How a Black Woman and White Man Overcame Their Insecurities for Love | Dear Future Wifey S5, E505

[@aliciadiatto2654]

I'm married to a white Italian man who adores me, who is good to our family, friends and neighbors and who loves the Lord. Marrying him is one of the BEST decisions I ever made. This is both our second marriage. His first wife died in 2005, I got divorced in 2005, and we got married in 2006. We are in ministry together as well.

[@aliciadiatto2654]

@1204StrikesBack Absolutely

[@aliciadiatto2654]

@1204StrikesBack I see you one of those who scroll around trying to stir up stuff. Get a life! 🙏

[@webuysellhousesaptscashoff9453]

Wow

[@debbie8016]

I am so happy for you thank you for encouraging black women that there is still hope I love to hear about women who is happy and then made happy. Most importantly is hearing about you guys being in Ministry. Blessings!

[@htownsdiamond]

@@aliciadiatto2654 soon as I seen his question, I knew his race. It's always our kinda ppl/guys who have to come back with something smart to say as if a bw isn't deserving like the other races of women. I'm so happy about your comment and can't wait until I'm writing mine too!

[@andreawinzer7892]

This man is so freaking solid!!! I think every woman wants a man with this kind of character. Their love story is amazing!

[@islandgal2583]

I concur with this comment 👍🏾

[@octtiriaphillips6598]

I agree

[@22coconut]

AMEN! God has blessed both of you! Your love comes right through this video!!! Just said a prayer to God for your continued happiness through tearful eyes (tears of joy).🙏🏿💜💜💜

[@rethawebb3684]

Carl is an Absolutely cool dude 😎

[@larenabillingsley7250]

I pray & hope I find a man like him !❤

[@jackienganga5338]

You see the way Carl is looking at his wife when she's talking 😍...such a blessing to have that love after 30+ years!!!

[@pearlhunter2440]

Exactly. And it takes a real who takes care of a child that didn't come through his loins, just like Joseph did with the Heavenly Father Yahuah in disguise Yahusha of Nazareth!!! I'm so happy for them. It gives a sister hope. Inspite of mugs forcing me to lose my faith in men these days. 👏🥳🎉

[@sierramilan4322]

He know better than to let. Fly sister out of his reach!

[@Palesa80]

​@@pearlhunter2440 y

[@TJaneTS]

As a black woman married to a white man, I echo this conversation. The decision was easy for me because I was looking for someone who was pursuing Christ and pursuing me. And when I found that, in a white man, I didn’t look back. We decided to pursuit Christ together and finish the race well. Thanks for this episode ❤ and I really enjoy your podcast overall.

[@DearFutureWifey]

That's exactly the point. Beautifully stated.

[@lthompson601]

I really wish I could do that. I moved to an area that is predominantly white and I've noticed them looking but I can't mustard up the courage to be attracted to them. It really sucks because it's hard to find available black men.

[@missnurseeri]

​@@lthompson601 Your statement makes me think of speaker and poet Jackie Hil Perry. She wrote the book _Gay Girl, Good God_ She talks about how was she was a lesbian she came to know Christ. Not for any other reason than she recognized that she was a sinner and need sinners need Christ. She states that God didn't suddenly give her an attraction to men. However, He gave her a desire for her heart, a desire for one man in particular. He gave that same man a desire for her. They both prayed for clarity before saying anything to anyone or each other. They let God confirm this was HIS doing. Again... she wasn't looking for a man, any man at all. LOL. But they are now happily married with 4 kids, I believe.

[@renatajones4285]

Great 4 U!!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@TJaneTS]

@@lthompson601 I definitely understand where you are coming from and I think @Erica McQueen sums it all super well.

[@peretteyoung8976]

Imagine a man coming into your life and setting up toys for a child that he didn’t even meet until a couple of years later…that in itself, blew my mind! What a beautiful couple💖💖 once again…another great episode 🥰🥰

[@CoachLove]

You know he won't "buy McDonald's" for one and not the other. (I know it's a skit, but seeing all of the vitriol about the woman's response to the other children...whew.)

[@annette1674]

We should not be introducing our children to every person we go on date with, or talk to. You should know the intention of the suitor, at least a year or 2 if it takes that long. Unfortunately we set our children up for disappointment, risk of abuse and other unnecessary hurts. Sure, there can be man that leave a positive impact and be a great role model as well.

[@thomaszinegoslee5322]

He is a true real man for his Woman which is now his Beautiful Black Queen. Color does not mean anything in a relationship. God Bless.

[@nikinai4374]

He told YOU the TRUTH=really truly SOLD!-YOU FINISH! let some nice peopl tell you the FACTS AND THE TRUTH so others DONT follow your ALTRUISTIC SELF EXTINCTION!=check out Artist BROCOS "HAM'S REDEMPTION" that GOOD OLD tale that has been going on in BRAZIL and BRICS countries for CENTURIES!, NOTHING NEW under the SUN!...the BLACK WOMAN is sadly an EXTINCT FOSSIL int the WHITE CLOSET-RECORD! goodbye BLACKNESS! WELCOME WHITENESS! the BLACK gives birth to WHITE, but WHITE NEVER gives back BLACK! so this "ooh so cute Inter-racial" tells is the EXTINCTION of BLACKNESS!oops! now WHO IS STUPID?!--thats why the BLACK RACE is GOING EXTINCT if you havent figured that out!

