Heartbreaking Guardianship Hearing - mom wants her daughter back!

This is a really intense case. Content Warning for some sensitive issues. Mention of SA on a minor. I'm not kidding.. you're going to need something to punch 👊
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[@pamelaruth7400]

"it's a family matter" is textbook abuser mentality as well as is her blaming the 8 year old for being innappropiate with her 23 year old uncle

[@camdencosigner2606]

This was gross.

[@carrieday8423]

Wow that is Just horrible n Sickening to even think that ...

[@CherrrrBear]

100%!!!!!

[@CherrrrBear]

And left her in HIS care

[@theappraizer]

i'm gonna say within the first 24 hours, and especially that first hour, it's a family matter. 🔫

[@ridleycobain2468]

Honestly, I don’t think you could dream up a better guardian than Melissa. Sounds like a phenomenal woman and mother. This little girl deserves to stay exactly where she is and will be safe.

[@debistauffer86]

The child needs to stay where she is at

[@gabriellemeadows1675]

So true! If bio mum lived her as she says she dies, she’d be involved, but she’d stop trying to rip her from all she knows and loves, just so she can have her, very selfish!

[@cindytackett7106]

Hats off for the guardian. She is a special person for caring, loving and assuring Brooklyn has a stable home life.

[@melodywilliams9124]

The executive decision to contact Ms Sanders is literally the only, and best, thing she has done for her daughter.

[@maryhain4205]

Ms. Sanders should file for TPR

[@armstrong2388]

And “mom”’only called Mrs. Sanders to take the child because she was going to get taken from away from grandma and mom thought she could control the situation. I hope she never gets that child back.

[@skip3778]

Then at the end she throws in those cheap shots about a knot on her head from volleyball and the other thing. this women is disgusting.

[@jennifers.3818]

Only bc she was in jail and her hand was forced

[@dudemorris7769]

It’s her mother.

[@rachelpauley6843]

I can tell you right now- if ANYONE- brother, father, fiancé, etc- put their hands on my daughter- if I don’t off them myself- my first call is to the law. Why would you not? Why would you need days to decide that’s the right thing to do? Sounds like she’d have rather protected the brother than her young, innocent daughter. Makes me absolutely sick

[@MrModeldad]

You do realise don't you that women are just as likely to molest children as men.

[@CherrrrBear]

Exactly any NORMAL a parent after the SA she left her in HIS care. Then she also ingested meth????

[@rachelpauley6843]

@@CherrrrBear some people really don’t deserve the opportunity to have children. It’s too bad it isn’t reserved for those who take the responsibility seriously. There’d be a lot less messed up kids walking around 🥲🥲🥲

[@anonymoose116]

Correct. My kids don't know several members of my relatives, because I deem them too toxic to be around them. And that includes my step-kids' bio mom. Their father and I made that decision together when we got sole custody.

[@ItIsJustDucky]

​@@CherrrrBearthe mom should have an i.u.d placed- a shame courts can't order that in these situations.

[@mmcla5]

My heart breaks for this poor baby. Incompetent mother, abused by her uncle, ingested meth at 3 years old, moving around to different caregivers. I hope the rest of her life is stable and filled with love.

[@jenny_b_]

Mom tried to put on a tough face but you can tell she’s feeling uncomfortable, embarrassed and humiliated as her pathetic mothering was discussed, especially in front of the new guy. And she deserves every bit of it.

[@christiewright1457]

Right - but it also speaks to her decision making skills. Why would she think it’s a good idea or even appropriate to bring your new BF to a custody hearing when you know you’re a fucking mess

[@ThatLadyInDallas2024]

Who wouldn't support their kid even if no one asks? Duh!

[@jennifers.3818]

@Christie Wright right! The fact she sees nothing wrong with that and nothing wrong with having your 23yr old brother,accused of assaulting your daughter, babysit is the scary part! If she doesnt have the brain capacity to see those things then she doesnt need her child. Besides she hasnt had her child over half the kids life, the kid is thriving and happy, why tear her away. Selfishness

[@UnscrupulousAgitator]

I didn't get that. It seems she's blaming everyone but herself for the situation. Or thinks she handled things correctly. Like her brother.

[@morganmua5681]

@@UnscrupulousAgitator That’s the same impression I got too

[@AmandaBooBerry]

It was really heartwarming to see the mom show her gratitude to the child's guardian and give her credit for the kid's success, stability and... OH WAIT, that was me. Nevermind.

[@kathleendobens6648]

😅😅😅

[@fionabess5367]

Cheeky

[@adriedrake8605]

Unbelievable right🥴

[@annacarter6559]

👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

[@Misguidedchild0351]

Did anyone else feel like the mom was, light weight, blaming the daughter for the SA?

[@user-ju9re9ob2v]

She keeps saying "They" but the child is 8!

[@skylit6491]

If you’re fighting for custody for your child, this is NOT how act in court.

[@kimlerner389]

So she let's a guy who's still married move in with her and then gets pregnant when she knows she's going to try to get her daughter back? Great choices

[@Fantasytiger86]

Give it a year or two and I'm sure we'll have an update with her fighting to get custody back of both of them still. Because with her track record she's going to lose custody of the second one too

[@angelasheets1500]

I hope cps takes this one too

[@vinniediaz6829]

Not once did I hear her say, I want her home because I love her. She gave every other reason, mostly self serving but not one word about love.

[@vinniediaz6829]

Exactly what I didn't hear! No, I love her. I watch these often and almost never hear that from the natural parent. Letting that baby get ahold of meth should terminate her as the parent, right there. End

[@nicolebrown1927]

Boom! Mic Drop!💙

[@youtubestreets3915]

This chick is ridiculous, 10 minutes and I had heard enough, I'd always wonder why people lose the rights to their kids, but now I see why! Thank God for the guardian mrs. Sanders! 😍

[@ellendickey4769]

Her attitude is awful!

