How can you tell if a man has a provider mindset?

[@AkosuaFire]

Was on a second date with a guy and as he walked me to the car he noticed a ticket on the windshield. He apologized for keeping me longer than my meters time allotment then handed me $80 to cover it. I appreciate men like that😄.

[@dollhouseq1530]

Especially in today's climate where men expect xes for a coffee "date" lol

[@youngatnaruto]

You will dump a man for a cofee date? Is every date supposed to be extravagant? You know there are many women who date men just for free meals and luxurious dates that they are not interested in and just leave afterwards ​@@dollhouseq1530

[@mechloe8528]

Oh thats lovely isn't it!! What a nice man

[@yahoo9602]

U sondern Like a tick

[@madlenj.4644]

wow! That guys a keeper. Hope this is not where you bothss love sstorie ended? Hope i find such a treasure too.

[@AfuaYmani]

Don’t even entertain 50/50 energy if you ain’t bout that 50/50 life ladies. Don’t even give those men access to you. No phone calls no texting no hanging out no platonic friendships. Don’t entertain what you do not want

[@DiamondsRexpensive]

Radio Silence

[@omnipotentworldwider5111]

PREACH 👏🏼

[@hardingirls12]

Don’t entertain what you don’t want. I love this

[@Sublime_Woman]

I will be inviting you to my wedding in a year and a half. ❤️

[@Mr.StanddOnBusiness]

Hell yea, stay tf away from men.

[@LAbidjanaiseBlogMode225]

Any man that did not behave like this was a waste of time in the end. I can confirm this is absolutely accurate. Providing peace of mind.

[@Mr.StanddOnBusiness]

Women don't deserve men.

[@yzma6142]

FACTSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSA. I’ve dated a few of these and the difference is so stark between these and the useless ones 😪

[@UNQContour-xr8st]

I know lol 😂😂😂

[@queenlewi]

“…and the useless ones.”😂😂😂

[@t.f.6297]

"Thats a provider,"Yea!! That's the sit back and relaxation, I got u energy 💯❤

[@n0426]

Sit back and relaxation. That’s it!! You feel safe in his presence!! Safe in every way. Spiritually mentally physically AND financially. Finances are never a result of a low self chaotic mess.

[@saffylllama5609]

Yes they exist!! They happily and cheerfully provide!

[@cccc8643]

cuz they know it comes back on autodial!

[@Undefeatedatoutwittingtrolls]

Im a man stumbled across this video ive been married 4 years I take care of everything HOWEVER my wife is a way better planner than me and way better at finding deals and shit like that so I let her do the planning if we both going out of town other than that this brother is right

[@mayowaoyedokun9828]

Well done sir,I'm encouraged

[@earthfa333]

i LOVE how you clarified action over mindset. best way to judge character every time is what they do, not what they say.

[@NikkiThoughts]

This is so true! Literally why I’m ending my current relationship. I want an assertive, and dominant partner.

[@earthfa333]

manifesting this for us, it's on the wayyyy!!!

[@wyleecoyotee4252]

What for?

[@earthfa333]

@wyleecoyotee4252 everyone wants different things! ^-^

[@valeriaswanne]

Came expecting some crap but instead, you've served up pure gold, sir. Men who provide don't talk about how they provide... they just do it. My man is very hard to read; you never know what he's thinking or how he's feeling. He is a man of action, not of words. ❤

[@Heyu7her3]

You'll want both, so not someone who's difficult to read or anticipate because that causes other issues.

[@tracyguenther4547]

lol a guy I had two dates with started the first date that way and then on the second date asked when I would be paying for dates too? 😂😂😂

[@rodericwalter2862]

No whispering "that's a provider". That sentiment needs to be shouted from the rooftops!! Man, you are a genius - and you are educating others through service to the needy. I cannot say how impressed I am. Kudos to you, sir.

[@Poodle_Gun]

He's a genius.

[@LadyCharity]

The person I'm dating is long distance so he lets me choose the places we go but he takes care of everything. He picks me up, he gives me gifts and pays for everything.

[@ladyofspa]

Great thoughts.Provides consistency and kindness

[@AmandySue]

Initially I was drawn to this about my ex. He was proactive, planned dates, and just took care of things. I thought I finally found a masculine man who can provide and lead! With that, I tried to reciprocate as well and show my appreciation. I would treat him out, pay for smaller ticket items, and buy him gifts. Although, there were times where he would Venmo me money after I paid for food (I never expected him to). Then, the switch up happened. Half a year in, he accused me of being a gold digger and wanted to do 50/50 out of no where. I was so confused and baffled where this new ideology came from and he said he always felt that way. Like what causes someone to do a complete 180 or he was actually manipulating me this whole time.

[@CWalthallBrand]

Run don’t walk!!!🚩🚩🚩 Perhaps he started watching the misogyny content spoiling the minds of men consuming it online.

