HE HAS CLOSE FEMALE FRIENDS.. IS IT OK?

[@KamranQureshi-CFO]

You guys just earned massive respect from me. The way you simply took away that video without giving a second thought about your time and energy that went into filming, editing and uploading it, just so that the person who sent that question is not distressed. Hats off! no one does that in todays time and age. Before, I just used to look at you guys as you guys are fun, now I respect you more :)))))

[@cf3129]

I remember baby Hana crying in the background of old Sid & Dina videos .... and now she’s talking. Time flies 🥺

[@zineblazraq8068]

omg i literally noticed the exact same thing! glad i’m not the only one🥺

[@anoniem32]

Yea SubhanAllah 🥺

[@chanelworld]

I’m so happy that Sid and Dina are doing these videos again absolutely love them both keep it up guys love watching and laughing at Sid’s little funny awkwardness 😊

[@diao.196]

When Dina and Sid agree on something, that’s when you know you have to take the advice😂

[@samiraosman46]

right 😂😂😂

[@leema6547]

ABORT MISSION. I ain’t someone to be so black and white about something and say “leave him!” But this guy has MAJOR red flags and talking from experience, men like that lack boundaries. Lack of boundaries are a gateway for betrayal and disrespect. Men are so capable of lying to you with utter conviction, so please don’t trust him. If these women don’t hold importance to him like that, then why isn’t he prioritising your relationship over his trivial friendships? Please listen to your gut instinct and put your foot down. If he isn’t receptive to your concerns and gets all secretive etc, drop him. This is your non-negotiable. Stick to your guns sis. You’re completely in the right.

[@leema6547]

Tbf if he’s willing to drop them and keep it that way, not hold it against you, then cool.

[@pyarkaaloo]

💯💯💯💯

[@Joe-zm7rn]

Small point, I appreciate how understanding you were of the person who wanted their video removed, but PSA for fans asking for help: respect Sid & Dina’s time, whilst they’re kind and understanding don’t take the piss by wasting their time, think twice before you email in!

[@AllySun3]

I am not Muslim, but love & respect the familial culture & religion very much. I come from parents where my father rekindled with his “best friend”, then he abandoned our family, but raised her children instead. I’d need a full day just to list off how that messed up my siblings & I, including my step siblings as well. We’re actually all pretty connected, regardless of biological lineage. Although lost one recently to drugs. Our parents chose their desires, over parenting children though. So that’s one perspective that I have. I also, forgave my own spouse for his negative behaviors with his female friends. I choose my children & their happiness, due to how I grew up. I was close friends to a few guys growing up. Loved them on a real friendship level, but when I married & they all found partners, I felt the need to back off from their energy. It’s no disrespect to their ladies, it’s actually out of complete respect for their relationships. I’ll happily hang out with them, at weddings or gatherings with lots of people. But I have my family & they have theirs. This is my tribe, theirs is theirs. It sounds weird, but it’s the best way to keep a family healthy, especially children. I’m just lucky that my partner chose living a better existence rather than the typical “side chick” life, that seems to be in fashion these days. I guess I already lived the negative impacts of that in my childhood & really lost the luxury of childhood completely… so now I see how & why that’s such an attack upon the family unit & all families. I think it’s a huge reason this planet struggles so hard. Family is important & creating chaos, sucks the life from others. I just wish people could bring back the sacredness in love, partnership, family & marriage. It’s okay to keep that space as clear & honest as possible. People know in their mind, where boundaries should lie.

[@maroccandutchgirl]

I’m so sorry this happened to you. From what I can read you turned into a beautiful human being making sure to give your best in this life to your loved ones. I hope you find peace and happiness. And if you are interested in religion: I hope you’ll find Islam ❤️

[@AllySun3]

@@maroccandutchgirl 🙏❤️

[@hodaIessa]

This is really good stuff. I’m sorry you had a difficult time growing up. Sending load of love your way ❤️ thanks for sharing dear

[@ummfatimah789]

I know it's a reference to TV show but in friends that's what literally broke up Ross and Emily's marriage because he couldn't give up his friendship with Rachel there was no trust and rightly so.

