Heartbreak and loss: My girlfriend, my daughter, and... Seeking my father I've never met.

[@ceciliaongweny1829]

This is a full TED Talk👏🏾👏🏾- so much to learn - well articulated with full vulnerability- thank you for sharing your story- sending you love and light as you continue navigating this life journey.

[@TheJagero]

Thank you for appreciating Ochuka’s vulnerability. We are so happy this resonated with you. Navigating this life journey can be tough, but sharing stories helps us all move forward.

[@ceciliaongweny1829]

@@TheJagero Absolutely 💯 Thank you kindly for your work too👏🏾Keep it up 🙏🏾

[@nancyokanga809]

Jagero, thanks for what you do. What a story!!! I think without knowing or intending to (and perhaps because you already know the story), I felt like you were jumping to sections of the story without letting us get the full details of such an inspiring narration. For instance, I was really looking forward to when he first learnt that his grandparents were not his parents etc. All in all, looking forward to the next episodes.

[@TheJagero]

You're spot on about wanting all the juicy details - I admit, I might have gotten a little hasty to jump ahead. The truth about his grandparents is a HUGE turning point, and I don't want to prod on it too much, but trust me, we'll get there. In the next episode, we'll be diving deeper into his subsequent life, and you'll definitely find out why; especially because the story is more about the foundations of developing an understanding of the cancer experience and not so much out his biography. In the meantime, glad you're enjoying the series! Stay tuned for more.

[@nancyokanga809]

@@TheJagero Very well understood. Thank you.

[@joanshitawa8035]

What a profound story!!! waa...

[@TheJagero]

Ochuka's story really is powerful, isn't it? It's amazing how strong and inspiring he is. The way they stayed positive through it all was incredible.

[@sharonlelia1726]

I looved listening to this conversation

[@TheJagero]

Me too! Ochuka's story is truly inspiring. It was a powerful conversation. What part resonated with you the most?

[@florenceojowa7706]

This is so touching. No child writes an application to be born, hence it’s very unfair to deny the child the right to know his or her father. As a psychologist, I will tell you that your mother has a responsibility to tell you who your father is. Much as you say you no longer want to know, the issue will continue to come up. You need closure for two reasons: 1) you have a daughter who will want to know who her grandfather is. You might think it’s no longer important but she has a right to know. 2) for your own closure and peace of mind. You may think that it’s no longer important to you, but the truth is that you have only succeeded to push it to your subconscious mind. It is bound to come to the surface due to any slight trigger. Your grandmother carefully avoids the topic because she knows that it’s not her place to reveal this information. She believes, and rightly so, that the responsibility is solely on your mother. She could have her reasons for not telling you, but she has to do it. She probably needs to seek help from a psychologist who will help her navigate the tough issues that may be making it difficult for her to open up. Otherwise, I wish you all the best in your parenting journey.

[@TheJagero]

Hi Florence, Thank you for sharing your thoughts and expertise as a psychologist. Ochuka's story definitely resonated with many viewers, and your comment raises some important points. It's understandable that Ochuka might have put a rest and found closure about finding their father. While closure is important, it's also his journey, and we should respect, or understand, their current decision. You're absolutely right that children have a right to know their heritage, and hopefully, he will feel comfortable exploring that path anytime, whenever they're ready. For now, we can offer Ochuka support and focus on the beautiful story of his life, setbacks and all. Thanks again for your insightful comment.

[@florenceojowa7706]

Very well stated. I respect that

[@SusanAuma-vz1de]

Cancer is a monster it robbed me my son in 2021 I'm still mourning lit ndii

[@TheJagero]

I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. Cancer is a terrible disease, and losing your son must be incredibly difficult.

[@bellaolum9768]

Hugs 😢

[@peterclinton9967]

very much inspirational

[@TheJagero]

Thanks so much! I'm so glad you found it inspiring.

[@mumbinganga5824]

😭😭😭

[@TheJagero]

Right there with you for this one, Mumbi. But there's also hope in Ochuka's story. Stay tuned for our next episodes where we talk in-depth about the cancer experience, gleaning hope, insight and inspiration.