Hey Steve: Should She Speak Up?

[@sydonnewarren6776]

I wish my friends would have given me advice when I was in a toxic relationship. Sometimes you do need someone to give you a nudge in the right direction

[@ekrahmatu891]

I think this is very true especially if you see something that's not right, SPEAK UP DAMN IT because you just might be saving that person

[@brooklynforever1990]

But some of y'all are hard headed. Even when you ask.

[@cutenessoverloaded8692]

Oh Soooo you wouldn't have resented that person? Cz if we weren't blinded by love we would have seen the red flags and toxicity right? So you know we do resent the person who tries to get us away from that toxic relationship bcz we are totally Inn lovvvee with that person.....But I do wish that somebody could've just told me what toxicity is and what to watch out for.... instead of just directly advising me on leaving that person.

[@harmonygodess99]

Nudge in the right does not mean stay with a toxic man. Shhh 🤮

[@josuekamokokalunga9989]

How can you ask advice from a person who is a divorced? When you marry a wrong person it's your own fault .. stay with that person

[@ChrisNadd]

Be her best friend and support what she does in this current situation 🙏🏽

[@TosingerT]

Thank you Uncle Steve.. death is not only physical!

[@ceedabulls]

Yeah but he's twisting the words of the bible. Death is dead when you're referring to the marriage vowels.

[@josuekamokokalunga9989]

When you marry the wrong person it's your fault not God's fault. Marriage need to be entered prayerfully otherwise you might ruin your entire life . Because divorced is against the word if God. The Bible says till death do we apart

[@BajanPana]

Omgoodness. I needed this message a few years ago. I was "dying" in my marriage and had to depart from it. I never wanted to get a divorce but my so called friends actually told me to stop fighting for the marriage. I'm better now that it's over and children are getting better year by year without their father around.

[@josuekamokokalunga9989]

You're a divorcer and you are not allowed to remarry, if you do, you will be living in Adultery. Remember no adulterers will enter the kingdom of God. The truth hurts but it's saves and deliver you. Marriage need to be entered prayerfully otherwise you may ruin your entire life. .. Divorce is a curse for the kids and the parents please please

[@josuekamokokalunga9989]

There's another choice that we have in life. That's a life's companion. A young man or a young woman, stepping out on life has a--has been given a right to make a choice. The young man chooses, the young woman has a right to accept or reject it, but it's still a choice on both sides; both man and woman, they have a right to choice Now, it's a serious thing when we go to choose a wife. A man... For the vows here is until death do we part. That's how we should keep it. And you take that vow before God that only death will separate you And a woman choosing a husband, or accepting the choice of a husband, should be real careful what she's doing and especially in these days. A man should think and pray before he chooses a wife And we find that if a man prayed and a woman prayed over the matter, not just look at a pretty set of eyes, or big strong shoulders, or such as that, or some other worldly affection, but would look first to God and say, "God, is this Your plan?"

[@geradcourtney9517]

The best advice her friend can give is go to a marriage couple counseling because taking advice from Friends doesn't always work out right

[@KenyaVictoria]

Her friend should go to a marriage counselor with her estranged husband and stop telling her single friends for business and asking for advice

[@annmurdock9550]

WRONG people for a MARRIED woman to be consulting!!! I learned that lesson!!

[@antoniom9470]

Kenya Victoria r u married or single if not how you doing

[@girlmellaceus]

Yes. Say it AGAIN!!!

[@jayd3722]

Idk why y’all say stuff like that! Your relationship status doesn’t define anything. It’s the character and relationship of the friend your asking. My very close friends were dating while I was single and always came to me for advice and just because I was single doesn’t mean I gave them bad advice. In fact I have the reputation now for giving great advice and the best out of the entire group! If you have experience with relationships I don’t see why you can’t give advice WHEN ASKED.

[@shrgh1876]

Whether a person is single has nothing to do with how valuable their opinion is, or how much they care about you. People seeing a situation from the outside sometimes have a clearer view than married ppl.with knee jerk reactions based on their own experiences

[@Shelly825]

That's EXACTLY what happened to me and my brother! Lesson learned!!

[@trish8321]

"But suppose you dying in the marriage"... that got to me

[@NathanSmutz]

You sufferin'; you ain't dieing; and you certainly ain't dead. Go to a doctor, not a funeral parlor.

[@jg-yp5he]

Exactly Nathan. I think Steve is conscious of his past divorces and so is twisting the very meaning of the biblical words. Doesn't change the fact that divorce is wrong.

[@kholofelom6308]

Divorce is not wrong. It's even allowed in that very same Bible

[@323azteca]

She is so differently pretty!

[@sniperbullet6453]

Steve, although a comedian, gives amazing advice

[@josuekamokokalunga9989]

NOOOOOOOOOOOO

[@sleepy-peepy]

If somebody asks your opinion you should give it to them. As a woman, I’ve been in too many situations where I didn’t say what I wanted because I was trying to be “supportive” and then the relationship ends badly and they’re like “Well why didn’t you say anything?!”

[@ebonyiiis]

Staying out of married people business is good up to a point. I have married friends who at times ask me for advice and while I would never tell someone to leave their spouse, I do give my opinion. It sounds like her friend is at a point where I can't let my emotions drive, I need a sound board and if someone is seeking that help, give it to them. And still be there even if they don't take your advice.

[@salvation551]

she is so sweet.....

