How a narcissist stops their partner leaving: Alexis from The Ultimatum narcissist analysis

I analyse Alexis from The Ultimatum and her attempt to stop her partner Hunter from leaving her.

[@gemmaburman7767]

Let's not forget that the only reason she chose Hunter was that all the men made it clear they weren't going to choose her, but April and Hunter were set on each other, she suddenly realised she wasn't the hot commodity she thought she was and was going to be left on the scrap heap. She chose Hunter to save face and prevent him from creating a bond with someone that would threaten what she already has. She was more than happy to choose someone when she thought she was wanted.

[@kmissoni6451]

God this is bringing me back to how an ex partner acted. Cutting him out of my life made me realise how stressful being with him was. How much mental space he took up. I didn't even realise he was a narcissist right after, it took a few weeks of reflecting. Alexis got what she wanted, poor hunter.

[@Subliminalmessage78]

Same. 🥹 I’m a bit triggered by all the love bombing, lack of boundaries, entitlements, and the list goes on. It only took me less than two weeks to get the full picture. I dodged that bullet!

[@SanjuroSan]

The narccist lives in a flat black and white world. They try to restrict reality down all the way to themselves. That includes people and their attention, desiring them to become thralls in their tiny world. That is the pressure you felt, the squeezing you down into their insane world.

[@MarucaKat]

32:42 that smirk, she’s SO proud of what she said.

[@GooniesGirl]

My brother is a narcissist. I recognize so many of Alexis traits in him - gaslighting, future faking. Nice breakdown! I don't even watch these shows. So, I appreciate how you provide context. New subscriber. Keep these videos coming. 😀

[@thenarcissistwatcher]

Thank you for the feedback. I hope you're managing to deal with your brother alright.

[@GooniesGirl]

@@thenarcissistwatcher I've gone no contact. It's hard since our mom recently passed away. But my life will be so much better for it.

[@thenarcissistwatcher]

@@GooniesGirl I'm sorry to hear about your mom. I have certainly found that no contact is the best way to minimise the impact of a narcissist on your life.

[@Biebersugar]

Thank you for this! She was a huge red flag for me when I was watching this. Also, Zanab from love is blind..

[@jakes3799]

LOL, it took one 36 minute videos to discuss Alexis's supposed narcisism. It took 10 videos to talk about Zanab's because there was just so much there.

[@Biebersugar]

@@jakes3799 yeah, Zanab is horrible.

[@Dr_Agon3]

@@jakes3799 there is a significant difference in the amount of screen time. One episode vs 12. I think you’ll find that this explains the difference is analysis video length.

[@esthersim9216]

I don’t even watch that show but I cannot believe he proposed to that woman! Omg I cannot imagine what kinda life he will have with her 😰 I had a few narcissists in my life and they are so stressful to deal with. It was a LOT easier to cut them out completely to get some peace.

[@lisabrightly]

She's absolutely awful. Maybe he equates high drama with love. Some people are addicted to the highs and lows. I really don't get it either though. I cannot be around people like her.

[@bcn7226]

Very nicely done. I particularly like the way you are settling into narration and finding a good rythm and speed of speaking.

[@thenarcissistwatcher]

Thank you, that's very kind!

[@recx__]

The fact that from "I'm not attracked to you" she decided to understand that she isn't attractive (which wasn't what he said) says it all. She thinks she's the best and can't understand how someone might not be attracked to her, lol.

[@lisabrightly]

She doesn't look like the ex. The ex is wholesome and natural looking. She on the other hand, looks like a Real Housewife of somewhere, manufactured nightmare. At least she got through, someone picked her at least. I always appreciate tenacity, even though I also feel bad for the poor guy

[@Averyr91]

Alexis was literally my ex boss named carrie. She was constantly doing this behavior, flirting with male customers. Bullying me, my coworkers, making them terrified, and firing people at the drop of a hat.

[@DivinityinLove]

Very good one. I spotted her as a narcissist straight away! I mean she isn't exactly "covert" she is 100% extroverted, unfiltered egomaniac! What really says a lot however about the entire cast is how so many people not only did not sense her narcissism, didnt even sense her being selfish or cruel or vindictive or anything but in fact multiple people seemed to like her!? Only shows me how either unwise and likely narcissistic certain others are. Although some just aren't aware, but are likely more victim and martyr archetypes and hence they fall victim to narcissists due to naivety like Rae. Rae is clearly someone who is soft for narcs, because Zae was a narcissist to some degree too but more due to trauma than just pathological or born with a small empathy gland. I think Madelyn is narcissistic too though and that's why she got along with Alexis because Madelyn LOVES the drama & loves Alexis starting it.

[@thenarcissistwatcher]

Interesting - and glad to hear you spotted the Rae/Zay dynamic too.

[@laura96jmillo]

I don't have my glasses on and my phone is like 4-6 inches from my face but there was a thumbnail of Jefree Star underneath this and it was nearly indistinguishable.

[@thenarcissistwatcher]

😂 I'll never be able to unsee this now.

[@nohemiponce7575]

Thank you I will be watching all of your content from now on ! Learning so much ❤

[@christianhasvik6467]

excellent analysis

[@saltandpepperandmint]

Ugh her face told me who she is right away 😅

[@mariabrown6926]

She looks 45 not 25 💀

[@VeeStandingOnBusiness]

Poor Hunter!

[@ethancroll8896]

10:52. Maybe somebody that narcissistic and materialistic should just marry a mall! XD!

[@candyopal4792]

32:24 you see the duping smile

[@belladonnabudgets7362]

Is she the same Alex that was in 90 Day Fiance's Ed's photoshoot and who Liz was accused of being jealous of?

[@Portal_YT133]

Does she remind anyone else of Jay Leno ??

[@mwoods4608]

yahh i found it!! 🎉🎉🎉

[@jessicanoelle2012jp]

Honestly sounds like every girl on this show 🤣🤣🤣

[@seurat32]

Post a new video!

[@thenarcissistwatcher]

Your wish is my command - new video up!

[@oppiumpoppyqqueen5498]

Can you be a narcissist and not know it?

[@thenarcissistwatcher]

Yes. The vast majority of narcissists don't know what they are.

[@CAcakefacemel]

@@thenarcissistwatcher They have got to know because they keep doing the same behaviors. they MUST know.

[@thenarcissistwatcher]

@@CAcakefacemel They repeat the same behaviors because they aren't capable of accepting that they are problematic. If they were aware, they would be able to hide being a narcissist much better, and not make such obvious mistakes (e.g. scaring Colby away by ranting about money).

[@ethancroll8896]

17:25. I would never want to date somebody like Alexis. Hot on the outside, but their character is so all over the place and shallow, it tastes like pool water. 🫠. Anyone would be way better off with someone else.