[@fifibg]

that is so beautiful

[@lgwappo]

Some of my wife's friends never spoke to her again after we married. They said she was betraying her race. She's Hispanic & I'm white. She said if that's how they feel they were never her friends. Happily married since 1999. God Bless your marriage & congrats on 30 years, many more ahead.

[@meangreen6044]

That’s crazy! Hispanic people actually believe they’re a race?😂 Hispanic people are a mix race people. They are a mix of Hispanic, Native American, African and now some are mixed with Asian and Indian. If a Hispanic person did their dna. Most would have 60% European dna 😂

[@marymayes550]

This is one of the healthiest multiracial relationships I have ever seen, I am for it. I enjoy both your confidence and your sure-footed commitment and love for each other. This is opened me up to more possibilities thank you !

[@renatajones4285]

Definitely ~

[@franjohnson6140]

Ditto I really love 💘 this 💑 couple!

[@sharesewilliams7811]

You are soooo right! ❤️

[@kaykepop4084]

I know a lot of multiracial couples and they all are just like this. Married for 20+ years and still so deeply in love. Not saying all couples are like this, but the people I know personally are and it's just beautiful.

[@suzygirl1843]

Bill Burr and Nia are the reason I looked at Interracial relationships better

[@jaybrad1070]

Right at 6:50 Carl gave me chills Laterras: what did you see in her Carl : you see if right here, confidant black woman, walks with her head up… Yes!!! Congrats on 30 years to this beautifully in love couple

[@DearFutureWifey]

@JayBrad He spoke that thing, didn't he?

[@motherlessflower3081]

without a 2nd breath, he said it and meant it. Just beautiful

[@markita.hardenhome]

Amen! Absolutely EMBRACED the authentic black woman in her. Fiesty attitude and all. I could literally just cry! Some black men can't even do that. Kuddos to this man for not being intimidated by her blackness🥰

[@lynnmcmillian5137]

If I’m going to the house of God and you show me any type of prejudice you need to check your walk with Jesus make sure you’re truly born again!

[@autumnskai6383]

30 yrs!!! Black woman are extremely race loyal, to our detriment. We definitely need to be more open to put ourselves in the position to anyone sees us, respects us and wants to love us the right way.

[@audreygwynn8159]

Truth. I agree

[@tonytucker6145]

Yes, they're just not LOYAL to their OWN RACE. THEY'RE LOYAL to the RACE THE LADY IN THIS VIDEO IS SITTING NEXT TO .

[@nacho-mammy]

@@tonytucker6145 no they are not but should be. Who else will protect them from you

[@fdoctor79]

"God knew what I needed." " I prayed for my wife." The recurring theme let God do it! Great interview!

[@smelly.ballbag751]

Assume bless you both it's only colour right all pink inside xxxx

[@maureenburrell5452]

Some. Caucacian. People. Treat. Their. Own. People. With. Impunity. Tooo

[@gretchenbray2268]

I hope more and more Black Women are at least open to the possibility an interracial relationship. Too many Black women have that feeling that only a Black Man will do.

[@bobbydunn2720]

True, and this man wasn’t deterred by her confidence and assertiveness or being mean, what black men would consider masculine or not submissive✨

[@cuprunnethover2509]

I know! I just got to the point that it was stupid! I was like am i going to sit waiting for a black man to ask me out when this white guy already has? Isn't that stupid? That was the stupidest thing to me so i took the plunge! 😉

[@ceceprincess4758]

Yeah cause it's so many different races of men besides white we can date

[@ceceprincess4758]

@@cuprunnethover2509 white men dont ask us out either. They too scary

[@mariettajohnsonnorris1128]

I am with a wonderful white man who cares for me...100%. My first husband who was black, cheated for the 30 years of marriage.

[@coachtamaradalton5270]

This isn't about black and white this is about love. I love this couple, they're solid. She loves being black she married this man for nothing but true love ❤️

[@kyrstlwells-qo5fe]

Yes! Exactly 💯

[@Lozie82]

Yes!

[@modee751]

i strongly agree love is love

[@felionrobinson698]

It's not about self love though

[@reginaldjohnson1637]

You hit the nail right on the head!! Excellent point!! Love has no boundaries!!

[@missjaszmine1968]

I think it is so wonderful that he was/is drawn to her beauty, confidence, assertiveness and strength, and sees it as an asset. These are things that in my own dating experiences I was told was intimidating. How beautiful. What a beautiful couple of Faith. May you continue to be blessed and enjoy many more years of love and life together.

[@ajlocs2361]

I agree sis it's funny in our community we are told to change calm down. But other men love all those things about us. It's a no Brainerd go where you are appreciated.