[@yahussain1272]

If he is in touch with her or shares his personal feelings or talks about his day to day life with her thats a big red flag, i think having female friends who are happily married and have families of their own isnt an issue, i personally dealt with a situation like this. My husband has a ton of female friends, all married and have kids. One of them he use to be super close with and at first i was like those people who didnt think it was a big deal but when i noticed my husband leaving the house and leaving for hours, making excuses to go out for walks, hiding his phone etc, i found out he was secretly meeting her, i blew up at him and asked why i never met her husband or kid and why are you meeting her alone?! Turns out she wasnt happy in her marriage and was going to my husband for advice which ended up becoming an emotional affair, had i not stepped in and threaten my husband with divorce he wouldve continued, If that girl isnt in a happy marriage and keeps in touch with the guy or meets up at different places (alone) or even has each others phone numbers its a big no

[@TranquilWanderer]

What is an emotional affair? I’ve never heard of that until recently

[@zarahshabs7936]

@@TranquilWanderer an emotional affair is that you never did anything physically sexual with the other person but you have some feelings for them-- could be love them/in love with them, or like them to some capacity that you have to hide things about the relationship from your partner. if you have to hide it because it seems bad, you're emotionally invested in a way that is inappropriate, and you're not seeing each other as strictly platonic friends anymore

[@teap7003]

Sid and dina saying "it's weird" multiple times made me laugh!

[@AmenaRawr]

Your realness is just🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼 Enough love for you guysssss

[@sarahchoudhry973]

Hanna shouting in the back 😂😂 “I need water”

[@ebtisamali359]

I had a guy friend confess he likes me and I always saw him as a brother so hell no there is no friendship between a guy and a girl ! Let him go sis specially if you get jealous easily it will affect you mentally in the long run it's not worth it !!

[@nusratsiddique6337]

If only I was tech savvy enough to compile a video of Sid’s facial expressions 😂 Rubbing his chin deep in thought 😂😂 Love you guys. PS dina you look so beautiful mashallah xxx

[@marleyalexandra8512]

do i look like a joke to you ? LMAO 16:14

[@Zainab-zz5kp]

I think once you’ve voiced your opinion definitely don’t let him manipulate you and make you feel like you’re doing something wrong. You are within your rights to tell your partner if something makes you feel uncomfortable🤷🏻‍♀️ if he tries to blame you for overreacting about the situation major 🚩

[@SK-hf4je]

I think when you get in to serious romantic relationship your other relationships change as well. Even you friendships which same gender. I had a lot guy freinds from high school and we also went to uni together as well so we were really close freinds. However when I meet my husband and we got engaged I started to stop talking to them as much and we rarely hang out by ourselves anymore. One of them was actually really upset but I had to explain to him that am trying to respect my husband and the boundaries of my marriage. It was difficult for him to understand coz we were not doing anything wrong but the thing was my husband was now occupying the position he was filling. He was my best friend now and ya it’s sad but that’s life. So ya relationships change & it’s ok.

[@sm2593]

I think this is a great comment and I totally agree, i don't think there's anything wrong with having friends of the opposite sex in itself, but there has to be boundaries and particularly if they're an ex.

[@justanotherviewer00]

appreciate the consistency recently, it's a shame that you had to delete your recent video, I hope people are more understanding to people like you taking your time out to do videos for us. I hope it doesnt happen again

[@Missmethinksalot1]

Wait what ha

[@Missmethinksalot1]

Happened

[@edinaimsirovic3893]

Why did they delete it? What was the topic? I received notification for the video and wanted to watch it later, then noticed it was deleted.. I don't know why?

[@eyla107]

@@edinaimsirovic3893 same I also want to know 😩

[@edinaimsirovic3893]

@@eyla107 I read in the comments that the topic was "He told me to lose weight" , and they said in this video that the person who sent the question wasn't comfortable about it being uploaded so she asked them to take it down and they did..

[@Sara4life77]

Thank you for uploading these!! 😊😊😊 has really helped me with my anxiety🥰

[@hashtag9877]

wow you guys are soo amazing. cant believe you took down a video after editing etc. you really are great youtubers.

[@aqsa7631]

I’m grateful for these videos because in a way it allows me to be more rational when thinking about being in a relationship with someone.

[@habibatamer7717]

Loving the consistency!💗

[@themightycbiscuit3215]

Words can’t describe how happy I am you guys brought back this series 💜

[@aribaawan5657]

Love these videos sooo much and y’all are amazing ❤️ hope you guys keep making these videos and if you ever need a break you should absolutely take it cause we want the videos but it shouldn’t disturb your mental health xxx

[@Shazia44]

"Do I look like a joke to you" and "Know your self-worth" -there you have it. What matters more to him, you or his exes/girlfriends/whatever he is labelling them as?

[@monapizzalover7140]

I’m sure if the situation was the opposite and she had the male friends, he would not accept that.

