How a Narcissistic Mother-in-Law Treats Her Daughter In Law

[@heyoldman2003]

once again.. oh how i wish i heard these words 45 years ago . you youngsters .. listen to this man . the damage he speaks about is real and will break your Spirt . i am a lifelong people pleaser and have been told i have “A high tolerance to inappropriate behavior” whst a horrible combination. stand tall .don’t let them break you😔

[@snowyowlz5992]

How about the mother-in-law treating the husband of her Scapegoat daughter, I had this for decades.

[@snowyowlz5992]

Like when she said to me privately “Why don’t you divorce her and find someone healthy to marry, of course if I’m asked I’ll deny I ever suggested this.” This from a pastor’s wife about her own daughter. We went no contact with the family and remained married for 43 years until she died from medical complications.

[@theacutebaby2102]

He is talking about narcissistic mother in law ..if u r normal mother should not listen..

[@snowyowlz5992]

@@theacutebaby2102 I do agree with you about NORMAL Mother-in-Laws, no arguments here. Narcissistic m-i-l’s are to be treated like in the song “From A Distance” the further away they are the better!

[@justellie070]

I was a people pleaser for many years but than I woke up to the fact that I was doing so because my narcissistic parents groomed me all my life to bend over backwards for them mainly but I carried that programing into every interaction with other people. I'm learning now to no longer be this way. I forgive them though. Jesus is so good I love my parents and still honor thim I pray for their salvation and the salvation of all souls. Glory be to the Most high God the God of love true love. Because Jesus is the way the truth and the life. He has done so much for me I will sing his praises forever. Forgive the narcissists in your life and pray that they return to Jesus.

[@lennie1703]

Mine is dead now and I had no voice while I was married, for a decade, and no thought of even mentioning her vile nature to anyone after the divorce. Now I'm a mother -in-law and I wouldn't dream of crossing the AUTOMATIC bounderies of respect that are the absolute right of a daughter-in-law. I'm just an ordinary human being, looking back, my mother-in-law fell below even that standard.

[@tinamara1408]

Happy for you that she’s not able to abuse you any longer ❤️

[@naowright9308]

My narcissistic SIL eho usurped her mother told me that I would be just like her and not want to let my boys go and that DILs need to share their husbands with their MILs. I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that will NEVER happen. Your testimony just fuels me even more in my resolve. God bless you.

[@hayleyferguson5284]

@@naowright9308my SIL told me to, “remember that she was the other woman in (my husband’s) life.” Now that she was ready to share her brothers (this was after 16 years of being married to my husband). I used to call my husband’s relationship with his sister and mother as a bizarre love triangle. I now know there’s a term for it, enmeshment. I used to pray to God yo be like a husband to me, because I felt so alone.

[@Sheisme120]

Exactly! She was irrelevant and was trying to pretend otherwise.💯

[@Britbrat23]

Mine has cancer he moved back in with her left me for her

[@II.PP.11]

This happened when I married and came to live with my husband's family: MIL, SILs and even neighbours tried to dominate me using different techniques. They tried torturing me psychologically, gossiping about me, isolating me, criticising me and even telling lies about me. None of these techniques worked because I really didn't care. They tried to make me feel like I wasn't part of the family and community, but lucky me, I don't have a need to belong, I have hobbies and enjoy being on my own. Also, I'm immune to criticism and I love my freedom and individuality, so it didn't bore me when they tried to control me by rejection. I tried to be a good din and sil, but as soon I realized their games I set boundaries that are there still today and will be there forever because these kinds of people never change and will wait for a single inch that you open to enter your life and try to destroy it. Well, they must learn how to live frustrated, because that will NEVER happen with me. I'm no one else's doormat.

[@ruparavi2705]

Exactly I've been in that situation since 2years and i lost all my confidence and my self respect i thought everything is because of me i was guilty for everything that happened that didn't have anything to do with me i was like i started to hate myself and feel disgusted on myself nobody understands or care that im not happy now i realised what is happening around me and i don't care anything anymore im becoming stronger and keeping boundaries with everyone trying to regain my confidence and self worth im glad that i understood that now

[@Zorobbabel]

Kudos to you. You remind me of myself.

[@II.PP.11]

@@ruparavi2705 I feel happy for you. I celebrate that you found the way to step away from those evil people. Please always advocate and stand for yourself, no matter what. They're full of hate and lies and deceive because they're, in fact, empty. Love to create drama around and hurt, don't fall in their chaos and distortion. Sending you strength from here, keep your head lift. You are worth and you matter!!! 💖

[@vipkidteacher]

Wow 100% experiencing the same things. It’s like you read my mail. Sadly, I told my husband and he doesn’t see it nor defends me

[@avanimukt3397]

​@@ruparavi2705 Can u please guide me on this Suffering stil emotionally

[@nohana2003]

my narc mother in law passed away in 2016; May satan have her spirit. She got me so far, abusing me for 13 year that I came to the point I didn't want to live anymore. Nothing I did was right for her. She lied to me, turned the whole family against me, interfered in the upbringing of our children, constant making mean comments. Every single time we visited, every time she pulled some crazy stuff on me. I got depressed and traumatized and nobody helped me, my husband was blind at the time for the abuse of his mother. I got in therapy and that really saved me, that therapist saved my life. She died and the whole family system fell apart. We went no contact with the whole inlaws, my husband had 2 sisters we haven't seen for 6 years by now. I will never go back to them, never ever. My husband is free to do whatever he wants as long as he respects my decision on this. My son has a girlfriend and I'm really minfull not to treat her like crap and respect her.

[@matthewball8147]

I shielded my wife as much as I could. It is just this last week that I have decided I can't have contact with her anymore. The hardest part, I am going to miss my dad.

[@nohana2003]

@@AllWood1889 I did go to her funeral and to be honest I enjoyed every single minute of it. A while after her funeral I spoke up to a handful of people about the abuse and everything she did to me and my kids. And as a result everyone cut me off. My sister in laws both have seen how evil she was to me, but never stood up for me and they said after her death I had to stop talking about it and move on. Now 7 years later I don't have any contact with that side of the family, I made the decision to go 100% no contact with them. My father in law is terminal ill (cancer) and when he dies I'm not sure if I should go or not go to his funeral. I would go for my husband, to support him, that would be the only reason to attend that funeral. Our children already made it very clear they won't go to their grandpa's funeral, they haven't seen him for years and "grandpa" never made an afford to get in touch with them. My husband is recently in therapy for childhood trauma his parents caused him, he suffers from depression for years. His oldest sister also suffers from depression, but she keeps claiming her childhood was great and the parents were perfect. It helped me a lot to talk about what happened, and it's true people don't understand or don't want to hear about the abuse. Many people don't even understand what narcissism is. Seek professional help, a psychologist who knows about trauma and personality disorders. xxx

[@Eastwindwards]

@nohana2003 It’s sad isn’t it? Life is not a rehearsal and you can’t get that time back to get it right. I’m glad she’s out of your life.