[@lovefelix1566]

@@ajlocs2361 true

[@Thatmainchick]

Real talk. I am learning that it dont matter how nice or sweet or crazy and insane you are. Fat, thin, beautiful, ugly, it dont matter. If he dont love you or even like you it just won't ever work. Find someone that wants you no matter who you are as a person.

[@Lozie82]

Amen

[@allispossible8447]

I absolutely love the fact that they both standing in who they are and haven't changed in 30 years. Love is the common denominator.

[@rooseveltwilliams1073]

I love how this couple communicates. It's respectful and direct. No interruptions or unnecessary explaining. Also the discussion wasn't peppered with a bunch of "you know what I mean and mumbling". I love it when love is present. 🥰

[@jasminealexia]

This episode was everything! My favorite thing is just how authentic Cassie is in her blackness! 😍 and really how they are both so opposite yet so in sync at the same time! What a beautiful love story!

[@annaugustine253]

I have never seen anything like this. This is a beautiful representation of love and I am just … speechless. They had so much to share and was soooo real and inspiring. For me, it makes waiting a whole lot easier knowing that one day, it could be something like this.

[@DearFutureWifey]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@thecoffeefoundation]

Yes!

[@isaidwhatisaidsis]

My Hubby is Punjabi from India and I’m Black. He’s the love of my life and my best friend! He saved my life. You never know who God has for you. They will be everything you wanted and needed. Don’t give up on love!

[@cuprunnethover2509]

Amen Sis! Congrats!!

[@sarahk6996]

They’re giving me Cameron Hamilton and Lauren Speed-Hamilton vibes! Beautiful couple!!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@DearFutureWifey]

I love them

[@lifewithsuzzyq2039]

So true

[@tishaunedwards7065]

I really really really enjoyed this episode. Even more than the words from their mouths, their body language spoke volumes-they leaned into each other on that couch the entire conversation. THIS after 30 Years!!!! WOW! Carl & Cassandra keep loving on each other!! Declaring God’s blessings over your lives and family!..

[@MsLi-ef1xp]

I love seeing couples that love each other and take marriage seriously. What a beautiful example..to take divorce off the table and to fight for each other through ALL of the challenges. It is so easy to throw in the towel. Thank you for sharing yet another amazing episode! I love it in this family!!

[@sithembisodube3862]

I love this couple. He married a very beautiful and clever woman.

[@mrsscott0616]

As always this is a great interview! She is so unapologetically confident in who she is and he is so comfortable with it! I love it

[@modee751]

love doesn't recognize colors love is something deep its in the soul all women are the same but morals and manners and good character makes the difference

[@nikinai4374]

CONFIDENCE in IGNORANCE is much more SAD! He told YOU the TRUTH=really truly SOLD!-YOU FINISH! let some nice peopl tell you the FACTS AND THE TRUTH so others DONT follow your ALTRUISTIC SELF EXTINCTION!=check out Artist BROCOS "HAM'S REDEMPTION" that GOOD OLD tale that has been going on in BRAZIL and BRICS countries for CENTURIES!, NOTHING NEW under the SUN!...the BLACK WOMAN is sadly an EXTINCT FOSSIL int the WHITE CLOSET-RECORD! goodbye BLACKNESS! WELCOME WHITENESS! the BLACK gives birth to WHITE, but WHITE NEVER gives back BLACK! so this "ooh so cute Inter-racial" tells is the EXTINCTION of BLACKNESS!oops! now WHO IS STUPID?!--

[@ForMySoulSistas]

As a Black woman, I love me some Black love but I'm open to other races too (not just because of video lol). The husband didn't talk much but everytime he did it was on point, the conversation was so raw, genuine, romantic. Loved the episode!

[@WWEENETWORK]

I HEAR YOU CARL!!! ! TOOK NOTE OF IT (HER BEING BLACK) LIKED THE WHOLE PACKAGE ... AND DECIDED TO MOVE ON WITH IT!!!

[@kaybee4132]

That was a Word!! 😂❤🎉

[@wow4real142]

"I felt seen...I felt heard...I felt valid"...WOW...This is what any Woman regardless of race wants to feel with a Man!!!...This was a Great interview... Love them both!!! Ps... Her persona...Her statue....Her mannerism...everything from the crown of Her head to the soles of Her feet screams lit fire 🔥....I'm in love with her hair...girl gone with your bad self!!!...in the words of Poetress Laureate Maya Angelou and singer Shia..."PHENOMENAL and UNSTOPPABLE"

[@verytangi9572]

I am in awe of the palpable love in her face and the security in her posture when she looks at her husband. Beautiful ❤️

[@audreygwynn8159]

Truth

[@girlmeetskingdom]

It's how they look at each other for me! Love it!

[@CiaobellaAmour]

Just beautiful😍😍😍🤩

[@cherwallace6026]

I so enjoyed this interview/conversation. They dated for 3 years because they Both had to make adjustments to Fully be open to the other’s ethnicity and the fact that they wanted to be together regardless. They had to consistently be United in order to overcome all the mess against interracial couples including their family, friends and people on the streets. It was a blessing to hear after 6 years of marriage, she still felt like they were still honeymooning. They have definitely lived out: in sickness and in health. They are a beautiful couple and their love is definitely ENDURING. It had to be in order for their marriage to survive.