[@summerassaf]

I think it really depends. I have friends since high school and they are married with wives and children and we speak a few times a year. I think there should be a level of trust and resolve that you can still have them as friends.

[@21972012145525]

Yea, but you weren’t married to them

[@sm2593]

Agree

[@naziaiqbal4240]

Like the prophet Muhammad saw had sed, if a non mahram girl and boy are alone or together, the third person is shaitaan. So dont trust that intentions can't change unless its a mahram. There should be limits in even cousins, never mind friends. In islam were not even allowed to have guy friends or girl friends. So the girl in the email is right to be offended and jealous, as he would if she had close guy friends. I know some people have grown up in very open life style with no real limits with who they befriend. But it doesn't make it right. Anything haram in our religion is haram for a reason and can never be good for us.

[@muslimahb2953]

Exactlyyyyyy👌👏👏🙌

[@shahd10000]

Respecttttt to the both of you for 1) taking down the video when the sender felt distressed about it and 2) your opinion about this woman's problem and speaking facts from a religious point of view regardless of what is "cool" or "acceptable" to nowadays couples ❤👏🏻

[@Queen-B_ExMusic]

I get excited about these videos you guys are the best keep them coming please sending you love from Chicago ♥️♥️

[@MJae204]

So kind of you guys to respect the person who felt uncomfortable with the video being up. ♥️

[@tajrinc9782]

The series of Sid’s facial expressions whilst Dina reads the emails loooool

[@innabilasabode6855]

I love these type of videos!! I appreciate your honest views♥️

[@fermaazmat6106]

Its about boundaries.

[@MahamKhan-w8h]

I love this. Every relationship dynamic is different but there is no harm in voicing the fact that you are not comfortable with the fact that he has close female friends that he once liked. I think this seems to be the biggest issue here and I totally agree with the fact that this is wrong too. Also, it is great you mentioned that this is not only for Muslims because it is something that should not be normalized throughout. Lastly, even about the relationship being like a brother-in-law, he is still your non-mahram and humans are humans, Shaytaan will always be there. The Prophet SAW and the Sahabah warn us about this multiple times and I remember you guys have videos on this issue in the past as well. May Allah make things easier for all of us.

[@jemzjyp]

THE CONSISTENCY 😌❤️

[@sameenai07]

The shade!!! I love you guys 😂😂

[@jessyodyab3267]

Who was the shade against i wanna knowww 😹

[@habibtyh]

Love these question videos!!!

[@fatimatahir279]

Andddd so much respect for taking down the video. Cos honestly that was my first thought like if it was another vlogger they wouldve been pissed that we invested our time and energy into making it and since its anonymous we dont need to yake it down. You guys are genuinly good people always knew it. Been following you back when you were newly weds. Always the positive energy from yiu both. MashaAllah may you guys get blessed with all the good in the world.

[@18masterchief]

The handshake was from spiderman between Peter and Ned 👀

[@mahenur]

After marriage not appropriate to go out with other females or chill with them. Texts and calls are not needed too. If they work together professional interaction if needed but no banter or chatting unnecessary

[@elleinfj1998]

I love these videos so much thank you lots 💕🙆🏽‍♀️

[@fatimatahir279]

I know some married guys having close friendships in my office and it makes me so uncomfortable. Like theyre hugging, hanging out alone after office and shit. I never understand the need. Like why instead of going to your wife youre hanging out with a woman and why qre there no boundries in this friendship and how is his wife okau with her man having friendships like that. Its so odd. Another friend of mine feels the same way. I even feel off about women who dont undersyand that a guy is married now and they should have boundries with him out of respect for another woman who is his wife. I never find it okay. Ive had male friends but i never even shook hands with them or allowed sending them red hearts in chats, avoided hanging out wity them alone and stuff cos that makes it questionable even tho a lot of people were like thats a bit unnecessary but no if i think its not okay then it is not okay no one should tell me to relax my boundries. Cos no matter how "platonic" the relationship is, theres no reason to forget that the individual is from the opposite gender. You respect yourself by creating these boundries.

[@muslimahb2953]

Exactly

[@tinatina70897]

i love the question videos!!! 🤍

[@Maya-dw5jz]

I wouldn't mind if my partner has friends who are female. It's the fact that he had liked that person, though that person is married is speaking about their marriage issues and seeking divorce to him. Idk I would be feeling a bit off like I get you are friends and colleagues but at the same time try and distance yourself or put a boundary. Respecting your spouse. Because if the wife had a male friend who she had liked before and was speaking to him etc how would the husband feel its the history of the friendship. There was feelings involved!! Idm them having females friend but the history of it is a nono. Its about respect trust and knowing your boundaries. He shouldn't block them just bc the wife said he should have done it himself for the respect because who knows he'd blame her etc et.

