Her name is Pumpkin. She was ready for the comment section. Zach said she comes across masculine

[@palithaolden8214]

Her consistently saying "I had to raise a boy by myself" doesn't make people have sympathy for her like she thinks it should. Ma'am, you had another baby by him 7 years later!! 🙄🙄

[@rocetta1984]

Exactly no sympathy for your repeated mistakes lady.

[@Oir07]

Right nobody gives af

[@spb8039]

Focus. Her main complaint was that she was raising the MAN to be an adult worth being with. After a 7 year split she thought he had matured and had another kid, he proved her WRONG. That adult male is STILL a child.

[@luvoshun]

⁠@@spb8039 She needs to focus on why she signed up to be a single mother AGAIN. Because he didn’t offer marriage so that should’ve been her first clue.

[@majorenlightenment2291]

I'm glad you said because this doesn't make for a good case...

[@LadyChatterly]

Her: why are you saying I’m masculine? Him: You’re loud. Your tone. Your approach. Her: Explain that.

[@charenoland8889]

Zach Whew Chile took me out😂😂😂

[@jamipty]

👉🏽 She wanted the constructive criticism, but was not receptive. Instead, she got in her feelings and became defensive. Sad. 👈🏽✨️

[@JAYWIL01]

She will need the advice from a woman that she respects. She doesn't want to hear the message from a man.

[@izzyakiva9437]

@@JAYWIL01True, I could see that… Also, she doesn’t need an alpha type because her personality requires a beta male that will have the patience and softness she needs. So, that she can understand it’s ok to be soft and strong. I think she may believe she’s ready for a relationship. Because one kid is off to college, on his way out… she needs a man in the house. She would benefit from a long term relationship, that gives her the space to grow. But at this point, it needs to be with herself. Or back with the guy she started with…

[@fitnessfreak212]

Most women want the truth but can’t handle a man being completely honest with them 🤷🏽‍♂️

[@tay3864]

She definitely cried after that.

[@JAYWIL01]

@@izzyakiva9437 You summed it up perfectly!!

[@TrinTheGoddess]

Her friend didn't want to say what her real flaw is because she doesn't want to get yelled at. 😹😹😹

[@mezxth00935]

she kept looking back at her for help with what zach was saying, deep down she feel the same and happy that someone actually told her lol

[@bobbiedm5369]

Yeah you know Sis gave her hell after the call 🤣🤣 Girl why you....

[@carolwinrow9489]

Also her friend didn't want to speak up bc she don't want to Lose that friendship..

[@myseville1976]

LOL LOL LOL LOL

[@10_door_tycoon]

💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

[@TalkswithBellaTT]

What you mean you 5’2 and like to climb trees. Girl damn near everyone is a tree from your view 😂

[@WittyOne37]

But, I bet you can't get her be active and actually go climb a tree...

[@adams8830]

​@somebodysfineauntie901 She's pretty fit so I don't think she'd have trouble climbing an actual tree.

[@JD_Partner_LawOfficesOfHnG]

Any man that chooses to leave for SEVEN years is not getting a second chance. No ma’am.

[@RemIsNice]

There was definitely more to that story.

[@unaisodora1149]

Built a whole new life. Returned and accepted back!!! ain't no way.

[@chillycharles910]

​@@unaisodora1149What if she had zero plan B's approaching her? Hence the dating show.

[@Whatusay.89]

Ain’t…no…way. Leaving me and your seed like that? The best we can do is try to coparent once he comes back around. 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@neisci]

And she's out here talking about how tall he was🙄🙄🙄.

[@chancexthexchief]

ironic how she said her baby father acted like a child but she wasn’t mature enough to ignore random comments, essentially had a temper tantrum & shut down on the last question when she was given constructive criticism 😂

[@SylisDaGoldenPeach]

She wants her cake and eat it too

[@VentiChaiLatte]

Facts!!!! 💯

[@R.Yvette.X.]

As the conversation continued, Zach softened and she hardened lol.

[@prid6427]

I second that!!!👍🏿👍🏿.....He was so professional and patient with the lady and she still didn't get it🤦🏿‍♂️🤦🏿‍♂️

[@PrettyCraftD]

Yet she said she was open to it. He he forgot to mention the neck rolling and facial expressions. I hope she watches this and learns from it

[@jamaciag09]

Notice how her bestie got quiet when it came down to her being argumentive😂😂😂😂 Her silence was loud AF. Good luck to any man trying to date that!

[@TasteMyRainb0w]

Did you see best friend's face switch up when Zach said you're masculine so you attract feminine men? lol

[@ralphchubb5086]

How do you manage to blow an interview with ZachBoog when dude is the calmest?

[@kierrawest4629]

Zach was correct. She was very aggressive, combative, and on defense mode.

[@SylisDaGoldenPeach]

It’s the reason she’s alone

[@regrich8795]

Yep i walk away from this type fast 🏃🏾

[@Knaivyisaging15]

The kousins can do that to you

[@lakeyablessed]

Right! Treating the men she dates like they're her son will never work.