[@julianacheriza1575]

Rule number one when you’re female talking to another female about her relationship never ever tell her what to do you can give your opinion but never tell her what to do it will always slap you in the face

[@josuekamokokalunga9989]

And a woman choosing a husband, or accepting the choice of a husband, should be real careful what she's doing and especially in these days. A man should think and pray before he chooses a wife And a woman choosing a husband, or accepting the choice of a husband, should be real careful what she's doing and especially in these days. A man should think and pray before he chooses a wife. And we find that if a man prayed and a woman prayed over the matter, not just look at a pretty set of eyes, or big strong shoulders, or such as that, or some other worldly affection, but would look first to God and say, "God, is this Your plan?" And if we would study what we were doing when we were going to get married, when we choose our wife or husband, if we'd study it over... A man should pray earnestly, for he could ruin his entire life. Remember the vow is "Until death do we part." And he could ruin his life by making the wrong choice.

[@teachersalha9124]

I luv her smile 😃

[@sandrar.morales9583]

Yup... Id say "do what feels right, dont worry bout what other ppl will say... Do what you feel in ur heart is what u want to do" that's usually the way I live my life. Sometimes its a good choice other times I fall on my face and cry but that way I know I did my best at what I wanted for me.

[@josuekamokokalunga9989]

There's another choice that we have in life. That's a life's companion. A young man or a young woman, stepping out on life has a--has been given a right to make a choice. The young man chooses, the young woman has a right to accept or reject it, but it's still a choice on both sides; both man and woman, they have a right to choice

[@soulstrength]

Amen Steve....absolutely great advice.

[@josuekamokokalunga9989]

What???? NOOOOOOO NOOOOOO SOME ADVICE SOUND GOOD TO THE EAR BUT DEATH IS BEHIND IT. You want to hear what pleases you to hear however is it the WORD OF GOD? When a man chooses a certain girl out of a family, he must not rely upon beauty, for beauty is deceiving, and beauty, modern worldly beauty is of the devil. Marriage is honorable, but it should be entered prayerfully and reverently. And genuine love for that woman will bind you together forever. The reason you have so many scruples in the marriage, is because you go out and see some girl with pretty brown eyes, or blue eyes, or something like that, some pretty figure, and you fall for her. First time she has her first baby them teeth comes out, and she gets wrinkled and old, and then you want to kick her out. You'd better pray hard before you marry that girl. I don't care how pretty she is: same thing to a man. Now, it's a serious thing when we go to choose a wife. A man... For the vows here is until death do we part. That's how we should keep it. And you take that vow before God that only death will separate you. And a woman choosing a husband, or accepting the choice of a husband, should be real careful what she's doing and especially in these days. A man should think and pray before he chooses a wife. DIVORCE IS A CURSE. MOST OF PEOPLE WILL MISS HEAVEN CAUSE OF THIS

[@JuanitaMichelle]

Girl ain’t nothing you can say that will help her decide. Say whatever you feel. She gone do what she want anyway.

[@mandyg5747]

Absolutely true. Friends often dump their problems on us so that they can feel better then we are left worrying about them for months. A friend that I haven't seen for 10 months actually told me that. I can't deal with it as I am single and trying to heal my own health and have my own problems to deal with ALONE. I think it's just selfishness. ..they don't actually want to sort anything out just moan. When I see her again I will tell her to start a journal or go and talk about it with our other friend who just loves to dissect everyone's private business.

[@mandyg5747]

@Transformation Certainly isn't! I have recently done a "friend" audit because I tend to attract needy people. I have no problem helping anyone out but those who won't even try to help themselves are a waste of my energy. Of course I can't tell them that, so just letting them drift by. They will blame it on my illness but frankly my health is improving rapidly without their dead weight. Sad to come to this after 54 years it's time to be my own best friend. We Empaths need to be stronger! Take care of you and God bless.

[@josuekamokokalunga9989]

A man in his right mind that's planning a future, that he should choose that wife very careful; be careful what you're doing And a woman choosing a husband, or accepting the choice of a husband, should be real careful what she's doing and especially in these days. A man should think and pray before he chooses a wife And we find that if a man prayed and a woman prayed over the matter, not just look at a pretty set of eyes, or big strong shoulders, or such as that, or some other worldly affection, but would look first to God and say, "God, is this Your plan?" And if we would study what we were doing when we were going to get married, when we choose our wife or husband, if we'd study it over... A man should pray earnestly, for he could ruin his entire life. Remember the vow is "Until death do we part." And he could ruin his life by making the wrong choice But if he knows what he's making the wrong choice and is marrying a woman that isn't fit to be his wife, and he does it anyhow, then it's his fault. If the woman takes a husband and knows that he's not fit to be a husband to you, then that's your own fault after you know what's right and wrong. So you shouldn't do it until you thoroughly pray through

[@peggyprovost8028]

The only answer is I love you and whatever you decide I will support you with whatever decision you make !!!!

[@naledievelyn6872]

I love Steve's advice, thank you. And that lady looks gorgeous.

