Healing from past hurts | Choosing to love again

[@ndivhuworamadwa]

This is the most important video on KZbin right now. This video came at the right time. I just came out of a relationship and I'm seeking God while learning to love and know myself and also healing so this video right here spoke to my soul.

[@khunindlovu3310]

So true 🙌🙌🙌

[@priscillarikhotso4018]

Yeah it is!

[@thatomodirwa4019]

“We are going to meet people who might seem good but they are not good for us”

[@itumelengmbane5922]

"You cannot tie your entire destiny and life because of what 1 person did to you" This for me really hit home wow😭😭 Thank you for the transparency and vulnerability. Woooooo Jesu sizo phola amanxeba maan, si thande ende SIZOSHADA!!!!!! 💃💃💃💃💃💃

[@BuliMakhubo]

Amen !!! thank you for watching sis

[@koenafoko5109]

You guys are Godsend! I heard your message a 25 year old that is hurt, broken, unable to forgive and let go and let God. I'm living in this stagnant position where I'm just stuck in sin, loneliness brokenness and depression. But God spoke to me though you guys and I'm HEARING. kea leboha haholo feela.

[@Careen750]

I really feel God speaking to me through you guys. Thank you so much. I was probably going to self sabotage myself if I didn't heal and if I didn't hear this. Thank you so much. It helped a lot. I think am going to listen this video again because there is a lot to learn from it.

[@Lydia_m]

I needed this so badly.I thought I got over my heartbreak,but I have to finally admit that 3 years later,I still hold a grudge and an unhealthy resentful energy towards my ex because I never got the closure I felt he owed me.After 4 and a half years together,he just walked out of our relationship in 2016 and I haven't completely healed from the betrayal.Now I feel as though some weight has been lifted off my shoulders by simply watching your video.I need to forgive myself for not knowing back then what I know now.A broken mans actions is a reflection of his past pain and troubles projected onto me,IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH ME.And that's all the closure I ever needed.Finally looking forward to 2020. 🙃🙃. Possibly open myself up to start dating again❤️.Thank you guys

[@Kevin_Makhubo]

I'm glad to we could help 😊...Happy 2020 in advance🎉

[@sadccommercialadvertisemen6811]

ey sisi we both share the same traumatic experience.

[@vivielletebele1466]

Mmmm we are many mos,l just let go because I was exhausted of dejavu but for the past 2 & half years he is stalking me non stop l gave no response l was stone dead towards his antics to grab my attention.

[@animalsfanatic6014]

Oh God... I just discovered you guys a week ago. I can't stop watching. This guy is so humble and genuine in a way that is difficult to understand (a lot of us guys like possessing this unfun masculine character that prevents us from emotionally connecting to significant others). And the lady is soo beautiful, understanding, and her mind and smile are everything 🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@ntomboxolonguqu263]

I know I'll revisit this vid again. Thank you for allowing God to use you guys. ❤

[@bhekiwemaphanga7610]

Yes.. I love this so much, I'm also one person who doesn't withhold love despite the number of times I've been hurt and disappointed... "if I die I die"!

[@onenkosisimilemkize3191]

I really love the content of this channel ❤️ God is at work!!!!!! Great video guys!!!

[@ludomaripe4444]

I needed this, was just scrolling thru looking 4 something 2 watch then booom.God is saying something

[@jaqualenephasha8495]

I'm encouraged ...definitely ready to love again after 2 years of seeking healing and learning to love myself again.

[@veemas1641]

I've repeated his definition of " dating myself".. I want it to sink in, God help me heal. We are bruised evha

[@snenhlahlasenamiemhlungu7197]

Watching this video made me realize how much honesty can play a major role when you're embarking on a new relationship. Thank you guys needed this now more than ever🙏.

[@portianontobekomkhize1941]

Oh! my God, where have you been on my life??? yazi guys this is really one of the videos I believe we all need to watch. For some reason, nami i had written people off, as much as there was still a small desire for love but fear got the best out of me. So nje I want to say thank you so much and please continue spreading the love of God. We really need people like you.

[@rebotilemokgophi6378]

I love you guys, power couple, and the level of your maturity 👌👌. I've learned.

[@keneilwechula3500]

Thank you for sharing this video and for being real. I only realised it later in life how a relationship i had while still in high school had affected my perspective on relationships since then. Past hurts do affect you whether you know it or not and if you don't deal with those issues it certainly does impact on what could be a great relationship.

