High Quality Women: How To Meet Them

[@alexandergrace5350]

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[@davidjaparidze6737]

hey man, can you make a video where you discuss what actually makes a woman "quality" vs "non-quality" and there is this huge grey area in between too.thanks!

[@alexandergrace5350]

@@davidjaparidze6737 Check out my video on the 10 characteristics of a high quality woman

[@steef4000000]

Can you do a breakdown on what makes men high quality vs what makes woman high quality

[@iraklimgeladze5223]

dude i dont have much money, can i watch your this videos free?

[@TheDoomWizard]

I responded with a follow up video on my channel.

[@sharpshooter012345]

I wait for them to approach me, works great every 4 to 8 years.

[@varunsrivastava4242]

I laughed more than i should on this

[@MB-tu4hu]

§hąřpśhøõțëŕ • 40 years ago (edited) 😂😂😂

[@Fudzbo]

I'm straight and I only get approached by gay guys. Living is fun when your life is a joke!

[@buhlembande8421]

@@Fudzbo Same bro . . . Hey at least its a sign we good looking , there's a silver lining lol

[@Fudzbo]

@@buhlembande8421 I'll still be alone forever, but at least I'm good looking to somebody! Wheeee!

[@ThePixelPodcast]

To be honest I'd rather have 1 good woman instead of 100 low quality women

[@solarcry287]

Yeh I think 90% of guys think that way.

[@xXCaHeTeLxX]

I want that unicorn too -_-

[@Kyle_00]

quality over quantity for sure.

[@patrickstock8568]

Very true but that 1 high quality women I think its tougher to find than the 100 lower quality ones

[@MA-yu2ss]

@lonelee guilt over what?

[@Anonymous-md2qp]

Relationships were fun when I was younger. Now at age 35 all I’m concerned about is losing everything that I’ve worked so hard for. I’ve seen too many friends get their lives turned upside down from a bad breakup/divorce.

[@kendov288]

You can get married, if she is worth it - she will sign a prenup. If she had no ulterior motive (women RARELY do), she will sign. If she is not willing to sign it or throwing a tantrum, it is most likely a sign of her being after your money. Stay safe brother!

[@darthphantomius411]

@@kendov288 prenups mean Absolutely Nothing

[@talknight2]

@@darthphantomius411 Why?

[@Prototyp3m1nd]

@@talknight2 It's often argued that the couple aren't the same people they were when they originally signed it, that circumstances have changed too much, etc. They tend to only hold up if a few years into the marriage both renew it, and odds are if you need that renewal to still be safe you'll be hard pressed to get her to sign it. You should look into an irrevocable trust if you insist on getting married. It's complex, but a good lawyer can handle it and it will protect your assets. Better off just not to tie the knot, cause no agreement about property and possessions will save you from a domestic violence claim or worse.

[@dannyp8503]

Smart man

[@HenriZwols]

Next video: High quality friends: How to meet them

[@QuinnArgo]

Next video: I'd be much happier if I stopped seeing other people as a commodity and tried to build genuine relationships instead

[@RiotCyborg]

What kind of values and traits do u aspire to or are u proud of? Look for that in others and you’ll find ur self to be friends with them.

[@QuinnArgo]

@emulouspoint I think the fact that you refer to women as "females" can give you a start to introspect on why women tend to not want to deal with you and why you feel lonely

[@billbrasky8525]

As a huge introvert, yes PLEASE!

[@TheSuperappelflap]

@@RiotCyborg antimaterialism, nihilism, skepticism, honesty and intelligence. i guess i'll just let myself out now.

[@Abandoned2377]

It’s hard to hear women constantly talk about being nurturing when ive never experienced that in my entire life.

[@clos3869]

Yeah. Modern women are a far cry from nurturing.

[@xekis]

It's intangible, unprovable, and unfalsifiable. The perfect criteria for women to use to qualify themselves. Everything about the dude can be quantified though. Height, income, ab count.

[@davethepak]

Sounds like you need to meet the right women. Of course, this does not come to all women - each is different. That is the problem with blanket statements and generalizations. What do men (or you) bring to a relationship? Why should the role of the man or woman be any different? Are we basing on stereotypes of the stone age? A man who is afraid to be vulnerable will never see a nurturing woman. There are two types of vulnerability however - the one that comes from being afraid and weak - and the kind that comes from strength - in believing in who you are, and in taking the risk in sharing and letting someone else in. That is power. And, it is very attractive to women - a man who is strong enough, to be weak when he needs to.

[@jeaneljaylamputi2215]

@@davethepak true, pretty much. That's how I end up with a decent dentist student, though I broke it up because I was busy proving something to my father... Ehhh I don't know why I'm doing this to myself.

[@papi9305]

they want to be nurturing to the ideal male they have in mind, not men like most of us

[@diegotavel5872]

"Only women, children, and dogs are loved unconditionally. A man is only loved under the condition that he provide something."

[@bob995]

Exactly. Men love women,women love children, children love puppies

[@gracegracegraceee]

Lmao that's hilarious

[@anjo1726]

@ and God doesn't exist, we're screwed lol

[@13tuyuti]

@ good. Now I know I have an imaginary friend.

[@potatorekt7046]

bob puppies love man?

[@RonaldinhoPopper]

Interviewer: What do women contribute to a relationship? Girl: *Immediately looks to friend*

[@handsomeX]

Haha always. This is why these interviews are useless. Never EVER go on what a woman says. Study their actions.

[@itsgarrett822]

@@handsomeX And yet they both began speaking at precisely the same time before looking at one another. Dare I say, that's a sign of social independence from one another, not social dependence. They're not depending on one another to craft an answer. They're being courteous by considering the fact that the other person was speaking. That's politeness.

[@handsomeX]

@@itsgarrett822 Never go on what they say. Always observe their actions. Especially their actions towards you.

[@pauls4742]

Gotcha... crickets !

[@-Wreckanize-]

Group thinking. Women need to make sure their opinions and actions are in line with their community, or else they face being outcasted. It's a survival tactic for thousands of years. Women can't survive being alone and exiled, unlike men, who are strong enough to do so.

[@johnnyhshify]

When you get older, after university everyone drifts apart. A lot harder to make friends, even harder moving to to new country.

[@imadeyoureadthis1]

There's always hope.

[@anyapi987]

@@imadeyoureadthis1 moving to a new country was hard. In my case I dont know where to find high value man.

[@imadeyoureadthis1]

@@anyapi987 I don't know either, but I have meet women that are worth it. They are all taken tho. And all wanted family.

[@Alex-wx8be]

Hmmm not in my experience. In my experience I got to meet a lot more friends through work which employed graduates all over the country

[@kbzoon42]

Not necessarily bro. I had very few friends in my homeland, I decided to move to study a master's (being over 30) and now I have more friends than ever lol. So, there's always hope!.

[@PrinceRevolver]

Support and nurturing is very vague. If you fall on hard time or go through something physical and mental the woman has to be extremely high quality or have the utmost respect for you. Otherwise she's gonna bounce.

[@PrinceRevolver]

@@kvykimo I'll pass.

[@NPFfumbi]

kvykimo indelis the truly supportive women date scumbags

[@Hhhh22222-w]

If you have to show weakness for her to be supportive and nurturing, then there is something wrong with her

[@Ay_melegi]

Prince Revolver experienced this first hand. Had girlfriend of 9 months years back. Both thought we loved each other. Was going through a depressing point of time in life towards the end. Broke down on a call with her. Immediate breakup. Granted it was not at the peak in the relationship but still.

[@sdvten]

Women are looking for a project. Until they get tired of it and move on. Be married and have the man go through a hard time, being off work for a while. Then you will see just how "quality" the women really is. Usually it ends up with the women finding another guy and filing for divorce. Seen it many times myself.

[@manee2412]

It’s weird to date friends of friends, when things go wrong => DRAMA

[@gavinramchand7212]

That's what my concern is. Once a coworker (girl) introduced me to her best friend. I went on a handful of dates, realized I wasn't interested (very low quality woman) and it resulted in the two ending their relationship. I then found out that the coworker liked me lol, but drama still ensued. Since then I never tried to meet someone through my social circle. Maybe I can try again...maybe

[@psc93krp]

That's why this advice sounds good in theory, but is bad in practice. If it works out with the girl you meet through the social circle it's a success. If it doesn't, you will feel inclined to avoid interacting in that same group. The only good part about meeting through social circle is that the girl knows you're safe and won't put her in danger in any way. It's like cold approach and getting her on a date first to set the stage, only that it takes way less time.