[@josuekamokokalunga9989]

When you are in the same situation as a divorcer oviously you will support the idea however DIVORCE IS A CURSE SERIOUS CURSE TO YOU AND THE KIDS. Marriage need to be entered prayerfully others you will ruin your entire life. Marriage is honorable, but it should be entered prayerfully and reverently. And genuine love for that woman will bind you together forever

[@naledievelyn6872]

@@josuekamokokalunga9989 I agree that people need to pray first before engaging in marriage , and wait for His lead as to who they are to marry. However, not everyone prays and faithfully waits His respond, and even when He's responded. We tend to believe otherwise because we might be doubtful. I don't judge anyone who's ever been divorced, and I will not Ever Allow myself to do that. But it you feel it's what should you do, then by all means. I've experienced the grace of God in ways I never could have imagine. So each person needs to workout their own salvation, and should have their own personal relationship with God where a third party is not involved. God is relational, He understands and loves mankind way more than our minds could ever comprehend. Shalom.

[@bikeconnectionbmx]

Steve is right my best friend support me in my decision with my girlfriend that I've had problems with

[@indigobeauty1]

If he cheating or beating you up ...leave!! Almost everything else can be worked through.

[@victoriasograteful3405]

My thoughts exactly!

[@josuekamokokalunga9989]

A man in his right mind that's planning a future, that he should choose that wife very careful; be careful what you're doing And a woman choosing a husband, or accepting the choice of a husband, should be real careful what she's doing and especially in these days. A man should think and pray before he chooses a wife And we find that if a man prayed and a woman prayed over the matter, not just look at a pretty set of eyes, or big strong shoulders, or such as that, or some other worldly affection, but would look first to God and say, "God, is this Your plan?"

[@josuekamokokalunga9989]

But if he knows what he's making the wrong choice and is marrying a woman that isn't fit to be his wife, and he does it anyhow, then it's his fault. If the woman takes a husband and knows that he's not fit to be a husband to you, then that's your own fault after you know what's right and wrong. So you shouldn't do it until you thoroughly pray through" A man in his right mind that's planning a future, that he should choose that wife very careful; be careful what you're doing" And a woman choosing a husband, or accepting the choice of a husband, should be real careful what she's doing and especially in these days. A man should think and pray before he chooses a wife And we find that if a man prayed and a woman prayed over the matter, not just look at a pretty set of eyes, or big strong shoulders, or such as that, or some other worldly affection, but would look first to God and say, "God, is this Your plan?" And if we would study what we were doing when we were going to get married, when we choose our wife or husband, if we'd study it over... A man should pray earnestly, for he could ruin his entire life. Remember the vow is "Until death do we part." And he could ruin his life by making the wrong choice

[@sammierose1150]

Well, how about she just gives her friend “the advice” Steve just gave? Sounded like pretty good advice to me 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@j6282]

🤷‍♂️

[@josuekamokokalunga9989]

Nooooo it's her own fault ....marriage is a sacred thing and need to be entrée prayerfully. The reason you have so many scruples in the marriage, is because you go out and see some girl with pretty brown eyes, or blue eyes, or something like that, some pretty figure, and you fall for her. First time she has her first baby them teeth comes out, and she gets wrinkled and old, and then you want to kick her out There's another choice that we have in life. That's a life's companion. A young man or a young woman, stepping out on life has a--has been given a right to make a choice. The young man chooses, the young woman has a right to accept or reject it, but it's still a choice on both sides; both man and woman, they have a right to choice

[@jewelwhite2832]

Stay on the PORCH it's none of your BUSINESS and have yourself several glasses of lemonade!🙆🙆🙆🙆🙆🙆🙆

[@Shiddy]

Re-uploaded this video! ama wait for the next! No hate thou!

[@DhaGhost619]

Steve looking like a rich hobo with that beard, giving out good advice.

[@TosingerT]

I know right

[@calmserenity890]

hahahaha you ve made my day

[@MsRae-ev9hs]

People make bad relationship choices ALL THE TIME!!! As a friend the only thing you can REALLY do is be VERY emotionally and otherwise supportive of her friend no matter what she decides. Men are not loyal no matter how loyal you are to them.

[@acharich]

I was waiting to see what Steve's response would be to that with his own experiences & 1:14.. 👀👀👀 Whoa..! 🤯 - @Acharich

[@TuanTran-wc1oj]

2:47 does this remind yall something??

[@nikkinyokabi6111]

I see you 😅😅

[@CJ_Pharaoh]

I can see now why this video was originally pulled

[@justkyllie6658]

She's soooo beautiful 😍😍😍

[@the_jonathan_o]

I think this is the second time they uploaded this.

[@fabled8546]

Love these vids

[@bhkfdbfb]

I like what he was saying about people in Kentucky that's so true

[@sheadabomb1157]

You better Preach ....

[@77iam97]

Great advice Steve good stuff Brother

[@josuekamokokalunga9989]

NOOOOO NOOOOOO And if we would study what we were doing when we were going to get married, when we choose our wife or husband, if we'd study it over... A man should pray earnestly, for he could ruin his entire life. Remember the vow is "Until death do we part." And he could ruin his life by making the wrong choice. But if he knows what he's making the wrong choice and is marrying a woman that isn't fit to be his wife, and he does it anyhow, then it's his fault. If the woman takes a husband and knows that he's not fit to be a husband to you, then that's your own fault after you know what's right and wrong. So you shouldn't do it until you thoroughly pray through. The kind of a woman that a man would choose will reflect his ambition and his character. If a man chooses the wrong woman, it reflects his character. And what he ties himself to shows truly what's in him. A woman reflects what's in the man when he chooses her for wife. It shows what's down in him. No matter what he says outside, watch what he marries. A man in his right mind that's planning a future, that he should choose that wife very careful; be careful what you're doing And a woman choosing a husband, or accepting the choice of a husband, should be real careful what she's doing and especially in these days. A man should think and pray before he chooses a wife And we find that if a man prayed and a woman prayed over the matter, not just look at a pretty set of eyes, or big strong shoulders, or such as that, or some other worldly affection, but would look first to God and say, "God, is this Your plan?"

