in the 80s, between all of that wound up ppl non sure what i was doing

[@lucascrow348]

I'm currently growing out my hair (it's about your length right now actually) and I am loving it. I wasn't allowed to cut my hair as a kid so I first had it short when I was 19 years old. I loved it and needed it to combat dysphoria for my first year or so on T but now that my frame has filled out and my beard is coming in I feel so much happier having it get longer! I take great pride in my hair and I'm so excited to get it back to below my shoulders and have my awesome blond mane in its full glory back.

[@vo4313]

Sir, have you considered a fedora on formal occasions? Also, this barber recommended me this powder gel stuff that you put at the roots of your hair instead of the ends for styling and I don't remember the brand name but damn it helps in sleek styling ;) you look great, boyo

[@SamSuonpaa]

Thank you so much for these videos... you are so good at voicing things that many of us (I suppose... can only speak for myself) are going through. Also, wanted to comment on how gorgeous you've become. I've been absently following you for a few years and every time I stumble across a new video I'm thinking "whoa, he looks great" ... more and more. Wow. Maybe having a bit of a mancrush here... hoping I was more like you... As a transmasculine / enby person that really feels at home with medium long surf hair, this video really voiced some of the thoughts I have. I knew from the beginning what kind of hair I wanted, and actually went with that, but all those internalised transphobic thoughts actually almost made me go with something that doesn't feel right for me. Love your hair by the way. It's perfect... both before and after! I was going to comment on another video but then I noticed you actually made a post about the hair...

[@allisonjkth773]

Love that you brought it back around to Voltaire in the end. Lilly would approve.

[@elihalewood7845]

As of now I'm two years on T and just over three weeks post top surgery. I have grown my hair out over the last two years and now it is probably the same length as yours here. People gender me correctly 95% of the time these days, the only times I am mis-gendered is by accident while I'm working when my back is facing customers. They see the long hair and just assume, which I don't blame them for, and when I turn around and talk they are quick to correct themselves. I think an important thing to remember is even cis people get mis-gendered when they appear to have traits traditionally presented in the opposite gender to their own. So when people mis-gender me baised on my hair it doesn't bother me that much, I like my hair long, I like the look of it. Just do what makes you happy and comfortable 😊

[@Octobris]

I'm not trans, but I went through a similar journey with hair. I too let it grow to the similar length yours was before the cut, and around the same time as you. I too had been afraid of experimenting with hairstyles for like, two decades of my adult life because of other people's opinions and the complicated relationship with my own masculinity ("will I be treated as less becuase of longer hair? Will I out myself as gay/bi to other people?"). But once I simply... started, those insecurities slowly passed. Of course there were times, especially after almost 2 years that I felt unsure and annoyed (which lead me to ultimately cutting it) but also, there were times I absolutely rocked it. Those moments of euphoria were awesome. I don't regret getting a haircut (the one I got might have been the best one in my life?) but I also don't regret growing the hair out. You may say this video is self-indulgent, but I totally get you. Like Fleabag said, HAIR IS EVERYTHING :D but also, the phrase "It's just hair" is true at the same time. Here's to more experiments and not caring about what anybody says ;)

[@ArrowOfTruth01]

I've been listening to the Cool Stuff Ride Home for almost the entirety of its runtime. While I am sad it ended, I am glad it pushed me into looking up just who Jackson Bird is and discovering this wonderful human being :)

[@myutube5882]

Don't know why I'm just now seeing this or the one that popped up yesterday but my first thought was, "Oh wow, he looks good with long hair! And no glasses!" And you're lucky that you have fine straight hair! Better than coarse hair with whips and waves!

