Homophobia IN the gay community

[@jimsmith1549]

John, very thoughtful video! A frequent example of internalized homophobia is the profile on either Grindr or Scruff that starts out with "athletic, masculine guy seeking same".

[@kenleyambroise]

I appreciate your insights, this is definitely an important topic for our community. I grew up as a really feminine boy and I faced a lot of backlash. I used to feel really uncomfortable in the presence of the gay boys who reminded me of myself, usually for the same issues I thought I had, like the pitch of my voice. I have healed from that and can appreciate and be attracted to a wider variety of gay men.

[@johnsharestories]

I am really proud of you for how far you have come and for how you have healed! Thank you for sharing!

[@TonyaD77444]

Matthew 19 12 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ says God prefers same-sex marriage and confirms transgender people are born that way Both Jesus and Elijah returned as women and will soon marry each other

[@PhilCollectibles]

I watched your video and realized something, there’s homophobia in the gay community, I have homophobia towards myself and hate myself for being gay and I didn’t even realize it

[@johnsharestories]

@@PhilCollectibles why do you hate yourself? I am sorry to hear this. Accepting a part of who you are is an initial step toward self-love and self-acceptance. :)

[@StephenHarris-j2z]

This subject can be more complicated than in your own life. Growing up in a time and place where homopobia was the norm, but most likely everyone was curious. I was but fortunate to be able to move to a city with a large gay population and see another side of how others viewed same sex relationships and becoming confident in myself. When I moved back to my hometown I chose to be the same man who I'd learned to be. The challenges alive meeting new people who never left the area and live in a somewhat similar mindset that is unfamiliar to me. I've never been disrespected, but I'll have a different time with understanding their love and support. While I'm reminding me of respecting their boundaries and continuing to be the best friend I'm able 💛

[@bryanthomas4907]

Such a cute pillowww!!! ^___^

[@hamedchemli6270]

Is it just a pillow or a political message tho? Hahaha

[@MHBebop17]

I find homophobia as an ex- volunteer of LGBT organisations; when I noticed that people were only using their status as exec members to get attention and power over others, I realised it wasn't the place for me. In return, these people marginated me from the community and do not encourage my presence at activist rallies whenever I attend to show my ongoing support. I think it's a shallow way of saying, "We don't need you" and quite frankly, I feel hurt abandoned by the people I considered a family.

[@johnsharestories]

@@MHBebop17 that is an unfortunate thing that happened to you, and I am sorry. You made a healthy decision for yourself, and I am proud of you to have the fortitude to make it.

[@blademaster7879]

I get that. I came out later, well in to adulthood. I had to deal with my own internal homophobia being raised Christian. It's also why I came out later because I fought my own attractions for so long. I dont recommend that either, it caused major depression. I don't suppress it anymore and am open. However, you wouldnt be able to tell I'm gay at all by looking at or interacting with me. It's still very much a struggle for me to meet or get to know gay people. I just dont have very much experience with it.

[@saroxkingdom]

My parents definitely don't like homosexuality. They're not religious but they believe in morals and the natural order of things, which I don't think they realize have coldness.

[@potts995]

That’s (sad) funny because homosexuality is very normal and natural, but then they’re probably the type of people who are very selective with what they consider “natural,” which conveniently aligns to a highly artificial, heteronormative worldview?

[@hamedchemli6270]

Nature doesn't care.

[@JoseOliveira-qq9mk]

Hey.... I have been following some of your videos. I am Portuguese (Iberian Peninsula in Europe) and I have been living with my partner for the last five years. We are both quite older than you (56 and 65) and we found each other quite late in our lives. Most importantly, we have only came out to our families when we were togethet, which means that our families had to deal with the fact quite late in their lives. Curiosily, my mother (86) calls my partner her "adoptive son" and his (huge) family has been great to me (maybe because there are nieces and nephews and cousins who are also gay). Having said that, and even though we are openly a couple in our social interactions, we have come to notice that any PDA is frowned upon, and that maybe the fact that we are usually well accepted within our community of acquaintaces has a lot to do with the fact that we are both quite "masculine" in our demeanours, whatever that means. Just a note on what it is like in one of the oldest countries in Europe (900+ years old), with a very strong catholic inheritance, although homossexuality is perfectly protected in out Constitution as a right (I am so proud of that, thar I had to mention it!). I love your hands, btw....

[@johnsharestories]

@@JoseOliveira-qq9mk thank you kindly for taking the time to write out your thoughts and elaborate. I am happy you feel more comfortable sharing your story and how far you have come.

[@WhamBamDan]

It's good that your Mum has accepted you, it's just a shame that it took time. There's really not too much homophobia in my country anymore, at least compared to what it used to be like. I worry for the U.S though, and I hope that you don't end up going backwards. I struggled a lot with coming out, even though I knew I wouldn't face any push-back from friends and family (my older brother is gay, so I could see how everyone reacted to that. I had no idea! Haha) I still found it really hard to do or talk about. I'm still figuring things out, but am in a much better headspace regarding it.

[@johnsharestories]

@@WhamBamDan it is a unique journey, and I believe that if the US continues to spiral into populism and not target classism, then it will not be auspicious for many groups of people.

[@PhilipWeisman-dl4ik]

As far as point one, that could be an episode in itself. For instance, in many cultures lesbians are rarely mentioned or acknowledged. Men, because of proctreation, it is more of a stigma to reject your societal role. However, the often creates a dual cultural operative of life-long close male friendships that even include the sexual dimension. And knowledge of the male world is frequently denied to women. Very complex multi-layered topic l believe.

[@TonyaD77444]

Matthew 19 12 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ says God prefers same-sex marriage and confirms transgender people are born that way. Male or female is determined by gender located in the soul not sex characteristics. Jesus and Elijah both returned as women and will soon marry each other

[@bryantoscar-xl6vb]

The sound could have been a little louder. I LOVE YOUR WATERMELON PILLOW. I do not have any gay friends. I to have friends, but in the past my so called new friends just wanted to take advantage of me being disabled. I denied it for a lot of years. I know now that I have a love or the hairy bear kind of man. Most people just want something from you whether it money, a place to stay, I find it real hard to find a nice gay man that does not want to just use you. I love watching your videos. I will never be an only fans fan. Since inflation I have been scraping by to pay my bills each month. I will continue watching your videos on KZbin. Thank You.🌈🌈❤️❤️💋💋🌈🌈😊😊😊💋💋🌈

[@TonyaD77444]

Jesus and Elijah both returned as women and will marry each other. Matthew 19 12 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ says God prefers same-sex marriage and confirms transgender people are born that way Hi

[@johanandersson8252]

Happy Melon 🍉

[@BatchelderPatrick]

sound not loud enough 😁

[@johnsharestories]

I will keep this a mental note for future videos. Thank you!

[@TonyaD77444]

Matthew 19 12 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ says God prefers same-sex marriage and confirms transgender people are born that way. Jesus and Elijah returned as women and will soon marry each other Male or female is determined by gender located in the soul not sex characteristics.

[@DemetriB0329]

Just subscribed! ❤

[@dersteinwender]

What a cute man, and important topics as well! Regards from Austria!

[@Dave1Claudius]

I disagree ! We are not all the same and have different Values and Standards, Conduct and that is what separates us . The LGBT Agenda doesn't align with us so we don't accept it and we are not just a few. What I found in my 67 yrs is most folks don't care it's your Conduct that turns them off. Gays like me agree for we are different has nothing to do with being proud it's common sense.

[@johnsharestories]

@@Dave1Claudius what do you disagree with?