[@dollhouseq1530]

I don't think there was a switch. Who he was at 6 months in is the REAL him

[@sollovinlion]

@@dollhouseq1530True.

[@nanx7062]

Not a switch in character but in how he showed up. He probably showed you his best behavior and did what he needed to win you over then once he got you, showed his true self. Most men know what women want as far as provider actions, they don’t want to if they don’t value you, or haven’t cultivated the character to do those things beyond 3-6 or 12 months. Either walk away. It’s not worth it.

[@minim3494]

He sees all women as 'gold diggers' because he's a mysoginist. He paid for everything in the beginning as he was trying to impress you AND set you up for the 'gold digger' uturn He always intended to make. Now, if you had been taking the piss, eg: suggesting expensive restaurants or asking him to buy you things or pay your bills then it would be different as you WOULD be a gold digger. But accepting the generosity of him paying for dinner or cinema tickets is not gold digging.

[@evaabdullahi5240]

When a guy invites you to come and visit him and you procrastinate on going and he calls and tells you there’s a round trip pre-paid ticket at the airport for you to come. Or, a guy drives 24 miles to pick you up to take you 24 miles back to his place/city , and then drives 24 miles to take you home and another 24 miles for him to get back home per date. That’s a total of 94 miles per date and he never complains. Oh, I know a good man when I see one…..

[@lstockton8468]

We don't get flewed out. If that's not your LTR man/fiance/husband, we don't get flewed out. He needs to come to you. And even if he is your LTR, he needs to be coming to you more than you go to him--2 to 1 ratio at least.

[@ashifarman4813]

​@@lstockton8468god i seriously want your type of woman to stay away from me

[@RCooke357]

@@lstockton8468exactly!

[@MyAccountForCommenting]

Picking up a pre-paid ticket for a flight at the airport sounds so retro.

[@BowlFullOfAri]

Damn sounds like I’m a provider 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@kat_roses]

me too 😭

[@babyhandgrenade4004]

I agree with this because it ties into the effort that he's putting into your relationship. You're right, a provider is not just about money. If he tells you he's going to do something and it gets done, that's what I pay attention to. Of course you should be contributing as well whether that be working outside the home or whether it's a stay-at-home wife or mother. It shouldn't be all on the man to do everything. However, you're right, pay attention to his actions. Edit: I just want to say everything you've said is so true. If you have a man who's constantly flaking on you or expects you to pick up his slack, run. I was with a guy who had ADHD and while I understand it because I have it as well, it got to the point that he was expecting me to pick up his slack. I told him that it felt like I was thinking for both of us at some points. I gave him some time to adjust but after 3 months and nothing had changed, I was done.

[@DiamondsRexpensive]

You contradict yourself, or maybe what a provider to you is not the same as what a provider is to me. I'm not paying.

[@Sonja-sy2eo]

Coach I would have never imagined you in masculine energy. You are the the perfect blend then... because you have a strong wise personality and feminine energy ✨💫 Thanks for being you❤

[@Joirychelle]

Hell YES!!! 🔥🔥🔥 That’s Right! That’s True Masculine Energy!

[@lin3378]

I think this kind of love don't exist for me because I have to be the man and a mother sometimes, I literally hate myself

[@lou6574]

Well you still have to watch out for the fakers

[@DiamondsRexpensive]

Yes, so many fakers.

[@Under510]

This conversation is so necessary! Thanks for being open👍

[@ml07]

As a female, it’s nice to know I have that masculine energy which is probably it’s harder for me and why I stay single 😅

[@serenitygilles7064]

I am practicing fem energy as single parenting...but guys are lazy and then nothing happens!

[@lstockton8468]

I'd offer to begin calling yourself a woman/lady, etc instead of a "female" because female what? Female is an adjective--female dog, female cat, female rat. It's a step above calling you a b**** when a man says it. Nothing nice follows female when it's said.

[@Loner-DestroyedWoman]

​@@serenitygilles7064same. It's because they don't find me attractive enough. So. That's the end of it.

[@Mr.StanddOnBusiness]

​@@serenitygilles7064Tbh you're lazy.

[@blackfashionweekly]

That's good coaching.

[@Ribbitplease]

Right right right right right

[@musicbrazilian7065]

You are an amazing coach!

[@aprilswill9204]

Our mindset drives our behavior. That’s why I think they asked about the mindset.

[@KT-sv6jx]

Yeah 👏🎯

[@karlbeat]

A feminine man talking about masculine energy. 😂

[@KFontLab]

Absolutely!❤

[@JennyFB1281]

There's a huge difference between toxic masculinity and healthy masculinity.

[@kosmicinclinations3333]

🎯

[@Ribbitplease]

Right

[@ariakay143]

Clicked so fast!😂

[@moongoddess1978]

Yess 💯

[@chukilewis1696]

Yassss!!!!

