Wow!!! I’ve been in Al Anon for 5 years and never heard that. Loving someone who’s an alcoholic is like mourning someone who’s still alive. Wow!!!! Sooooo true!!!
@catherine49082 жыл бұрын
when my dads drinking was at its worst, this is exactly what i told my mom. i said it felt like my dad died and i was watching this stranger live in his place.
@chrisd7593Ай бұрын
I understand that totally! Thank you so much my sister! ❤
@chrisd7593Ай бұрын
I was married to an alcoholic for many years and have a daughter. I understand feeling like that. Thank you for sharing ❤@@catherine4908
@marydonovan66813 жыл бұрын
I’ll be an Al-Anon member for 52 years March, 2021. Why am I in this so long since my alcoholic husband is now my ex? Because those 12 Steps is a guide for living and helps with every day life, not just for an alcoholic. My qualifier almost destroyed me, but I was determined that he wouldn’t win. For any newcomer, make a commitment to this fellowship, and a happier life is guaranteed.
@michaelm3587 ай бұрын
52 years. Wow. And I just had my very first meeting online, and I only heard about it yesterday. I was not expecting the group to be so enlightened
@ChargedWords2 жыл бұрын
Today I spent the entire day sober at my grandmothers funeral surrounded by my alcoholic mother, alcohol absuer step dad and sister. I was made to feel like I was the problem because I don't drink, as I dropped my sister off who was hammered I realised I have finally had enough of being made to feel bad for their problems. Going to my first local meeting this week. Thank you for taking the time to make this video. ❤️
@jenalgard16932 жыл бұрын
Good for you!!! How did your meetings go?
@saythankyou1113 күн бұрын
Good job….I need a new meeting I think, maybe codependency or something,☺️🇺🇸🕊
@Adorabellydancer3 жыл бұрын
expecting a normal relationship with an alcoholic is like going to the hardware store for bread. wish I heard that before...
@ThePeachyCat2 жыл бұрын
Sad but true
@Kevinreilly962 жыл бұрын
I'm a sober alcoholic and needed to hear this. Sometimes seeing this awful disease from a different perspective if eye opening. Thank you
@johnschlarbaum79262 жыл бұрын
🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼👏👏👏
@jenalgard16932 жыл бұрын
You're so welcome!!!
@catmom56225 ай бұрын
This sums up my feelings perfectly . My alcoholic husband is not the person I married. I'm grieving for the person I used to know. I'll share this with my Alanon group. Thank you for sharing !
@xlauriestarchildstudios77773 жыл бұрын
Its like living in a groundhog day loop of their funeral....i pray that God will help me find joy.xo
@kardoyle2 жыл бұрын
It always comes down to saving ourselves bec you’ll go down the tub right along with them !!
@4SaraMarie43 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your experience. My father recently relapsed after five years of sobriety and I feel bombarded by old traumatic memories. This relapse feels new and old all at the same time. I've just learned about al anon and I'm so ready to participate and grow.
@xlauriestarchildstudios77773 жыл бұрын
How are you ? What tools helped the most ?
@jocelynnowen30782 жыл бұрын
Relapse happens. Take care of you. This H.P. is real and sometimes I loose belief that if I’m not in charge everything will collapse. That’s a lie. It’s just my ego. After all somehow his drinking was ruined and believe that a power greater than you and I can turn away from the dark side of the force😀
@Mike-pr8hx3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for making this video. I've been suffering in silence for decades and need to get myself to a meeting. My sister is an alcoholic and I need to get help.
@michelangelope8302 жыл бұрын
I went to an Al-anon meeting to explain what is addiction and to confirm my theory that liars fool liars. Liars reject the truth. Victimism runs in families. Partners of addicts act out the role of martyr, believe the addict is a victim and want others to believe the same. The tragedy of addiction is children who revenge a childhood hurt, or trauma, against their parents becoming victims of themselves so as to conceal the hatred to hurt others.
