Living With Dementia: Will You Ever Forget Me? | Can Ask Meh?

“Will you ever forget me?”
Imagine having your memory come and go every day. This is what persons living with dementia experience daily. Hear more about persons living with dementia and their caregivers on this episode of ‘Can Ask Meh?’.
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[@glenntan6746]

“Will you ever forget me?” That hit hard

[@laux0048]

Thank you for such a touching documentary.

[@mrmork600]

For me it got ruined by an ad right as he was starting to answer

[@skyla2258]

It got me bawling...

[@emmamacalinao5914]

Its painful really.when my mother inlaw started to forget things,at first i thought its just normal because of her age.she was 86 then, always her children are complaining because she is telling them they stole her things and started putting her kitchenwares in her room. Then one day she didnt recognized her daughter and she doesnt like to eat.so i decided to take her in my house and took care of her.everyday iwill ask her if she knows my name.i will not stop untill she can say it.its painful coz i loved her so.i want her not to forget me.she passed after 3 yrs of taking care of her. I missed her.

[@jjgal92]

This is a very difficult video to watch for children who's parents are about to enter the age range for where dementia is more common place. It gave me a huge check on reality

[@jerylll]

Lazada ad in the mid saved my tears from falling

[@FC-eh7ll]

💀

[@pooja350]

That one time ads were useful haha

[@SweetHeart-rq5hd]

Why im laugh at this comment, huhu

[@melissa19848]

I cried watching this. It cannot be an easy task

[@ziziedarla]

"I will hold his hand for as long as he wants to hold my hand" - this, made me cry so bad😭😭😭😭

[@muhainisalleh354]

My late grandma had dementia.. She could still remember me till the end. But at times, she could not remember my baby. But everytime my baby cried, she would come to me and nagged, whose baby is that crying? Maybe he is hungry. She will gave me $10 for me to buy rice and tell me to quickly go and buy food. That trait of her never changed. Always very caring towards other people.

[@emmamacalinao5914]

Yeah same with my mom even when she is dying with dementia she never forget to say i love very much to her children.whenever she hears a child crying, she will tell us to feed the child.always very caring up to the end.she took care of us 7 children alone.she was widowed at an early age of 38 ,and never got married again.we her children missed her so much.its been a year now.she loves to be cuddled and kissed.

[@emmamacalinao5914]

You.

[@Diana-bp5yg]

they are all so mature mentally,watching this makes u feel so emotional 😭

[@lukecsh]

Thank you @OGS for featuring our story! It was heartwarming to receive so many sincere well wishes. I hope we can make SG a more dementia-friendly community! Everyone can do your part =) Happy Friday!

[@chinottoisyum]

u r doing a great job Luke! Keep up ur spirit and love in taking care of ur mum.

[@OGS.Official]

Thank you ❤️

[@theharbinger123]

Thank you for sharing your story so bravely.

[@mrseeto]

stay strong! :) you are doing an amazing job.

[@beezlebub9]

May you have lots of blessing!

[@mohamedimranfarid4801]

Looks like more care is needed for Dementia patient's family members.

[@azharrabian8949]

Compare to other meaningless contents out there, this deserves more views.

[@eg1197]

This made me cried, I pray for strength, love, and light for all the caretakers. Thank you everyone for sharing.

[@shiryuusama6725]

7:33 To the cute young boy, if you are tired. Please, take a good rest of yourself in physical and mental. Being a caretaker isn't easy, voice out your tiredness to your family don't burden yourself to a state of depression 😘

[@IFFAHNURSARAHAZNI]

Watching this clips for me puts things into perspective. It allows me to realize that there are far bigger things than my problems. Can Ask Meh? Series allows me to see how other people live and what they have to deal with on a daily basis. Thanks for producing this kind of videos which has humbled me and has broadened my perspective in so many ways 💞

[@OGS.Official]

Thank you so much for the support. Means a lot to us! 🙏

[@stevenalec]

I so concur with your comment!❤

[@marieg2g]

The mother sings very well and can remember the lyrics. These are very touching. The children are very filial and the wife is so loving towards the husband. You can see all the 3 patients are very nice person through this interview. Be encouraged for those who take care of them. It is not easy.

[@jcy4506]

As a dementia carer, it actually more sad than this... Sometimes it's not only the memory but their health also will deteriorate...

[@lil__upz]

how does it work?

