how am i supposed to pine and long in these conditions? | Voicenotes with Jordan Theresa S03Ep09

[@natterlie]

oh no breakups are so tough :( wishing you both all the best!!

[@margiefallon4400]

My breakup nearly killed me, I have the utmost sympathy for anyone who is going through one - I think it's one of the hardest things in life. I send you all the love, warmth and comfort ❤ You are special and deserve good things

[@buffoello]

when you said it shouldn't be possible for men/individuals to just be able to fork out money to be able to harass a girl/person who wasn't interested, i totally agreed. even in dating apps the rich can simply buy their way out of crimes (kind of a joke, but also not?)

[@amylewis6366]

My 4 year relationship just ended this week. We live together and have animals and it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do. The fact that you are up and making us a great podcast ep during your breakup is BEYOND inspiring. You are so strong and we are all in your corner queen ❤️❤️

[@medea__witchhh]

a podcast episode at dating as well

[@amyslimehouseedhardyparty6202]

honestly, celibacy is good for the soul! recharge your energy babyyy... i think everyone hops back into the dating pool way too fast. i mean, whatever works for each person but we need to normalise taking time out for yourself

[@isobel5563]

Breakups are so hard. Wishing you all the best Jordan. xx

[@soulrenes]

wake up honey jordan theresa uploaded ur new resident dinner youtube video

[@melowlw8638]

ive barely started listening, but the comments informed me of the breakup, im wishing u lots of rest n the best for whats to come!! i hope both of u go on to be in good places mentally 💫💫 also dont apologise for not being up for talking abt certain stuff!! its ur channel do what u want, either way most of us tune in n find the topics u choose interesting

[@hahaishereman]

I met my most recent ex at the chess club which, despite the fact that it didn’t work out, is a pretty good meet cute. We eventually both started running the club together while we were dating and he’s now the president. Didn’t work out because he’s an alcoholic but we are still very tight and play lots of chess together to this day :) Edit: should have added this, he’s an alcoholic but he’s also almost 100 days sober yayyyy

[@diamondcentury21]

that’s really cute! you lived a movie for a while 🥰

[@EzraSprouts]

Oh pal, sending all the parasocial support! It'd be really tricky to talk around, you've respected privacy and clarified non-naughtiness so it makes sense to sit your internet children down and explain (including to your senior internet children 😅). Wishing you all the best in your cute new flat ✨️

[@cecimn3977]

girl, i literally LOVE this podcast sm, Jordan feels like bestie fr, i kinda feel heartbroken by the news and i'm sending all my love to her and anyone going through a breakup (friendship breakups too cause those hurt as hard omg)

[@diamondcentury21]

obsessed with your hair and your new studio😍 im four months post break up and still not entirely over it, he broke up with me and we ended it pretty amicably however it was my first breakup and despite promising to stay friends now we’re not speaking at all and I’ve never been more confused in my life lol breakups are not fun so I feel ya girl

[@machinegirl03]

Just noting (because it's interesting) that "viral diseases" don't automatically lead to epidemics/pandemics as "viral" isn't a synonym for "fast-spreading", "widespread", "highly infectious", or anything like that. It just specifies that a particular disease is spread through viruses rather than bacteria. The difference is basically: Bacteria are single-celled living organisms that reproduce by cloning themselves (splitting into 2 bacteria identical to the original), while viruses are pieces of DNA (double-stranded) or RNA (similar to DNA, but single-stranded) that reproduce by hijacking cells in the host's body to create more viruses (using the original's genetic material). Bacterial diseases are treated with antibiotics, while viral diseases often can't be directly treated; instead, the symptoms are treated and the immune system has to fight off the virus. Sorry to hear about the breakup :/ I hope the heartache doesn't last too long. Much love

[@imogenarmstrong7836]

sending you love! heart break is vile. my favourite podcast on KZbin, I hope you are okay xx

[@ElizabethNonsuch]

I'm so glad I met my husband organically, in the wild - we met through friends of friends in a music venue when I was 28 - we've been together for 10 years and married for 5 this year. I did try online dating before we met, but being 'alternative' meant I really struggled to find like-minded people. I imagine that's changed quite a lot in 10 years... but I still hate the idea of dating apps and it all being based on strategically chosen photos. However, I am going to a wedding this year, and they did meet on Tinder. So, there are SOME success stories out there! x

[@ElizabethNonsuch]

Also to add, so sorry to hear about your breakup, breakups suck but they also open you up to better opportunities!! xx

[@emilybemmington4502]

Thank you for keeping me company while I clean my flat 🥰 hope you’re ok, breakups are rough and it’s even harder when there’s been no fall out

[@soularmars]

i think people forget that very rarely our things found in society are completely new. we used to have situationships, except it used to be called "it's complicated".