[@donnalehman5875]

That sounds like I could have written it. I am sorry, and I can say I do understand. The healing seems to take forever.

[@tarey05]

My ex-fiance's mother would never speak to me directly but only through him. I could feel her wrath and disapproval at all times. I knew then that It was just a matter of time after marriage that he would treat me the same (avoidant and silent treatment). Saw the big red flag(s) and let him know that I could not go through with the marriage. He went stoic for a week then he'd communicate thinking I had changed my mind. No way! Thoughts of a life with such a mother-n-law were too chilling and terrifying. Thanks, Danish: Hi, sweet kitty, Ben! Ur looking cuter than ever!

[@ReRe_642]

Smart move . You are exactly right on everything he would be married to his mother. You deserve better. God saved you.

[@vacationeyes6430]

1. She constantly micromanages you. 2. You are always watched. She stands outside your room to overhear conversations. 3. She is extraordinary nosey. Does not respect your privacy or boundaries. 4. Continue to control every minute of your life through her son. 5. She prevents you from eating the food you love, wearing the clothes you love, doing the things you enjoy most and turns your entire lifestyle upside down. 6. She broadcasts private information about you to half the planet. 7. She resents your career growth while supporting her son. 8. She is extremely possessive about her son that you begin to feel you are the third wheel in their relationship. 9. You feel you are part of a reality TV. 10. Makes constant and unrealistic demands 11. She constantly gaslights you while pretending to be innocent 12. She finds out where your buttons are and pushes them all the time. 13. You feel drained, exhausted and irritated after talking to her for a few minutes. 14. She visits you unannounced and uninvited because she can 15. She visits you at the wrong time to make your life miserable e.g. when you are pregnant, after a job loss

[@bathandbakerycompany]

Do we share the same MIL? LOL. You are spot on. Imagine the horror when your husband moves his mother into your home without warning after she fks her life up and needs help.

[@pottspanspansies4565]

Omg so true

[@anjalimathur2289]

That's absolutely true for my mother-in-law 😢

[@clairedifilippo6522]

I had to take three screenshots to get your whole list. this is exactly what i go through im going to read it after every future encounter with her so I don't feel so insane and drained

[@tanimacad828]

All are absolutly right. Crazy bitches.

[@Eastwindwards]

The number one thing all girls must strive to achieve: DO NOT LIVE WITH YOUR IN-LAWS! Limit contact . Develop a thick skin.

[@js6546]

Experienced all of this for over 20 years. I went no contact with her just as a survival strategy, years before I knew about npd. Her control was overwhelming and insidious. Most shocking of all was the realisation that my ex husband was also a covert narc. For many years he pretended to support me but was always a mummy's boy. They worked as a sick team to abuse me. I'm out now and rebuilding my life. Thank you Danish.

[@Freeminder-tj5us]

OMG! I want to copy your comment. That’s exactly my life! My MIL even criticized my parenting skills and guilt tripped my daughter. Her son pretended to be sided with me but in the end of the relationship (a sudden discard), he asked me why I didn’t think like the way they think!! Thank God he discarded me and our daughter! It’s a blessing!

[@tinamara1408]

May I ask what made you realise that your Ex is a covert narcissist?

[@ibiminaabiye257]

Same story here, only my ex was an overt narc

[@indervirsidhu8549]

I'm also rebuilding my life.

[@ellie_j.]

Thank you for addressing narcissistic in-laws! It's a shame that most youtube videos on narcissistic abuse focus solely on romantic relationships, and those abused in other types of familial relationships end up feeling even more lonely, unseen, unheard and ostracized. Having narcissistic personality disordered in-laws is a very, very painful experience!

[@charlenelayhew4811]

XYou are so right. For 27 years I had to put up with this. She finally arranged a divorce which she is now #1 in my husband's life. He dropped dead in front of her casket and they had a double funeral.

[@lovelifexx726]

My ex mother-in-law told my ex husband to leave me when i was pregnant so he did. Apparently our wedding day was the saddest day of her life because i was taking her son away from her.

[@NehaSinghparmar27]

my MIL also told my husband to leave me. She also said that I am living with them only because I want them to pay for my delivery otherwise I would have gone to my dad's house.

[@bebeautiful583]

Same happened to me,word slipped from his mouth after giving me divorce ,,,that if i dont give her divorce my mother will die,(in jealous,in frustration)

[@ThePinkPantha21]

I believe that lots of mother in laws encourage their sons to leave and even cheat on their wives. When my dad cheated on my mom, my dad called my grandmother to his mistresses house after my mom came to that same house to confront them. My grandmother told my mom to leave. Who does that? If my son is fooling around not only will I disown him until he gets his life together, I will tell him to go home to his WIFE. This stuff ONLY happens because women sit in the background giving their sons permission.

[@jimmy031408]

You just described my mother in perfect detail. My narcissistic mother in law and my narcissistic soon to be x were a tag team. The mother in law was always in our business and always criticizing. Her and the wife feed off each other. They both had the same tendencies. Relentlessly, my mother in law gave me the divorce papers from my wife, even though the wife was full of lies. These people betray their own families, and there's no limit to how far they go. They love dysfunction and drama. Mother in law is alone and so will be my ex to be.

[@pollytheparrot8929]

Ur sooo right.. I'm experiencing the same.. My own family betrayed my trust on them in many ways.. They r just pathetic!

[@Ciara246]

It’s just crazy He never stood up for me when he’s mum was treating me like s,,,t always tried to make excuses They were both tormenting me One was cheating and mental abusing me And the mother was constantly disrespecting me I reckon they were both teamed up to destroy me

[@jimmy031408]

I'm very sorry. People like that are just trash.

[@KaymakveMimi]

​@@Ciara246yeah Just like my uncle and my grandmother. They team up and bully my uncle's beautiful wife. My Granma found her and introduced my uncle proudly, after years son and mother became team to bully her. As if she is a Satan, they want to keep her in their life to bully her. I feel sorry for their children, my cousins. They have to look nice to my uncle he has narcissistic anger. He misguide their character. I stranded with his wife. After he attacked her. My grandmother discarded me and my mother because we didn't attend the bully team. I caught their lies also. They lie like no shame. I feel disgusted for their poor lies. The only person to play that bullshit game, they found each other. Nobody attend their dreamy game, which they act like Satan but play victim. They are real monsters. I am blessed God save me and my mother. I wish the same for my cousins and their mother.

