He'll Regret Losing You When THIS Happens

[@JonathonAslay]

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[@deec411]

I love it "if he didn't appreciate you who gives a crap" 😂😂😂 that says it all I finally met a man who has no problem showing me appreciation I'm 60 he's 63 and it's wonderful. It's early, but I think this is who he is as a person.

[@melissacain841]

It really is hard to find someone that you share common interests. I was dating someone that liked to hike, ski, workout etc and we did a lot of day hikes and skiing and liked the same books. We were well paired that way, but he was still playing the field and I got to feeling icky about that. I live in an area where most men aren’t into fitness stuff or even taking care of themselves. It’s always disconcerting when a guy messages me on a dating app and his profile picture shows him with a cigarette in his mouth and he’s just plain messy. They obviously didn’t read my profile to see what I’m all about. Smoking is a deal breaker right up front. People ask me all the time why I’m single. It’s just really hard to find someone that you can blend lives with. Most men want a woman that can come to them and just abandon their own lives. It’s really hard when two people both have established lives.

[@joleenjaremczuk9403]

I'm finding this so true--I've had most difficulty in finding anyone who still has hopes and dreams at this age and has not settled in to their life as it is right now. It's been very disappointing.

[@CatherineInColorado]

Thank you Jonathon for another awesome video. Your description of the four critically important qualities of a relationship including attention by being present, affection with both touch and physical intimacy, appreciation through the expression and reception of words of gratitude, and acceptance of a person for who they truly are as a person even when they drive you a little crazy. Sharing one or more passions together in alignment is a true blessing as well, and especially so in midlife. I also appreciate your candidness in your description of what happened in your most recent relationship. 🌟

[@JonathonAslay]

Exactly

[@KiKi-te9yd]

The point on children....AMEN! If your child is your highest priority, don't expect a romantic partner to make your child their highest priority and accept being last. Just NOPE. I did that with one man and I still have a physical repulsion in me when I think about how awful I felt in that dynamic and all the toxity he created by idolizing that child above everything. It just does not work. Great episode Jonathon

[@melissacain841]

I think men do that as a way to keep their dating partner at a distance. It’s a convenient excuse to keep the relationship from progressing.

[@melissacain841]

I think men do that as a way to keep their dating partner at a distance. It’s a convenient excuse to keep the relationship from progressing.

[@melissacain841]

I think men do that as a way to keep their dating partner at a distance. It’s a convenient excuse to keep the relationship from progressing.

[@melissacain841]

I think men do that as a way to keep their dating partner at a distance. It’s a convenient excuse to keep the relationship from progressing.

[@KiKi-te9yd]

@melissacain841 there was a bit of that for sure. He was also the type where child was an extension of his ego, so needed to have better than everyone, and remain on a pedestal as a way of him being the hero parent.

[@Tara-g7c]

Thank you, Jonathon. Your work is very healing, very important. Your reasoning and wisdom is very balanced. You do a wonderful job with delivery in humor and gentleness. I give you the purple heart medal for life for being wounded and being a survivor, doing the healing work, and then turning around and saving others. 💜🏅

[@Tbn48ibp]

I second that! Thanks Jonathan. You’re wonderful and soooo needed!!

[@rosiemac2538]

Seth seems like a a really nice guy. I think Deb and him will work. Im excited for them😊

[@JonathonAslay]

I think so too!

[@Gigi-c3h]

True🎉

[@renette0506]

for the quote, a good walk spoiled, it has been phrased in several ways since the late 1800s, attributed to the statesman William Gladstone, novelist Harry Leon Wilson, Mark Twain, and a mysterious couple called the Allens: “to play golf is to spoil an otherwise enjoyable walk.”May 28, 2020. My comment was quoting this! 😁

[@JonathonAslay]

Interesting

[@robmaria7164]

I don’t know why people go to different countries to find a partner. It’s hard enough to find a compatible person in your own area.