[@DaftBanana]

Glad you're talking about this, I hate online dating so much haha

[@em12bun]

i’m sorry to hear about your break up ! :(( i wanted to tell you i found this episode super interesting, i like podcasts in this style. i just like hearing your thoughts and opinions on stuff

[@Kezako-z5b]

First of all, sending you all the love and support for the breakup! I also feel this shift of the view on dating apps, even though as a lesbian i feel like people in my community use it more, as a way to connect because it's hard to just go up to people out there, except at queer events. I've personally tried but never got into it, I think it's just not for me. I agree with the paying for dating apps being an ick, and it reminded me of a funny story I thought I'd share: I was friends with this guy, and I had suspected for a while he liked me but I was waiting for him to actually admit it. (Context: I still thought I was bi back then). One day, I was talking about a girl I had a crush on, and he starts showing me the dating apps he's been using, and he shows me he has the Tinder Gold subscription. To this day, I still don't know whether he was trying to impress me with this, but it never worked.

[@justthecoolestdudeyo9446]

At about 14:50 you mention that the internet was smaller with fewer subcultures 10 years ago, and that internet experiences are more varied- that's nearly opposite the case! The internet was famously so diverse in terms of subcommunities and online spaces that there was a fear that there couldn't be a mainstream culture, that everything was niche. Things started really collating onto a few big social media websites as the 2010's went on, to the point that now is arguably the most monocultural the internet has been, with basically everyone using a small handful of websites.

[@justthecoolestdudeyo9446]

This is not at all the point you were making, but just a thought about how perceptions of the past internet have changed.

[@zeynepexists]

ur videos are my comfort zone, ily and wishing u strength. break ups r so hard, I still cry at times for mine, sending u love

[@dogwalk3]

3 weeks post break up here. i didn't even think about messy breakup vs cordial, but definitely in the gray zone of tapering out & finding right boundaries of what to discuss. feels weird. ♋️ season also think i'm not getting back on dating apps this time, especially after hearing stats of the state of the experience now (before listening to this episode). i've had 4 long term relationships from them & never been on them for like, longer than a month before meeting someone. maybe i'll see if they've declined as much as i hear, but the furthest thing from my mind in daily life presently. & looking forward to single time, no matter if i feel not the best presently.

[@huhhhh5508]

dating apps are actually hell. no doubt there are gems and successful relationships but it all of that has luck, timing, etc. but the men in it also feel like they have so many options. even i can admit as a girl - i feel that way sometimes too. it's too many options!!!!

[@julest.heworld]

56:35 i love when they say the name of the movie in the movie!

[@TylaStark]

Sending so much love omg break ups are literally the worst im so sorry to hear youre going through it 💚💚💚

[@sofiajordao2500]

I’m literally going through a breakup rn too, and you said exactly what I was feeling. Like it’s almost worse that we didn’t have a blowup fight bc we still love each other, so like that should be enough even when it wasn’t. I send you all the love! 🫶🫶

[@jasminmorley]

Me too!!! Somethings in the air lmao

[@sofiajordao2500]

@@jasminmorley that’s so real. It’s for the better tho. I wish you Luck on healing and moving on! 🫶

[@rahulnuthakki123]

Jordan, I'm so sorry about your breakup. You've been a source of entertainment, joy, introspection and lots of laughs to me, with your videos. I hope your heart heals soon, and I hope you're doing OK. Take care ❤

[@mai92225]

watching this while eating tysm queen

[@rokhayas]

i never reference a meme irl. it's only funny online with the right target because even online not all memes work on all platforms and audiences

[@lottiehunter3839]

Hey Jordan!! Great podcast episode:) when u we’re talking about dating apps being a public service and being provided by the government, I’m pretty sure it was recently reported that in Japan the Government is setting up dating apps to boost the national birth rate and you have to state your dating for marriage, all very dystopian lol

[@susyycarlyle]

sending you lots of love xx i always look forward to your podcasts

[@tuesdaywithjisoo8395]

Girlie so sorry to hear about your breakup, things will get better, this is just a fleeting moment in the grand scheme of life.

