How can Human Design help with Boundary Issues?

Richard Beaumont responds to a viewers question about Boundary Issues and what does Human Design say about them.
00:00:05:00 Viewer Question
00:00:23:01 Inner Boundaries
00:01:43:02 Open Root
00:03:09:02 Open Spleen
00:03:57:23 Reset
00:06:17:00 Open Solar Plexus
00:08:30:16 Open Sacral
00:09:08:03 The Value of Experience
00:10:17:03 Hard Boundaries
00:12:27:03 Open Head and Ajna
00:14:40:00 Facing Fear
00:14:51:20 Pushy People
00:16:05:17 Split Defintion & Quadruple Splits
00:16:50:21 The Power of a Single Victory
00:17:16:08 Boundary Investigations
00:17:37:17 Get your FREE Personal Report
00:17:56:18 Emotionally Defined
00:16:50:21 The Power of a Single Victory
00:18:47:17 Moving Boundaries
00:19:05:01 Mental Projectors
00:19:36:23 General Pointers
00:20:44:22 Ending
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[@starshine7937]

Thank you Richard , another great video with such value. My sister has a fixed Ajna and now through learning about HD, I see that she has this quality of thinking she's right and certain haha! And she often tells me what she thinks I should do. I'm learning now to 'wait for the response' and knowing I have this guidance built within me is a real relief. So now I don't even feel the need to answer her or justify my actions. I know she means we'll but now I'm seeing it through the lens of HD , I am able to see what's actually going on & I'm learning not to get so pulled in and reactive. THANK YOU ❤

[@humandesigninfo]

Fantastic Star Shine - that's Human Design knowledge applied perfectly. In this way you accept her and strengthen your connection to your Sacral response. Yes! :)

[@alvesrei5357]

Another thing I found myself thinking during this video is that, this is also a good lesson if we try to put ourselves on the other side. The side of the one conditioning and pushing others. We all have done it in our lives, be it on purpose or not. It is useful to know that sometimes we may be pushing someone against their will, and making them uncomfortable. We should also pay attention to that. If the other person doesn't know how to put boundaries on themselves yet, and if we see they are pushing themselves because of our actions, or that we are pushing them against their will, we can also be the ones to set boundaries for them in that situation, and help them know that they don't have to live with so much conditioning. In the end, they will have to be the ones setting their own boundaries, but if they can't and we see they are uncomfortable... Maybe we can help.

[@humandesigninfo]

Absolutely Alves. It's a way of loving them. Allowing them to move at their own speed and when they are ready. This is a lesson I've had to learn having the 34th Gate. :)

[@TheLailaelbazi]

☺🙏 If not the first (next to 'learning to let go' ), one's "boundary investigations" must be the second largest life lesson haha! Thank you for your extensive take on it Richard!

[@humandesigninfo]

Yes, Laila, I absolutely agree. It amazes me how so many live within such narrow confines, because they let fear set hard boundaries. Happily Human Design opens the doors to what's hidden within. :)

[@justseaningaround]

For anyone this might help. I’ve learned to say no and am very comfortable with it now. But it was very uncomfortable for me and loved ones at first. A tool/approach that helped me get there, as a battered people pleaser, before I could simply say “no” was to start with … “No, but…” or “yes, if…” - just shifting/experimenting with boundaries lightly at first meant less friction as I gained experience and to trust in the experiment. 🧡🐳

[@justseaningaround]

Also, I know you decide moment to moment what you want to talk about next. If I can give a nudge… quad left, quad right… I’d love understand more about my type especially/selfishly, as a quad left. #ping 😊

[@humandesigninfo]

Yes Sean, whatever works in getting to it. But the path needs to lead to a firm "No" otherwise there will be no peace in your life. Thanks for passing on your experience to other viewers. :)

[@humandesigninfo]

Hmm. I understand you want to know Sean, but it's not adequate to flag something on the Variables without providing viewers with the full explanation. So I want to create some resources first. Please be patient. :)