[@dicey8928]

Adoption is done within 18 max in the Uk as kids can't float around for the selfish adults to get stable, its not fair on the children ❤

[@SewFrancine6120]

Another unrelated man in this child’s life is a TERRIBLE IDEA and she’s pregnant again… IT is not a hard decision to evict someone who assaulted your child.

[@laurac2424]

Yeah the fact she called him, a married man, as a witness, to beg that her underage daughter, that is of no relation to him whatsoever, to plead for her to come live with them… all while mom is pregnant with another man’s baby. There are no words for the level of depravity I believe this child was just saved from. Because boyfriend is not their for mom, otherwise he would have left she did and wouldn’t have been so visibly angry at the judge’s ruling. So for everyone who always complains about a the criminal justice system, this is what it looks like day in and day out and everyday judges make decisions like this that save children’s lives. That’s not inconsequential, and it’s also a hard job to do. Kuddos to everyone involved in helping this little girl❤❤❤

[@slylittlerogue5284]

How sad is it for Mrs. Sanders, sending this child she loves and cares about to her bio mother for a Summer visit, only for her to come back to her damaged. Ugh, my heart for this baby. 💔 This will effect her the rest of her life. I hope she stays with her guardian permanently. I see Mrs. Sanders making sure this child receives counseling, and all the support she needs. It’s questionable what the bio mom would do for her, if she was in her care. She’s going to have her plate full when that new baby arrives.

[@ItIsJustDucky]

She blamed her daughter for a sexual assault. She should never be near her daughter again unsupervised.

[@slylittlerogue5284]

@@ItIsJustDucky Totally agree!

[@ItIsJustDucky]

@@slylittlerogue5284 how she can blame a 7 year old for her adult brother's actions? 😡 Sadly mom more than likely experienced something similar, but that's still no excuse.

[@tiffanystrand4423]

@@ItIsJustDuckythat is the only thing I can think of on why she didn’t report… and her father is definitely a factor in that decision 😢

[@nopenoway9875]

That boyfriend is super shady, and obviously went straight from his wife and sons to live and impregnate a drug addict who can’t even take care of herself let alone a baby. Absolutely ridiculous.

[@skip3778]

Love how those three DUI's kinda just slipped his mind

[@jennifers.3818]

Is that his baby?? Idk why I took it as its someone elses baby

[@tennysonparks2059]

​@@jennifers.3818who knows, perhaps not even herself.

[@ccrow86]

Love how he got called out for still being married 😂😂😂

[@OG-genX_]

She was a free piece, as for a p.o.s father & husband. His ex knows what kind of man she married.

[@notme6966]

The moment she said "it was a family matter" was just the biggest indicator that she isn't putting her child first. The only people that use that phrase in cases like this want to sweep it under the rug and play stupid.

[@kinsley7777]

that was the very thought I had

[@loosie5224]

It reminded me of the Duggar family and how they handled their son molesting minors

[@kinsley7777]

@@loosie5224 exACTly ! … a “family” matter

[@kinsley7777]

@@loosie5224 Hi, Rose 🌹💐❤️💐🌹

[@MrLibtard]

False

[@karenslayer3189]

“She’s never not wanted to be with me” That’s truly heartbreaking. Because despite all the crazy shit she’s been through because of the rift raft you’ve been involved in - she’s still been wanting to be in your care. Kids want to be with their mom no matter what they put them through.

[@anonymoose116]

It really is. My spouse and I have sole custody of my step-kids (for clarity). They love their mom, and still want to be with her, despite the abuse and neglect they suffered under her care, despite the fact she's done nothing for them in nearly two years - not even a birthday card. They're still too young to understand that she's not good for them. As they get older, they will see it, and that's the most heartbreaking of all. There will be a moment when they see her for what they are and we will have to clean up the mess.

[@collinssha23]

It’s sad cuz she has gotten her stuff together but still can’t have her child. I hope she continues to fight for her like she said. They said it wasn’t her fault but are still blaming her for her past transgressions. Really fked up

[@Lisa-sl9ed]

Absolute disgrace to hear her use that as the main argument for why she should get her child back. "Children will always want the love of their mother" is NOT a reason for a child to be with a mother who exposes children to meth, paedophiles, violence, sexual and emotional abuse as well as a parade of unstable men.

[@littleauntjomama]

My step daughter's dream was always to meet her biological mom and never got the chance. That bond doesn't just go away because you are in a stable, loving home.

[@RhondaPescor]

Here's the kicker!!! She had the baby she was pregnant with since this hearing an it tested positive at birth for meth an was placed with JFS then after the people had the child that she lied to for 10 moths that the child turned out to be the cone heads baby in the video. She manipulated the family into thinking it was there grand child then tormented the family because the family figured her out . She hacked there bank account there cell phones Bluetooth the baby monitor watching them. She caused so much havic in there lives called grandma work texting grandma threatening her. When grandma contacted jfs an gaudian over this situation they removed child from there home do to the conflict. Instead of jfs an gaudian standing up an said enough an put this so called mom in her place. Broke the grandma heart. The child had been in her care for 10 months. Well taken care of loved an safe. She acted very selfish to her own wants instead of letting this baby be loved. The child was never neglected harmed clean beautiful home. Happy baby. Also the cone head an wanna be mom strung out on drugs snuck over to grandma home where grandma leaves her soda on porch in back porch an put drugs in her drinks causing grandma to get ill an bragged about it. Wanna be mom also claimed taxes on new child she's never had an causing grandma taxes to be frozen. So do u think baby should had been removed do to the conflict with grandma telling jfs an gaudian what mom was doing. Instead of the system working to protect grandma an baby this 10 month old child was put back in foster care. Unbelievable .. that's not all folks jfs did not advise grandma to get legal restraining order to protect her an baby an her home they Instead disrupted this child's life an listened to the wanna be moms lies she was running out of time baby 10 months old the grandma an grandpa wanted to adopt Lil baby an mom got mad. An began to cause more conflict. Also over 20 police calls to a place the cone head an wanna be mom for domestic violence. Mom is now on probation for another drug charge an in November 23 another drug charges. An the Lil girl in this court case tested positive for drugs at birth also. If you are mad good!!! Potest for grandma to get Lil baby back in her home where she belongs..

