How an empath could DESTROY a narcissist

[@MentalHealness]

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[@CM-hi4db]

8:40, doesnt everyone want to be seen as a great person??

[@DIVIN3H6GHERBEIN9]

I love them, love for them to leave me alone!!!!! #IWENTNOCONTACT🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@VXLAMIA]

If they were right in the head, narcissists would realize that they would get a lifetime supply if they just treated an empath right.

[@MentalHealness]

🙏🏽

[@gagamonster1049]

Then they wouldn't be narcs 🥲

[@springfauna1465]

​@@gagamonster1049 Took the words right out of my mouth!!! 😅

[@cthnc53]

They never get it

[@Z-gg3fc]

@@VXLAMIA wow this is what I just told this narcissist. They just can’t be decent people. I am empathetic and these narcissists are insane. He even told me he has some narcissistic behavior because of his ex gf was one. She made him like this blah blah, I had to block him no way out. Still messing with me. Oh the mind games are sickening.

[@Divinely_Guided444]

When you hear about its a spiritual war for your soul, well, that couldn't be more true than dealing with a narcissist.

[@MentalHealness]

🙏

[@teegibson23]

100% true!

[@MPachent]

Anyone whose been through it, knows it, but an EMPATH appreciates it once the EMPATH gets the #GAME .. once that EMPATH wakes up, it’s absolutely a problem for the NARC & I mean that! .. to that EMPATH it’s DEFINITELY a #SpiritualBattle

[@renae9199]

@Divinely_Guided444 definitely been feeling like I'm being spiritually attacked

[@johnyevo6575]

Pretty sure I know exactly what you mean and you're quite right, though that sentence structure is actually bonkers

[@bettycarmella1127]

The only way to win with a narcissist is not to play🙏🏽

[@MentalHealness]

🙏

[@thebeamli]

This so true.

[@ajr7940]

Valuable piece of wisdom. Absolutely 100% true

[@DavisMultiverse]

Literally, considering it doesnt matter if they get a good or bad reaction. At the heart is a sense of inportance. Anything which makes them seem significant is supplying them. If they get hated they will twist it into they are the victim, and that's still a form of supply

[@mortischahicks5341]

I EXPOSED MY EX AND WENT NO CONTACT OVER 200 DAYS AGO. LEAVE THESE CRAZY EVIL PEOPLE. AND KEEP IT MOVING!

[@MentalHealness]

Stay safe

[@teegibson23]

@mortischahicks5341 Yes yes yes...So happy for you...

[@4LuvThySelf]

I did the same thing. I ghosted my ex like a vanishing act. He did not see it coming and my peace is beautiful. I will never engage another human being that is a narc. Good riddens for those personalities.

[@gma729]

I DID THE SAME DAM THING !!! " YOUR NOT A BRAT !!! YOUR A MALIGNANT NARCISSIST, AND YOU HAVE SOUL IS FILLED W PURE. MALEVOLENCE

[@pkp6791]

The most dangerous thing for a narcissist is an empath who is totally aware of this dynamic and aware of the power of their empathy. A narcissist is no match for and can be completely destroyed by an aware empath. The worst thing that can happen is to purposefully douse a narcissist with empathy and then completely , suddenly shut it off (with no explanation, contact, etc) and totally act like they do not exist on any level== all while allowing them to see that you still give it to others in full force. Don't discuss it with anyone, as it may get back to the narc and validate them in some way. Just suddenly pretend like the narc is dead. This is one of the worst punishments for a narc. Ive done this and the results are astoundingly gratifying.

[@MentalHealness]

🙌🏾

[@edenrebelrose]

@@pkp6791 I'm one of them + dark enough to enjoy it 🤭

[@JoshuaAnzalone-zk5ht]

Absolutely when we silently leave they go insane and literally start sinking.

[@raynapierson1893]

This!! Yesss! Done it myself to the ex. And yes it was and is gratifying knowing that something finally affects their sadistic evil asses! They can’t stand it nor deal with being treated even remotely how they treat or treated you!

[@armandoquintal4811]

You don’t sound like an empath haha look at me and how I get revenge on someones whose condition was not of his choosing

[@sharlenalove3357]

They always say I'm too nice. It's in my nature to love people.

[@MentalHealness]

Stay empowered

[@sharlenalove3357]

@@MentalHealness I'ma try. But I am starting to be mean.

[@SAN_E7]

@@sharlenalove3357I thought I had to be mean but like Lee said there is power in saying NO. That is not being mean, it’s protecting your sanity. My cousin calls and wants me to talk and I told him I love him but I have nothing to give him while I’m healing from my narc ex.