@jeffkosmenko127 Жыл бұрын
My daughter after 30 years of recovery from alcohol and drugs still doesn’t speak to me despite my efforts but I am grateful for my life
@marioa5054 жыл бұрын
Al-Anon will help you learn how to live properly. Those of us affected by an alcoholic, directly or indirectly think that living "wrong" is okay or normal but it is not. Thanks Jen for your post. I have been attending meetings for almost two months and this is a lifetime commitment because I want to change my life for the best.
@Dave1833 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing, Jen. Me? 39 years in Alanon. never looked back- ofter the first meeting.
@jenalgard16932 жыл бұрын
Good for you!!!!!!!!!!!
@crestonhardcastle76313 жыл бұрын
As crestons wife I remember going to alanon. I loved it the people were wonderful. The women were so kind. I will never forget telling my dad you are an alcoholic my dad said I havent drink in years. He said i am not a homeless person . He said I never drank all the time. He had the personality manipulative controlling bossy telling people what he thought even if it was a bit rude. I dont recommend telling your parent that. It sure felt good at the time. Oh and another thing alcoholics are always right and they love denial even when they dont drink anymore. My dad stopped at 50 and never had another drink. He only stopped because the dr said this starting to cause blood pressure problems and its all about them thats another thing. They will try to make you feel guilty for saying no. They dont like the word no even after they stop drinking. I do miss my dad alot he was a very kind person as well and would help people he even tried so hard to help my first husband stop drinking but he didnt and he said its time let him go get a divorce hes just like my brother he cant stop hes too far gone. My dad knew when to help and when to stop helping he really liked him. My exhusband loved my dad was very hurt when he died his dad was an alcoholic and forced him to drink like an adult at 12. His step dad was very mean to him I never liked his step dad very disrespectful to his mom and to women in general very verbally abusive. I dont like his mom either anymore shes very manipulative she also grew up in an alcholic home and I dont understand she could stay with him when he abused her son Jason. Thankfully I am very happily married to my husband Creston and hes not a drinker thank goodness. Its a hard life.
@kardoyle2 жыл бұрын
Thank God you have someone not tied to alcohol finally ! Yay!
@amanda85352 ай бұрын
Thank you for this, it’s very helpful and I love your key takeaways. ACOA also, Mom just gave up 7 years sober, 5 of which we spent rebuilding our relationship after no contact for 3 years. I’ve spent 6 months trying and wishing for it to go away and back to where we were, sadly am now at a point of accepting this is where we are, and where she is intending to stay.
@jenalgard63452 ай бұрын
I’m sorry to hear that!! Definitely take care of yourself by going to Al Anon - can’t go to the hardware for bread!!
@user-fl1pf1rl8jАй бұрын
So so sorry
@angelbonlinemarketingsolut83225 жыл бұрын
Thanks Jen for sharing and being raw with the truth..which isn't easy to do! I am a daughter of an alcoholic and was married to an alcoholic for 16 years..my husband passed away 2 years ago tomorrow from alcoholism..I leaned on Jesus and still do as he comforts and heals me. I pray you to will find healing and comfort from all of your sorrows from the situation. God Bless You!
@jenalgard63454 жыл бұрын
AngelB Online Marketing Solutions god bless you as well! Thank you for watching and replying!
@kardoyle2 жыл бұрын
Jesus is it !!! I ask him constantly to help me - he never never lets me down …. 🙏🏻🙌🏼‼️💖
@jocelynnowen30782 жыл бұрын
Peace be with you
@martac40863 жыл бұрын
I cried a lot. I'm starting this week. Thank you so very much.
@jenalgard16932 жыл бұрын
HOw did it go??
@treevapeacock8463 жыл бұрын
This little David has been at the hardware store trying to buy bread . ...knowing how ludicrous that is!! But love isn't always logical.....Alanon helps retrieve LOGIC AND NORMALCY♡
@kardoyle2 жыл бұрын
Praise God ! No more hardware store errands for me !! 🥳
@HolidayHouzCollectiveАй бұрын
I’ve always felt like I’m grieving someone who is still alive. It’s rough. Thanks for sharing. Your relationship with your dad reminds me a lot of my mom. I’ve been debating on going to an AI ANON meeting for 2 months now. I think I will go
@voiceofmoderation98103 жыл бұрын
Q: How do you know if you're at an Al-Anon meeting? A: Someone spills their coffee, then everyone else gets up to clean it up.