[@abbylax1984]

I love your new background! Feels more cozy!

[@lethok4084]

sending you so much love girlie!!

[@gingerbea]

had covid all week and was running out of emotional support content, so thank youuu uuuu god bless voicenotes

[@Princessm2025]

Awww sending you love and healing during this process 🫶🏽❤️

[@paul4archery]

Oh darl, you’re in our thoughts and prayers! Sending the maximum amount of non-creepy love possible! Xx💕

[@chuucake]

so so early for your podcast! i love you so much, Jordan ♡

[@ClaireCraig]

just want to say I feel for you, especially with a live-in relationship. sooo much harder than when you lived apart!!

[@Laura-fd7ej]

The comments are so wild, because i am literally going through a breakup right now as well - i also had to sleep in different places for the last few weeks! It's so weird to read all of these comments of ppl going through or having gone through the same

[@TylaStark]

Your new studio is so so cute!

[@charlottewillis5653]

Breakups are so rough, especially when you've been living with the person. Sending hugs

[@ririjinyourself_5337]

i’m so super happy that you have this space all for yourself that feels like a SAFE SPACE! it immediately reminded me to finally read “A Room of One’s Own” by Virginia Woolf. for those who don’t know, it’s a feminist text about how a woman (writer in this case) needs a room or a space all to herself… anyway it’s super inspiring to see you achieve this and build a space for yourself…i would love to have a studio of my own someday 💞💞 i hope you will have lots of rest and healing soon, and i wish you all the strength and the patience to get through this breakup🫂🫂 remember, healing isn’t linear and no one is perfect. 💞🧿 also, i’m super happy to see you maintaining boundaries with us and not sharing anything that doesn’t feel right to share. i hope you know you don’t owe us anything that feels too heavy to share 🥹🥹♥️♥️ Love ya Jordan xx

[@gracea8366]

thank you for the reminder to read A Room of One's Own! Virginia Woolf is such an inspirational thinker in this matter

[@sleepyghostgirl]

that book was one of my most disappointing reads of all time lol 😪

[@hopelser]

loved this episode, i hope you’re feeling better jordan we’re all here for you

[@miaadelizi4714]

Sorry to hear you are going through a break up, I am too, two months out after a two year relationship. You will make it through

[@dre_yeah8057]

I broke up with a partner. Its almost been 2 months and we had a lot of interesting dynamics throughout our 5 years. I met him while I was in my last year of high school and listening to you talk about situationships and being exclusive versus being able to call someone your partner/(gender)friend. Has made me realize I need an hour long course from you about dynamics. Looking forward to your episode and hopefully gaining more insight!!!

[@plamedi893]

just in time for my evening Hill Climb Racing session

[@happynealltdpolly]

yeah after tough situationship break up (lol) i was celibate for a year and it was a blessing for me

[@cafecafe12345]

hope you feel better jordan. don't feel any pressure to upload a lot of content or anything

[@drayamaria]

I’m a long time JT watcher.. WHY HAVE I ONLY JUST FOUND THE PODCAST !?? Love love loveeeee

[@melowlw8638]

@@drayamaria omfg have fun listening to all of thoseeee jordan's videos make me feel like im talking with a friend but the podcasts kick that vibe up a notch its so so nice to listen to them

[@kristianposada6735]

i had never paid for a dating app and i saw my now bf on hinge but they had him behind a pay wall to like and i was like I NEED THIS MAN and now we are talking about him proposing 😭😭😭 it was embarrassing to admit but he found it endearing. it was an ick to me before i did it and i am STILL embarrassed abt it

[@the_fynethyme]

Don't be embarrassed, they kept the most compatible person behind a paywall on purpose to make you pay for the service which makes sense from a money perspective (annoying but makes sense)!

[@faithoakes4189]

sending love this ep was so real lol

[@isaac-nk7jf]

46:30 is a gold moment, I died

[@olivia4162]

yesss my fave podcast girly is back at it again!!

