How Avoidant Attachment Affects Your Relationships!/

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What happens to us when we understands all these and constantly want to become "soft" but constantly find ourselves around the people who are non dependable especially in relationships and makes us to slide into that comfort zone of figuring out out problems and fixing out stuffs alone that it becomes a comfort zone? How do we navigate this and become a softer version of ourselves so that we dont pass on this trauma? Then when you're in a relationship with emotionally unavailable?

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@@cillia.o8633 Hi Cillia. So if I understand you correctly, you're asking how to apply the knowledge you've learned about trauma and how it affects the way you show up in life and stay soft and emotionally regulated if you keep meeting emotionally unavailable people who trigger your trauma wounds and that makes you go back into survival mode. So how do you stay emotionally stable and regulated (soft) around emotionally unstable and dysregulated people. Is this what you're asking?

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@TheAIMnetwork. exactly, because most times our past traumas are just being triggered.

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@@cillia.o8633 So here's my honest thoughts about people who trigger us. They get to be themselves; whether that's the healthy versions of themselves or the poisonous version of themselves. Whoever toxic people choose to be is their right and we shouldn't try to change them. The real thing we should focus on is why we're choosing to be the version of ourselves who drinks the poison. You can't control who you attract, but you absolutely can control who you keep in your life and who you throw back into the water. That all depends on how healed you yourself are because if you're also unhealthy, the unhealthy people will come into your life and find a home that resonates with them and they'll stay.

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@@TheAIMnetwork. thank you

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@@cillia.o8633 🫂 You deserve to be loved, please keep people in your life who remind you of that