[@77iam97]

@@josuekamokokalunga9989 that’s a book you wrote

[@hotmama298]

Even if the friend asked for her opinion, I still wouldn't say it. I would just tell her to pray about her decision and I as her friend will help her reach her decision on her own.

[@pamelahartfield7575]

I totally disagree with everything Steve Harvey is saying!!!(smh). This woman is not trying to get into her friend's marriage on purpose to create problems. Her married friend needs someone to talk to and wants her advice. That is Okay to want one, two, or three relatives/friends advice or opinion, especially when wife and husband are not going through marriage counseling 💍. Just make sure it is not just anybody you are talking to. Haters, loners, enemies, and just anybody who doesn't have a genuine love for you and don't want to see anything good happen to you anyhow!

[@PHE-nomenon]

At first, I completely agreed with you 100% after some thought, I agree with Steve. That is something this woman need to figure out on her own. Asking different people can easily cloud her decision. With a clear head, she needs to really sit and think about her life without all the voices and opinions of other in her head. It's something she needs to figure out on her own.

[@thehonestman2288]

Pamela Hartfield So if she listens to all those people, whose advice should she take?

[@jpat989]

Her friend makes it her business.

[@lauvonfr9222]

I understand what you're saying and the intentions are positive when it comes from caring people. Trust and believe she knows what to do but not ready to make a move out of fear or insecurity. If she listens to other people and leave, she'll blame them for the outcome. Some people's tolerance levels are very high for foolishness.

[@pamelahartfield7575]

@@jpat989 The dark skinned black woman is not trying to make that woman's marriage her business! Listen to the video again. The friend wants her advice, but she doesn't know what to say.

[@madgiemadgie9128]

I love Steve but he is only saying this for obvious reasons. And he loves quoting the Bible, which is good, but only the Scriptures that suit his position. We all love the " hippie" Jesus we create for ourselves. We don't like the Jesus that said " sin no more" or " bear a cross" or turned over tables and whipped the money changers with a cord! Oh no, He's asking too much.😕

[@PeaceBeStill-]

💯

[@mandyg5747]

True the only scriptural reason for divorce is adultery so I tried to make it work with my violent husband until the police made me leave! Religious friends told me that God wanted me to go back to my husband but I said No God wants me to stay alive! Sometimes we marry people who are ungodly no matter how good they profess to be so it's Ok to leave the marriage. Not ok to remarry unless adultery has been committed but it is so hard. I think now that he was most likely having an affair. We make bad choices and God has to rescue us! I know He loves me despite my poor choices and He understands why i made them. Humans often don't.

[@PeaceBeStill-]

@Transformation That's why you don't marry abusive people... Or why you shouldn't marry so quickly

[@josuekamokokalunga9989]

Now, you can't have all things. There might be one girl that's real pretty, and the other girl maybe she's a--her statue looks better than this one. And you might have to sacrifice one for the other. But if she's not the statue of a lady, of a woman, and she's... I don't care whether she's pretty or not, you'd better look at her character, whether she's pretty or not pretty" If a Christian would choose a wife, he ought to choose a genuine borned again woman. Regardless of what she looks like, it's what she is what makes her. And then again, that reflects his own godly character and reflects what's in his mind and what's going to be in the future, for his family will be raised by such a woman, for the future plans for his home" But you know, you have to plan, and look, and pray when you're choosing. For we see by this, the Word of promise, she, the bride that a man would choose is going to reflect his character. It reflects what's in hi One chose a beautiful girl; the other one chose character. Now, that's the only way you can choose. First look for character, and then if you love her, fine When a man chooses a certain girl out of a family, he must not rely upon beauty, for beauty is deceiving, and beauty, modern worldly beauty is of the devil. DIVORCE IS A CURSE, TO YOU AND THE KIDS . Marriage need to be entered prayefully and after you know that you couldn't marry the person and you did it anyhow it's your fault and you have to stay in it .It's requires God's mercy to intervene.

[@genesisjimenez5481]

personally if you judge my choice in mate it’s a direct insult towards me.

[@jaypeia264]

Men don't live like that....they may not say anything to other men....but they will take leftovers. Girlfriend is seek advice...nothing wrong with exploring pro's and con's with her...but let her make her own decision! She's the one who has to live with it.

[@boogie3121]

STEVEEEE I LOVE YOU

[@josuekamokokalunga9989]

A man in his right mind that's planning a future, that he should choose that wife very careful; be careful what you're doing And a woman choosing a husband, or accepting the choice of a husband, should be real careful what she's doing and especially in these days. A man should think and pray before he chooses a wife And we find that if a man prayed and a woman prayed over the matter, not just look at a pretty set of eyes, or big strong shoulders, or such as that, or some other worldly affection, but would look first to God and say, "God, is this Your plan?" And if we would study what we were doing when we were going to get married, when we choose our wife or husband, if we'd study it over... A man should pray earnestly, for he could ruin his entire life. Remember the vow is "Until death do we part." And he could ruin his life by making the wrong choice But if he knows what he's making the wrong choice and is marrying a woman that isn't fit to be his wife, and he does it anyhow, then it's his fault. If the woman takes a husband and knows that he's not fit to be a husband to you, then that's your own fault after you know what's right and wrong. So you shouldn't do it until you thoroughly pray through

[@katka8222]

Where i can see full episode?