[@ljo0605]

I had a narcissistic MIL (she passed away last year). Just talking about it is triggering for me, I have found the past 7 years very traumatic with her. My husband gaslit me at the beginning but is realising now the truth about her and how much pain she has caused. She had a MASSIVE hold over him (and us). I do almost feel like I can have a life now she's gone

[@KaymakveMimi]

I hope she is fine in hell. I don't wish them anything good. Sorry.

[@anjalimathur2289]

You're lucky your narcissistic mother-in-law is no more in your life. I'm still dealing with a narcissistic mother-in-law. She's nearly 90 years old but she's still exactly how it's described in this video. She's trying to create problems between my husband and me and constantly critisizing me for everything

[@sitasmithasaripalli2344]

Super sir!! I have a double bonus🤣 Both my husband and mother- in-law are narcissistic. I have been dealing with them since 20 years and have experienced everything 💯% what you have said. I thank God 🙏 that I am still surviving and moving on. Experience is the best teacher sir, I came to know how to deal with them at the cost of my 20 years of valuable and precious life. But , I thank my parents, friends and children for supporting me all the way. I thank you a lot for making me feel that I am not at all wrong😊🙏

[@eunikewindycarolina7988]

So amazing, you are😍💖hope can stand like yours...keep in faith💖🙏thankyou

[@inderpreetkaur9429]

How you dealt with her.. kindly share as I am dealing with same for ten years

[@indervirsidhu8549]

​@@inderpreetkaur9429Go on no contact with her. If not possible then set boundaries. God bless you.

[@sym3012]

Same here 🙋‍♀

[@LenaJacob-h2x]

My mother in law can't accept the fact that we are living life, she expects us to save all our money, and wants to plan our whole future, she doesn't have any boundaries, she can't keep her nose out of our business, and she never has anything nice to say, she always expects everything to go her way, but she doesn't know that we have a life, and then she gets really angry when we don't do what she wants at that second

[@reenalinju6574]

I was dealing with a narcissistic family ...mother in law husband and sister in law....they kept his past hidden at the tym of marriage and gaslighted me 8 years ...after making a baby my husband never slept with me .. when i complained thet said its all ur fault ...u abuse him ...but now i know my husband had ran away from home after his 10th standard...and was missing 6 years from home ...his life experience on the roads has made him like this ...he seems gay after the childhood sexual abuse...and his family cut off all my connections with their neighbours and gaslighted me. ..8 years of hell...me and my baby ..need tym to heal from this ...

[@thereugo8900]

Thank you for this video on mother in law's....My nightmare is just as you have described for over 40 years and she is still alive worse than ever! She even physically attacked me all along with the verbal abuse through the years. All these years of abuse and being berated has been a nightmare. It has taken over 40 years for my husband to finally understand what she's done to me and our marriage. He also realized his part in this sick relationship. We are no contact now and totally ostracized from his siblings.

[@indervirsidhu8549]

Good job.

[@patriciat4493]

Twice the fun!! My MIL was the type that would smile sweetly, fain concern and say the most horrid things as soon as my back was turned. Gossip was her native tongue. She would pit her daughters against each other or against me for fictional issues then stand back and watch the fireworks. I'd catch the gleam in her eye when fights reached a fevered pitch, then she would go from one girl to the other in private, offering consolation and stoke the fire again. My own mother was the one that constantly found fault with me, insinuated herself into our marriage, dominated conversations with my husband, and doted on him like he was a child. After we divorced, she invited my ex for dinner at her house! Often! So glad they are all a faint dot in my rearview mirror.

[@MyersCrazy8]

Ding ding ding It tore us apart and he was a mess and drank so we divorced 4 years ago. To say that escalated BOTH moms is an understatement from hell dude. Full overdrive toxicity. Sadly my ex husband died 8 months ago and we’ve now reached the final level of psychotic insanity humanly possible for his mom. My mom was jealous I didn’t include her in telling our kids their dad died…….. I’ve about lost it and just cut them both out and been very vocal publicly which good lord they hate. So guess what - cue my sister and his brother concerned about me being irrational by not letting them continue lol 😂 I may have the trifecta

[@rajnibhatia6581]

All my horrible memories come to my mind while watching your video...............i wish i could understand these things 43 years back............. Love you Danish for doing great works 🌹🙏to heal ourselves

[@natalietodd5698]

I have been through this. My M.I.L did so many bad toxic things to me,at one stage I almost went through depression as I lived with them for one year. A miracle happened though and she moved away 4.5 hours from our home and it has been bliss for everybody. It also saved my marriage.After 20 years, I am finally free of her. I will never see her again.My teenage boy worked her out in grade six and cannot stand her either. I feel sorry for my husband, she’s been toxic to him also since he was a teenager.

[@pinkposey8134]

She would be really nice to my face however, she was cutting about me when speaking to others. Definition of 2 faced person.

[@ReRe_642]

She broke up my marriage. But I’m free of all that evil. Jealousy is a evil thing I have God. Amen!

[@farhaishaque4971]

Me too..she and my husband both were evil spirits.. alhamdulillah I got away from there

[@ReRe_642]

@@farhaishaque4971 He is like her. Good stay away from evil.

[@cynthiabulley1696]

I fortunately had the power within myself to always stand up to my mother-in-law without any difficulties. When I first figured out the enmeshed relationship between my husband and his mother (also father), I swiftly began to hold her accountable for her actions. Something no one, apparently had ever done before in all of her 78 years of life. As time went on, my husband and I would get into arguments, and trying to get him to understand what was going on made me sick to my stomach every time I spoke about it to him. Not only did she treat me like a slave, she used his at the time best friend against me, to smear campaign me, she and the Ex best friend would tell anyone who would listen lies about me, how I wouldn't "share" my husband. She tried to control every and any aspect she could get her hands on, where we should spend our one-year anniversary etc etc, it was absolutely disgusting and at times emotionally exhausting. I am grateful for my take no bullshit attitude. I tried the olive branch method, way too many times. Finally, I told my husband, it's either her or me. I am not going to live the rest of my life like this. He struggled unbelieveably as one would imagine, he even told me "You're going to burn my world down". Lol, imagine that. It took me 6 years and me to tell him I would leave to have my husband understand what was going on. His best friend and mother were hateful of me the day we married. And, to make matters worse, once I informed my husband we should have no contact with her, she sold the camp that was in the family for over 40 years to my husband's ex-best friend and they both kept it a secret. His father did nothing to stand up for his son, and do what was right. He is one of her enablers, she has several ha ha! After the recent disconnect, she has basically taken everything away that she could from my husband (We sold our home to take care of his parents who are elderly, had plans in effect to add an addition to the home that was given to my husband, and 6 wks into the post move, she decides to go all Queen Bavmorda of Willow on us, we had to scramble to find a different home to purchase in a town that we didn't even choose to live in). She is truly a monster. Father is very weak. We now do not speak to either of them. My husband and I were weakened, but our love for each other was only strengthened. He is very good at ignoring her, and tried to tell me several times "don't text her anything, she will use that as fuel, whether it's bad attention, it's still attention". Well, I had an extremely difficult time listening to him. I am the stand up for whats right and advocate for myself, protect my loved ones kind of person. Somehow, I found your videos and learned so much! Thank you for giving me the power to COMPLETELY IGNORE HER by teaching me that exactly what I was doing, was letting her continue to have control over our lives!! It took me to watching your videos the exact reason why she doesn't like me!! I am the mirror that makes her see just how ugly, mean and manipulating she is. I have been freed! I hope this comment empowers other women to stand up for themselves, as life is way too short to put up with a nasty, toxic, narcissistic.mother in law!