[@Maya-dw5jz]

Also I sure if the female friend/colleague is talking about wht marriage issues and divorce he probably speaks about their marriage to that friend 👀

[@Dee-fu3hs]

Why do I feel like I know who they’re throwing shade at💀🤣

[@clickherenowz]

who?

[@Dee-fu3hs]

@@clickherenowz Ali dawah when he was talking sh*t about Dina and the hijab situation. He was very rude towards her. I could be wrong tho.

[@Dee-fu3hs]

@Lipstick Nista i was talking about when they said they aren’t the type to not take videos down, I’m sure Dina and Sid asked ali to take his video down about her but he refused

[@21972012145525]

@@Dee-fu3hs I don’t think so. It Sounds like they’re specifically referring to someone who does advice videos

[@atharyalotaiby4042]

“It’s weird” that both Sid and Dina are in agreement lol

[@flexin9720]

I've missed these videos so much man ❤

[@kayinaata6834]

What was the name of their last video that they said they deleted?

[@Sarah-fs8fy]

dina’s hair is gorgeous in this vid

[@zohraazam9142]

Is the handshake from Big hero 6 movie? Your handshake seems a tad longer though

[@ashfields5193]

The hand shake was from suit life of Zack and Cody?

[@yesminej4000]

Common sense and logic!! 🙌🏽 He’s not gonna leave his “X friends”. Just save yourself from the trouble. YOU’LL SAVE YOURSELF FROM A HEARTACHE AND DIVORCE SETTLEMENT AND A CUSTODY BATTLE. 🥴. I put on the notification alert fivv TV this so I don’t miss anything❤️

[@TZD_]

Dina is hilarious and Sid is a simpppp been watching for years ❤️ yall Ramadan Kareem ☺️

[@shalala105]

Dina: Yes throw all the shade Sid: You guys know what we’re talking about YESS. I DEFINITELY DO. Much respect to you guys for calling it out😂

[@timaa3397]

who?

[@sue.maya.]

Who?

[@shalala105]

@@sue.maya. if you’ve been following sid and dina for years, you’ll know what they’re referring to 😉 that’s the only answer I could give

[@sue.maya.]

@@shalala105 yea must be that dawah guy then and in that case; I APPLAUD SID for saying this!

[@21972012145525]

@@shalala105 been watching for years. I have no idea who they’re throwing shade at

[@MsMgrjgf]

question starts @4:34

[@aminabegum6601]

Handshake is from spiderman-homecoming- Peter and Ned’s handshake

[@JKL23296]

Yeah it would be a strong no from me but I appreciate everyone is different. I know you guys said it's not a Muslim thing, but it's important to really think about why we have certain guidelines in place. There's countless stories online of people (male and female) cheating on their spouse with friends or even worse brother/sister IN LAWS 🤢. In this scenario, it sounds like he never got over the female friend and wants to keep her on the back burner in case she ever reciprocates his feelings in the future. Kudos to you guys for encouraging her to vocalise it even if it goes against this 'modern/liberal muslim' trend.

[@YATASJ2]

💯

[@effzee2767]

PETER & NEDS HANDSHAKE ??👀 this video was amazing!!❤️

[@leapeddie3878]

I just love opening KZbin and the first thing I see is Sid and Dina have uploaded a new video😍 also loving the consistency ❤️

[@crazyandfunystuf]

yoooooo I know you lot dont do reactions but I wanna see you two react to your old videos LOL. I think it would be adorable and funny.

[@TVOE_12]

I absolutely love you guys!!!

[@edinaimsirovic3893]

Is the handshake from the movie How high?

[@khanpashtun5517]

At 5.17 ....its a no for me...girls remember dont be scared of being alone...you wont be alone for life. It's better to be alone than pregnant with f boy baby ...your value will go down. Protect it value

[@livelovelaugh6405]

Loved the shade at we know who Lolol😂

[@jessyodyab3267]

Whoooooo

[@keiron.4612]

It's ok with me as long as nothing happens but if there spending time with eachother all the time tats a red flag to get out of the relationship

[@Kal.El1]

Is it the Fresh Prince handshake?

[@aaln3945]

Love you guys!

