Her Friend Ghosted On Her Because She Got Married!

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Күн бұрын

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@kellyscott8318
@kellyscott8318 Жыл бұрын
She says she would’ve been willing to pay her back but she should have done that first thing…not offered…she should’ve paid!
@paulababula9621
@paulababula9621 Жыл бұрын
I hate people who lack a sense of self-awareness. Obviously, you have to think your maid of honor and/or bridesmaids are planning parties for you and you need to tell them to halt it if you are not going through with a traditional wedding. Even if she didn't buy the dress, I would be saving money for all the expenses: dress, shoes, hair, makeup, gift. It's not fair the the wedding party at all.
@shannonfranco19
@shannonfranco19 Жыл бұрын
As a BFF, I wouldn’t care about the time, energy, and money I spent. I would feel confident in my friend that she would reimburse certain things. However, I would be upset that she didn’t at least confide in me that she decided to elope beforehand. I can keep my BFF’s secrets. I would’ve supported that. Being told after the fact would hurt
@ellemariec
@ellemariec Жыл бұрын
We don't know if this was a one-off. Casey could have consistently been a selfish friend && the other woman is just done with it all - like, last straw kind of thing
@katharineharrison9091
@katharineharrison9091 Жыл бұрын
Agreed. Sounds like Casey might be the bad friend here. And it took her 2 years to reach out to a radio show. Casey you could have got off your butt and talked to her. You failed at friendship
@jenellenelson4447
@jenellenelson4447 Жыл бұрын
Yeah she obviously hasn't "been to therapy" enough.. Understanding someone's feelings are valid is one thing, being genuinely sympathetic to what you did to cause those feelings is so different. Elaine deserves better.
@laurao8099
@laurao8099 9 ай бұрын
Well at least she has been in therapy so she's got that going for her
@lizherlihy4135
@lizherlihy4135 Жыл бұрын
Yes if cancelled bride/groom should reimburse all parties for out of pocket expenses AND your friends should support your decisions about your wedding, friend could have shifted her party plans to celebrate the bride and groom instead of just the bride/bridal shower, honestly what if a baby comes early you don’t cancel the baby shower, you change the vibe, like a sip n’ see 🥰 12:17
@frenchbluehen
@frenchbluehen Жыл бұрын
I have a feeling the best friend probably did say all of those things, but the bride was too self-absorbed to even notice or care about it. I mean the bride got back her deposits and she didn't even think about all the money that the bridal party spent? Give me a break.
@amyalexander1324
@amyalexander1324 Жыл бұрын
Eloping is one thing but to have a wedding planned and then decide to not have the wedding is really 💩.
@laurao8099
@laurao8099 Жыл бұрын
...and to not tell people until almost a week AFTER
@midnitemoon577
@midnitemoon577 Жыл бұрын
I'd be mad too. I dont have a lot of money to throw around, and to tell the truth, 3 of the 4 bridesmaids dresses I had to buy to be in weddings were pretty ugly. I never altered them to a more casual useable dress--never wore thrm again. They were just trashed. The bride and her fiancé should have told her they would pay her back for her outfit at that time, not wait til now...years later.
@laurao8099
@laurao8099 9 ай бұрын
5:20 She didn't bail on her husband but she certainly bailed on everyone else
@Lovely81531
@Lovely81531 Жыл бұрын
she should have told her best friend that plans change. That’s your best friend then you should respect her feelings too knowing that she was supposed to be apart of the wedding. I don’t think it was just all about money it’s the communication that didn’t take place
@Flyonyourwall
@Flyonyourwall 2 ай бұрын
She should’ve given best friend a heads up. Idk so many things could’ve should’ve happened
@helenknapke1640
@helenknapke1640 Жыл бұрын
I think Casey is leaving a lot of details out to make herself look like it’s not her fault that the friendship ended.