[@patriciapatricia3586]

I'm so glad you showcased this relationship Laterras! It seems to me that it's more acceptable for a black man to be in an interracial relationship than it is for a black woman - I loved this! I loved that she said he gave her honor and respect from the start without her asking for it - and he made the boundaries very clear with his family from the get go. The consistency, intentionality and providing for her needs ....❤️❤️❤️!

[@jovieappoggiatura]

I love that she felt so liberated and free and understood, accepted, seen, and respected in his presence

[@chelseacurry7381]

Same sentiments. It seems that way, when a black woman dates out it seems like there is always more push back. Crazy…

[@yoman53]

This episode hit me differently than the other. Why??? I think because she is a black woman. Thank you for both episodes!! They were both great and they've shone different lights on me. Security is the key!! Honestly from any man( black, white etc.) When black women see black men with white women; I think maybe they feel (I feel) unprotected, uncovered like we're not worth the fight anymore. I've been praying about the feeling I get when I see black men with white women. It's not the same when I see the opposite and I know that's not right!! Does anyone else feel this way? Thanks again for such great content, that makes me check my own heart!!

[@ashleykennard74]

I love your transparency on this topic and you’re not alone. Definitely need to pray through the same feeling too. It’s definitely a heart check and also exposing the lies that devil tells us. We are worth the fight, being protected and covered 🙏🏽

[@tkane3769]

I understand and I have felt that way. However the way I see it is those "men" would not be the man that God would have chosen for (me) us anyway. On the other hand I love this dynamic. And statistically BW/WM marriages have been least likely to end in divorce.

[@nikamoff5835]

Now I have to see the other episode.

[@natashabelle3553]

Yes, and I think this perspective stems from black men bashing black women as their reason for marrying outside of their race.

[@godfirst3709]

Thank you for your transparency and willingness to seek God above all else in terms of perspective that is a beautiful thing to promote ❤️

[@mamaburr2963]

This was my favorite video..I really enjoyed listening to them talk about 30 years of interracial marriage..They were so truthful..how people disrespect there family...Divorce was never spoken in there house..Look how they still very much in love...Because God brought them together..God BLESS this beautiful couple.

[@casandrawilliams5786]

This is a true example of what unconditional Love looks like. What a Great episode

[@GneissTee]

This man displayed the HUSBAND qualities while being a boyfriend my dad told me about when I was 18. 🥰My dad said you can't make a husband out of a boyfriend if he does not display the husband qualities.

[@apiffanyfulcher6628]

I love this couple!!! You owe NO ONE ANY EXUSE for who you marry?! People are so mad about their own life and evil… I’m so glad y’all didn’t let them get under your skin!! 💪🏿💪🏿

[@abigailbrooks3926]

There’s something about transparency and realness that just feeds my soul. Authenticity is 🔥

[@aviissac2628]

I am BW married to WM son looks like his dad, blonde, blue 💙 eyes, light skin and his school refused to believe I am bio mom, teacher told me there is absolutely no way your child, she then asked my son if I were his mom, he said yes, she called the principal, my husband was called and had to come to school and she called the police, it was a whole thing

[@Psalm_27.4]

@Avi Issac What a CRAZY situation! God bless you, your marriage, and family!

[@deniseatlanta6102]

That's crazy. I hope they apologized because where was it her business to decide if the childs yours or not. You could've been an adoptive mom or whatever.. What did they say when the police showed up & found u were actually the bio mom?

[@aviissac2628]

@@deniseatlanta6102 They switched up and said they had never met me before and it was a safety issue. But I had all my ID and I was the person who signed all paperwork to register him for school.

[@LadyK007]

Yikes! Oh hellll nah! Foolishness to have to prove your maternity

[@aviissac2628]

@@LadyK007 yes, and they were aggressive, they handled it in a way I felt like a criminal

[@sonyagarcia6962]

Thank you for this episode! As a white woman I have still gleaned so much from this KZbin channel even though it has been geared towards black love. You adding an inner racial episode blessed me!

[@DearFutureWifey]

Did you watch the other one with Sekou and Mattie?

[@rekhae1]

God bless you

[@veeanderson2874]

The way she looks at her husband 😍I just love it

[@cuprunnethover2509]

I know... Awwww

[@erickars2442]

This hit me on dealing with my insecurities and getting out from my perception and seeing what God sees. God knows whom it is we need even though the package and the contents of the package is not what we expect or were looking for and to open my heart to loving again. Still learning to trust God even when He clearly speaks to me.

[@cuprunnethover2509]

No its not the package but the insides! He may be short. He may have 1 leg. He may be chinese. Who cares? If he loves you flaws and all. If he encourages you to be your best self. If he puts God first and you are second.... Everything and everybody pretty much goes out the window. But your inner most circle will love him because he loves you!