[@dewnsie]

@@psc93krp what method do you recommend instead of meeting through social circles?

[@psc93krp]

@@dewnsie Maybe it just my personal experiences, but meeting through your friends ends up as a mess. Daygame is one way, but requires a lot of personal effort. Another way would be through trying new activities where women go: dance classes for example.

[@rn387]

That’s usually in low quality circles cuz if drama does occur then they are childish people so you’d have to find high quality friends and be high quality yourself to get a high quality circle. Good luck!

[@osse1n]

*The truth is, the digitisation has separated people.* We are not dependant on each other, doing everything online, thus"not needing" social circle. That is exactly how loneliness has increased the last decade.

[@PrinceRevolver]

If you can't stand to be alone you have no chance with someone else when relationships end.

[@CrazyCircles1]

@@Macheako But only in RL, because online the image is pristine, almost untouchable. But once we meet in RL that image starts to crumble. So people tend to avoid those occasions more often. Perfected VR-Technology will cause a major crisis IF a super-intelligent AI hasn't taken over yet.

[@TheThingIs415]

Prince Revolver „lonely“ is not the same as „alone“.

[@CrazyCircles1]

@Andrew Cox I agree that we do not know much about our brains. But what does that have to do with AI? We do not need to know everything about our brain, there's almost no correlation. If we knew everything about our brain we wouldn't need to create an AI in the first place, we just would enhance our own brains with the tech we would use on creating AI's. Your statement makes no sense to me.

[@Fujtajblus]

Sorry dude but that is limited view most likely because you have not met that many people who actually have booming social circles. I have one or two friends who meet people 6 times a week in the evening, their weekends are booked for 6 months further, on couple of occasions 1 or 2 years ahead. Met a guy at work, he organizes trips and events for like 30 to 60+ people regularly. Me? I am the introverted person so of course I could not build that, I am not that magnetic as he is. Maybe if I worked really hard on it, in 3 years I could get close. But that said, I see where you're coming from but again, it is a view missing certain angles. The digitalization now allows me to be connected to so many people during the corona virus quarantine. So I do not feel alone, nor lonely at all.

[@laughslapproductions4690]

How to meet high quality women: Step 1: Go to sleep Step 2: Dream .....Done

[@mindspirit179]

Had great success with this for 20 years.

[@Pokemonguy16RS]

.....Done

[@PrinceRevolver]

I don't deny women have caregiving roles, but that's more directed at children, other women, the elderly... not really towards men.

[@paulcooper5748]

Totaly agree they dont give a crap realy about the man.

[@Adrian101882]

paul cooper they do, provided there's a strong level of attraction. That's what attraction buys you - time before she grows sick of you and moves on.

[@TheTariqibnziyad]

That's why tradition was important, in traditional cultures women are taught from childhood to care about their husbands

[@T24596]

Well, aren't your kids important? Can you not survive without a woman nurturing you?

[@PrinceRevolver]

@@T24596 obviously kids are important which is when a woman being supportive or nurturing kicks in. Any adult should and can survive w/o it. At that point what is she offering?

[@Tom-vr2op]

90% of my close male friends are single. That’s been the problem my whole life.

[@smoke4131]

100% of my friends are single and male

[@GamingT0G0]

@Random Guy You aren't low quality because you don't have women. In friendships you need friends you can count on in every situation. That decides your quality and nothing else.

[@CosminPerisan]

@Random Guy If they are single that doesn't mean that they are low quality.

[@CDRFINANCE]

Cause 10% of men are smashing most of tbe women.

[@DuRoehre90210]

Sounds familiar. And the ones who are not single were just lucky enough to have found her through some weird circumstances, and are super paranoid about her, shielding her from other males.

[@AntonioDal.]

People are the average of their best friends. This applies even more to women. With cold approaching women on the streets you dont know anything about her friends, her past or her relationship with her parents. The risk/reward ratio is extremely against you. But within social circles youre risking being known as the pre rejected man once you failed. Literally the opposite of pre selected. Your sexual market value will be non existent within that group.

[@ReactLMaD]

so i guess im the average of nothing 😂😂😂

[@shaunyb2011]

@@TheActionTourist disagree, overtime it becomes natural to get frustrated the rejection rate is consistently high i've experienced this numerous times and yes it's very exhausting i'm married,engaged have a boyfriend are just a few barriers i've experienced...

[@TheThingIs415]

best is not to cold spproach but rather semi-cold approach. example: go to yr fav coffee house and sit next to a girls‘ table, or: go to a museum and by chance you also see a single woman. but totally cold on the street without any connection is most random therefore least likely to be successful unless you have a connecting opener (f.ex. you see she is holding a nespresso bag and ask abt best nespresso capsules or similar)...

[@bighands69]

Fail? If you are confident it will look like an alpha male look. Women simply will not care about that.

[@RolyTheHolyPaladin]

@Random Guy Yep, you wouldn't show your cards to everyone at the table in a game of poker would you. Same same.

[@EmperorsNewWardrobe]

Expect their part after providing yours: Women superficial value = sex Women deep value = nurturing & support Men superficial value = resources Men deep value = strength & integrity

[@RolyTheHolyPaladin]

With this logic then. A high value man = Resourceful & Is strong with integrity? Which results in (if successful) lots of sex & supportive nurturing from the high value woman..... Interesting.

[@EmperorsNewWardrobe]

@@RolyTheHolyPaladin yes. If you’re not providing strength and integrity though, you shouldn’t expect sex and nurturing/support. This also doesn’t assume that she will in fact provide her part, but then that’s why you learn how to screen early

[@davidsmusicchannel187]

In this case, "support" means robbing your bank account?

[@EmperorsNewWardrobe]

@@davidsmusicchannel187why would getting robbed be valuable to you?

[@kerbodynamicx472]

“Sex” and “resource” should be a mutual thing between a couple, we are living in the 21th century after all. A healthy relationship should have mutual respect, support and empathy, where burden is shared between the two. If I must assign a gender role, then the man will be doing tasks that demand (physical and mental) strength and endurance, while the women will be doing tasks that demands caring/responsibility and attention to detail.

[@chandlerkirkland475]

Cold approaching mostly results in a girl fake smiling at you and then giving you a fake number or she gives her real number and flakes any dates, and it’ll make you feel creeepy to which is terrible. I completely agree dude. Surround yourself with high quality people.

[@morganthem]

I think there's a way to avoid it, but I agree. Strictly speaking, your social skills have to be high enough to allow you to escalate, which will vary by girl and circumstance. You can't escalate very far in most public situations so that limits things. The best you can do most of the time is look your best, stay relaxed, have a friend around so you have an excuse to show off how social you are, and act accepting. Girls like this, as a lot of really pretty girls have insecurities and anxieties about "attractive" guys, so you become a small source of acceptance. Once you've got that bit of rapport you can't break it up to start escalating, she needs to be "invested", so you've got to weigh the options of things you can ask and comment on. If the girl is high quality she'll internally brace if you comment on her appearance, girls are both highly desired and often insecure about that topic bc personal issues, fuckbois, society, etc. A small paradox. You can't go the other way and act too platonic or "Mr. Goodguy" because then it seems like you don't have any sexuality. You have to take what you get from her and have justification for saying things to her. If she's cool you can get away with more, but if she's more aloof you're not working with much. The more rigid her attitude is the more obvious it is to her, the people around you, and you when you interject your thoughts. The same things that will make you cool to girl strangers take you far in social circle game too. If you can't be at ease you bring your options down some in either scenario. If you dress badly, same. If you can't talk without showing signs of anxiety, same. I've found that certain girls will seek you out almost relentlessly, but they're usually trying to date up with you. You cant exercise your ability to disqualify and escalate in the same convo because being too close with your internal checklist will make you come off as judgmental. These are things I've learned trying to crack day game for myself. I don't have any girls knocking down my door, but I'm getting better interactions from them in general over time, so that counts for something. Your chances of getting laid go up exponentially if you drink hard with girls, but that's got its own downsides and pitfalls. Big P.S.: being attractive to a girl and feeling attractive enough for* her can be very different things, and it certainly affects how she sees you

[@diegohidalgo3905]

i have had insta dates and Dates from girls i just met.Because the way i approached them was SOLID, good body language, relaxed and feeling confident with myself. Then i qualified her (are you cool?, do you have amazing hobbies?) then i set up the date in person. Therefore with that you increase your conversion to date rate

[@kutloanomotaung4543]

Facts.

