Missing deadlines, managing anxiety, & dealing with the pressures of author life. Let's Chat.

[@HeartBreathings]

Let's chat as I head toward what is hopefully the very final days of writing my next book!

[@debbiemcvay6672]

As a reader- I would prefer an author care about what they publish & take the time they need. As a writer, I understand completely. I have 3 novels that I’ve never published, they’re never good enough. Moving forward, I started my planner for the HB90 Q3 & will retake the class & finish it this time! I’ve been thinking “why am I not finishing things?” All I can say is anyone who gets upset over a late publishing date has some serious personal issues. That is bizarre! Thank you for sharing and the support you give newbie authors!!!

[@stephanieflowers2783]

Mean people suck, period. But, as a recovering ❤️‍🩹 people pleaser, I know how those nasty comments and emails can affect you. Also I’m sorry to hear that you’re down to no assistant again. Have you considered someone virtually handling those things for you? I would absolutely love to help you in any way possible and it sounds like you just really need someone to be that buffer. We love ❤️ you sister!!

[@HeartBreathings]

@@stephanieflowers2783 thank you ❤️ I'll definitely be hiring someone new but even getting a listing up and interviewing takes time I don't have, so I'll be posting the job listing after the book is done!

[@DianaLayne]

Thanks for sharing your anxieties. A lot of us probably dealing with same. I work retail day job. Some ppl are meaner than ever these days. I try to ignore. Their issue not mine although there are some days I worry about shooters. Can't believe readers attacked you like that though. How rude. Anyway would be interested in hearing what is going on with your house.

[@luvsnursing9946]

Sarra I have a ton of respect for you. You have always been so transparent and it puts the real life indie publishing into perspective. I was assaulted in the military over 10 years ago. I have periods of anxiety that comes and goes. Some days it’s debilitating. When a lot of stuff that goes on it tends to trigger old trauma causing panic attacks. People are super mean sometimes (well most times). Things happen when trauma comes back with a vengeance to trigger you causing extra anxiety. Be kind to yourself. I support you and so many others do. I have read 8 or 9 of your books. I don’t regret reading one of them. Your books were the first paranormal books I read because of you I am hooked. Your HB 90 system has helped me. Remember self care is soooo important and if people support you they should support you.

[@wendyrobinson3174]

A former boss once told me "I can always defend missing a due date when it is in service to delivering the best possible product. I can never defend pushing out a sub-par product in service to some meaningless due date." Best advice I ever received. You are doing the right thing, the right way. And this experience will make you stronger.

[@hart-books]

Oh, Sarra. I listened to this while I was cleaning this evening, as I often do with your videos. Sister, I stopped so many times, closed my eyes, tears pressing hard, and thought, “She understands. Thank goodness, she understands.” Because writing is hard, yes, but no one-NO ONE is harder on us as writers than ourselves. Theres’s so much I want to say. Keeping the trust and loyalty of your readers, yes…so important. But here’s what I kept thinking while listening to this talk: One, you don’t owe anybody anything. And, two, those readers who stick with you through this tough time in your life, THOSE readers are your tribe. Those are the souls you are going to continue to touch with your gifts. They are with you for the long-haul. The voices who complain, slander, threaten…I believe the Universe is allowing them to fall out of your circle for a reason. You are doing an amazing job, sister-really, I wish I could describe what my heart feels right now. Thank you for being vulnerable. Thank you for reminding us it’s ok to be human, and that NOTHING is more important than our mental health. Just…thank you.

[@KimberlyGasuras]

As a reporter, I have been putting up with the negative people for two decades and I can honestly say that they will find something negative about literally everything. I have written the most positive stories and thought that no one would be able to come up with anything negative to say but inevitably, someone will. Ignore them, they are just miserable people. Thank you so much for this video today as I can totally relate when it comes to the progress of my book. Have a great weekend, Sarra!!

[@miaramck6746]

A mantra I've found useful in the past is, "you don't owe them anything." You serve your readers by writing books, but you don't owe us a single word.

[@laramiebriscoe8436]

I'm the sole income in my home, we have a house that we're moving into in October, and I cancelled three preorders earlier this year. The pressure is intense, the disappointment is palpable, and the place I went to was super dark. I went into therapy and started taking an anti-anxiety medication. After a little over a year, I'm starting to feel like myself. It's hard....so hard!

[@ChristiSnow]

Sarra, I hate that you're struggling, but as another writer who's trying to just show up at the laptop everyday right now, you are such an inspiration. You've got this and your book is going to be amazing!!