[@wanderingcucamber7082]

🫂🫂🫂🫂 Sis!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@sanelemjoli4877]

Mina ngithanda the fact that you allowed God to heal you. Mina I used to say why wait suka I am not mourning until Thando came and said "With me you will wait". I thank God I waited because I am now married and happy.

[@itumelengmbane5922]

Ja uThando is the one. Ngiyam'thanda yazi Bhuti

[@sanelemjoli4877]

@@itumelengmbane5922 lol she is my manager that one.

[@nolumakipodcast3195]

Wow, guys, the timing of this video is impeccable, thank you very much and may God bless you with much more wisdom.

[@nellynzuza3547]

You guys has really brought back hope for me to believe in love and to allow love again.... Thank you so much.... God first ❤️🙏

[@mahubekatane7315]

I was in a loveless relationship firstly with myself and then with father of my son. I didn't realise that I was expecting him to do for me what I should have done for myself first. The fact that he is a Christian and loves the Lord like nothing on earth, we prayed together laughed together, faced some tough times together played together basically we made it work or that's what I thought. Through out my pregnancy he had other relationships and persued this particular one because he truly loves her (they are still together). Confronted him and every time and he said he would stop and change lol but because I didn't love me I believed him. When our son was born he was the perfect partner lol or so I thought basically a year later he is still with this wonderful woman he was seeing when I was pregnant. I hated him I hated myself and wanted to hurt him so badly. I hate the fact that he is okay living his best life and happy with her. I hate that I don't know where to start I hate this pit that I am in. Lol I hate the fact that I believed that he loved me. I think what hurts most is when you hear from someone that he said you were a one night stand, when I asked him if he ever loved me he paused and said yeah I guess I did at some point. Basically I need to let go and focus on raising my handsome boy. I don't hate him I think I hate myself more and I am tired of hurting its too much to bare.

[@zaneleradebe8954]

Please listen to Steven Furtick on a recent message titled sticking point. I promise you it will help you❤ I am praying that God re-establishes you in ways only He can. Keep on nurturing your relationship with the Lord, I promise all this other stuff (e.g. self hate, addictions, low self esteem,...) fall away without you putting effort and send a message when you need a sister in Christ. You are beautiful and I am sure your son is blessed to have you. In my journey with Christ I have realised that God always removes things or people that I idolize without noticing because our wonderful God always wants 1st place. All the best on your healing journey. You can also listen to Mike Todd on a series called Marked. I hope you will forever find comfort and strength in Christ like Isaiah 40 verse 28 to 31 states. Love you with the love of Christ❤

[@mahubekatane7315]

@@zaneleradebe8954 wow thank you for the love I will give myself time to listen to the suggested material.

[@zaneleradebe8954]

@@mahubekatane7315 Anytime. Have a lovely night.

[@joyjoy449]

Fix your relationship with Christ, sister. Maybe you idolized this guy? I think that's why God says we should not fornicate, there's that risk of developing soul ties and the person abandoning you. It will be painful because of that soul tie you share, plus your son. Sincerely repent and focus on your relationship with Christ. Forgive him and forgive yourself. Ask Lord Jesus to renew your heart and soul. Break soul ties, they are a hindrance.

[@lwazimcnite4851]

You will heal sis. Please do not look at what he did for it will stop you from moving forward. Ignore negative thoughts. Pray and fast for a day,take out all the pain in that journey. God sees and he knows and he loves you so so so much,he gave you your son. Just let go of bitterness for something big is coming your way. He wipes tears without us realizing it.

[@nonhlawrites3297]

Wow... “sometimes you’re the one stopping your own happiness “ ...these are great lessons and insights. The truth of the matter is that God heals indeed 🙏 thank you guys

[@mbinaomukuambi2459]

Love the authenticity not your words. So practical and sincere. I am definitely here for such! 🙏🏾🥰 #Wisdom

[@yonelayoniemzanywa120]

MY fav people:)....wow this is very rich and healing guys...thank you very much for allowing the Lord to use you for us, I've learnt that Love doesn't lead astray, but leads you to GOD...Love is GOD...love never fails...it builds never destroys and it makes you strong not weak..." In life we might meet people that are good but not for us,but for someone else"-Buli Makhubo

[@wanderingcucamber7082]

I gave love a chance this year 🌱🌿 🐛🦋 I resonate so much with this video. From your experiences, being intentional about each other and your individual healing! I will always return to this video because it serves as a reminder that love is a choice, comes when you least expect it but most of all don’t ever EVER block your blessings or allow past traumas to control you! 🫂🫂

[@mmabona_m]

Talk about perfect timing. This video is exactly what I needed. God bless you guys 🙏🏽

[@serolejoy1648]

Hi, just want to let you know that I love you guys. You're such an inspirational couple. God bless you both. 🙏🏾❤️

[@BuliMakhubo]

Thank you so much.. We really do appreciate you too ...