[@siddaye]

@kierrawest4629 you're right about that I mean people in the comments even noted it and she immediately went off the same when they said she's broken and here she is full on denying it so sad when you don't acknowledge your own behaviour even when it's in front of your face and more over others telling you to your face smh she's really is combative argumentative and angry like a grudge chip on her shoulder over bearing defensive etc

[@ItsGoingDao]

Her friend looks like she’s BEEN trying to tell her about herself. She looked so relieved when Zach started to correct her. 18:22 “Just because something doesn’t make sense to you doesn’t mean it’s not true” 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@Janet-rg4di]

I notice that as well, she even smirked at one point😂 l bet they've been telling her that for years. She wore me out so which man is gonna put up with that? None! Only a placid type.

[@run4shade]

She comes across like 50+...its a hard knock life for her🤷🏽‍♀️

[@elizabetharmstrong4108]

Thankyou!!! Lol

[@ActuallyAuberyPODCAST]

I was thinking she appears to be a bit older than 37.

[@Quinten4M]

Yes yes!!

[@kmagenta2811]

I agree. I thought she was at least 47

[@MyLifeMyMoneyMedia]

Yes, too much stress

[@JD_Partner_LawOfficesOfHnG]

Her years as a single mom has made her build a FULL SUIT OF ARMOR. She’s on FULL defensive mode and ready for war on the front lines but from her perspective she feels like she’s in a sundress enjoying another day in the park😢.

[@DeepBreathingMeditation]

Yes!!Ii believe that too

[@Ndrreed]

Great comment

[@superkalafragilistic8289]

damaged goods.

[@katerab4916]

Completely agree, it’s sad - happens often

[@lelahill9778]

Damn That's deep

[@wordym.3435]

If you leave me once, with a kid, you can’t come back and fool me again.

[@afro_buddha4977]

For 7 years, was hr involved with his first son's life.

[@logicalcritik2144]

💯

[@shaylabrown6038]

She's a fool

[@cecisessence694]

I'm telling you one kid enough I'll never look bad

[@islandbound843]

She left him. He left the state.

[@VentiChaiLatte]

Her friend is very pretty

[@chillycharles910]

And feminine

[@SH-mw1er]

I feel embarrassed for her. She has a lot deep rooted issues and lacks accountability.

[@spb8039]

Deep rooted issues? Being with a man-child will give women severe issues. I'm glad that you noticed that.

[@neri3376]

@@spb8039a man child she chose twice and then afterwards another one after him, it’s her fault

[@spb8039]

@@neri3376 Of course its her fault. It's also the fault of the community whose standards are nonexistent. Degrading behavior only thrives in spaces where its allowed. Poor life choices are easily made in environments that support them.

[@Whatusay.89]

“ I definitely don’t have a bad attitude” *spoken with an attitude* 😂 😂 ☠️

[@Geneviev285]

Yup 😅😅😅😅

[@LoveAfterPookie]

She's definitely insecure. The comments shouldn't get you that worked up.

[@22quietmouse]

Yes but also just a very angry bitter person who loves to argue. She’s the coworker you can’t look at bc she claims you’ll be looking at her a certain way

[@LionEatsCats0034]

She does have a bad attitude 💀 her friend walked away because she know he right

[@Quinten4M]

Right!!

[@chillycharles910]

Her friend is far more feminine and has a man and is trying to give her some advice. And she doesn't hear any of it.

[@ArethaRenee]

I’m glad Zach was honest with her. I hope she watched the replay to understand. She’s been doing it on her own raising boys and running into men she feels want her to mother them. It’s because she gives off masculine energy. Being cute and petite doesn’t make you feminine. Her friend seemed feminine. I hope she had a good talk with her after. She is definitely a broken woman. She was so bothered by the comments. I wish her luck in becoming self aware.

[@spb8039]

He was not honest, He was gaslighting her to behave in a way he found acceptable. He was full of shit. She complained that she chose a man-child. The host was offended by that and lashed out at her accusing her of being masculine and the comments section ignorantly ate that shit up. Black people are trained to abuse and gaslight their women.

[@caswte]

Zach is correct, she doesn't seem like she would be a pleasure to be around.

[@jbak485]

Hence why she’s “tucked up paid and put away” or whatever tf she said lol AKA SINGLE!!!!

[@Whatusay.89]

So she had her first son around age 20. The guy leaves and doesn’t care for his child. Somehow they reconnect? And have ANOTHER child 7 years later ( she’s 27 ish). Yeah…it’s a HELL NO for me. Clearly he couldnt take of the first one. I don’t care how “ tall “ he is 🙄🤦🏾‍♀️

[@KevinP32270]

No man of value is marrying that crazy woman 😳😂😂

[@theluscious1980]

Think she said she is 30. So she had her first kid at 13 years old. Her first child is 17 and second is 10 yr old.

[@Zulu-Lemon]

But the next guy has to be as tall as he is.

[@Whatusay.89]

@@theluscious1980 she said she just turned 37.

[@theluscious1980]

@@Whatusay.89 ok

[@poetryinmotion1708]

Her friend was wrong.🙄🙄 She does not need an alpha male. I doubt her personality would get along with an alpha.

