Here's How to Handle the "Where Do We Stand" Talk

[@RichCooperClips]

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[@jamesdanielski7347]

I agree with Moff on this. Having the power also means having the responsibility. If you're using up her time to have children and you don't like her that much as a romantic partner, do both of yourselves a favor and let her go. Just because you're red pilled doesn't mean you should willingly go along with things that harm others.

[@TGP109]

THANK YOU! Plenty of guys out there willing to get free box while offering NOTHING in return.

[@Mark-bh8mb]

The most offensive thing I can think to do, is waste someone's time. If you aren't going to choose someone, don't keep them around for several months or more. Let them go. This goes both ways

[@dajackal7]

I agree with Rich on this one. No matter how you slice it, it's not a man's job to police a woman’s mortality. Nope, they don't get a pass on this one. Women overwhelmingly will tell you what they will and will not tolerate, but their actions and what they respond to exhibit differently. A man who would commit eagerly would be discarded by these same women. They want him because he's not easy to obtain. That's the whole point.

[@TruBluBlood666]

It's actually the father's / brother's job to do that. It is evident in eastern cultures.

[@andrew1717xx]

​@@TruBluBlood666While I don't agree with Andrew Tate, I understand why he would prefer a woman with a different set of values that the West does not have.

[@MrMarkhort78]

I was given the so what are you looking for and where do we stand chat on my 3rd date after she saw my house and car. 😂😂😂😂

[@Gizziiusa]

thats a sure fire keeper !!!!

[@Freedom-Fighter1]

After the third date, she deserves to get your house, right?? That’s a big NO

[@szn1580]

It’s their nature bro. I don’t even fault them for it they need resources and security but yea that’s lowkey funny tho hahaa

[@Gizziiusa]

@@szn1580 How to tell me you're a gold digger, without telling me you're a gold digger.

[@szn1580]

@@Gizziiusahahaha

[@erico7655]

Spot on Moff, slam dunk on this issue. The pent-up resentment is likely to explode, it seems unsustainable in the long run.

[@JohnWesleyHarden]

The dudes that dragged it out seem like statist in the end. When it stops being fun and the chick is constantly slinging snot east to west why are you still there???

[@911eVoX]

I've never been one to have multiple girls at the same time... too much of a headache and you cannot fully invest in a single lady (which is what they desire). It would be a true red flag if the girl is accepting of you saying that you are not exclusive. Always keep your eyes open and get out when your gut is telling you to leave and not look back

[@Junoj101]

"where do we stand" - is a question that is expecting an answer of commitment, and many times an unconditional commitment. Her main objective is security . . . giving her the commitment if you are not her first option "all the time", will only result in her taking 1/2 of your stuff. I am with Rich on this one - the question should be "Where do we Stand right now at this exact moment" . . . because the location will change and so should should the definition of the relationship.

[@rangerwhite7091]

Marriage or live in relationships can bankrupt you for life.

[@JohnWesleyHarden]

and at times your soul.. There is a lotta dudes six feet under because of these weird long term with you not with you relationships.

[@alberttang6955]

Woman securing the guy with resources. Rich says either 1) Marriage, or 2) Live in relationship. There's a third method they use: baby trap. Protect yourselves at all times, gentlemen.

[@alexandram5964]

Why stick it around if you don’t want babies? Intimate relationships produce babies ! Men who said not , are some immature adults %!

[@Matt-tt4cu]

I think this is one of the better convo's on this topic. In regards to living together: Rich, check the laws in US, since a big chunk of the audience is in the US. I live in a liberal controlled state, with the third largest city in the US, and common-law marriage hasn't been recognized here since 1905, and state supreme court reaffirmed in 2016 that unmarried partners have NO rights to the other partner's property if the couple breaks up. In fact, a quick google search showcases that only 8 states + DC have "commonlaw." So for most of the US, it's a total non-issue, legally speaking. And my take as to why a man would want to live with a woman is simple: more sex, more home-cooking, and more emotional security. OBVIOUSLY, you will not get all/any of this with a bad woman. Also obviously, if said man isn't craving more of those things or whatever - then don't live together, the choice is always yours to make as the gatekeeper of the relationship. But the narrative of how it's "never worth it" that's been touted for a while is not objective truth........... if you're with a good woman. And yes, there are still some good ones around. And if they somehow turn bad after a few years or whatever, just leave. Rinse and repeat.

[@williamosgood3565]

The question becomes will the non common law state recognize a common law marriage from another state or Canada?

[@andrewpizzino2514]

Just leave? I own a home, I would want them to leave and that’s when the fireworks will begin. Separate residences

[@Matt-tt4cu]

@@williamosgood3565 At least some will, yes. If you're already in a common law situation where you currently live, you might be in trouble

[@Matt-tt4cu]

@@andrewpizzino2514 Bud, I gave a pretty broad exception to my statement. Read it again. I essentially say that the right decision, regarding living or not living with a girlfriend, doesn't have a right or wrong answer. Do what is best for you and the relationship you want to be in.