[@sofortunate5171]

This video is life, im going through the most right now and its very difficult for me to see light and the end of the tunnel. After this i have hope! Thank you guys!! ♥

[@BuliMakhubo]

Nate M ❤️... pain is not forever sis ... I promise you one day you will look back and understand that even in the hardest times , God was getting ready to release something beautiful... it’s just a matter of time ❤️

[@JamieleighUnfiltered]

Yoh the maturity of this video is on another level❤️🙏

[@boitumelokutlwano1716]

Watching this for the second time and yah, I HEAR KAHLE FUTHI. That first part ka Kevin where God said HEAL!!! GOD is so intentional about us and He loves us!!!

[@boitumelokutlwano1716]

"Our experiences have taken away the purity of what love should be" Yuu!!! Ngiyanizwa bazalwane

[@palesankondlo1395]

“If I die then I die”😂😂😂 yeah love is a beautiful thing

[@nqobilemakhathini7227]

Thank you, I honestly needed this❤ May God Bless this young, beautiful and wise couple

[@nomondemgidi9890]

You have restored my hope in love. Thank you ♥️

[@zolamakaula6228]

I’ve been avoiding this video, I truly needed to hear this ❤️ and actually nam ngizoshada 😝🥰

[@wanderingcucamber7082]

Nami ngizoshada 👰🏾‍♀️👰🏾‍♀️ all the best love ❤️

[@lwazimdana1541]

I like how you guys make transparency and open communication one of your core pillars for your relationship. Great content! May God sustain and nurture your union. Big Up!!!

[@keoahilemoletsane1170]

Brilliant 👏. Thank you for this.

[@bongisasishuba7517]

My God...I was taking a break from studying to watch this but it needs one to watch and listen when you have time too many things to think about as a result of this video. Thanks guys this is very informative and helpful, you guys are true influencers

[@seipatimathibela5448]

Beautiful, love and so genuine.. I beginning to like yall lol... yes so true and it is so sad that people stay in relationships and marriages that dont work simple because people are broken from past relationships.. I pray that male and female can seek help if they see that things are not well or been through things... our past have a way of creeping in our future. Let's safe guard our hearts

[@Ukazi_Biblical_Womanhood]

You just earned yourself a new subbie🙌 may God cover you guys, this is so profound❤

[@naledipetuniamaruping5741]

Thank you for this video, I just saw it and I really needed it. Please do more videos like this, relationship and educational

[@LwaziGwegwana]

I needed to hear this ❤️🙌🙌I will never give up on love because of my past. God will direct the right person to my way one day❤️

[@NaturalNomvula]

You know I'm only 25 and I'm this deep. Being young in this time and age makes one want to withdraw and not give yourself full. Which is not right I believe that God has made us to live fully and not regret any moment. I believe that only God has the power to let things happen and only Him has the power not to let things happen. So once you are hurt God let that happen and believe me Him alone will make sure you heal. I mean we hurt God most everyday but He doesn't stop loving us💕. Thank you for this video

[@BuliMakhubo]

And here's the thing.. we are not supporting being naive and giving the wrong people your all.. But when you see that someone is trying to love you from a good place, be nice and love back .. thank you for watching xX

[@rebotilemasekela5982]

Kea leboga Buli. This year it has all been about healing before I could date again but you made me realize that a big part of me was actually scared and it wasn't about healing anymore. I was shutting every guy out, even when I liked someone I would just say no and leave the situation.

[@phumelelazuma4704]

Needed to hear this 😭.. I'm currently withholding to love wholeheartedly because of my past. I'm trying to protect myself by not being fully in. Because I know how hard you fall is how much you will be hurt 😭

[@Munzhe]

I loved this video. I can resonate with a lot of things and I had a few ahaa! moments. Thank you.