[@SlightyAnnoyedDinosaur]

Alpha beta omega Nintendo sega whatever kind of man is not going back and forth with her just to be with her

[@augustbaby8254]

@@SlightyAnnoyedDinosaurDid you say SEGA #imdead 😂😂😂

[@davnoble8472]

@@SlightyAnnoyedDinosaur😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@truebengalsfan]

She probably alpha male based off what she says she wants but she is not compatible with one

[@VentiChaiLatte]

She comes off defensive. If she let some of that pain go she can find someone that is ready to love her

[@Quinten4M]

This why man date young! This is a NO for most man. Middle age bad attitude lol let go of the pass lol

[@KevinP32270]

Not the kind of man she wants 😳

[@dentreveal3820]

not everyone is worth loving.

[@Armyvet55]

😮😮😮😮😮right

[@Armyvet55]

Too aggressive 😢

[@halftimehomes]

This is why Zach needs to be a permanent host at least once a week

[@robinaaayyeee]

I agree! I think the male perspective could be essential feedback for some of the women.

[@Whatusay.89]

I agree!

[@loungelyric]

He said what everybody was thinking

[@Iknowyoumadnow]

They're be canceling this pop smoke clone so fast and calling him miSogYnOir

[@ralphchubb5086]

How do you manage to blow an interview with ZachBoog when dude is the calmest? Pretty sad

[@HtownMahogany]

Even her friend walked away at the end like eh well 😂🤣😂 She genuinely had no clue how difficult she was. And most people that way don't.

[@TasteMyRainb0w]

lol Best friend always know what's up. I have a best friend since 3rd grade too who tells me about myself and I may not like it but I listen. I'm a guy though. I think we take criticism better.

[@tamarapadilla2601]

@@TasteMyRainb0wif it's from another man sure, but a woman .. maybe only your mom. otherwise y'all get to killing folks

[@tmcneal6]

Zach was trying to explain… but she wasn’t willing to receive it

[@dadaday98]

Baby girl was so defensive and emotionally hurt that she didn't even want to Highlight her GREAT qualities. Bless her heart. Hopefully the play back sheds light on what Zack and the Kousins were trying to convey. 🙏🏽

[@Menagerie_K]

Maybe it’s a self esteem thing and she doesn’t realize she has good qualities

[@jonydory622]

Imagine having to deal with her everyday… Headache 🥺

[@Fabrizio7171]

And in her head she’s just talking at a normal volume

[@jonydory622]

Crazy, right ? 😂

[@Geneviev285]

@@l.t.3857; please send this video to your sister…..maybe……just maybe she will learn a few things…..and would adjust her attitude… Whewww Chileeeee 😅

[@kensmb8668]

I didn't watch this whole live, but the energy was just off. Zach is usually comic relief, and his interviews go well. His assessment isn't too far off because even her friend was like just answer the question. That tells me her friend understood what Zach was saying. Unsolicited opinion, every adult needs to know and understand self-reflection. Her lack of self-awareness was obvious in the fact that she had an issue with identifying three flaws about herself. Has she done the work in healing and getting past her relationships, maybe. Now she she should work on self. I wish her all the best.

[@yahyah9975]

She needs to watch the video of herself. A person doesn’t know what they looks like until they look in the mirror.

[@ZeeTene]

She said stubborn, stuck in her ways, and indecisive

[@kensmb8668]

@ZeeTene I know what she said. I find comprehension works better when you listen better than you can hear. For someone who said she's on the show because she's done the work on herself, finding your flaws that you're consistently working on would be easier to vocalize when asked about.

[@rocetta1984]

Right, I think these people never grow up learning accountability and self reflection. This may need to be studied in school. If the parents are lacking.

[@spb8039]

He was offended by her saying that she didn't want to raise a man-child. I get a feeling that the host is also a man-child. Black males get really offended when called out on their shit.

[@Kimberly.T]

Blaming men for how you behave is a losing battle!!! The amount of women who say they want an Alpha, but can’t be quiet or listen wouldn’t last with an Alpha. You want to be in control which is why you continuously meet men who needs someone to lead them that’s all there is to it🤷🏽‍♀️

[@sammyellis7845]

She’d be quiet and listen if she didn’t have to step up and look after a man who should have been taking care of themselves. She didn’t want to lead a man who was useless nor a struggle bandit no more

[@Kimberly.T]

@@sammyellis7845 She CHOOSE that man 2X!!!! You don’t get to blame the person YOU choose for YOUR choices!!! Her attitude = that she will continue to only attract that type of man. When people learn from their lessons they don’t repeat them. I don’t have 1 sob story about a man not 1!! I owned my choices learned from them and moved on to better.