[@Yakumoki]

@@lil__upz It depends on the type of Dementia, dementia is just a general term to describe decline in brain function. In short the general 'dementia' you think of is called Alzheimer's and is caused by an increased protein in the brain that permanently damages the brain cells

[@amyleena6061]

My Grandpa is going through this. I spent the first 8 years of my life with my grandparents. I almost pass out when I came home after I finished my study, instead of giving me kisses... my Grandpa screamed for help when I hugged him. He was genuinely terrified that he pissed himself. After that incident, we took him to the doctor and he was diagnosed with dementia. My face was the first face he failed to recognise. My heart breaks every time I have to introduce myself to him whenever I visit him after work (every Friday). Yesterday, he asked me if I know me. So to everyone going through the same thing, I wish you strength and peace.

[@MaestroANC]

Patience, love and understanding is so important to care for dementia patients. Bless these people.

[@franceslam2570]

I am very very touch by the caregivers unconditional love, concern and patience. They deserve all the blessings from us.

[@gggallium]

Thank you for finally covering this OGS, my grandma has dementia and it deteriorated really quickly in a span of just a few years. She has lost her linguistic ability (reduced to only sound noises) and does not recognise any of us anymore. We still visit her every Sunday and bring her many soft toys for her to play with. I hope she is happy wherever her mind is, everyone around her loves her very much ❤️ It definitely requires a lot a lot of patience taking care of her especially to do simple tasks like eating and going to the toilet. She gets distracted easily so we needed to redirect her attention especially when she eats. Sometimes, she would also need encouragement for her to open her mouth in order to eat. She is also big in size so I am very grateful that our helper has the strength to push her up on her feet when she needs to go to the toilet. Shoutout to all caretakers taking care of people with dementia, the road is definitely not easy!💪🏻💪🏻

[@arabesque2222]

When i saw the title of the video i knew i would tear up when i watched it... and i did. My heart goes out to those who are suffering from dementia, and their caregivers. It must be tough on the caregivers, mentally and physically. The spouse and sons featured, you have shown true love and strength.

[@callista4990]

i didn't expect it as i have no experience with dementia patient irl. but i teared up like crazy here.

[@mysticwanderlust]

17:50 cried hearing “the power of touch transcends all spoken words” like my fam isnt a super touchy one so i don’t really feel the affection (asian parents’ tough love yknoww) but i find the saying so true cause a few years back one of my friends embraced me and i felt this overwhelming feeling i don’t even have words to describe but it’s just so so calming and makes me feel so much better so yeah hug your friends cuz you never know how it can impact someone :’)

[@Snowrella]

It's not easy for me to watch this till the end especially when asked "Will you forget me?". My mother has dementia for about 10years now. Slowly declining, but I think she may remember me whenever she looks at me and my sisters. Because of that twinkle in her eyes whenever she looks at us. 💜 Thank you for this feature 👍🏼👍🏼

[@OGS.Official]

Stay tuned for the extra cut that will be published this Saturday! ✨✨✨

[@shahrizal3656]

It no matter if any of your parents/partner has dementia. They are all is as equally precious as they are in the pink of health or not. Never take anything for granted. Love & care for them always. & i m in no way disregarding the caregivers & their love ones featured on this episode. Blessed their hearts.

[@stevenalec]

I am watching these videos from the US and I can honestly say that I don’t think I have found anything here that is so moving as these videos. I have cried and smiled and my heart has swelled. With all my heart I give you great thanks for putting these videos together and for all the people that have been so willing to share so deeply and so honestly. I will be sharing these with others. And I hope they will be seen worldwide. Thank you from the bottom of my heart! I am struggling with my own issues at the moment, and these videos have helped me so much! Again, thank you so much!

[@user-ce4ze4hr1u]

My grandma developed dementia after my grandpa passed away, it only got worse. I feel very sorry guilty that I didnt know how to care for her and that I would try to avoid her because idk what I should do around her. I wish she is doing fine.

[@LeBBVIP]

maybe just interact with her everyday maybe with a small convo and if ure awkward u could start a convo based on what's she doing or something that both of u had memories with? I have a grandma w dementia and I regretted not interacting with her before she passed bc til the end she couldn't remember or recognise everybody except for me. So I felt so guilty for neglecting her because I too felt awkward interacting with her but it's rly the small things that makes them happy. Take a small step at a time and it would not be awkward overtime! Patience is definitely important too :)

[@ec5127]

I hope you stay around her and although maybe she don't show it, she appreciate your presence around her. You don't have to do much or act a certain way but you being around her would give her enough strength to go on. Treasure her before it's too late.