[@thobilevilakazi418]

Loved this!!! So glad I bumped into this video now. New subbie 🤗

[@siphokazityam5401]

"I'm okay with not being good enough for you, I will be good enough for someone else" preach. Also why do people get shook when you let them go peacefully? An ex actually decided to create scenarios around our break up, I guess he was used to being fought and I just walked away

[@maipelobantshang1659]

This is so great,infomative,thanks for advices.Relationships are a hustle.....

[@nosiphosambo1643]

This is so powerful on my perspective it’s more of like a testimony turned into glory and happiness 😍😍🥰🥰🥰🥰

[@loriamakhubele5404]

Give love a second chance When you get the opportunity to love again, take it.❤

[@Prisheliciousness]

Loved the video ...thank you for sharing :)

[@pearlthabi8565]

Wooow such wisdom ❤️❤️❤️ God bless you with more of that, there's light after listening to you my fave couple 💕💕💕💕

[@gugulethumthimkhulu6480]

Welcome back i missed you guys . I really enjoyed the video awesome. Very profound and insightful

[@banelemello7150]

Because of the gems y'all have dropped here. I'm officially a resident. New subscriber alert !!!

[@BuliMakhubo]

Banele Mello thank you so much Banele 🙏🏾

[@minenhleminnie5963]

Hey New subscriber here and I haven't watched the video yet but the lady's voice is so calm and soothing😣😍 Love you guys already.

[@lwazimcnite4851]

Thank you so much guys,such wisdom! Wow!!!

[@preciousmathabatha9015]

Give love chance...wow 🤩🤩🤩

[@kamogelocaroline5704]

Allow yourself to heal and get the courage to love again . So blessed by this . Thank you so much and shed lots of light .wow!!

[@BuliMakhubo]

awww Thank you for watching Xx

[@gcinilethabethe188]

So happy I came across this channel. It really came at the perfect time in my life.. I needed this

[@thandomhlng]

Exactly what I needed. Thank u so much. May God bless this union❤️

[@ZuksMosidi]

Thank You guys for this...it hit hard, so many valid points that we often overlook. great one. Thank You.

[@dimakatsomakimoloko4947]

I loved everything about this video. God bless you guys❤!!watching it again🥰

[@mandisamondise3613]

Yazini, ngiyanithanda. No way! So happy I stumbled upon your channel, so much wisdom and nje genuine vibes

[@BuliMakhubo]

Yay! Welcome ❤️🤗

[@mandisamondise3613]

@@BuliMakhubo Kumnandi ukuba lapha!

[@thenjiwegumpo227]

Lovely vlog .You are a match made in heaven and l love the fact that God is in the centre of your marriage.Very encouraging thank you.

[@Millennial_wy4]

Give love a chance! Love is a beautiful thing

[@nthatimakgalemela7774]

aah Buli I am so happy for you! This is beautiful.

[@MahateForever]

The wisdom 🙏🏾🔥❤️ , siyabonga

[@luyolompembela175]

Eish I'm overly cautious with who to accept and trust, I'm still recovering from my past dark phase eyy a person has been through a lot I just do not have any trust I don't know I don't trust anyone, but I'm still in the same environment where I crashed, I decided to make full recovery here then move somewhere in a clean slate, I don't want to deny life for me cause I know I'll leave my best life with the people that love and care. I'm not in a rush

[@siyathokozansizwane5681]

Wow thank you so much for this days,

[@jazmin8070]

new subscriber... yey. thanks for this video. worth the watch - the title of the video describes the content. thank you for your honesty and sharing wisdom from your experiences. you guys are amazing.

[@PZJBimha]

This made me hopeful. Thanks for sharing.

[@tshenolomasilela6360]

Absolutely love LOVE!

[@priscillarikhotso4018]

I'm right here with my cup of tea 🍵

[@Kyrabonini]

Thank you

[@nhlakanipho_mazibuko]

Notification gang 💥 Yey let's watch now 😅💕

[@nonkumonkoe]

Very interesting perspective. Thanks for sharing ❤️❤️❤️

[@wanderingcucamber7082]

I am watching this video again because I needed it 🤲🏽

[@simplyconny6022]

God bless u guys its really encouraging to hear you speak about real issues that are relatable to the mass.