[@marthalopez6662]

Thank you Jonathan, I also experienced a relationship with a good man but afraid of traveling, and other fears as well. I would have been very unhappy if I settled. I trust you will find a lady that will align with you & share passions. 🌺

[@JonathonAslay]

Thanks for sharing!

[@angiedawn-nq3tn]

Jonathan thank you for today. I really needed this help today and I feel a little more confident and happier. I appreciate you and I’m glad you read my question out. Blessings from Angie in England 😊

[@JonathonAslay]

You are so welcome

[@bootsiekeegan4401]

We were married 8 years i never stopped loving him .

[@JonathonAslay]

👍🏼

[@MM-lb9np]

I can relate to the anxiety around traveling. I'm completely the same way. Traveling gives me bad anxiety. It's awful. I've missed out on so many incredible opportunities because of it. Makes me sad to think about it. My brother is the same way. He would drive all the way.. arrive at his destination. Not feel comfortable..and turn around and drive back. True story. So I completely get it.

[@Patriot_Lady1776]

Seth was an absolute jewel!! Great show...so informative 👍!!

[@JonathonAslay]

Agreed!

[@lisaboston2465]

Yes!!!!! so much of this video resonates Jonathon! Love your videos!

[@JonathonAslay]

WOW! Thank you, and much appreciated. Any chance you share this video with friends?

[@janetcarrier313]

You are always funny Jonathon... I appreciate your wisdom and your transparency...

[@JonathonAslay]

I appreciate that!

[@alexdeyong2890]

I am very disappointed and even upset reading comments of women who often comment and who seemed to me nice earlier, but now when they saw something positive as story of Seth and Deb, they turned into ... So many malicious comments... I am in shock. What is wrong with people today that they cannot be happy for someone else's happiness?? And the comments about Africa...seriously people??? Deb and Seth, if you are reading this...I wish you all the happiness in this world! Do not pay attention to envious people. Those who cannot be happy for others and their happiness, will never be happy themselves. You two seem like lovely people and your positive energy and courage to share something nice in this gloomy world, is amazing.

[@awaken2yogawithvandanadill545]

This is very helpful- especially about the shared passion. Thank you

[@JonathonAslay]

Glad it was helpful!

[@Bb-k4gd]

Online connections and marriages are happening , however a lot of people focus mostly on chemistry and those are the ones not making it. I know several couples that met online . One it’s going for 20 years now …

[@JonathonAslay]

Indeed

[@Iamkathyking]

Dating and looking for an aligned partner IS quite different in mid life and beyond than in your 20’s and 30’s. Appreciate you breaking it down this way for everyone. 🙏👏💖 PS: Agree that statistics are BS.

[@JonathonAslay]

So true!

[@teresakarr8328]

This is a wonderful life. I. Am old. I want to be a vendor on Venice Beach.

[@JonathonAslay]

You can do it! :)

[@rosemarypanici869]

Excellent message, Jonathon! Love and hugs ❤️🤗

[@JonathonAslay]

WOW! Thank you, and much appreciated. Any chance you share this video with friends?

[@rosemarypanici869]

I share your videos all the time. You're a treasure! ❤

[@Tara-g7c]

Thank you, Jonathon. Even if two people have the same religion, if one isn't that into the religion, there can be misalignment. I think it may be possible for two people of different religions to make it work: there will be friction if both are really into their religions, but they'd have to be incredibly emotionally mature, just like I have heard two people from different cultures need to have great emotional maturity from a quote from Micheal Caine the British actor and his, if I remember correctly, Asian wife. When saying emotional maturity I mean beyond tolerance, I mean beyond appreciation, I mean being able to be compassionate to their views, their person, their passionate feelings as a fellow human being. I come from a family of divided religions, and our family survived with at least an eventual high respect on most sides and always a ton of unconditional love that was constantly shown and proved daily. There was a unity in the family, fierce loyalty, shared values and character that has lasted all our lives.