@timothytreloggen91353 жыл бұрын
HAHAAH
@dnk45593 жыл бұрын
Hahaha! So true.
@mudchat44863 жыл бұрын
Or they hold themselves back with all they have as they know they are desperately working on their boundaries ;) . great comment.
@jocelynnowen30782 жыл бұрын
So this doctor went to an AA meeting and announced he had the cure to alcoholism. All you have to do is take 1 pill. Someone in the meeting asked,’What if I take 2?
@WingsTM5 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this video. It really helped me a lot and I’m really glad I saw it tonight
@jenalgard63454 жыл бұрын
WingsTM you’re welcome!!!
@meg836854 жыл бұрын
Your video made me tear up. Going to my first Alanon meeting tonight.
@weisabunny3 жыл бұрын
That’s amazing!!! I hope you were able to try a few meetings. They say try 6 before you decide. Now there are lots on zoom too 💜
@starwonder83242 жыл бұрын
"LEAD US NOT INTO TEMPTATION BUT DELIVER US FROM EVIL" ALCOHOL DRUGS ANY ADDICTIVE HURTFUL HABIT❤️🙏🏿❤️
@ryangallegos20924 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing your experience. It’s a heart breaking disease. It’s not easy to talk about. I’ve been going to meetings for awhile, and they have definitely helped. I still have a long road ahead of me, but serenity is near
@BLACKHEART99FLY3 жыл бұрын
Hi Jen, this was incredibly useful. I really thank God there is KZbin and that someone like you would provide insights of what Al Anon is, I am interested on joining and your video motivates me to give it a try :)
@jenalgard16932 жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful! Did you ever go to one?
@juannx983 жыл бұрын
Jen, I'm from Brazil and while I was watching your video I felt like getting hugged. Thank you! And also I feel happy by seeing that you got it and hope you keep moving.
@kardoyle2 жыл бұрын
I love that ! A hug !!! Yes me too ! 💥🙏🏻
@jocelynnowen30782 жыл бұрын
Ola
@ejarrett12134 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this!! My son is alcoholic and in rehab. I am grateful that he is getting help but I know it will be a long road for him. I am going to my first al-anon meeting this week. I am have started the process of taking care of myself and letting go of trying to control the outcome of his recovery. I love my son so much so this is hard and I know I need help coping. Hope you are doing well.
@jenalgard63454 жыл бұрын
ejarrett1213 that’s great for your journey. how was your first meeting?
@kardoyle2 жыл бұрын
I love my son so much too ! I guess in this lifetime my lesson is to LoVe myself more !
@soul.light.intuitive4 жыл бұрын
I attended Al Anon and many other self help groups for over 25 years. I share some tips, tools and guidance that I have learned through my personal path that have helped me. My passion is to help others along their path too. Keep up the great work I can assure you it honestly does get better!!!
@jenalgard63454 жыл бұрын
Catherine IV thank you :)
@soul.light.intuitive4 жыл бұрын
@@jenalgard6345 💜
@jocelynnowen30782 жыл бұрын
CHANT Macklemore 😀 nice to meet you
@WhatTheSeaWhispered2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much, I am coming to terms with someone very close being an alcoholic. I have felt for a long time, "this relationship feels like an addiction", and I am now realizing that it's because addiction was controlloing my loved one and thus the relationship. So much is clicking into place and it's overwhelming but relieving. I will be going to my first al-anon meeting asap.
@jenalgard16932 жыл бұрын
Overwhelming but relieving is a great way to put it! Did you go?