[@inderpreetkaur9429]

I have same situation ,but I have no control over my life as my husband never noticed her mother's injustice and passive violence towards me and became her enabler, got silent treatment from all members of family including her son and daughter and husband.I have no option of living separately from her.sometimes I feel hopeless.

[@debbiedavies1221]

how did you come to a place of being able to completely ignore her

[@cynthiabulley1696]

yes you do have an option. putting up with abuse is not ok. @@inderpreetkaur9429

[@cynthiabulley1696]

The power of completely ignoring her allowed me to take the control she felt she had towards us away from her, as any response was giving her what she wanted. The fact that she could get a rise out of me (even standing up for myself and confronting her about her behavior) was giving her control which is what she thrives on. My husband and I have chosen to not speak to her anymore. This is driving her crazy. He is her only child. She always had to have her head stuck up our behinds, needing to know exactly everything that was going on in our lives, the fact that I won't let anyone in the family know anything unless its purposeful for us, is getting to her and she tries any which way she can think of to get back at us. I have not allowed her to visit our new home even once, nor will she ever be allowed to. The fact that friends of hers have told her not only is she beyond wrong and crazy for behaving this way and that our home is beautiful digs at her very core. THAT is giving power back to me. Besides, toxicity is just that, we want to live a peaceful life and having her be a part of it didn't allow for that. I don't know what your situation is, there is a solution. @@debbiedavies1221

[@debbiedavies1221]

And how did you get your husband to see that? Bc I’m having trouble with him seeing that he is emotionally codependent of his mom 😕 bc in the beginning i would fight a lot and then it created resistance and it was easier for him to “ignore it”

[@air_momo]

I have a narcissistic MIL, but thankfully my husband made me aware of her behavior years ago. However, she treated me very well for years until recently. She would usually turn on, manipulate, guilt trip, or try to control my husband and try to get me to back her. This would cause my husband a lot of self doubt and she refused to recognize what she was doing because “I’m the parent therefore older and wiser.” Recently, her behavior changed towards me due to certain reasons. She was upset that we did not have a close relationship and I wasn’t trying to reach out to her the same way she did to me. Her version of a relationship is controlling the way my husband and I raise our family, get details and gossip on what’s going on, and asking us for favors because she did something nice for us or her grandkids. However, instead of engaging in her non-sense, I realized, because her and my FiL live far away from us, they crave our presence and the presence of our kids more than anything to keep up appearances so they can brag about the image of a “happy healthy family.” My husband and I now use our family’s presence as incentives to get her and my FiL to back off. I consider myself very lucky because my husband is aware of her nonsense and makes no excuses for it. She used to try the divide and conquer tactic, but now that we’ve both called her out on her behavior she knows she can’t turn us against each other. I see our interactions as cordial and surface level. Although she hates it, for my mental health, I refuse to go back to bending over backwards to make her happy.

[@annehawley4367]

Yes, my MIL is a covert charming Narcissist. I sadly had a border line personality mother growing up. And for the first 25 years of my life I was under her control and emotional abuse. At 25 she disowned me because I was starting to become my own person. Sadly that day I lost my ENTIRE family that day - including extended family. I was in depression for a few years after that - in which my MIL took full advantage of that. I basically went along with everything, never questioned anything, and did everything for her. I was numb. As I began therapy and began to heal, I started to realize I was a person, and was allowed to think for myself, allowed to have feelings and express them. And I started not liking my MIL walking all over my boundaries anymore. I started saying no, and trying to set boundaries, but my husband would just tell me "It makes her happy, just let her do it". He would never remember her actions and would tell me I'm straw manning her. I attempted talking to her as my therapist had suggested, that maybe she was unaware she was hurting me, but that only blew up in my face. After opening up and being vulnerable with her - she snapped at me "How dare you say I've done anything wrong. All I've done is love you." Then she cried to my husband that I hate her, that I entrapped her, and how all she's ever done is love me, she doesn't understand. Then after being hurt by her not hearing me - my husband would yell at me for upsetting her. I was also finding if I planned something, she would make her plans and my husband would beg me to let her have her plans. And with my background of not learning how to handle conflict, I would cave in. But when we decided to start a family, that's when things got worse. I wanted to set the boundary that when she came to visit, she just couldn't assume she could spend the night - she needed to ask. My husband fought with me for 3 months - accusing me of being unfair and saying it's his Mom, if he wants to have her over he can. I eventually "won" the argument with logic - but coincidentally she wanted to visit the weekend after I set this boundary. I talked to my therapist who gave me advice, knowing this was going to blow up in my face. She showed up with her "charming" grin and said "I brought my overnight bag, is it okay if I spend the night?" I took a deep breath like my therapist suggested - I didn't say anything, I was giving myself space to think. She stood up, hand on hip, grit teeth and bugged out eyes "Why, who else is spending the night" - my husband heard the snap and ran into the foyer to say "What's wrong Mom?" She said "She won't let me spend the night" and stormed past me with my husband chasing after her saying "Of course you can spend the night". I had to run to the store so I went out, and when I got back, my husband yelled at me for upsetting her - that she was crying the entire time I was gone. Despite my eyes being red from crying the entire time I was gone too. That's just ONE of the many stories I have. There are others worse - including forcing herself on us at the hospital when I gave birth, and convincing my husband that SHE is supposed to throw our son's first Birthday Party - he fought with me for 4 months on that. He resents me for wanting to NOT see her on Mother's Day and on our wedding anniversary. This has completely destroyed my marriage - and as of now he is unaware of that. I do understand - growing up the way I did - that he's terrified of her - so he does everything in his power to keep her happy or pay the consequences, but he won't admit that. In his mind she's a Saint, understanding and considerate.

[@NataliesMommy]

Your husband is a coward. I'd leave him. He's married to his mommy.