[@maryallen7961]

"You serve your readers by writing books, but you don't owe us a single word." - Miara Mck YES. Everybody I know is struggling with stress, and I keep thinking there has to be a way out of it for all of us. Thank you for sharing your story. And may I just mention that I am loving whatever color that is on your nails? :)

[@shenellmaye11]

I heard this the other day and it blessed me because I struggle with depression and anxiety . " Sometimes you have to go against everything and take care of you." You don't have to apologize for taking care of your family, your health, or your spiritual needs. I pray that you experience an abundance of joy as you finish and release your book.

[@BethanyAtazadeh]

I'm so sorry that people feel entitled to act so awful to you, that's not okay! So thankful you're sharing this journey because all of these feelings are so valid and the way you're approaching it is so healthy and encouraging to see.

[@pioneerspetticoatswithauth8676]

Sending a hug. I understand the pressure. My deadline was obliterated by catching Covid-19- then my dog got sick, three months of hell. I was thinking of you often. - I’m still working on my WIP but almost done. Trying to get back to ‘the flow’ ❤️❤️

[@judewalsh500]

Sweet Sarra! You are worthy indeed 💛 This searingly honest video will encourage so many. I am sending you a hug and some mother love. Mothering is one of my superpowers so lean in if and when you need some. 😘

[@BonnieDragonKat]

Sending love and healing. I actually stopped writing in 2020. My mom died, the pandemic was revealed 4 days later, I lost the roof over my head, came down with covid, had to move 2x more in that point, and my external died so I lost work, memories, etc. I am very slowly getting out of it, but it's snails pace.

[@HeartBreathings]

Wow that's a lot for one person to go through in a year. I'm so sorry. You are doing great.

[@BonnieDragonKat]

@@HeartBreathings Love ya!

[@ColleenVanderlinden]

All of the pressure and stress you talked about here was exactly why it's been almost a year since I've released anything. Burned myself out, writing stopped being fun and instead (as you mentioned) it became a way to "punish" myself for not getting the books out. I'm working my way back to finding the joy again, and this video really helped a lot!

[@sparkyauthor6812]

Hearing you talk is honestly like listening to a wise friend 🙂 I don't comment very often but wanted to pipe up and say hello! You're a huge inspiration and I recommend you to every new author I speak to ☺️ i honestly think your advice has kept my mental health in check through the whole process while raising my daughter and I'm now working on my 4th children's book! You're amazing 💗 much love xxxxx

[@marthalowery4211]

I work for as an online English teacher, and I recommend Sarra to people who ask me about my writing.

[@sparkyauthor6812]

@@marthalowery4211 she has a very comprehensive understanding of the whole subject doesn't she? All her videos sound just like friends having coffee so really easy to listen to ☺️ hope she takes her own advice and looks after herself. Keep the tasks manageable!!! Xx

[@DawnMontgomeryAuthor]

I'm sending you all the hugs!!! I'm not disappointed in you, at all! I'm proud of you. Proud to know you!!! You have connected with your readers on an amazing level since the pandemic started. You wrote a book for them, read multiple books for them, and gave them more of yourself than most other authors. I know you're in a cycle of pressure and fear of failure so it's harder to see that. But it's okay to celebrate how hard you're working! Look at how far you've come! I'm so glad you're relying on your support network. Take your breaks. It will get done when it's ready. Your brain needs rest, too, so you can keep going! In the long run, what your readers will remember is that you released your books within months of the initial plan. You are open and honest with us about your struggle and your sincerity is obvious! Thank you for being super honest. Thank you for being kind. And thank you for reaching out to help when you're going through so much. You are not alone. We love you. Every single sticky note you move is celebration-worthy! And the fact that you could remove those projects to give yourself breathing space is also a moment to celebrate! If you've got a doc appt coming up, have them check your electrolyte levels. A few years ago my Magnesium levels were super low (high-stress can cause Magnesium depletion) and it caused all kinds of havoc on my anxiety and health. My anxiety was already bad but was so much worse during that time period. I also think Heather is right about those nasty emails. I don't think they're real fans. I think they're people who know you're vulnerable right now and are attacking you because it brings them joy. It's okay for readers to be upset, yes, but it's okay for you to protect yourself so you can still work. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to pamper yourself. You deserve to be proud of yourself for coming so far on an already difficult book and overcoming the emotional life-based triggers that made it so much harder. You deserve to be treated with kindness. You deserve to treat YOURSELF with kindness. Even if others are disappointed, their lack of kindness says more about them than you. Thank you for this amazing video and your coping strategies. They are so very helpful. I put so many of your tips in my mental health toolbox. SO much love and hugs!