@lisabuscaglia18564 жыл бұрын
Going to first meeting this afternoon, per my therapists recommendation. My mom was an alcoholic my entire life (I'm 55). Mom passed of breast cancer at 54. Been married to alcoholic for 30 years. One of our 27 year old twin boys has stated he's an alcoholic & continues to drink (this is heartbreaking). I can't take all this & am emotionally numb as a daughter, wife & mom. This lifetime isn't meant to be for me.
@jenalgard63454 жыл бұрын
Lisa Buscaglia I am so glad you are going to get some fresh tools and perspective!
@dustymurdock96574 жыл бұрын
Lisa, similar. I’ve been toying with the idea of going to Al Anon for several months. I’ve been the child of an alcoholic for nearly 50 years and the wife of one for over 30 and now the mother of one. They are good and amazing people but I’m tired of it. I can’t fix them but maybe I can find some joy for myself.
@lisabuscaglia18564 жыл бұрын
@@dustymurdock9657 Ohh wow! So so many years of serving them all, definitely takes a toll. So hard to walk away. My 27 year old twin son's concern me now, more so than ever. One of them telling me/his alcoholic father that he know's he's an alcoholic. My other son is serving in the military & is currently in Germany (when he does drink it excessive). I didn't follow through with Al-Anon. Check out Irene Lyons on utube. She's opened my mind, in healing practices. Amazing, how you & I have such similarities.
@lisabuscaglia18564 жыл бұрын
@@jenalgard6345 Thank you🌻
@kardoyle2 жыл бұрын
Wow you guys are twins ! I have it on top (dad) to the side ( my now ex) other side (brother) and to the bottom ( son only child ) i get to have it all ! Thanking God is where I’m at in this now moment that I don’t have more ! It really is everywhere …. I guess God wouldn’t give me more than I can handle since He is in in charge anyways 💕🙏🏻💥✨
@juliehogg1272 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your experience, strength & hope. Al-Anon saved my life and made me a stronger person enjoying the simple things out of my life. I was married to an alcoholic for 23 years, the last 10 were the worst as the alcoholism increased and increased. I was introduced to Al-Anon at my husbands first treatment center. In order for me to stay happy, I have to be an active member in the group by providing service work. Loving someone who's an alcoholic is like mourning someone who's still alive but, a thousand times over. While I have found my personal peace, my ex husband is still active in his addiction.
@jenalgard16932 жыл бұрын
I'm so happy you've found YOUR peace!!
@kardoyle2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your encouragement ! It helps💕
@katiebrockpahler3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing ❤️. I went to my first al anon meeting last week. I also last my brother to this disease just last October. It’s a really rough journey.
@jenalgard16932 жыл бұрын
Sorry for your loss! How are you doing now?
@katiebrockpahler2 жыл бұрын
@@jenalgard1693 I have days of joy and days of great sadness. Grief is a journey ❤️
@leeannemccleary88624 жыл бұрын
Thanks Jen, I Started Alanon last week, 4 meetings in two weeks. I have a sponsor. I’m so encouraged. 💙
@jocelynnowen30782 жыл бұрын
Wtg. Another winner
@IsmaelBurgara5 жыл бұрын
That was amazing... going to my first meeting tomorrow... thank you
@lisabuscaglia18564 жыл бұрын
Going to my first this afternoon~
@jenalgard63454 жыл бұрын
Ismael Burgara how did it go?
@JD-ij1nm4 жыл бұрын
HOW DID IT GO?? IM GOING ON WED
@lauriemccrackenalsted97784 жыл бұрын
Hey, Jen, thank you for your heartfelt transparency and in sharing your solution. Al-Anon is THE place to receive love, support and the TOOLS for dealing with this cruel disease. Many, many, many hugs to you. May you continue to inspire those you come in contact with in spreading that message of hope! We really can be happy whether the alcoholic is drinking or not. Love, Laurie A
@jenalgard63454 жыл бұрын
Laurie McCracken Alsted thanks for this message I needed this reminder!!