[@shrutijain1588]

I was dealing with both Narc Husband and MIL. 🙄

[@shaziakhan9435]

Every thing that you have mentioned Danish, I have dealt with it for the last 21 years at the hands of a narcissistic mother- son duo. She passed away 8 months back and I still feel her presence around me- she has left me with no self confidence!! She has hurt me beyond repair.

[@sonalawale3444]

The first 3 years of marriage were spent in so much terror that as soon as I woke up in the morning, without any thought, my heart beat would automatically become faster… then that beat would force me to think that I might commit some mistake today… those 3 years, my MIL encroached so much on our married life..even telling us when we should have sexual relations, when not to have it, how many times a week we should have it..and she did not even want to have a child of us. After being a mother of twins I made a decision not to tolerate it anymore..because as a normal, sensitive human being I knew it would go further to hunt my boys..I left the home with my boys and I thank God for showing me the right way and filling me with courage. Though I'm not out of my marriage but the reins of my world are in my hand now... experience is the best teacher.. But I want to thank you Danish from my heart for clearing this that I was not at fault ever.

[@Beingmeisthewaytogo]

My narc mother in law was very disrespectful from the day 1 I met her. Her question was if my country(S. Korea) had things like washer and fridge like Canada has. I told her the fridge she had was made by Korean company.(LG brand). Oh the look on her face!😂 She kept my husband away from me by taking him to visit her brother and buying plants and trees from a nursery while I was in the hospital after giving a birth of my son via c section. After coming back home from the hospital, she offered to change my son's diaper and she pulled his umbilical cords that led him having hernia, possibly could've killed my son. When my husband called her because my 1 month old son was in the hospital with difficulty of breathing and seizures in life threateningconditions, her answer was " Let me know if something happens." When her yuppy dog was about to bit my 1.5yrs old boy, she would scold at my boy to be gentle. I think I need to write a book to continue. There are too many eposodes I can't possibly write them all.

[@Jess-kn8vl]

I was completely done when she denied things she emailed. Umm we have the proof? Felt like I wasted the best years of my life dealing with this.

[@amazinghiddengemslocations29]

Perfect description.

[@AAXS-op1vo]

Never really experienced this to any great degree because I had HER pegged from the very beginning. What I did NOT realize was that her SON was also a narcissist. . . .THAT was where most of my struggles resided. I kept her at emotional and physical “arms length” as I witnessed her emotionally terrorize her son for years, blow up relationships left and right, and attempt to control me. She never got her hooks in me like that but her son sure did a number on me. In the end, I won my battles but I guess she won the war because her son and I are divorcing and I have left the two of them behind (as a necessary choice to heal from all the trauma and drama). I am certain I am being painted as a heartless “b” because I went strictly “no contact” after our split and have not looked back. She has some significant health problems that arose after the split so I probably look horrific by maintaining my no contact stance, but after over two decades of learning all of her moves and patterns, I know better: I am damned either way I play that card - I might as well be at peace and maintain my health and sanity than let the narcs back into my emotional or physical space. Nope, I will be everybody’s “b” if it means I get to gain my peace and sanity and LIFE back!

[@ReRe_642]

God bless you you are telling my story. I’m keeping it moving as well. There mothers created there sons to be narsacist.

[@nadam.3725]

Oh my god love this video I watched it few times!! Finally someone spoke about this so deeply, thank you so much doctor! Please make a video about Narcissistic sister in law, my husband has only 1 sister and 3 other brothers but she rules the family, she is side by side with my mother in law but pretends to be so enceinte, nice and drama free! She is so sneaky and no matter how much i tried to be her sister since I have no sisters she does me wrong. Tbey pocket dialed me by mistake once and oh my god the stuff I heard was horrible 😔😔😔her and her mom treat me as a jealous person and I could swear to you i never got jealous from them I have everything i need from god i jhst want them to stop trying to flip my husband on me we bave a baby and all tgey do is criticism and jealousy. Thank yiu so much doctor❤️🙏please more videos about this and how to fight them back they hurt me soooo much😔😔😔

[@moniqueberrian5880]

Yes, I had to deal with a narcissistic mother in law. The only difference is my husband was blind to her actions at first, but he began to see through he foolishness towards me. My husband, thank God is not a momma’s boy , so he had to stand up to her and eventually stopped her from being around us.

[@heyoldman2003]

yes, i believe it is a generational curse . as the grandmother was the original narc. man …oh man . i still feel sad for the whole gang 😔. son in laws suffer too

[@sakinakhan4316]

She wore my dress and sat exactly in the same place in the same gesture as i used to sit beside my husband to watch TV.. i am amzwd how at this very young age you understand all these. Masha Allah.

[@VivianeVee]

I have been waiting for this particular topic, thank you so much Danish, you are wonderful! My MIL is especially practiced and adept in her covertly insidious tactics and strategies, I am consistently overwhelmed by the extent of the heinous repercussions. Becoming aware and the radical acceptance process is a lonely but necessary road to travel. Thank you for being a sympathetic and kind GPS ❤️

[@shekhar301]

I am going through all this for the last 24 years now.. Thanks for advising go no contact. My survival instincts was guiding me to do so! Have developed health issues, lost my career, money and also dealing with a narcissist husband. My mil pitted my brother in law's wife against me She did that because she knew she couldn't interfere with their business..My BIl chickens out leaving the shit on family!!

[@victoriabrand2777]

she used to use our spare keys to let herself in when I was at work, came over on my day off and demanded that I go do things in the kitchen for her, moved our furniture around, changed the channel on my favourite programme and all sorts. tag teamed with his sister in particular.

[@triciaxavier2176]

Hi Danish, your videos are spot on!!! I experienced everything listed in your video. Your videos help me so much as I am currently on the road to recovery. 🙏 Thank you for doing what you do it has an immense impact on my life.

[@gloriarangott8803]

I think I was blessed with my first husband. He KNEW what his mother was like....interestingly, he said to me one day that his mother wanted to buy US a house, BUT the caveat was that we would be stuck with her for life because she would be moving in with us....he asked me how I felt! My answer was that I'd rather live in a cardboard box than live with his mother! Additionally, I said that she could go and live with his brother and help take care of their 3 kids... I also had a sample of what she would be like. I was visiting with my mom one day, and the mother on law rang the bell...I heard who it was, and ran down the basement stairs...I sat on those steps for the whole visit, and I heard her demean me to my mother...the clothing I wore, the c way I did/ didn't do housework...everything you said, Danish...so I knew what her game was very early on.... We stayed away from her all week, and went to visit for about 2 hours on one weekend day...usually to watch television (Perry Mason)...and I let him be with his mother while I paid attention to the TV. This way she could not get her claws and fangs into me. Sadly he died of lung cancer 8 months later...THEN I HAD to deal with the beast, but I was prepared, and my mom taught me that everything she said and did was going to be to hurt me for killing her son...I was ready. Happily, my brother in law took her to his house, and I moved away in the interim to a new location, and my mom told her I'd relocated to another area far away because I was offered a good job( it was a fabrication, of course). That's how it was with my mother in law. 20 years later, I remarried, after earning my 2nd masters degree, and the man I married no longer had his parents. BUT,I had a sister in law from he'll to make up for it!!

