*VERY* Realistic Week of a Sleep Deprived Mum of 2

A very realistic week of a sleep deprived mum of 2
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[@TheCrystallineLeoness]

I just love this type of relatable content. This is real life, real time stuff, none of that social media fakery that some people present on their channels. I just love that even when you're clearly having a bit of a rough time with sleep and feeling exhausted, you still manage to smile and try be positive. It's so admirable, because I'm such a miserable b*stard half the time 🤣🤣.

[@HomeWithShan]

🥹🥹 this means a lot to me, thank you! Like you say, this is just LIFE for a lot of us, the daily grind, but also to small moments of joy and happiness in the everyday. It’s nice to know that non of us are doing this on our own, and that we’re not “failing” for not having this or that that we see on social media! It’s all a load of rubbish 😂🫶🏼 And in the sleep thing… honestly, I can be a moody gal, TRUST ME, but I TRY to be as positive as possible! It’s all a phase, it’s all a phase, it’s all a phase 😂🥹♥️

[@vsn5474]

Hello, just wanted to say you are a super mum, I admire how much you do in a day! And you look so beautiful and glowing😊 I have a 5 mo baby and I feel so tired and all over the place. You inspire me to keep going, I appreciate you sharing the daily struggles, makes me feel less alone. Hugs from a fellow sleep deprived mum

[@HomeWithShan]

🥹🥹 honestly you have no idea how much this means to me. Messages like this truly inspire me to keep going and carry on sharing these mundane motherhood moments 🙈 I hope you get through the sleep deprivation mama, it’s a hard ride but I promise you’re not a lot in this 🥹 there’s thousands of us doing exactly the same thing, just houses apart ♥️

[@siddiqahali1653]

First! Looking forward to this vlog. Came at a great time when my 9 month old is refusing to take his first morning nap! At least I can energize watching this vlog. You are doing a great job Shan x

[@HomeWithShan]

Hey lovely!! I hope you managed to get little one down in the end 🥹 thank you so so much for watching ♥️

[@sheenasmith275]

You are absolutely amazing. I agree, she was probably hungry but, like they always do, she has now cracked it. She is doing really well. Once she has a big bottle at bedtime and you stop the night feeds, sleep will return. Carry on speaking with your new friend Liv, your toddlers are a similar age and talking to each other will help support both of you….. 😊

[@HomeWithShan]

Thank you lovely!! And yeah I’m so glad that I’ve found Liv! We’re meeting up on Saturday 🥹♥️

[@Linglips-AislingIronside]

These long videos on a Sunday are my reminder to make time for a hot cup of tea & some reality sharing!! ❤ 3 children under 5 in my house & burnout is real 😂

[@HomeWithShan]

Ahhhh this brings me joy!! I hope you enjoyed your cuppa mama! Cause like you say, the burnout is real and we deserve a lil chill from time to time 🥹🫶🏼

[@hanfran89]

Aww Halle has grown so much! I really struggle with what to cook for my Toddler, so seeing your videos always gives me some inspiration 🥰 xx

[@stephaniebeverley4439]

Great vlog Shan, hope Halle gets well soon, and the magnesium helps George x

[@HomeWithShan]

Thank you so so much!! ❤

[@karinseaman4060]

I'm in South Africa and we order from Shein monthly. No issues unless it's busy like Christmas time. Just read the product descriptions and reviews. Haven't ordered from Temu, but it's probably similar.

[@karinseaman4060]

I'm in South Africa and we order from Shein monthly. No issues unless it's busy like Christmas time.. But just read the product descriptions as reviews. Haven't ordered from Temu, but it's probably similar.

[@lx134]

Omg! I remember and do not miss the days of sweeping up after every meal 😂🙈 then comes potty training chaos

[@HomeWithShan]

The mess is unreal 😂😂😂

[@rachelalicee]

LOL I am totally with you about the saying anything about sleep in case you jinx it 😂

[@HomeWithShan]

I obvs jinxed it hahahaha🫣😂

[@chloegould1482]

Hey Shan - hope you’re enjoying the weekend. Thank you for this LONG vlog! How are you feeling about going back to work?