[@adryangalileu4611]

❤

[@Sublime_Woman]

I will be inviting you to my wedding in a year and a half. ❤️

[@melissastanton5647]

Hopefully I can meet someone like that in the future. I’ve only dated guys with no jobs. I’m 37.

[@RCooke357]

Why on earth would you do that? Stop it.

[@Lucas-tw1wx]

While the man works and provides what does the women do is she working cause if so ????? Is the man suppose to spend all his money while she saves her ???

[@jackseve]

🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎤🎤🎤🎤🎤🎤

[@catsncrows]

I the woman was the provider and I'm extremely happy with that because the men in my life were too busy singing the song of intergenerational trauma. Yes I take the responsibility for finding them but I never made the mistake of relying on anyone else

[@RCooke357]

You are very very misguided. Women like you ruined dating and men.

[@techtactics788]

Don't be useless domestically and ask a woman 50/50. Big believer in providing but within a marriage mostly. I have only ever split the bill on a date and she was implicitly boasting about her money, had masculine energy cos she was a well known actress. Otherwise as a man, don't simp and go all out investing in a woman that won't make it to the altar with. Minus £6000-10000 at the end of the year while she saves hers for mortgage deposit Multiplied by 2 years is why you should think again. Also as a man be more capable and able to do/help your woman about the house. I clean, do laundry, mow garden, bin out, cook, bbq amongst others.

[@Mr.StanddOnBusiness]

I aint useless but I also don't waste money.

[@amycurtis535]

@@Mr.StanddOnBusiness aww you guys should date each other.

[@kade3087]

Promo-SM

[@wyleecoyotee4252]

As a female i am my own provider

[@lstockton8468]

Ladies, please stop calling yourselves "females". Men use that term as a replacement for b****. We are women, ladies, queens, etc.

[@truettadevil]

Why do women keep calling themselves 'females' 🤔

[@Mr.StanddOnBusiness]

Good, stay that way.

[@annaburns2865]

This is the most feminine man I’ve ever seen talking about masculinity. Can we get someone who actually dates women to take about how to treat a woman?

[@LatiWins]

It’s telling and sad that a gay guy knows more about how a man should behave than all these straight men out here…

[@truettadevil]

You can listen to the Manosphere 💅🏾

[@ashifarman4813]

​@LatiWipns of course you say this because it is the way you want men to behave and it sad that there are many idiotic women on the internet telling men how to behave oh sorry telling men how to serve them and provides them

[@KJ81574]

So many bible verses on what God says a man is, but y'all would rather listen to this dude's opinion? That's wild!

[@EveofPyrite]

... he is a man who provides good information as well ❤ Also the bible doesn't go into great detail about masculinity. It shows us what leadership and love and stuff is though

[@Private-b4j]

@KJ81574 What this man says, particularly with respect to this video, is biblically sound.

[@Private-b4j]

​@EveofPyrite You're right, Eve. Also, this message is biblically sound. * God says a man who doesn't provide is WORSE than an infidel. An infidel is a d@mned man, destined for h3l·l. A man with that destiny can't lead you anywhere except to h3l·l, right alongside him. Your life will fail if you associate at all with non-providers. Close association is to your detriment. This is why it is important to ONLY follow your legal husbands who, in turn, follow God. Conversely, God doesn't say men should only provide for their wives. God tells us all Christians are family (re: brothers and sisters in Christ). God tells men to provide for their families. This means men are to be providers, even when dating. A man who complains about this is simply making poor excuses for lack of financial achievement and zero discernment. Obviously, I'm speaking in reference to believers since that is who @KJ8whoever tries to chastise, albeit unsuccessfully. Be well, Eve. You're in the right space. Other loving fathers would advise their daughters with the same messages presented by Anwar. *Ref: 1 Timothy in any Bible version

[@Private-b4j]

​@@EveofPyrite Dearest Eve, does the Bible not provide poignant examples of masculinity by way of Its story telling? The stories are there, in excess, to demonstrate the way men should treat everyone they encounter. Men who abuse masculinity are met with ruin and distress to themselves as well as their families. Examples are given so you will know, in your days, what a good and righteous man behaves as. Discard their words and only listen to their actions. This is the way. The Bible, when read in complete context and with respect to the audience it was intended to address, can be studied as a lifelong teaching manual. It is a living word that maintains utmost relevance to this day and beyond. I hope this wasn't preachy. I don't intend to convey you to this way of believing, if you're desire is elsewhere. Live and let live. I only intend to applaud your diplomatic response to the previous post and add to the validity of your response. I don't intend to step on your feet.

[@EveofPyrite]

@@Private-b4j you have made a great point thanks for sharing sweetheart

[@blunttalkingoffspring]

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