@kardoyle2 жыл бұрын
Laurie … cruel indeed ! Your message gives me tremendous comfort 🤗✨
@kardoyle4 жыл бұрын
Your message was direct, clear, raw, real and extraordinarily helpful to me at this very moment . I am feeling so brutally hurt and devastated yet once again by this effed up addict who leads me on to think that he’s normal and then pulls the rug out from underneath me right at the moment when I need him the most !!!!!! my needs simply are not met and I keep getting tricked over and over and over. Its so pathetic. I liked what you said because its the truth - grieving someone who’s gone but who’s still physically there . Mind -f for sure.oh and yes my father was an alcoholic at an extreme level so I pick alchys for my partners likely because of my conditioning . Sheesh 😒
@jenalgard16932 жыл бұрын
Wow that's so true. How are you going? Did you go to a meeting?
@kardoyle2 жыл бұрын
@@jenalgard1693 thanks for asking …. I finally went NO contact!!! 3 months now and its so much healthier for me !! Self love is occurring !!! ☝🏻✨🙏🏻I never went to a meeting - I moved 99 miles away . Its very hard and I cry all the time bec I miss him but reading this comment I wrote from a year ago and how much pain I was in is just what I needed to hear . What a God shot to wake up to!! I just miss the fantasy of how I want to remember it . It was a brutal existence a year ago ✨🙌🏼🥹
@kardoyle2 жыл бұрын
@@jenalgard1693 I am new in this area and there are some meetings but not nearly as many as LA where there were literally thousands ! I will have to research this more and I'll let you know. I know I need more support ~~deep connections too . Isolating can only go on for so long before you hit a new different kind of bottom .
@LonjeMarie7 Жыл бұрын
I was just blessed to be able to tell young lady who is love ones dealing with alcoholism. She needs to go to these meetings to anyone reading this. You can have a full active, vibrant life. Please don’t lose hope there’s so much help and support reach out for it you’re not alone. Blessings.
@lifeasvocation15572 жыл бұрын
My heart goes out to you🙏 and to your dad and brother. I’ve been sober for a year and a half in the program. I also am beginning to get into some Al anon meetings as alcoholism and addiction is rife in my family. It feels good to be in recovery and on the spiritual journey. Growth feels good. That’s what I hear you saying here. Blessings to you and your family. 🙏🙏🙏
@jenalgard16932 жыл бұрын
Wow so proud for you!
@pamelamoreira19754 жыл бұрын
After an alcoholic father that I decided to take out of my life and now facing an ex boyfriend I finally decided to go to a meeting because it seems like nothing else work for me. I am to the point that I think I am crazy and this group is my only hope. After all research I have been doing this seems to be a good resource for help.
@weisabunny4 жыл бұрын
Pamela Moreira Al Anon is amazing!!! I’ve been going for 5 years. Amazing people. They told me to “keep coming back.” And kept saying to me “we love you. We’re going to love you until you can live yourself again.”
@pamelamoreira19754 жыл бұрын
weisabunny I went and I felt good about it. I will keep going I definitely think I can benefit from what they teach there. I am happy it helped you. Thank you for sharing your experience.
@stephenihammer78023 жыл бұрын
hey it's been a while since you've posted this comment, how have you been doing?
@pamelamoreira19753 жыл бұрын
stepheni hammer hey there :). Well, I have been through a few meetings! Short experience though. I am grateful I did it. After a few meetings I decided to cut contact with the addict 100%, I decided not to go to the meetings anymore and focus on my life and happiness and things I want to build. I have been good since then... emotionally too. I was super attached to that person and it was killing ( not his fault my fault). Now I am happy. Also, my alcoholic dad texted me last September my birthday and I answered with a word for the first time in years. Pretty good progress. I am happy and good here.
@pamelamoreira19753 жыл бұрын
stepheni hammer Thank you for asking! How are you?
@leahmergen505811 ай бұрын
I have been a member of alanon for 17 years. The program has given me so much strength and confidence which I never knew I had.
@debrac16883 жыл бұрын
I am sorry about your suffering. thank you for sharing. Please remember since you discussing Alanon, that Tradition Eleven: "our public relations policy..... we NEED ALWAYS MAINTAIN PERSONAL ANONYMITY
@courtneyhittle96483 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing Jen! I'm in a play about an AA meeting and this really helped me get a perspective on what it might be like for my character's family.