[@JustBree716]

​@@Kimberly.Tgirl the hyena patrol is activated 😅. Women love to blame the men that they choose not once but TWICE 😅

[@Armyvet55]

Right 😂😂😂😂😂a double negative, not submitting to anyone

[@MacMillerJohnson]

She's single because at 37 with 2 kids and looking 45 along with a bad attitude, she thinks 6 foot tall men who make around 6 figures, and in great shape want her

[@MikeyDavis]

What she needs more than anything is some arms to cry into. She’s lost of lot of opportunities from people who would’ve been happy to help her out just because she can’t see her problems through the eyes of the average person. If I have a job offer for someone like this, and they’re qualified, I’m placing them dead last, because no matter how qualified they are, I can foresee that attitude constantly getting in the way of everything. She’ll be happier and healthier once she finds a man who doesn’t mind letting her tell her life story over and over, and then reaches out his arms to let her cry while he understands.

[@kenialee9024]

I agree 💯

[@brianfreckles8542]

She needs a shrink

[@chenaf24]

Thank you!

[@samanthasolomon1166]

I agree but I think it would be better to do that thru counseling rather than leaving that for another man to try and heal her brokenness. She doesn’t want to admit it but she is in need of healing. I hope she will take Zach advice and look back at this video. 🙏🏾

[@lelahill9778]

Well Damn! Ok

[@corrineperry5523]

Pumpkin if he still wasn't mature why you have another child? Make it make sense

[@panderson1832]

Simple. He was over 6 ft Tall

[@valpooh7532]

The fact that she’s a grown woman and wants to be called pumpkin is immature. The fact that she looks to her best friend to speak to and for her is immature. Her voice is annoying and she does have an uppty attitude. She is very much so broken still complaining about her past.

[@CyberMachine]

My godfather is a 60 year old Indian man with a nickname of Pumpkin. He's married and he befriended my mother in medical school. A name really doesn't mean anything. She's just immature.

[@kamkam4571]

🎯

[@valpooh7532]

@@CyberMachine a name means a lot. Your name is very much of who you are. They represent how others identify us as well. I’m sure he wouldn’t put pumpkin on his application. If so, he may not get hired.

[@qcarter396]

She basically said her BD wasn't Sh@t, they had a baby, they broke up, years later they got back together, he still wasn't Sh@t, they had another baby and broke up. Now she wants a new man to put up with her and two kids she gave to an ain't Sh@t man??? Girl by!

[@logicalcritik2144]

😂😂😂

[@sam1194102]

✌🏾

[@medusacloudsgaming]

I think this is the first black women who doesn't look younger than she is...why?? She looks well into her 40s to me.

[@calikeisha365]

For sure! She’s either lying or did a hard 35 years…

[@medusacloudsgaming]

@calikeisha365 exactly lol I'm glad I'm not the only one who sees it 🤣

[@LoveAfterPookie]

Most people look older nowadays. Something in the water.

[@JAYWIL01]

Smoking weed regularly.

[@poetryinmotion1708]

Stress will do that to you...she agitated and it shows all over her face and robbing her of her looks and youth

[@argiejohnson]

Bravo Zach, you handled that well 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾. You exhibited patience and care in your efforts to help her understand what she needed to work on.

[@mrspaceforever]

The lack of self awareness is crazy 😭😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫 what Zach said about the type of men she attracts is spot on

[@bgurley1998]

5’2 and wants someone 6’ 😂😂😂😂😂

[@LionEatsCats0034]

RIGHT! Leave the tall me to us tall women. There are short kings so please go to them 😭😂

[@beemonique8466]

What's funny about that? It's very common for tall guys to date short women, even 6ft men vs- 5'2 women. I'm 5'2, and I've had several guys 6 feet and above wanting to date me since high school.

[@LoveAfterPookie]

They know that tall men love em. They bypass us tall ladies. Every tall man I see is with a woman who is like 5'0 SMH. I only get approached by the "short kings". 😢😢

[@adams8830]

For one, at 5'2, everyone taller than you is basically 6 foot. However, tall men usually pick shorter women so the requirement isn't that unusual.

[@NexusFantismo]

​@@LoveAfterPookie because height does not matter to men. A man would date a little person if she was a good person at heart.

[@juliet4521]

It’s crazy how defensive, shut down and aggressive these women get when Zach is around versus Kendra. They know they’re in the presence of someone who will actually call them on their endless bull 😂

[@Haz2288]

Yep. Kendra encourages it. Men hold people accountable, even when it's uncomfortable.

[@ArethaRenee]

@@Haz2288Kendra does not encourage it. She is always calling women out on their stuff.

[@sam1194102]

Kendra would check her so fast and she will take it because she would look like a fool arguing with the host of the actual show and counter proactive on what she came on to do

[@calikeisha365]

She’s defensive, aggressive, and does not take feedback well. Considering the nature of the comments not sure why she even came on the show if she was gonna to so sensitive to it. Also she looks much older than she claims, her best friend looks 35 so she may be that age but possibly has a history of substance abuse and maybe that has aged her? In any event I hope she takes Zack’s advice and rewatches this to gain some self awareness of how she comes off. Zack handled this one well!!!

[@Quilt4Joy]

I think this is another case of “I look good, why isn’t someone dying to marry me”. Men and women don’t get that the whole look great is a myth. It takes more than looks.

[@nishisalott1839]

I understand but the way society is going now, folks believe looking good is all they need, when that is just the beginning.