[@dawnmcmurray8535]

First off, you are a QUEEN and F*&@ them for trying to tear you down. You are taking care of your family, house, fans and trying to care for yourself in the process. If you are a week or two late that is ok! They are not real fans if they say they won't buy your books anymore or wish they never had. They are sad people that have to throw hate out to make themselves feel better. Keep your head high! Your true fans are here to stay love.

[@letsdomath1750]

Something that helped me vanquish anxiety and panic attacks after my dad died was setting aside time from my schedule on a daily basis to do body scan meditations and yoga nidra. Thank God for KZbin and Reddit recommendations. In a couple of months, they were gone, once and for all. The residual anxiety disappeared with Self-Enquiry and some visualization techniques. Whenever I feel stressed now, I do a quick body scan and observe my breath to relax my muscles of respiration. By making my breath more and more effortless, the feelings and sensations of stress that would have given rise to anxiety dissolve in seconds. As I gently let go of tension in my nostrils, sinus cavities, throat, chest, shoulders, and abdomen, I allow my breath to deepen. Simultaneously, my breath becomes silent, soft (no longer strained), and continuous (the pauses between inhalation and exhalation disappear). My breath now decoupled from stressful emotions becomes regular, and I can face situations that would previously trigger me in a calm and collected manner. May you and others who deal with massive anxiety know that it need not hold control over you! 🙂

[@susanring7634]

So with you Sarra! I no longer do preorders anymore either, it's too much pressure. I love that you share your reality, most of us here know how all that feels and we are always here for you. Listen to those panic-like signs, I believe it's a sign for growth. xo. I found this a few years ago, it helped me! "Try not to compare your life to others. There's no comparison between the sun and the moon. They shine when it's their time."

[@TraycL]

Hang in there Sarra! Don’t let the haters get you down. Your characters are their own people and sometimes writing them is like herding cats...or squirrels (in my case). We’ll welcome the book when we welcome it and know it will be the perfect story for this point in the series. ❤️

[@Bibliophile1686]

I love your craft and business videos, but I am SO grateful you post videos like these as well. It amazes me how much fear and anxiety I've had about writing before even publishing and you give such great and practical advice. Thank you!

[@ambers679]

I haven’t even started the video but I’m already so happy to see you! Every video you put out always motivates me to do be. To be better. I’ve struggled with anxiety and depression for as long as I can remember, and the last couple years I struggled with agoraphobia. I found your videos around that time and while I still had good and bad days, your videos helped me to stay motivated to getting better. I’ve wanted to be an author since I was in middle school, and seeing you be so accomplished has pushed me towards my goals. But more than that you’re relatable. When I didn’t accomplish all that I wanted, I would remind myself of you and take a second and look at what I had accomplished. It was a lot. Maybe not to almost people, but for me, I had accomplished a lot. You made me realize that I am my own person and I shouldn’t compare myself to everyone else. I am unique, and wonderful, and beautiful. Thank you 💜

[@noelleherzig]

So brave and so wonderful. Thank you for sharing this. I’m stunned people are so upset that feel compelled to send negative things to you! As you said perspective if so important - I have had great losses because of Covid and been beating myself up for not getting that last little push on my book done - I’m so close and then I go into a book store and I see the hundreds of books in there and I psyche myself out - why would anyone pick up my book over any one of these? But you are right - I cannot compare and perhaps I just need to get it done and out for me and no one else. You have done good today Sarrah Cannon and I appreciate you! Good luck getting your book done! You got this girl! Bunches of love Noelle

[@kendrakroetsch1280]

I’m not at all mad about your late posts, videos and books because I completely understand. I have very high anxiety and I had to deal with something that caused me PTSD. Sometimes it’s better to take time to make yourself feel healthy and happy over pushing yourself way too hard and having another panic attack or a breakdown. Your awesome, your rock and your one of my role models, being an amazing woman and mother. I hope I can be half the person you are when I’m older

[@IndianaOcean007]

people… are so entitled… it’s actually shocking. I’m so sorry that you had to deal with such rude comments!!

[@palamajt]

I'm not a writer, but I am working on my own creative business. I wanted to say thank you for sharing your experience but more importantly talking about some tips/tricks and empowering steps to help manage, cope, work through it with self love and from an honest helpful healing place.

[@debcushman5807]

I always know that when I pick up one of your books, I'm going to be carried away to a wells-imagined world of intrigue & creative energy. I'm so thankful that you are taking care of your mental health while forging through with your writing. There are so many of you who are rooting for you to succeed! Know that we far outnumber those trolls & naysayers!