[@locaitaliana]

Don’t be nice all the time. Set your boundaries and stand your ground. It’s about time that’s someone is nice to you.🌹🌹

[@sharlenalove3357]

@@locaitaliana Amen to that. Thank you 🙌

[@TheMAEdsell]

I’m 8 days no contact!!! I’m beyond grateful for the lessons I have learned!

[@MentalHealness]

💪

[@locaitaliana]

KEEP IT UP MAMA!! 💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽

[@DJPeachyful]

@@TheMAEdsell Me too! Feeling more powerful every day 💪

[@TheMAEdsell]

@@DJPeachyful Stay strong!! We can do this!!

[@DJPeachyful]

@@TheMAEdsell yes WE can.. STRONG LIKE BULL! 🐂💪😁🙏❤️

[@angelac.3217]

I did all of it. I went no contact and outed him and moved on with my life.

[@MentalHealness]

Stay safe

[@shauntelmorris167]

I did the same and all I can say is continue living your life but stay safe.

[@timarigirl32]

I’m curious to know, what was it that you did to help you move on?

[@Cherrylipgloss2025]

​@@timarigirl32breaking the trauma bond ❤

[@Cherrylipgloss2025]

​It's like going cold turkey and sticking with it

[@shameem403]

Thanks for this video Lee 🙏 - The empath is drawn to the narcissist’s confidence, while also thinking they can fix the narcissist’s character flaws … and the narcissist sees an endless source of validation in the empath’s compassion. This dynamic is a trap-empaths give until they’re drained, and narcissists take until there’s nothing left. - Need to recognize this toxic cycle and stop it before it starts.

[@MentalHealness]

You got it.

[@J.M.R.0913]

A true empath knows from the beginning what the narcissist is. A true empath is NEVER deceived E.V.E.R. If a true empath is in a relationship with a narcissist, they will know how to get out. Also, a true empath knows how to bring a narcissist to their knees. Anyone duped by a narcissist is not a true empath.

[@locaitaliana]

@@J.M.R.0913BRAVO! 🌹🌹WELL SAID!!! 🌹🌹

[@juliecarson7364]

​@@J.M.R.0913 No, you are so wrong. They wear a mask. They mimic.

[@alyagif.9111]

@@juliecarson7364 it took me a year and a half to figure out his mimicking and pattern. Took me another year to fully get out

[@deborah4737]

I feel I am an educated empath. A Narcissists nightmare.

[@MentalHealness]

💜

[@Recoveryasrrrfgrdbgsdff]

I wish I knew what you know ?? I gave and gave and never again. I'm very damaged 💔 😢

[@deborah4737]

@@Recoveryasrrrfgrdbgsdff After listening to hours of Narcissists videos and joining a support group I gained the knowledge to break free. Because I love me more.

[@J.M.R.0913]

If you are an "educated empath" then share how you are a "nightmare".

[@deborah4737]

@@J.M.R.0913 Calling a Narcissists òut on their BS holding them accountable not letting negative comments slide, standing up for yourself. Speaking your truth when they start to devalue you. Having a support system outside the Narcissists delusional world. Etc etc. Etc. They hate a strong person they rather walk away because they are cowards.

[@khaleesidire3367]

Yes, cutoff the access as much as possible! Not trying to destroy anyone-just trying to live my best life🥰

[@MentalHealness]

🥰

[@cletiawilliams1436]

Absolutely 💯

[@teegibson23]

You may have to cut off everyone who MAY be linked to the narc in your life. Don't be surprised if the ones you trust end up taking the narc's side. It happens if the narc has power. When you go no contact, the narc in your life will try to charm anyone you are connected with to keep up with you. Be safe!

[@MentalHealness]

🙌🏾

[@kandiceluvux3]

Super deep

[@teegibson23]

@CM-hi4db That's correct. They only focus on things and people they can use to help them to get what they want, sometimes at any cost. They don't have the capacity to express a lot of emotion (charming others is more beneficial), and the time they would possibly waste expressing those emotions is time they need to quietly make their plans to get what they want. It's all about control and power! I can guarantee some are very childish and will even use children to get what they want (sadly). Some narcs function at the level (and age) that they never healed from in their childhood. They will stoop low with childish ways, and if you are not paying close attention, it's secretly done in a way that will make you feel like you are going crazy. Be safe!

[@vincentdamilola3790]

@@teegibson23 you are right 👉

[@Cherrylipgloss2025]

​@@CM-hi4dbthat's complete nonsense 😂 narcissists are the epitome of immaturity and fallacies and fantasy as well as extremely petty and obnoxious. They have no logic at all it's pure BS and when you understand that they crumble and some of them go into a rage .

[@reginab2348]

No contact is the only thing u can do forget they exist and move forward!

