How a son learned to enjoy caring for his father | Living inside with dementia

[@lilapillay4284]

Daniel is indeed a blessed soul. Taking care of his parents and putting their needs above his, is highly commendable. Sad to say not everyone will be able to do it willingly and happily.

[@imdaniellim]

Good morning Lila, Daniel here, thank you for watching, hoping to share a glimpse into our crazy world.

[@WWK186]

Such a filial son, financial help should go to such families.

[@imdaniellim]

Thank you Wendy, for highlighting this, financial is truly a challenge for us. Thank you for watching.

[@lilycool2601]

Daniel your parents are seeing the fruit of their labour. You will be bless n rewarded for your piety filial. You are such a good son. Not easy job..alot of patience, understanding n love is needed. Do take care of yourself too.

[@imdaniellim]

Thanks LilyCool, it's about doing the best we can for as long as we can for the ones we love so dearly.

[@musico3415]

Hearing him sings touches my heart. I was told that all dementia patients could remember their younger days favorite songs. This uncle sings well.

[@imdaniellim]

Daddy loves to sing, it allows him to express himself in ways he can no longer articulate.

[@musico3415]

@@imdaniellim When I was studying overseas, an elderly landlord (90 years old) of mine once told me that his wife (89 years old) with dementia couldn't remember him. And she always calls him 'uncle', 'brother' or something else. However, she could remember all the hymns she sang before in her younger days in church. She also loves to sing. She lives in a nursing home nearby his house. He would bring her to church every Sunday so that she could have some social life outside of her nursing home. She seems happy when in church.

[@imdaniellim]

@@musico3415 Totally, emotions stay with us, Daddy can express his love for us through music.

[@acky3000]

salute to you daniel for all the hard work you put in

[@imdaniellim]

Hi Alastair, thank you for the support and for watching this. It warms my heart knowing that there are people who care.

[@vichelletacliad9399]

I salute you Mr.Daniel Affirm

[@imdaniellim]

Good morning Vichelle, thank you for watching, please help to spread the word and generate greater awareness of persons living with dementia and caregiving.

[@ymaster8719]

Your parents are blessed to have you as a son. I wish I could turn back time and understood the disease better so that I could devote more time to look after mum before her passing.

[@Ana-tz5nz]

What a story. So beautiful and positive in so many ways. God bless this family, strength and good health to all of them.

[@SmiileySmiiles]

Amazing effort Daniel! ❤❤❤

[@imdaniellim]

Thank you for watching, much appreciated. Please do help us to share this with more people whom you think might would be keen to watch.

[@meloon5876]

Thks for highlighting the need to ask how a dementia parent would wsnt to be cared for vs how we the children wants to do it. Also, a good tip is to know our parent eg play up his ego in order to get him to do stuff.

[@nurmah.mohdyusoff2163]

Subscribed., you've made my day. If you ever cried, silent the hurts and may times passing and heal slowly yet leave you with the tiniest spot for your rememberance of your dearly parents in next thousand years ahead. Remarkable journey.Tq for sharing publicly.

[@imdaniellim]

Thank you watching, when working on this with the production team, something we coined is that, memories are frozen in photography, videos and in handwritten manuscripts. It is a legacy piece of work for daddy and mummy and something for me to remember them when it is all said and done.

[@nurmah.mohdyusoff2163]

a true good friend won't leave you during your struggle for help and that hurts, even a dog walking and running after you and cuddle you like mummy and daddy and that bring back all the joyfull memories back to those days when you were newly born. Stay strong.

[@imdaniellim]

@@nurmah.mohdyusoff2163 Thank you for your kind words. Will treasure our moments.

[@lilykejia]

A beautiful video and story that touched my heart.

[@jameslee8608]

There is a Chinese idiom which says, 你们养我大，我养你们老! Watching this documentary brings back many memories of my experiences and encounters, caring for mum who passed on, on mid-March this year, aged 101. Yes, it was daunting, really daunting to see her deteriorating conditions and other multiple complications throughout her remaining days of her life. At that time, what came to my mind was to sustain her life by doing all possible to care for her wholeheartedly. My only wish now is that I hope I can live my aging life's normalcy without dementia so as not to let my loved ones to care for me during the remaining time of my life's journey.

[@StarrySunnie]

🥲🥲🥹 Mr. Daniel with friends s’ support have made much better progress in His Daddy, Mr. Peter’s to reduce worsening of Dementia…Commendable act with endless perseverance for his family 🙏🏽🙇🏻‍♀️❤️❤️❤️ The video touches me deeply and for a while, the problem is diminished. I Love Mr. Peter’s quote that he likes to sing and certainly agree singing does help to live up our spirits and reduce the problems impact 🥹🥹 Love the family portrait. One should definitely learn to be a caregiver like Mr. Daniel. May I wish Mr. Daniel and Family are always been blessed with Happiness.