[@HomeWithShan]

Hey girl!! I deffo need to do an update on going back to work, but need to finalise with work before in any case!! 🫣🥹

[@TwinMumDiary]

Loved this just subscribed 🥰 & omg it is as if you’re telling me my life 😭🤣 with the eating & sleeping. Big hugs you’re doing amazing 👏🏼✨ it does sound like growing pains with George, wee soul🩵 Also, I feel the same about showing the kids faces I’ve not really done it on my channel. But their wee faces are changing so not worrying too much about what I’ve shown. Not got a large following anyways mind you but a gal can dream😅🤣🤞🏼

[@sophiej1385]

If you believe G may have additional needs you need to get him on waiting lists like yesterday…you might already have done this behind the scenes but just a heads up from a SEN mum. Get a referral from the doc for a paediatrician NOW if you haven’t already, speak to the SENCO at his nursery too which I’m hoping you already have. Everything takes so long it’s a matter of urgency x

[@Bethany04]

For George’s legs, have you tried magnesium? It’s a natural muscle relaxant so it can help if they’re aching. Helps with muscles bones and the nerve system. You can get it in spray or liquid to take orally from Holland and Barrett or Amazon. Obviously, if you don’t feel comfortable giving it to him, check with the doctor. It helps us sleep.

[@Bethany04]

Haha 💯 recommend magnesium it’s amazing!

[@HomeWithShan]

@@Bethany04clearly great minds think alike!!!

[@racheldixon387]

You can also get bath salts containing magnesium. I get mine from b and m.

[@Jo4167]

Oh no gutted about the doona! For the school/nursery runs they’re so helpful! I can’t imagine it without a driveway either 😬! Long baby problems 😂 my daughter had long legs and a short torso luckily so she fitted her first seat by height until 2! Gutted for you! Xx

[@elliemae2237]

I used to wake up the exact same when I was younger and it was due to my hypermobility, I know you have said in previous videos about you and Halle having it, so it might just be worth a doctors visit to see if George also has it x

[@susannemurray7416]

You are smashing it. My 2.5 yo is vety similar to George with his nights. Does he have any bother with tonsils/mouth breathing? Ive had loads of people tell me that there are lots of links between that, poor sleep, night terrors and hyperactive type behavious. Often the hyperactivity is linked to tiredness from the poor sleep, or so im told. My son has enlarged tonsils but ENT not doing anything 🤦‍♀️ xx

[@livelaughlove000]

Eating solids may not be it. My son barely ate any solids at all until 12 months no matter what we tried but he was sleeping all night at least 11hrs straight since he turned 6 months, and has ever since until now that he’s 15 months. And from 4.5-6 months he was only waking once. I sleep trained super early starting at 2 months.

[@leannee4260]

Love this style vlog ❤ would you be able to do a partner a vlog saying what foods you feed Halle? I have a 9 month old andnshes my first so I still worry what foods she can eat. I'd never have thought she can have crumpets. Fritters sound amazing. I also struggle with how big foods should be. Xx

[@jellymumma9042]

Love your videos. I can SO relate to what you're going through with George. My LG 3yr 3m does the same thing, with the screaming, it has been going on, for what feels like, forever! One mins we could be playing then all of a sudden she turns into the hulk in 0.5 secs. I don't know how to deal with it and don't know who to ask for advise. But at least I know I'm not alone, UK x

[@Farjanazannat787Uk]

New subscriber here ! X and childrens. Fever temperature 🤒 machine which one is better please tell me ????

[@HeatherM2022]

What are the magnesium tablets please? My toddler does not sleep and is up 3 times a night x

[@x.gianna.x1545]

I love your videos. You always make me smile ❤❤❤

[@jineadcatnott3574]

Wow so relatable my 3 year old has been waking up at 2/3 in the morning complaining about her knees hurting and making me massage her! 😢

[@poly518]

Hi Shan. We had our 2nd kid 2 months ago. We have an EV car now and it saves so much time because we don't have to drive and fill up at the petrol station. Also in winter the car automatically defrost the windows and preheat the car and that saves time too. Leasing an EV is so Cheap at the moment as well. Something which might save you time

[@sophielouisetaylor4069]

We’ve actually gone private with a child psychiatrist just to make sure there’s nothing underlying/help with handling the behaviours the best we can so we can let him thrive as much as possible. If you want any details etc just let me know! We figured going private is much easier than going through the NHS as it’s quicker and more personal. ❤ whatever you conclude I’m sure you only want the best for him xxx

[@HomeWithShan]

Thank you so much for his Soph, I'd love some details! It's so hard to navigate, but ultimately, we just want to make sure we're doing right by him!! I also feel like it will be nice to get some parental support to make sure i'm not doing the wrong things, cause woooow, it's challenging sometimes! xxx

[@sophielouisetaylor4069]

@@HomeWithShan yeah I agree and that’s why we are doing it too. Just want to know if his traits are just general wanting to be in charge/controlling or whether there is more too it and how we can best support him! I’ll DM you xxx