[@jh9374]

Her getting pregnant again is pretty definitive-shows absolutely that her judgement is still very, very bad.

[@marlayneboblett1267]

Not a good example to her daughter pregnant with a guys baby who is not even divorced. TPOs are broken all the time.

[@mesquitemagic]

Hey, I haven't been a mother to my child for six years but now I want to be! While I'm at it I'm going to blame my daughter for my brother SA-ing her. Unbelievable.

[@Sbamabelle]

The fact she didn't report her daughter's abuse as soon as she found out tells you she doesn't put that child first. She hasn't had her child for over 4 years and this is going to turn out to be termination of her rights, as it should

[@ashleydesiree4974]

And 8 year old sitting next to her uncle isn’t alarming to a family that is healthy. It’s alarming to her because she knew what was going on

[@awkwardlyamy3765]

EXACTLY!!! We were staying with my BIL my daughter was 6 & we found out that he had said some inappropriate things about my daughter & other little girls, it was 12 midnight I called my Mom told her, woke up my daughter & took her to my mom's. The next time she saw him she was 20... BUT I have brothers who were safe & sweet & never thought twice about it.. but her thinking something was up, WHY LEAVE HER THERE? Oh cause she is a shit mom..

[@stephaniesaslut12616]

Just wanna play devel advocate here, or bc of her past trauma it would make her suspicious. I was molested and raped as a child and anyone who sits next to my kids I always think there going to touch them, even family! I'm not saying this is her reason, it is just a reason.

[@crystalnicole1287]

An 8 yr old naked..... I mean I'd be uncomfortable just with the action with anyone

[@kathyfarrell8931]

Wrapped is a towel would set off alarms. He should have told her go get your cloths on.

[@awkwardlyamy3765]

@@kathyfarrell8931 exactly!!! They can just tell her that it's very inappropriate that she needs to go ahead and put her clothes on...

[@TinFoilCat90]

Can I just applaud Mrs Grimes. She is absolutely in top of her game!

[@carnage6715]

She's been fired....

[@beer1403]

@@carnage6715 she was running for an office. Is it the same person?

[@nicolebrown1927]

Yassss! She did dat!💙🤗

[@lisabeth2994]

@@carnage6715why was she fired? 😮

[@user-Lee2925]

@@carnage6715why was she fired?

[@elizabethhansen6984]

Now that mom is working at Pepsi she should start paying child support to the guardian.

[@meganbonds1130]

They will garnish her wages

[@Nina11J]

This mom is the reason why CPS exist 😢. I feel sorry for her daughter

[@kinsley7777]

agreed

[@jessicapearson9479]

Then support abortions. The mother has all right to have her child!!

[@Nina11J]

@@jessicapearson9479 i support abortion and if a mother always treat well her child CPS wouldn’t exist. Giving life to a baby doesn’t meant that you own him

[@ThatLadyInDallas2024]

Same here!! What a dunce she is!

[@TinFoilCat90]

@@Nina11J It is rather offensive for someone to say children in care should have been aborted. They are not at gaukt for what their parents havw done. Rather than end the life of a fetus why don't we support the changing of rules that do not allow women to have their tubes tied unless they're of a certain age or have a set number of children.

[@kristenwhelan7634]

Watching the boyfriend testify was like watching a car accident as it happened.

[@juliefisk8066]

Amen! He's ridiculous..still married, can't form a complete sentence..criminy

[@b-anne2388]

Yes! The more he talked, the worse it got!

[@soft_serve_666]

I totally agree. Having her boyfriend "testify" aka ramble mindlessly for what seemed like hours, was a huge mistake and only demonstrated her severely poor judge of character.

[@JanecShannon]

@@soft_serve_666 I don't think she realized that by having him testify on her behalf everyone else would get to ask him questions.

[@upaige911]

😂 Right!? 🤦🏻‍♀️. It was literally painful to watch! 😳

[@melodywilliams9124]

Her only witness is her boyfriend of less than a year. His proof of her being a responsible parent is that she raised her credit score. And now I just heard him say she is expecting another child.

[@tarakoschnitzke9184]

And she admitted to smoking in the home .....and now know she's pregnant smh!!! Pregnant and smoking ....and claiming to always have her kids best interest at heart do not go hand in hand 🤦🤦🤦

[@hannah3146]

@@tarakoschnitzke9184 but I can't give my only a sibling pregnancy is very serious and precious ♥ I would be grateful every second yet women like this have baby after baby and don't deserve them.

[@SUPERSHELLEYBELLY]

Oh I hope CPS steps in and takes the baby immediately after birth. Don't give the mother another child to tear apart piece by piece.

[@oscarsmom9733]

The girl’s boyfriend even looks are her like she’s an idiot, and he looks like an idiot himself. These ppl are train wrecks.

[@jenniferbangerter5128]

Yeah I heard she raised her credit score and has a job . Wow throw her a parade this shows good parenting

[@All5AJz]

She is absolutely in denial of the truth of the abuse on that child. She is disturbing to hear from. SA drugs being left for a baby to take and she still thinks she is fit.

[@tracylw]

If she cared about her daughters well being she'd leave her where she is. She's doing well there and is in a stable environment

[@tennysonparks2059]

Yeah, but she wants to traffic her daughter to that man with the mohawk.

[@teddy2577]

Exactly!!

[@teddy2577]

Exactly!!

[@rebeccakinney6357]

This is a perfect example of someone who takes zero accountability and should never have custody of a child.