[@Shoopes74]

Same here. It’s my fault he died. Had only she been in charge, he would be here still. I’m going through hell rn and I’ve got to escape it!

[@rosettesionne9139]

Narcissistic mother in law, treats their sons like demi Gods, almost as substitute husband, and expect their step daughter to do the same. No woman will ever be enough to her son and DARE challenge nor get angry and be prepare for a massive smear campaign.

[@meghasanghvi125]

i second all of that you mentioned in the talk. I have dealt with one such mother-in-law who was super jealous of me, always instigated her son against me, always undermined everything that I did, always got into comparisons with me, and openly criticized when her son spent quality time with me - her daughter-in-law, rather than other normal in-laws who would become happy seeing their son and daughter-in-law's closeness and bonding, my MIL used to feel super-jealous, criticized her son openly about being around me all the time and ultimately she succeeded in destroying our bond and closeness within just 5 months of her presence in our life. It took me and my husband apart.

[@natashajones4298]

I’m sorry to hear that.

[@RajalekshmiI]

Well-narrated...I have been suffering this since my marriage....

[@elizabethleah967]

Omg spot on!!! Along with a neglectful/ covert narcissist I never stood a chance. She was actually so happy we split… just wish I’d had all this knowledge years as it’s all hitting me a once now years on. No wonder I suffered all those disgusting symptoms and still am. Now my children have some traits and it crucifies me, triggers me etc. it’s not their fault but wow it bloody hurts!!! There’s no escaping the abuse but these videos help enormously. So validating, thank you x

[@elizabethleah967]

Meant to say neglectful/covert narcissistic husband who always put his mum first

[@victoriakennedy4811]

yes she and he got together right from the start of the marriage - she would come over every Saturday whether I wanted her there or not and spend all day talking downstairs with my husband - she redecorated my home without my say so and also was controlling with him and my children - she would play puzzles with my husband and exclude me every time we visited her and also tried to control everything we did - even dressing my children in clothes she sewed without consulting me. She died recently and it affected my husband and now he is in a care facility put there by his controlling brother not me.

[@preetiyadav5513]

Why didn't you run away?

[@victoriakennedy4811]

I had thought he was normal - and I had a baby

[@BarbadAurat]

In India, this takes a unique twist with narcissistic in-laws, especially mothers-in-law, whose enmeshed relationships with their sons often create emotional chaos for daughters-in-law. You know, it destroys boundaries and puts women in impossible situations.

[@watchinfireflies7201]

His entire family has abused me for way too long...time to take my power back. Thank for the info..I guess learning is better late than never.

[@12healthnut]

I went through this for 25 years, and my husband couldn't see it. She was good at hiding it from him and sucking up to him. She recently died, abd got so bad toward the end, abd even worse to me that my husband finally saw it. They are very good at deception.

[@lorettarichardson8276]

She will also set him up with an ex girlfriend , then blackmail him so she can still hold control. That is until it is all exposed, then game over.

[@sakeenashageer6574]

Such a toxic dynamic! Where do I begin? Mood swings, rage, tried to control what I ate, tried to stop me from working out! Called me names, threatened to murder me! Tried to completely change the way I think, and yelled because I didn't hold exactly the same beliefs as her! Completely tried to embarrass me in public on purpose!

[@raghavchhabra6612]

Dear I always tried to set the boundaries however now they have isolated me from the entire society and doing everything behind my back. All the family members teamed up and everyone is against me.

[@nikkinicolem4866]

You are so spot on. This was the most validation I received in a while. Thanks.

[@aparnadeshpande8641]

Thanks a lot . This exactly I want to hear . This is so reassuring!! Going trough the exact situation you explained

[@AR-ic5fs]

My regret is that when we first got married , we didn’t move about 5 states away- I love my husband. He is incredibly supportive. now 30 years later - we are in a very difficult situation of taking care of this elderly mother in law. It has been 5 months and I feel I have aged 5 years. Her narcissist personality is damaging my life - my mental and physical health. You would think that in her medical condition she would be grateful and gracious. Negative. She is worse. It is insanity. It is prison.

[@ΔΗΜΗΤΡΑΜ-υ2σ]

Please make a video about narcissistic grandparents!Thank you so much

[@brendaleverick3655]

My mother chose my narcissistic brother over me. He is as cold towards me as is possible. I'm SO sick of narcissism!

[@maryrempel6021]

Thats my story 😢, thanks a million that there are people in this world with understanding!!!!!

[@faithbaker8259]

my mother in law passes away but i had to deal with her over 30 years & my spouse her son was so enmeshed with him its like he was her spouse she made my life hell & he spent all his time with her she was evil but would put on a show like she was a sweet grammy to others but i saw differently & my spouse & her i think are both narcs so im still dealing with him but i at least dont have both of them to deal with & everything your saying is true so sad thank you for making these videos they help me cope & i feel validated as i cant get out 😊

[@shaha_na]

Thank God I can understand narc within 2 and half years . After that I go with no contact ...if I didn't came to know about narcissist I can't imagine it ...

[@sylviapanszczyk3568]

I cried with relief when my mother in law died. I never wished her dead, but when she was terminally ill, I saw a life free of her games. 21 years of attacks and undermining. My self-esteem was so low even considered suicide as she had convinced me I wasn't a nice person. She could be so kind and considerate, and then she would be horrible. My husband was a mummy's boy who thought she was the kindest person in the world and I had misunderstood. Whe his eyes were finally open, he would sit on the fence. I left him after 38 years as I had no feelings left for him. They died long before she did but I stayed for our children's sake.

[@karnimaa23]

It's true .. she hurted me lottt if i avoid to she use to create problem n tells his son so that he can fight with me . Then i started ignoring her. I stopped talking to her . When she have need from me .she use to talk well with me ..both my husband n her mom r nacrsist. When i got pregnant after 4 yrs he informed her mom. She was like y u r hurry for kid . U can wait for that. N she tired to keep distance from me n my husband. I use to be in shock when i was newly married after big fight they both reacted like nothing happen .