@ashleymills26322 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this video. I grew up the same way! Then continuously found the same man that had addiction issues and just cost so much pain. My hearts been reaching towards Al-Anon for sometime now and your video really help me so I thank you from the bottom of my heart
@jenalgard16932 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing!! Did you go to a meeting?
@xlauriestarchildstudios77773 жыл бұрын
" ..like going to the hardware store for bread." EPIC !
@diannedean390 Жыл бұрын
Thank you you've helped tremendously so many people I went to Al-Anon for thirty-some years and I can't tell you how much it's helped me in my life through not just the alcoholism but also with so many other things in life thank you for your love and caring of other people God bless you
@kazya74843 жыл бұрын
I'm going through all this right now. Its definitely the toughest situation life has handed me yet. I dont consume alcohol as I see what it can do to someone. I havent reached out to any groups. I often feel like there's nothing else I can do but sit and watch.
@jenalgard16932 жыл бұрын
Did you ever try an Al Anon meeting?
@kazya74842 жыл бұрын
@@jenalgard1693 I havent tried any groups yet. I hear they help alot. I'm not one go talk about family issues
@noelletardieu4757 Жыл бұрын
@@kazya7484 you can attend meetings and just listen. Talking and sharing are optional.
@Clint_the_Audio-Photo_Guy2 жыл бұрын
I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I want to give you a hug. I guess I'm lucky not having parents that drank, but I was the one who drank. I wasn't fall over, do stupid stuff drunk, but I always had a reason I could use a drink after work. I didn't go more than 6 days without a drink in 20 years. It didn't take much of an excuse to convince myself I needed one. In any case, my fitness goals are getting here as quickly as I'd like. I'm now 33 days sober and I'm not looking back. Best of luck to you.
@jenalgard16932 жыл бұрын
How are you doing now??
@Clint_the_Audio-Photo_Guy2 жыл бұрын
@@jenalgard1693 I think it's 110 days sober now? Haven't had a drop. Down 15 lbs this year, cycling a lot. Currently looking outside to see if I'm gonna get caught in the rain if I go on a ride. Going strong, thanks!
@xlauriestarchildstudios77773 жыл бұрын
WE ARE THE TRUTH TELLERS. Our JOB IS TO BE UNAFFECTED BY THE ENERGIES OF OTHERS. Tis a sad space at times. Right now i am trying to swim to the surface of my emotions. Only there can i get a glimpse of the bigger picture. And it is there, when internal balance is restored and I am in tune with HP that I find peace. This requires ruthlessly honest self awareness.
@lunalover236511 ай бұрын
Thank you for not taking this video down after 4 years! I am just starting my healing journey with numerous alcoholic family members. This helped ❤
@laurahodgson65314 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video Jen. Searching Al-Anon information as I realise i need some help in my relationship with my alcoholic boyfriend. I've always been suspicious of twelve step programs generally due to the spirituality aspect but I will give it a try and hopefully take what I need from the program
@jenalgard63454 жыл бұрын
Laura Hodgson I’m glad it helped! have you found a meeting yet?
@xlauriestarchildstudios77773 жыл бұрын
Being in a relationship with someone ACTIVE in their Flipped On Addiction switch is triickyaf. They have to come to know their triggers... Just as each of us has to know this about ourselves... Loving and constant attention given to the pain within... The pain within that is STEERING OUR LIFE. Emotions are like children, Kids,... You cant keep them in the trunk And you certainlly don't want to give them Steering Wheel Either.xo
@juda80543 жыл бұрын
So true.
@kardoyle2 жыл бұрын
WOW !!! Such great writing ! I love that !! My emotions were controlled by the whims of an random drinking habit of someone outside of me !!
@kimkenville88082 жыл бұрын
I just went to my first Al Anon meeting yesterday and watched this today... Yup, I keep trying to buy bread... thank you.