[@Armyvet55]

😂😂😂😂😂exactly 💯 👏

[@ms.a806]

Great comment. Looks are 10%, spirit is 90%

[@Ndrreed]

Also she is just average looking. 9:21 was the most telling line. She thinks she is prettier than she is. She thinks she and her friend are in the same level and they’re not.

[@brianfreckles8542]

Look good is debatable in this case

[@neisci]

I can already see the type of mama and mother-in-law she is /will be. I wouldn't recomend dating her sons(when the other is of age) until she's at least dead. She fullfills every box of mother-in-law from hell. Gotta be careful with those broken women /people.

[@babysis6.059]

I had to laugh at this because it's true, gave me flashbacks 🤣🤣🤣

[@pickmeisha]

‘At least dead’ lmao. But I completely agree. Been there, done that…poor sons.

[@danielademide]

⁠@@danielleatterberry- 💯. They become the men women like her complain about and son husbands.

[@myseville1976]

LOL LOL LOL YEP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@NovemberReigne]

Damn, she got in my nerves so bad with that bad attitude. Zach, you did an excellent job and has so much patience. She was an angry bird and is immature.

[@Quinten4M]

Yes!!

[@thelessons3768]

So imagine how her sons will be.

[@MsEllaHamilton]

Can you imagine what she's like in a relationship?

[@johnnycooper1100]

@@MsEllaHamilton….unbearable….that’s why ole boy left for them 7 years. He needed counseling 😂

[@Tricey.89]

Thank you Zach for mocking her when she asked how she sounds….and that friend next to her knows how she is (I see her expression)

[@LOSTGPS]

"I like to climb trees", you already did that and ended up a single mother, maybe staying away from trees and dating bushes will be beneficial for you

[@mrscocothunder]

Not dating bushes 😂😂

[@1BeautifullyBlessed]

🎵 Please stick to the bushes and the shrubs that you're used to 🎵

[@bippityboppityboo2u]

You’re rough sis! And you’ve been that way so long you don’t see it! ETA…whew she needs to see a therapist.. so defensive and combative

[@katerab4916]

I’m glad Zach told her the truth, hopefully she’ll play this back and accept the nugget he dropped. She desperately needs a ear and safe space. Good luck to her

[@MoPerspective]

That’s all we kept saying in the comments… girl rewatch this and see for yourself how you look right now!

[@katerab4916]

@@MoPerspective 🙏🏾 prayerfully she did just that sis!

[@spb8039]

What truth did he tell her. She needs to change her tone and be more feminine. You black women will buy any bullshit black men sell you!! If she lowers her tone and passively whispers like a child would that make her more feminine and her words more valid? She never raised her voice and wasn't using foul language. The host derailed the interview once she complained about having picked a man-child. Obviously, black women are not allowed to speak the truth about anything that they have experienced. Both males and females will demonize them for doing so.

[@N.1lza]

She’s very defensive. I used to be like that before my relationship but my partner told me about myself and I sat back and thought about it and I realized I am defensive and I shut down when people used to give me valid criticism. I am still working on that but I got better. I hope when she watches back that she realizes that about herself because who wants to deal with that attitude, men or women. It’s a turn off!

[@Armyvet55]

Definitely too aggressive, won't let go of the past

[@professionalpookie]

Partner?

[@forlighttv]

You're in a homosexual relationship?

[@nowaynoway915]

That’s good hun! I’m doing the same!

[@professionalpookie]

@@forlighttv good question!!!

[@davidsejjombwe2313]

When you tell a man you don't need him is equivalent to telling a woman you love that she is not beautiful.

[@cyes1156]

Spot on....Men absolutely want to be needed on a biological level

[@W0rkknPr0gress]

DEEPPPP 💪🏾

[@bobbyrozier763]

Boom!! Exactly bro.

[@MoPerspective]

OOP!!!!

[@MrsRease2011]

Well said!

[@RemIsNice]

Here's another example of why leaving your relationship isn't a solution to anything. Regardless of whatever negative traits her ex had, we can see that she also has issues. Both of them will bring them to the dating pool.

[@calikeisha365]

Exactly people fail to realize you take you with you wherever you go…🤷🏾‍♀️

[@islandbound843]

👏🏾

[@katerab4916]

Really good point, never thought of it that way

[@chillycharles910]

@@katerab4916 Society keeps pushing the just leave him narrative. It's almost always better to work out differences than starting dating again. Unless there's abuse.

[@katerab4916]

@@chillycharles910 I completely agree 😊

[@latonyafields8723]

You know she made ZachBoogie tired when he ended with Whoooo Chile😂

[@susiesolangesimpson2828]

Kendra going forward please make expand in the things they want/don’t want. OBVIOUSLY nobody wants a liar, a cheater, or someone that smells. That’s so basic and simply common sense.

[@MalevolentElephant]

Marry before you carry ladies! This stuff is sad to see

[@beemonique8466]

That does NOT mean the marriage will last!!!

[@MalevolentElephant]

@@beemonique8466 that’s not the point. It’s still always bette than having kids out of wedlock and creating broken homes

[@poetryinmotion1708]

​@@beemonique8466But the man should want to commit to you before he commits to a lifetime of having a child with you. Don't be men's breeders. There is a difference. And no you're not guaranteed anything.