[@pollytheparrot8929]

Yea dey do that.. Pretend everything to b normal.. Then luv bomb u, den fight for no reason.. Then pretend as if nothing happened! It's a pattern.. Thers no end to it.. Make u crazy ur whole life.. Better to stay away or leave them forever🙏

[@rahimgaming6232]

Brother your each and every word is absolutely true... I have faced this with me...😢

[@TransformativeParadigm]

I did set myself free. I walked away yesterday by moving my belongings to my parents’ house. I’m proud of myself for walking away in under a year of my marriage. I previously walked away by breaking engagement with my partner hoping he gets the hint. He came back asking me to marry him after promising me he will not let his mom come in between from next time. However, after marriage, he usually allowed her in our private matters every month. It’s only. Been 8 months and he has thrown me under the bus about 2-3 times so him and his mom can bully me around. The 3rd time was so disrespectful. It made me fall out of love with him. I’ll soon be separate legally once the usual process is complete.

[@sidnasir5483]

I am dealing with same situation u said. Word to word is true for me. And now when i raised my frim stance agains his mother. Dealing with silent treatment since 2 months. Wt to do. Have 4 kids

[@PoojaSingh-pt3sw]

Good you came up with this topic of Mother in law

[@skyispink5870]

I'm feeling so emotionally dead from inside, i have the worst mother in law. I cry everyday.

[@princessaly9507]

Thanks for sharing this. The best video about this topic. I finally feel like someone understands what I’m going through. ❤

[@ismatrana7716]

Can't appreciate this lecture enough

[@mamabear349]

Yes! I'm always told I'm a bad mother, wife, accused of molesting my sons! Always please the victim! She and her son are the perfect couple! She defends him and encourages him to treat me with disrespect!

[@eleyna1957]

For 24 years, I lived under narcissistic abuse. My husband was a narcissist. My mother-in-law is a narcissist, and my stepdaughter is a narcissist. It ruined my life. He’s died two months ago - my life is over. They stole every penny - that was nothing compared to what they did to me mentally emotionally, spiritually and yes, even physically. Nobody understands my situation. They have created massive smear campaigns that even my own children fell for it. I tried to get out right off but gave birth to a down syndrome child, which kept me locked into the situation. He’s gone and I cut off the rest of them - I have to heal. These videos are so important to me. Thank you so very much.

[@donnalehman5875]

Right there with you trying to rebuild my life. It's hard I do get it. I would be happy to connect with anyone who understands the pain this type of abuse causes.

[@ASMR.1920l]

Hi, thanks for sharing this information I’m one of those unlucky daughter in law who has been in this loop of disrespect,abuse etc… it’s terrible to bare such people no matter how much you ignore, how much you do for them it’s not just enough any day anytime you get to hear all your flaws unintentional actions or whatever lil silly things can be countable but not the efforts and dedication, support I give in all bad times.

[@sylviagonzales1680]

What’s odd is my mom does a lot of these things. I’m married and she’s constantly criticizing everything I do (she hates the way I dress). She doesn’t believe I’m happy in my marriage and she doesn’t like the way we dress our kids. She’s constantly criticizing what my husband does or doesn’t do, it’s never enough. Every time I’m on a phone call with her she’s also throwing indirects at me, it’s so annoying.

[@louisenilsson8951]

The behavior of my mother in law is very strange. First thing she done with both of her sons girlfriends before we got married is to tell them that just as you know we will still be friends if it ends with her sons. Also the first thing she did was to take personal gifts that where given by their girlfriends out of their rooms to keep for herself. I never forget the lecture she had to my now husband before we moved to our own place in front of me she was saying : "remember that you will never have your own life with her just because you are moving out".

[@rinchhensherpa6972]

Been there, felt it and ran out of it.

[@crazytacolady]

I don't even bother cooking anymore

[@bharatideore3101]

Very much correct...one verses many.... nobody else in the family has courage to go against such mother in law....

[@CegiJohnson]

My husbands Mother is always the victim even though she creates the drama or situations that she is in. She picks and even verbally says she has a favorite grandchild and shows favoritism to that grandchild, which is the same way she did her children. She drives a wedge between me and other members of the family that I don't even know, making them form opinions of me without actually getting to know me. If I react or call her out on anything she does, I'm wrong, I'm crazy I'm the problem. If her son does not call her for a certain period of time, it HAS to be MY DOING. She will call and say things like "Tell her she can't keep you from me" and we will both be like WTF we've just been busy. When I got sick and was in the hospital with a brain tumor, 2 days later she supposedly had bleeding on the brain and needed surgery made a big deal and come to find out it was her glaucoma eye surgery. She makes him feel guilty if he is on my side with her behavior, I'm am sick of it.

[@priyanesan3299]

Word for word mine is exactly the same. Every day it is like being in a war zone. Walking on eggshells day after day. Nothing satisfying this MONSTER.

[@pollytheparrot8929]

Soo true🙏

[@cebu7777]

she said giving ultimatums means you do not truly love him. she said i would pay for disagreeing with her and sent his dad with 6 pack to end 4 yr sobriety. she said kissing him romantically and massaging his shoulders was motherly but, i never saw my mom do that to my brother... my ex husband died from alcohol and drug abuse related heart attack at age 44

[@HazraShaheen]

I'm still surviving in this situation.it is more worse than u r explaining,they have isolated my,,,crossing all boundaries,I don't know what to do

[@LeslieKaucotte]

Danish, thank you for this excellent video. You've helped me so much more than any psychologist has. I am forever grateful for all I've learned on your channel 🙏🏻💖 I was wondering if there's already a video on covert narcissistic MILs, the ones who are very snakey and do everything behind your back and then who make themselves look as a poor-old woman (boohoo and everything) that doesn't deserve to be abandoned by all of her children and their partners? If anyone has pointers, it'd gladly take tips and recommendations. Thank you 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 Have a blessed day 💖

[@victoriabrand2777]

oh yes and his sister. managed to help to break us up and crossed limits with my child as well. I did wonder if there was actual incest going on.

[@jennifermiller5493]

2 times my ML arranged for her kids including daughter in laws to work on her yard for Mothers Day including her daughters that had small children as she sat on a lawn chair and watched. I did not go but showed up later and have been the outcast from that day forward (20 years ago)!

[@kbt5702]

Mine died in 2019. I called he little satin ! Unbelievable stuff I went through. No one would ever believe

[@kbt5702]

Satan ***. I did tell him that I had enough that he needed to handle her. He told me if he had to chose btwn me or her, that we wouldn’t be married. 2 years after that I left him, still gone. Never to return. Wish I hadn’t wasted 10 years there 😢

[@nehakanauje9788]

I can totally relate to every word you say. Just one question, what if the son himself is not an enabler but a scapegoat himself, earlier he was playing the role of scapegoat, however with me entering the family through marriage, the family dynamics changed. I became the scapegoat and he became the lost child. How to handle such a situation. Because every time I am being bombarded because of some narcissistic injury, even if my husband attempts to help me or shield me, Immediately her strategy changes exchanging me in the lost child role and him as a scapegoat. This eventually leads him to retreat and disengage leaving me at open fire ground.