[@charntew2247]

Good advice!

[@josuekamokokalunga9989]

But if he knows what he's making the wrong choice and is marrying a woman that isn't fit to be his wife, and he does it anyhow, then it's his fault. If the woman takes a husband and knows that he's not fit to be a husband to you, then that's your own fault after you know what's right and wrong. So you shouldn't do it until you thoroughly pray through.

[@mahaal-zaiem5677]

I don't think she's talking about her friend... Her friend's situation is hers... They're the same person

[@olakunleolafisoye8433]

Love the way she talks though

[@justlatasha2401]

I know that's right...

[@MrsPetal]

That's not what that means, marriage isn't to be taken lightly. I hate that line death do you part. 🙄😶😒😂😂

[@mickalouis4561]

I love watching Steve show. I learn alot. He always give good advice. Alot people don't realize that sometime you in a marriage but you already departed from that marriage. The way one is treating the other partner. You already died along time ago. As a Christian I don't judge people as the bible said. But i always told people there's no scripture in the bible that say for you yo stay in a marriage that killing you. Sometime is not about you can't divorce your partner or don't divorce as the bible say. It is about saving your life from dying and going to hell. Not every marriages God approved. When you put yourself in a relationship or marriage without asking God direction. Later on we pay the consequences. We chose somebody that was not on God plan for your life. He said I know the plans I have for you" declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not tk harm you, plans to give you hope and future. I will never stay in a marriage that destroys my life period. I will not let myself be a victim im a marriage.

[@josuekamokokalunga9989]

A man in his right mind that's planning a future, that he should choose that wife very careful; be careful what you're doing And a woman choosing a husband, or accepting the choice of a husband, should be real careful what she's doing and especially in these days. A man should think and pray before he chooses a wife And we find that if a man prayed and a woman prayed over the matter, not just look at a pretty set of eyes, or big strong shoulders, or such as that, or some other worldly affection, but would look first to God and say, "God, is this Your plan?" And if we would study what we were doing when we were going to get married, when we choose our wife or husband, if we'd study it over... A man should pray earnestly, for he could ruin his entire life. Remember the vow is "Until death do we part." And he could ruin his life by making the wrong choice

[@liliancollins3627]

Just pray 🙏

[@Lukether]

I mean this is simply. Tell her the truth of how you really feel of this situation. If she doesn’t like/ use your perspective of this situation then mind your business. 🤷🏽‍♂️

[@mandyg5747]

Sadly telling your friend how you feel about her husband treating her badly does NOT work. My friend continually told me all about her husband and how mean he was. They are Christian so I thought she would appreciate the Bible's view on the matter. Nope! She defended him saying he was a good Christian man. She just wanted to dump all her upset on me and then she would go away feeling better and put up with more crap whilst leaving me to worry for months. I haven't seen her for 10 months. She tries for us to meet up in the holidays but is always ill. As a single person dealing with ill health and my own problems I don't need to be around weak needy people who do not try to sort out their own issues.

[@rimiaya2287]

@@mandyg5747 good thing to do

[@peridozq9390]

The worst partners are the ones who keep hammering on the “vows”, hoping it will save them from being left cuz they know they suck. For better or worse no matter what I do to you cuz I got you by the vows.

[@josuekamokokalunga9989]

A man in his right mind that's planning a future, that he should choose that wife very careful; be careful what you're doing And a woman choosing a husband, or accepting the choice of a husband, should be real careful what she's doing and especially in these days. A man should think and pray before he chooses a wife And we find that if a man prayed and a woman prayed over the matter, not just look at a pretty set of eyes, or big strong shoulders, or such as that, or some other worldly affection, but would look first to God and say, "God, is this Your plan?" And if we would study what we were doing when we were going to get married, when we choose our wife or husband, if we'd study it over... A man should pray earnestly, for he could ruin his entire life. Remember the vow is "Until death do we part." And he could ruin his life by making the wrong choice But if he knows what he's making the wrong choice and is marrying a woman that isn't fit to be his wife, and he does it anyhow, then it's his fault. If the woman takes a husband and knows that he's not fit to be a husband to you, then that's your own fault after you know what's right and wrong. So you shouldn't do it until you thoroughly pray through

[@clintonadinkrah]

Most men are really good at that. Maybe a few of his friends might know his girlfriend or wife's name,that's it.Women aren't like that,she should mind her business though.

[@Gina-Montana]

That’s a lie 😂 my husband works with mostly men and even says that *a lot* of men (more of the men he works with than the women) can be some of the most nosy, tea-spilling, back-stabbing folks you ever laid eyes on. They just go ~about~ it differently when you find one like that. But, I do agree with you whether male friend or female friend, mind ya business or you’ll be friendless.

[@mzstacystacks3168]

“Feeling like dying” and actually dying are totally two separate things...your physical body is still on Earth and your marriage valves are still to be upheld. If you feel like you’re “dying in the marriage” seek professional help and simply talk to your partner

[@goldengirl617]

Reena I agree with you to a curtain extent if you have tried all the talks and seeking professional help to no avail then what's the point in staying in the relationship I can be unhappy by myself..