[@beemonique8466]

@poetryinmotion1708 Again I'll say that getting married or being married does equal a blissful happy long lasting never-ending marriage. Society says a lot of dumb stuff without thinking in and outside of the box. What's the difference if you're married first, then have kids and your husband cheats on you and decides to leave? What's the difference? Does that make you better than the woman who had kids out of wedlock? Should you have vetted your child's father better? Seriously! What's the difference??

[@adams8830]

​@@beemonique8466Agreed. Married women are still winding up single mothers so I am also curious as to how marry before you carry is beneficial.

[@what77und]

Danielle is snappy asf with a 12yr old body 🙄🙄🙄. Good luck fellas! 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

[@shaylabrown6038]

I'm screaming

[@divinemasculineenergy9773]

Ladies understand this: You don’t get praised for “doing it all by yourself.” You chose that. You chose that when you chose a couch potato to have a child with. You put the child at a disadvantage by not choosing a good other parent for them. This woman only broke even on what is expected as a parent.

[@DreamsInBlue]

People switch up, but even if someone wanted to excuse the 17 yo, you can't excuse the 10 yo. You went back to this man even after you said he wasn't doing anything for the 1st baby.

[@divinemasculineenergy9773]

@@DreamsInBlue the “people switch up” argument is tired. That’s why you have to really know the person you lay down with before going to make a baby with him. Most of the time it’s the baby mama who “switches up” when she leaves her man.

[@DreamsInBlue]

@divinemasculineenergy9773 2+2=4 is tired too, but it's still true. People can switch up.

[@spythe]

I always love when they said my kids dad or ex is a certain height... especially after they jus talked about how horrible of a person, partner, parent isn't But they can't put 2 and 2 together.

[@BrandonBooks]

Just picking on physical attributes and complain when the character isn’t there

[@byronx1]

It's so hard to understand the logic sometimes 🤦🏾‍♂️

[@bigdunks4eva]

What's funny is when women will say "well I tried dating a short guy and it didn't work, so he must be tall the next time." Yet they'll deal with 10 tall men who are dogs, but they'll still insist on a tall man. 😂

[@QueenDivineLove]

Zach handled that respectfully and expressed what need to be expressed. Been there when I was younger raising children, it can make you seem masculine and what the friend said can be true and she could have been nervous and projecting how she feel about dating , in general, instead of just having a conversation with Zach about it. We have to distinguish those emotions esp when dating a man. With being feminine comes peace and love not war chile. What happens is some women just need to learn not to fake it but become it. It's actually a daily battle when you transitioning or elevating. She gone be fine but wish she would have redeemed herself. That showed immaturity. If she just listen thought about it and shifted the energy, it would have showed us what we needed to know. Actions always speak louder.

[@MacMillerJohnson]

imagine a woman with 2 kids out of wedlock at 37 and still being that picky. He still has to be 6 feet tall, built like like a brick house, and make almost 6 figures

[@lifeisatripenjoytheride]

I agree. I was hoping that last question shifted her gears and she talked about how great she really was. The fact that she couldn’t, showed she still needs to heal and work on herself before moving forward.

[@believeitachieveit369]

If this is how she acted sober, I would not want to see her drunk. Smh short temper. Please learn self control. Zach was very calm with her and she couldn't match his energy. Almost 40 and untamed😂

[@Amkias2001]

Zach ya did a beautiful job. Helped me to reevaluate myself. Hope this Sister takes the constructive criticism. I’m sure she’s a good one, just a bit Hurt like the rest of us.

[@halftimehomes]

So you had another baby by the deadbeat that left you and your child for 7 years only for him to leave again? Pookie always wins

[@main1033]

Got hot and bothered trying to prove herself to Tyrone and cloned another Tyrone as a result.

[@halftimehomes]

@@main1033 and now she’ll be Alone

[@main1033]

@@halftimehomes I dunno. She'll get Boyce Watkin's twin or something like that.

[@Msdivaduh1]

That part she’s delu Lu

[@angelaedwards86]

She lost me at the end when she said she hadn't been drinking.... Ma'am you were felling something which is why she seemed aggressive and like she was still hurt...

[@poetryinmotion1708]

I picked up on that too. I think it was hot girl weekend that Marijuana was hitting😂😂

[@October3074]

I don't think she was under the influence, unfortunately I've come across people just like her sober.

[@shirleycollins2296]

She was on something! Her words were slurring like a drunk! She was just smart enough to not admit it on camera.

[@lovelylady5313]

17:38 had me rollin' 🤣 Zach you didn't need to give us such an excellent example of her attitude like that. Her first mistake was taking those comments so seriously.

[@tamelarowe4605]

Good luck to this sister; hopefully she can do some self reflection. She seems like a good woman that has put a guard up from being hurt.

[@danielademide]

Hurt by who? She had two kids by a reprobate because she is a reprobate. She’s not a victim. She’s an old, bitter baby mama.