[@lamis5348]

I’m becoming more and more drawn to this show. Keep doing what you’re doing, it’s touching and blessing us!!

[@lawill3559]

Mission continuing to be accomplished!!!!

[@msnikmic]

Absolutely G-R-E-A-T episode! What a beautiful couple...inside & out.

[@1sarahful]

I love this couple. They are so genuine and proves that true love can come from any direction. May God continue to Bless your union. 🙏🏾

[@natashabelle3553]

I love that she's so articulate, and he's so confident! Beautiful couple... The most authentic and profound statement was when she said she wouldn't have chosen him, but God put them together! I have mad love and respect for all things designed by GOD!

[@ashleyike241]

I cried like a baby -- in every bone of the word this is a beautiful couple. The way they compliment each other so well is a hand work of God so wonderfully. It was the enduring fatherly love from the perspective of Carl that constantly reminded me of God's love toward me in my life and journey. It broke me down! He was firm, unmoved - and when it was time to protect he acted accordingly and then some. HOW is he so still?! What type of man is this , God I thank you so much for who you raise up. I know it's not easy for us servants to submit but this pay off?! I'm undone. THANK YOU for helping me on my journey of uncovering love and working toward marriage one day....wow....I love this podcast.

[@jepcain7304]

My goodness Sis Cassie and Carl! What a beautiful love story and despite the the inconsideration and ignorance of some, your genuine enduring love has overcome obstacles and inspires me! Having just married a white guy, I have undoubtedly taken some important lessons from your amazing and candid interview - thank you for sharing and being the genuine down to earth beautiful soul that you always have been! 💜💕

[@FeliciaQueen17]

They balance one another really well. Cassandra is the outspoken fiery talkative one and Carl is the quiet laid back one.

[@yarekim5932]

What people don't understand is WHITE MEN LOVE BLACK WOMEN, No Fetish, Just Real Real Love. Its Just RIGHT, PERFECT In Every Way. EQUALS, and just a Powerful and Tender Deep Love. BW are so Precious and Wonderful, Beautiful in Every Way , its works. Just Look, Nothing Comes Close.

[@cuprunnethover2509]

Right! All of you all are not serial k----s 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 ! Some women just have no idea!

[@Psalm_27.4]

@Michael Ray Your words are interesting. More white men need to come forward, if they truly feel this way, and set the record straight. Thank you for your words. I hope you say these things in your real life.

[@pagielicious]

Thank you for that powerful endorsement. Having dated interracial for most of my adult life, I find this to be true but rarely spoken loudly and clearly.

[@mistymojones9280]

I love how he allows her to be powerful and majic and still looks at her with the look a love. Amazing!!

[@tracycraig7006]

Listening to this podcast is helping me to think about where I am and what I am bringing to a relationship as a woman who has been through many things. Cassie helps me to further define myself and my values, being unapologetic about my desire to be seen and expectation for honor. I appreciate that she thought herself worthy of certain things regardless of where it would come from. Kudos to her for knowing herself and her value as a woman in ANY man's eyes. God bless them and their union!

[@letsbeencouraged3074]

Glad for this episode Dear Future Wifey 😊I feel You Sis, don't want no foolishness no matter what race the person is 👏🏾Was talking within a group & 1 black person mentioned how she wouldn't be friends with someone who dated and/or married someone white & We were like no she didn't say that & in My mind I was ✌🏾wouldn't want to be friends with you making that kind of statement. If I want to date Someone outside of being Black it's My choice, either accepted or rejected & keep it movin 👋🏾

[@letsbeencouraged3074]

Oh & not shacking 🤣, I'm a Subscriber 😊

[@DearFutureWifey]

Lol

[@behindcloseddoorsministries]

Laterras I really enjoy your podcasts. Carl and Cassy overcame so much ignorance from other people over the year’s and it has strengthened their relationship.💙I loved when Carl said that he cared about her more than anyone and even himself. I also loved the response of their 9 year old son to the rude teacher, I can tell that Cassy is sweet but she don’t play lol. I am glad that the Lord healed them of their ailments and they are doing much better. I really believe that God does know what we need and will send us just that. I stay encouraged with this platform, and I thank you because your gift blesses me!🌸💕

[@loveleatemple3877]

Her husband is very reserve but speaks with so much wisdom and grace

[@lartreciakelley7551]

I love seeing this dynamic and gleaming from seasoned effective couples. I still have my preference in African American men. I am developing a new appreciation for love as it relates alignment... The pure happiness in there eyes is immeasurable . Good Stuff !!

[@cuprunnethover2509]

It's not wrong having a preference! What is wrong is not accepting whom God has designed specifically for you!

[@marvinabigby5509]

I love this couple.i.met my husband in 82 we married In 86. We broke up twice because our family wasn't behind us because it was an interracial relationship.We loved each other we couldn't stay away from each other.It was meant to be.We will love each other until we die and beyond.

[@kidchocolate9253]

This was such a powerful and great interview. Any person entertaining the thought of interracial relationships will be inspired by this episode. Anyone needing hope in finding love regardless of race will also be inspired. God is good.