[@ronashleybrandow946]

As a big fan of your writing, I am excited for book 11 but I am patient because I know you are making sure you write another book I absolutely love. I am not disappointed because I know what you are doing is work. I found your channel before I found your books (I’m a planner lover ❤️). I also struggle with anxiety and panic disorder. I want you to know from one fan to you - that you haven’t disappointed me and I’m proud of you for how far you’ve come. Sending much love my dear ❤️❤️❤️ (p.s. you’re not being dramatic describing your authentic experience sister. The physical symptoms of anxiety are scary. I know my own physical symptoms scare the hell out of me when I’m in a bad place. As a side note, tapping using the EFT system has really helped me as of late.)

[@KristenKingWrites]

Oh Sarra, I’m sending you lots of good vibes from the universe and hoping that this past month has calmed down for you! You’re doing an amazing job with everything on your plate and just recognizing that you need to manage this anxiety is a win. Keep stepping back and being an observer of what’s happening and realize that it’s all arbitrary. You get to create your reality and react to it with your own choosing. So let it all melt away, breathe into what you can control, and move forward with one foot in front of the other. Thank you for sharing your strategies and letting others know that it’s okay to focus on your own wellbeing over other people’s expectations and judgments. You’re giving us a gift to remind us all of that with this chat. And I can totally see the self-love that you have in this video. Be well, sweet friend

[@user-of5bd9xf4s]

this is super helpful for managing anxiety, thank you for sharing! in the end this experience allowed u to grow w ur family and touch others who are struggling. also, if you respect the art you must respect the artist, if someone regards your book as more important than ur health, they have their priorities twisted and don’t deserve ur time or craft. most of ur fans will wait and support u and appreciate u took the time to make the best possible book. xx

[@jenniferlamontleo6114]

Sarra, you are one of the kindest and most generous writers I know. Sending you big hugs. This too shall pass.

[@TheKirraneFamilyDiaries]

I am so sorry that people have not been as understanding as they could have been 😕 I just wanted to say a big thank you for all the wonderful content you provide! I have had an idea for a book for the past 5+ years and it’s only since watching your plotting videos a month or so ago that I could get past the first ten thousand words and formulate the story! I’m almost at 30,000 words now and I have ideas for books 2 and 3 in the series! I just wanted to remind you that you’re really providing such helpful and encouraging content ❤️

[@michellec2365]

I’m so glad you are learning to not be so hard on yourself! You are human, after all!! ❤️ You are doing a great job and you are doing the best you can! You are writing a great book and we are all looking forward to reading it when you feel it’s the best book you could write! Thank you for ALL you do for all your fans. You are a very generous and amazing person! You’ve definitely helped me in the last year and a half. So thank you!

[@jonnyjonneth]

Hi Sarra, I experienced anxiety attacks for the first time ever this year, after caring for and the eventual loss of a beloved pet. So I know how upsetting and delibating these attacks can be. I really hope things are on the up for you and this hump will soon be in the rearview, fading into nothing as you embark on the next leg of your journey. All the best - Jonny

[@jbwoods4450]

You have no idea how much I needed this video today. The past year has completely derailed my writing and motivation. Personal issues with my children and the stress of the pandemic just wiped out my creativity. I’ve felt like such a failure because I couldn’t even maintain a regular writing habit. I’m doing the #HBDBTC challenge in July and trying to be kinder to myself!

[@reneebarrette4514]

You definitely know who's here for you for the long haul! We got you!

[@ekinskoch]

This is exactly what I am going through right now! My first novel was a great success ans I wanted my sequel to come out faster. Not a month but nine months later I am finished and took a look back to understand what I did wrong. We have the same conclusions in the end. Thank you for showing your vulnerability with us and give great advices. You made me feel I am not the only one and that is precious 🖤

[@TanyaTFischer]

This was a perfectly timed video, ugh thank you. I'm so happy to see you giving yourself grace and know the limitations of yourself (we're only human). When people try to hurt me negatively or lash out, I just try to remember; there are people out there that are emotionally disturbed, socially/emotionally underdeveloped, and when they seek to harm others to justify their frustrations, it's only a reflection of their character and not yours. Which is why, hearing the common sense and down-to-earth view you have on it, is just great. Keep making these videos, the world needs to hear it lol. Like you said, they need to just chill 😜

[@RhiannonFutchAuthor]

I am so sorry that the anxiety is so harsh right now. I really appreciate the way you are looking at this and I will be using those tips in dealing with my stuff.