[@babylion3263]

Don’t wish shes fine. Go check on her to make sure she’s fine. It doesn’t matter what u do around her, just checking in with her and being around her are what matters most.

[@ignatiusryd2031]

I know what you feel la. I hope you still can take care of her since i no longer can't, at least i'm very grateful the last memory that i can gave to her is make her very happy knowing i'm happily living my life in the same province where she get most of her best memories in her life.

[@dianmohd5174]

I experienced taking care of my late dad and mum...there so many moments of ups and downs...but no matter what it is worth every seconds ...we will never be able to repay them...blessings to all the caretaker and may all of yr parents be in the best of health❤

[@yimonthant2010]

Steven's wife is gorgeous. I can feel all their struggles (all 3 cases). I cried. Dementia at 60+ is v scary.

[@zyan3350]

So hard to not cry watching this 😢

[@bcpjw]

Even tho dementia patients become a shell of their former self, sometimes even nastier or irritable doesn’t mean they don’t deserves love and care like before when actually they need it more than before! Nice to know people who still will be there for them even when mentally the dementia persons are slowly but surly fading away. Remember Me I’ll be there All you need is love My heart will go on Not fade away I want to hold your hand

[@budakPancing]

Respect to All these caregivers. My wife was the primary caregiver to his dad for almost 15years until he passed at the age 86 due to terminal cancer almost a year ago. For family members of these primary caregivers, please support them as the job is very stressfull even though you don't see it. Give these primary caregivers breaks from time to time. Help them (caregivers) out in terms of time and effort by sharing the workload wherever possible. Focus should not only be on the Dementia sufferer but also on the primary caregiver. It will be difficult in the beginning to understand dementia but once you understand to be selfless and provide the best quality for them, it will be painless and meaningful.

[@eddiensw]

To all caregivers....may you find strength n comfort

[@alisonjean2852]

no it’s not tears ... my eyes r just sweating 😭😭😭😭

[@dyla380]

2:49 Uncle big brain moment

[@xktay]

Just wanna say good job to the guys behind this channel, really solid content

[@sweetvene]

My tears rolled down while watching this. Praying for families who have dementia.

[@rickapicka5043]

have to pause this video and soak up all of my tears, it's so hard not to cry over this video, pray for all caretaker in this video and out there, you're so strong and mature, i still have a long way to go

[@posum26]

This video made me cry and my prayers are with everyone featured in this video. May you be always be filled with the blessings of God and forever feel love and be safe.

[@BAn-mu4qe]

This is an international story. I'm American and it made me cry. God bless both the parents and the children. Both suffer.

[@virsaalya4769]

"papa, lets cross the world together because im scared to cross the road" this is so emotional, i cried hard.

[@omarmdkassim884]

This clip really brought tears to my eyes... used to care for my older folks but there wasn’t any support during my time so I can imagine the stress level that a care giver faced as I was there before..... good job guys, be there for them and my best wishes to the three families portrayed in this clip. God bless

[@unimenjayatextile1478]

My dad has dementia. He is 69 years old now. He just recognize my face as his son. Now he forget my name. But, i love him so much. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@hildalee3465]

so many moments i held back my tears

[@maureeng1180]

bee lay only responding with "i am happy" really got me

[@joylean1225]

The caregivers are very nurturing and supportive even as I the viewer can feel their stress and sadness as they fear the eventual slipping away of their loved one's personality and memories. Making life moments positive and prayers do help by generating good vibrations and give calmness and strength. I totally respect and admire the caregivers. Wishing the caregivers and their loved ones daily divine blessings and protection 🙏✨

[@annahweru8617]

I will learn to treasure my parents everyday now that they are healthy and even more later when they are unable to care for themselves... this is an eye opener for me

[@shadowflare2838]

I spent my early days with my grandfather and I love him deeply. I cannot imagine the pain that I would feel if he gets dementia. I only realised early last year how precious our time with our loved ones is. However I cannot visit him in malaysia due to the pandemic and I hope it will stop soon. Thank you OGS for making this video, I'm sure that after watching this video, there will be more people who realise that the time to cherish their moments with their loved ones is now.