[@Osonice1]

Amen

[@ONeil-S.D]

@@Osonice1 agreed 👍

[@janessap1739]

Zero accountability? Are you daft? Were you even listening ffs? She sure did. Guess no one gets the concept of making up for past mistakes & trauma, & REUNIFICATION. It’s easy to throw stones isn’t it? Wow I sure hope you never mess up bad & need forgiveness 🙄

[@ariannaeleanor314]

@@janessap1739I’m so sick of people being flippant with the lives of children and try to excuse horrible parenting with the “everyone makes mistakes” bandaid. That is complete and total BS. There is a difference between making mistakes in parenting and being a negligent parent who puts their own needs ahead of their child. It is quite clear she hasn’t changed. She moved a strange man into her home the moment she started dating him and is already pregnant by him, without ever getting her first child back. She is full of excuses and lies. The dumbest thing she did in this hearing was believing her boyfriends testimony was somehow going to help her, when all he did was lie and make her situation look significantly worse. You don’t gamble with a child’s life and giving birth does not give you the right to be a mother, sorry. If you want to sit in here and make excuses for her and coddle her for being a selfish mother that puts men and drugs and her own needs before her child, go for it. You’re entitled to your opinion, but how dare you try and chastise others for understanding that biological parents are not always the best option for raising their child. Every case is individual and should be looked at as such. This is not an all encompassing issue of reunification. This is a woman who hasn’t bothered to be a mother and now wants to come to court and stomp her feet until she gets her way. Brooklyn is exactly where she needs to be and I am confident she’ll remain there. I feel horrible for this new baby, wow.

[@heathernichols7472]

@@janessap1739 thank God for your comment, I was starting to think I was crazy. All these "perfect people" are sure lucky!! Smfh

[@ariannaeleanor314]

Even if you exclude the countless reasons why she’s unfit, if you *ONLY* were to look at the testimony of the boyfriend, that’s enough to tell me she has no business being a parent. I see one or two angry commenters trying to berate everyone else’s perception about this woman and interestingly enough, those people are filled with vile insults and accusations towards everyone else and I can’t help but shake my head at it, because I would much rather be labeled 100 foul names, then *EVER* risk the life of an innocent child. I do not care what this woman has “done” to supposedly better her life. This is not about HER. This is about a 9 year old little girl that didn’t ask for any of this. If this mother really did better her entire life and was actually ready to parent her daughter, then she would not have brought her boyfriend to the hearing to give a testimony that was full of lies and BS. He sounded like an absolute dunce the entire time he spoke and it’s because you need a really good memory in order to lie to the court. This is not about “everyone makes mistakes and no parent is perfect”. This is about a mother who’s shown over and over again that she will put her own needs ahead of her child. She is ALREADY in a new relationship with a man that she hasn’t even known a year, who moved in with her immediately and got her pregnant and both of them had just gotten out of their previous relationships. That is highly indicative of an unstable and emotionally immature person. Jumping from relationship to relationship when you have children and jumping straight into living together is a massive red flag, for good reason. If her daughter was her first priority, she wouldn’t be in any serious relationship, SORRY. Her daughter would be her *ONLY* focus. Then there’s the simple fact that she can’t even maintain a weekly phone call to her daughter! The most simple task as a parent and she can’t manage it. I do not care if every person in the world slapped me with a “judgmental b*tch” label for believing this woman doesn’t deserve her children, because the only thing that matters is that child being safe and loved. If you’re comfortable gambling with a child’s life, that says more about you than this does about me. She is a deadbeat, period. If this were a father, I know the few naysayers in the comments would be singing a different tune. 🙄 I do not feel bad for her, it’s time to grow up and get your shit together.

[@Cocoz64]

Love it! You said exactly what I was thinking. So this boyfriend has 3 other kids and now has another on the way. He needs a better hobby.

[@ariannaeleanor314]

@@Cocoz64 I was honestly shocked by some of the responses that didn’t recognize how suspicious her boyfriends testimony was! It raised so many red flags that I was flustered by the end of it. It is 100% clear that she wanted him to lie and paint a certain picture and he fumbled those lies because there’s no way to prepare for questioning in court like that. He says he has no history of addiction and that he’s never been in trouble, then just casually admits he has several DUIs? He also tried to play it off like those are no big deal….uhm, those are a huge deal actually. I found it so inappropriate that she would even bring some dude she barely knows as some kind of character witness in her CUSTODY case. Why is she even in a relationship when she has a child that needs her to fight for her? I wouldn’t be able to think of anything else if I didn’t have my kids!

[@ItIsWhatItIs8120]

I'm proud of Sierra for testifying and being very truthful about the family dynamics at present.

[@kristenthomas7685]

Mrs Hanson-Grimes is a hero! She truly cares about children.

[@Dleefrlula]

Right!? So articulate! She’s a rock star!!

[@beastshawnee]

That boyfriend really exposed himself here as well and that says so much about the mother as well. I am OK with unconventional relationships but not when there’s kids involved.

[@Kimi1968ful]

This mom is horrible. She should never get custody.

[@maryhartman9253]

OMG I agree!!💯💯💯💯

[@k.e.M_]

“Mom” you mean! Her grandma is her real mommy

[@ginamartinez1654]

You know this happened with me. When my children were very small I had a mental health crisis. I just couldn't function at all. I called cps myself and asked for help. They took them out of my home and into foster care where they were well cared for. I worked hard. I got on meds and cleaned my house and got better.they were returned in two weeks and never left my home again. I meAn obviously this situation is more severe but I can tell you those two weeks were hell and I worked my butt off. That's how a mom who loves her kids acts. And my husband was and is a great father but he worked a lot. However he did help me get back on track. My kids are grown now and they are amazing kids and are well bonded with me n my husband

[@bonnienelson7373]

Congratulations!! It is so nice to hear from someone who had issues but truly put their kids first!! Well done + an example of the right way to handle things + take responsibility!! ❤

[@rosebattista]

That is a cps success story. Your children are blessed to have a mom who cared enough to put her kids needs above her pride and the hard work to be the mom they deserve. I wish a beautiful life for your family

[@ginamartinez1654]

@@rosebattista thank you so much

[@ginamartinez1654]

@@bonnienelson7373 thank you

[@lisaa7011]

She maybe shouldn’t be banned from the child’s life wholly, but 100% the child should be able to be adopted into the other home.