[@peachesjeter5480]

I’m an empath I mirrored the narcissist and did the final discard drove him crazy because he never seen it coming.

[@Lavagirl05]

@@peachesjeter5480 what exactly did you do to finally discard him?

[@peachesjeter5480]

@@Lavagirl05 I completely disappeared, left him with no closure the same thing they do to others to this day he don’t know where I’m at.

[@samanthasmile8150]

It’s easy for an empath to destroy a narcissist, just completely ignore them, don’t do the dance with them xxx

[@deebrown1688]

Exactly cause imma empath

[@heavenlygrandma9992]

How do you starve a narcissist? You take away their fuel.

[@timelesslove8678]

U become cold and disconnected

[@heavenlygrandma9992]

@@timelesslove8678 And that is taking away their fuel.

[@jesuschristlives2724]

Become indifferent

[@heavenlygrandma9992]

And that is taking away their fuel. No reactions. They live for emotional reactions.

[@Sarah-bn1hg]

They do not love you. They don’t love themselves even. They’re just selfish people who care about their own needs and desires. They don’t want to put you before them. They’re always above you and don’t mind being sneaky. They’re not mentally mature adults. And they love using everyone around them. That’s what makes them feel good. They never ever change. They never care. They’re a waste. Don’t keep trying to make a person love you who can’t.

[@MentalHealness]

😮‍💨😮‍💨😮‍💨

[@tammyfitzgerald5336]

All about reputation ❤❤😂😂😂😂😂😂how they look to others

[@empressbthealkemisst]

Withdraw, do your shadow work and properly integrate your shadow/ego, heal, get to the root of your traumas and wounds, get therapy, go no contact cut them off cut off all energetic cords, heal the trauma bond, take your power back and your voice back and don’t look back, get the lessons and attract better bonds healing bonds and healthy relationships ❤

[@locaitaliana]

YOU SAID IT PERFECTLY 💯🌹

[@empressbthealkemisst]

@@locaitaliana 🫶🏾🙏🏾

[@camarwalker5876]

How do you cut the energy cord?

[@chellotrevino7323]

We always do we are psychologically stronger and have a wayyyyyyyyyyy more emotional intelligence than them not to mention being EXTREMELY intuitive and our intellect is outstanding 😊

[@MentalHealness]

🙏

[@KeonaNunley-vl3me]

Empathy vs Lack of empathy, IS good vs evil.

[@silentnight3235]

Narcissists will take advantage of absolutely anyone, empath or not. I'll bet that narcs do battle (with each other) all the time.

[@MentalHealness]

‼️‼️

[@anastasiajohnson4768]

Facts

[@locaitaliana]

Correct. Anyone can be a victim. Unless you’ve been through it, educate yourself as much as you can. ✌🏽💪🏽🙏🏼🌹💯

[@bradhill3356]

Depends, if there's a highly dominant narcissist among other submissive narcissists, you'll find you can pin point the "leader" or dominant, all in the while the rest of them go unnoticed.

[@silentnight3235]

@@bradhill3356 Never occurred to me that narcissists have a pecking order!

[@coleneloehne3436]

Cut all supply and move forward. Be happy and love yourself!

[@abihailhill6372]

Watching Lee has been life changing for me!! 🙏🏾😊

[@MentalHealness]

Happy to help

[@teegibson23]

Learning from Lee has made my story make sense. God send. I can imagine it is not easy sharing all that you have to help us figure out what the hell happened to our lives. Keep freeing us, Lee!

[@rjlondon5801]

Literally went 12 years dealing with one. Walked away in Jan and his life has turned upside down while me and the boys finally get our fresh start. My depression nearly instantly left aswel ❤

[@Ganeden999]

Yeah right ? We feel relief right away when they walk out the door for good.

[@Louloute-h4x]

@@Ganeden999 I can't get rid of him, he follows me everywhere I go on the internet and changes body to get into my house. 🥱

[@Cherrylipgloss2025]

​@@Ganeden999that's totally false 😂

[@Cherrylipgloss2025]

​Most of us who have healed know that narcissists collapse sometimes when they are dumped 😂

[@Cherrylipgloss2025]

They hate losing their targets 🎉

[@VXLAMIA]

Just listening to how many mental loopholes, tricks and manipulations a narcissist uses exhausts me. I enjoy feeling and thinking free form.

[@MentalHealness]

😫 stay strong

[@locaitaliana]

It’s a lot for sure. I will tell you. Once you know it…YOU KNOW IT. You will never forget it. It’s like breathing. Considerate one of those crash courses, use as many cliff notes as possible! You can do it!

[@RedeemedRestored]

It really is a battle between good and evil people.