[@bahora3]

I admire your authenticity and for being so strong to show your vulnerability. I love watching your videos as they give me the motivation to keep going on no matter what. Don't listen to haters, continue to be yourself and work at your pace. You're doing great! :)

[@imagineself]

I mentor a number of creatives who like you and me suffer with chronic anxiety due to genetics and childhood trauma. What helps me and many others is the simple mantra:" I am safe. I am calm. I am awake. I am nourished." I also focus on the steady rhythmic movement of my diaphragm rather than on breathing. This diaphragm focus has helped many of my clients. When a small child is feeling scared they often stop breathing and stop feeling. I find intentional breathing triggers ptsd for me. The diaphragm is so calm and life-sustaining. Hope this helps.

[@bluovalgal]

I try to tell myself that there will always be people who will hate your/my stuff no matter what you/I do. Haters will always hate. I know that's easier said, but I try to remind myself. Hope you finish your book soon and looking forward to the HB90 bootcamp. After a few years of listening/watching you use it, it's about time I do it, too. Barbara

[@virgorising7065]

I've always said that a panic attack comes out of nowhere and is sudden. For me, an anxiety attack is when it builds and builds and builds and suddenly your body can't handle it anymore. I've had both, and I enjoy neither.

[@newlinsa]

Thank you SO much for this video! I don’t have a deadline, as I’m still working on my first novel, BUT I do beat myself up a lot when I don’t write. Thank you for the reminder to not compare myself to others and also to be mindful of what I’m saying to myself. I need to be able to give myself a little bit of grace knowing that I’m going through a lot right now, so it’s ok that I’m not feeling that creative!

[@tammay7254]

I'm so sorry you got such nasty comments from "readers"! I totally feel your pain. I've also been dealing with anxiety attacks and depression (for the first time in a long time) because of financial and family issues. All the things you talk about have helped me too (separating from the trauma, prioritizing, gratitude, etc). But self-published authors are resilient and we get through things :-).

[@medusa3592]

Health should always come first. Good people will understand. And who cares about the ones who don't?

[@JessicaLemmon]

Sarra, you and I are having parallel experiences! My current book is late, I put off a preorder until it was done but it’s taking longer than I thought. I have had major anxiety attacks over the last few months and I haven’t had them that bad in 7-8 years. Thank you for putting into words how difficult it can be to wrangle creative energy. I love writing romance novels, but after book 40 (I think?!) I’m finally admitting that it’s a good idea to take care of myself too. 💛🍋

[@kalice119]

Wow, congratulations for finding ways to make this very unhealthy social media business more bearable for you. You are so strong in many ways. The world needs more good books from good persons like you that take their time instead of fastfeeding always hungry readers. So inspiring, thank you!

[@kimgray28]

Hang in there! You always do a great job and are so inspiring to me and so many others. I hope this week has been better.

[@katiesmith4177]

You are such an inspirational person, with such a kind and beautiful soul. I am so sorry that there are individuals out there thinking they are entitled to sending such hurtful and unkind things to you. Sending you love, and positive thoughts and wishing you an amazing release for the new book.

[@LizzieBelina]

I relate to you so much and honestly your words help me feel better about me falling behind. I had surgery last month and everything I've been working on has fallen through. And my mother is also a narcissist so it becomes very difficult for me. You'll get through it...both of us will. We just got to keep working forward.

[@emielou]

I feel quite blessed that I never compare myself to others, everyone's journey is their own but I am guilty of comparing myself against how I use to be and it can be soul destroying. My success is whether or not I can provide income for my family, that's my goal. I'd rather have my favourite author put out one book every 3 years that blows me away than 20 subpar books in one year. Also...People are being mean and rude to you, what on earth gives them the right to judge you, to judge anyone. They must have the most perfect life that always runs smoothly. I'm angry on your behalf that they even dare to come at you! Sarra, you are a complete inspiration, it doesn't matter to me how long it takes to get these books out, what I do know is that when it does come out. You will be proud of it, it will be your best work and we as readers will love it. As a writer I wholeheartedly adore you, you are realistic and despite everything you still come out and talk to us. You let us in to personal parts of your life and show us the reality of life as a mother, sole earner, creative. I'm glad you share these bad days with us as well as the good xxx

[@Ate_Lissa]

Sending hugs, lots of love, comfort and healing. 🤗🥰😘 Sharing this is also hard so thank you for sharing! ❤️

[@HeatherDeweyPettet]

Thank you for this video, and for being so transparent. I’m sorry that you have been having a hard time of it lately. I could definitely relate to a lot of the things that you talked about, especially with not meeting deadlines, and the anxiety that causes. I know it’s hard, but please don’t let the muggles get you down. 🙂

[@victoriarabbit9883]

I loved this video. Thanks for sharing your experiences; it is nice to know other people struggle with the same feelings. 🤗

[@nadiajohnson5733]