@jenalgard16932 жыл бұрын
You got this! How are you doing?
@kirstymaccallum70593 жыл бұрын
You've expressed some incredibly helpful and relevant truths. Thank you so much
@xlauriestarchildstudios77773 жыл бұрын
May we all be immersed in JOY !!!!
@soultosole89793 жыл бұрын
Where’s the poem?! I’m intrigued. Thank you for this. This resonates with me very much. 💜
@kristen58392 жыл бұрын
I'm so grateful I found this. Thank you
@Maria-jo6nn7 ай бұрын
Loved your share 😘thank you for sharing I am one of you too there others out there that are suffering in silence like i did so many years 😘
@patrickvega48934 жыл бұрын
Thank you Jen. I am sitting here waiting to go to my first Al-Anon meeting. We r waiting for my daughter to get out of detox now. Your video gives me some encouragement. Thanks again. Patrick.
@jenalgard63454 жыл бұрын
Patrick Vega how was your meeting and how is your daughter after detox?
@weisabunny4 жыл бұрын
Patrick Vega I hope you got to an Al Anon meeting. It’s an amazing place where people ‘get it’ like others can’t.
@artistjoliebarb30392 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your open honesty and humility 🙏
@xlauriestarchildstudios77773 жыл бұрын
I'm sorry you have known such despair. I am in this sacred space with You.xo
@gardenerkatecarter59112 жыл бұрын
You are so beautiful and your message is very empowering and welcome
@jenalgard16932 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!
@rorybyrne524 жыл бұрын
so sad, I can relate to all this, father an alcoholic. Nothing worked with mine either, eventually went no contact. Thanks for the video.
@jenalgard63454 жыл бұрын
Rory Byrne sometimes that’s what you have to do for your own health!
@shalisakelly35633 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this post. I am basically a single mother with 4 kids under the age of twelve. The things my husband has done and things my children have seen breaks my heart. We are at a point I can’t let him in our house. If we visit it must be somewhere else. But I’m stuck and overwhelmed. I know my kids love and need him, but we never know what form of him we are going to see. I don’t know if how much damage his episodes are doing to my children. And I just don’t know what the hell im doing here. I can’t get out to go to a meeting since I’m always with my kids. But I’d love some resources or any wisdom I can get my hands on. Please any advice , insight, resources ANYTHING. I could really use the help.
@kazya74843 жыл бұрын
Speaking from the child's perspective. We are scared to death too. But you are NOT alone.
@jenalgard16932 жыл бұрын
I'm so sorry for your stress and I hope you have found some help online.
@kardoyle2 жыл бұрын
Oooh this is hearbreaking … I am so glad you found some encouragement online . That is where I have found most of my deep inner strength connections -through the computer ! Who would have thought ! Keep going Momma ! There are many who are in your situation ! you are not alone - 💥🙏🏻✨💕
@chriscleary9314 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for your generous share. Family disease of alcoholism indeed. We don’t have alcoholism we have “near” alcoholism.
@mnewt7124 жыл бұрын
God bless you and your family. Thank you so much for sharing. 😊
@user-ob6tu6yz1i7 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing your story and words. Alanon has saved my life❤
@michelangelope8302 жыл бұрын
I went to an Al-anon meeting to explain what is addiction and to confirm my theory that liars fool liars. Liars reject the truth. Victimism runs in families. Partners of addicts act out the role of martyr, believe the addict is a victim and want others to believe the same. The tragedy of addiction is children who revenge a childhood hurt, or trauma, against their parents becoming victims of themselves so as to conceal the hatred to hurt others.
@Kerrviii Жыл бұрын
I’m an alcoholic and I have a toddler daughter. I have an 11 year old son. I really want to know how it affects kids bc I am scared of my kids living without me like I did with my mom. I’m so sorry for what you’ve been through. Thank you for sharing!!!❤❤❤
@jenalgard1693 Жыл бұрын
You 100% have what it takes to find your reason WHY you want to live your healthiest life
@cngelz8 ай бұрын
thank you for taking the time to make this video. i have a loved one who’s struggled with ongoing substance abuse. i think a group like this would be beneficial for me. i know you said that the group is more-so geared towards, the loved ones of alcoholics, but do you think the same principles apply to other drugs? are there groups like al anon, but for other substances??
