How adult relationships are transactional

[@Brenda_England]

I came across your channel through this video- case studies are incredibly valuable, and I'm eager to see more in the future! Building wealth involves establishing routines, like consistently setting aside funds at regular intervals for smart investments.

[@MartynBeardsley]

You're correct. I think the smartest way to go is to spread out your investments. By putting your money into different asset classes like bonds, real estate, and stocks from other countries, you can lower the risk if one part of the market goes bad.

[@JanaSublett]

That sounds like a good plan. In the past two years, working closely with a financial market specialist, I've built a six-figure diversified stock portfolio. Now, I aim to diversify even more this year.

[@ArthurDasche]

I'm a newbie talking about a financial market specialist, do you consider anyone worthy of recommendations? I have about 10Ok to test the waters now that large cap stocks are at a discount

[@Charles.Nicklow]

[@JasonSwain8]

Greetings from Monaco🇲🇨!! Does she offer mentorship tutorials?

[@johntu7484]

Relationships aren't just value scores; they're built on trust, empathy, and love.

[@peytonkocher]

I'm a freshman in college, and for better or for worse, I've already experienced a lot of these "transactional" interactions. It's so true that most people in adulthood just want something out of you. But eventually, I hope I can find my people to do and create what excites!

[@theloniuspoon]

dude i love your videos man, using quant thinking to evaluate all areas of lifestyle design is amazing analysis

[@tom23245]

All relationships are transactional. Even your parental relationships. The only difference is that the transaction is unspoken and even subconscious, which creates the illusion of "unconditional." The reality is that everything is conditional. Just like you wouldn't love your parents if they never fed, clothed, or cared for you, or if you took everything your parents gave you for granted and treated them poorly in return.

[@SoftlyDoesIt]

thank you for sharing these thoughts, my guy!

[@LitNomad]

You bet!

[@scentofink2952]

I have many friends but only regards 2 people as my best friends that I can be comfortable and let my guard down around. Met in university and would gather on the weekend to cook with each other. It's sad now that we graduated and have places we have to be, but once a year, when we gather, it's as if we are still in our university days. It's definitely possible to have non transactional relationship, but it starts with you be genuine and honest. All while having a decent personality.

[@dontdoitbro5495]

Nope even those are transactional. Transactional in the sense that you are giving each other a feeling of being non transactional. 😂😂😂😂

[@michael2920]

Appreciate you sharing your thought process, I mostly agree with you that adults play these games. But similar to children we only play games we like and/or with people we like. Adults are just more careless. I always remind myself not to take anything too seriously with strangers and never obligated to answer their questions, im always playful with it too. They play their games, I play mine. I usually reply to questions with questions. i.e. "What do you doing for a living?" "What do you think i do for a living?" Just have some fun 😂

[@captainphysix]

Precisely, couldn't have said it better.

[@essentialoilsme]

Excellent calculation and breakdown of HVM and HVW!

[@willgriner8965]

what do those stand for?

[@LitNomad]

@@willgriner8965 High Value Men and High Value Women. In hindsight, the “high” isn’t necessary because the equation is just calculating the score and doesn’t guarantee that the result is high lol.

[@Remixable100]

@@LitNomadso more like value of man/woman

[@Egoliftdaily]

That's so true, bro. It's exhausting. But it is what it is. I just focus on myself and my family nowadays. I'm tired of playing Status games for most part. In some cases, I intentionally tank their perception of my Status - I lean into it and make them think I am super low status so I can find friends who really like me simply for who I am and not for what value they think they can extract from me.

[@lamizor]

That singing analogy on point for status points Still following every vid man, i love them keep it up!

[@LM-tv2bo]

Work is where you see how things are super transactional. You quickly realize that most places/industries are far from meritocratic. People who are transactional usually succeed.

[@ThisIsntmyrealnameGoogle]

Honestly more like this, please! It's finally nice to see someone talking about how the world actually works instead of some "spiritual soul" feels-good stuff. Social proof and the "stamp of approval" is one of the biggest heuristics people use and no one likes to talk about it because they boil it down to "she doesn't like you for you". Also I love the "hoe math" style explaining lmaooo

[@EricTang-p2z]

Whether we like it or not... we are constantly judging and calculating things in our heads as to what is this or that. The difference is some people take it as opportunistic and some don't care.