[@zwovhonalanevhusenga1307]

Thank you for being such a light... This right here is content 👌👌👌

[@busisiwembhele2081]

Loved your openness. Thank you

[@Its_Gwyn]

So good guys! Thanks heaps for sharing

[@MissMK-d6p]

Am watching this video for the second time today after 3 months and I am honestly ready to let go of the pain and try again.😥

[@wanderingcucamber7082]

Please do!! 🫂🫂

[@andisalengs5622]

thanks guys for this thankx👏👏🙏

[@mmamolemomodisadife2726]

I totally enjoyed this video.

[@Mixoakani]

Wow than you for the encouragement and advice. ❤

[@VhugalaHaweM]

yeay! aftsr a long day @ work, I need this. I'm excited to watch! let me grab my coffee and enjoy LOVE YOU BULI

[@lihledladla7376]

I'm in tears...❤️

[@lerekomolefe4323]

Thank you Buli this was very informative and so brutally honest.

[@levimasilo]

I’ve been watching your videos for sometime and funny enough I only come across this informative video which made me realize many things I still need to deal with. My challenge is that I’m married and now things are not good because of my past experience and it makes it hard to connect to my wife. I don’t even know what to do because I’ll end up leaving the relationship of 10 years 🙆🏽‍♂️

[@motheowalerato701]

Fight for your marriage my brother🙏

[@nomcebonkwanyana4801]

Ouhh my word, I hate myself that its my first time seeing your youtube chanel, thank you for sharing, you really opened my eyes.

[@BuliMakhubo]

Better late than never , right ?? lol thank you for watching sis Xx

[@nomcebonkwanyana4801]

@@BuliMakhubo Yeah it is better, thank you again.

[@siphesihleyabo4528]

love you guys.

[@smallbigsister_]

Thank you 💛

[@Feliciashingani]

This is beautiful, I love your content you guys. ❤️

[@mbalenhledipalesadirulelo1394]

It's like you knew what I was going through.. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and 6 months and I have never felt loved by him.. Instead he brought me so much anger that I ended up not respecting him any more... I would answer him however I want or even swear at him and I'd feel no guilt... After we stayed away from each other for a month he had already found someone else.... And did the things I wanted him to do with me.. , I actually realized that I still love him, but I needed him to learn how to love and treat me.. He wanted me to submit but I failed as he couldn't lead me either... I felt like I was loving a wrong person... I wanted us to fix things but he seemed that he had moved on without even telling me... He cheated couple of Times and also compared me to his friends girlfriends.... When I told him I can't be ruled or be forced to be someone I am not.. He said I can't be a woman.. Till I learn how to be a woman he can love.. He will leave me till I become that woman 😓 So I am afraid if we can ever work things out.. And again I am afraid if we don't fix, will I ever be able to believe in love and love someone else with no doubts 😕😢?

[@BuliMakhubo]

You will definitely be able to love again... You don't have to become someone you are not , in order to be loved.. You are Perfection as God has created you to be.. Your ex was not and is NOT for you .. let him go ... Heal and embrace the true love God has in store for you

[@ncebakazistemela3467]

Love you guys ❤️

[@mrspboledi]

I totally enjoy your content Buli,amazing stuff🥰🥰🥰

[@Bestow_Lerato]

Really needed this😔... Its mostly hard to know how to heal from a heart break.. You know you need to heal but it gets tricky coz it's almost like you need some kind of a routine to follow.. I'd like to ask what were some of the ways God used/ spoke to you during both of your healing processes, and how did you know you were ready to give it another chance..🤔

[@BuliMakhubo]

Lerato Nkwana hey sis ... I think for me truth was also the the things that helped me heal... when I was honest and I knew that this was not working out because my life could be at risk , I accepted it more easier. Truth that it was not going to work helped me not to call or text or desire to know what the other person was doing ... I was also practical in a sense that I blocked and muted and literally detoxed the person out of my life until I because accustomed to doing life without them ... like I said in the video for me when I met Kev I was like wow I’m ready to give this a try... I didn’t plan it at all... it instantly happened

[@Bestow_Lerato]

@@BuliMakhubo thanks a lot 😊

[@zaneleradebe8954]

I also believe you can't love someone well or unconditionally if you didn't exercise such love towards yourself

[@zikhonacopiso1227]

I needed to hear this❤

[@NtokozoBee]

I needed to hear this. Thank you.