Many of the people that have nasty things to say are people who aren’t writers or creatives themselves. They have no idea the pressure of putting something out into the world that you’ve poured your heart and soul into and that you are proud of. As a fellow author and admirer of your career and the way you serve the indie author community, I want you to know that you are loved. You are more than enough. This book will be incredible. I started Beautiful Demons this week and regardless of the noise that is trying to knock you off of your purpose, you are in your purpose. Read that again if you didn’t get it the first time. 😁 I am so looking forward to reading the rest of this series! The people that are telling you that they will never read another book by you are not worthy of another thought. Stay close to your support system. Cry. Laugh. Love. Honor every emotion and count it as part of the process of giving birth to another creative baby. This isn’t your first time around this block. You’ve got this and you have all the words. Take care of yourself and… KEEP. ON. GOING. The finish line is near! 😁

[@brayleeparkinsonauthor]

Thank you for sharing this! I just cancelled a preorder. I also set up two preorders last October and I just wasn’t able to write for some reason. I published two books and wrote a first draft in November and thought my productivity would continue into 2021. It didn’t, and the book just wasn’t in the right shape for publication. As soon as I cancelled the preorder and took the pressure off myself, I was able to get back into flow.

[@esthermarieandujar]

Sending you lots of hugs and great vibes! You are doing the best thing for you and your family and also to create the best book possible. I hope you can find the help you need to manage your author business soon and that you can keep protecting your mental health and your boundaries. Thank you for being so honest with us and for setting healthy standards within the indie pub industry.

[@WriterGroupie]

Man. I needed this today. I had a bad case of comparison -itis last night. My crit group has some really good writers. I felt like a hack. Thank you for this reminder!!

[@suzisaintjames]

16:04 You're Soooo right about breaking steps down to the most minute steps keeps my progress moving forward. I find that after analysing why I'm not moving forward on a project... It's because that step wasn't broken down into small enough steps... Especially if it's something you have to get done that's not your main priority (writing your book.) Sarra's always talking about writing 20 minutes and taking a 5 minute break. So I work for 20 minutes and then take out the ironing board and iron. Then I work 20 minutes and find the stuff I'm supposed to iron. Then I work for 20 minutes and then I actually iron a garment. I find that the things that I find to do during my 5 minute break has to be totally different from my work to actually be beneficial. Writing on your book and sending mails is too similar to be a break, but ironing is totally different and is soooo less guilt producing than just sitting, drinking coffee and staring out into space for my break. 💖🌞🌵😷

[@SDHegyes]

I can understand the pressure and the disappointment, and I'm glad you're finding ways of not letting it all bog you down. *hugs* This was an excellent chat video and one I needed after all my own disappointments last year.

[@mensajesdeamorypaz1]

Thanks Sarra for sharing!! I will use your tips. I really enjoy your videos you are very authentic 🙂

[@AmaraFranklin]

I also have very bad panic attacks. Thank you so much for sharing!

[@naturalmystique3830]

Hi, Sarra, Thank you, thank you, thank you. I'm a recent subscriber and I have truly, TRULY been inspired by your post and can relate to an awful lot of what you've shared. Narcissistic parents are a trip, aren't they 😊? I was never quite 'enough' for mine,, and how your parents treat you shapes so much of who you become as an adult. One of the things I'm working on is letting go of criticism. Wayne Dyer said: "My reputation (what people think of me) is none of my business." I really love that quote. It helps me to put things into perspective when I feel no one will like what I have to say (or write). It's a crucial part of taking care of me. Thank you again, and all the very best to you in reaching your deadline.

[@PapyrusDelights]

I’m not a writer, but I needed to hear this as I’m behind on my yearly goals. As a Christian we call this giving yourself grace, and I needed a reminded of that. Thank you!

[@mrandisg]

Thank you so much for this. I have to be honest. This is exactly the kind of pressure that led to me deciding, at least for now, to not pursue publishing Midnight Daze as a book series, but rather to focus on having fun with it and posting it on Wattpad for readers to enjoy for free. That pressure to get it done and make it perfect and "be professional" held Jaime and me back for so long. But even now, we both struggle with things getting in the way of our writing. For me, it's still that lingering feeling of "oh my God, we've been at this for over 20 years, are we EVER going to finish it?" It makes me feel guilty when I spend a day watching KZbin because I could've spent that time writing, or at the very least reading. But you know what? I'm glad I spent this time watching KZbin because if I hadn't, I wouldn't have seen this video. You are such a blessing and an inspiration to us all. Keep taking care of yourself because yes, you ARE worthy of it! And thank you for reminding us that we all are worthy of self-care. Looking forward to reading the rest of the Shadow Demons series--but don't rush! I still have to catch up on my reading anyway! 😉 lol

[@tracer1436]

I'm sorry to hear that you've been getting such harsh emails and comments from people. I understand when people are upset but as someone whose day job is in customer service, I've learned people don't know how to forgive for mistakes. Mistakes are there for growing, they are not a failure. Those people are probably never given forgiveness for their own mistakes; it's not personal. They just don't have those coping skills. Keep doing you; you're a huge inspiration for me!

