Top 4 Regrets Patients Have at the End of Life

[@meghancronin9156]

Thank you for this, Julie 💗

[@hospicenursejulie]

💗

[@marthamargarita-lm1ok]

@@meghancronin9156 🙏🏼😘💕

[@Wanderingsomewhere145]

Was diagnosed with leukemia in 2016. We sold everything and my wife and I hit the road in our motor home. The cancer stabilized, we hike every day, eat well and live fully. Not sure when the downhill run will start, but we have no regrets. “The love you make, is the love you take”. 🙏🏻

[@karenzilverberg4699]

Sounds like you are healed up.

[@pudik2008]

Sending you prayers for good health.🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@kat35lulu88]

Sounds like you have lots of good times ahead! State of mind..... happiness......loving every day goes a long way. I agree with the other comments...... (sneak in some fast food just for the heck of it!)

[@oddlilbird]

@@Wanderingsomewhere145 wishing you all the best!🤍✨

[@martykerns3802]

You’ve done everything right to heal yourself. Without knowing it, you developed the right mindset.

[@alissasilva9499]

When I think of life's regrets, I remember a poem written by a 14 year old boy which I've shared here. It really is about stopping and appreciating where we're at in the season of life. I know I've wasted and wished time away... Present Tense It was Spring, But it was Summer I wanted, The warm days, And the great outdoors. It was Summer, But it was Fall I wanted, The colorful leaves, And the cool, dry air. It was Fall, But it was Winter I wanted, The beautiful snow, And the joy of the holiday season. It was Winter, But it was Spring I wanted, The warmth, And the blossoming of nature. I was a child, But it was adulthood I wanted, The freedom, And respect. I was twenty, But it was thirty I wanted, To be mature, And sophisticated. I was middle-aged, But it was twenty I wanted, The youth, And the free spirit. I was retired, But it was middle-age I wanted, The presence of mind, Without limitations. My life was over. But I never got what I wanted. By Jason Lehman Jason Lehman was 14 years of age when he wrote the above poem. It was sent to Abigail Van Buren, who after verifying that the poem’s author was indeed ‘a teenager wise beyond his years,’ published it in her newspaper column “Dear Abby” (14 February 1989).

[@elbee1290]

Wow, that is profound. Reminds me very much of Harry Chapin's song, "Cat's in the Cradle". Same sentiment about always putting off the important things in life while in pursuit of what we THINK we want instead. Thanks so much for writing out that poem for us, so much gratitude to you

[@EC-yd9yv]

❤it . thx for sharing🕊️🌸

[@YeshuaKingMessiah]

Def the “middle aged but it was 20 I wanted” is very very true even if none else is! Youth WITH knowledge & wisdom- wouldnt that be a TRIP

[@lovewhitey4462]

Phenomenal 🖊thank you for sharing this gem 💎

[@maryjohammons8905]

I ❤

[@SeaMonkey1968]

The day my dad passed I woke up very early and saw a light soft fluorescent type go out and I knew I had to get to dad quickly. I got dressed and told my husband I wanted to be alone with my dad. I got to the facility an aide let me in. Sure enough I saw my dad and told the nurse my dad was dying. I knew he only had a couple of hours left. They moved him to a private room. I sang to him and prayed over him. I can’t sing I feel like it was someone else singing my father even turned towards me. My voice sounded amazing! 😆 I knew I was in a heavenly realm! His eyes closed quickly and opened slowly he was gone. I saw the second his soul was taken! A year before he went off the radar he woke up early (at my home) He said “God made a miracle for me, God made a miracle.” I said, “Tell me!” “He is going to help me cross the road but not yet, we need to avail the time we have left.” All Glory to God! So many miracles happened for me and dad it would just blow you away. I’m an only child and God was with me through the whole process.

[@jackielong9927]

@@SeaMonkey1968 Amen

[@WoosterBreeze]

@@SeaMonkey1968 I love your story.

[@kims.6256]

I can relate. I too am an only child and lost my Dad on November 6th. I experienced so many God winks. Knowing God was seeing me through this loss was a blessing. Dad and I shared our home for his last 19 years and his very last at a Home. He lived to be 96. Thank you Julie for your wisdom.

[@johnduffy6546]

God is our comfort and strength

[@saul.t.2.969]

God and Jesus ( for me, realizing we all find our saviors along the road) is such sweet respite. The love, the times God has held me, taken me by the hand, whispered that I wasn’t safe or needed to make a change. It pains me to hear when folks belief in nothing.

[@tarawest72]

I’ve got terminal cancer and I didn’t dream I’d be facing my mortality this early in life. There is so much I wanted to do and achieve.

[@nadinemasteller1089]

Do what you can and makes you happy. You have to really live every minute that you can now. I've nearly died twice, I hope this helps.