[@valerie362]

Ok, now I've gotten to watch the rest. So, the girl was assaulted when she was with mom over this past summer. The mom not only thinks she deserves her back but wants to bring her back into the home she was violated?!?!?!? I wouldn't even think of making my child move back to the house she was hurt in. Good grief!! The judge made a wonderful point when she said mom could have moved closer to the child to start bonding with her.

[@janellcrews6108]

Right? I was all for mom till I heard she let her daughter in harms way in a summer where she was watching her, and given a second chance.

[@AJ-ds8jd]

Is there more court videos. For this story

[@Timsgal777]

I was molested as a child and it was a family member, and I would have been devastated to have been taken away from the rest of my family, because of the actions of one.

[@Mandy7D7]

You can tell she's told herself she's a great Mom who has made good decisions the whole 9 years. Oh, and because she has not "lost her rights". It's born from Ego and not truly caring for what's best. A healthy physically functional adult woman should feel providing for and caring for her child herself in a safe environment IS what's best.

[@rosebattista]

Clueless about what effect her actions have damaged her daughter

[@ThrupleQuashimodo]

This is absolutely insanity. Her use of the english language is impressive. I have to say I loved Ms. Grimes' closing and her examination of the boyfriend. The Judge did her best to to keep a straight face. It's a great trainwreck for us to watch, but that poor little girl stuck in the middle, I feel terrible for her.

[@GovilGirl]

I just LOVE the guardian and the Aunt! They are adamently protective, supportive, and absolutely love this child and are and have focused on what is best for her.

[@bethewalt7385]

*adamantly

[@inkedmomblu1510]

Sobriety and recovery are two VERY different things. She may be white knuckling it and not using but she definitely hasn’t changed her mindset. In recovery you have to be fully accountable and completely transparent. Both of which this female is NOT. As a recovering addict AND a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, my heart breaks for this little girl. She got robbed. I hope she is kept safe from this point on. And I pray for her healing for the sake of her future.

[@swampophelia2098]

So very true

[@swampophelia2098]

The boyfriend made everything about five times worse

[@theirmomk8pantz230]

You literally took the words right outta my fingertips! I've been clean 11yrs, 3mo, 11days, and accountability is one of the biggest indicators as to where someone is in their recovery, and for her, she's still in the infancy of the process. This is NOT the time to add the child back into this mix, especially one who obviously needs some pretty intensive attention and care. She's thinking of her own wants and feelings, not her daughter's, and the fact that she can't see that is all the evidence needed to make that decision.

[@mariahamm6083]

Well said

[@carlalongerbeam774]

You are correct. I've heard my mother say, who just celebrated her 50 years sobriety birthday on 12/24/22, that a dry drunk is worse than a wet drunk.

[@killerdonut252vaughn7]

If a CHILD has ingested METH, whoever the caregiver is at the time that happened should NEVER get custody of said child again. I am actually very forgiving and do believe in second chances but there are circumstances that just do not get a second chance. That is a hard line for me. I celebrate people who recover from addiction! I am not saying you should never see your child again, just that it has to be 1 million percent certain that could never happen again! ❤️

[@JanelsJoint]

I agree and I'm in recovery 💯🙌🙏

[@rickarra1833]

She leaves the meeting and the boyfriend remains. Dedicated mom. The Mom is so out of touch with reality she can even see her accomplishments are minimal at best.. she says she can afford the child, but hasn't provided one dime for the child. Now she's pregnant again. I hope they keep an eye on her

[@CelluliteYogaPants]

She is also living in the home of her father and the abusive uncle is was previously residing with dad and now nobody knows where the uncle is …

[@angelasheets1500]

​@@CelluliteYogaPantssome how I think they know exactly where the uncle is but just don't want to say

[@LilyBlessed24]

Praying for the sweet girl having to deal with this. It’s incredibly not fair. Also, it’s clear to me that Melissa S. genuinely loves her and considers her part of the family. It hurts my heart to know how many children go thru this everyday. 🙏💔

[@bethewalt7385]

Brooklyn and Melissa Sanders are family so I'm sure that makes it easier for Brooklyn to integrate wholly into the household at Melissa Sander's Brooklyn's paternal Aunt, so that's nice for all involved....

[@SUPERSHELLEYBELLY]

Zero accountability for all the permanent harm she has caused this child!!! Not to mention all the trauma and life long struggles that poor little girl will have to navigate. Hopefully with the love and support of her caregivers. She will be happy and able to have a childhood💖💖💖

[@melanieryan128]

It's fascinating when someone brings in a witness... unless he was subpoenaed, and their own witness ends up sinking them further. I was literally getting prickly with embarrassment for him over the boyfriend's testimony. That said, I have a few long time friends who are addicts, and two of them completely turned their lives around successfully in the family lives and careers. One still can't get it together 10 years after losing their custody of her son. I'm all for reunification when it's right. People change. But it's not always right. And this girl isn't ready for children. I fear for her new baby.

[@Ferf3o]

See a normal uncle niece relationship doesn’t throw red flags when a niece is snuggling up next to her uncle (DRESSED OF COURSE!)! As many healthy male relationships as a young lady can have only increases her ability to become a well rounded woman who will marry a man who loves, respects, cherishes her as she him!

[@btoyou]

I’m shocked they are still going through the system and haven’t ended her rights all together after this amount of time.

[@Mammaj1963]

I was just thinking the same thing. The poor kids life has been in limbo for years

[@ThePomskysPalace]

I think because she willfully gave her up, maybe CPS wasn’t originally concerned until she tried to have the child come back into her home.