[@NoOnyon]

Respect for the cold hard truth

[@5600hp]

Bro spitting truths

[@brybryBillions]

I’d say as women go from 20s to 30s, they shift their focus from looks to finding security in a partner (more money and status weights) because they’ve had more run ins and realize life is hard and may want to start a family with financial security.

[@LitNomad]

@@brybryBillions totally. The equation is a bit of a rough estimate and the weights definitely evolve as women age, and is also different for different women. Thinking more on it, I think looks is more like 60% not 70%. Because money and status do go a long way.

[@adama7752]

​@@LitNomadyeah, you need each weight as a function of time.

[@-whackd]

Yes old women with baggage and lots of ex's start looking for a man with money to use after banging a lot

[@Eden-jp4hy]

I was actually thinking how atractiveness (value) can be modelled with a regression. Just this week, funny how ideas float around. This might make you feel better, money can buy looks, you can have tons of operatios that actually improve looks if done right, including height.

[@thinkingcitizen]

I remember in 4th grade when my grandpa died and I shared that to a girl. Then all the kids both boys and girls wanted to console me and be my friend. I literally became the most popular kid for a few months because of a family tragedy 😆😆😆. Childhood friendships are truly the most pure. Btw I was the guy who commented on earlier video that I'm a recent Penn undergrad alum (DRL and Towne alum lol). I want to go from software engineering to quant. I have degree in theoretical science (think math or physics). After grad, I transitioned to writing software full-time but I want to understand what I could do to acquire a quant role in say 1 year's time (i.e. by Jan 2026). I loved subjects like PDEs and discrete math in college and still read textbooks (but more with a focus on mathematical programming than just proof). I'm currently considering between quant or med/chem AI . Both will probably require same amount of time to study and there's overlap. What would you recommend I should do (books, lectures, projects, leetcode, etc) in order to become well-prepared for interviews with say Jane Street or HRT ? I have 1 year. I also don't mind doing quant developer or infra for funds. I just want the least friction path to the industry. also do you do Patreon?

[@usujjwals]

i have been keen to it always, I made sure to not roam around with those individuals why always look for a gain. You can tell how they behave around you depending on situation.

[@Chewie374]

Thanks for the video. A whole different perspective. But that's reality. 😢

[@mattfagerness7152]

Just started following your vids a couple days back. Now you are Tacoma a couple blocks from my house. Bizarre. Love the content btw.

[@LitNomad]

@@mattfagerness7152 thanks! That Puget Sound University was nice. Very grateful that they let homeless people like me use their library 📚.

[@ugaladigala]

As a fellow HVM, i do want to point out that there is actually one thing that i value more than looks in a HVW, and that is virginity.

[@hoastbeef1202]

Nobody is on your side unless it benefits their side. No exceptions to this.

[@-whackd]

Depends what kind of event youre at. If you still go lake boating and wake surfing and camping and have brews on the lake all weekend people dont really talk that much job stuff. You sound like you meet some people quickly at a networking event in a city

[@konradw360]

The equations at 10:37 seem accurate should publish a paper.

[@BG-eh6be]

By the way bro, nice drawing of Goku You are talented 🔥

[@goldstandardaviation1667]

Painfully true

[@YDellamonica]

Holly shit! I was thinking about the very same, it is so cringe. Thank you for speaking it out loud

[@gn6905]

the most important question is can one trade the mental actively moving status timeseries

[@richnewyorker]

True, status games are crazy lol

[@Audiostoke1]

You got looks weighted too high and status to low. Take some from looks and put it into status. Your right about how people who don't have it but have accrued money quietly use money to buy it though.

[@ami156]

Bros edging the matrix

[@matten_zero]

@7:50 +1 for Goku drawing @22:47 exactly. Try being the stay at home dad and see how quickly that shit goes to hell.

[@BG-eh6be]

Strangely , when I meet people, I never ask them what they do for living, nor where they live, I could care less nor give a F I’m all about laughingc have fun when I engage with people I’m an unicorn 🤣😂 Also the friends of your friends are not necessarily your friends

[@adama7752]

It's because you're not trying to date them.