[@elbee1290]

I pray you find joy and meaning in every moment you DO have....and know that you're not alone. Blessings to you....

[@leahhawks2654]

Make a new list!!!

[@lindabeall5614]

Prayers

[@dottiegillespie8067]

I'm so sorry. I hope you have peace.

[@NormanChester882]

If we'd had a sweetheart like Julie when Mama was passing away, everybody would have been a little more comfortable about what was going on, every body would have been informed, the world needs more Julie's

[@southernsass2937]

I second that ♥️🙌

[@johnduffy6546]

100 Amens to that

[@NormanChester882]

@southernsass2937 thanks for stopping by

[@NormanChester882]

@southernsass2937 if you don't mind I'll be looking at your channel, God bless you

[@NormanChester882]

@@johnduffy6546 God bless you and your family John

[@sharonholmes6083]

As a retired Geriatric nurse, the one regret that I can truly understand is not taking care of one's body properly. This is a lesson I learned from my patients while I was still actively nursing and I made the decision to make changes early on. I greatly appreciate this video, as your points are indeed valid. Thank you, Julie, for sharing!

[@SqueakyPeeps]

I am a dietitian and work with geriatric populations too. I also learned this same lesson from my patients. Specifically, TAKE CARE OF YOUR TEETH, YOUR FEET AND YOUR BACK. These 3 parts of our body are crucial to maintaining a good quality of life.

[@deborahcheek1715]

@@sharonholmes6083 I had a very successful business, beautiful children, beautiful home, and was an athlete. One day because I was working too many hours I fell asleep behind the wheel and flipped my car five times, took out a tree and a telephone pole and that ended everything. Now when I see people with perfectly healthy bodies and legs it upsets me that they take it for granted because I would do anything to be able to run up and down a mountain again, mountain bike, swim, etc. I lost it all and again it kills me to see healthy people wasting that healthy body. I will never have it back again

[@MichelleRochner]

I remember asking my 80+ Yo Grandfather THIS question(he was not on Hospice at the time), “upon reflection, What would you have done differently in your younger adult life?” His reply, “I wish I would have taken more chances”.

[@90w30n]

@@MichelleRochner I'm in my 70s, in good health, and I'm going to take clogging lessons despite my worries (what if I'm too slow? what if I fall down?). I've also started "dressing up" more, in unusual outfits - lots of bright scarves, cool boots, funky jewelry, can't believe the compliments, "You look wonderful, very French!" is probably the most common and my favorite, though I haven't figured out why. I realized I actually look like my colorful, interesting art! 😀

[@MichelleRochner]

@ isn’t it refreshing to be who YOU are, and to be accepted! Have fun, and I’m super proud of you!

[@heyfitzpablum]

It is often said that when you become older it is the things you didn't do which bother you the most, not the mistakes you might have made. The opportunities-most with some risk-not taken. I just turned 70 and this resonates with me, I was always very conservative in my life and tried to reduce risks. Looking back, I wish I had done more things even if it meant taking on some of those risks. That's what life is all about, experiencing these things along the way-even at the risk of being hurt or failing. If you're always playing it safe, you miss a lot of experiences.

[@90w30n]

@@heyfitzpablum The falling thing is because I have osteoporosis. But... I've always been clumsy (I'm that person who steps on a rake and gets bonked in the head with the handle), and I've fallen since I've had osteoporosis, and ended up just fine. I actually plan, on my way down, how to fall. 🤪 Someone said that I probably have good muscle memory with so much falling experience.

[@90w30n]

@@MichelleRochner Yes! I've always been true to myself, then we had a lot of deaths (all under the age of 50) in the family within two years, along with two diagnoses, one cancer, one early-onset Alzheimer's. I help care for both, but they're doing really well, so I wouldn't call myself a caregiver. 🙂 Anyway, I think all this has opened the door to a part of myself that I wasn't aware existed. Sometimes you don't get to be all of your true self. 😉 My family all have a dark sense of humor, which keeps us going. One of my children calls us "The Dwindling Party" which is an illustrated book by Edward Gorey, where a family tours a castle (I think), and each of them has a fatal freak accident, except for the young girl, who was the only kind, decent one in the whole lot. Yes, dark.

[@cathywestholt5324]

I am 70. I am alone and can't afford to retire. After some injuries, I am now dependent on a rollator walker. I see people zipping around and think I hope they appreciate that ability while they have it. I am getting tired and worn out of working, but have no options yet. I want to be home working on my quilts and enjoying life at my own pace. At least I work for a major hospital in a non-clinical role where I get great healthcare with premiums a lot less than Medicare. I worked in a hospice house for six years. Hospice is such a blessing. I would say a regret could be not getting on hospice soon enough to reap the benefits of that level of care. So many of our patients signed up for hospice less than a day before they died. Hospice could have done so much to make the latter days much more comfortable and address symptoms better. Thank you for all you do! ❤

[@elbee1290]

Thank you for sharing your story. Both my parents use walking aids and witnessing them going from total inability to walk (after a fall or illness/muscle de-conditioning after long hospital stays) has made me much more aware of the gift of movement we can so easily take for granted. Bless you, too, for mentioning that signing up for Hospice is better sooner rather than later. Very important lesson. Thank you!