[@thelessons3768]

Any young lady ready for a fight (verbal) is a young lady that will get you into one. She is not self-aware. Her attitude towards the comment section may be a turn on for women but it definitely is a hard no for men.

[@JD_Partner_LawOfficesOfHnG]

She’s what I’d categorize as a HIGH RISK. It’s definitely not a turn on for me as a lady. Signs of this show me she’d be an argumentative friend to be around and I don’t like to be around people who have no self control and are ready to fight at a moments notice.

[@regrich8795]

Very high risk 🚩🚩

[@ActuallyAuberyPODCAST]

@@JD_Partner_LawOfficesOfHnGExactly 🎯🎯🎯

[@reneebee8693]

A good man seeks PEACE. This ain't it. 😞

[@MultiAngelluv]

Every healed person seeks peace. It’s not gender specific

[@tasha_t9210]

Towards the end, Zack really tried with her, you can see & feel the compassion in his eyes & tone but you could tell she had her guard up & she was done! Pity!!

[@ciao2315]

Right?! He was honestly trying to tell her what she needs help with in order to get a better relationship…we all have our things.

[@beemonique8466]

She doesn't use the name Pumpkin on the job application or any other applications.

[@terrillt426]

Yea she is Ms. Patch

[@murieltillman9554]

But, hey, she "been pumpkin ever since she came out her mama's cooche". 🙄 Just rachet.

[@b.v3151]

“I work in healthcare.” I’m a nurse aide 😂

[@Scam-ish]

Met a person In Real Life who said she was almost at 6 figures, i asked her how much is that she said $64k … just to give yall an idea of what some women mean when they say they almost make 6 figures

[@_m_K_.]

🤡 🌍

[@eleazarlee9671]

20:46 the friend was like, let me ease “up out” this frame cause ….🤣🤣

[@leejudah649]

Right, Zach was dropping truth and she probably didn’t want to look to supportive of his accurate assessment 🤔

[@poeticwisdom3]

Zach, this was gold. You did your thing in this interview, respectfully of course.

[@bm11775]

why does she need a friend to speak for her and tell everyone what she needs she can’t speak for herself

[@KNByam]

Listening to her you can see why.

[@mrrdw77]

The friend just shook her head and walked off. I know that afterwards she would deal with her friend with a soft hand (like Kendra do). Instead of being brutally honest to get a true self examination from the perpetrator.

[@mybigboy1979]

She was proving his point the entire show 😂😂

[@Razzbme]

I can honestly say, she has been thru some things with her children's father and it spills over into her everyday existence. She may be a very nice person but her guard was definitely up! She came off very combative and aggressive which many of us ladies have one time or another fallen into. I pray she works on herself and gives someone to lead her and show her a different way.

[@johnjay3308]

She put herself through all of it

[@panderson1832]

Stop the victim shyt. She chose that Nicca to be the father

[@SheilaTrueLove]

I absolutely LOVE Zach and Kendra, however, I feel that Zach and these "Cousins" are making a TOTALLY WRONG Assessment of this beautiful lady. Everyone is not going to express themselves in a MOUSY, and PASSIVE way. That's not the personality God has given them. She's merely trying to UNDERSTAND why people are seeing and feeling the way they do. She's NOT trying or being Aggressive or Masculine. She's trying to make SENSE out of people's viewpoints, which I feel she should STOP caring about people who don't know her, don't have her BEST interest at heart. She is NOT confused about what she wants, and shes DECISIVE. People in this world today get annoyed when you don't feel the way they feel or see things the way they see it. That's too damn bad. Personally me, I liked and ADMIRED her greatly. I LOVE you Zach. I'm also a CAPRICORN, and I know we are very WISE, SENSIBLE and very PRACTICAL people which is why we are the FATHERS of the Zodiac. We both understand that it's ok to see things differently, and to feel differently without taking offense. 🥰💖🙏

[@RejennaC]

Wowwww. This is some interview, I wonder how she would respond if @Kendra was interviewing her. Zack was a great interviewer, he marveled with patience. I think it might be a good idea to see herself being interviewed and take a long look in the mirror. Self reflection is something we all need to grow!

[@regrich8795]

The friend wanted to say more because her face was agreeing with Zach she needs to tone down here delivery we want feminine women. In my opinion this is the energy she should have had with her over 17yr baby daddy, dang that's a long time to not commit 🫣

[@NubianP6]

Yep, I agree.

[@Fabrizio7171]

Oh yea yelling and screaming at him. she should just get some of her brothers and daddy to force bd to marry.

[@dlebb8322]

She needed this. I'm praying for her healing because she has some unresolved issues.

[@izzyakiva9437]

There are women who have a lot of masculine qualities and should not be with Alpha males because the both of them want their way. She needs a beta male, to show her it’s ok to be strong and soft too. She keeps attracting the type of man she’s attracting because, she spent most of her time developing her mothering skills… not her partner skills.