[@madieckert2321]

Ur vid is the best July 4th gift to us in the states 🤞🏽

[@evvme]

i think one of the issues with dating apps is that they feed into the myth that everyone will have an immediate romantic connection with someone. when people start messaging, if they don’t feel a spark straight away then they give up and ghost. there is no way to develop relationships and build connections. this can be especially difficult if you’re introverted, bad at replying to messages etc. i met my partner on hinge and i think one of the reasons it was successful is because my profile clearly stated i was on there to make friends, so there wasn’t that immediate pressure when beginning to talk to each other. this also made it possible to develop a crush on each other and yearn!

[@opinionatednobody5631]

need the episode on situationship soooo bad

[@ianthe.w]

sending so much love to u !!!

[@Yellowducky665]

Sending love and healing girl 🩷💕💞 breakups suck ESPECIALLY when it just doesn’t work out and u still love each other 🥲 deeply felt

[@Merlinlolol]

It’s so sad to hear you’ve broken up but we know it’s probably for the best!!

[@caitlingracekirby]

sending you so much love your pod and channel are my favs!

[@caterpilllllar]

the government dating app thing is actually happening in japan 😭😭 wild

[@charlichats]

sending so much love ❤

[@Olc2906]

Sending you so much love ❤️❤️❤️

[@freckledbunny5718]

much love from australia xx

[@LemonSte]

that red is so incredible on you!

[@kippie2414]

most men swipe right on everyone and then divide their matches to "good/bad quality matches"

[@anon9067]

so sorry to hear about your breakup :( wishing you all the peace and space you need to heal and protect your energy! edit: i feel the same way about the inventors of investment properties

[@dori.keeps.swimming3148]

You're amazing and you're podcasts have been so helpful and informative, I LUV U SM!!💖✨

[@ohwelljamie]

omg the 2024 Jordan Theresa 6 Month Stint @ Celibacy Inc. has begun!

[@molliemcmullon]

Sending love ❤ loved this episode!

[@georgiaobrien2977]

congrats on the new studio + sending u so much love 💙💙💙 sucks so much but there are great things coming for u in the future...i too love a celibacy period 💋

[@Kat_Treasure]

was on tinder for one week when i was 19 and it was not good. matched with a man named Horse Man who was wearing a plastic horse mask tho so that was nice. hope you’re ok xx

[@rebecca-9083]

what on earth 😵‍💫

[@Kat_Treasure]

@@rebecca-9083 honestly one of the better matches

[@byunbaekhyun4010]

Hmmmm being so icked out by someone paying for a dating app just because from the get go, is so incredibly judgemental, without even knowing what they're paying for. Was kinda shocked about that. I do think you're so right about how tinder uses the money for awful reasons, like being able to hound someone who very clearly isn't interested in you. That said, there a lot of things that dating apps can offer that would make paying for their service worth it.

[@dulcegonzalez6072]

Te amo q te vaya muy bien en tu proceso SENDING HUUUGS 🫶🫶💖💖💓💓💖

[@melissabelissa]

I'm also going through a break up rn it's fuckin brutallllll. sending u lots of love!!!!! also I met my most recent bf through a dating app although it started as a V casual thing which then turned into flirty banter when he moved away to a long distance relationship lmao.... anyway as much as I hate dating apps I have found success with them in the past 🤷

[@miranda8057]

i hope you're ok

[@isabelalexander6381]

SITUATIONSHIP EP yes plz

[@bushra2179]

Coco Mellers was the first book signing I went to. I think I choked when she said the chipmunk story in Cleopatra and Frankenstein actually happened

[@pumpkincat3291]

“I actually have really good vision and I don’t need glasses so I think we should be trusting my vision more than anyone’s.” Queen behaviour, can’t find a hole in this argument tbh mhmm mhmm 🙂‍↕️

[@yasminmaley2237]

Your new book sounds good!!