[@ebonidavis6830]

Once I decided to withdraw, not react as much or fall for the sob story. He went silent but also chases a little. He thinks he can sweet talk me into giving him access to the things I did before. It’s kinda amusing

[@KittyCatFurbabiesMaria1972]

Same ! Mines started chasing and being “nicer”….. I’m not interested and he says he knows I’m not

[@cloudwalkerme7]

When an empath steps into their power & shifts all of that understanding, care, love, & devotion from the narcissist, to themselves… and the narcissist realises… Empath: never settling again. Thanks for the lessons, helped me remember who I am. Narcissists are teachers. Learn, or repeat! ..but empaths are also teachers so the narcissist may just start to find themselves, maybe that’s the why?. In saying that I’m not checking in with my lesson. It’s taken everything in me to embrace the facts of the matter, and I won’t allow myself to be convinced, confused or unsure about the facts. Thanks Lee for using your powers for good 🙌

[@LifeIsGood1992]

narcissist has no chance in front of any empath, the first is a toddler and the other is a grown up mature person, an empath may even take advantage of narcissist in a healthy positive win-win way, and that's called leadership 👋

[@Huntress_fx]

I'm an educated and empowered empath and trust me when I tell u I grew into the narcissists nightmare, I'm telling no lies😂 I actually laugh at the so called narcissists that keep trying me..... I can smell the manipulation from thousands of miles away😂 n break the narcissist before they even get a hold of me

[@lynnrodriguez1484]

So True, I exposed him he said he hates me that I'm evil and he will never talk to me for the rest of his life, that i ruined his life I only exposed him in a womens group so the others can be aware of him

[@locaitaliana]

I am glad you did! He’s crying now….awww poor baby 😅

[@lynnrodriguez1484]

@locaitaliana I don't think he has any feelings to cry

[@teegibson23]

@@lynnrodriguez1484 He should be grateful it was only exposed in a women's group. You have many public options!

[@NevynDarkstar]

And to add to what he's stated, it can also lead to them outing themselves without you trying to put them yourself. But with that in mind, it doesn't mean they won't try to pass the blame off the moment they realize the illusion is shattered. Which can also lead to narcissistic rage popping off

[@MentalHealness]

‼️

[@SherryG370]

An Enlightened Empath has boundaries on giving out their Empathy. ❤

[@missmalalasvegas4318]

Haha I went no contact well over a year ago..have been working on me. Started dating a wonderful man recently. The ex showed up recently where he knew I would be. I was with my new man who is very affectionate. BAM!!!! And the ex sulked away 😂

[@pamela9148]

I am so happy for you!!

[@istj66360]

Lee, you deserve whatever narcissistic supply you get. At least you work for it, so you earn it and I wanna say thank you. You do a lot of good things for people who've been abused badly. Keep in mind you're dealing with someone immune to gaslighting here and I don't waste my time on narcs. But you need to know that I love your videos and they're never a waste of my time. Your videos have allowed me to help others too. You're doing something really good here Lee. You deserve my next words definitely. Thank You Sir. 🙃🙂🙃🙂

[@FeryxSuperior]

yeah they are so predictable that playing their game and beating them at it is just a matter of thinking about the worst possible thing they could do (which they are most likely already doing or planing to do) and acting before them. (blocking, getting away from them, exiting the situation). They can't win if there is no game. That is how you win and that is how you get a better life. Assume the worst situation possible and you will win every time. Trust your gut people, the benefit of the doubt is only for the ones who have shown you that they deserve it. Not for the people who know how to hurt you and continue to do so while abusing your empathy.

[@Alice-ts3vl]

I never heard the narcissist would say its spiritual thing. Narcissist is unable feel higher power bc of big ego.

[@zackbrown1787]

They will use Christianese and not use scripture which shows they are not full of the Spirit. Galatians 5 talks about the fruit of the Spirit. “And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body go into hell.” ‭‭Matthew‬ ‭5‬:‭30‬ ‭ESV‬‬

[@deebrown1688]

Exactly 💯

[@girlbye]

I struggle because the narcissist’s in my life are all extremely close family members. My son, my daughter, and my sister are narcissistic. I can’t go no contact completely but I have created boundaries in our relationships to limit their toxicity in my life as much as possible.