[@AdrianBennett-e9u]

I dont think so... Some of us just have this rude awakening that being shallow, oppourtunistic and objectifying women is actually adaptive. Maybe theres a good chunk of people who weigh looks 40-50 and add it to personality or it bears more weight over a short time while looks are immediately judged

[@N34R4T0M4T]

Damn you are right about the books, also right about the transactional thing, but it is not always like that, but you are right it def is is different as adults, but I also feel like we sometimes get stuck in our own heads and our own patterns about "do they only like me because of despite my social economical status" Soooometimes people just do not like you or like you for who you are haha. But as an adult it def is hard not to make those thoughts for sure.

[@beerkegaard]

100% agree

[@rishabhghosh155]

great content man!

[@BladeAurora]

why is the audio quality worse than usual? a lot of echo

[@matten_zero]

@7:50 +1 for Goku drawing

[@rogerh2694]

Nothing to be too bitter about as life is just that way and hopefully you eventually find your group. It happens when you just meet ppl out of the blue but if you find interest groups that fit your strength, things should be easier. This is a very logical and mathematical viewpoint btw which can sound depressing if you just think this way. It's also just psychological 😛

[@SK-mr6ov]

I’d say looks money and status are similar score correlations. Maybe looks alittle bit more but not .7 and .12 difference. For men Atleast

[@navihelfer]

Hey cool video! Can you do a video about your journey from engineering job to finance? How did u enter the industry and was there no entry barrier? Thanks and keep going with the good stuff!

[@MasculineMenace]

I noticed all of this this as soon as I graduated college, got my first job, and moved out on my own. In ever social setting no matter what - business conferences, clubs, even churches they size you up to see if you’ll be relevant to them or not. It’s all just a game of using each other and who can get the most out of you. I get that it’s the real world and our reality but it’s still fucked up to me.

[@ammanuelroberts5965]

keep making videos sharing your life philosophy.

[@LitNomad]

Ok cool. Next video is about why I don’t marry. You’ll enjoy it 😄

[@ammanuelroberts5965]

@ great, I like your communication style

[@LitNomad]

@@ammanuelroberts5965 thanks so much. In academia, I always learned best from examples, so I try to use examples. I do need to use less fillers: “umm” “like” “you know” but unlike most other KZbinrs who are reading a script, I am winging these talks so hopefully people understand that.

[@ammanuelroberts5965]

@ by the way you explain things, I can tell that you likely majored in math. Am I right?

[@LitNomad]

@@ammanuelroberts5965 I majored in EECS but only because it was a more practical major than pure math as far as landing high paying jobs. Math was definitely my main strength (and physics), so I chose DSP as my specialty within EECS because it was the most “mathy”.

[@withtgds]

05:00 nailed it, quantifying delusion. Hope people don't think that increasing their delusion is the answer.

[@dontdoitbro5495]

Hahaha this is great. Love u brom miving to washington in 3 months with my fanily of 6 and i love how u people think out there

[@FHS9966]

Hey bro, love your videos so far, and a subscriber. Gotta ask. What's the end goal here? Retire and figure out what's next? Do you feel lonely and un-grounded? What are your thoughts on building a family? From an outsider looking in, I do feel some emptiness, jadded, and pointlessness to the way you're living. I also face similar issues. Just asking the master for advice.

[@LitNomad]

Hey thanks so much! I’m currently retired and plan to slow travel the world over the next two years or so. I think fast travel is a whirlwind of taking selfies in front of famous monuments and it differs from slow travel which allows you to learn languages and cultures more and get to know locals better. After or during that, I will probably involve myself in some “fast lane” projects like startups and other moonshot type ventures that are exciting but may not necessarily pay off financially. Also, I’m enjoying building this YT channel, but it’s sort of a segue into being more creative in general. I want to get back into the arts and dabble in things like short film, drawing mangas, etc. I feel too busy to feel lonely so it’s hard to say, but I haven’t felt lonely in decades. This is probably a toxic attitude, but I live by a rule that if I ever feel lonely, I’m not being productive enough. Very David Goggins or Gary V lol. My next video I think will be called “why I’m not married” so I’ll answer your last question in one of my rambling monologues there haha. Overall, I live by the philosophy that if you want to be extraordinary, you have to be extra and not ordinary, so I don’t really use mainstream societies traditions as a benchmark for my life.