[@cathywestholt5324]

@nosac1230 how much does what cost?

[@oddlilbird]

Wishing you all the best! 💜

[@sharonlain5830]

I am praying that you are blessed with health and finances you need . Bless you ❤

[@mariaquintero6035]

I hope you get to retire soon. If you live in Los Angeles I can help run errands for you if you need help

[@juliegoldbeck6431]

1. Be grateful for your working body. 2. Don’t work your life away. 3. Relationships - spend more time with family/friends. Mend broken relationships. 4. Don’t live life for what others think of you.

[@southamericanredneck9471]

@juliegoldbeck6431 I'm grateful that I have the discipline to exercise, even though I'm almost 71, I don't drink, smoke, or use drugs. I worked very hard and went to college while being a construction worker because I grew up poor. Regrettably, I neglected my social life, considering it superfluous. Regardless, I wasn't going to be poor again, and I am very satisfied with the final result. The only people I love were my mom, my stepdad, and my girlfriend. My sisters are blood sucking scum.

[@theeggtimertictic1136]

I always think of Bob Hope who said 'if i had of known i would live this long I would have taken better care of myself'. I think we could plan better if we knew how long we have 😅

[@carolhooper3247]

My father passed when I was 17. The last time I saw him I ran back to his hospital room to tell him I loved him but the nurses were in and I decided…I’ll do it tomorrow. NEVER put off or neglect telling your loved one they are loved. Next time may never come. I was with my sister the last 48 hours of her life and tried to tell and show her how much she meant to me. That was exactly 5 years ago today.

[@darcykeith5906]

These regrets of the dying are so well known now. But how clever to turn them into actionable advice for all of us. This youtube channel is remarkable and impactful. Bravo

[@JC-tp5lz]

I agree. Julie is awesome and has taught me so many valuable lessons! ❤️

[@elbee1290]

You're so right! I hadn't quite thought of it this way, but I agree with you. Thank you for your insight!

[@johnduffy6546]

Nurse Julie, your videos have been such a blessing to us for the last few months since my father-in-law went on Hospice. Today, we laid him to rest at the age of 90. He went peacefully in his sleep. You are an Angel and your work is noble. It takes a very special person to do what you do. I just wanted to say, thank you.

[@Belman5]

Terrific video. Sometimes it's not all about travelling too, it's about appreciating where you are and what's around you. We do take so much for granted.

[@sosomelodies659]

I got to see my daughter be born. I got to hold her, hug her, squeeze her, and watched her grow become a young teenager. My life is already fulfilled. Everything else is icing on a cake.

[@Sentimentalist0923]

Since my 50th bday 7 years ago, I’ve been on a mission to make peace with all things and people in my life and to focus more on TIME.

[@zekaay]

Ever since I’ve worked temporarily with paralyzed people at age 27 as a care worker, I still think how amazing it is to be able to walk and go to the toilet on my own. I’m not even joking, the most basic things can become miraculous when you have the opportunity to spend time with people who can no longer do those things. (Especially now that I live with a slow growing brain cancer which should have affected my motor skills, but it didn’t thanks to my brain plasticity - still young - so do sports regularly even more so now that I have to work on having energy for basic things, and enjoying still being able to walk, run, dance) Thank you for putting such an important and truly inspiring content online 😊

[@remaguire]

Many years ago, I worked in a hospital as an orderly and one of our patients was a young man around 20 years old who was paralyzed from the neck down. When he was 17 he dove into a lake and the water was very shallow. I cannot imagine the horror of the prospect of living decades more in such a condition. It still haunts me today.

[@amywhitaker1862]

OMG that hit me hard! I have ME/CFS and have been bedridden for almost four years. I used to be able to do so much (volunteer fire fighter/EMT-I while full time law enforcement) and now I’m stuck in a dark room with just enough energy to make it to the bathroom, but not to shower, etc.

[@toryberch]

Hi Amy 👋👋 Your not alone in this journey I too have several autoimmune diseases that limit me deeply. Sending you warm gentle hugs 🤗

[@jackielong9927]

❤️🙏🙏🙏🙏❤️

[@jackielong9927]

@@toryberch❤❤❤🙏💯❤️❤️

[@toryberch]

@jackielong9927 🤗❤️🥰

[@amywhitaker1862]

@@toryberch right back at you sister! 🤗

[@joecooksey4331]

Spot on... signed retired RN at 68 years old.

[@sharonholmes6083]

Same here, a retired nurse at age 66.