[@TheThingIs415]

what is „high quality“?

[@jonnyblanka]

@Mr Blue long term girlfriend material. Someone who will bring value to your life.

[@Peteristrate]

Just because you meet them though your social circle it doesn't mean that they're any more special. They can be the same type of Tinder women; everyone is on Tinder now.

[@RuzoOwzy]

Very good point. I wonder why Alex has just labelled all social circle girls as high quality.

[@LiberatedMind1]

That's why he said high quality social circles.

[@manuelmanzanero5057]

About this men-oriented requirement to meet women through friends: first, it's not satisfactory for everyone, and second, it's a double-edged sword. It must be understood that not everyone wants or can have an active social life and feed 20 or 200 friendly relationships as a condition to cultivate an intimate relationship on top of them. There are people who do not enjoy outings, activities and group conversations, and think going through this process to get a meaningful intimate relationship is simply not worth it. Not forgetting that the current lifestyle imposed by work schedules and basic obligations does not always allow that kind of life, especially for men, and specifically those who want to build a minimum wealth. And now we get to the most interesting yet. I do know many cases of people with a very small group of friends (or no friends at all) who have built healthy and stable relationships with high-quality people. What is the common characteristic of these people? They are all women. Women with gray, lonely and routine lives that have been sought by their partners without them having to do anything or cultivating any kind of social life. Women whom their partners support, understand and respect: women who are not judged for the social life they have. In summary: why men are required, in comparison, an active social life as a condition for cultivating an intimate relationship? Because men receive selective pressure to do so, from women, that women do not receive from men. Because men are not supported and understood by women in the same situations in which the latter do receive support and understanding from their male partners. A woman is always free to be and behave as she wishes, who will always find men who respect her: a man, on the other hand, will only have the right to behave as the woman understands that men should behave collectively. The question is: is it worth looking for an intimate relationship with someone who does not offer what she demands? Is it worth a relationship with someone who is not empathetic with you, who does not accept you as you are, but asks you to accept her? I doubt it. And finally, if men have to cultivate their social life to make their relationships in that field flourish, what they are doing is simply submitting to the rules of women's game. Women feel comfortable in a group, especially for courtship. Why? Because the group defends them from individual male approaches that they don't want. The group screens the active male matching strategy. While in a group, women only have to monitor all the options they have without committing to any: let the men compete for her with each other, display their "masculine virtues" in that competition, and then they (women) simply select that option in which all their demands towards men are optimized. A group for men means narcissistic competition and effort, but for women it is their selection ground, their luxury box above the arena where others fight for their approval. That is why men seek contact with women outside the leisure industry: to avoid the group and the process of competition. That's why they look for women on the street or in the subway: to avoid competing with other men. If women complain so much about what they call street harassment, about the approaches of men they don't know, it is only because those approaches take away their absolute power of selection without compromise, that is, they leave women out of the field of play in which they feel comfortable. On the street, or in a cafe, they don't have the group to defend them from individual male attempts to meet her face to face. If a man approaches them they have no choice but to respond, even with an insult or a snort. The individual male initiative obliges them to commit, which they are not involved in before a group in which these male initiatives are neutralized in mutual competition.

[@MrSlothJunior]

"The question is: is it worth looking for an intimate relationship with someone who does not offer what she demands?" You've got some good points in your comment, but I think you're missing the mark greatly here. Firstly, men and women flirt and date in different ways. Different things are expected of them. In some cases that sucks, but it's just how it is. I really don't think it makes sense to demand that your partner is like you in all regards. I don't want to date myself, I want to date a great woman. However! I believe that women in general value and prioritize their social circles more than men do. Secondly, you're talking about women you know that aren't like that but are still in good relationships. But they are not the women you're going to meet through your social circles. The women you're going to meet through this tactic are people from those social circles. They are not loners. And thirdly, Alex is not talking about women demanding that you lead this kind of social life. He's talking about the merits of doing this.

[@badnewsproduction01]

Very well said, I agree for the most part

[@nickc3856]

Dude. Paragraphs.

[@stanleypodlinski5384]

Agreed

[@cso3664]

This is a very interesting take. Well said.

[@eladbari]

Finding new male friends/ circles in your 30's (after college) is super hard. Everyone got their anchor already. Maybe you can do that only by climbing the social ladder...being that new kid with value/talent

[@miauw8762]

A lot of women are single in their 30s but they already have their friends/circle

[@ethereumrise7860]

@@miauw8762 women in their 30 are married… the rest are the leftover that hit the wall!

[@PunyMortal]

I think high quality men are on a mission. The mission always comes first in my life. I don't ever offer myself up as mate choice. I find the idea degrading that I need to beg for something I want. I'd rather forgo whatever it may be (women, material things, jobs) and instead focus on the things I know only I can give myself!

[@MidnightPolaris800]

Truth brother !!!

[@chrispayne750]

@PunyM0rtal - Agree with you. One thing I don't like from what I'm hearing on this video (and many others) is that us men have to always be the ones doing all the work to get the female. Basically we have to have everything in near perfect order to succeed with getting a "high quality" woman. Then if we get all that right and end up married we then have to take almost all the risk in divorce which is more likely to happen than not. It all sucks.

[@PunyMortal]

@@chrispayne750 My comment wasn't meant to throw shade on Alexander and I don't mean to speak for anyone but myself. But I appreciate your thoughts nonetheless! I just want to express myself honestly. It's kinda therapeutic I notice, lol

[@zeebotheclown4325]

Don’t jump through hoops for a system that seeks to emasculate you!

[@doit_vehicles]

In general you will attract the same quality partener as you are

[@MatthewCoast]

This is great, in theory

[@Curi0sity]

Yes, theoretically seems perfect.

[@thomasmoores3512]

Absolutely, pure theory!

[@gracegracegraceee]

Oh, can you please explain why? It seems decent and logical to me 🤔

[@talbd195]

@@NicMagopianista What you say is very true. You can't simply rely on other people to make something happen for you, for the various reasons you illustrated. However, the more important take away from what Alex is saying is that building up your social life helps you as a person to grow and find someone. It isn't necessarily that if you have a good group of people in your life that they would guarantee you a match, not at all. Instead, think of it this way. If you're trying to work out a tough problem like this, you start with the basics. Make yourself the best version you can be. Surround yourself with people you sincerely enjoy being around. Make an effort to be active in your social life. These things definitely are key factors in how to get a high quality girlfriend in the long run. If your house is messy, people are less likely to want to enter it, even if deep inside, you have a really cool room or something. It's the same with people. You need to be inviting, as a person, and that isn't only attractive to women but also to just anyone who you would want to be friends with. It goes hand in hand. You start with yourself, you practice with friends, and you perfect with the woman of your dreams.

[@amando96]

@Brian J Seems like a psychotic episode

[@asphalthedgehog6580]

I married the sister of a good friend of mine. Still happy with each other after 34 years. By the way: she choose me. Still don't know why. We're completely different, but somehow this works. Maybe good friends have standards that their sisters may have too. My wife by the way is extremely critical about friends, that's why she has very few of them, but these are very, very high quality people. Thinking about that... I'm happy.

[@badnewsproduction01]

Key words are "34 years ago"

[@asphalthedgehog6580]

@@badnewsproduction01 master key words: not many female friends... Another keyword: weight; both of us have not gained any

[@badnewsproduction01]

@@asphalthedgehog6580 i was gonna let this go but but wtf. First of all you're a boomer so i dont take much of what you say seriously. Second, more relevant information to contribute would be the relationship situations of your son and/or daughter which im sure isnt the same as yours. And the biggest question is if your so happy and fufilled why are you watching these videos for young men trying to figure this all out. You come into the comments with some bs about the 60s life and what? Are you concerned with meeting high quality women or someone else mb?