@laurao8099
@laurao8099 Жыл бұрын
Honestly, I don't think she's even "trying"to leave out details. I think she just didn't think about anything that anybody else had been doing to help plan for the wedding. It is messed up not even telling her best friend until almost a week later. Honestly I don't see how you can even hardly go a week without talking your best friend when they're about to get married.
@devantefrazier6443
@devantefrazier6443 6 ай бұрын
@@laurao8099yall need to get a life 😂
@estemeiring3705
@estemeiring3705 Жыл бұрын
It's because she didn't TELL her
@dougmurray3692
@dougmurray3692 Жыл бұрын
I'm at 1:55, and sounds to me like your wedding day was her day and your day. Female "best friends" expect to be each other's Maid-of-Honours. It's sort of assumed. You didn't tell her, and got married, and now she's left out of her day, which is your day. In other words, you wrecked what she saw as HER day. This is how some men can feel with Bridezillas who say their wedding day is "my day", and the fiance is left bring second.
@Amarieethepriest
@Amarieethepriest 7 ай бұрын
Im thinking it was a common occurrence of the friend being this way. No way this is the first time
@beebeelicious
@beebeelicious Жыл бұрын
You didn't want to tell people because you wanted to avoid the whoopsie you gave them....I don't blame you but you need to recompense people.
@laurao8099
@laurao8099 9 ай бұрын
💯 agree!
@susanbaumann2199
@susanbaumann2199 3 ай бұрын
If you planned a wedding and expenses were incurred by the wedding party, it’s the bride’s responsibility to reimburse for those expenses if the wedding did not occur. It’s fine to decide to elope instead, but you can’t just expect the bridal party members to just absorb the costs that they incurred for a wedding that they weren’t part of. Sounds like the bridesmaid put a lot of time, energy, care and cash into her role as a bridesmaid. She deserves to be reimbursed for whatever expenses she paid. The bride may have been caught up in the spontaneous decision to elope and didn’t tell anyone until after the fact, but she still has a responsibility to reimburse the bridal party for any cash outlay. The bride should also apologize to all involved, simply explaining that wedding stress caused a change of plans. That’s fine, but compensation is still due. The bride should have said immediately that she would provide reimbursement. This is a two-part issue. On one hand, the bridesmaid is hurt that all of her efforts weren’t valued and respected. Then, on top of that, she incurred unnecessary expenses. The bride was all caught up in the drama of the moment, understandably so perhaps, but she’s not seeing it from her friend’s perspective at all. Self-reflection is needed. Maybe the friendship can come back together once hurt feelings have subsided, but the friend isn’t being heard by the bride. The bride just seems to want to gloss over everything. If this is a longtime friendship, maybe it can be resolved if they sit down and have an honest, heartfelt conversation.
@estemeiring3705
@estemeiring3705 4 ай бұрын
She was a good enough friend to do all the work in prep for your wedding but not good enough to have shared your secret. She would have kept it to herself. It goes both ways guys. Best friends trust each other.
@alexisartis2598
@alexisartis2598 Жыл бұрын
The bride she didn't communicate anything, neither did you.
@laurao8099
@laurao8099 Жыл бұрын
The bride did actually communocate in the beginning that she was going to have a wedding she wanted her friend to be in the bridal party and they went shopping together. That part was well communicated. The bride just stopped communicating when she bailed on everyone (except of course the groom). There is a chance the friend in the bridal party may have been able to return the dress of the bride did not wait a week to tell her they eloped.
@jenellenelson4447
@jenellenelson4447 Жыл бұрын
What does she owe the bride for not being a real friend? She only cared about herself, yes it's your wedding but if you're not ready for a big wedding, don't freaking plan one.