[@gezenews]

"if you're with a good woman" ok have to checkout there dude. The whole fucking world would drown in rainbows and puppies if only we all had a good woman. Keep dreaming and enjoying your good luck and low expectations.

[@JC-gw3yo]

I believe it is different with older women. They have cats, dogs and sex is distant memory for most. Older women usually have money from pensions or divorce. Most just give up on dating

[@elsa_nyc]

You would be surprised. I don't know how you define "old", but women still get a lot of attention from men well past their 40s.

[@TGP109]

Lol, not all women ever got married to begin with and women work, so GTFOH with your ''pensions and divorce'' nonsense.

[@samiamgreeneggsandham7587]

There’s a morality/ethics angle to this, but there are also a couple of practical ones: 1.) why complicate one’s life by having more than one woman in it for any longer than is necessary to determine if she’s a keeper?; 2.) in my experience, the types of women who were ok with being one among a few plates had personality traits that I wasn’t cool with long-term. Among other things, they lacked a sense of self.

[@gonzayare]

And most of them are promiscuous, they have adventures with other guys that's why they don't care.

[@IFYOUWANTITGOGETIT]

The timing of this video is on point 😅😂

[@Fire_Moon_Tarot]

How is a man protecting you if he cheats on you ? Putting your health at risk for sex is not protecting your spouse .

[@juliancate7089]

Don't like it, then leave. But you'll be sure to take as much from him - that you didn't earn - as you can on the way out, won't you?

[@gezenews]

@@juliancate7089 They can earn it for themselves for the next few years (or year) until this racist and sexist economic system collapses. Oh yeah there will be bosses all over the places until there are none.

[@jinkazama2555]

theres condoms. And the protection is protecting your clown a** physically from danger. BUt you know this and pretend to be an imbicile. BUT, if your going for these types of men, this is what you get. DOnt like it? lower your delusional standards.

[@xanderharris3656]

​@juliancate7089 well hold on there a second buddy. She actually brings up a good point or at least a good counter argument. But I do have a question for her though.

[@xanderharris3656]

Just a genuine question, not an argument or anything. What if he was wearing protection to mitigate the possibilities of STD/STIs? Just taking the necessary precautions to keep everything safe and healthy?

[@socrates2788]

Common law is not common in the US actually. Only 8 states have it.

[@justin3606-j8l]

It would be good if this channel talked a little about the positives of good long term relationships, rather than always the negatives. Balance and perspective help, presumably there are some positives to build on?

[@SilverDawn168]

Negative sells I'm sorry to say.😢 most channels on yt I see are Negative. 😢

[@frenchmime1972]

if you are honest with yourself not many relationships are positive, as men we are like most animals we plant the seed and leave. not meant to be around a woman long term, that is a true social construct.

[@szn1580]

Facts. Men aren’t monogamous by nature. At all

[@balerion77]

So do we carry the same energy While guys are start in the Friendzone from the jump or after rejection and the woman keeps him there for FREE utility or genuinely think he'll be a friend even though he wants more ?? I think everyone calls the GUY a loser or blames him right ?? Why not do the same with the woman who's constantly being in the FunZone or trying to make him commit while having every opportunity at any time to leave ??? Why is it the guy who's the jerk or his responsibility to do her favours ??

[@NrthrnKnght]

MEN dont belong in the friend zone ...SIMP

[@NrthrnKnght]

Common Law States: Montana , Iowa, Alabama, Utah, Colo, Tex, New Ham, Penn, Kanas, South Carol,Rhode Is. ,Georgia, DC

[@tonydiesel3444]

Nope ga nope

[@Frankie1994797]

Louisiana, 7 years

[@cintroberts6614]

If she tries to put her foot down then it is time to leave. If I see one more man get punked I am out of here.

[@TCR2025]

Walk away

[@elsa_nyc]

Very simple guys.. The only women accepting of a man stepping out in a marriage or LTR is a woman who is also stepping out.

[@rann1074]

What about a scenario where its not stepping out and she's waiting on me when I get back, but bringing someone into our lives that enrich it for both of us. Easy example is if she has an interest in women as well and we bring someone in that she can also develop a romantic relationship with. That way I get the additional connections I'm looking for and the 2 ladies get a whole host of benefits from being in that arrangement (a friend, a rival, and a lover)...or is all that crazy talk and never gonna happen that way?!? Of course all of that is underpinned by my ability to provide the safety and protection for both of them...rare ability indeed, but this is philosophical land right?

[@JohnWesleyHarden]

I do not care if you are a woman or a man partaking in someones self destruction just because they let you is not right. Just like the dog who is not hurt that can still hunt for food and not die with your broke leg dying. You have to chase the dog off so that he can live. Chase the woman off there are tons of women out there who will be with you in these weird multiple sterile partner situationships. I don't believe in karma but I do believe you reap what you sow and if you sowed a will of discontent and it wasn't warranted dude, remember fatal attatraction??? Lorena Bobbitt, Clara Harris.....