[@LaZeeWitch]

If cps aren't requesting no unsupervised contact going forwards I'm shocked. This mum is clearly trying to get her back to influence a refusal to testify against the brother. Its so glaringly obvious.

[@armurph1102]

@@LaZeeWitch that is just absolutely ridiculous for you to say that! There is absolutely NOTHING that she said anywhere in this hearing that is indicative that she wants to get her daughter solely to manipulate her into not testifying against her pedo brother! What pretty much everyone wasn't paying any attention to was the fact that it was NOT the child who brought the crime to anyone's attention. She didn't tell a single sole about what had been done to her. The mother's brother came to her and confessed his disgusting crime. If she had wanted to protect her brother she would never had contacted CPS or law enforcement. It was the mother who called the police.

[@jomama5186]

In Florida, 2 yrs is the limit. If they don't get their act straight and jump through all the hoops by, then bye-bye to your parental rights.

[@lauras.1052]

Mom wasn’t even present after hearing the news that she wouldn’t be getting custody. Pretty telling that this was all about what SHE wanted and not was best for the kid

[@ilb735]

She may not be in front of the camera but within ear shot still, I expect.

[@Vixxy1000]

Well done Ms Grimes, champion for a quality life for this innocent child.

[@pamooconnor8154]

She is incapable of providing a safe environment for herself much less her daughter. This man she’s with is the second man within a year and I would bet that she doesn’t know his real name if he has a record or has he ever been investigated for a sexual misconduct charge.

[@jill7759]

She is already pregnant with this new man. She is defensive, confrontational and does not take proper responsibility for what has happened to her daughter. She seems to have a long way to go before I would feel safe to return her daughter to her. There also seems to be a lot of anger simmering under the surface instead of regret or determination to do better. She would have done better to leave the boyfriend out of it. He only made it look like they were both less than capable.

[@77VJC]

The judge smiling when the boyfriend dug himself deeper into the hole was delicious 😂

[@blooper9586]

mom: it was a family matter attorney: so you're saying it was a family matter mom: No, you're twisting my words

[@luisaviggiani8188]

Just the fact that the mother stormed off when she realised that she wasn’t going to get her way speaks volumes in my eyes, if her daughter comes first in your life, the least you can do is sit there and take notes to what the court is saying so you can better your relationship with her! No, you have to stomp off and pout because you’ll be damned if you actually have to do more to get her back because it’s just not fair, grow up girl and see what the best thing is for your daughter, not just for you! I raised three kids on my own and had a heroin problem for half of their life but never had child services involved nor had jail time because I put my kids first, many sacrifices were made and ultimately I gave up using as well because it just wasn’t working for me and my children! You must have been super messy for your child to ingest meth, seriously? And then have your brother SA her? Dude, super messy!😡

[@Annie1962]

immature

[@nicoledoubleyou]

I've been an addict as well and while I haven't used since having my babies I know for a fact that it anything did happen there's no way my kids would be in harm's way. It's not that hard.

[@strawberryjones7193]

Luisa, in case no one ever said this to you - I am proud of what you did for yourself and for your children.

[@luisaviggiani8188]

@@strawberryjones7193 thanks, that means a lot to me, all my kids are doing really well now!

[@armurph1102]

I actually disagree with your characterization of her getting up. She didn't just get up and completely storm out of the room. She got up from being in front of the camera in order to hide her emotions from being seen. She is very pregnant therefore she is also very emotional. I'm sure she probably felt like she was going to start crying. Or even if her emotion was anger/rage, it would definitely have been best to not let that emotion be seen. It was very clear that the cps workers did not like her and no matter what, they weren't going to give her any recommendations. If all CPS cases were handled like this one, not one parent would ever regain custody of their child(ren). For a case worker to say that she thinks it is great how hard this mother worked to get off of drugs, become financially stabile, voluntarily began working in parenting programs, etc., and that she can be a good mother to her unborn child, makes absolutely no sense. If they truly believe that she is fit and capable of raising a new baby, they should not be allowed to say her other child shouldn't ever get to live with her mother.

[@CFaith23]

This child has a loving family in a safe home- with all moms love, hopefully one day she sees that’s the best decision she made for her daughter was giving Melissa Sanders guardianship. This Judge made a Child first decision⚖️👏🙏🏼

[@cubemissy]

Sometimes, it doesn’t take much to set your intuition danger button off. Within a few minutes of the mother’s testimony, I was ok with termination of her rights. Not a whole lot more needed here…except to keep this little girl safe from mother and the people she hangs with.

[@Waltham1892]

Wow. Mr. Mohawk went from solid citizen to scumbag in about 10 minutes.

[@kathleendobens6648]

😅😅😅

[@cassbartlett844]

you cant outsmart DHS.

[@ragepig1059]

Homeland security?

[@Melissa-rj1ds]

​@@ragepig1059dept of human services aka cps

[@trinahuntley2943]

​@@ragepig1059Department of Human Services

[@valerie362]

I'm only a little way in but have to say she knew the uncle (her brother) was problematic. I don't care if my girls come out of the shower in front of their dad and older brothers who are in their 20's, in a towel. They don't look at them as anything other than little sisters. If she is worried about an 8 year old in a towel, then she's worried about the adult being a perv. Ugh. Poor little girl.

[@hannah3146]

Right my husband has bathed and showered our daughter and I've never even once had that thought! 🤮 SICK and makes me 😡

[@allytaylor7058]

Her reaction is to blame the child for his disgusting behavior like the child is suducing him she is just as much at fault as the uncle

[@janellcrews6108]

Exactly my 7 year old has down syndrome and she takes her clothes off, her brother's are different ages and dads almost 40.i never thought to say no wear clothes they might think something. Wtf? I don't see my kids or dad thinking bad things that's sickness. I know my girl is safe with family don't matter what she's dressed in. If you have a problem with your kid being in a towel or nothing shouldn't be a thing no matter what. If you question it, that's when you know there's a problem.