[@JonathonAslay]

Indeed

[@Bb-k4gd]

Sounds like a wonderful family! I agree! Nothing is written in stone, whatever works for you … there are many formulas that can work for different ppl and for each particular individual. I personally don’t like fanatics or people that want to push their religious agenda into others (respect , boundaries , maturity and genuine care help any relationship) I’ve also been in touch with different religions due to life’s circumstances and it was a learning experience … I stayed in the one I was born in, but I am into spirituality and do like exploring different philosophies.

[@Tara-g7c]

​@@Bb-k4gdThank you for your kind reply and words! Instead of providing a stable place where people can develop, we live in a "Disposable Society." ( The grass is always greener..) I agree with you, those qualities you spoke of go a long way. If a person is unhealthy, though, emotionally/mentally, etc hurting us then we do have to get away.

[@Tara-g7c]

​@@Bb-k4gdVery good that you have taken in knowledge and can be broad-minded and tolerant.

[@Tara-g7c]

​@@Bb-k4gdI think studying other cultures, beliefs is essential to social survival in this world and getting along, in a quality way, with other people so great you were able to do that!

[@Jarcano8]

I think it's about reaffirming to ourselves that we gave our best self and that partucular person didn't see it, or couldn't see it.

[@JonathonAslay]

Indeed

[@deec411]

Accepting someone warts and all....😊

[@robinemery]

Another good talk❣️ BIG BIG HUGGS🫂

[@JonathonAslay]

WOW! Thank you, and much appreciated. Any chance you share this video with friends?

[@stephaniecarlson6689]

❤Thank you Jonathon, I am enjoying listening to you. I am a subscriber Jonathon, I cannot afford a membership as I am not working. I am an empath & I am happy - that my life is now without looking for a partner. I couldn't imagine that I'd ever arrive at this position but I have & I am safe & that is a great choice for me.💝🌺💖🌺 I enjoyed listening to listening to your Guest, 'Seth' - I hope I heard his name correctly & his connection with Zimbabwean Deb; Isn't that sincere & a very special story for them Jonathon. Steph at New South Wales Australia💖🌺💖🌺

[@JonathonAslay]

Big hugs to you and thanks for subscribing...

[@bethnicholson4246]

Question: makes great sense. I had a best male friend Jr. And Sr. Year of High School. We were inseparable. He proposed two weeks after graduation. 😳🤔🤦‍♀️ I was not prepared. My knee gerk reaction was No. I said No. Biggest regret of my life. Why didn't he double check. Ask a second time. It was like 2 seconds later he was married. We hadn't discussed anything about a serious relationship. I guess he was ready. Biggest regret.

[@Gigi-c3h]

Jonathon, yes, get Seth😂❤

[@gingermorgan1650]

You guys are awesome!

[@JonathonAslay]

Who?

[@katrinabryant2200]

Slay it again Jonathon slay it again!thanks4U!😊

[@JonathonAslay]

Awe... thanks

[@katrinabryant2200]

@@JonathonAslay my pleasure!

[@katrinabryant2200]

@@JonathonAslay My pleasure ,,, I would love to talk with you someday ,,,only thing is we will definitely need a long time🤷🏼‍♀️👍🏻🫵🏻😁 Katrina Bryant

[@sheraljames7966]

I saw a video that Matt Boggs did and would like your take on it. It has to do with letting a guy know verbally that you have feelings for him, hopefuuly without losing the friendship if not reciprocated.

[@sheraljames7966]

By the way, he started out as snother client. He lives in SoCal and you may remember I am in AZ. I suggested we get together when he was here visiting his sister at Thanksgiving. We met for drinks, and at one point I divulged my longstanding fears related to progressing age (a lifetime problem of mine). He is 1 yr younger and seemed surprised to hear it. The drinks were strong and I was going on too little sleep from Thanksgiving the night before so things are a bit of a blur which happens even without alcohol when nervous. He also was very respectfully touching me frequently which I didn't reciprocate as am so aftraid of reading the room wrong!

