How did you know it was love? (Strangers Answer)

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[@Thorayaa]

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[@MyTube3542]

Thanks for another awesome video ❤

[@fatinarifin7961]

@thoraaya thank you for doing what you do!

[@latashagreen8565]

The first guy is experiencing a once in a lifetime love. You can tell in the way he speaks about her, the way he looks at her and the way his emotions pour out. The love even seems to be a healing experience for him. I pray that it last forever for the both of them.

[@skylinerunner1695]

Sadly it won't last forever, but they will thrive and grow while it does last

[@adaezenjoku7527]

@@skylinerunner1695how do you know? Statistically they are likely to break up but you can never make a sure answer because there’s a chance they won’t

[@amandaforrester7636]

​@@skylinerunner1695don't cast that kind of bitter thoughts on someone else's relationship. It says more about you than them or reality.

[@skylinerunner1695]

@@amandaforrester7636 not bitter, just experienced. Besides, the second part of my comment was positive.

[@skylinerunner1695]

@@adaezenjoku7527 Experience.

[@kakathi4776]

The first guy declares his love for his girl in such a beautiful way. ❤

[@niggasgang8784]

He was about to cry too. Bro was in his feelings

[@maddymaiolo171]

That hug was precious and this is so wholesome!!

[@suraya5288]

Such a beautiful feeling to demonstrate love for someone that’s so pure and healthy. I wish the same for me and every person too🙏🏼❤️✨

[@yessig.9910]

Gives me hope that this still exists 🤞🏼💯

[@bilaliq1449]

That guy is weak an women dont like weak men. She will dump him in future

[@rstart.1276]

“I think I knew it was love when it stopped being scary, and when the butterflies calmed down; I think it can be exciting but I knew I was in love when he made me feel calm and safe and sometimes a little sleepy. It wasn’t huge and explosive but something I settled into.” Love love that. I see that as mature love ❤

[@zb2363]

Out of the mouths of babes, as they say ❤

[@h.s.l6875]

That's how i imagine love to be..

[@madisonhartwick8114]

That’s the real thing. I resonated with her words so much.

[@TheBorderRyker]

It’s absolutely true. For me, love is in the quiet moments where words are not necessary. When, for example, you can be in each other’s company just sitting quietly reading or whatever and you both look up at the same time and just smile. Or in the silly moments when you laugh together for little or no reason. It’s in the smile that lights up in my wife’s eyes. It was in the first time I told my (now) wife “I love you” accidentally on the telephone. It just sort of happened. After I hung up I kind of sat in shock for a few minutes thinking to myself “Shit! It’s true.”. We’ve been together ever since. Thank you for the beautiful videos that you make Thoraya. You are a beautiful soul. Best wishes from Scotland 🙏🏻🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿

[@jogreen7]

Butterflies is actually warning signals your body sends that you are in danger.

[@ladonnabby]

That sleepy love cause your nervous system says “The world is hard, but you can rest here” I’m looking forward to a love that feels this safe❣️

[@sonnenschein7325]

❤❤

[@bhiggy0103]

I just found it :) and this is the most accurate way of describing it

[@BenziitOfemme]

Meee tttoooo

[@shhhyourtooloud257]

Oh my lord I never knew I'd want something called sleepy love 😂 so genuinely sweet aww

[@julg7996]

Exactly, I hope this comes to me too. Im tired man..

[@Heldin33]

The first gut and the girl at 3:42: 1000%! Love is not what Hollywood put in our brains.. it is actually peace, calmness. Security, friendship.

[@rebeccans7729]

So true! This is something I think every girl eventually unlearns & im glad they do

[@Hans12352]

^^^ very much agreed!!!

[@camilafilosafia333]

I concur

[@mluna69]

Right! My thoughts exactly

[@danilotusflower]

It is truly beautiful ❤

[@Aceofspades737]

To the last girl, I hope you find a healthy love you deserve. You're a beautiful person

[@Erica-en2qz]

Agreed. I hope the same for her ❤

[@ROForeverMan]

She just went for Chad. Nothing new.

[@sharonmusau6462]

My heart aches for her... I've been her. Things will look up but she should first learn to love herself.

[@wolfganga8004]

Unfortunatly she was probably going out with a boy with an avoidantt attachment style with narcisistic traits. The best that could happen to her is to get the relationship to an end.

[@julg7996]

Omg! Last girl! I have never been in your relationship position. More of the opposite actually, I'm the inexperinced type. BUT the way you spoke about LOVE struck me. And I can see your mind is destined to go into healthier places and attract healthier people. You will find such a deep real good love. One better than your mind has ever previously dreamed of. Maybe with yourself first, or God, and then with a man. :) ❤💜💙

[@avokittypup]

"You're my peace" sums it up very well imo. ❤️🙌

[@thestrangequarksexperience501]

i try to understand romanitic love, but i can not understand, how you can feel more peace, beeing with a person, then beeing alone...