[@asphalthedgehog6580]

@@badnewsproduction01 You don't have to take me seriously. And yes, times have changed. But... My sister is divorced twice, and all (yes, all) of her female friend, including the (sometimes beautiful) girls I met when they were 12 years of age: divorced. For us it was totally clear my sister's marriages would end: total jerks. One was super intelligent, the other plain stupid. So women can have similar problems: men (too) can be unsuitable for a relationship. We have two hetero sons, and I am a little concerned, they still have no relation, and seem not to be interested at the moment. They have very high expectations from the girlfriend they will have. I see that as a problem, because those are the girls all boys want. They have intelligent female friends in the friend zone, and looking at all the videos about girls with boys in their friend zone, they may be very disappointed later on. We encourage them to be modest in their expectations, but these days that's a lot more difficult than ever, agreed. What I wanted to tell is: if you have a good, well educated, well behaved friend that has a sister, chances are that she is your soulmate. That has nothing to do with the times we are living in.

[@badnewsproduction01]

@@asphalthedgehog6580 The reason i have frustrations with boomers is because they seem to lack empathy and understanding on how rough it is for the younger generations in regards to relationships. As someone who seems willing to discuss and concerned for your kids future i can trust to take you seriously. Thank you for a more in depth understanding of your situation. The fact you and your wife are still together is and will be a great influence on your sons. Unfortunately thats not enough to combat the influence society has on young people. As men they are being demasculated and taught to be discontent with almost anything they have. More so encouraged to focus on what they dont have or what others possess. The LGBTQ communities main targets are white western men and they are succeeding at an alarming rate. Be happy they are not full on gays at this point. You may think this is a crazy statement but times really have changed for young men. What they need is a strong male figure and a goal oriented future that combines both personal growth and social connection. Mb a sobering reminder of how much time they actually have in the scheme of things. How you influence them this way is based on you and them, but the more you show a genuine concern for you kids future the more they will appreciate it down the line. One piece of advice that i have thought of for a while is that things really are coming around full circle. Men are so confused and put on the spot nowadays that they dont know what to do. Im not saying we should go back to arranged marriages again but you can keep an eye out for them too. Children of friends of yours, people in your communities, etc. You might be surprised how receptive they would be if you set them up on a date with a nice girl. Basically what im saying is if you really love your kids it will take work on your part to make them see it your way. Your way being the importance of a strong family unit in a young mans future. They will understand what you were doing in time down the line. Good luck.

[@kjcenteno5734]

I am 6'1'' have no friends and well off on my own. Still haven't found a high quality woman. They all ride the CC.

[@floridianrailauto9032]

Elaborate

[@redgator3347]

Elaborate

[@pingon55555]

@Mark B that;s actually funny lmao

[@selkie5041]

What's a CC?

[@F1ugPlatzz]

@@selkie5041 Choo Choo. 🚂 These women rely on the locomotive as their sole means of transportation. It is widely known (albeit anecdotally) that train riders are uncommittal and unfaithful.

[@c.j.8194]

Lol like that is a solution for everybody. Social status is relative to others social status. So when all men try very hard to improve themselves just to attract women, the cards are just being shuffeled around. But there are still the same amount of aces, king, queens...(high quality women) in the deck. Also: The underlying problem of the power dynamic in sexual selection and the bad mindset of western women is not being adressed.

[@bighands69]

Social status is easy. Earning good money is the foundation of social status as it will allow you to have a good home, car and financial security.

[@mouarfmouarfify]

bighand69 he is saying that if everyone tries to make more money, there will still be winners and losers. In the end, the problem will still be the same.

[@bighands69]

@@mouarfmouarfify Not everybody is going to do it but it is up to yourself if you want to do it. If you want to lose weight it is irrelevant if others decide to do it. The choice is an individual one and has no relevance to everybody else being winners or losers.

[@c.j.8194]

@@bighands69 The choice might be independent of others but how it will affect your smv is absolutly related to what other are doing. If you decide to become fit and everybody else is fat and out of shape than this will have a different impact on your life vs. when everybody else is in good or even better shape than you (despite you working out). Your status is RELATIVE to everybody elses status. This approach of self improvement is not a fix for the underlying problems of modern dating in a sexualy dymorphic species.

[@paulinlasvegas]

I found through experience that most of the dudes who I thought were friends were actually greedy and outside of a formal introduction usually would try to sabotage my reputation with women I was interested in or interested in me so they could improve their chances to have them for themselves. Watch out what type of friends you have meeting women as they sometimes become jealous, greedy and contrived.

[@michaelsilagy4659]

This is so simple yet this is probably the best advice I’ve heard. Every girl I’ve EVER had interested in me has been through a mutual connection with another female friend or a guyfriends’ girlfriend. I wouldn’t say I’m even medium value at this point (fit, but 5’6, meh social skills). Especially with the state of the world right now, it is more important than ever that you guys refine the relationships right in front of your face

[@andrewevans6826]

No.. cause those broads will drag you down in the worst of times. Then when times get better, they will hit the road n find another man

[@marcain123]

This a good theory. But people in circles can still go around and be low value. Not only that, but once you start dating a friend, the circle breaks up ASAP

[@imperfectillustration6261]

Definitely can attest to that. Met my low quality soon to be ex wife through what I thought was a good mix of high quality ‘friends’. I overlooked a LOT of red flags. This was my responsibility to know better. Live, learn and grow.

[@JohnLannholm]

Those are low quality friend circles

[@JohnLannholm]

@@imperfectillustration6261 Sounds like you were oblivious to the low quality of the friend circle and also the woman you met within it

[@neildoerdan2298]

For those unable to join the 'high quality' circle - try joining a club that you will enjoy being a part of. You will meet people while enjoying yourself at the same time, this may lead to friendships and follow the same route as implied in this video. The problem of praising high quality men, is that most of them are used to brown noses and push them away everyday.

[@monkeytrollhunter]

This video is gold. I spent years building myself up. I was a retail worker, uneducated, stuck in a loop while I was helping my family for some time, unable to move forward for myself, working long hours at jobs that don't pay a lot. I was able to break out of that loop, went back to school while working. I now have graduated with an engineering degree from a prestigious university and I just started working as an engineer for a Fortune top 50 company and I make a good living. I am hoping to build my social circle and have a thriving social life after settling at work and in my new city. Hope I can have a high-quality relationship with a high-quality woman soon. I'm not a drinker/not into parties and not into low-quality women. I knew I was doing the right thing when I was avoiding the wrong crowd, wrong friends who I have nothing to learn from, who aren't getting anywhere in their lives. Instead, I continued to focus on myself, my education, my career, making more money. I hope it pays off soon.

[@floralhandshake6376]

You sound like a high-quality man (coming from a happily married woman and mum). I'd refer you to my single friends. Wishing you all the best.

[@TheTariqibnziyad]

Just be patient, hold women to high ethical standards, never, NEVER get desperate, if you are afraid too go hire some prostitute, it's way better than dating a bad quality woman

[@imrankh68]

@rvhron08 👍

[@jeanlucsugar]

Ok. So you say dont be desperate but then you say go get prostitutes . like bro thats desperate.

[@GilBeloGil]

Thank you for the wise words hououin kyouma! Sanovabitch!

[@imrankh68]

@@jeanlucsugar That's being smart

[@jeanlucsugar]

@@imrankh68 it means you cant get laid. Arent alot of these videos about improving yourself. Or is it a sinkhole to depression

[@dragonmark9092]

Yeah, no, I've had friends ask out girls within their inner circle of friends and they ended up garnering a reputation as "that guy who will ask anyone out, don't leave your girl around him". That sort of stigma exists, which is why I would recommend NOT asking your close friends out.

[@Agwings1960]

Nurturing, I laughed out loud with that one, If they're looking for a hookup its totally based on looks, if they want a relationship, it's based on resources available and not much else.

[@Halvarrd]

@Bob Salazar I think time primarily, being conditioned to believe it should be only resources as monster's inc stated is so ingrained that its just going to take a long time of breaking that condition and into one that is more hmm honest? I guess you could say?

[@deeeenisttv]

@Bob Salazar so women aren't a part of society?

[@هدي-ه8ظ]

Don’t men look at looks for hookup? Seems pretty hypocritical

[@Agwings1960]

The video says women look for nurturing in men for relationships and with the amount of baby daddy's out there, thats obviously total BS. For procreation young girls look at what makes them wet, nothing else. When they get a little older they'll for go resources, if they still have that option, but usually by that time the only thing they can really offer in a relationship is somebody else’s kids and they’ll say things like know your own worth Queen, when that’s already been established

[@andreypavlov5187]

@@deeeenisttv It was the biggest mistake to include them in it. Men are not men because of it anymore.

