Healing Relationships + Tying Up Loose Ends

[@aubree8079]

3rd time watching I’m avoiding and just waking away for my health it hit me hard when you said inflammation is unprocessed information so talking a week alone in the desert processing n finding my truth Thank you so much ❤

[@Dabrioli]

It is kinda crazy that I found this video litteraly after my breakup. I am 16 and I broke up with the girl I was with for a year. Ngl I had so much love for her and I am hurting ever day since yesterday but I understand that god has a better future for me and that I will one day i will find the one. I did not have any resent for her and thanked her for everything she did for me. I believe that i tried my best to fix every mistake I made and i was very respectful with her and her feelings from the beginning to the end. As much as i want for her to go back to me i want to spend some time for myself and to build the person that i promised i would be. Maybe God sent her to show me something and even tho i dont fully understand everything i will in the future. I still have my family and friends who support me so the only thing i lost was someone i loved and now we are just strangers. I trully loved her with all my heart and with all sincerity.All i have to do is just look foward and dont look back. Thank you because this is more i can learn and apply to whatever wonderful future i have ahead of me. Thank you so much for putting out what you have learned for others to learn from. Honestly i also wrote this to just accept that there is no "us" no more and just so that i can put this somewhere so that maybe i can come back and just see how much i grew. Again thank you for everything and everything that you have been wishing for will happen. May God Bless You ❤

[@Dabrioli]

I do have a question tho if I have items from her like a wallet should I throw it away or just keep it?

[@Bendrvry]

I find myself in a situation where I have broken up with my girlfriend and stopped being friends with someone I have been close to for a large proportion of my life. The reasons for both of these seem similar to yours in the fact that I'm changing and can no longer match the energy they are putting into the relationship. In my inability to tell them this in the correct way, I have caused both people to entirely leave my life which is very sad. I have got through it okay as I know it is what is best for myself but now i have watched this video I feel as though I maybe need to send a couple of messages out, despite my fear of being ignored or seen as 'admitting I'm wrong', in order to potentially salvage either or them, or to just find a bit more closure to bring me peace. Do you have any suggestions on how this should be done, as in, what should I address in particular and how deep do I need to go in explaining my issues? They have also made mistakes that I feel I dont want to just forgive unconditionally but I do accept that I have been the one to cause the end of our relationships. Thank you for your videos they are invaluable.

[@_attuned]

@@Bendrvry I hear you. I would consider the desired outcome of these messages. What is your intention? What is it you really want, if it were possible? Sit with that for a bit perhaps and see what feels like an appropriate action. It really is a skill to learn to communicate in a way which is neither self-deprecating, nor blame-y, nor desperate, nor cold! And that skill grows fastest in the conditions of a healthy body which has moved, breathed, rested, eaten well. Then it’s easier to know whether to speak, and if so, what to say 🙏🏼

[@Bendrvry]

@@_attuned thank you this is great advice as always ❤️