[@lainey3809]

@girlbye The same here. It's very hard to deal with, especially when you ask to see your grandchildren and they make excuses so that you can't see or even talk to them. I have had to go no contact for my own sanity. Not that they care as it's always been me who tries to connect with them, they have no desire to discuss what the problem is and make you feel like there's something really wrong with you. Putting on an act as if they don't know what you're even talking about. Making you feel insignificant. Being kind and generous towards them doesn't work either. It's just plain evil how they work it out to slowly drain away your happiness. Know that you are not alone but also that everyone will come against you if you tell them. People always assume that the parents are the narcissists, and that we are getting our karma. This could not be further from the truth. In my case I think it's inherited from my parents and their father. It's soul destroying. Take care ❤️

[@girlbye]

@@lainey3809 Thanks for sharing that with me!❤️🙏🏾

[@blueskies90210]

I think ppl who grew up abused by narcs end up creating narcs from ppl close to them. We have a low opinion of ourselves and let others walk over us. Most unhealed/not mature ppl take that opportunity and in effect become villains.

[@lainey3809]

@@blueskies90210 That makes sense, I've never heard it explained like that. Thankyou

[@2008LadyLaura]

I think they mostly like subservient people too plus empathy

[@Appellonia]

Hey Lee, just wanted to say thanks again for all the videos and all the insights and helpful info. Thank you for using your diagnosis and experiences to help everyone and to help make a positive impact on the world and people like me. The best place to get answers from is always the source, and having been a diagnosed narcissist yourself, there are answers that we can't get from anywhere else but a narcissist. So, for us, you're our source. The sourcenfor answers that we wouldn't get otherwise. Cuz there arent exactly a bunch of other diagnosed narcissists out there dedicated to using their diagnosis for helping people instead of destroying them like you are. 😂That's just a fact. Its really commendable and a great thing you're doing. I just wanted to say thank you and tell you how much what you're doing is appreciated🎉❤ Love your videos and I'm always learning something here. Thanks again man! 🙏🏻 🙌🏻

[@danieltenebrion9413]

The funny thing is that a Narcissist doesn't even have to lie or be dishonest to manipulate an empath. They might actually have an abusive childhood and all of that, because being a Narcissist is a coping mechanism to survive a rough childhood to begin with. What is the lie is that it affects them to the degree that they express it, when it actually just affects them differently due to the way they naturally coped with it. Lol The feelings of hurt and trauma are still there but they are denying that it affects them in any way, and instead are better than everyone else because of what they survived through. But yeah, having healthy boundaries and not letting them be able to control you is exactly how you both push Narcissists away and prevent them from seeing you as a target.

[@ThePorshaEdmun]

@@MakeMeLoyou think they born or it’s environment like in the house being raised by one?

[@Skyy-fj2il]

I remember before I was aware I was dealing with a narc. He used to always say your the only one I can’t get I never new what he ment until now. Glad I stayed strong I prob wasn’t on all ten toes cause I did lose myself for a lil while but I was on 7 and pulled through! The weight I carried feels amazing now that the storm is over

[@TawannaDaniels-uj7cs]

Omg my narc ex said the exact same thing to me! I didn't know he was a narc at that time, but as time went on, I started to see his mask slowly fall off. I exposed him and all hell broke loose until I finally had enough and discarded him. Thank God it's been 3 months no contact. 🎉😊

[@finallydone391]

I started treating him like he was treating me..I started whining and complaining and being needy like him then I left

[@LifeIsGood1992]

I admire how you are diagnosed with narcissism and still give advice and help others be safe and happy and I send positive vibes to everyone, diagnosed with anything, in the end we all humans and we're not perfect ❤

[@edenrebelrose]

Almost 2 weeks no contact now. Blocked him everywhere + I know that he didn't see it coming...

[@Reneemfenn]

Avoid ‘em; I stay in my lane & mind my own business 😂😂😂😂

[@MentalHealness]

😂

[@shalayrogers2316]

You’re doing an amazing job! You’ve helped me so much. Thank you for all your doing.

[@MentalHealness]

You’re welcome

[@christinlewis8034]

It's extremely hard to wrap my head around that i went through this

[@locaitaliana]

I know. Do not punish yourself. You didn’t know. Please remember that it is NOT your fault. Now, you know better 🌹💯

[@christinlewis8034]

@@locaitaliana thank you so much !

[@christasmit6934]

Difficult if there is kids involved 😢

[@Diddlysquatting]

Mine just came home at 5 to fresh brushetta and tenderlion potatoes carrots mushrooms and gravy. Said maybe when i asked if hes hungry. I ate alone. Hes now cooking a burger ignoring all food, making a mess after complimenting clean kitchen, will leave food everywhere, including the sink (he knows is my pet peeve) and acts like nothing happens when he flips out cause im not excited to listen to him rant everyday while never asking how my day was. Never apologize for anything hes every screamed, ranted, raved, lied, manipulated.. and im stuck on a mountain with him. He freaks sometimes about wanting everyone dead, including his chlidren. So cray. Next second he loves them. I feel so terrible but im saving to leave him so to save myself from him. Meanwhile, i just walk on eggshells.