[@shrunkensimon]

The validation of a male from his social circle status is about 100 years out of date, and I don't agree with the theory either - it presupposes that high-quality males are all extroverted and fit one particular cultural mould, which is bullshit. More over, the lengths both sexes go to get and maintain that social circle in terms of self-depreciation (alcohol, drugs, partying) negates the idea of either being high-quality, because they're lying to themselves off the bat. The 'social circle' is a feminine cultural approximation of what real community looks like. In a real society inward facing circles are redundant because everyone has easy social access to everyone else. High-quality men don't turn themselves into pretzels and jesters just to get the attention of high-quality females. They don't need to. They have a mission, they are the prize, and if a woman ventures into his story then that's great, but he doesn't depreciate his value or time just to go hunting for them.

[@JohnSmith-ji6wr]

what type of shitty friends do you have that you have to do acts of self-depreciation to maintain the relationship/circle? If you remain aloft in your own world you will not necessarily meet a high-quality woman because you are waiting for chance (likely you will attract a lot of lower quality women, who will screw your life up). He is explaining how you can remove some of the chance.

[@visancosmin8991]

Exactly. Even more so, extroverts are low-quality by definition. They are a bunch of automata that say random words without actually saying anything. They are so boring.

[@stinkfist911]

As someone below pointed out, when you date through social circles if anything goes wrong then the entire circle is at risk. I recently lost all my work "friends" over this exact problem when a girl I was seeing decided she wanted to "date around". I pushed on her a little for some sort of explanation as to what was going on and she didn't like that, so all of a sudden all of our female co workers jumped on her side, followed by all of the men we work with white knighting for her. After two months of being treated like a pariah I ended up leaving and except for one person who I've known since child hood everyone there now thinks I'm "creepy". I'll admit non of these people are "high quality" they are your standard wait staff and back of house at a rather trashy place, the culture there is alcohol fueled and toxic, and is essentially ruled over by a mother hen of a woman and her "husband" who periodically bed some of the other servers. In the end I'm glad I left, but it was rather disappointing seeing people who I've known for years turn their backs on me for this girl because they all party together. I'm not trying to poke holes in your advice Alex because I rather like it, I just want to point out that rebuilding entire social circles when some girl initiates a scorched earth policy really sucks. It did a number on my self esteem and has had my questioning my own value ever since, like how worthless am I if these people (some of which I've known for quite awhile) are willing to just walk away from me on the behest of this girl. Where do I go to meet high quality friends haha. Great video as always though, thank you.

[@anneb889]

True good friends are very hard to come by in life. Most friends are a series of people you know in class, at work etc. As you get older, it gets harder, people get busier, move away, have kids, etc.

[@wmejia4122]

Sounds like those people were trash so not your fault man.

[@cwservices6778]

Haha something very similar happened to me a girl was my best friend and we did romantic stuff together and then stopped and she tried to spread rumors about me because she was butthurt and attacked my whole social circle all at once. It def is a risk esp cause when a girl feels bad about romance she will attack you with everything she has

[@halleyjimenez7485]

You were seeing her There was no commitment Why were you bothered? How did you not realize she was not into you?

[@arturmuellerromanov4438]

After having stumbled through all this societal nonsense myself, I came upon your channel. Although you're not telling me anything new, the quality of your advice for young men is unmatched on youtube. Keep it up Brother

[@TheCallmom]

This was eye opening. As an introvert. I never thought of this concept in this way. My friend group is small. And ive intentionally kept it that way. But when im where I want to be. Ill have to change that intentionally.

[@planetary-rendez-vous]

Sounds like the toughest idea for an introvert. Erghhh

[@jesusc9806]

Purpel you should start doing it now bud. It’s harder to change as we grow older. Being a creature of habit; you’ll get used to the idea of being alone more and more the longer you do it, and it’ll be harder for you to open up in the long run. Start now, step by step. It’ll be more beneficial that way. Speaking from experience. Good luck!

[@mathiass1999]

I was introvert too, until I joined the military haha

[@TheCallmom]

@@jesusc9806 I mean Im not a hermit. Im not shy. And my job, im a security guard for a police department(that works for a hospital,college,labaratories) so I get plenty of social interaction. But I dont try, nor do I really have time or energy rn to expand my social circle in a serious way.

[@TheCallmom]

@@mathiass1999 I could see that having that affect lol.

[@TheyCalledMeT]

how do you as an introvert, who moved cities for a decent job, find a high quality woman .. by using your non existant group of high quality friends .. okay never mind

[@sonpham3438]

Are you high quality? Otherwise you don’t matter.

[@deeeenisttv]

@@sonpham3438 how can you live such a hateful life?

[@sonpham3438]

Denis does stuff not sure I should interpret your reply

[@deeeenisttv]

@@sonpham3438 sorry if I sounded harsh, your use of "you don't matter" irked me, I was asking you how could you possibly enjoy life going around telling people you've never met that they don't matter

[@sonpham3438]

Denis does stuff, okay let me rephrase what I was trying to say. Society/women: “are you high quality? Otherwise you don’t matter.”

[@crosses101]

This is probably the most meaningful and impactful video I've seen from this guy. Even though people love my company and always want to be friends with me, about 80% of women/girls I've ever been with came from cold approach but now from this perspective I see why. My circle of friends have never yielded the type of women I'm attracted to. Maybe a substitute is attending certain types of events or joining certain clubs🤔

[@hcasavantes]

Even as a guy, if a random girl walks into you in the street and suddenly starts flirting and asking you for your contact details, you will surely feel concerned about if she's truly a catch or maybe either a scam, a ho3 or just a salesperson try to push something.

[@TheBlanco951]

Dude you are doing men a huge service. I admire your work. The fact that you are doing research on the topic without any bias is fucking bad ass.

[@pyalot]

I think your conclusion is valid, and it makes systematically sense. The trouble I have with it is that you assume a somewhat intact and fairly extroverted person that just happens to have relatively easily fixable self-esteem and social life issues. I would ask you to consider it from the perspective of an AvPD with decades of isolation behind him and a corresponding lack of social skills. Your proscription to fix your self relation and social life first for a person like that amounts to decades of work before that gets anywhere...

[@DuRoehre90210]

So true. He sounds like a typical coach/guru. Like "only thing you need is just fix yourself and you will be fine" (but he will not tell you how to do that, of course not). The simple fact that the efforts required to find new friends (reliable ones) are growing exponentially the older you get is hardly mentioned here. I think the guy is just about 30yo and is still benefiting from the social circles he got from earlier or from his coaching job. But things change.

[@oliviergrenier3574]

Well it’s a 9 minutes video, I don’t think he can cover every point, but I understand he does more personal session. I’ve been in a bit of a rough time myself with regards to dating and meeting new people and I’ve been trying dating apps. His main point seems to be that this is not the way to go and that you should invest efforts elsewhere. If you have bigger issues than that, obviously you need a psychologist.

[@aaronpicking4935]

How am I just now finding this channel? It randomly popped up in the youtube suggestions. From a person with a degree in psych, and experience in profiling and behavior analysis, this stuff is spot on.

[@Trinitas666]

I actually went from no dating/social life to having a 22 year old girlfriend that's pretty and educated through a pure chance online meeting.... So it does happen but she is from a different culture and basically a rare gem. To be fair while I do keep to myself, I am decent looking at least and take good care of my body through exercise and diet and graduated university.

[@dreamcore]

how's that going

[@anon1963]

​@@dreamcorethey def broke up

[@silvy7394]

_"If you want to meet high quality Women you do it through your social circle; through your friends"_ Heh, welp. Guess I failed step one

[@mfgallonjaust7171]

Little Waffles improve your self and your 7 areas of life and quality people will show up as you better your self

[@silvy7394]

@@mfgallonjaust7171 If only it where that simple

[@panzerjagertigerpelefant]

Hahaha, welp I guess we are at the basement of the same building, high five kek.

[@gracegracegraceee]

@@mfgallonjaust7171 what are the 7 areas?

[@herrar6595]

First actual dating advice I've seen on this platform

[@jacquemaclmont9805]

Dating through your circle of friends if fraught with danger! If it works out, then well and good. If it doesn't ( and statistically more fail than workout ) then you run the risk of alienating your mates girlfriend(s). Consequently, that may not bode well for your continuing relationship with your mate(s) within that circle. All the girls in the circle will hate you by association ( thats just the way they are ) and pressure their boyfriend to not associate with you. You're mate will still want to hang out with you , now you just have to do it behind her back. Ask me how I know ?