[@pmbluemoon]

I love the different ways you describe all of your hair styles throughout your years. I think your new haircut looks good on you, I hope you do a few more of these just out of curiosity! My gramma was a hairdresser too, and when I put my hair in a ponytail and cut it off right at my scalp, I caught heck! Then she told me the way I parted it down the center looked like... well... (insert a certain male anatomy reference here) 😲 My was always ponytail, really bad bob cut looking, or shaved so short I had to worry about sunburning my noggin in the summer. Then I started liking hats. I found out that hats most of the time look good on me, I even bought a bowler hat and love it! As soon as I started T I lost most of my hair up top, so that was a bummer, but that's ok cuz it all grew back in down my back 😏

[@oliverb7198]

I cut my long hair off over a year ago and have been keeping it short but decided I wanted to buzz it and grow it out because medium-long hair on men rocks. About a year on T but don't look like it (only had proper levels for like 3 months) so hoping I pass when it eventually does get longer.

[@LoganHollowC]

oh wow i can def relate. a year and a half ago i had a completely shaved head for top surgery and since then I've only had the occasional trim. My hair's about shoulder length now and while im surprised how much i like it and still feel masculine, i don't really know how to style it so i keep debating whether to cut it or keep growing it for a while.

[@Nomadic_psyche_]

I personally think the cap and long hair look is super cool on you. You look cool af

[@dreamijo]

you may or may not be losing as much hair as you think. I mean we lose hair regularly all the time, and for me, I'd forgotten how much you lose because when your hair is short you don't notice it as much. I cut my hair short in early 2014 before I considered myself nonbinary/trans, and then it took a couple years to find a cut/style that I loved. but as in your experience, because of the pandemic I let mine grow out more than I usually would have. I'm vaguely transmasculine, and even with very short hair I mostly appear to be a masculine woman. I think last month my hair finally got to a length where men shout at me from their cars again! I still don't know how I feel about it. I'm going for a 90s Ethan Hawke situation or like just some dude who grew out his hair. some days I feel like I've got that and some days I'm frustrated by not knowing how to style or care for it anymore. the length is not quite to my goal, so I'll likely be waiting until early next year decide what I want to do with it. if I do chop it off again, I'm definitely going back to that 90s floppy haired boy look that was a phase of it growing out.

[@ethanbaneravens6755]

I have just discovered your channel. I am 39.. and I have had to wait so long to seek transitioning, due to having special needs kiddos and lacking the time and resources. I desperately want to connect and feel that your verbiage and amazing clarity in communication ease my mind in ways I never thought possible. I remember when I got my hair cut I felt beyond free. I hope to get to the place you are with your confidence. I wish I could talk to you. I will simply settle for these amazing videos. Just please know that you are helping me to feel valid. A HUGE thank you. I will keep looking through these videos.. but if there are any quick references to connect to other transmen for support? Again.. thank you for these .. truly. -Ethan

[@jaybird7]

I find myself relating to this a lot! I've been transitioning for 6 years and I think it was last year or 2020 I was seriously contemplating growing out my hair but worrying it would make me pass less, but what made me stop trying was that it was just so awkward and difficult to style. Now my hair is starting to thin, hairline starting to recede, and if it keeps going I'll probably end up shaving it off and trying a long wig, but for now I'm enjoying my hair while I still have it.

[@zoeyoung8175]

I seriously relate to this. I'm afab NB and have been making moves to transition more visibly but have consistently been asked if I would want to cut my hair short to present more masc. I've been firm that the length of my hair has everything to do with who I am rather than anything to do with gender. Besides, there isn't much I'm able to do about being read as fem, most of which comes down to bone structure, and my long hair makes me happy. I feel like I'm stuck. I feel like an effeminate gay man trapped in a drag persona that I worked really hard on to be in a good place with. My mother in law and I have disagreements on the concept of gender which came to a head talking about wedding clothes (I was asked to be a bridesmaid in my bags sister's wedding) which sent me into a bit of a dysphoric spiral, completely rejecting my chest (thankfully, I hope to get a reduction soon). She wants me in something girly to match everyone else, namely a dress. I hated feeling those tears coming cuz I knew she would just assume I was crying for not getting my way. ive resolved to just be an asshole about it. She wants me in a dress so damn bad, I'll up stage the bride, even though it's not her fault I'm mad...I'm going to workshop my reasoning cuz that's just drama making for bad reasons. How did you deal with less than on board family/friends? Separately, how do you correct people on your pronouns without being rude? I've more or less given up on it.