[@theguardianangel3999]

Watching this making me tearing up. Especially when the caregiver start tearing up, its break my heart. May God bless you all abundantly.

[@natalyasafra]

1:48 reallyyy got me crying harddd

[@sfsexy]

My mom passed in March 2021 to dementia. She battled dementia for 20 years and watching my mom slowly deteriorated in front of my eyes was so hard. I can only remember the pre-dementia days of my mom and don’t want to remember what dementia has done to my mom and our family. I hope they can find a cure for dementia and I can relate to all these caregivers who are caring for anyone with this cruel illness.

[@lukepramudita]

I'm crying a lot watching this. Imagininh that someday in the future my mother might experience dementia, I would never be ready to be as strong as these caregivers. They just showing us how true love and unconditional love is. What an insightful content ❤️

[@cathyzhang6933]

I'm sobbing like crazy right now.

[@esteeinsweden]

This is a illness with no cure, but it can be prevented with supplements on early years. I am very forgetful already at 54 and I have been taking supplements daily like Omega-3 fatty acid, Vitamins B12Vitamin D, Coconut, turmeric curcumin. Hobby, relaxation and doing things we love can also help to slow down I heard. This story touches me, warm my heart watching how caring are this 3 caretakers. Thank you and greetings from Singaporean living in north Sweden.

[@88ETan]

This is so heartwarming yet so hard to watch, I can’t help but bawling up. It just hits differently, a reminder to all of us not to take each other for granted. Thank you for the quality content OGS team

[@adilalovedongho]

I almost cry watching this video while eating my late lunch at mall foodcourt😢🤧 I'm also scared if my parents had dementia at their old days

[@kiyo1412]

I cried after hearing him said "Will I forget u?" It was so painful that my grandpa doesn't remember me...

[@para321mt]

Lovely, natural, inspiring! If only there were more KZbin videos just like this unassuming and heartrending one! The three couples love their father/husband/mother without pretense or show. Just beautiful! Made my Christmas! Thank you!

[@thecattales2722]

thank you for this episode of "can ask meh?" definitely hits very close to home being a caregiver for my dad and I related to every single one of them especially Daniel since my dad is in the same state as his mum. its not an easy task but I believe that with patience and love it will make situations less tedious. agree with every single thing that everyone said where it really should be looked at from their perspective and you cannot blame them since dementia is only a condition that worsens. the most that we can do is try our best to make it bearable and retain or create new memories 🧡

[@iwalotoy6764]

Thank you for making this video and thank you to the participants. It wrecked me but it helped me to feel less lonely seeing other people walk this path.

[@sam5631]

next time need sadness warning, im listening to this at work and almost bawled omg

[@indik8661]

I have only recently discovered your Channel and have immediately fallen in love with it. Uploads like this one are so raw and real, it really puts me into prospective. The young gentleman is a token of his mother’s teachings and of his own character. What sweet, mature and courageous young man. He would have had to step into shoes he wasn’t quite ready to fill, yet he seems to take it in his stride. His mother will surely be forever great full for his presence. I always end up in absolute tears watching these videos, yet I am enlightened and over joyed to know there is so much love still alive in this world. Thank u guys!

[@alwintube99]

Thank you for sharing the dementia stories. I can relate as my late mum was suffering from dementia for more than 10 years before she passed on. The experiences you shared in this video will certainly help the care givers.

[@helloworld14045]

This brought me in tears. What a wonderful documentary. Thanks for realizing me.

[@natnutty]

not many things can make me tear up, but this. omg... great video as usual. had a hard time not balling my eyes out..

[@M_Y]

Will u ever forget me? Tat question really makes me emotional. I won't know how to respond if that happens to me, too 😭😭

[@roxyyaaa]

thank you so much for this series, i hope people can share OGS' hard work and spread all the meaningful messages in their content! your videos really shed light on the lives of people from different walks of life and also allowed me to humble myself and even change my perspective on certain aspects of my own life. THANK YOU and keep it up!!

[@b0tak707]

Thank you for creating such a meaningful video, it pulled me back to the ground to be grateful for what i have and also be thankful for all that my parents have done. Well done! You have a new fan for your creations! :)

[@julibeswick-valentine3690]

I had forgotten how hard it is to look after a parent with dementia or Alzeimers. I cared for my father because of Alzeimers for 9 years until he died 11 years ago. For the last 2 years he thought I was his mother, it broke my heart. He had become an orphan at 3 years old. It took me a few years to get my own life and health back but I really would do it again. I miss him so much.