[@MegaCadette55]

well, amen🎯🙌💯

[@josuekamokokalunga9989]

A man in his right mind that's planning a future, that he should choose that wife very careful; be careful what you're doing And a woman choosing a husband, or accepting the choice of a husband, should be real careful what she's doing and especially in these days. A man should think and pray before he chooses a wife And we find that if a man prayed and a woman prayed over the matter, not just look at a pretty set of eyes, or big strong shoulders, or such as that, or some other worldly affection, but would look first to God and say, "God, is this Your plan?" And if we would study what we were doing when we were going to get married, when we choose our wife or husband, if we'd study it over... A man should pray earnestly, for he could ruin his entire life. Remember the vow is "Until death do we part." And he could ruin his life by making the wrong choice But if he knows what he's making the wrong choice and is marrying a woman that isn't fit to be his wife, and he does it anyhow, then it's his fault. If the woman takes a husband and knows that he's not fit to be a husband to you, then that's your own fault after you know what's right and wrong. So you shouldn't do it until you thoroughly pray through

[@jansley4]

Steve is right that she shouldn't give her married friend advice, but at the same time, her married friend is asking for advice. Me personally, I only tell married people what the Bible says about love, marriage, divorce, and forgiveness etc. I know God is right so I hand it over to him when married people ask me for advice.

[@Christian80806]

Love is dying to self

[@josuekamokokalunga9989]

A man in his right mind that's planning a future, that he should choose that wife very careful; be careful what you're doing And a woman choosing a husband, or accepting the choice of a husband, should be real careful what she's doing and especially in these days. A man should think and pray before he chooses a wife And we find that if a man prayed and a woman prayed over the matter, not just look at a pretty set of eyes, or big strong shoulders, or such as that, or some other worldly affection, but would look first to God and say, "God, is this Your plan?" And if we would study what we were doing when we were going to get married, when we choose our wife or husband, if we'd study it over... A man should pray earnestly, for he could ruin his entire life. Remember the vow is "Until death do we part." And he could ruin his life by making the wrong choice But if he knows what he's making the wrong choice and is marrying a woman that isn't fit to be his wife, and he does it anyhow, then it's his fault. If the woman takes a husband and knows that he's not fit to be a husband to you, then that's your own fault after you know what's right and wrong. So you shouldn't do it until you thoroughly pray through

[@Mohammedaagh]

Uncle Steve is always right!

[@josuekamokokalunga9989]

A man in his right mind that's planning a future, that he should choose that wife very careful; be careful what you're doing And a woman choosing a husband, or accepting the choice of a husband, should be real careful what she's doing and especially in these days. A man should think and pray before he chooses a wife And we find that if a man prayed and a woman prayed over the matter, not just look at a pretty set of eyes, or big strong shoulders, or such as that, or some other worldly affection, but would look first to God and say, "God, is this Your plan?" And if we would study what we were doing when we were going to get married, when we choose our wife or husband, if we'd study it over... A man should pray earnestly, for he could ruin his entire life. Remember the vow is "Until death do we part." And he could ruin his life by making the wrong choice But if he knows what he's making the wrong choice and is marrying a woman that isn't fit to be his wife, and he does it anyhow, then it's his fault. If the woman takes a husband and knows that he's not fit to be a husband to you, then that's your own fault after you know what's right and wrong. So you shouldn't do it until you thoroughly pray through

[@christineeldridge6670]

STEVE HARVEY... MARRIAGE?. I HAVE NEVER MARRIED. AT THE RIPE OLD AGE OF 62. 🤓😲. YOU ARE THE BEST IN THE WEST. ADVICE ON HOW TO HANDLE "MARRIAGE "... YOU HAVE EXPERTISE AND I TRULY ADMIRE YOUR ADVICE.. STEVE HARVEY.. I AM SEEING YOU AS OUR NORTH STAR..🤗😎

[@josuekamokokalunga9989]

A man in his right mind that's planning a future, that he should choose that wife very careful; be careful what you're doing And a woman choosing a husband, or accepting the choice of a husband, should be real careful what she's doing and especially in these days. A man should think and pray before he chooses a wife And we find that if a man prayed and a woman prayed over the matter, not just look at a pretty set of eyes, or big strong shoulders, or such as that, or some other worldly affection, but would look first to God and say, "God, is this Your plan?" And if we would study what we were doing when we were going to get married, when we choose our wife or husband, if we'd study it over... A man should pray earnestly, for he could ruin his entire life. Remember the vow is "Until death do we part." And he could ruin his life by making the wrong choice But if he knows what he's making the wrong choice and is marrying a woman that isn't fit to be his wife, and he does it anyhow, then it's his fault. If the woman takes a husband and knows that he's not fit to be a husband to you, then that's your own fault after you know what's right and wrong. So you shouldn't do it until you thoroughly pray through

[@ES92-]

ReUpload ?

[@josuekamokokalunga9989]

This point Steve is wrong wrong wrong ! When you meet the wrong person it's your fault after you knew or had plenty time to pray about it. Marriage need to be entered prayerfully because you can ruin your entire life.