[@rainbowwwkim]

Its never rude to correct people about your pronouns!

[@bettyreads222]

digging the hair cut and thanks for sharing your thoughts around your relationship with your hair.

[@radams7302]

Thanks, perfect timing on this videl for me. Im abroad in Mexico right now growing my hair out and ive been tempted multiple times to just... chop it off because of how much harder it is despite being on t for almost 3 years now 😭 learning to care less about peoples thoughts has been.. Hard

[@Exsangui-nate]

Fantastic video for me to stumble upon, just as I struggle with pre-t dysphoria directly conflicting with my adoration of Anne Rice's long haired characters

[@hayleyeleanor1653]

Hey Jackson thanks for this video! I'm AFAB non-binary and I've been considering cutting my hair for a while, but I'm having a lot of the same struggles as you. I like my long hair and I like being able to pull it back so none of it is in my face, and I my long hair makes me feel more masculine at times but I also feel like with long hair I'm not 'non-binary enough'. Almost every other non-binary person I know has shorter hair and I feel like with my longer hair no one will ever read as anything but a girl, especially because I can't go on T right now (because of parents) and I don't even know if I want to. It's just frustrating sometimes that people won't accept me unless I "look non-binary" and its nice to know that other people have the same struggles

[@carneliancorax]

In case it helps to know, I'm a non-binary person with long hair! I cut it short several times before and after coming out, but decided to grow it properly long again just before the pandemic started because I missed it. I do always get read as a woman now, which isn't ideal, but I'm confident enough in myself that it doesn't bug me much anymore. If I were to give any advice, it would be to find a queer community who are open about experimenting with gender expression. That's what really helped me disconnect random cis people's interpretation of my appearance from how I felt about my appearance. Discord servers can be a really great place for that sort of community if you can't access one in person.

[@hayleyeleanor1653]

@@carneliancorax thanks for that, its really helpful to know that there's other non-binary people out there with longer hair. Also thanks for the advice, I'm looking up discord servers right now!

[@cowboy726]

Obi-Wan Kenobi is that you? But for real sick cut. I can relate, it's good to change it up and I can relate, I feel like there hasn't been a haircut/style that I've had that was hands down a 10/10 all around. Haha, but for me, the style I've always wanted to try is a buzz cut :)

[@asterismos5451]

I have also been Team Baseball Hat since cutting my hair short, just because I have a long bit on top and it gets in my face all the time. I don't love the look of the hat unless it's sunny and therefore practical, but I would rather be able to not have to wear it to keep it from annoying me when I'm out. At home I just use a barrette but I think that looks feminine and a bit silly so I have been opting for the hat instead in public. But when it's not hidden or pinned back I love how it looks so much. Really it's just a hairstyle that requires hair gel but I don't want to do that so I've been figuring out alternatives.

[@jacobaeden]

i love the haircut, from the side view, the back looks great! maybe you can consult the barber on what to do for the sides cos it's not as connected to the top

[@jacobaeden]

also a league of their own is sooo goood, i finish watching it a few days ago

[@PrincessofKeys]

I think long hair on guys look amazing! Long hair shouldn't only be associated with women in general lot of guys have long hair too. In general wear your hair ths way you like to!