[@TwistVisuals]

I think it depends more on how you approach as well. Granted there are bad women who like rejecting guys and alienating them because they don't like you, but it's best not to associate with those types of people. It's also good to make yourself valuable and not needy in a way that you don't need to date them and they would be lucky to date you. Plus, high quality friends aren't going to shone you just because one of them rejected your advances. They'll understand it's just a rejection and not life-ending.

[@jasonlee148]

This is the single most realistic and reliable dating advise video i've ever seen on KZbin.

[@debanikgoswami4834]

I don't agree with his advice . What if she rejects you . Then you will feel negative by staying in that social cricle .

[@alestersarwyckiii2052]

He forgot one of the important things; virginity. She has to be a virgin.

[@benmmarino]

Does everyone see themselves as being a “high quality guy”? I feel like people assume they are high quality.

[@williamhawley9436]

Benjamin Marino Sadly, this is true. However, if you strive judge yourself honestly you are already miles ahead of most men in terms of the accuracy of your self-image. I believe helps to have a large sample size of comparisons as well so that you are judging yourself more objectively

[@42fredz]

Benjamin Marino i feel like if someone has to ask himself or calls himself a "high quality guy" it probably means they arent one

[@ramon2008]

I don't think I am one. But I believe I am working on it.

[@artonio5887]

everyone has their own perception of what "high quality" means.

[@djbobby224]

Most likely they do think that but thats also becuase its based on personal perception of high quality.

[@PC-fr9pe]

Alexander Grace. You are absolutely correct! You are the very first KZbinr that I've listened to and seen that gave it to us straight. I've recently moved back to my home town 2 and a half years ago and since April 2019 I've started meeting new people through volunteer groups, running groups and reacquainting myself with old high school friends. I've been off online dating and the apps for about 6 months now and I couldn't be happier. I've met new people - both men and women around my age - and I am completely amazed how many single people that are actually here! Ever since I got off the apps, it's like all this weight lifted off my shoulders and now I'm just living life! I raise my class to you! We should chat sometime! :)

[@martinspace7321]

That's good advice for extroverts. What do introverts do? That sounds like hell on earth for an introvert like me. The introverted woman I'm looking for is not going to be in that giant circle your talking about. She's going to be off by herself somewhere just like I am

[@knowbody1505]

Theres usually lots of loners at the library 😊 goodluck

[@Joseph-C]

Im introverted as it gets but I still have a social circle of guys that I work out with. They have girlfriends and sometimes their girlfriends want me to meet their friends, just like hes saying in the video. Introverted girls still have friends lol. Make friends with some high quality guys that you share a common goal with.

[@SL2797]

What do introverts do? Suck it up and cultivate a social circle even if they don't want to... it seems.

[@jacobley4899]

This video is mandatory for all men, boys, teens, kids, seniors, corpses (...) to watch. Never seen or heard anything like it. It scrambles through the noise of "dating experts", coaches, therapists and the like; e.g. people without a clue of what it is like being a man. I have been on a self improvement journey for three years since my divorce; and I have seen and done nearly EVERYTHING to grasp the hard reality of being a man! And it is tough, when you have nobody to refer to in that aspect of your life. I hear everbody say "love yourself first" but never "how"...The part on your own relationship with yourself is absolutely KEY, because it provides two things: first; it´s manageable - start in the gym, for example, and secondly; it will teach you to do something for YOU, and you alone, in no regard of who is with you in your life. Good job, Alex.

[@netx506]

This is a great video! It’s easy to think that there is simply a location somewhere that you haven’t thought of where women gather and you simply need to go there and meet one, but this video truly addresses the core issue of needing to have a strong social network of people in your life, and the social skills necessary to maintaining it. This video really resonated with me, as does most of the content produced here on this channel. Thanks for all the great content!

[@liveankur]

Thanks friend. Punch line says "Fix your social life, and you'll only be meeting high quality women"

[@visancosmin8991]

My social life is perfect as it is. Extroverts are the ones that need to fix their boring and annoying personalities.

[@Yusa_Beach]

I find it quite Sad that We "Men" Have to Do all this Work just To get some Woman's Ass, Like What's The Point? Learning About Women Is Depressing, But I Like the Knowledge, Good Advice, Keep up the Good work 👍

[@deeeenisttv]

Because human relationships are complicated,. especially if you have a goal

[@flacohernandez4380]

You don't have to do anything, just get Tinder.

[@QuinnArgo]

You don't have to do any of this. This guy wants you to feel exactly that so you watch more of his videos and buy into his Patreon. If you stop buying into this toxic view on relationships, you will also stop feeling dependent on learning about theories like this

[@maddyg3208]

No different than wanting a job, house, car: nothing's free. And his advice is re "quality" women & r/ships, lesser ones are easier

[@Yusa_Beach]

@@QuinnArgo Weird i actually would agree with you here, but people can't help with what they believe, especially if evidence says otherwise within their lives.

[@giordanobruno1333]

The wall is undefeated. “High quality” is a limited time offer.

[@versatilelord8893]

High quality doesn’t mean in looks. It means her mentality and strength of character.

[@giordanobruno1333]

Versatile Lord 😂🤣😅😅😂😄🤣🤣🤣🤣😆😆 That’s funny.

[@versatilelord8893]

Giordano Bruno since when was the truth funny?

[@giordanobruno1333]

Versatile Lord Your “truth” is subjective.

[@giordanobruno1333]

Versatile Lord “Mentality” and “strength of character” Limited time offer. Didn’t you read the OP?

[@taridean]

Having entered my 40s recently, my social circles and family are always trying to set me up with their friends who are usually single mothers. They always try to convince me that I should just settle for them because women closer to my age tend have kids. I keep having to remind them that's a dealbreaker for me.

[@georgespangler1517]

You will be lucky to have 3 really good friends that really care about you in your lifetime.

[@hallabalooza]

Pay to use online platforms. Cuts out the validation circle and leads straight to the point. Worked for me.

[@YhelloWish]

Good for you then :)

[@hallabalooza]

YhelloWish Ultimately though I agree with Alexander here. Personal circles are the way to go. However, if you’re in a situation where your job relocates you outside of your circles‘ proximity, serious platforms are a convenient second choice. That’s especially true if like me you’re in the military and get posted to some remote area in the middle of nowhere.

[@YhelloWish]

@@hallabalooza Yeah, I know what you mean, so your relationship good so far?

[@hallabalooza]

YhelloWish Yes it is. We married after 5 years and it is a good intellectual, expectational and personality fit. I also noticed that when Alexander brought up the tip to have a close look at your partner‘s circle of female friends, that this was a good indicator for our relationship. Full disclosure I also had some weird experiences with women on those platforms but you can pretty easily and without fuzz just distance yourself from them. Before I did that I tried some PUA stuff, which on the one hand worked in terms of having sexual partners, but it also attracts a certain type of woman, which is undesirable long term, to say the least. I also believe that’s the reason why many guys are so black pulled about women. They tried being nice and got rejected, then they tried PUA and only attracted weirdos. This channel is a rare example of pretty sound advice.

[@hallabalooza]

m I can only speak for Germany, we have our own platforms. But I guess the American equivalent would be something like match . com

[@MrBeatthemusic]

Honestly I had a very, very social life in my 20s. I made beerpong tournaments in my flat with my other roommates and stuff. I met dozens of new people in those 8 years at university. What I also learned is that I love really to stay for myself alone. It's just fantastic to enjoy the silence and the peace. I couldn't image to build artificially now a social circle just to meet quality women. This sounds really if you want to force a relationship. I don't think it's worth to change the whole lifestyle just to meet a quality women you maybe don't even like as much as you think. It's great to have friends, that's for sure. But I would never meet my male friends together with their girlfriend or wife's. That would really annoy me as hell.

[@alestersarwyckiii2052]

You’d be surprised at the efforts of simps and how much they’re willing to sacrifice just to see a woman like that.

[@TheMarkedWolf]

Pretty much nailed it but from time to time, cold approaches are fun. Do it for fun and not for the women. They are the consolation. Main goals should be improving your social skills and being proud of yourself for being able to cold approach.

[@TheMarkedWolf]

Thanks Alexander. I've been watching you for almost a year now. I've learned a lot from you. Any chance we see you doing a live Q and A here on KZbin?