[@jennifers.3818]

True. I get her wanting to teach her daughter that u dont come through the house naked in front of men. But also agree with what u said 100%

[@ilb735]

@@janellcrews6108 maybe mum had suffered SA growing up too

[@marypalmer1251]

Every time this so-called "mother" opens her mouth is to change feet. She is her own worst enemy and is making the case for the prosecution!

[@amybaby04]

She wants her daughter back now, because her married boyfriend has his kids. It's all about the curb appeal to this mom.. This child deserved her CURRENT living situation. She has a great home life, leave her alone and let her be happy and safe.

[@hannah3146]

She's pregnant again to 😔 😡

[@DemonsSister]

I think she has ulterior motives for getting Brooklyn back. I think she REALLY wants to be able to keep her new baby! Knowing if she gets Brooklyn back, DHS will look more favorably on her having custody of her future newborn.

[@pandahugger3095]

Not only that, maybe she wants to keep her brother out of jail…

[@kathleendobens6648]

Yah your right

[@tennysonparks2059]

I think she wants to traffic her.

[@littleauntjomama]

She wants her boyfriend to think she cares about her other child and isn't a deadbeat parent. It's very common for non custodial parents to come back in the picture after getting into a serious relationship.

[@Mandy7D7]

The boyfriend is just as delusional as she is: "I only drink occasionally." - "I've only had a public intoxication." - "I had a couple DUIs, they slipped my mind." - "I have 3 kids we co-parent." - "Yes I live here we are starting a family." - Court: Sir, are you still married? - *hangs his head* "Yeah." I really wonder why she's trying? Maybe she's been told she can't continue the free rent at the parents (where she has an entire floor) unless she gets her kid back. Or...maybe she's afraid by not having her first child CPS could step in and take her 2nd. I can't say that would make me too sad.

[@rosamariamendoza1466]

And he would trust HER with his children!! He is as despicable as she is!

[@armstrong2388]

It was intimated that Grandfather was pressuring Mom to get the child back to possibly coerce the child to recant or not testify against the uncle. Sounds plausible to me, especially after mom admitted she didn’t immediately to police and tried to deal with it “in the family”. So awful. Thank you Mrs. Sanders for caring for that child!

[@maryhain4205]

They fact that neither mom or BF shows any insight into the wreckage caused by drugs, sexual assault and parental neglect is the entire reason the daughter should not be in their care...I hope they drug test when mom goes to give birth so CPS can protect new baby before the meth, SA, etc

[@OstaraDawn]

When you genuinely love a child, they automatically thrive....

[@charlesburroughs1817]

She just wants the child back do she can tell everyone " look, I'm not a bad mom after all ".

[@rosamariamendoza1466]

And the government benefits!!🤐🤨🤨🤨🤨

[@beer1403]

@@rosamariamendoza1466 bingo!!!

[@michellegomez9114]

Her married boyfriend comes to court with a Mohawk to support her!!! 😂

[@tennysonparks2059]

She brought him in to get her daughter back, like huh?

[@momsterzz]

She’s aggressively in denial

[@jaja-cg9yd]

So mom wants to uproot her daughter from the home, friends, and activities she has to a place where mom smokes inside (while pregnant) and was the setting for her assault?! GTFO.

[@carlpotter007]

This woman is pregnant living with her father, and has brought another new man into that home who has had 3 DUIs. So with a new baby, the mother is not going to be able to focus on a 9-year-old. This new guy has not been vetted and he has three other children he has to take care of and is still married. No…Ms. Young is not ready or able to care for Brooklyn. She is so far from ready - it is scary!

[@HeartofInspiration]

I have to believe that new dude got his eyes opened during this hearing. She does not need to have any more children. Thank God for the Guardian!

[@brielle3278]

This woman truly is a unfit parent! I pray for her little girl and hope she’s always safe and away from this woman Mind blown by this lady expecting anyone to give her custody back

[@alybrekhus7182]

OMG this is absolutely HORRIFIC!!! She is in no way a mom to that poor girl and in no way should have ANY contact. Shame on her for putting her daughter thru this! She's in a safe home now so LEAVE Her Alone to heal , my goodness such selfishness 😢

[@NickiNickiNineDoor]

The judges decision was so thoughtful and the reasoning was so thorough.

[@upaige911]

1:00:07 They will literally TERMINATE her rights. I don’t know why she thinks she has unlimited “chances“. 😢.

[@spoiledapple9201]

She’s pregnant again! Why on earth do people continue to procreate when they don’t already care for the children they have?! I will never understand.

[@Heda568]

39:58 she’s raised her credit score and got knocked up again…I just can’t with her 🤦‍♀️

[@twinthang007]

Right? I had to back that up and listen again. I'm reading comments to see if I'm just negative toward this "mom" or if we all see this through the same salty lens.

[@HeatherWho11.10]

I'm sure her getting pregnant again is the last thing the court wanted to hear

[@JessiG305]

When the mother was asked if she has given the foster parents any money for her child that she’s trying to get back she says “no I have not” she sounded so proud of it. And also her saying that the foster parents haven’t asked her for anything I don’t understand how some parents can say such a thing, like why does someone have to ask you to help take care of your child, they shouldn’t have to ask for money or anything. She should provide the stuff her child may need or want, common sense. Children are expensive and will always need things, for example clothes and shoes because they grow so fast not including food, medicine, insurance.

[@Heda568]

This one has me so shook! I can’t stop commenting. This poor baby .

[@BrookeMcLymond]

That's not a foster parent. That's a guardian. That's why there's a problem to begin with. This is playing out exactly how the system is set up. The mother has full rights, that child legally will be returned to that mother. She just needs an attorney and that child will be back with Mom in a few weeks.

[@beer1403]

Not to mention toys and things kids like.