[@imdaniellim]

Morning Yessika, thank you for your kind words, for daddy, alot of it is about him being able to age-in-place among the community, especially within our very estate where we stay. Quality of life and dignity when ageing.

[@StarrySunnie]

@@imdaniellim I am very happy to receive your reply. You are right about it 🙏🏽🙇🏻‍♀️

[@imdaniellim]

@@StarrySunnie Happy to engage in meaningful conversations. Person-centred care is important. In today's day and age, we administer the care we think they need, how often do we ask them, how they like to be cared for?.

[@StarrySunnie]

@@imdaniellim Thank you very much. You really touch my inner sense deeply 🥲 as I am still self-Centered

[@crystalyi1759]

Daniel, i hv prayd for u n yr parents n wl cntinue to pray for ur fam n work needs. Thank you for openly sharing as u r indirectly helpg new care givers too. In these 13yrs of filial piety n love, u hv bcm also a more attentv, undrstandg, listeng, observant individual. # u cd cnsidr a 2nd future career as a med socisl worker or sm career in health+patient care.

[@ledamaria1825]

Wonderful !

[@imdaniellim]

Thank you for watching, please help to spread the word and generate greater awareness of persons living with dementia and caregiving.

[@ghimie88]

Thank you for sharing this beautiful story and insight ❤

[@laylinglim6833]

加油！加油！Daniel 👏

[@sarayoung5281]

I’m also the sole caregiver for my dementia mom, I’ve been through all the struggles/soul searching & politics with the nursing home 🤧🤕

[@anytoh]

Jia you Daniel…. Daddy & mummy appreciate u .

[@168hugo]

This is a good video

[@imdaniellim]

Thank you for watching. Cute little dog you have there.

[@peterzing7483]

👍

[@imdaniellim]

Thanks for the thumbs up. Means a lot to the family. You acts of kindness and affirmation, a simple symbol that no words can describe. Thank you!

[@chopsticksforlegs]

Husband material right there!!

[@imdaniellim]

Thank you for watching and thanks for the compliment.

[@joanneng9145]

I really pity such families, reminder to all of us to not burden children in financial and health aspects if possible

[@crystalyi1759]

U also hv to learn fr tbe care gvr individuals hw to budget n b not shy in askg n learng abt budgetg eg. Biy panty/brief pampass for outg n cheaoer ones for home use frm tbe wholesalers.

[@deelitetab1994]

Daniel ,you are a special being. We are the Foundera of CaringWheels, it's a social enterprise offering respite solutions for primary carers of dementia folks, like yourself. Our founders are sole carers of dementia mums over 90 years of age.. Can pm me privately.

[@crystalyi1759]

U r the only child, previously 2 adults look aftr 1 child but now its the reverse, one income to look aftr 2 elderly. U need to join a care giver support group n pwrhaps gt relief help fr yr relatvs n cousins who r more undrstandg esp teir siblgs bcos as the dmt disease progresses, tey wl keep askg you the same questn n u wl gt fedup repeatg the same answer eg. Where is so&so? # When ur $ is tight

[@chanweiming5501]

Joojoo, watch this!

[@crystalyi1759]

Daniel, u must b christian n filial. Fr age 29 n carg for yr aged parents for 13y, u r now 42y u now knw who r true frens r fr yr care gvg grp. Evn siblgs, cousins n relatvs can also disappt n shun u when tey knw u hv a tight budget need. # yr mum csn still help u take care of yr dad. But eventuslly u may hv to gt a maid for them whilst u work or put tbe more difficult parent in a subsidised nursg hm for a 5d wkly brief respite for yr own sanity. Its incnvenient as wkend u gt to vsit that parent, bit no choice, u cant taje care of 2 old babies.

[@768jefiline7]

Only son policy.

[@crystalyi1759]

When yr dad forgets the words of the songs, then u knw his disease has bcm worse.

[@768jefiline7]

No need friends, my experience, only money make me stress. I am a dementia care giver for ten years and now how many years more for a post covid? I love money only I am cool.

[@crystalyi1759]

Best let yr dad wear a silver bracelet w yr hp n address in case yr dad wandrs out n dnt knw hw to go hm or dnt knw hw to ring hm. So hopefully the public cd help call u. # for yr mum, slso let her wear a silvr bracelet tbat the public can see. # i did a chain for my 80+ aunt to wear as she gt lost. But she wore a button up samfoo blouse n the lady police officr didnt know abt her chain worn inside.

[@crystalyi1759]

Daniel, smtmes when u feel deoressd, sad or lonely n no one undrstands yr frustratns n difficulties, go for a cheap weekday cinema movie like a comedy to laugh n release yr stress. # also u can go funland n play those hittg games to vent yr frustratns or play squash, hit the ball as tho that is ur enemy, to release the stress.

[@crystalyi1759]

For a man, u can still hgt marroed at 50yrs to a foreign bride, aftr yr parents r gone. But presently not advisable to fall in love or marry.

[@straitstimesonline]

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