[@boocrimson7720]

this hits a little too close to home, only it's the reason I struggle with an ED now as opposed to necessarily judging others per say it's me judging me for my body and physical features especially because I haven't been able to do much within the process of transitioning, As for hair I can understand your feeling there. I personally really like flouffy short-medium beatles cut hair on me the swoopy bangs with the bowl cut (my grandma never wanted it short till I had to cut it for work in college) but then everyone assumes it's just a pixie cut in my case cause it's JUST long enough to "look-feminine" :P Funny thing is, I was never against anyone "queer" I very quietly sheepishly came to their defense to the people who did treat them contemptuously but just assumed I couldn't be for many years, simply cause my folks said I couldn't. So even now in my case I judge me not others because it feels internally SOLELY like I'm not allowed to be accepted if it isn't obvious to people I want to be percieved as more masculine. And I don't even think i'm a 100% binary trans guy anymore, but the fact that no one even thinks twice before misgendering me gets disheartening too. So i'm trying to break a lot of really negative coping strategies ever since I realized and my folks basically said "no you're not and even if you are we won't help you" outside of my mom who came around to "you do you" at least. because my way of trying to "pass" hasn't been good for my physical or mental health (outside of cutting my hair and trimming my lashes a bit cause they now stab me in the eyes less too) and hasn't been true to myself. But I know my weight settling on my curves is something that is a sore area for me and I struggle much worse when I notice it or someone points it out because i spiral.... Anyway though, your haircut looks great! It was fun long too but it looks awesome like this!

[@liss2023]

Been watching you for a while, but this is the first time I’ve seen you with DiCaprio hair, and it looks GREAT on you!! 😃 You wear it really well, and it looks just like his!👍

[@Draconicrose]

T changed my hair texture. It has more body now. I liked having long hair pre-T, cut it right off as I came out and started transition and now I'm enjoying growing it out again. I can't wait until it's long enough to do a real half-ponytail. Love that hairstyle. But yes, since I don't have the beard it's not doing the 'ol gendering any favors.

[@Casey2244_]

👏👏👏 great princess diaries reference and Shawn Hunter ❤

[@UnderdarkDrow_]

As a non-binary person growing their hair out (I cut my waist-long hair to donate every 3-5 years), for some reason this time around, I was struggling a bit because I feel sometimes too fem for my liking, but this vid helped. I like my hair longer, it's not necessarily girly

[@SunIsLost]

8:10 legacy was fulfilled

[@noahbales9120]

This content style is so cool in my opinion, it reminds me of Sanders Sides by Thomas Sanders!

[@kyihsin2917]

Personally, I think you look hotter with shorter hair, but I agree 100% that a person's decisions about their appearance should be made on the basis of what *they themselves* want and not on the basis of what other people think.

[@gsmarkham]

I always associate long hair like yours with cool dudes. Like you!

[@masamasamun]

I like long hair, but I had to cut it short because for some reason they wouldn't look at me as a boy. Once I start T which is next month, I will let it grow back again.

[@aryadler8776]

trans guy with (very) long hair here! for me it's the role models that do it for me, like my cis best friend and long-haired fictional characters which styles I adore, hahah

[@firenzeval]

Haha I've never cut it off. It helps that I look up to 70s rockstars who kept their hair long though.

[@docmarmalade5224]

Awww, December 2013 Jackson looks like a baby. ❤

[@TheKoolaid302]

ur haircut looks so good! loved the video

[@elianwolfert3879]

I’d love to have longer hair and unironically love the man bun look. But I’m awful at growing my hair out, doesn’t help I have a problematic scalp that gets worse with longer hair.

[@elianwolfert3879]

Also since starting T my hair has thinned a lot and my hairline has receded loads. I’m not too worried though, as it was always super thick so it’s actually nice to have a bit less. 😂 Also I kinda like the higher hairline, and my cis male ex has a really deep hairline but very thick lush hair and not even close to balding. Those two things are not neccessarily linked.

[@leileleileleile]

Starting T gave me the permission? to grow out my hair, something I’ve considered for years when I identified as nonbinary. Something about taking masculinizing treatment feels like it calmed the self doubt enough to try having long hair again

[@lokiz0072]

I loved a league of their own. I love the new haircut too. Leo D who??