[@susantaylor4974]

@@joecooksey4331 Jesus follower here. Knowing where I’m going after I die

[@MamaT160]

Thank you. I've known many people diagnosed with diseases that took their lives before they reached retirement. I've seen them try to cram those once-in-a-lifetime trips into whatever time they have left. Hard to fit a trip to Costa Rica into the chemo schedule. I'm watching my husband, who planned to retire early, keep working because a financial advisor said we might live to age 90 and therefore we'd run out of money. Fear is the worst emotion to live with daily. Don't live life looking back and regretting the past, looking forward and fearing the future, and missing the life that we have right now. Life is short. There's never "enough" time, money, whatever. We're squandering this gift of life we've been given.

[@petercreagh8797]

I thought the fear created with the covid pandemic was crazy when far more die from cancer and no one lives their life in fear of getting that. Covid has a 95% chance of survival anyway.

[@duerremueller3609]

The one about not living for other peoples expectations hit hard. I’m 24 and lived almost entirely for everyone else to the point that last year I almost took my own life. Realized I had to start doing the right things for ME and although I’ve lost some people along the way, most of my relationships, especially with my parents, are deeper and closer and more real than they ever were before. Live as your real self and the right people will stick around

[@wowenne3050]

I’ve discovered through life’s experiences that it’s always best to follow your own heart. ❤ Best wishes to you.

[@marlenea.6465]

This is so true ! Wishing you a great future. ❤

[@HugsXO]

I wish you well going forward in YOUR life.

[@malloryjines5050]

I’m a 68 year old grandmother. As you age, pleasing others is less important. What others think is absolutely irrelevant. Live according to your beliefs and don’t even think about those who would criticize you. Remember, it’s your life to live, no one else’s .

[@pudik2008]

You are absolutely right. Ppl hang around us for what they can get out of us. After my son died I lost so many friends and learned a painful lesson,some walked away on their own,some I had to leave behind,but I realized that I can survive without those ppl,as the important real friends stayed by my side.❤️❤️

[@lpkem1]

You are an angel on earth. God bless.❤ xo

[@rebeccamiller1741]

Such an important message ..at 65 , I am so pleased to have put my horses , riding and travel with my horses ahead of better employment or home ownership ..Ive lived snd enjoyed life

[@elbee1290]

That's so inspiring, thank you!!

[@YeshuaKingMessiah]

If u have n even travelled w/horses I’m thinking ur finances will hold out ok the next decade or so Good for u making 65 so active

[@lleocttx2326]

Old and stopped riding when my last horse had to be put down (roping champion, 28 years old). Life always seemed better when looked at from between your bestest friend’s two warm🐴 ears ❣️

[@gyptess4794]

@@lleocttx2326. You are so absolutely right. There is nothing like being on the back of one of your best friends, smelling mountain air and praying and thanking God for all the gifts you’ve been given. And knowing that you’re being taken such good care of. And loved.

[@elizabethter-sahakyan6692]

There is nothing more painful than losing a parent and realizing that there are many unsaid words. Say you love them while they are still around... Praise God, I had time to tell my dad that I love him very much.❤❤❤

[@bratttt100]

Enjoy life when your young. Get out and have FUN, chase your dreams before it's to late.

[@karenhenderson1063]

I watched from the UK over the last year. MY Mum passed away 3 weeks ago,her end of life was brave, and so dignified. As her advocate, I used your advice and guidance, I feel I did the best I could, and Mum died very well. I took your advice to her care team in her care home, I am heartbroken, but with no regrets for mum❤❤❤❤

[@smokeykitty6023]

You acted well for your mom and for yourself. May God give you the peace to remember all of those wonderful memories and take comfort in them. You are a good daughter and your mother was blessed to have had you there with her.

[@pamelathomas7412]

your health is your wealth! So true,I lost my health and my mobility after a massive stroke, losing your health and your mobility is the worst thing that can happen, it'll steal your whole life!

[@shevindudley4746]

I just want to Thank You Nurse Julie 😊 I am 55 and I am terminally ill and your videos really help me and give me answers to questions that I think about.

[@Smola126]

@@shevindudley4746 ❤️❤️❤️

[@marathoner43]

Good advice Julie. Live each day to it's fullest. You never know when your last day on this Earth is going to be.