[@HomeWithShan]

@@sophielouisetaylor4069 thank you so much ♥️♥️♥️

[@Jo4167]

Hi Shan my son has a neurodivergent diagnosis and I have been diagnosed with adhd as an adult, I also look after children under 5s some with probable additional needs so happy to chat if you ever need any support. It’s tough going and a minefield to get anywhere unfortunately! In my area adhd isn’t looked into until age 6 which is ridiculous really as they pass a lot off as toddler behaviour but I definitely had the instinct with my son from very young, but that’s nhs for you. I love your content as someone else said it’s relatable we all as mums have been through what you say, go through. Xx

[@deeacrt2808]

Hi Jo. Just wanted to ask - going for a private diagnosis for ADHD for example. Good idea or not? I heard there can be complications down the line.

[@Jo4167]

@@deeacrt2808 hiya no I went through the nhs but it took over a year. I believe you have to pay for your medication for a while if you go private and get a diagnosis. When your medicine is stable I believe you can transition back to your gp but I haven’t done this myself so not 100.% sure xx

[@samantharitchi9104]

Always LOVE your vlogs! Always so realistic and relatable! Ps, where is the cardboard castle from? My son is so into castles lately 🥹

[@chloejoy774]

aw poor Halle not very well! my little boy pulls at his ears when he’s teething because they’re all connected aren’t they and he gets a really warm sweaty head and sometimes a temp so sounds like teething! he also gets such a runny nose and sometimes a cough with teething it’s a whole ordeal😅🤣xx

[@HomeWithShan]

Bless em, just want to magic them better don’t you 🥹♥️

[@nicoleparadis8127]

You should get a splat mat for the floor !

[@mollymullin6419]

Hey Mamas! I feel this is a very supportive group with great advice and was wondering if anyone has advice for dealing with guilt/fear with regards to sending kids to nursery. My eldest will be 3 in June and everyone is telling me to send her to nursery in August but as she is Autistic, non verbal and has sensory issues I am simply terrified of leaving her with strangers, she also wears nappies and the thought of someone changing her freaks me out! I thought since George has been in daycare since he was a baby that maybe Shan may have some advice or some of the Mamas in this group could help? PS. Shan, you are an inspiration as a Mama and I have been taking your advice on mothering for 3 years and watching this channel since you were pregnant with George which is why I feel safe discussing this here ❤

[@jennymiller7013]

I had the exact same with my daughter - even same age ! I think it’s totally up to you whether you send her or not - don’t let anyone sway you ! I did end up sending my daughter as it was a place in a specialist nursery where they had lots of extra support for her in terms of speech and language help, lots of adults around and it was exactly what she needed ! It broke my heart to send her and made me feel so guilty - but she did 3 hours a day and really enjoyed it and learnt lots that I couldn’t teach her at home - like taking turns and sharing ! I think it’s all down to how you feel about that particular nursery too - will they meet her needs ? Do you feel confident in their abilities ? Will they help you with the EHCP process if that’s something you’re looking into ? Do they do makaton or what ever you think would help your child ? You totally have a right to ask the nursery all the questions you want to feel comfortable sending her I hope that’s somewhat helpful and not too overwhelming! Good luck with whatever you choose❤ remember you’re doing your best and that’s more than enough ❤

[@mollymullin6419]

@@jennymiller7013 thank you so much, that was really helpful! I am also definitely leaning towards ASN nurseries rather than mainstream but still undecided. Thanks for replying to me 😊❤️

[@HomeWithShan]

Hey Molly, I’m so glad you felt you could come here to chat with us, you’re so right, this is a safe space ♥️ It’s think it sounds like a great idea to look into ASN nurseries if you do want to go down the childcare route. They will be so understanding of how you’re feeling and I can promise you that you won’t be the only one! Everyone’s situation is so different but only you will know what is right for your little one and your family, whatever you decide will be the right choice ♥️ Good luck with it all lovely xxxx

[@Minniebol]

I never sent my daughter to nursery because of them very things. I could of written this myself. My daughter who is autistic, was offered the free hours of childcare and I wasn't comfortable with sending her given her speech delay, nappies and meltdowns. When she was 3, i ended up taking her to nursery. I seen massive differences with her development. The worries never went though. Being around other children her age was brilliant for her. She is 5 now and is talking very well. She has been in school since she was 4. Conversation skills are coming on and she has a echp for her care in school. She still wears nappies and they deal with it. She is getting on so well. But the worries have never left me. Overthinking is life now and its not easy at all. But motherhood isn't supposed to x