[@tishaturner8079]

Get out now!!!! Will get worse!! If you not strong, will break you!!!

[@stacierose1692]

My prayers to you for God's Angel to protect you 🙏 and hold you close 🤍

[@tweets8284]

i am doing it and ir keeps me sane..its hard with some people but i stay strong and hope to move on ...and i pray for them!

[@fasia8250]

You are 100% correct. No contact drives them nuts in a completely irrational way. I share custody and my ex has filed requests in court four times to order me to talk to him every day until the judge told him to stop. And be careful if you try to expose them for who they are. I exposed my ex and he was so angry he lit my yard on fire.

[@ZOELIFE23-365]

THIS IS TRUE. IM VERY COMPASSIONATE TOWARDS PEOPLE, BUT IM LEARNING TO FALL BACK. IM ABLE NOW TO SAY NO" WITHOUT GUILT. CAUSE THESE AHOLES AINT GONNA SAY " O NO DONT BE NICE TO ME AND GIVE ME STUFF" I GOTTA BE THE ONE TO INSTILL BOUNDARIES. THIS VIDEO HAS HELPED ME 💡💡💡💡💡💡💡'!!!!!! I GET IT NOW... WHATS FUNNY IS THAT I GIVE THE ADVICE OF BOUNDARIES, AND SAYING NO" BUT ITS DIFFICULT SOMETIMES TO PRACTICE WHAT I HAVE PREACHED...

[@MentalHealness]

“NO” is powerful

[@teegibson23]

You will be ok. Boundaries are healthy. Protect your headspace.

[@locaitaliana]

That’s right! Set that boundary! NO AHOLES ALLOWED HERE!!! ❤

[@NicoBlue10.22]

Reconnecting with friends and family and forming new friendships with both men and women really helped me see how much my son’s father was holding me back from happiness and love from others . These repaired and new bonds are motivating as I cherish them now more then ever and never want to feel as alone and un loved as I did before I left him for good .

[@MentalHealness]

💯‼️

[@davidfullstone]

It depends on the empath. You have highly empathetic people that narcissists prey on. Empaths however are very different, a similar comparison to the high spectrum narcissist vs the clinical narcissist. What happens in the head is you get pushed to the point where you literally can’t take the noise and a defence mechanism kicks in. You get inside the narcissists head playing their game back at them. You give the narcissist a false sense of being able to bring out all their evil then once you’ve learned every weakness they have you turn the tables holding up a mirror often bringing on narcissistic collapse. It’s like narcissistic mirroring only it comes from a deeper more powerful place. I went through a period where I got stuck in dark empath mode but now I can move between cuddles for those who need it and total destruction for evil. The secret is that when your an HSP is when you sense cluster B your brain completely switches off empathy towards your target. Too many people think being sensitive means you’re soft, far from it. From the trip wire on a claymore mine to sniper rifle there’s plenty of things that are highly sensitive that you don’t want to get in the wrong side of.

[@tornado5659]

@davidfullstone I love this! I did this to a narcissistic boss. I realised when she said in a condescending tone 'I know you have a big heart' she knew I knew exactly who she was and a lot of people liked me so I was a threat to her. She targeted me thinking my empathy made me weak but I never gave her the reaction she wanted to make me look bad and I used her own words back at her. They hate that. E.g. she told me to give the customer what they want no matter what and then tried to have a go at me for doing just that. When she asked me in a condescending manner what were you thinking? I said back at her well I was just giving the customer what they wanted just like you told me to. I said this with a smirk on my face and also with a condescending tone. You should of seen the steam come out her nose and ears. It was joyous to watch. I also then left the company and proceeded to expose her to all in charge because she didn't know the boss actually used to be my uncle. She was the final straw for me in being targeted by narcissists all my life I finally stood up for myself and it felt good. I think this actually helps the narccissst in the long run because they are then forced to look at themselves and heal and as empaths we want to help but sometimes it has to be tough love.

[@Bvcggdert]

FACTS. 💯

[@MentalHealness]

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[@ktdwms]

Thank you for giving a straight answer honest answer. The best thing anyone can do is walk away and live their best life.

[@Z-gg3fc]

Thank you for this, all so true ❤

[@shawnsbookbabees922]

I so appreciate this space to discuss. Thanks for your transparency Lee. Appreciate u Brah! I’ve been and currently are in this situation to some degree. Personally, I feel it isn’t my job to expose anyone that’s for GOD to do! However, living my BLESSED BEST LIFE is to me thee better option. Not interested investing that time into something or someone who either doesn’t want to change or not sure. No judgement just on my own journey of letting go, unlearning and learning how to be the very BEST ME! It feels amazing although still have moments of uncertainty about my “him” BUT GOD…..so I’m good! 🙏🏽💜💜

[@MentalHealness]

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[@Jaymeloveshair]

I am in the middle of this situation right now and he is now homeless and looking for help from everyone and not one person is helping….including me. Once you give him an inch, he wants a mile and becomes complacent. He says the most vile things to me me and I am literally done….worse 6 years of my entire life.