[@justseaningaround]

@@humandesigninfo Haha, fair enough. You know my design, patience doesn’t come easily for me. But I do respect the process. I’ll focus my energy elsewhere. Squirrel! 🐿️

[@tugceocal8257]

Hi Richard, I am 2/4 Emotional Projector. I just wanted to share my idea. I am learning a lot from your videos. It is priceless because you are sharing your whole life experience with us. I want to thank you for all Human Design lovers💜

[@carmine_black]

I love this conversation. Especially around no, and meaning it. As a Manifestor, I love my no's. I really appreciate my loved ones' no's as well. It doesn't need to be personal, especially if they/we are moving correctly. 😊

[@humandesigninfo]

Yes Carmine, that's so true. Manifestors especially do value the integrity of their boundairies and respect others. :)

[@deenarocco8908]

I appreciate your extensive discussion of boundaries. Important stuff! While at times it can almost feel life threatening to set an important boundary, when you set the right one... it's very gratifying and life enhancing.

[@humandesigninfo]

Yes Deena. If you have any Channel in the Integration Channel, then yes, it can seem to be a life and death decision... and sometimes it is :)

[@iheartastrology7877]

Thank you Richard for another great talk! I so look forward to your videos and hearing your wisdom. I only have a defined ajna and throat so I’ve been accused of having zero boundaries my whole life - accurate assessment. Thank heaven for human design and my ability to be certain about it!!

[@humandesigninfo]

You're funny i Heart Astrology, thank you, you made me laugh out loud :)

[@wakingtheworld]

Well that was informative, Richard. I like your 'swimming' and 'tide' analogies. Most appropriate! Edit: And the importance of saying 'No'... Being true to ourselves instead of trying to please others.

[@humandesigninfo]

Glad it was helpful! Cassandra. :)

[@LilithLi13]

I love this video, Richard! Noticed while listening…a realization in me that I had no one like you in my early life, with emotional intelligence, deep insights, heart, wisdom and guidance. Oh, how differently things would have turned out! But now I’ve experienced what it was to feel alone, odd, isolated, and unique. To figure things out for myself over time. To make lots of mistakes due to the absence of guidance from wise elders. It was what it was, no regrets. Some Annoyance, perhaps, at all the time wasted. 😆 That aside, I’m very grateful for what you share in your videos. And this one in particular addresses such a complex and necessary part of life-I love that you can hold it all! Our personal needs for safety and protection. Then the awareness that there is Life beyond that, which by closing ourselves down too much self-protectively we miss out on. For me as an ego projected 4/6 Projector, the awareness and validation of my Need to honor the “What’s in it for Me” question. And for Projectors in general, to be aware of how our Own energy affects others. The need to be masterful in our use of Strategy and Authority. Thank you, Richard, so grateful for you! 🌟🙏💜🙏🌟 Renge’

[@humandesigninfo]

Thank you Rengé, I do appreciate being one of those beings that helps you. And yes, I know what it was like to have no one wise around me when I was growing up. But there was Jung, Socrates, Blake, Chesterton and others in books that hellped. It seems to me that you are honing your wisdom beautifully. So happy you've discovered Human Design. :)

[@sbristlin9195]

I love the word, NO!! ❤❤ Pure Generator

[@sueanndayton3458]

Richard thank you! I had such a positive strong Sacral response to your wise counsel on Boundaries! Interestingly, I had responded earlier this morning to another's conversation on just this topic!!! I do love our age Richard. Wonderful Freedom found in experimenting with my Strategy and Authority. Such Joy! As you said, I'm here for the experiences! And as a contaigion, sharing what lights my passions. Now to continue a 20/34 busy responding day!