[@JonathonAslay]

What's the title of the video he did?

[@stephaniecarlson6689]

7:27 7:30 ❤ 7:32 7:33 7:33 7:35 7:36 7:36 7:40 7:40 7:40 7:41 7:41 7:44 7:44 7:45 7:45 7:45 7:45 7:45

[@PHJoy]

I embrace this (particular) long distance relationship. -Jonathon Aslay (more or less... listen deep you "no-nuance nellies"!) lol

[@JonathonAslay]

Indeed

[@songsforsale427]

Seth was awesome 👏

[@JonathonAslay]

Indeed

[@petemoss1951]

So true !

[@JonathonAslay]

Thanks

[@mmt2310]

Sorry to ask, but can someone tell me how Connor passed away? Jonathan mentioned it was an accident, but I would like to know what happened. Thank you ❤

[@JonathonAslay]

Accident...

[@taschadresser5988]

Thanks!

[@JonathonAslay]

Awe... thank you 😊

[@Alex-c9w1r]

For clarification are you saying that your deal breaker is someone needs to be willing to participate in your Natural herbs/plant base/cannabis medication activities?

[@JonathonAslay]

No, I didn't day that...

[@JudyHill-kk2wr]

I've been thinking about your profile on Match. I know you think it's excellent, but as a woman, I think you should rewrite it. I think it's asking too much of someone. It's way too heavy. No one knows if they are willing to go the distance with someone they don't even know yet. I think you should be more spontaneous and not place so many demands on a prospective date or relationship. Take it easy...one day at a time. Just because you like going to these very intense places, most people don't go that deep. They may work up tp it with you, but your expectations are way too high. I think you need to lighten it up and lower your expectations. Be more playful and let people discover these things about you slowly.

[@JonathonAslay]

Noted

[@teresakarr8328]

Great advice. But as I have discovered, not everyone values the conversation. Conner and the continued conversation is my interest. Respectfully

[@monikaleszko5343]

No one know if they want to go the distance. That’s why it’s called “ intention “ the intention has to be there. Not just “ I’m seeing where things go” you should know where you want them to go So I disagree with the comment of Judy. 😊

[@Tara-g7c]

Just to motivate people, I think it's very likely the people who experience, in themselves, and together with another, the most deeply connected, mind-blowing, take-you-to-another-world-lose-yourself sex have gotten "connected with their insides," to be emotionally/mentally grounded so they can be aware of the subtle, to be very vulnerable and have delt with their trust issues. These things, Everybody, you need just to function socially with others, like just to give out good vibes at the grocery store and have a good experience grocery shopping out among your neighbor, but I thought I'd give you some extra motivation. Lol! Bet you never thought you'd see grocery shopping and sex in the same comment!🤣 Yet seriously, I have heard an old man say that before sex became more "recreational" in modern times, it used to be the most electrifying thing, something, I'm sure, that was sacred and may still be sacred yet to remaining loving, unselfish beings on the planet.

[@cherrylbradley1250]

Marie looks like Linda Carter

[@JonathonAslay]

Yes, she does

[@WandaYarbrough-mx3xf]

Because I was good to my ex friend. I was a friend to him. No matter what. I thought he was mine. I guess it was fake on his end. I feel like I should take him everything that I had gotten for him before he ended it and leave it for him. Just books and CDs and a bible now. Would that be okay. Then i can let go. I feel like I would be decluttering.

[@JonathonAslay]

Thanks for sharing

[@teresakarr8328]

I want to continue my conversation with diversity. Today,

[@mariad1151]

IDK...Zimbabwe, really?! How many beautiful magnolias in SC withering on the vine? Plus Jonathan should say something more about culture shock & the difficulty of blending cultures. ...the American South is tough even for the American North & vice versa let alone.....Zimbabwe?! Really?