[@loewlouie]

generally agree overall but i think status might be way underweighted in the equation. unless in the cases of celebrities for example, .12 of their status score is just still super high. .12 for money sounds about right. ive seen rich programmers struggle to get dates. a dork with money is still a dork unfortunately

[@davidc4408]

Not always. I have work colleagues, investor colleagues and sports colleagues. Outisde of that i know good friends just to hang out - have a drink and discuss something, scuba dive with, etc there ia nothing I need or they need from each other than friendship and offer ofnsupport if needed. My respect is not based on a person education, net worth or achievements but on the ethics, morals and how they treat me. Its a reason why some people have a dog. A dog loves and dreams about the owner. The dog wants nothing more than loving him and be good to him. He will be the most loyal and protective person in your life.

[@Zeegoner]

I think the complication of that “…” you touch on, with intelligence, has to do with genetic/environmental influences. This may include entirely separate “interaction” variables but I like to just think of them as functions applied to the weights. Any population analysis will gloss over those things that everyone has: unique preferences. I like to think of them here as heaviside functions applied to each of the coefficients. They check if a favored property is present with any positive value, for that HVM. Checking if that property exists “in” the person may cause their looks to “inexplicably” jump from a 5 to a 7. For HVW that’s how it works for me for sure. I see many girls who people view as just above average that look close to stunning, to me, for some reason that I have seen otherwise for other people too. The extreme of this, is how I am genuinely put off from even getting to know certain particular “hot” types, though I am attracted to them. Goku’s particular positive attitude interacting with ethics, might trigger the heaviside, for those who have that genetic/environmental predilection!

[@heitor4144]

on point

[@DuyNguyen-i2i]

Can you train a deep neural network to find these coefficients?

[@money0436]

I agree all of your position except for 25:11. Some high score men only hang out with lower score men so they can control them. Also not all hot girls hang out with hot girls. They got ugly friends to make them stand out more. I also noticed Low score men these days dont actually look to hang out with high score men because its gonna make them feel depressed. Just my opinion.

[@LitNomad]

Yeah totally agree w you. There were a lot of broad generalizations made in this video with little coverage of edge cases of which there are many.

[@aviation11000]

One thing I've noticed since college is that people who are very attractive usually aren't funny at all or great conversationalists. That always made sense to me because when you are attractive, you dont have to spend time developing your personality or social skills in order to acquire new relationships as much someone else who isn't as attractive.

[@LitNomad]

Yup exactly.

[@AdrianBennett-e9u]

... Or attractive people don't want to humour/talk to you or relate less to you. Many people likely were unattractive but fixed it and have probably not traded up their personality to do things like lose a ton of weight and they just have that contrast but this point is a thing as well I guess.

[@BlessedTea555]

It’s more because they don’t have to be funny to make ppl laugh so they don’t get the feedback needed to learn

[@JibraelakaBigNatty]

Life..

[@rocketman99]

Coefficents sounds wrong

[@Hello-pl2qe]

This says a lot about your own social circles or perhaps the competitive nature of the people in your own environment, but it doesn't exactly hold true for everyone.

[@annunzarizzle]

Very true, difficult paradox though, because if you need to network to get a job and you don't want to do this because you do find it transactional/fake/cringe, then what do you do? You sort of have to no? The market kind of incentivizes this if you are not in a good position, even if you have done the work and have the creds.

[@LitNomad]

@@annunzarizzle yes, I hear you. Back at Penn, they’d have “networking events” when big banks visit campus, and I always found it cringe to go and introduce myself and chat them up when it’s obvious we are there to try to get a job from them. The energy was just weird. However, speaking as someone on the other side who was successful in quant trading for a while, I’d have friends of friend who would try to meet me and “network” with me to ask me to internal refer them to a job. I have found that if they offer to give you something first (treat you to a nice lunch to “talk shop”) I thought it was fair, transparent, and honorable. I think that’s the correct way to “network” with people for business reasons.