[@edwardsteele4870]

Thank you so much for this video. As someone who is hoping to publish novels in the future, you were inspiring. Then there was this video. I am also having anxiety to the point where I have to take Xanax every day and even that is sometimes not enough. I am still writing but it takes me about four hours to get 1 solid hour of work. I liked your suggestions about leaving 3x5 cards around the house so you can make a gratitude list. I subscribed recently and there was an email that invited me to respond to it, but I think you mentioned that you weren't checking your email at the moment so I am leaving this comment instead. I hope you are getting your book done soon.

[@teriblain7140]

You have so much courage! Thanks for sharing your story!

[@SarahHualde]

I'm so sorry you've been so attacked by readers. That's heartbreaking and inappropriate!!! Your process is what makes your stories so amazing! Even when it's unpredictable- maybe even especially when it's unpredictable. It's like you're in your own hero arc and are just about to defeat the big baddie! I'm cheering you on!!!! Go Sarra Go!!! You are epic.

[@goosiey3]

I loved this video so much. It was much needed. Thank you 😊 ❤️

[@anaerobinson]

Hey Sarra, I’m so sorry that you’re going through all that. People can be mean but some like us will continue to support you. I hope that everything works out. Sending hugs and good vibes your way. ❤️❤️❤️

[@andragabriela13]

I am sorry you are struggling. I recognize the guilt and struggle and feel all of this in my soul. Sending a hug and thank you for always being an inspiration.

[@suzisaintjames]

Call a massage therapist to come to your house if you don't have time to go out and get one! If you are worried about COVID, have them setup in your garage, or if it's nice out, what about you back patio? Sending lots of love 💖 from sunny 🌞 Arizona 🌵. 😷

[@rosannebowman2592]

Thank you for sharing your real-life experiences. I think a lot of writers struggle with this, especially since KU kind of builds the expectation of speed in putting books out. I have been feeling the pressure to get another book out soon, and technically, my book works at the story level. BUT, it can be better, and as much as I want to hurry through to get something out, once it's published, it will be out there forever. Add in caregiving for my mom and even though I feel like I "should" be working, these first few weeks of June are dedicated to caring for her, and that's more important at the moment. You can do this, and when you finally hit publish, you'll know - deep down - this story is the best it can be. And also, disappointed is much different than entitled. You've got this!

[@marcosandoval6175]

ty Sarra, you take care of yourself

[@cgfllagc84857]

Awesome chat today! And just on a side note - your hair is beautiful!

[@jeanshelbybooks]

I’m sorry you’re having some troubles. You aren’t alone. I want you to know that your videos have helped me SO much with my writing as well as not quitting. Thank you!! 🥰🥰🥰

[@schuylergeery-zink1923]

Readers may be sad the book doesn’t come out on the day it’s supposed to, but damn, their horrible reaction is on them! Not on you! We miss you - so take care of yourself. Love your content as an indie author myself. You really gave me the confidence to self-pub my first book “Blood Moon: Book 1 of the Crescent Crown Saga.” Thank you and take care! ♥️

[@MrsSukre07]

Thank you so much Sarra for this video. I really needed this pep talk. Lockdowns and pandemic has take a toll on me and my writing. I tried to be inspired, motivated but it got me down and it's a struggle to come back up. With the school close and I had to take care of the kids during the day (not that I am complaining, but I am a human and I get frustrated too) and gets really, really tired afterwards during the night. I have zero energy to write my WIP. Thanks again Sara, you have shed a bit of light to me.

[@suzisaintjames]

Thank you for today's video. It reminded me that I'm doing the right things and where I need to strengthen. You are a good person. (Just ask your husband or your children, after all they know you best!) This video made a difference! Sending lots of love 💖 from sunny 🌞 Arizona 🌵. 😷

[@marthalowery4211]

I so-o needed this today! I didn't wake up until 12:30, and I didn't know why. I ended up being really sick today. I have hypoglycemia, and that, along with allergies has really been a trial today. I have just started with the HB90 Method, and I needed to take one of my sick days today, But, good news, I still feel successful today because I got ONE thing done that I desperately needed to do. Thank you so much for your inspiration--all the time!