[@JonathonAslay]

Culture issues happen here in the USA as well... remember Melting Pot

[@mariad1151]

@@JonathonAslay That's true. I meant that cultural differences bring additional stressors to relationships that are inherently difficult already.

[@chrissylayton49]

PERSONAL QUESTION Are you totally against travelling together or is it you just don't want to do it every two weeks ie would you be happy to do some travelling with a new partner? PS I have recruited two more friends to watch your videos and have informed them you are offering your perspective and you don't expect everyone to always agree with your views, but it will give them something to think about. Keep up the great work..

[@JonathonAslay]

I was exaggerating every two weeks... I work full-time, and she's retired. I'm good with traveling 4 times a year for a vacation.

[@Sunlightsam24]

@@JonathonAslay With the zillion detailed questions asked within a short period of time with Marie, how did you both miss this very important aspect of blending lifestyles? In my opinion, even with asking a lot of questions, things are revealed over time and experiences.

[@Sunlightsam24]

I remember starting to see a guy who lived 1.25 hours from me. There were other aspects of him/lifestyle that weren’t attractive to me, but I felt anxious about having to spend every other weekend somewhere else and having someone at my place every other weekend. I have things to take care of on the weekends and sitting at someone’s house 2 weekends a month was not going to work for me. Found a guy 20 min away and we live together now after dating for a year.

[@chrissylayton49]

@JonathonAslay thank you for addressing my personal query so promptly, .silly me! 😀

[@NatalieG-yi3pn]

@@Sunlightsam24 Jonathon's relationship with Marie was based on intense chemistry and lust. He fell hard for her and ignored everything and had her move to California to his home. They didn't vet well and he was harsh to her (watch old videos)and she looked so uncomfortable at times.

[@mmt2310]

Brad Pitt? That dude is 60 years old lol. How about Jason Momoa or Chris Hemsworth 🥰😘

[@JonathonAslay]

Good choices too...

[@NatalieG-yi3pn]

Do you regret losing Marie? I watched a few of the videos you did together and you threw her under the bus a lot and still do. I thought you were all about not dojng this to a partner? Is this why she broke up with you?

[@JonathonAslay]

No

[@NatalieG-yi3pn]

@@JonathonAslay you need to watch your old videos again with Marie - you actually said I her - I am going to throw you under the bus and you did.

[@JonathonAslay]

@@NatalieG-yi3pn That's different, we spoke about it in advance, and it simply meant, I'm going to share something personal.

[@Sunlightsam24]

Throw Someone Under The Bus = cause someone else to suffer in order to save oneself or gain personal advantage. Women need to feel secure and safe within a relationship.

[@NatalieG-yi3pn]

it sounded rude when you did this and you laughed it - and you said sarcastically I'm going to throw you under the bus. It looked like you made Marie look uncomfortable. You should have kept your previous relatonship private. You only had her on your videos to make yourself LOOK GOOD. VERY narcissitic and selfish.

[@marinarivera5150]

I don't understand this Message why will person regret this Can ot text too well

[@JonathonAslay]

I understand... what don't you get?

[@sheraljames7966]

Haha you mentioned Lynda Carter...my ex-husband dated her a few years before me (her brothe r was our insurance agent). I jokingly tell people he dumped her for me! By the way, I don't know ANYONE who is into the mushroom thing you keep talking about so I think you are really limiting the field!

[@Kick-AssClaire]

I know loads of people who heal their child and adult traumas through plant medicine so maybe you should consider working on yourself

[@JonathonAslay]

That's cool he did... as far as what I seek, there are lots of people here in Los Angeles who do it.

[@Bb-k4gd]

@@Kick-AssClaire Working on our selves it’s not exclusive to psychedelics or plant based medicine at All. There are many ways, types of therapies n technics to do the inner work with out any hallucinogens. ‘It’s a personal choice’.