[@fine_art_wr]

This has been one of my favorites! They seem so at ease and peace with either other not just because of their longevity. I love her presence and poise. The way she articulated their journey was so captivating. I love his quiet confidence. The fact that his self assurance is not based on yelling or the opinions of others. I’ve dating white men so I can definitely relate to the reactions you receive from others. Beautiful couple. 💕

[@tynesha3710]

This episode reminds me of Love Heals and Is Love Blind... Then you add one of the (if not THE) most essential concepts of authenticity and consistency... So much reference in this love story. Thank you so much for SHOWING us every week what love could look like. (And I love that you continue to challenge both yourself and us along the way!) This couple is LIT!

[@gerryfisher7621]

Love is love. It’s a blessing they didn’t allow others to define how that looked for them. Loved this! And to hear she grew up in west Dallas like I did…rocks! Continued blessings to them and the kids. You keep blessings us with great shows.

[@r_elyaqub8214]

I can listen to this woman talk all day. I've listened to one other woman who speaks just like her but with south African accent. Both women are articulate, confident and smart.

[@sydneyjones1338]

Their comfort in being relaxed in their true selves is really inspiring and I hope I can integrate such a relationship with my son and the chosen dad🤗Thank you for having an example of a single black mom bringing a son into a relationship like this! This type of representation is really needed. When I first started dating I was looking for an example of a black mom with a BLACK son and how to include and honor his blackness if I dated a man who wasn’t black. I had questions and wanted to see that example in case that became my reality. I had been used to being open to dating guys who fit me whether black or not and as a very comfortable BLACK women I knew that would be an interesting journey to navigate with a whole kid. I knew how to look out for myself but knew it would be a different type of thing to navigate with the kid. For me, that that need for representation was quickly ditched because I asked my three year old what he would want in a dad and his answer was so deep “I want a dad who loves me, is nice to us, doesn’t hit me and is brown like me.” My mind was blown because I had not started dating yet for him to know the context to ask for such things and he had not been around the bio father since he was an infant. I honored his request and for the first time limited my dating pool to black men and ironically ended up with a wonderful black man who had never dated a black woman before (not for disrespectful reasons). So hopefully this story is what someone needs❤️

[@hillaryconsultingservices]

Her husband said a lot with very few words.

[@lynwilson9259]

This was EXCELLENT. I LOVE when I can visually see an authentic reverence amongst couples!

[@kitwood917]

Latteras this platform is transformative even for this 60+ yo woman. Praise God🙌🏾 I have been hooked on DFW and aggressively sharing episodes with everyone. THIS episode touched me DEEP,,,was personal for me( too much to share here). Thank you for featuring some seasoned couples who have been through a whole lot of life. After 7 years of keeping walls up,,,,I'm inspired and open to the purpose partner God has for ME. Continued blessings Latteras any your FW💞 May God continue to use you and this platform to reach and impact the 🌍

[@coreyhaga2623]

Mr.Whitfield thank you for bringing this awesome couple on your show . I truly enjoyed their enduring life, love journey . The message they brought is inspirational. I love the quote , I HAD TO FALL OUT OF MY IDEA OF WHAT MARRIAGE LOOKS LIKE 👩🏿👨🏼♥️ 🕊🕊🕊

[@DearFutureWifey]

Glad you enjoyed it

[@dawnjones6752]

Beautiful couple….beautiful story! Their story was a great expression of God’s love displayed when a man loves his wife and a wife honor and respect her husband. Another great episode! 💜

[@fine_art_wr]

I love how he accepts her strength and forwardness. A lot of men will try to “break you” or make you feel like you’re “too much” or too strong just because you have standards, confidence, and expectations. Women have endured so much in relationships and unfortunately, a lot of men are not willing to be patient or gracious enough to allow us time to break down those walls in a healthy way. Every woman is not insecure, most of us are just hurt and afraid to let go.

[@mslittlemackable]

This is my first time seeing or hearing about this platform. This show really challenged my prejudice and preconceived notion’s. Not in the sense of black and white racism, because truthfully before this show I never saw myself (a black woman) being married to a black man. In my experience, I honestly never felt that a black man was capable of really loving a woman in the manner she really needs. In addition, I felt that same way about black men when it comes to fatherhood. It seems so easy for black men to just walk away or checkout physically, emotionally and spiritually. I’m not saying that I haven’t seen black men married and have stayed with their wives but the women are unloved and unappreciated and for the most part, she bears the primary burden of the family. Don’t get me wrong, I love the brothers, but I had simply deemed the behavior of brothers as a character flaw among our nationality. Hearing this sisters testimony of having to let go of the notion of who and what she deemed her husband to be, opened my eyes to the possible elimination I have made, and I realized as a Christian I could never make a better choice than God. And God is not looking at skin color just divine connections. And he could create in any man black, white, etc His ( God’s) heart. I don’t know the guys name who’s channel this is, but thank you. 🙏🏽

[@Sandra-ly1ss]

Wow, great story! I can really relate to her and her outlook on things. Honestly, I haven't seriously considered dating outside my race but this opened my mind. I guess it's true, "love really is where you find it". Oh btw, she took us in when she sang, Kirk Franklin's song, 'Love' - whew! #glory❤

[@CoachLove]

Expanding your options is a must!