[@CR-rm4iy]

if you have loads of likes on tinder (as a young woman for example) you can try to network yourself into a job by going on dates with guys only from that field, that you already study and want to get into, but you actually need to date them, just talking for 2 evenings won't be enough. If you think that you gonna get a job because you just "talk" with someone at a gym... that's naïve. Many jobs do that recommend a friend scheme where they pay money for referrals (if the referral actually gets hired), YET(!) there is no market for referrals the way you have reddit market sign up for services $ bonus referrals. They're all afraid for their own reputation in case job referral won't work out.

[@JamesNMK]

Thats my quant

[@gnull]

i think you severely underestimate how devastating being unlikeable is

[@gnull]

although maybe you were strictly thinking about romantic relationships

[@gnull]

also a woman with a bad personality will literally ruin your entire life. you HAVE to weigh personal way way way higher

[@LitNomad]

Hi are you a women? If you are, just want to apologize to you and the other 3% of my subscribers that are women. This was a very male-centric take, and the biggest flaw in it is probably the HVW equation when viewed from the perspective of women scoring other women for friendship. I think the HVW equation is accurate for how men score women they want to date though. 1) the equations should be different between platonic and romantic 2) the equations should be different from men’s side and woman’s side. Men scoring other men vs women scoring men. Men scoring women vs women scoring women. Overall, I still stand by these equations as a very broad strokes way to capture the big picture though.

[@gnull]

Im actually a dude too - thinking about man/man friendships and LTR with woman. Like… having bpd but being 10/10 would come out to a score of 70? 70/100 and basically guaranteed to make your life hell?? haha, no way

[@gnull]

maybe an extra modifer for health is needed. like what if they were dying? maybe im being too nitpicky. i think your general idea is right though :)

[@matten_zero]

Too true

[@Dan-le3rb]

I think dating is definitely like this and transactional but I’m 25 and I still feel like being friends with guys is purely based on personality. Maybe if someone is extremely ugly it would make a difference though. I literally could not care less about what someone’s job is.

[@ferrisfilms77]

yes sadly but also it can be a good thing

[@thunders2020]

when are you coming to LA? let's meet up!

[@CR-rm4iy]

that must be one of the reasons why Asperger is over diagnosed in men. Due to weights from the equation being different than equation weights in case of women (especially for same gender social relationships) Many men think they have social skill issues/social anxiety/Asperger, where in reality it's low HVM score, which would then lead to depression. The equation btw - if you read psych/socio research papers - they literally use the same methods to think about those things.

[@PizzapartyJulian]

I think you think to much. "A person who thinks all the time has nothing to think about except thoughts. So, he loses touch with reality, and lives in a world of illusions. By thoughts, I mean specifically, chatter in the skull. Perpetual and compulsive repetition of words, of reckoning and calculating. I’m not saying that thinking is bad. Like everything else, it’s useful in moderation. A good servant but a bad master. And all so-called civilized peoples have increasingly become crazy and self-destructive because, through excessive thinking, they have lost touch with reality. That’s to say, we confuse signs, words, numbers, symbols, and ideas with the real world...." - Alan Watts

[@bigboss-qv7pe]

Alan watts is a lame

[@gina_julian]

As one of your 20 female subs, I wanted to say thank you for acknowledging that our value criteria suck. Do you think that the criteria will ever change over time as our culture changes? It seems like it’s baked into our genes.

[@LitNomad]