[@stevenrosscarpenter]

Excellent point. Too often people have an outcome dependent mindset. It should be fun like blackjack: low probability, but exciting process with the payoff being a bonus.

[@magilas8485]

It always comes down to your environment. I have multiple small circles of friends that I could count on so if I ask them to introduce me to someone or them introduce me to their friend, I trust them that its a good person and they trust me for them to introduce their good friend. I also avoid one night stands or just interacting with women that I dont really have feelings for romantically/sexually and people see that. This not only helps me develop healthy relationships with other people, but this also helps me in a way that people knows Im not that kind of guy who plays around. Even if I get rejected, I can always count on them being my friend because I showed them who I am, which helps me meet more girls that are more healthier. Not syaing that its always 100% but its a good way to increase your chances. Basically just maintain a healthy environment, relationships with people and yourself. Dont be easy because youll attract easy people, who most of the time but not always, are the toxic ones. Edit: commented this before watching but basically what he said lol

[@brandonkeisler86]

Great advice and important learning lesson for a lot of people. If you aren't a high quality individual, stop expecting to find a high quality mate. Also your mixing yourself into high quality social circles advice is very accurate.

[@markwith140]

My problem is not that my friends are toxic, it is that they are all married and as soon as friends get married they dissappear. I have known that it is my social circle that is stopping me from finding someone, so it's good advice. However finding things that I am interested in that women are also I terested in it the difficulty.

[@extensionsorbit7727]

This is a really good idea. You talk often about high-quality men & women; you made a video on the characteristics of a high-quality woman, but, as yet, you haven’t made one on the characteristics of a high-quality man - maybe you could make a video on that.

[@SkillCollectors]

Good video, described me in the beginning. Non-existent social life, introverted, shy, short, but on the flip side doing well career wise, fitness wise and always growing. Think I gotta explore this approach, always feel weird asking people if they know any good single ladies haha.

[@maniakVHS]

I have social life, but i don't have any female friends (outside my workplace). My male friends also don't have any female friends. We all are from technical schools and universities. I wouldn't exaggerate when i say that there is about 1 woman per 20 men in my social circle. I am meeting regularly with about 6 of my friends now. We are all single, except 1 guy. It took him like 4 years of searching to find a girlfriend, i didn't met her yet. We are 23 to 25 years old, we finished good universities, now have good payed jobs (for our age) with great opportunities. But we are unable to get to female social circles.

[@LeeEverett1]

I honestly think the gym is fantastic for meeting higher quality women if they are regulars and are actually there to workout. It shows that they're disciplined, patient, confident, and that they are likely more open to talking to other people who share the same interest/passion as them. If you're a regular and have made some noticable gains and have made some gym buddies or at least people you can make small talk with, you've already established yourself in the gym's social circle which women view as attractive.

[@LeeEverett1]

@@sunshinelolipops1 Women also tell us all the time they want a nice guy that will respect them and that money isn't that important, so what's your point? Go off their actions not their words. I'm telling you it works if you do it at the right time and treat her like a human being.

[@helloly]

Bad idea

[@travmarquee3213]

@@sunshinelolipops1 I have gone out with multiple women from the gym. I have seen others meet and date long term. I have seen others get married. One thing is that real life experience trumps internet rhetoric. Women want to be approached by men they find attractive any time, any place.

[@travmarquee3213]

@@sunshinelolipops1 duh lol don’t you want women you find attractive?

[@leedlbagginshield8492]

As a woman, I’ve met some decent guys in the gym as well. Most are respectful, ambitious and also appear quite smart or educated. The worst guys are on dating apps!

[@richvail7551]

The one big issue I found with the friend approach is that as a “high quality” male most of my friends are older than I am. Reason being is that when one evolves it usually takes a more advanced person to relate too. Most people my age are not interested in personal evolution. So with this situation my friends wives will have older women than myself as friends. I’m glad you mentioned the importance of being a healthy person in order to find a healthy mate. That is absolutely critical and with quality women being a sparse commodity the healthy male will most likely end up having to help the girl he meets to evolve a bit before the relationship will be stable.

[@rheinrae]

I really understand with his point of view. From where I live, people believe that good people attract good people, and vice versa. Doesn't mean that you have to befriend with as many high quality people as you can. But being in a good environment, good social circle, will help you a lot to be the better version of yourself. Example, if you wanna be a smart/intelligent person, be that smart person. Study hard, go to the best school/uni, surround yourself with smart people. Even if you don't have a friend, the environment around you will have a decent influence for your development. If you're good, have a great value, people mostly be attracted to you. So, If I wanna have a high quality partner, I have to be that kind of person too. And remember, you are who you befriend with. Better alone than stay with toxic friends.

[@Htrac]

"Hey man, I think your life is fantastic, I really admire how you're doing things, I'd love to spend more time with you" 2 possible outcomes of saying this. 1 is he bums you, the other is he cuts you out for being a needy pathetic man.

[@TwistVisuals]

I think it's more about the way you say it. And you don't have to say it directly. More like hang out with him for some activities and talk about life. From my experience at least, it sort of works, although you can't expect to hang out with them all the time, and their life might not be as good as it seems.

[@JohnLannholm]

This is probably one of the best videos I've seen on this topic The "Hierarchy of Relationships" is really good and helpful Social circles are incredibly valuable for vetting people and also as a support network for developing healthy relationships. People need trustworthy friends for advice, and I think having friends in common helps to keep people more accountable (i.e., less likely to treat a partner like trash if their own friends will find out about it) Moreover, it's been well-demonstrated that women's attraction is heavily influenced by social circles. This is exactly why famous men have tons of women after them: those men have been socially approved by other people, and the more social approval the more attractive the man

[@IlleMagister]

I married a high quality woman using the axiom presented here: a social filter (although not through my friends). Some are critiquing Alex saying "Not everyone wants to make a bunch of friends just to meet women." Honestly, it is not healthy if you do not have other high quality men in your life. Iron sharpens iron. When $#!t hits the fan, good friends will always have your back. Why would you avoid having high quality friends? Others say "This does not increase the amount of high quality women available." Honestly, that mindset will set you up for failure. You do not have control over the amount of high quality women, but you can make yourself part of the top. Does this guarantee success? No. Is it good advice? It is the best advice for any young man who still wants a high quality relationship.

[@maam-yj8ph]

Honestly I think high quality friendships are extremely underrated and need to be more deliberately cultivated. I struggle to get high quality friends as a woman too, but I realize that I need to be the high quality friend I want if I am to attract people like that in my life. It's a struggle but well worth it.

[@norbert7297]

that is exatcly what i was trying to explain to my best friend a few weeks ago, im so happy for you confirm this ideology. We are both men from the same highschool, ive known him for 4 years now. He used to be a very flirtatious guy with many friends, known a lot of women and of course he used to make out with a lot of them. My case is a lot different, basically i was forced to move from town to town, from school to school, so i was really not able to forge a strong social circle around me but that didnt mean i did not have friends. So i met my best buddy in the last highschool i attended and graduted from, but those two years were really not enough to expand my circle that much. When school ended many people we used to be great pals with moved to other big cities to study, pretty much we were the only ones to stay for uni in the same city. This basically meant that my buddy got out of this circle he was comfortable in and to wich i really wanted to get acces to. What happend is that i was waiting for him to get us socially active thus meeting women wich of course he struggled to achive because of reasons mentioned already. I felt so enlightened after your video. Step one: get your ass up and make new friends! - Thank you for your help brother, it really is a relief to know the error of our ways!

[@Korrath]

This was an excellent video. You pointed out some large holes in my current situation that I was not paying attention to. I have work to do.

[@igolark]

Best video on your channel. I always say this things to my friends. First make friends, and only then approach women! Friends are so much more important than sex

[@debanikgoswami4834]

I don't agree with his advice . What if she rejects you . Then you will feel negative by staying in that social cricle .

[@igolark]

@Debanik Goswami you re right but: 1) you don't need to go out with all friends periodically, like it's the same of the close friends circle 2) try ONLY when you notice she s interested. If you don't mind about girl, they ll come. Girls don't like needy guys

[@OutOfTheBoxThinker]

Maybe you should do a video for introverted men on how to develop a social life. I've always had just a handful of friends, mostly male, and meeting friends is usually just one-on-one or two-on-two (when in a relationship), except for the occasional wedding or birth celebration. This means that social occasions where I can actually be introduced by a friend to "high qualify women" are very rare, simply because I only very rarely see friends of friends.