[@MentalHealness]

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[@AliceLytle]

This helped me so much. It’s been hard to go no contact with my narcissistic niece. This is so timely! Thank you!!

[@GoCry2Mummy]

could you do an episode on different types of narcs? my ex is a covert narc, and ive never known anything quite like it. took me so long to figure out what he was. i thought he was like me. luckily im bpd, so all my reactions to his behaviour put him into check anyways🤣 i unintentionally followed all your advice on how to deal with narcissists before i even clicked play. love your content, keep it up :)

[@AyeeDeb]

From my experience this is 100% true, the sooner you realize what they want from you, the sooner you can take the supply away and figure out how to support them if you want...

[@ladyCY413]

Interesting topic, I’m in a spiritual battle against my narcissistic boyfriend, and it seems like he keeps winning every time instead of me. He is as worst as they come. Lee I really wish you did home visits. This dude is in need of a serious rude awakening because I’m fully convinced that he will never change and I’m fed up with it. It’s been ten years and I still don’t even have a reason to be in love with him and he knows it because I told him a thousand times but still keeps me around. I believe that deep down he’s afraid of being rejected by other women and as long as you’re rejected you can’t have control.

[@douglasamadi1322]

Ten years boyfriend? You are not serious right? No you need to wake up because your life is wasting away.

[@joannturi3968]

I think when they admit and we accept is the beginning of new and a many wonderful things. It's like the yin and the yang. If I didn't grow up with the sister I have, and live to tell, I wouldn't be able to have overcome the viciousness of how the narcissist or psychopath operates. I've come to realize how to handle them where they might actually respect you even more. They will never change but if you can change in ways that they have to obey then you've achieved much success in the effort.

[@nataliehilton1]

Having to deal with that in one person is too much. Must leave!!! Thank God my divorce is final and he didn't fight me on it or try and harm me.

[@vala1277]

I love this channel. When I need a pep talk, lee gives the best pep talks

[@MentalHealness]

Thank you

[@alexandriablanco5878]

❤thanks so much I feel great 👍 letting go 🚶‍♀️ much peaceful the healing process 😊thanks

[@tammyfitzgerald5336]

This is how you know these people need help and keep learning about narcissistic people they the walking dead w no soul run 🏃‍♀️

[@runfast2457]

Your boxing intro had me crying!!! 😭

[@sia1019]

I’m 50 days no contact . I still think about replying to his messages I ignored but then I watch these vids and I remember I’ll get no where. More BS . I have no energy for this , and too old for it.

[@locaitaliana]

Occupy your mind. Once you do that, you will think about him LESS AND LESS. You have to allow the time element to do its job. Day by day it’s going to get easier I promise!!! 💯🌹

[@locaitaliana]

If you don’t have children, please block him. I promise it will make it a lot easier!

[@sia1019]

@@locaitaliana you’re exactly right and that’s what I’m trying to do 🙏.

[@KittyCatFurbabiesMaria1972]

Lol Lee…. U were correct when u first said “slice it off “………. Slice it off then they can’t clap no more supply cheeks ! Part problem solved 🤣🤣🤣 When u coming to the uk ? Much love 2 u and ur family x

[@lb8141]

Yep 💯

[@MentalHealness]

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[@kittykatjonkakitty2542]

a smart empath can but its difficult. Narcissists can extort easily where an empath have then to endure and this enduring feels the narcissist. So, Empath should be with Empaths its so important to teach this our younger generation or to educate narcissism in nursery school to show them what behaviour hurts the other child.

[@MentalHealness]

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[@dennettamarshall8991]

Currently doing this thankfully I was smart enough to document record and text everything they never want nobody to find out about them definitely going through a dark night of the soul or some ish 😭😭

[@Kremene-jm6ps]

The thing is some of us- who are empathic- we’re in reality codependents- just as damn toxic and self sabotaging. I know i didn’t cause it- nor can I fix them- but boy am I fully responsible for this dynamic- thank you Lee!

[@robertacosta7586]

I beaten a narcissist by giving a easy task to repay me back they did not. So I told the people around me the reason why I’m not talking that person so they can stop coming around.

[@aprilmorgan909]

It's the soy sauce for me! LOL!!😹😜☠️ Another epic episode my guru! 🙏💚

[@jesuschristlives2724]

I'm an empath. I will never again tolerate a Narc.