[@yosachaiko9969]

I just stared at his eyebrows a lot. I feel like mine don't look that defined and just like straight lines. I often look at people's eyebrows I like... GIVE. Heheheh! : D

[@Freak80MC]

I'm transfem but I've developed such a hatred of body hair over the years that I almost wanna go bald because of it. I'm currently really only growing out my hair because that's what's expected of me / me worrying I won't look good without long hair

[@fahrdaris778]

The long hair is beautiful, you look more masculin in my view. Very handsome dude.

[@user-vu7rv1xf1l]

The bad dress sense bit, fuk, that is me, I have lost years of being social because I can't bring myself to wear anything other than huge oversized hoodies & lounge pants. I'm so physically uncomfortable in everything else, but I know I look like a slob with no self respect or ability to gage social norms or have style. But its not the case, I have a lot of style inbmy head, it just doesn't work on my horrible body. So I stay at home alone, & I can't date as no one can touch my alien parts or see me naked.

[@moss_fairy2001]

Omg I'm a trans guy and I've also grown my hair long during the pandemic! I like how it is long tho :)

[@ursulasandstrom355]

Love the Mt pleasant library shirt!

[@charactercreations0]

I have a question that may be difficult that I can’t find an answer to. I am ftm trans and I find it extremely difficult to want to shower because there are mirrors in every corner and I want to know if you ever struggled with this.

[@waffles3629]

The best thing about hair is it can grow back. I feel so much better with short hair.

[@samhene5939]

This haircut is awesome

[@theneonexplorer]

Before I started socially transitioning, I hated hats. I live in them now. 😂

[@leslie3586]

Love the long hair and beard! :)

[@sunmarsh]

You do look good in a hat with long hair… 😛 But also I like the haircut too! It suits you. 😋

[@SunIsLost]

6:10 THAT

[@cherishoneal9108]

And you fine with it!

[@karenjones3474]

He looks good either way and cute x

[@pjaypender1009]

I like it long. Looks good.

[@laurosf]

Maybe you've head that already but your voice sounds a lot like Linus from LTT lol

[@sparkypete9221]

Your hair looks great..

[@abcdefgh6951]

If you wanted to look more your age you went from 19 to 28 idk how that's possible just by changing hair but it's cool

[@SunIsLost]

20:00 yea

[@carterkentboi]

My mom was also a hairdresser.

[@SunIsLost]

17:20 yea

[@purpleturtle395]

love the shirt! i have the same one ^_^

[@bsrfuchs55]

cis guys rarely get misgendered because of long hair. it is different for trans guys. long hair, small in general, small head, narrow shoulders, hips, higher voice etc.. and even if you are just short and have long hair you will get misgendered way more often than a cis guy. and really small cis guys wouldn't get long hair just because of the same reason. they also don't want to get misgendered on a daily basis.

[@Sophia-Sews]

My (cis) dad had long hair for about 25 years (if his hair didn't all fall out he would still keep it long) I remember being a little kid and getting so confused when people misgendered him because of his long hair.

[@taylorp.-zm7hu]

"Cis guys don't get misgendered because of long hair"... "Cis guys don't have long hair because they don't want to get misgendered" 🤨

[@SunIsLost]

19:20 true

[@cliffcoyle9448]

No one will ever think of you as a girl.🦄🌈❤

[@kennethdubois6746]

Omg you look like Kyle from last man standing

[@zannebrazeau]

l think ya be a cute fella whether it be short or long

[@sammi1651]

ρяσмσѕм

[@neurodivergentpixi6736]

Men with long hair look like Jesus. I'm a woman and my cisgender son's hair is longer than mine, and my cisgendered ex-husband's hair was always longer than mine.

[@Mel-wn9gb]

Me, me, me, me, me ....

[@thoraneh7365]

Are you attempting to spell your own name

[@puppychen6947]

Omg your experience is exactly what I’ve been going through to a T it’s insane, only difference is I just started hrt so I still look/sound like a girl🥲(no offence ladies I love ya just don’t wanna be ya)