[@CobraThumbs]

This man’s advice is gold dust. Every video I watch on this channel is compelling information.

[@lou4727]

This is true and I love you Alexander Grace. BUT honestly as an adult man 30+, it's actually HARDER for me to make genuine new guy friends than it is to get dates with women (which isn't easy either). I think men are biologically hard-wired to break off bonds with men as we get older, other than for co-survival, resource purposes (money, job, etc.)

[@markof.4361]

Oooh ma gahhhh. This is pure GOOOOOOLD. Thank you so much!! I think this is not too obvious in our current world. We, guys, need to work hard giving us the love we want to find. My support to all bros out there struggling with this. C'mon, we can do it!

[@nothingbettertodotbh4083]

This video basically answers a hard question with another hard question - which is how do I find high quality male friends? In my 20s, I had "high quality" male friends, most had beautiful girlfriends and they would bring their friends. So yeah, you're right there and it was fun but I never met anyone I settled down with. Now almost all of them are married, some have kids - they never go out any more. So basically I am restarting my social circle almost from scratch in my 30s. It's really difficult when you have to hold down a job etc.

[@PifchoBG]

exactly. i have the same problem. and I don't know where to begin with

[@4666hero]

Stop chasing the men who have a lot of women, it's simple. Stop looking at artificial stuff such as height, money,etc... as the ONLY thing that matters or mostly matters. You need to remember that many couples weren't tall or wealthy but had a happy life in the past.

[@ALForb]

Not sure where you live, but I recommend frequenting your local pub or bar. An old one that's been around a while, maybe a bit divey. Often these places have a mixed community of older and younger regulars, which is key. If the place is full of people of 20-30 year olds, it's a place where folks go to "pick up" and is not ideal to form real friendships. I've found after ten years bartending in an old dive that the younger people who enjoy hanging in a dingy place with older folks are of a higher quality, are more interesting, have better values, and most important: it's a sign they're not superficial in who they like being around. If this interests you, it's important to first and foremost be a good customer. That doesn't mean outrageous tips. Just be mindful and friendly to the staff. Be social with them but not overbearing. You have no idea how much bar staff love a not-annoying regular. Again, you don't even need to leave big tips (though it really helps). Once you've gradually become a liked regular with the staff, all the other good regulars will warm up to you, as they tend to take their cues from the staff. Be a pleasant familiarity, enjoy the community and don't ask every woman out every chance you get. Play the long game and let friendships and relationships happen organically. I've seen many good relationships bloom out of that old dive, mine included.

[@nothingbettertodotbh4083]

@@ALForb Interesting post, thanks for taking the time to write it. Seems like sound advice. As it happens, I did meet someone not long after I wrote that post. Just a random meeting at a nightclub.

[@ALForb]

@@nothingbettertodotbh4083 Glad for you, man.

[@nest22]

Man, this is great; straight to the point and honest. I love the way you explain this topic that for some reason no one else gets it right.

[@malcolmtaylor518]

If I'd ever waited to be approached, that would have been the end. However difficult it is, you have to get out there and approach them. If you come across a high quality one you will usually be aware of it pretty soon, and if you want her, cultivate the relationship. If you want children somewhere down the line, it has to be a high quality women. By high quality I mean a karma and aura around the woman in which she expresses her qualities. I don't mean good looks, for long term, personality and kindness are paramount. So spread a wide net, and nurture a larger range of women, you might be surprised.

[@fahimmonwar4041]

This is one of the best sincerest advices I have had. This guy gets what other men needs to do. Respect. ✌️

[@debanikgoswami4834]

I don't agree with his advice . What if she rejects you . Then you will feel negative by staying in that social cricle .

[@ashishkaushik1790]

Wow !! This was such a wonderful advice !!! Pure quality content !!

[@freaknsqueek]

This is my favorite advice so far about meeting high quality women. The truth of the matter is that if you want a high quality RELATIONSHIP you need to be the man that has a high quality social circle. So you might as well start there.

[@danclapper626]

Met mine in Church . 20 years and 2 awesome kids. Boom done

[@Totally_Not_The_ATF]

danclapper626 It really amazes me that this is never an emphasized approach in videos like these. I understand not everyone is religious but still...

[@dardhadard837]

Wait

[@6exG]

"Boom done"? more like "Boomer" I'm not saying this to offend you, but different generations have different problems

[@RolyTheHolyPaladin]

@@6exG Nah man, think about what he said. He was around his friends (people who go to church - social circle) - It might appear he's boomerish, but it's the exact same thing. You can apply it to literally anything, what it is will depend on you and your own personal interests.

[@DrYeol]

I believe that one of the main reasons there are less high-quality women out there is because of their female friends. I've been to an all-girls school. From grade 1 till I graduated high school. Women are very good at making other women miserable. A piece of advice to all women out there: Keep your personal life and relationship private. Women like to ask and talk about their personal lives all the time. They make you question your choices. They make you question your partner's actions. And basically, cause drama out of nothing.

[@StormÆLnGoFth]

My social life is being attacked haha

[@bichote9350]

This is golden advice not just for finding women but building a strong business social circle your network is your networth

[@TheFlatEarthChannelcom]

100% true. I finally started letting my friends introduce me to their friends and exactly what you said happen. I’m meeting super high quality women and my friends talked a big game about me and instantly got a roaster of girls who want to be with me that are all very successful.

[@PrettyVicious]

This is such good information. Everything you said is true. For example: I am not comfortable with strange men like you said in the video. And in general when you try to tell men you want to “get to know them” through dating, they assume they are trying to milk them for dates. because they are not used to women trying to build rapport, they encounter low quality women. Who want lavish dates and won’t accept coffee or a park outing in addition to dinners. Therefore high quality women do not engage in as much dating as low quality women. they’d mostly rather not involve themselves in that headache. That makes men assume high quality women are not as vastly available or obsolete. The same advice applies for the opposite as well. Women looking for high quality men do not meet them, because most high quality men are not comfortable with what low quality women are looking for. The two are just missing each other (the high quality woman and the high quality man) and end up getting paired with the opposite due to their adopted style of approach. Wanting to be more selective and tactful. Women also need to take this advice and improve their social circles. Many women that are high quality appear or bend to accept low quality standards because of the company they keep. In contrast to men who keep no friends, the issue with high quality women is that they will have friends of low quality who bring down their quality and they present a personality that is not truly representative of themselves.

[@kc4ril]

This sounds like an ideal solution however finding high value friends who actually have long term relationships with high value girls is extremely difficult, and this is coming from someone with a large and very diverse social circle. I've almost never dated the friend of a friends girlfriend, but I've dated girls who I met at events, in the grocery store, in the park, at events and on the street. I like this channel and the advice is good but my main complaint is that trying to find high value friends who have long term relationships with women they actually like and respect in the long term, is just no that easy these days.

[@percynelson7726]

You are right on. I moved to a city with a larger single population, and added several social circles: My 3 cousins; and the church I eventually joined (where I met my wife of 25years).

[@burningcoal5705]

In the gym, at a book club, at the gun range. Someone who demonstrates basic moral principles.

[@ramon2008]

Agree with book club but not gym or range. Maybe church ?

[@burningcoal5705]

@@ramon2008 There are fake Christians but gyms have people who want to improve themselves which is good relationship material

[@jeycee32]

This seems to only work when you’re younger. Once all of your friends are married and have no time for you or all your remaining friends are either low quality or much younger.

[@MalachiFrazee222]

All my female friends are married and don't have single friends. The single males tell me, if they knew of any good women, they would save them for themselves.

[@krishm16]

Met someone through friends. I consider myself high value or at least on the path to it as I'm mid 20's. Went out on the first date, had a wonderful time and incredible physical chemistry. I can't even explain it, but when I called them for a 2nd date, she said she wouldn't want to see me again. I'm lost and I'm confused. Took it on the chin like a gentleman and am continuing to look else where but man, that kind of chemistry doesn't come so organically as it did with this one... The search continues.

[@coreopsis6163]

Get into a workspace that attracts people with desirable values- engineering, medicine, law- something that people who want to make a positive impact in the world will be attracted to. (To me "high quality" basically means intelligence and strong morals)

[@leisiyox]

Ofc, engineering, so many options. how come I didn't think of that?