[@oscarsmom9733]

Everything about this case is chaos and the mother does not deserve this baby girl. But as an adult whom was SAd by my father, I was always very cautious of my daughter being around anyone naked. You never know what anyone’s thoughts are. No one would’ve known that my Dad was the monster he was.

[@jennifers.3818]

Right. So many bashing her for that but I wouldn't want my 7,8,9yr old daughter running through house naked with my brothers or other male family sitting there. Would I feel 100%sure they wouldn't hurt her? Yes. But as u said, its better to teach your child to protect themselves and and understand covering up. Its messed up, but its the way of the world. Also, the fact she doesnt understand the court frowns upon non bio males being in kids lives. Especially when they've only been "dating" the mother a few months. The most SA, PA and death cases happen by non bio males in the kids lives. Im sorry that you had to go through what you did. No child should ever suffer by the hands of their parents, or anyone for that matter. Sending your inner child safe hugs, acceptance and safety ❤️

[@laciaredding3931]

Exactly... I was SAed by my step dad for years and no one would ever think that... Now that I have a daughter I am very cautious when she is around any adult guy...

[@44ronie]

Mercy, she's pregnant again(by a married man) even tho he said they've been living together for only 4-5 months. More great decisions she's made for her daughter's wellbeing.

[@markharmon7598]

That boyfriend and mom are a total trainwreck.

[@upaige911]

57:22 Sad to think mom agrees with the child’s perception, “if I just had a car and a house, I could have my daughter back“. If only it was that simple, I suppose. 😢 🙏🏼🥺

[@Ricksmomie]

Maybe I missed it but, did the mother ever discuss their bond or say she loved her? This was definitely about mom reaping a"reward" for being "good". She minimized the major safety concerns as well. I'm glad this child has a good family behind her!

[@OnTropolis]

She never said "I want her back because I love her"

[@bethmackins2433]

@@OnTropolis I know right? You’d think she would have thought enough to mention unconditional love in her script?! She certainly had enough time to think up at least one maternal instinct. Her whole ‘testimony’ was about herself and herself only. I’m normally very reserved at judging parents as being a mother of three boys myself I know no one is perfect but fucking hell. The only thing she did right by that child was ask someone who was capable enough of providing everything that little baby girl needs. 😢

[@kerryadams9100]

Mom is anything but that! She failed to protect the child when the child needed it the most. She had her in a home that placed the child into a situation that resulted in a SA on the child. She should never get the child back. She showed how grown up she isn't by not sitting and listening to the judge. She walked and that shows who she really is.

[@theL0VERS]

What's really traumatic is when parents do the right thing contact law enforcement when abuse happens and nothing comes of it. In our town there was a very small child who was brutally rpd by an adult. She had to go through extensive physical examinations that found nothing. She had to testify. The jury found him not guilty. The reason is his criminal history was withheld. He had already been arrested and done time prior for other abuse of children. But unfortunately the jury was not allowed to know any of that. The system what that child down.

[@Fishfood94]

As a felon in recovery, these court cases on zoom are so frickin addictive, digital crack 😂

[@Beautiful_Mess]

I have two daughters, and I don’t care about my freedom at all when it comes to my children. If ANYONE SA one of my children, the only call that will need to be made, is to the coroner, to fetch their carcass. Listening to her duck and dodge calling police on her brother, was DISGUSTING. Thank you Judge, for putting the child first. Holy moly! This was hard to watch.

[@sonyasmith7992]

I would willing to bet that Samantha and Kenny will be in the same boat in court. Custody hearings for or against each other. Also, I would have beat CJ’s ass when I found out about the”confession”! The testimony of the mother was mind blowing! The look on all their faces were Kodak moments!

[@lisaenglert3202]

Omg he did something and she didn’t go right to the cops 😞 and so the cycle begins. that poor baby. She needs to be out of that kid’s life.

[@sydneysovern]

My dad used to say he was coming and not show up. As an adult I still can have extreme emotional responses if someone I care about does anything similar, and I just know not to react to how I’m feeling (not to take it out on the person). After this happened a few times my mom stopped telling me my dad was coming. Poor Brooklyn 💔

[@mr.waldodebaldo3208]

This mom should never have a child and failed her child at every turn. She is a horrible mother and her brother I won’t even start

[@gracecaron773]

I worry for the future of the child she is carrying as well. She failed her daughter miserably and past behaviour is often a predictor of future concerns.

[@dpofahl]

Thank goodness that child has her guardian. Mom seems like she’s trying but truly didn’t understand why it’s necessary. She also accepts no responsibility for the child two huge incidents that occurred in her care. The fact that the mom rage quit speaks volumes to me. Hopefully she can pull herself together for the baby

[@stephaniemannina6]

She deserves to have a safe, responsible parent and home.

[@PoodleDoo212]

This woman is a walking billboard for CPS.

[@trudifruty6078]

This woman is knocked up again HELL NO is child would be stuck taking care of the baby

[@zplazma5557]

I didn’t think of this but that’s so true! It’s definitely primarily about the ego trip or family politics. But one reason she probably wants the kid back is to be a sibling in her “new family” and in a room the 10yo would perhaps be the most stable

[@conniedeshazo3031]

Child protective services should be involved as soon as the new child is born.

[@OOceaneyess]

"I'd never put her in harms way"...I'd say smoking inside the house and while pregnant are the not best decisions for her daughter and her unborn baby.

[@Kthb80]

smoking is not a great parenting move but I’d be more concerned about leaving meth out for her to ingest, leaving her with her brother to be assaulted when she’s concerned there’s something inappropriate going on.

[@OOceaneyess]

@@Kthb80 Of course the meth is much more concerning. I was just speaking to the point that that is what she is currently doing and admitted to.

[@paigewilson7893]

Mom seems to have a bit of an attitude and a chip on her shoulder.

[@vincenzolee6576]

So very sad. This young woman obviously has very little education. Her vocabulary is so limited she has great difficulty communicating. This little girl deserves better!