[@shesthunderstormsx]

ugh I’m also going through a breakup (it’s been four months already but it’s being so tough)…heartbreak sucks specially when you don’t have a terrible reason to lead to the breakup, just life circumstances or lack of reciprocity (both were my case). Anyways this video came in the best time bc I’ve been thinking these days about getting on the apps haha I’ve never done it before but I might give it a try just for fun

[@cal6137]

ive also been thinking about the 'last chopper out of nam' thing even though I'm a gen z 😔. There is this weird thing on the internet though where people make fun of you for not leaving your hometown and dating in that community...but due to COVID I ended up back in my hometown and started dating someone who also went to my k-12 school (but we didn't talk, though his brother was in my grade, and he was on my brother's sports teams when we were kids). Like I get the 'never gets out of high school' mindset but I think a lot of people online are just. negative. lol. I shouldn't care so much what strangers think, maybe

[@isthatachicken]

13:50 thank you

[@tinyt363]

I’m not sure I agree with being Tinder being universally accepted as a hook up app. I once met with a guy at his, had sex, and the next day when I said I had a nice time and would like to see him again, he said well we met on Tinder so he “assumed it was just a one time thing.” I didn’t wanna be his gf but I would have seen him again casually. Man it hurt. Because I wasn’t on the app just to hook up. I was trying to find someone. I don’t think it’s fair to assume everyone’s intentions for being on the app.

[@puffpuffjess]

omg wait let me tell the story about how me and my partner met bc we met at work and it WAS tea lmao we were both working at target, i started a few months after him and we were both dating other people at the time. if i went into the store on a day off with my then bf i would run and hide so he wouldn't see me lol i used to say i was scared of him but now i realize i was trying really hard to deny having feelings for him by just avoiding him and keeping my distance haha we would always flirt and find ways to be near each other at coworker parties so once i became single, it was just me waiting around for him to be too lmao feels like we made the right move tho bc it'll be 10 years this october

[@theguy_222]

no bc when u were describing why ur armpit was purple, tell me why the exact same thing happened to me a few wks back but w a black shoulder shrug. I wore it out on a bike ride and I think the sweat made the dye bleed .HORRIBLE lmao

[@Motley14]

I just want to say thank you for your rant about the word "viral" lol. I watch a lot of beauty youtube and I'm SO TIRED of every makeup video titled "Trying these NEW VIRAL products!!!" Like babes the product launched today how is it viral? And also if every makeup youtuber does a "what's launching soon" video and they all talk about the same products launching that doesn't mean it's viral??? The word has no meaning anymore. And as a side note about screenshotting dating profiles -- there's a certain brand of snarky gay men who are very prevalent on Twitter who screenshot private DMs on gay dating apps and share them to make demeaning comments about the people they're chatting with and it is so tacky to me. God forbid if I'm ever single again it makes me not want to use the apps because some narcisisstic gay man on the other end could be posting our private conversations to twitter for fake internet clout. Like, have some class please.

[@WonderlandAlicexo]

Hope you're doing okay 💖 welcome to the bi girl club 💜💙🩷

[@katemcmahon4056]

Mick stand❤️😘😊✌️🙈🙈🙈🙈 47:38

[@alexistries7853]

💗💗💗

[@maxine9321]

left my toxic man like 3 days ago losing my mind 😝

[@christinatooley3307]

I know that you probably won't talk about it. But I hope boots is okay and isn't too confused in all this

[@twilightsparkle6951]

Heya jordan, dunno if you're watching love island this year but I'd love if you'd break down the girls this year kinda like you did the male contestants. I've noticed this year (similar to last years winter season and summer 2022) that the girls don't really ever have that strong friendships > where the guys be quite amicable? There's just so much cattiness and even the so-called nice girls actually end up being quite rude/ mean in real life/ secretly. Like Mathilda this year having a go at the casa girls for no reason and idk if you heard but paige thorne in 2022 season (and the 4/10 coco situation). Then there's people like Olivia in winter 2023 and Jess this year > who were always a lil problematic. But I'll never get why some people (islanders) are so mean to the casa girls, EVERY year > especially when it's female islanders, cuz it's like, they didn't even do anything wrong > like go check your man before you speak to them. Idk where the attitude comes from, is it misogyny, is it just general nastiness, is it pick me behaviour due to low-self-esteem.

[@samanthalacerda5362]

baby, i love u so so much! kisses from brazil 🇧🇷🧚🏻‍♀️✨️💞

[@taliacastelli6151]

Are we all going through breakups right now??

[@ts13-tg21]

❤

[@bzztthundaa]

💘💘💘

[@firewind3509]

Wait did you take your ex ex from his girlfriend? 😅