[@humandesigninfo]

Wonderful! Sue Ann. Yes, It's such a relief to be the age I am, and like you with the 20/34, to have survived thus far with the accumulated wisdom and stories from the journey. :)

[@miny_moni]

all 7 of my open centers are grateful for this wonderful advice 😛 thank you! 💜

[@humandesigninfo]

You're so welcome! Moni :)

[@job1148]

as a splenic projector with lots of openess, just like you said about mental projectors, I stand back as it can be overwhelming. I have unfortunately stopped seeing some family members who are emotional MG's as it can take days or weeks to get over their emotional drama. I said to myself be open and give them a chance or in small doses however I love and respect myself( define G) to put myself through it. Also my generator partner who has open solar plex and defined G feels the same way, that he doesn't like how their emotional wave makes him feel. There must wisdom in there somewhere?😬

[@humandesigninfo]

Thank you for sharing this Jo B. Absolutely it can be overwhelming and if you are not being recognised for what you can see in the drama, it's better to be free of it. Good for you. However, you and your partner have to opportunity to be wise about the emotional waves. You won't get the wisdom if you avoid them. What is unpleasant now, can become compassion and important connection later. There is deep healing there. One way to move towards that, is to spend a little time in groups, where emotionals will be present, but you aren't personally involved with them. Please remember there is a very deep awareness in the Emotional Center, wisdom that is beyond words or reasons, but transformatively profound nonetheless. Yes, avoid if necessary, especially as a MP, but I urge you not to make that a rule you live by. MP's are here to guide us all, including all Projectors. Think about that. :)

[@ricomaitreya]

I’m a fully open solar plex system, my partner is a 12/22 emo manifestor. Many times i thought about separate from her as i couldn’t stand the drama and it turned me MAD 😡. But i never did, obviously conscious that this would mean leave the “pleasure” side of it. The lesson is hard and is still going , i know the next wave will come sooner or later and will never be prepared. What leaves disappointed with myself is that even now that i’m aware of the phenomenon of absorption/amplification , most of the time i can’t help it and i EXPLODE 🤯. How many times will i have to go through it before i can step back and see that the wave is not mine and just watch it ? I don’t know 🤷‍♂️…. Probably one my greatest lesson in this life. Thanks again richard, you allways bring high value practicality. Hugs from bahia

[@ndhairangel1]

@@humandesigninfo Wow, thank you, from an EmoMG. This helps me too. Good to hear how open SP is affected too. I sometimes observe people getting nervous around me. I scale back a bit and get back into response when I feel this. when I'm with another EmoMG, it's totally different and we can talk over each other and keep up with the convo. Lesson: know the difference so I can be open to the wisdom and guidance. Thank you for comment and reply. It helped me. 😊

[@job1148]

@@ricomaitreya yes I've experienced the explode moments too. Especially when the transits are activating my gate 35.

[@ricomaitreya]

@@job1148 you mean you have the 36 in an open ESP?

[@foxedrey622]

Excellent points and clarifications you presented here! And yeah, I gotta watch the sexual aspect when it comes to an open Sacral! Many things to work on and refine with and through my design.

[@humandesigninfo]

Indeed. We all have work to do at some level or another Foxedrey :)

[@ellelaurien]

Beautiful and encouraging. Thank you Richard!

[@alvesrei5357]

Such a nice message. 😊 I often think how, in the HD view, I can have relationships and still be myself, without being conditioned and pushed too much by others. I often found myself going after people, or being too much with them if I enjoy their company. At least I used to. Maybe not so much now, since I live alone and I'm alone at home most of the time. But I guess I still have much to learn, and to experience when I am with people. :) I was also told by my analyst that I am a "people person", and it felt strange to hear that at the begining because I always thought I was more on the "lone wolf" side since I enjoy my private space and time very much and get tired of people if i spend too much time at once with them. But then I was like "Wait, that might be true... I often need people, I like the "give and take" (or teach and learn) that we can get in relationships, and I am most motivated when I have to do things for/with others. For instance, when I am alone, I do almost nothing all day, and I am lazy, and I go nowhere. I need people so I can be more productive and experience more. But by being a "people person", I also find myself conditioned many times. So I have to keep learning about these boundaries and the balance between being alone and being with people. ^^