[@1werewolf]

Love is not in their repertoire. All about status. They miss so much not being feminine....

[@randallpike3593]

Men over 50. Best thing to do is have 50-50 relationship no live in an every day go home and no sleep overs. if she doesn’t agree to that, don’t date her. No need to spend in your retirement on a going to be always bad investment. She can meet you halfway or don’t do the commitment. Women or so on site for these days more than likely she’s going to have somebody else anyway.

[@JamesJones-mg3ts]

What is she suitable for? That's a question a man has to answer. She can assert it but you have agency to decide that and you should never let a lady bully you into something you know very well she's not suitable for. A lady can go from suitable to unsuitable as well. Bait and switch happens all the time as most ladies are more loyal to their feeling than commitment and duty they signed up for prior. It's just the way it is. Suppose you determine a lady is suitable as a mother in the family you are creating to create kids. She may graduate to a grandparent which is asking much less of her but suitable for continued commitment and financial support (after your done providing for kids you've raised and not asking that of her and justifying your financial support that way). She may switch on you. Suitability is why you get a prenup (a lady can make herself unsuitable fast if she desires a different arrangement). If you determine what a lady is suitable for from the start, you know where you stand. You may decide along the way if she's suitable for something else and that's where you stand. "Where do we stand" is not really a 'we' question. It's really her putting you on the spot to coerce you into changing your mind about what you think she's suitable for that benefits her (not you). This is where you can 'bargain' or 'stand your ground' (aka: bargain meaning you asserting for what she would have to do to justify changing "where you stand".... you have to exact a price and consider if she's "really" suitable for that duty as most ladies usually aren't). Regardless, you'll save yourself a lot of trouble if you, as my father used to say, "don't take in strays". Never move them in unless there's kids involved (these conversations are trivial when she's not sharing a home with you).

[@JamesJones-mg3ts]

The "short version" is "men are the gatekeepers of commitment". Be a good gate keeper. Don't get entangled in ways that imply some greater commitment you know she's not suitable for (as you're baiting her and there is no 'prize' for her coming).

[@situationalawarenes]

The guy is not able to understand the personality of the woman and see if she is the right one. So he is wasting her time and her life. Bad karma.

[@annieshealthyjourney]

I don’t get the comment that women will stay with a man indefinitely despite the fact t that he is seeing other women. What? There is not a man on the earth I would ever sleep with and allow to simultaneously sleep either other women. I don’t care if you are the most attractive amazing man on earth that’s insane

[@user-lm6ro4ec9v]

Moff has way more wisdom than Rich.

[@ParzivalPheonix]

Hawk tuah

[@drlarrymitchell]

woah woah woah calm down experiment 626

[@bumpercoach]

He's a freeloader EVEN IF she volunteers ... REAL MEN don't freeload

[@Spanglish360]

If women feel entitled to have the best man of a community shouldn't said man feel entitled to lie and get with as many as he can in THAT community? Just a personal opinion. Being honest sounds pretty romantic but if we take into account all the work a man must do to even have a semi good gf... Idk, the lie path seems pretty appealing to be honest...

[@TGP109]

''All the work that a man must do''? You don't consider all the work a woman must do.

[@Spanglish360]

@@TGP109 sure. Like 1% of men's hahahhahahahya

[@theawakeningplanet2186]

Hypergamy is both a male and female modus operandi. Guys want to trade up as well.

[@peterkoch3777]

Nope. This is stupid feminist talk. Men do NOT exhibit hypergamy. See: Pretty Woman😂🎉

[@rhettfreeman8186]

Lol both these dudes a tiny like they have multiple women is laughable. Thr single mommy duo😊

[@angmori172]

If girls leading guys on is wrong, then so is guys leading girls on.

[@lukehanley5392]

The 500,000 misogynist Ukrainian sons melting into the soil must have misunderstood Feminism.

[@Jeseyyy222]

He not good looking enough he would be lucky to have a girlfriend

[@NelliotMess]

As a boomer, I can't understand how some people can't seem to write a coherent sentence to be easily read and understood by everyone. How do they keep from miscommunicating? How do they understand one another? How is our country going to function well under such terms? It seems to me AI is getting smarter, while simultaneously making us dumber. God help us all. 😎🇺🇸

[@JJ-mh3hb]

How do you spin plates, and expect the opposite in return. Spinning plates (male hypergamy) is toxic.

[@gezenews]

And be the trophy husband? Accept artificially lowered wages? Be pushed into the feminine role AND underappreciated AND generate disgust from yourself and her? It's a terrible idea. If you don't like spinning plates then stay single, or find someone overseas. The water supply is poisoned. Better to pray for rain and look to the sky than slurp puddle slush and know that you will inevitably get sick.

[@Fire_Moon_Tarot]

I would Love to be in a marriage and not have to live with my husband 😂

[@jinkazama2555]

your not qualified to have a husband, lol. Hit the gym first

[@MarinaM-o6p]

STOP 🎤……