[@narutofreak95]

So much love and respect to all caretakers ❤️ Thank you for sharing such vulnerable moments and thoughts with us. Thank you OGS for yet another wonderful and insightful video.

[@Nino0221]

Hug the people your love. You never know how much time you have with them.

[@krystalise]

Thank you for producing such meaningful content. This is such a touching and sad episode 😢

[@florencelim9061]

Well done 3 caregivers featured in this episode. So heartwarming & encouraging ❤

[@jaslinnah9574]

Thanks for the video! Salute all the caregivers!

[@ordinaryfaces7397]

This.This is what the world needs. Thank you GFS. Wld love to join u someday to impact the lives around us.

[@nadiabrook7871]

So UPLIFTING, yet HEARTBREAKING too!!!!

[@yangtzeling7468]

They are blessed to have each other.

[@WheeheeXDD]

Thank you for this upload. It brought memories back. Thank you :')

[@OGS.Official]

For more info about dementia in Singapore, visit www.aic.sg/body-mind/dementia-friendly-section or email your questions to [e-mail]. To find out more about latest news, services and resources, you may visit facebook.com/DementiaFriendlySingapore/

[@xksmdksmndjsj7408]

Thnkyou very much for the link n info.👍👍👍

[@Bolivia23]

Caregivers are so strong

[@puvananmogan8575]

Keep it coming guys.. Love the content!!! ❤️

[@clarrotXmen]

There’s something transient about the internet. This video will be immortalised regardless of our memories

[@rafflesstamford6118]

Such a wonderful KZbin channel. Best one in Singapore.

[@xzibitz8595]

Thank you for this video. It meant a lot. Thank you, sincerely.

[@lukeaw634]

sad but touching . my dad sometime for got about me too but i will keep loving him i too also have some medical problems

[@thewantedrush]

My dad had dementia. He felt lonely, especially during his last couple of years. You could see it in his eyes. My siblings and I didn't know he had it until he passed away. We didn't have any experience with it. Or knew anyone who was diagnosed with it. Looking back you could have tell and saw some sign. However, because of our parent divorce we were mostly with our mom. I just wish I had time with him and spent a little bit more time with him. I also wish he lived longer. So at least I would be there with him, and he wouldn't have to leave with tears in his eye. My heart goes out to people who have dementia and their love ones. I hope they get to spend the time they need with them. I'm also hopeful that doctors will find a way to heal it, fix it, or prevent it from getting worse. Sending all the love to the patent and their love ones❤❤❤.

[@168SG]

It makes me cry! Must learn to be more patient and show more love to our dearest!

[@nuramirah002]

It's not too late for me to say it watching this video makes me think if i can be this strong to overcome it and make my parents happy like now i feel so emotional when i think about it...

[@Nino0221]

It's so hard to imagine that the people you love the most can't remember you...

[@dd-yy4ie]

This content 10/10

[@illegaltender]

Thanks for making this video. It is comforting to know that I'm not alone on this.

[@cloudyday1617]

It helps a lot to join a Support group. Pls do, you are never, never alone.

[@y1521t21b5]

Very moving. Thank you for sharing.

[@simsgazytech2013]

I cried while watching this video. I MISS MY LATE GRANDPARENTS so much. I dreamt about them while I was fever during covid-19 quarantine. I took care of them while they were sick.

[@south5tarr]

Such a powerful video.

[@nnneux]

Love this kind of stories ... so heart warming ❤️

[@honeydhydra3925]

This is so touching.. I'm worried for my mom, who is in her late 60s. I can't bear the thoughts of her having dementia. My 20 yr old dog passed away recently, n 1 of the major factor towards his declining health was dementia too. 💔😢 I wish n hope all the 3 families have a happy n blissful life forever. 🙏🏻❤️

[@monicarai1497]

Thank you for this. It's easy to get caught in our own sorrows.

[@168SG]

It makes me cry! The strength of love!

[@felynntang6611]

It so hard to watch the whole video at one go!! I kept pausing to wipe my tears

[@sherinatan9779]

Thank you for this!

[@kpopstanheart2256]

Im crying all through the video