[@humandesigninfo]

Yes Alves. We all need others to some extent or another. It helps us grow, it helps inform us and it helps us to see that others can see things in a totally different way. I don't know about the information source of your analyst, but a "people person" in HD will have their Personality Sun in one of the Gates of the Wheel from 7 to 44. Check out my earlier video from Sept 22: studio.kzbin.info7nl9Pdb2xK0/edit

[@alvesrei5357]

@@humandesigninfo Thank you so much for the information, Richard. 😊 My Personality Sun is not between 7 and 44, but I do remember that my analyst mentioned it as being a characteristic that comes from the 44-26 channel when he talked about that channel in particular, which is one of my two channels. Maybe he wasn't referring to "people person" in the Personality itself, but just as one characteristic I have in my Design. Thank you for the insight. ☺️

[@victormarban9229]

Hi Richard, thanks a lot for the videos you are making, I love your youtube thumbnails, they are epic. I'm a mental projector and when you mention how correct mental projectors can stand back and not getting involved with the energetics, I felt how much that is not me hahaha. I tend to jump in discussions, my god, I feel this pull that is so strong. I'd love if you made a video on mental projectors or similar! Much love

[@alexeikudriashov211]

Great piece thank you Richard! Experimenting with it daily 🔥🔥

[@humandesigninfo]

Excellent Alexei, that's what works. :)

[@claudettegallantbabineau5348]

Thank you Richard it helps me to hear about the open centres & boundaries between me and other important people in my life. I am a split definition, Emotional Manifestor, 3-5 ...it's about the split itself they are between two defined but unconnected centres...what do I need understand to integrate better about the Bridge Gates and how they affect conditioning. I see that two persons with the gate of Structuring 43-23 Conscious are very prominent in my life. Maybe I don't understand the full impact of the concept of conditioning yet? All my centers are defined except G Center, Will, Sacral. Being retired now I am not invited anymore to use my collective channels in a productive way. Would you have insights for retired people in one of your talks?

[@humandesigninfo]

Watching the effects of the two 43/23's is exactly what is necessary. Comparing each, comparing other Ajna-Throat connects and their effect etc. Seek and you will find so much thoruhg your own self-observation. What a great idea about those with collective Cahnnels that have retired Claudette. Yes, I will consider this for a future video. Thank you :)

[@k4metal]

In my current introspective period (6/2-35yrs) I've noticed with my open solar plexus that I enjoy riding friends' emotional waves to an extent. Then, I retreat to create space for myself. It gets exhausting, and I am learning to take time to process. Here's a quick question: Are emotionally defined/small split people tend to be more codependent compared to open solar plexus/single definition people?

[@humandesigninfo]

Hi KA, Co-dependency is a Not-Self theme in the Open Spleen, due to feeling physically vulnerable. A Split def person doesn't have that same theme. However they can be overly attached to those that join their split. A Single Def Design is simply more self-reliant. I hope that answers your question. :)

[@k4metal]

That makes sense. I guess for the split definition, the fear is separation.

[@JackFrishert]

What if you find yourself agreeing to the other everytime. Not knowing or control your own boundaries, not being senator to your own emotions

[@chrisgrezinger7430]

Most people seem to think they can learn how to swim without getting wet ... thank you

[@humandesigninfo]

Ho Ho! Yep, and then they're surprised it is what it is. :)

[@alares2007]

So, I am a 5:1, I don't know a ton about this yet. I am a complete hard ass. I have almost no sympathy. I have empathy, but no sympathy. Are there other aspects that support the main connections (again, not human design savvy)

[@humandesigninfo]

Hmm. Unfortunately I don't have enough information on your chart to comment. But, I am glad you're looking into Human Design. Why don't you download your free report and see if that helps answer your question: human.design/chart-reports/free

[@alares2007]

@@humandesigninfo thank you Richard! I figured it out :) It'll pass as I get through this next year. Collective conciousness will be the key