I believe feminism is attempting to socially engineer society with mixed success. For example, historically, men of all ages have always preferred young women (because our genes are seeking fertility above all else), and anonymous data proves this (OKC studies by Christian Rudder in Dataclysm). But there seems to be more societal shaming of “May-December” relationships now, and it works to suppress those male desires lest they be name called and shunned. Feminism seems to attempt to create equal symmetry between the genders when the genders aren’t symmetric in what they seek in the other. I suppose a similar parallel is how women love tall men. As a man, I don’t care for height as a factor in female attractiveness at all. Like Shakira and Kylie Minogue are both very short, but I think men find them hot nonetheless. So I projected that thinking on to women, and figured they liked male appearance as long as they had a hot face, but learned later in life that there is something within their genes that makes them really love height specifically in men. There is no “masculinist” movement attempting to shame women into dating men of closer to equal height as them, but even if there were, I don’t think it would work much, because it’s asking women to override their biology, and why should they? In that same way, I think men really just want pretty women, and almost nothing else moves the needle. This is why men will tolerate women will awful personalities as long as they’re hot. Feminism can continue to make films where the men are aroused by the woman’s competence, and maybe it will move the needle a little bit. So far, I don’t think it’s working that much. Like when I watch woke movies pushing feminism I just see it as propaganda and it doesn’t actually influence my thinking.

[@gina_julian]

@@LitNomad It seems that, over time, society has forced both genders into unnatural roles that go against our biological nature. Many years ago, you would’ve never heard a man say that his wife was his best friend. And yet, here we are, writing it into our marriage vows. Women also used to have babies when they were young teens, which is when our bodies are best equipped to handle the trauma of a pregnancy. Modern society now sees that as a felony. While there is a movement of angry feminists out there, please know that most of us are just trying to keep our heads above water financially. We also want to protect ourselves in the event that our partner should meet another (younger) woman with a higher score. It seems inevitable that we will eventually be discarded as we age, based on that sucky criteria.

[@sahilbakoru]

That was actually great video .

[@SuhBrody]

This doesn’t touch on how groups themselves have their own status level, and in my experience a high status male will be rejected from lower status groups. This is often why childhood friends don’t stay friends, and as someone advances in status trying to find a group, the dominant members outright reject or actively bar you because of how disruptive you will be to that group. This doesn’t mean you can’t assert yourself anyways, but if we’re abiding by social laws, this is inherently the most natural form of segregation, which in its largest form can be seen on a city map, as large ghettos, middle class, and upper class areas.

[@bigboss-qv7pe]

No one likes outliers unless they're the outlier themselves. If you're an outlier then learn to keep your mouth shut.

[@lennart862]

But how do these factors scale? Is 10 million 10x better than 1 million? Or is it some sort of log scale

[@LitNomad]

Do you mean in net worth. Yeah the problem is, if I make the variable inputs from 1-10 (so like a hot bartender is 10 in looks, 2 in money, 3 in status), it doesn’t scale well for the ultra wealthy. Like Jeff Bezos being 3 in looks, 10 in money and 10 in wealth will not do justice to his final score at all. So I think for people who surpass a net worth of 10M, there should be a new variable like “ultra_status” introduced, where it defaults to 0 coefficient for everyone below 10M. This new variable would have a huge weight to it for people above 10M. So there are flaws and exception cases to these equations to think about for sure. Was just meant to be a broad strokes thing to capture the idea.

[@therearenoshortcuts9868]

do you find that you are still forced to socialize with people randomly these days? I'm trying to take more deliberate approach where no one gets to meet me unless I have already filtered them ahead of time in some way (e.g. by environment etc). so I'm not wasting their time and they are not wasting mine (whether that's actually because I'm trying to do something transactional or I just want to avoid people who are snobs). I've found throughout my life these awkward conversations (where people try to 'figure out' your status or if they should be talking to you) only tends to come up if I'm a "tourist" of some kind or just randomly exploring around. Goes with the territory I guess.

[@LitNomad]

So there are many studies showing that people are getting more isolated in this increasingly digital world, so no, I’m not forced to socialize this way anymore. As I mentioned in the video, I would be forced to be social back when dating apps were only for weirdos and you had to know a lot of people to meet women.

[@d.m.6657]

HELLO? ... every man's dating profile needs to state one sentence along with your photos: " What do you bring to the table? (and no you are not the table) "

[@TradingInMarch]

bro crunching his numbers

[@neoreign]

Look at this world. What you expect? they've toughened up the noose.