[@KarenTipping189]

Health is wealth

[@JC-tp5lz]

I don't think we ever truly appreciate what we have...until we don't have it anymore. I'm a prime example of that. I acquired bacterial pneumonia earlier this year, which...with the help of COPD...caused my heart to go into A-Fib. The A-Fib, in turn, caused acute congestive heart failure. After 1 week in the hospital and 3 weeks in Rehab, I was released on my own recognisince. No one to help me and so weak I could barely walk across a room. So tired...had the energy of a "slug". I'm now on no less than 15 prescription drugs which I'm told will be part of life till the day I die. "Denial" was the name of the game for me. Although in my late 70's, I refused to believe....much less "accept"... that I too was going to die some day. It was so much easier to believe that "major health issues and dying" are things that happen to OTHER people, not to me. What a stupid fool I have been! (until now). A real honest "wake up call"! Thank you Lord for helping me to "see the light", and for giving us "Hospice Nurse Julie" to show us the way! ❤️

[@elbee1290]

Your health history almost exactly mimics my father's journey. If he makes it, he'll be 90 in a few weeks (he's on Hospice). I am learning from your experience of not taking anything health-related for granted. Thanks for your sharing your story!

[@JC-tp5lz]

@elbee1290 ❤️❤️ You're welcome, as sharing my story was therapeutic for me too. I hope your Father has a peaceful transition into the spiritual after life. Take care! ❤️❤️

[@YeshuaKingMessiah]

Starting with COPD was not helping at all lol U had a very optimistic view for someone w/copd!

[@petercreagh8797]

My father was on 12 drugs a day before he died. I asked him if he wanted me to look them up on the internet to see what they did and he said no. He actually died from giving up eating at 87 and I thought after he died if any side effects from the drugs could have caused his loss of appetite.

[@JC-tp5lz]

@@YeshuaKingMessiah An FYI..my COPD was not self-inflicted. Never smoked, but was forced to breathe in volumes of secondhand smoke from relentless chain-smoking Father and ex-husband. 😕

[@julieshelley-fd5kp]

Love your channel Julie. I am 55 years old and have been fortunate. thinking of leaving corporate America. You have given much insight..

[@susantaylor4974]

@@julieshelley-fd5kp absolutely leave corporate America. I did… to follow Jesus 12 years ago. No regrets!!

[@martykerns3802]

I retired 10 years ago at age 60. Never regretted it for a minute.

[@kparinisi]

I needed to hear this. Thank you for making me think.

[@captainhoratiobungleiii7147]

I have had pretty severe ME/CFS and I really feel the first one in my core! I always think about, if I had a time machine, I would go back and say, "go outside and feel the sun on your face and run as fast as you can. And dance as much as you can."

[@pbinsb3437]

Thank you for sharing your wisdom.

[@SuperDurv]

Go see your parents. I miss mine so much. It's hard for me to go visit them in India but I'm hoping next year. Go see your parents.. ❤❤

[@lisacepluch1152]

I think that we all will regret how much we had to work for the majority of our lives, sometimes in a position that is not good and doesn't particularly pay well. Unfortunately that's the reality of life these days. It's great if you can afford to retire but for many people that's just not going to ever happen. So while people may end up regretting having to work so hard and so long, there may not be anything they could have done differently. I think that's important that people know that

[@JenCat-nu1gn]

I do not have a job my husband has some health issues so I made it my job to care about as much I can do to help him take care with him so I make meals he can eat with a bit more love and care his body can handle and whatever things come our way we handle it with love : ) If he is happy I am happy but it starts in yourself to love whom you are and think why doing the things we do and what you said appreciate the things we still can do makes it life easier. Thank you for sharing and have a lovely day.

[@dancelover020]

My mum mainly regretted not doing things just for herself, not travel, not move to another country which she would have loved to have done. Just do things for herself without having to think about others (mainly me and my brother). It helped me decide to actually do things without thinking too much about how it makes others feel. And yes, I HAVE moved to another country. One of my best decisions ever!

[@elbee1290]

That's so brave. I only fantasize about moving abroad but suspect I'd be happy (though a period of adjustment would probably have to be gone through first....it's a big change) Thanks for sharing your story ...

[@dancelover020]

@@elbee1290 Thank you. It doesn't even have to be as big as moving. It's just not wrong doing things that make YOU happy, even if loved ones might be dissapointed. 😘

[@gnostic268]

Having Hospice Nurse Julie share this is such a gift. Working in hospice is an amazing gift. This is so important. Thank you!

[@chime-girl]

Very thankful for Nurse Julie!! Currently caretaking my mom (79) stage 4 NSCLC (Lung cancer) and dad (81) late stage dementia -Assisted Living. Both are divorced. I'm an only adult child experiencing compassion burn out. Going on two years of supporting.

[@nadinemasteller1089]

I've never had good health, but I have declined as I've aged as expected. I've almost died twice. I've always lived every day in constant pain which has also gotten worse I've aged. But I'm still trying to do what I can to enjoy every day. I'm old now and know that I could die any day. Time is short and every day is a gift. My biggest regret is that I didn't have more children because of my health issues. Also, my husband didn't want more children. Some things are beyond our control. I do wish that I could help my daughter and her husband financially, but again, some things are beyond our control. I am there for them in all the ways that I can be. That will not be a regret. My daughter had a good childhood. That will not be a regret. I visit with my sister as much as I can. Being close with family is one of the most important things in life that I can think of. Maybe that comment will help others.