@goinggaga4ladygaga
@goinggaga4ladygaga 2 ай бұрын
Strike one: didn’t offer to reimburse her Strike 2: didn’t let her know before wedding so if bf was still out laying money it could be minimised/halted Strike 3: didn’t even have the self awareness to think it may have been a money/effort situation; that stuff hurts. She accuses friend of making it about herself but I think it’s the other way round. She got her deposits back friend is left out in the cold. Sometimes you get one strike or two you can overlook it but if it’s a pattern of disrespect, then you have to call it a day
@goinggaga4ladygaga
@goinggaga4ladygaga 2 ай бұрын
Accuses friend of not communicating That’s rich
@dougmurray3692
@dougmurray3692 Жыл бұрын
Ulyimately, the friend sees the sociopathy attached to the spontaneity of just dropping the wedding. This is extreme selfishness b/c Casey just did what she wanted to (following the husband's lead, supporting HIM, and just leaving her friend completely out id the equation, which in turn would midigate the fallout. All of the listed items the friend gad pur efgort into is not a simple thing, its a bunch of things that have more major effects. Casey js just not recognizing that what dhe diss - or doesn't do, has consequences to more than just Casey's world in A general way. It impacts many ppl, in many ways, and in specific outcomes. Pticess over here snaps get fingers and w/o any warning, she just takes the selfish route, even if ger husband was the motivation. Dropping evetything was dimply cold. And if the best friend was seeing this behaviour over a period, and expected Casey to never do "this" or "that" to her, snd dhe did, Casey may hsve stepped kver a line that SHE has no say in.
@estemeiring3705
@estemeiring3705 4 ай бұрын
I think the friend just wanted in on the secret maybe
@devantefrazier6443
@devantefrazier6443 6 ай бұрын
She not really your friend 🤷🏽‍♂️
@derekyoung4637
@derekyoung4637 Жыл бұрын
They both have their own way of being wrong here but isn't that the point of eloping?you jus go out and do it lol
@laurao8099
@laurao8099 Жыл бұрын
But not usually after planning a wedding and going dress shopping.
@derekyoung4637
@derekyoung4637 Жыл бұрын
@@laurao8099 hahaha I agree
@MsGigijenjen
@MsGigijenjen Жыл бұрын
Yeah but that's on her. The bride didnt know she was doing all of that. That wasn't her job it was the maid of honors. She was ahead of the bride in planning, buying her dress, spending money on the various parties, etc. She was expecting accolades and was disappointed when it didn't happen. Good riddance.
@Starchild42
@Starchild42 Жыл бұрын
NO NO AND NOPE...so, if her maid of honor would have done her job and was the one who was "shopping ahead of the bride" you would think differently?!? I hate to throw anyone under the bus, but the bride was the arsehole...ppl who you ask to be in your wedding aren't shopping ahead of anyone...usually they would put a deposit on dresses, but she might have gotten the dress and all the other things she listed...it's hard for me to believe she didn't know that her friend already spent money that she maybe didn't have...maybe even her sister, being the MOH, might've asked for the help with planning things, who knows... Then it took bride two years before she got around to saying something?? Bride may not have told the Bert show everything like if she knew her friend had already spent the money...she knew that ppl would've spent money already bc wedding was planned so far in...she might not be the only person to get her dress, shoes, etc She could've come back and told her ladies so they could have returned stuff... I would have said the same thing Money isn't the only thing she said...I agree 100%with her friend...if you're BFF, you would just assume that she would've told her, but no So, I think the bride dropped the ball on this and get some money to her friend(ex) I don't think she wanted accolades, she was just doing things for the bride and she bounced
@okokok142
@okokok142 Жыл бұрын
Selfish brides maid wanted all the attention
@goinggaga4ladygaga
@goinggaga4ladygaga 2 ай бұрын
Strike one: didn’t offer to reimburse her Strike 2: didn’t let her know before wedding so if bf was still out laying money it could be minimised/halted Strike 3: didn’t even have the self awareness to think it may have been a money/effort situation; that stuff hurts. She accuses friend of making it about herself but I think it’s the other way round. She got her deposits back friend is left out in the cold. Sometimes you get one strike or two you can overlook it but if it’s a pattern of disrespect, then you have to call it a day
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