[@jackchen5288]

In an ideal world, the highest weights would be the ones we can actually work on and are not largely determined at birth right? I understand nature and evolution has its own biological desires with regarding physical attractiveness, but like you mentioned in another video we should look at the delta between what they were given at the start to what they were able to achieve with it

[@LitNomad]

The highest weights for giving someone respect should definitely be determined that way imo. Unfortunately, there’s a difference between respecting someone, and being opportunistic about who you want around you to best position yourself for success. In the adult world, if you buddy up with very successful people, you get access to other successful people, who can get you jobs at their startups that have infinite capital injections from their ultra rich parents, etc. These are true stories in case you couldn’t tell haha. Thats for platonic, but for romantic, of course, our biology wants what it wants since we are animals. I really respect an unattractive woman who worked 3 jobs to take care of her parents who were sick, but it won’t make me want to sleep with them more. The world is an unfair place. So “value” in these equations differs from “respect” that I mentioned in that previous video. I’ve slept with plenty of women I don’t respect at all lol.

[@realjohnjones]

If you say life is going well on all parameters people will start to envy etc

[@constantinknab]

personality being 4% is just horrendously wrong

[@433mea4]

Using the equation, a 0.5/1 looks rich CEO has 0.35 + 0.12 + 0.12 + 0 + 0 = 0.59, while a 0.8/1 looks guy with no ethics, personality, and a little bit of money is equal. I feel like you need quadratic weighting or a different method, this concept is good though.

[@LitNomad]

Haha totally agree. The edge cases are clearly wrong for this equation. It is a very simplistic broad strokes equation for normal people. Like there’s no way Jeff Bezos has a score close to a middle class handsome guy. So yes, there needs to be consideration for those edge cases. You are right.

[@SuperMentalMicky]

Not everywhere is like this buddy, some small communities are for the group

[@I61void]

Small communities are more realistic with how they choose their partners because there aren’t many options to choose from. I’ve never seen a pua at work in a rural town, they are always in a largely populated area. Also exposure, being in a small community will give others more time to be around you. There are studies that show that just by being around someone for a while, exposure, you become slightly more attracted to them. It’s why people who are constantly looking at themselves in the mirror think they are beautiful when they are ugly cuz they have become used to that face, it’s something they can easily identify and be familiar with, their own face. They will begin to see beauty when others can’t.

[@Elizabeth-hv4po]

Time is a valuable asset why waste it with people who have nothing to offer

[@smoothrivers5553]

I'm mewing with my boys.

[@bitconnect]

bro you are so focussed on women it's crazy

[@weho_brian]

after high school and maybe college, there is no such thing as real friends. Only personal and business relationships

[@LitNomad]

@@weho_brian totally agree. Your inner circle of true friends has already solidified at that point.

[@Gerrad820]

Do you have a theory or equation why fertility rates in rich countries are so low?

[@DayTraderInsight]

Other than the obvious variables like acess to BC, which can have long-term effects, i would say that the prevalence of Insulin resistance is a major factor and no one wants to acknowledge it, at least not directly. Just spitballing though.

[@LitNomad]

I’d have to give it more thought, and it will be multi variate no matter what, but the question will be what the coefficients with the most weights are. I think feminism and decline in religiosity are likely the top two. Feminism is an untested social experiment and there are definitely unintended consequences to it. I have a LOT of opinions on this. Was debating whether to go into them on this channel or my manosphere channel.

[@087RR]

🔥🙏🏻

[@BoardCertified]

You remind me of the late Coach red pill

[@sul3y]

True that when they ask you personal questions they calculating how much respect they should give you

[@LitNomad]

Exactly.

[@ferrisfilms77]

yes but as a man with big dreams and knowing what the future will be in success and goals that I will reach along with what I have now and have already accomplished I like to show women my pair of 5's and see if they will still give me a chance before I let them know about the Ace's. I don't want a woman to show me respect merely off of comparing me with her previous men because I am not playing and have not been playing in the same arena therefore it's important they respect me for my character first.

[@rogerh2694]

Don't overthink it though. Shit sounds depressing LOL

[@michael2920]

Make them work for extracting from you, you're under no obligation to share anything haha

[@michael2920]

@pikiwiki simply reply to their questions with questions, but do it playfully. If you want someone to share/open up. They themselves must do so first

[@msb99-h9d]

This guy reminds me of Tech Lead to some extent and no it’s not just because they’re both Asian

[@Jay-yx2tj]

I love your videos...can you design a retirement portfolio for me?