[@ilovetotri23]

The one thing I would regret the most is not giving an honest hug to the people I truly love!

[@dalequale9365]

Amen Julie. 🙏 I'm 69, third year of my paleo journey and in better shape than age 40. My purpose is to help my veteran neighbors, show by example things CAN improve. Then Karma and self-validation. Finally being informed politically, hoping to leave the world a little better off. 💪🙏

[@Boddissatva]

It’s called life’s wisdom. Hear it loud. Thank you

[@sanibel3]

This was really salient. You have a great perspective due to your career. I have always thought alot about death (don’t know why) and I have always felt incredibly grateful for my life and my health. I hope that helps me to have a peaceful death. Thank you Nurse Julie. ❣️🍀

[@barbarasolomon7749]

Don't spend so much time making a living that we forget to make a life. Great video, thanks!

[@MartinVanDerSande]

Great insights, thanks for sharing. I had cancer at 26, thankfully I got through it. 16 years on, I certainly got to experience a very different side to life and makes living way more appreciated.

[@thelmab.1516]

Julie, your talks are always most helpful. They are thought-provoking and make me think about how I am living my life (and what if I had only a small amount of time left -- what would I want or need to do). I've never understood why people are so afraid to talk about dying. We are all going to die. It's just the timing that we don't know.

[@maryhruth]

YES, Nurse Julie! What a hero you are. Thank you!

[@robaldridge6505]

live every day as if it were your last, then be glad every day that you were WRONG !

[@james1795]

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[@FishOnIsMyHandle]

I love this video and I thank God for the gifts

[@JJHiller83]

Thank you for the reminder of these basic but often forgotten priorities. I retired a few months ago. Decided to be a volunteer in hospice care. Im currently in training.Thank you for taking the time to make these videos.

[@mikki3961]

I live my life in gratitude. To focus on all the good I have instead of my woes gives me the strength to enjoy life. I am not a polly anna, however, positive thoughts do equal a positive life. Somethings cannot be changed, the past is the past, I let it go. Being kind is a great gift to self and others.

[@michellewhyatt4438]

You really are lovely I have listened watched your vids & learnt a great deal from you. Thank you so much for what you've put in these vids. You're an amazing lovely lady. You care a great deal about your patients thier loved ones. You've helped us too. God bless

[@KeithVaught]

Thank you so much for sharing these four regrets. Last year was my family’s impossible year as we lost my wife of 45 years and my mom. It’s never too late to appreciate time, health, friends, and family. I like to say, “good friends add years to your life and life to your years.”

[@russelldavis6405]

I am a two time cancer survivor and my husband passed away ( he had Cystic Fibrosis ) in July. I have learned with these experiences and never take life or my health for granted. Thank you for your videos. They have helped me tremendously!!!

[@donovankelly7723]

We are truly a blessed people. Hopefully we'll recognize this and thank God for our bodies/lives

[@tracybaldwin241]

Oh julie , when you were talking about the sip of coffee and to really enjoying it I was petting my poodle. As my fingers were passing thru her coat you then said something to the fact of appreciating your dog laying beside you Wow what timing, it made me think! You are so right we need to slow down and experience life before it’s gone. I will definitely start doing the exercises you mentioned. Love your book by the way! Take care Tracy ❤🐩

[@That_Freedom_Guy]

Every day is a miracle! Take nothing for granted. Thank you for such an important message for the whole world! 🌎💕

[@clarencejacksonjr.]

Love this! I retired at age 61 to ENJOY my life. And I am. There was a lady who I worked with who retired the same exact day I retired. She was 68 years old. She died five months later. I stopped living my life for other people and for myself. I also lost weight, and have incorporated more fruit and veggies in my diet. And also not get all caught up in the news. My regret if I knew I was dying would be not traveling more.

[@petercreagh8797]

I think people who die soon after retirement do so due to loving their jobs right up to the end and I guess retirement for them would be a depressing time.

[@mbrown5494]

All makes sense. End of life always sucks. Try to live life without regrets. I'd like to think I would regret nothing. But that's probably not realistic. However, I will accept any/all regrets I may have. I chose all my own major decisions. Good or bad. Unfortunately I think about this too often. I always feel like Im on deaths door. (47 years of T1 diabetes) It's been a rough last 25 years. I have close relationships with only a few very close family members, and that works. Keep your circle small. Thanks for the vid Julie!😘

[@robertmoore4637]

OMG!!!! What i have been saying for 10 years now, to all my kids and even my wife. Im 53

[@betsybabf748]

My husband died suddenly at only 45 years old. He was the hardest worker I know, working 14-16 hour days. He went in at 3am so he could see our kids for sometime in the evenings, but I always tried to get him to take time off. He only ever took vacation time when we had a baby or someone needed surgery. Our children were aged 6 yrs old to 23 yrs old. We don't get that time back with him, and it kills me because I know he worked so hard for us. 😢😢

[@YeshuaKingMessiah]

That’s horrible he wouldn’t stop only wkg I’m so sad for ur kids never having a daddy I hope u find a way to keep a roof over ur head. Making less than $40 an hr won’t do it.