[@NorthPhilly-zr7xc]

You should sis do it love is love

[@cuprunnethover2509]

Go for it Sis!!!!

[@shanea2392]

Awesome couple. They carry so much strength and confidence. This has probably been one of my favorite couples on the podcast thus far.

[@nadialabady3641]

Not only was this an incredible episode. Watching the end had me in tears. I am not a foster mother yet but I am looking forward to it within the next year. I am a single mother but this is on my heart!!!!! I will be donating and praying for your success!!!! Make the vision plain!

[@DearFutureWifey]

Thank you

[@aishagreen5638]

This was a really good episode! May God continue to bless this couple with many happy years of marriage!

[@MariaGonzalez-wr4pe]

“God knew what I needed” Yes. I am Praying without ceasing. Sir I can’t tell you how much I appreciate your content. If I’m being completely honest I haven’t found anything close to your channel in my community. I am so glad you are addressing this subject. Growing up in Thousand Oaks, CA, I can tell you was not diverse at all. Even though no one told me, I grew up thinking I had to marry within my own ethnicity. One day In January I met a tall black man on a hike and we talked and he said he wanted to fellowship more so I invited him to church. The next day (Sunday) he came out to church with me. My pastor was starting a new series on Pride that day. Durning my pastors sermon, God talked to my heart and he said, “ If you don’t get rid of your pride, I’m not going to bless you”. I’m still praying about it till this day. It’s been on my heart to share. Thank you for all you do! May God keep blessing you!

[@Passion84GodAlways]

"It's what you choose to do with that [her being a Black woman]. Do you focus on that [e.g., fetishize them] or do you take note of that and move on?" (I paraphrased and added) WELL SAID SIR!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 I pray more individuals WALK IN THEIR TRUTH and DO THE WORK NECESSARY to be able to take note of differences instead of fetishizing, worshipping, or demeaning those different from them!!! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@shay194]

That sounds better 😌

[@SharonMRoss-by1lc]

This man loves her as he loves himself. Most women that look like this queen have never experienced that. She is able to securely rest in her feminine. Thank you for sharing this beautiful message. I needed this today.

[@relationshipcoachingwithni4517]

I'm so happy to see a seasoned couple that have gone through to trenches with each other over the years. They showed balance he supported her and she loved and supported him. They have built a strong family. So proud of them.. Also they have been together so long they look alike!!! 😆😆🥰🥰

[@aviscouncil8767]

I'm a single black woman and i really enjoyed this segment it was special, enlightening, real and a learning process of what love is. I was propheticise to years ago that my husband was going to be a Caucasian man. I've gone on dates with white and dated a Cuban man. I went through so much hell. People were angry and jealous every race it was really sad and all because of my dark skin even though i was very attractive. People are evil and cruel they broke us up but not because of me the men just weren't strong enough for me when i needed them to protect me from their racist friends and family it didn't happen the beautiful ring the cuban guy brought me was 3,000.00 and his coworker men and women mostly Spanish was jealous & mad they start telling him i was to dark & more but he didn't care but the pressure got so bad i called it off & the break up was bad because he aloud them to gang up on me and it was every race some of the white , spanish, korean & etc women had so much to say but they were dating black men. He was nerdy and didn't dress well but all that changed after shopping a nice hair cut etc. Then the vulchers came out the wood work. Grown people need to grow up. It's terrible the way some people are. I hope and pray he's happy now. His mother loved me and his father and step mother liked me as well. It just wasn't worth all the crazy. He really was a very kind & loving guy . Just thought i would share my story. Blessings and love to all.🙏🙏🙏❤❤❤❤👼

[@cuprunnethover2509]

I am sorry that you experienced that. I would suggest that you strengthen yourself. You have to prepare yourself to be attacked. You have to figure out how to handle these attacks because it's going to happen. People are people and some are NOT going to change. So you need to decide how you are going to react. They were not the right men for you! Because the right man would have stood up for you in front of his peers nicely! So be encouraged, the right one for you will come along!

[@sparklesp9304]

You dodged a bullet as he sounded like he had the mejorar la raza mentality in the Latin community where they think colourism is ok. He wouldn't have been fit to father a half black kid. I actually experienced the same thing. That's actually how I vet men on racism....how do they handle how people treat me. If they dismiss it, act like it's acceptable or I'm blowing things out of proportion, it's a no. If they confront it head-on, and call the people out, it's a win in that area.

[@AndreaAmsterdam]

I learned so much from this episode. Great couple, and a beautiful story of how God brings people together for a greater purpose.