[@ahb226]

Oh man, find some cooler people to hang out with! This is definitely true in some scenes but really not all.

[@jjcortex]

He makes some interesting observations about the transactional and game-like nature of relationships but in his process to quantify these aspects of life he does propose a troubling philosophy that seems to contain a lonely sort of cynicism. Most definitely less time spent himself and with more qualitative or divergent thinkers would add some balance to this philosophy, but I fear in his modelling such people have been assigned a low value status and are not a priority to interact with. Something to bear in mind is that econometrics will always be a simplified model of the real world, and are ultimately a sometimes-useful predictive tool. That is to say, just because relationships can be modelled as transactions to some effect does not mean they are ONLY transactional.

[@MST9525]

choosing not to reproduce. this world is gonna take another 1000 years to see some change

[@trsdesrn5246]

Could you provide the source of data mentioned in 15:05?

[@LitNomad]

I forgot where I read that. Maybe a white paper somewhere or Christian Rudder’s Dataclysm. The 70% looks thing was definitely true because when I took my survey amongst my 20 or 30 female friends (small sample space I know) and it matched the 60%-70% I remember being surprised how close it got to the data source I read about it. So that leaves 30% for everything else, and by observing the world around us, we know that money and status clearly matter more than “personality”. So we can deduce that personality is likely less than 15%. To be clear, this equation for “value” is sort of synonymous with “power”. Power to get the women you want, to be offered the jobs you want, etc. It is a little different from “respect” and “likability”. A more wholesome person would prioritize likability in a friend more than power. The video is basically saying when you’re an adult, and you meet new adults, they tend to already have their inner circle of real friends established, so they will rank you by this “value” metric to decide whether to involve themselves with you. Because this value can get them things they want in life. They don’t need another wholesome friend they have to remember a bday for, etc.

[@SalmonBroski]

There is no way looks count for 70% for High value man. Otherwise the person who has the most women will be fashion model, not billionaires.

[@LitNomad]

It’s a little more complicated than that, but I keep my videos simple so they’re fun. There is a subset of women who prioritize money over looks by a lot: gold diggers. So when you’re rich, you can tap into this pool of women and get some of the hottest ones. Miranda Kerr is an example of one such woman. Look up her involvement with Jho Low. The HVM equation I wrote is an attempt at a generalized form that takes the average coefficients across the USA, but the coefficients can be vastly different for subsets of the population (I mention this in the video). Models do get the most women. You don’t think Jeremy Meeks smashes whoever he wants? There is no substitute for raw physical attraction.

[@akshatrastogi9063]

F**k this world!

[@bigboss-qv7pe]

Im saying

[@PierSilver]

Yea no. This is not universal. It's not THAT bad in EU at least. Here, wages cannot range that much like in the US, so both partners are expected to work, and personal culture/literacy DOES have value. For example go to France (and I'm not from there) and you'll see that the vast majority of people will consider you kinda poorly if you have an expensive car, while you'll be better regarded if you are some form of artist that just get by. Will some people still like you for your money? Obviosuly, but that's exactly the mirror situation of someone liking you for your intelligence in Lit Nomand's theory (17:03). Even in the US, a better and more general model would be the one presented by hoe_math.

[@jjcortex]

Yeah his description might be better scoped to high COL US coastal cities, highly competitive industries and schools, etc.

[@-whackd]

He only goes to networking events or work functions because he is a coastal city azn workcel Think white Americans all gathering together in the lake in summer on their boats for wake surfing are talking jobs? People are just trying to find hot and cool people when out having fun.

[@isiddiqui5162]

Many truths but skewed to a avoidant attachment maximizer that may be sad lens. Just imo

[@nocapnobs7845]

Cool, lesson learned. If people ain't sht, I'll start treating them like sht. This video was basically the nail on the coffin.

[@orangeblue3531]

Your perceived value is also relative to the environment you're in. Like, say your ethnicity. Being an Asian man in a Western country has much lower value in terms of looks than if you were an Asian man in an Asian country.

[@LitNomad]

Absolutely. Might make a video on this topic.