[@englishrose1636]

I have a mama's boy husband and his narcistic mother in law. Life is just nothing but disaster

[@anjalimathur2289]

I'm Anjali Mathur, a woman from Vista Villas, sector-46, Gurgaon, Haryana, India and I'm facing exactly these issues with my mother-in-law Mrs Madhuri Mathur. She has been trying to cause problems between my husband and me and constantly criticizes me.

[@vidhivora5472]

Leave the mother in law or leave the husband

[@jahnavi8157]

Exactly what happening right now in my life....10 years of my married life she screwed my Mind and heart to Notting is possible in presence of her...and I have 3 sister in law's...she is making them to engage and ruining my peace of life and husband also enjoys me suffering between me ,mother in law's and sister in law's,there i figured out recently both mother and sister in law's are narcissists and son too is a bigger narcissist...i stopped engaging with them firstly ,I have 2 kids and managing with narcissistic husband with boundaries...don't how to manage further..ur vedios are very helpful sir.

[@AmanSS890]

You know some people just are energy vampire. It’s fine to talk to your mother in law but when all she does is complain then that gets to a person . Especially when a mother in law treats her son as a husband then a son .

[@PTS2024]

I have a narc MIL, and i have never had to deal with one before and i genuinely am terrified of her insidious behaviour and actions. If anyone has any advice please share with me. I would more than anything love to have 0 contact with her and cut her out but that is not possible bc my partner( her son) wants to have somewhat of a relationship with her. Thankfully he fully understands and knows how she is, but sometimes he still does get manipulated and controlled by her.

[@jaisairam4885]

Right now am dealing two covert narcissists husband and MIL along with my 4th month of pregnancy.. emotionally draining😭

[@islamisPEACE235]

You tell each and every thing perfectly about my mil i m living in joint family only 8 months of marriage slowly slowly i understand the pattern. Every thing is exact like this. She wants to control everything every person even time also😅. She feels like god. Every time she criticising me and negging in every daily chores and constantly interrupting and when i behave enough is enough, she is saying i m just caring for you. And concern about you. She believes she is perfect. She feels like whatever it is just take my permission validation and take me with you. She wants to interrupt in every decision conversation discussion. She is behaving like dictator or ruler commander. Sometimes i feel like am i in military school. She bang my bedroom door early 7.am like she will broke it. She wants daughter in law to be mute ,dumb ,puppet, robotic and brainless, no question, complete submission.

[@Fangis929]

I don’t know mine is worst or not. She always criticizes me, making lies about me, yelled at me, accusing me that I’m the evil of the family 😅, creating false stories about me that I don’t even knew the story ever existed. Hates me like hell, telling my daughter that I’m a witch 😅😂, while I did nothing. Never in my life I disrespect her, but now I take my step to stay away from her to protect my mental health as soon as I learned about narcissistic. The crepiest things that she did till now is stalk about me, her brutal hates make her obsessed with me. I don’t know her goal, once she told me that she wished that my husband divorce me😅. But I think to cut any contact with her is the best for now, only for me. I let my husband keep take care of her but I won’t put myself any inches close to her.

[@sarahcapasso9779]

I'm watching this video because i'm desperate, she is destroying me and my relationship..i don't know what to do, really.

[@doodle737]

ive been realizing my mil was a narc after going for therapy. she is not completely controlling of all aspects of my life but enough for me to have tears rolling down my face watching this video, especially the part how the mil and son (husband) team up, or so it feels, and leaves you isolated. Especially, how i parent. I become extremely drained when dealing with her. She chimes in to our discussions, makes passive aggressive comments, judges, criticizes, in her sneaky subtle way. Shames my son for liking my brother (his uncle) plays the pity party with my husband, guilts him, has to be the center of attention at weddings and parties, has to have long drawn out "come over for dinner" invites that are way too much. because of her and how she controls her son, i am on anxiety meds and therapy. After 12 years of this, just now my husband is not blaming me and starting to open up to her not being the best person. I'm getting professional help and i'm still having problems with it. She won't change but since i have to deal with her i have to try my best to not take her crap without coming off as explosive or reactive, which makes me look bad. it's a lot of work and prepping to deal with and i'm so fkin sick of it. i have to force positive thoughts in my head because i don't want her stress she has, her negative judgey energy in my soul. the only advice i have is to practice self affirmations for self love as much as possible, meditate and know you're worth to be treated good. You're not the only one dealing with this bs.

[@vijayadavid3445]

Experienced the whole list for 16 yrs, we are separated for 5 yrs now.... MIL is vry happy, they both go out for parties n enjoying their narcissistic life.

[@hardeepkaur4556]

Sir make video on how narcesist mother in law treats her son in law

[@THB_M888]

This is exactly what I am going through, so I’m not crazy like how they make me feel

[@donnalehman5875]

No you are not. Please reach out anytime. I am happy to talk and help keep your sanity. I have dealt with this for 23 years. I do get it.

[@bunnyworld9595]

Experienced for two years...at last I told my husband that I want to live separately...they acted as I was wrong...I told them I will tell everybody abt u and u will b the only reason if I get separated from husband bcos u tried to separate us...she got shocked..now me and my husband are living together but far away my in laws .thou she is still somewhere trying to indulge but I m firm and not allowing her to ruin my married life...I am not gonna let her come in my life, for that i will do anything i have to do...

[@phantomvampyressshadowkiss4690]

I'm the daughter in law of a covert narcissist. She makes me sick literally . She constantly made passive aggressive comments , ignored me as a mother , tried to pit me against my sister in law , complained about the way I do everything wrong. Ignores and dismisses me. I don't allow her to see my 4 yr old daughter now because she ignored me as a mother. I wouldn't let her control my life and tell me how to do things. She has only 2 sons. She has competed with me. Complained about my job , the way I dress , and everything else. She is always a victim. She dismisses everything and denies her faults . Every thing was my fault because I didn't comply with her. Everything you say is correct she made me sick when she would visit but I never gave her control because I'm a strong willed person and I expect everyone to take ownership. I don't care about validation from her. I didn't ask her . She does deny everything.

[@SameenaAfreen-wt2se]

Very very toxic mother in law...she ruined my life...my husband is a enabler...in the past 10 years of my marriage...i took stand for myself for the first time...my husband left me with 3 kids and married another women with the help of his mother...both were narcissistics.