[@ramseyabsessien8990]

Now Steve is misinterpreting Bible

[@MegaCadette55]

lol Christians been doing that. it's sad. they twist the word of God to fit their agenda. smh

[@Lovelyminidonuts]

AY F death is only physical no matter how bad you feel mentally you are still alive. 😂 why people have to make things deeper than what they truly are. We all know what the Bible meant by death so why even try to make an assumption 😂🤷🏾‍♀️😂

[@PeaceBeStill-]

@@Lovelyminidonuts exactly

[@TiyaBabiiee]

CHASS FREEMAN exactly 😂. People will twist anything to try and justify themselves / their situation

[@mandyg5747]

@AY F Actually Apostle Paul said that the wages of sin is death. Romans 6 vs 23...and it is literal. We none of us can live forever because we are Adams offspring. The punishment for disobedience was death and that's why we all die. Romans 5 vs 12 Because of Jesus we have the same chance of life that Adam and Eve had and threw away. Otherwise there would be no need for Jesus ransom sacrifice. That is what the Mosaic law and the sacrifices were all about showing that we need a Saviour. People do twist the Bible for their own ends but I haven't come across a scripture where death did not mean just that. I would be interested to read the passages if you could point some out to me though.

[@anthonyword6914]

Why the ppl that don't have a husband or wife, have the most advice? Sometimes as a friend, just be a support system. U can't give advice on something u haven't experienced.

[@josuekamokokalunga9989]

A man in his right mind that's planning a future, that he should choose that wife very careful; be careful what you're doing And a woman choosing a husband, or accepting the choice of a husband, should be real careful what she's doing and especially in these days. A man should think and pray before he chooses a wife And we find that if a man prayed and a woman prayed over the matter, not just look at a pretty set of eyes, or big strong shoulders, or such as that, or some other worldly affection, but would look first to God and say, "God, is this Your plan?" And if we would study what we were doing when we were going to get married, when we choose our wife or husband, if we'd study it over... A man should pray earnestly, for he could ruin his entire life. Remember the vow is "Until death do we part." And he could ruin his life by making the wrong choice But if he knows what he's making the wrong choice and is marrying a woman that isn't fit to be his wife, and he does it anyhow, then it's his fault. If the woman takes a husband and knows that he's not fit to be a husband to you, then that's your own fault after you know what's right and wrong. So you shouldn't do it until you thoroughly pray through

[@25803]

wow.

[@fancygal444]

But why should she mind her business if he isn't good for her

[@donnabanks7656]

Because like Steve said, it can come back to bite her later either way. If she tells her to stay and doesn't work out she will blame her. If she tells her to leave and it doesn't work she will still get blamed.

[@IS33U]

Because sometimes people ask you for your opinion , advise, or the truth AND if it's not something they want to hear or doesn't work out- they can flip on you. Happened to me...told my cousin she was about to marry a convicted stalker...and she cut me off...been almost 5years and she acts like she doesn't know me. But she ASKED me what I thought/knew about this guy.

[@peridozq9390]

fancy gal Because if she doesn’t know he’s not good for her, her friend won’t be able to convince her.

[@leetheboss8538]

Nutn 2 do wit the friend it was her haha

[@AyoobElAbed]

Hwhat in the heell is that ? 1:34

[@profilnamn9657]

Interesting...sometimes Steve encourages a best friend giving the right advice to a woman.

[@andreasbiesenbach9947]

Love is a language only 2 person understand

[@geradcourtney9517]

First of all you're taking advice from a woman who is not married so she has no clue about the other side of the story about what really goes on she only hears one side of the story she has not heard the other side of the story and this is why relationships fall apart because everybody is out there telling only one part of the story

[@dowardwashington9958]

Stay out of married folks business sweetie!!!!! This can't go well. She's going to be mad either way. The worst thing you can do is either be the reason she went back to somebody she now can't stand/ left someone that she thinks about & misses all the time.

[@shawmou3493]

Beard!

[@briangode1381]

I have learned plenty in over 75 years not always sure just how to put in the right words I know on things what has worked or not for myself for you all some will never do as I have done say too much work it takes time to learn about others do your business earn dinero some quick or slow easy does it no two daze the same or even money wise tooo many want it over nite you must work for things as in my 32years relations with a very nice senorita always at first you don’t know each other it take time to learn not many senoritas will contact senors but wait to hear from them we two are different mail or call each other never said I know it all have all the answers but I know plenty that has worked or not for me me did in 32 years have miss right well still fine but not seen each other in maybe 20months pandemic illness cause I live in nursing home no visitors no one goes out as we use to once in a while for afternoons when next no one knows or what to do say tho badly I need new shoes none as of now thank you

[@josuekamokokalunga9989]

But if he knows what he's making the wrong choice and is marrying a woman that isn't fit to be his wife, and he does it anyhow, then it's his fault. If the woman takes a husband and knows that he's not fit to be a husband to you, then that's your own fault after you know what's right and wrong. So you shouldn't do it until you thoroughly pray through. A man in his right mind that's planning a future, that he should choose that wife very careful; be careful what you're doing And a woman choosing a husband, or accepting the choice of a husband, should be real careful what she's doing and especially in these days. A man should think and pray before he chooses a wife And we find that if a man prayed and a woman prayed over the matter, not just look at a pretty set of eyes, or big strong shoulders, or such as that, or some other worldly affection, but would look first to God and say, "God, is this Your plan?" And if we would study what we were doing when we were going to get married, when we choose our wife or husband, if we'd study it over... A man should pray earnestly, for he could ruin his entire life. Remember the vow is "Until death do we part." And he could ruin his life by making the wrong choice But if he knows what he's making the wrong choice and is marrying a woman that isn't fit to be his wife, and he does it anyhow, then it's his fault. If the woman takes a husband and knows that he's not fit to be a husband to you, then that's your own fault after you know what's right and wrong. So you shouldn't do it until you thoroughly pray through.