[@marcusyoung2081]

37? She looks like somebody's Aunt Francine or Aunt Josephine who is every bit of 45 🤷🏾‍♂️ I hope Pumpkin knows that she will be getting called into HR when she gets back to work because her friend has set her up for the okie doke by broadcasting that "WE smoke weed because WE from DENVER." Pumpkin said she works in Healthcare, Denver or no Denver a dirty piss test is going to change her life. How much would it suck to lose your career where you claim to make nearly "six figures" just because you wanted to get some internet attention 🤔 🤣 BTW: They are going to find out in HR because Kendra's show is very popular and Carol from HR watches it on all three platforms trying to find her black kang too 🤣

[@shaylabrown6038]

Omg omg omg listen I said the same thing

[@bn1180]

I hope that’s not the case for her

[@MessiMathematician]

I like how Zach holds his own ❤

[@Zulu-Lemon]

She’s picky and have standard yet had 2 children with a man she considers to be a child?

[@sammyellis7845]

Why wouldn’t she be picky? If she’s raised her son’s solely to be decent men and worked hard to get to where she is without leaning on a man, why can’t she have standards? You’d want the females in your family to have standards rather than tolerating a useless man who’s always seeking help and handouts whilst refusing to work on himself.

[@Zulu-Lemon]

@@sammyellis7845 I’d prefer females in my family to procreate with men that are responsible and that they are married to.

[@murieltillman9554]

​. According to her, this woman, literally, had a baby with a guy who ran off, ducking his resonsibility to her AND the baby for 7 years, only to let him return, pump her with yet another child and run off! She does display a boat load of anger, harsh tone and misplaced aggression. There are no two ways about it. It's sad that she is standing in the way of herself, can't see it and won't let anyone help her to realize those issues. She's also immature for her years. I happen to be one who believes all of those character traits can be fixed. First she has to acknowledge she has those flaws. I saw NONE of that readiness to get better here. Yikes!!! (She gave me a headache!)

[@beauteafulnia6722]

I hope she finds peace and the confidence to love someone. She's dealing with a lot of inner turmoil

[@bn1180]

I honestly feel awful for her. My hope for her, she heals. Her tone, energy feels aggressive. But it’s probably her being hurt. She should heal or she’ll attract the same type of man that has the same energy she holds within. Blessings to her.

[@bejaylagrone4084]

I think when they ask the guest "do they want to get married?" ,and they say yes; ask why? . I Wonder what kind of answer they'd get, because I don't believe people understand what that means, especially if you're a stubborn selfish person. 🤔

[@ArethaRenee]

I also wished they asked them what would they bring to a marriage.

[@chantelvenessa]

Tip: if you come on this show do not focus on the live chat! She was too focused on what a bunch of strangers thought about her.

[@jebbo2320]

Finally!! Someone who knows what a flaw is!! GOOD JOB GIRL!!! 😂I hate when he asks for a flaw and they say “ im too sweet too giving too loving 😂 but yeah she is gonna have to work on being more feminine in order to get a manly man- it is hard to accept constructive criticism but if we’d all be more acceptive to the constructive criticism we’d be able to get more of what we want ❤

[@KevinP32270]

No man of value is marrying this out of control woman 😳😂

[@KNByam]

She wasn't out of control, stop it. Her voice is a bit heavy, but obviously no one has ever told her so she can't understand it.

[@KevinP32270]

@@KNByam if you are a man of value go ahead MARRY her and take your chances with that crazy woman. hope you lose everything in the divorce like most men in america. smgdh lolol.

[@2002altima]

When you don't get it, you don't get it.

[@T.A.HasNoFilter]

They are definitely in Houston getting they back blown out!!

[@stronginthewind]

Might be why she looked at her friend then declined to answer the last time she was intimate.

[@jones4262]

If you close your eyes, she has the same voice of Cynthia G.

[@randommusings4957]

I literally had the same thought

[@xrated2k3]

Nobody wants to close their eyes and imagine that bruh wth is wrong wit you ?!

[@yattab4590]

My heart goes out to this young lady. When you’ve been hurt you do become super defensive and you don’t see it because you’ve been that way for years. Men pick up on it and don’t want to deal with you. Please get therapy…I did and it was the best decision for me. ❤

[@isaacpowell1408]

My heart goes out for her boys😢

[@danielademide]

Hurt by who? She chose the men she wanted.

[@cltaylor8490]

Bravo Zach!!! You handled that beautifully!!

[@Fifth.Amendment]

🗣"But explain the masculine energy!" -Zach 😂🤣😂

[@NatishaCarson]

I hope that she watches this back and can be woman enough to take accountability. Good luck on your journey sis

[@vanessaomoka5224]

She has so much hurt in her. I totally understand. Someone in her past never listened to her. Prayers and therapy momma. And big hugs from me

[@duanenonlyac]

The best friend pointed out how she’s not ready to tear her wall down and she was spot on. Wall = Defense. Sometimes our true friends know us better than we know ourselves. I wonder has the friend ever tried setting her up because the friend seems to have a better sense of what she needs vs who she’s been choosing on her own.

[@elainemedlock2070]

The need to be RIGHT! She will continue to attract RAY RAY, POOKIE AND LITTLE SLUG the men that she feels she has to raise. #SAD

[@kaykaye]

If "lack of self awareness" was a picture.......💯🤷🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️🙆🏾‍♂️