[@cecebella9309]

Ignore the uglies who comment horrible things to you. They need to work on themselves. You are awesome and keep breathing. So many more happy people support you.

[@hannahj4265]

Such a refreshing message! 🥰 It’s so good to hear the self-love. 💖💗💖 I feel like the world is in such a place of overload that we began a cycle of believing that our feelings are inadequate and often not just invalid, but inappropriate and wrong. ☺️ Thank you for all the advice and uplifting perspective. 💜 It’s good to see you shining! 🌟 ⭐️ 💫

[@lashellcollins1172]

I needed this today. Thank you. And thank you for always being so honest and sharing truthfully about your life. You are so selfless and inspirational. HB90 has helped me so much!

[@annabellamichaels2130]

Thank you so much. Somehow, it always feels like you're speaking directly to me, saying all the things I needed to hear. I appreciate you taking the time and being willing to share your own experiences so we don't feel so alone.

[@pujamohan]

Thank you for sharing this. You are not just showing how to carry on when everything is good but also how to show up and and give ourselves some grace when things are hard. Sending much love. ❤️

[@mariajromaley]

Thx ! You're so inspiring (good word ? Sorry I'm french). You really help. Thx so much !

[@pattyellis5359]

Hi again. Thanks for another vlog, and I am glad that you are striving to "keep moving forward" in a positive way. Always take each day as it comes, and get a writing buddy to chat with or ask hubby to be your writing chat buddy. Also, just remember that when people leave negative words, it is their problems and not yours. And I agree that it isn't nice when you have anxiety, since it has been holding me back with trying to finish my book (18 years of trying to improve my first book, and 2 years for my kids book, and the last few months procrastinating on a werewolf idea before I put it on Dreame reading app), because some writing tropes I still struggle to improve and watch out for past tense and present tense. And with the usual question: "Who will read my mythical creatures and magical crystal book?" - etc. Sometimes, when I watch your KZbin videos - depending on my mood - I do get ideas for a scene in my first rough draft of my rewritten version of my book. I mainly rewatch your PLOT vlogs, making sure that I flow your tips. And when my life is back in order, planing to get your books, since you and others are on my TBR list.

[@stephanieflowers2783]

Oh no!!!!!!! What happened with your house?? Much love coming your way 💕

[@nlhiserbooks]

I am so proud of you for taking such care of yourself during all this. Making myself take a break and call it quits for the day is one of the hardest things for me. But, I'm finally doing something I am absolutely in love with, and it's hard to pull myself away from it sometimes. But I make myself send time on me too, and that way I'm at my best when it comes to my books. Sending love

[@jenrothke]

What a gift this video was. Thank you! I love how you are reframing things to how can I feel good and how can I have fun with this. xoxo

[@ShanaCali]

You are a delight to my heart. Well said and keep up the amazing work, hun. Xoxo Shana

[@celissityclark8918]

This came right on time. When i tell you i feel so loss with these books! lost all my series notes to a flood and had my google docs hacked, its hard not to throw in the towel. this helped me try and keep going.

[@HeartBreathings]

Oh my gosh I'm so sorry you've been through all of that!

[@annettempalmer]

I had a mini anxiety attack earlier this week over the book I’m currently working on. Someone suggested going for a drive and it totally helped me and I even got some inspiration for how to proceed. Stay strong 💪 💕

[@describer99]

Oh Sarra, I’m so sorry you’re going through all of this pressure and then the problem with the move. Mercury is retrograde. Please ignore the wackos. You don’t need that negative energy. They probably behave that way towards everyone online because they can remain anonymous. The book will come out when it comes out and you will still have a devoted following. Hugs from Philadelphia.

[@SusanGHaws]

I am so glad you are taking care of yourself! You are awesome! The things you said about how you are thinking long term and health and priorities are right. There are more people out here supporting you than the mean people saying hurtful things. I am excited to start the HB 90 Bootcamp.

[@kellycrites80]

Mama bear, you're doing great!! Anxiety is a horrible entity and is not welcome in my house-although I just got done having an attack right before I saw you posted this video, lol. You are such an inspiration to myself along with so many other authors, women, people. You got this, buck them trolls who are mad! Happy birthday wishes to Andrew!!-you said his bday was Saturday right?-Blessed Be!!

[@HeartBreathings]

Thank you! Yes he will be 9. It goes too fast!

[@kellycrites80]

Yeah it does! My son will be 13 this year and it's like "what?! Where'd that cute little scamp who thought I hung the moon go?!" Lol

[@caitlinpflumm674]

Loved this video♥️ I hope that your house comes through you deserve to write with that view! 😍

[@splufford]

Sarra, just to say you are not alone. Hang in there