[@MentalHealness]

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[@pamela9148]

Lee, thank you sooooo much for your videos. You have really helped my healing.❤

[@MentalHealness]

You are so welcome

[@julesbee3277]

My ex told me he had been cheated on by his ex and he was insecure because of it , within a few months he was accusing me and calling me a lying cheating whore no matter how much I told him I loved him and I rarely left the house for the three years we were together. It is a war but in my experience the empath loses cause I'm completely traumatized and exhausted. I finally went no contact after the last time. I'm just praying I'm strong enough to stay away this time. I just found your channel and its exactly what I need right now. Thank you

[@MentalHealness]

you’re welcome

[@tati001]

If you have a problem disconnecting from a narcissist just think of all the times they had no problems humiliating you. Treating you like you didn't mean anything. Ghosting you whenever the mood struck them to. Talking down to you and making you feel unimportant. Embarrassing you in public. Accusing you of i've being interested in a stranger that happens to walk by, etc.

[@troymcdaniels-tm1dr]

If they suck you into their realm then you lose. Don't engage and you win..

[@MentalHealness]

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[@anneyoung2310]

You'd be surprised how untouchable they think they are-you mentioned pastors. A pastor I respect screwed up 26 years ago and his ministry was taken down in 24 hours (24! Over! Just like my life was taken down by a pastor in 24!). The threat of not making amends for pastors never expires. I did contact a journalist with the Roys Report several weeks ago. While I don't love when people relish mega-church drama (as the RR seems to), the truth can save my life, and the lives of about 5 others. My aim has never been to take a kingdom down, but sometimes it looks like they are begging for it with delay and denial. The beat has gone on.

[@DonnaHaas-g3z]

He took a lot of personal things, documents, items I inherited, and left me debt. The hardest part is letting those things go. They are things, it makes me mad, but the struggle is very real. Healing begins when you give up the things he took. He only took the items to manipulate me. Love yourself. Let it go.

[@tranquility9325]

I would have taken him to court for those documents. Sue him in civil court

[@jcsherbo78]

No contact, no supply, and an order of protection works! But only after multiple times... plus bear spray on your Keychain helps. Heal and find peace!

[@gloryi1]

Thanks!

[@CarmenPerez-kz6rw]

A real empath does not seek to destroy anyone. Even someone who shredded their heart to jagged bits.

[@MentalHealness]

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[@nicolesiemens8727]

Empaths dont WANT to destroy anyone. We arent wired to desire to hurt someone, especially the ones we love. BUT- when it becomes apparent that we are being taken advantage of and manipulated- that's when we walk away. Even the kindest of empaths have a limit; and will NOT allow someone to toy with our emotions forever.

[@MentalHealness]

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[@speedy2426]

Had to hit the like after that intro

[@terrywoods4242]

Help ! This is crazy Lee, I 've had enough with my male narcissist, I have gone no contact now for 14 days now, and the sear campagne is starting 😮😢

[@bonnieking4913]

The problem with putting yourself in others shoes too much is that youve come out of your own. We are all responsible for ourselves, not others. Is it empathy or self abandonment.

[@jmoneyshmurdazoid2714]

I LOST MY MIND FROM WORRYING ABOUT YOU, I DIDNT KNOW IF YOU WERE ALRIGHT. IVE NEVER WANTED TO HURT YOU THO.💯

[@Mommystarr]

Lee... what you're saying is so true.. I definitely cut off all Access, except for discussing things about our Son..he is no longer in control, I am really standing on business..it used to be a back and forth thing,that left me confused..him not taking accountability, always making himself the victim, when he's not the subject and so forth..he was too much of a dramatic diva so to speak..he pushed me away for the last time.. he's not worth the energy.. and I'm in Baltimore,not far from DC.. I can't commit to see you, because more than likely I'll be working, taking care of My Son or doing something in reference to continuing to create a positive dynamic in My home..but I'm subbed and have My 🔔 on though 🙋🏾‍♀️

[@Robloxplayer242]

You are absolutely right, right right right?

[@MentalHealness]

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[@thrivegirl7636]

An empathy has to control their empathy and emotions.‼️‼️ Then you can win.

[@barbaragonzales5944]

Are you planning on hosting some of these over-the-top politicians at your Workshop? We down-to-earth Patriots would greatly appreciate it!

[@MentalHealness]

i've spoken to some

[@freedomtobeintheknow-kryst9705]

if this is accurate then I thank you for uploading

[@MentalHealness]

no problem

[@susansimon4255]

It is very difficult for an empath to draw boundaries or withdraw supply as an empath is built to be empathetic. So I think it is best to go no contact if you have no strings attached and if you have commitments together it best to connect minimilistically and only for essentials!