[@joansmall9019]

The things that we take for granted when illness comes. I have had chronic health issues most of my life. I'm about to be 70yrs old and I have arthritis everywhere and I need knee replacements and a shoulder too. I need surgery on both of my wrists, too. My husband died 5yrs ago and I miss him so much. If he was here, I could get these surgeries, but now I have no one to help me. We talked about things we wanted to do, like travel, and never did. I regret that we didn't. I regret not pushing myself more to pursue some things I wanted to do. Life has been rough for a part of my life, but it kept me closer to God. One day, you look up, and you realize that time has gotten shorter, and you can look back and regret or make peace with it. My father taught me that family is so important, and I have tried to instill it in my son's and their kids. Don't let life catch you up with the regret. Do something before it's too late. And take better care of yourself.

[@elbee1290]

Thank you for sharing your wisdom here, Very helpful and touching, too. May you find peace every day.

[@simplyblessed369]

Thank you Julie! You're angelic! This always hits home as my other mother has ALS father has cancer....Live like you're dying...write your own ending!❤❤❤

[@Dennismygearheadlife]

We need more people like you in the world julie, very much respect for the work you do

[@candicesheryn]

so very true Julie ❤

[@JillDuffield-v2h]

We ALL need to remember these things during all parts of our lives, not just at the end! Thank you for this reminder!!

[@kurtmeister8308]

Just lost my father -in -law after a 6 month Hospice journey. I really appreciate your materials. They helped me understand and be able to lead my family as we marched the path. Thank you again and this evenings release was spot on!

[@marlenea.6465]

I do my gratitude list every day ❤

[@nancycrockett4276]

Every day above ground is a great day! Ty my Jesus 🙏❣🌻💫

[@TH-xx9cn]

Absolutely I'm only on your 1st point. As a Christian, I've found if you tap into gratitude for the little things everyday helps. Daily basis 100% thank you Julie. There is good in everyday, even though not everyday is good. May everyone get to know Jesus. Make Heaven crowded.✝️🙏

[@superkommunikatoren4987]

Think this channel is the best on KZbin! Its about real life!

[@denisek292]

I speak, not only for myself, but for the many chronic illness patients that live for years missing a healthy body, losing relationships because friends and family give-up on them, and depending on others for daily activities of living. It’s a lonely club no of us wish on our worst enemies.

[@edwardenglishonline]

Pure COMMON SENSE. THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH!!❤

[@patsfaith]

This hit me hard. I spoke to my Uncle Terry today and he informed me that he has six months to live. Thank you for this.

[@mamarhea367]

This was so GREAT Julie! Thank you so much! 🤗🥰💐

[@Ballymayock]

I've been practising Buddhism for many years and all of the contemplations that you suggest are all present in Buddhism. Recollecting one's own mortality frequently and having a realistic and down-to-earth understanding of death are very important. I love your channel and use it in my practice.

[@EricJGaming]

Thanks for the video, we don't have enough time to appreciate life to the fullest 💕🙏

[@RamBo-uu9so]

Great vid. Time flies.........enjoy every second, every breath....... beyond love.

[@traceyaugustynowicz5890]

thank you....I have heard these things so many times in the patients I care for.....and sometimes dont listen to...thank you for reminding me

[@joefriend5851]

Soooo true. I worked in hospitals with very sick patients. They actually said the same things about too much time at work and not enough time with family and friends. They also regretted not traveling to places they always wished to visit, and taken education more seriously to do work they would enjoy. But clearly, no one regretted not spending more time at the office.

[@joefriend5851]

Unfortunately, some family members have been very hurtful towards me so I’ve learned the value of genuinely loving myself so I have gone no contact with toxic family members. No regrets.

[@markmorico5439]

Nurse Julie, you are a true inspiration. Thank you for your positive light. I’m living in a bizarre dream that I can’t wake from because I recently lost my wife of 35 years unexpectedly. We were inseparable and to not have her here with me is a loss that I cannot quantify. I appreciate the kind and honest words that you give others and myself.

[@elbee1290]

That's a really hard loss, Mark....I'm sorry for the pain this has brought you. If you're at all attracted to the idea that life continues, there are some amazingly inspiring Near Death Experience channels here on KZbin, like NDE Diary. I get so much solace from knowing my loved ones might have transitioned but I can still connect to them, and they to me. Really heals my heart....Hoping you find more peace as you go through the grieving process. 🩷

[@markmorico5439]

Thank you for your kind words. I do believe I will see her again and this is what keeps me going. Thank you again for sending your positivity.