[@MarLilja]

Hope it will go better for George

[@TamaraHarrison-v1f]

Ive got 4 kids, im still up on the occasion. Sometimes bedtime battles and my three year old wakes me up so early like 6/7 with the words " mummy i pooed" 😂😂😂

[@TamaraHarrison-v1f]

Also have you tired putting yogurt/custard etc just on Hallies tray and just letting her use her fingers? Bit random but it used to work with my kids. I know it's messy but it useful to work with mine xx

[@Lucyloo-oi8yc]

Loved this vlog❤ please post a what’s on my iPhone video 😊

[@loobylou63]

With George turning four this year, is he going to go to a nursery attached to a school in September? He would get 30 hours as you both work. He is an intelligent little boy and would thrive in this type of environment x

[@kimredsell7579]

Hi Shan, something has been bothering me whilst watching a few of your videos lately. Your the best and I care so much. You mentioned about Halle's longer fingers and her hypermobility. It is absolutely probably not related at all but a condition called Marfan's syndrome keeps popping into my head when you speak about it. I just want you to be aware and Its hard to say something as don't want you or anyone to think I'm trying to diagnose or that anything is wrong because it is all probably perfectly fine but not saying anything has been eating me up too. It really comes from a good place. I know you would want any information you could to ensure you get the best for Halle IF there was anything to be concerned about. I feel awful saying anything. I hope you don't mind. I know iv also rambled. Also I love your channel so much ❤️

[@HomeWithShan]

Thank you so much and thank you so much for writing this is such a kind way, I really appreciate it. Halle is under the HV for her development so this is something I will mention next time we have a visit. Thank you again ❤

[@kimredsell7579]

@@HomeWithShan You are more than welcome. I'm sure she is absolutely fine. She is perfect! But no harm in checking/ruling out and just generally being the most amazing super mummy, because you put your kids 1st!! Thank you for being so kind about my comment as i was nervous to write it incase anyone thought I was trying to diagnose/being too nosey lol or maybe even think I was being mean. I want you all to be safe, happy and healthy so commenting was out of pure devotion to you/your channel and of course the kiddies. Wishing you all the best and can't wait for your next Vlog. Xx

[@tazminmiraseak1891]

Jus wanted to know how is pat pat never tried shein is amazing

[@emmacarter6214]

Molly seems like an incredibly well behaved dog (such a cutie). If you get the chance, I'd love to hear how she has got on with babies in the house - screaming, disturbed nights, jealousy? Where did she go while you were giving birth?

[@AnaLucia-hg4zq]

Have you thought about taking George to the doctors for his leg pain if it's that frequent? You got help immediately when Halle wasn't hitting milestones, this sounds more serious 💔

[@cally3763]

For Hypermobility, Jeannie Di Bon on KZbin, The Ehlers-Danlos Support UK and the Ehlers Danlos Society are great resources. It is a genetic disorder affecting collagen and is lifelong, there isn't a cure but you can do physio and strengthening to help limit pain. You can also work out tools that help you such as heat pads, support braces and taping. Having an understanding of this will help you and will help your daughter, there can be many more effects than just being a bit bendy, for example stretchy skin, slow gut motility, etc.

[@laceymaefish-gs9vp]

what was georges first word? love your vids so relatable makes me feel not alone xx

[@lizfield6486]

My daughter thinks temu is a scam,since ordering off them, they never leave her alone. They bombard-her with messages. She said she’s never ordering off them again. 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@serenagrace8493]

I've ordered from them twice and both times I get bombarded by so many spam emails from random emails

[@elliemae2237]

I have hypermobility but neither of our kids are diagnosed because is Covid, my eldest started walking at 15 months old , crawling and sitting up at 9 months but by 15 months old she could hold a full conversation with us, and at 19 months she was like a full blown toddler like you would expect a 2-3 year old to be, she’s now 3 and sooo clever and so far advanced compared to the other children at nursery put only just potty trained- they all get there in the end and once they go to school no one will ask when they started doing things youngest started walking a week before he turned 18 months but didn’t start sitting up or crawling until just as he turned one and he’s now 19 months and still a bit wobbly, and he also doesn’t say very much

[@melanieelliott8146]

My grandaughter will only eat with her fingers ❤

[@Minniebol]

I thought it seemed like a scam. But if you take into consideration that china makes most of the worlds things. 3D printing and they use robots too in their factories. You can see why these things are so cheap

[@martyward8997]

Could she be to warm, with all those clothes on, and that makes her fussy....just trying to help 😊