[@JB-ys2cp]

I’m here in the comments, trying to figure out who they were throwing shade at in the beginning of the video (when they mentioned people that don’t take down videos when the person that asked requested to because they felt uncomfortable)

[@mikejohn4947]

Probably ali dawa and mo hijab, the self labelled ummah police.

[@JB-ys2cp]

@@mikejohn4947 oh what did they do? I remember years ago, when Dina took the scarf off, they had a lot to say which is odd because why were they so fixated on a non mehram woman??

[@mikejohn4947]

@@JB-ys2cp tbf their were alot of youtubers and i use the term loosely who at the time of her taking her hijab off wanted to capitalise on the situation and get more views for themselves. Some were even relatively quite unknown. I am assuming they asked them to take it down and were refused. There were also adam saleh and his band of friends who made several vids too.

[@21972012145525]

I don’t think so. Sounds like they’re referring to someone who does advice videos. The drama with those others was completely unsolicited

[@piqueny8872]

Why would you hang out with an ex if there not a chance to gain from them? Ex is a bad history leave that relationship alone If you truly want to have a real long term lasting relationship

[@useruser_notinuse]

Same thing goes for girls too. No boundaries at all...

[@vanishavaria338]

The question Sidd was asking is definitely sweet life of Zack and Cody!

[@guelkaratas5164]

Wasn't it the handmove from BAD BOYS ?

[@ha8236]

But you're always anonymous, so the uncomfortability sits with the person being questioned. It probably made them question their thoughts. No one would have known it was linked to them.

[@annemarie5851]

Thank you for this Video and I agree - it's weird!

[@maariyah5808]

Hey guys, was the handshake from Spider-Man: Homecoming??? If it can I please have a mint green hoodie in size small hehe that’s my fave 🙃🤣

[@farrahilias3963]

you guys are amaze

[@khadijashaikh3676]

It's a mix between how high and friends chandler lame guy handshake

[@nadia12398]

You guys are the best

[@amuse233]

Absolutely Love you guys and what you Stand for, love watching you guys’ videos it always uplifts my mood, I just love how authentic you guys r just good vibes, I pray allah showers your family with kheyr and barakah and increases your ranks in Jannatul firdaus this Ramadan allahumma ameen ❤️

[@Anfal-v1k]

Having friends of the opposite gender when you have a partner is unnecessary, unless you have boundaries. BUT having your EX as a friend, you must be mad. He’s still holding onto her for a reason, he still feels for her and he’s trying to persuade and reassure you that he doesn’t

[@ha8236]

Religion aside, there is a lot of research which states in friendship groups of the opposite genders, one always ends up liking the other. It was found it was often men that had different intentions and hoped something would come out a friendship if the stayed long enough. Whereas women genuinely wanted a Platonic relationship. So I think that's interesting. In this situation, why does her husband feel the need to remain friends. Also the fact he had feelings and she's not happy in her marriage could spark old feelings in him. His wife is right, even if its not the same now, out of respect for her feelings he shouldn't have a problem breaking that relationship. I think its odd he's refusing to distance himself and perhaps whether consciously or unconsciously he wants there to be more. Or atleast remain in close connection with her.

[@seharzia97]

The handshake was from Big hero 6!!

[@nadz1215]

Is the handshake from Spider-man homecoming?

[@sundusmahamed4477]

That movie is rush hour right

[@naziaakthar2994]

Which video are they on about?

[@fr3agy]

Love you two ❤️❤️

[@selinahashraf2803]

Is the handshake from rush hour !?

[@buluchka]

Dina is so beautiful 🤩

[@amera3482]

That handshake is bothering me so much because I know Iv seen it somewhere but can’t remember where! 😭

[@lailasiklawi7534]

Is the movie Big Daddy?

[@funkydoughnut8803]

The handshake reminds me of parent trap

[@hybridangel3403]

Is it from Shein?

[@SumiyaC]

The handshake is from school of rock!

[@nparvin1996]

handshake was from Parent Trap!

[@leapeddie3878]

Last thing, about the other video - sis wasn’t ready to hear the truth. I do hope she’s okay though!

[@merrilyaberry]

I’m really doubtful/unsure of my answer, but I think it is from the Parent Trap movie. I feel this way as the handshake in that movie is more elongated and physical. And ugh, I was planning to watch the video when free, but by the time I came online it was deleted 😩 Take care!

[@muslimahb2953]

He can trust himself that he doesn't like his ex but can shaytan in the middle be trusted is the question...

[@Pavan-rz9uo]

God bless you always 🙏✨

[@and.p.146]

handshake is from "how high"