[@michetrue-aspoonielife4me389]

Absolutely Julie, you have to stop & smell the roses every day & actually enjoy their beauty. Don't put off what you can do now, bc good health is not a promise it's a gift that can be taken away from you at anytime. All it does is make you regret not going to see all the places you wanted to see & when you become sick, now it's not possible. You have to live life vicariously through others. That experience is sad because you can't do it yourself & happy bc at least you got to see some cool pictures. Live life on purpose! To many people run through life like it's a marathon & when they're diagnosed with incurable diseases or terminal, let me tell you, it takes the wind out of your sails pretty damn quick. Your life as you knew it is gone & you mourn the loss of the life you once had bc your new life is all about hospitals, doctors, procedures & things that make you feel sicker. Your bed becomes your best friend. You learn to grab hold of the good moments with both hands & not let them go. Thank you for everything you do. I appreciate you ❤

[@jeromebarry1741]

I lost 105 lb 8 years ago. I didn't feel hungry. I took vacations. I found that people everywhere were busy and cranky. I visited my Dad regularly until he died. I have had actual things happen from my mother, my first wife, her mother, GOD, and my father from the spirit side. I'm just not missing out on that stuff. Oh, and one time my brother's spirit comforted me, but my brother was and still is alive. Once upon a time I fired an employee for missing time. Some years later she called me to thank me. She said it gave her time to spend with her mother's last days.

[@jjanson50]

Every day, every moment is a gift. I am grateful to have my health, my friends. Thanks for the exercises. Be aware. Be present.

[@kimmykatm9533]

Needed this TODAY-as of this moment I’m holding space for my mom who had surgery 2 days ago and sadly she is riddled with cancer in her lower organs and only has days until she transitions! So thank you for the HUGE NUDGE today of living in this reality of death!

[@lisaashburn674]

Julie is great! As a seasoned Hospice- Crises Care, I agree with 100% With you. I think the 2 worst cases I have ever had was one family refused pain meds up to the last day & it broke my heart. The other was the one of the patients chilren was taking electronic & Jewelry . I was in shock! I couldnt do anything.😢

[@nancyracies8824]

I have been a caregiver for 15 years. 99% of people do not talk to their partner or family about end of life. Things they want or don't want. So frustrating. It leaves everyone else guessing and hoping they are doing it right. It's an uncomfortable conversation, but have it.

[@StoriesByCarol]

Thank you Julie. Trying to help my mid 90yo parents but also trying to prepare myself for the inevitable has been so hard. I’ve been watching your videos for awhile and feel so much better equipped in both regards. Thank you 💞

[@stephenmocanu408]

Thank you Julie what a beautiful video!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@elainedeming4716]

Julie, you are doing it; dispelling the fear of death one thought one person at a time. Very useful practice. Thank you.

[@hospicenursejulie]

Thank you so so much 💕

[@binkleyrules]

True. By being the Best daughter I can be, I don't/won't have any regrets when they're both gone.

[@DonLargen]

Julie you are a very wise person I want to thank you for sharing your knowledge and experiences. I was a volunteer with the local hospice here where I live. Sitting with a person who is under hospice care was so enlightening to me. I was very disappointed when due to health issues I had to leave that volunteer work that I had come to cherish. My mom had some those little magnets on her refrigerator door. One of them made me realize some important things. The message on the magnet was..." It's not until you give of yourself that you truly give. " Keep doing the things you are doing . I really enjoy your videos. I

[@elbee1290]

Great refrigerator magnet and so true. Thanks for sharing this!

[@DonLargen]

@@elbee1290 You are welcome.

[@stevea9604]

I think of this everyday 👍🏻🤩😁🥰

[@erinmires3492]

Oh gosh I’m 37 and I am grateful for my health, mental and physical. That I have all my limbs. That I can do things myself. I have a sister that mentally unwell. I am grateful that I have a somewhat healthy mind.

[@bethglaub9278]

Thank you for these clips. It's good to hear what mite happen and why.

[@hospicenursejulie]

You bet

[@MartyWhitehurst]

Thank you Julie you are a wonderful person to take your precious time to help others. I watched the love of my life slowing passing with dementia and I had a great hospice nurse but she really didn’t share the information you share in your videos. It would have helped me understand more about the dying process. May God continue to bless you and thanks again for your videos. I can now help others to understand and tell them about your wonderful shows . 🥰🥰

[@rbee1]

You are truly an asset to others. Unselfishness and love are always expressed in your book and all your work 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻🐝❤️

[@selinov]

Thanks for doing the work and helping me deal. 🤗

[@hospicenursejulie]

Thank you!! 🥰🥰🥰💕💕