[@andreareese224]

CARL AND CASSIE y’all give me hope. I am 53 years old. I still believe in marriage🤲🏾🤲🏾🤲🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@vonjafinney5920]

I love that they didn't listen to other people and they addressed and corrected any issue immediately and like Carl said "follow up". Being responsible with learning to be conscious and aware is definitely key 🔑 for change to occur in the world. Your marriage helps others see what love is without restrictions or boundaries. ❤️ Thank you for sharing your story!

[@GM-gc1us]

He said I didn’t want to be going around town rescuing her.He already was prepared to rescuing her .Love that for her

[@marvinandjosh1]

I have never seen a couple (same race or interracial) look at each other the way they do after all these years. He looks at her as if he is seeing her for the first time and she is literally blushing when she looks at him. It kinda makes me cry because it's so nice to see a love like this. I pray that I am blessed enough to find it someday.

[@marymayes550]

Divorcing my idea of what marriage is oh may this is pivotal for me !

[@melaniereid7958]

I can relate to this so much 🙌🏾this is an example of how my family is, blended with so many shades of love 💕

[@natasharochelle3218]

I love them and this interview. Just a mature couple.

[@NoName-hu8ju]

This is definitely by far the most beautiful love story I have ever heard, this is a example of Gods ❤️ love.

[@Colorguardemarie]

So powerful. You are not the invisible black woman. It is clear love has acknowledged you... and you have taken the risk of loving and vice versa. Thanks for sharing, Cassy, and telling it like it is.

[@danawilliams601]

This is a beautiful couple. I thank them for being honest and open. May they have 30+ more years of joy and happiness!❤️

[@mieyattamalone]

THIS IS THE MOST AUTHENTIC TRANSPARENCY I have seen on your show!! Thank you for being completely open and honest. I’ve never been open to dating outside my race before. I appreciate African American men and believe they are amazing and gifts to our world. However, I’ve been divorced for 20 years and have barely dated since. Transparency and integrity is key for me. I see how Carl won your ♥️. I am now open to dating outside my race because of THIS podcast. You are an amazing couple. Blessings to you both!!

[@cuprunnethover2509]

You have to be careful of all men! There is bad in every race! You have to be strong though in who you are and what you want for yourself and then accept whom God has for you no matter what color or height even!

[@Lastdayone]

These are the BEST type of interracial relationships. When both parties show up as their authentic selves. I honestly find that more so with blank women who date out. It’s because oftentimes it’s new to black women and we don’t want to compromise on our identity, thus we typically end up in relationships as ourselves.

[@SheelahA74]

I can’t see or hear anything “No stream tap to retry” is the message I keep getting. I can’t wait to hear their story. Just because it’s not my preference doesn’t mean it has to be a bad decision on either of their part. If we had to wait on someone in our own race to truly love, accept us and treat us the way we deserve we may end up with no one. I applaud any healthy relationship regardless of the race. I can’t wait to see this episode 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@DearFutureWifey]

Does it work now. KZbin was being real glitchy this morning

[@SheelahA74]

@@DearFutureWifey yes, and I enjoyed every moment of it. As stated in the episode let God’s will be done. This is definitely where I’m at in my life when it comes to relationships. It’s scary but necessary 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾. Another phenomenal episode 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@JohannasHair]

She's a keeper just for the fact that she understood that a large wedding wasn't an option at the time.

[@drshockusdebra123]

I needed a preview of what my grandchildren may go through as biracial children. The blessing as the paternal grandmother, is the maternal grandmother and I are on the same page. They will have a strong support system from both of us. The bonus is also they have multiracial cousins they've bonded with. Their relationship is a testimony of when we allow God to have the say over who we marry, how successful it can be

[@traceyweste4253]

30 years, WOW! Carl is the definition of sure and steadfast-a quiet storm. Cassie your energy and authenticity was very necessary to get your relationship to today. May God continue to bless your union 🙏

[@jocelynturner4017]

Wow. I'm so touched by this episode! So this is what enduring love looks like!🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@laurajones1211]

This episode was very needed. Love the candiness and realness of couple. The questions and responses were transparent. Being authentic is so necessary in interracial marriages as well as any marriage. Thank you so much!!!❤❤❤

[@JustUdoro]

OH MY GOODNESS…this was 😭😭😭❤️❤️❤️. Just beautiful to see and hear LOVE take ACTION. This was needed…such a testament of who God is and desires for us to see and feel. Thank you for another one!! 😭❤️🙌🏾

[@Btj87]

What a beautiful love story!! I love how she guarded her heart and child, even while dating!

[@absolutetreasures6877]

So solid!!! I smiled the entire segment, my soul was full just with them sharing their love story! Awww 🥰 I love love!!! Thank you for sharing a different yet worthy kind of love.

[@violarobinson2332]

This conversation was worth every second, minute,every moment. Wonderful couple, wonderful host. I wish I knew them personally. Thank you for this. What a blessing. Praying for you a wife, you deserve God’s best.

[@bessiesimmonsmusic1368]

Well I knew that I cared for her and I didn't want her riding around in a junkie 🥲😌so sweet. They are such a loving couple and the way they honor each other is amazing. Carl was God sent, I praise God for their union.