@josephvoorhees14184 жыл бұрын
Thank you, keep living your best life!
@xlauriestarchildstudios77773 жыл бұрын
I suggest you watch the documentary called "Sensitive- Highly Sensitive People ". You can find it on a smart tv.
@Keiferboy19772 жыл бұрын
Where did you post your poem. I would love to read it. Your share was very enlightening. Thank you.
@jenalgard16932 жыл бұрын
You know what I never did post it, I will do that now!
@maar83143 жыл бұрын
Thank you for bravely sharing your story.
@lindafontanesi5017 ай бұрын
Thank you for this insightful video !
@brianp10c833 жыл бұрын
Forgiveness is the cure for what ails us.
@jocelynnowen30782 жыл бұрын
Thank you Jen. Great testimony. Keep writing sweetheart 😀
@rajwindershergill68563 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video. I needed this today.
@RobsFixitShop3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing your story!
@michasosnowski59183 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing Jen.
@iw9338 Жыл бұрын
Thanks very much for sharing 😊💜
@krystalhendry74453 жыл бұрын
Jen , Thank you for your video.
@lightofall2 жыл бұрын
God bless you. Much love
@liha8103 жыл бұрын
Thank You for Your bravery I n sharing !!
@susiepingleton36149 ай бұрын
I was raised with a functioning alcoholic father who was a loved dentist! He was a mean drunk. Mom died at 44. Now my daughter is an alcoholic ! I did Al-Anon for 30 years. I detach in love! Have to always remember my steps!
@susiepingleton36142 ай бұрын
@@fml5910 unbelievable!! Dad was a functioning alcoholic. Disease progresses! He had a booming practice! Everyone loved him! It ended when he was 60. Mom had died at 44. He remarried and 7 years later divorced him! He jumped off a bridge but did not die! In nursing home 23 years and died double amputee. Horrid disease and genetic too!
@artistjoliebarb30392 жыл бұрын
“ Grieving someone who is still alive “
@gturcott12 жыл бұрын
Esophagus rupturing is pretty common with alcoholics
@philipaltamore3312 жыл бұрын
i go to alinon my brother died of cirohsis of the liver from drinking at 60
@WingsTM5 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much
@mattwilliams22372 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing. I've only recently begun learning about my roller coaster. I'd be really interested in your poem if you're willing ot share.
@jenalgard16932 жыл бұрын
I will post that now, I had forgotten to post!
@CatWoman64 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much I needed this 🙏🏻🧡
@MISSBENC833 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this. 😭😭
@JacksonEglise-kr8mq Жыл бұрын
Thank you greatly for this video.
@mirafishman1264 жыл бұрын
Hey, this was super helpful. Thanks for posting it.
@jenalgard16934 жыл бұрын
awesome, so glad!
@EYEBALLKLOTT Жыл бұрын
The Fibonacci sequence!
@brendagardner64474 жыл бұрын
THANK U 4 SHARIN' UR STORY! JUST FOUND U. HAVE A HAPPY Y BLESSED DAY! 💖🦋🌹🐞😀🌟👒
@hippiechicksmomma27273 жыл бұрын
Inn Soo sorry. For your lossif your brother . So sorry. Abuse n lonlness
@Christine-nj3kl2 жыл бұрын
You are a great help thank you
@rauloti9500 Жыл бұрын
thank you,Iwill go
@hippiechicksmomma27273 жыл бұрын
Hjow to get to. My husband is alcohol I just can't handle anymore it's getting worse. He has a good heart but when drinking that's it. I'm trying to get a divorce
@supercookie335 Жыл бұрын
I want to go to a al-anon meeting but I’m really scared. I’m from a smaller town and I’m so afraid someone will recognize me. I am really scared and I’m afraid it will hinder my ability to go.