[@angelac7837]

Bad advise. She should say that's what counseling is for😞. That's why he has 2 divorces

[@justhereyeah1112]

The Bible says to also try before you part, adultery is the only reason you can leave

[@josuekamokokalunga9989]

A man in his right mind that's planning a future, that he should choose that wife very careful; be careful what you're doing And a woman choosing a husband, or accepting the choice of a husband, should be real careful what she's doing and especially in these days. A man should think and pray before he chooses a wife And we find that if a man prayed and a woman prayed over the matter, not just look at a pretty set of eyes, or big strong shoulders, or such as that, or some other worldly affection, but would look first to God and say, "God, is this Your plan?" And if we would study what we were doing when we were going to get married, when we choose our wife or husband, if we'd study it over... A man should pray earnestly, for he could ruin his entire life. Remember the vow is "Until death do we part." And he could ruin his life by making the wrong choice But if he knows what he's making the wrong choice and is marrying a woman that isn't fit to be his wife, and he does it anyhow, then it's his fault. If the woman takes a husband and knows that he's not fit to be a husband to you, then that's your own fault after you know what's right and wrong. So you shouldn't do it until you thoroughly pray through

[@josuekamokokalunga9989]

The bible never spoke about a woman to divorce never never

[@justhereyeah1112]

@@josuekamokokalunga9989 yes it does

[@justhereyeah1112]

@@josuekamokokalunga9989 good point, but there are other things that you can continue to work on, the Bible is very clear about adultery being the only reason you can divorce. It clearly says that God hates divorce and if any man marries another man’s wife he is an adulterer and vise versa

[@louiegonzales1705]

If he's not beating hey or cheating on her they should work it out as a family

[@tianamiller6820]

Even though he doesn't take care of his child loool y'all are something else

[@PHE-nomenon]

Emotional abuse exists.

[@jpat989]

That is not enough to stay married. He is not giving her what she wants. He is not the best father either. I don't think you should live miserable.

[@PHE-nomenon]

@@peridozq9390 yes, which is a form of emotional abuse but, yes.

[@stephaniephifer4776]

Mind your business and stay out of married folks business...........#goodoneSteve

[@edarusabdullahi4855]

Hey Steve My name Eddie I’m po*n addict. I’m trying to quit for two year. I relapse three to four times in week. I stand were i start plz help me. I watching your show hey Steve over three years now. I see talking about. Plz plz help me.

[@jaaptendijk7192]

Good luck brotherman

[@edarusabdullahi4855]

Thanks

[@56348u]

Your biggest problem is someone else’s problem?

[@francemike4671]

Barbecue man behind her back

[@markmadonia2867]

Let her make the decision alone THEN support her!

[@56348u]

This is just a person who likes sticking her nose in other people's business under the guise of caring.

[@NathanSmutz]

Boo on the "dieing in your marriage" bit. People read something in the Bible they don't like; they decide it's a "metaphor." You do that with your wedding vows; you should have been honest when you made them in the first place.

[@josuekamokokalunga9989]

A man in his right mind that's planning a future, that he should choose that wife very careful; be careful what you're doing And a woman choosing a husband, or accepting the choice of a husband, should be real careful what she's doing and especially in these days. A man should think and pray before he chooses a wife And we find that if a man prayed and a woman prayed over the matter, not just look at a pretty set of eyes, or big strong shoulders, or such as that, or some other worldly affection, but would look first to God and say, "God, is this Your plan?" And if we would study what we were doing when we were going to get married, when we choose our wife or husband, if we'd study it over... A man should pray earnestly, for he could ruin his entire life. Remember the vow is "Until death do we part." And he could ruin his life by making the wrong choice But if he knows what he's making the wrong choice and is marrying a woman that isn't fit to be his wife, and he does it anyhow, then it's his fault. If the woman takes a husband and knows that he's not fit to be a husband to you, then that's your own fault after you know what's right and wrong. So you shouldn't do it until you thoroughly pray through

[@ceedabulls]

Steve always twisting the bible's words and these people believe it like Steve's a "god" smh

[@josuekamokokalunga9989]

A man in his right mind that's planning a future, that he should choose that wife very careful; be careful what you're doing And a woman choosing a husband, or accepting the choice of a husband, should be real careful what she's doing and especially in these days. A man should think and pray before he chooses a wife And we find that if a man prayed and a woman prayed over the matter, not just look at a pretty set of eyes, or big strong shoulders, or such as that, or some other worldly affection, but would look first to God and say, "God, is this Your plan?"

[@LeikkLeikk]

First? Edit* Stay out of it.

[@terminatordfghfdg]

where travis dou

[@kayelatty1244]

Lmao lol Dwl. girl you have no opinion stay out of married people business.

[@Gracie92323]

You should MYOB..

[@kitthecat6543]

I disagree with Steve....

[@xheartiiz]

Mind your business lady!!!

[@RBLong0928]

Steve, that's not what the bible says.

[@Nikolaiwww]

Reupload

[@ameno0o]

Christianity is what you what it to be

[@RBLong0928]

Steve, you're twisting the word of God. There is only one acceptable thing to the Lord for divorce. Adultry. Even then it would be best to try to work it out.

[@criminal_unmasked5430]

Girl you better tell.

[@thecurator2626]

Great advice