[@ellenixie9024]

I wonder too, I never felt more at peace than being by myself doing my own thing

[@angeleyes3396]

@@ellenixie9024I find myself to being more at peace alone than with others too. But I suppose they mean the person calms you when life does get out of sorts, which inevitably happens. They are “the calm in someone’s storm” which is always good to have. ❤

[@ellenixie9024]

@@angeleyes3396 Oh, I don't know this feeling, when I'm facing a hard time I need to isolate myself and endure it on my own. I hate pity from other people, I feel so weak and like a burden. I wonder if I could change this behavior in the future, it's exhausting

[@a.w.4005]

​@@ellenixie9024 hey i think it can change, for a long time i felt just like you, like if i ever trusted anyone with my problems i would be a burden, that i had to be strong to be loved. But a really hard experience, where i became very weak and dependent and where i could have died, showed me that i really can depend on my family, that they love me and care for me even in my worst moments, when i'm not able to give back anything. Now i'm starting to trust others, mostly my family, more with my problems and i seek out help even when i'm not already at my absolute limit, because i know that they actually want to help me, as i want to help them. And i learned that i am not a burden to them, as they aren't to me, even in difficult times.

[@ti44erspigs_creations]

As a hopeless romantic, this gave me so much hope 😊

[@user-mo9ly9wp6o]

For me it opened wounds

[@user-gl6kz2qm1x]

​. i wish for you that you will meet someone who is honest, kind and treats you gently. S.O. you will love and who loves you so much so These wounds will mend. lots and lots of love from me to your hurt parts. You are more than enough and beautiful just as you are. ❤

[@NatureLove_-fy3fk]

Ikr

[@adriennecrider2529]

Same❤

[@blackbullet4254]

​@@user-gl6kz2qm1xwelcome to another episode of things that will never happen

[@imtiredanddone]

was getting confused at the 117 years together but the way she put it was so beautiful and made so much sense, glad they entered their marriage

[@miss_B_]

i still don't get it

[@Jasiaaa_]

⁠@@miss_B_they were both in a different marriage before they got together 5 years ago

[@miss_B_]

@@Jasiaaa_ okay, thank you for explaining but the lady doesn't seem to know how time works then, you can't just sum up that way lol

[@chels4723]

@@miss_B_ together, in total, that's a 117 years OF marriage. She never said with eachother or wether it was at the same time or not.

[@gabriellameattray9778]

​@@Jasiaaa_the fact that they found love in their old age plus after divorce is so inspiring!

[@jakeg.2975]

I honestly loved how the mothr was proud of her child but also proud of herself. Instead of feeling outchined by their child experience, which isn't very uncommon, she was was supportive of the different opinions and the healthier response of the daughter. its sweet

[@musicandfever304]

Her response wasn't unhealthy either- it was just a very, very strong infatuation.

[@IWH559]

Yessss! It’s so admirable to see that even though she wasn’t sure what love was herself, she clearly was able to give it to and model it toward her daughter in order for her to see it in such a healthy way. So beautiful. Love isn’t always about romance… it comes in many forms, with many different people and circumstances, like being a good mother in this instance 😊❤

[@piyupayal]

Love is like coming home. You're safe. Peaceful and not afraid of anything in this whole world.

[@Anotherhumanexisting]

I had someone who was my home but I ruined it…

[@lj3505]

I’m in love I’m so in love He’s home He’s safe He’s happiness and intelligent conversation and makes me feel beautiful and just so perfectly wanted. Neither of us are in a place to be together right now and I’m sometimes a little lost trying to understand that I hope one day he can be my home and I can be his

[@melodyal3357]

Beautifully said👏😊

[@rebeccans7729]

I love how genuine the first guy is. It’s in his eyes before anything. So bright and grateful. I love it & I wish him and his girl the best ❤

[@S3mi7]

"I come from a place where everyone's a hugger, when I hugged my wife she just fit different" CRYING

[@ayazakaria6939]

The 16 year old girl gave a very mature answer and I second her on that. I hope one day I’ll find that love, that safety and calmness.

[@RolanMar]

I was in love with a man but I never told him, and when he ended up with the woman he loved and chose, I felt happy for him.. thats when I knew that my love for him was real despite the fact that I never got or will get the chance to tell him. I felt happy for his happiness.

[@roxitocin]

Same

[@GeorgeLista]

It could have been you… but you never told him. If you were happy for him, maybe you were always a great friend but not the kind of love to be the woman he chose. But it could have been, maybe, if you wanted it enough. Is it love if you don’t want it enough to tell them? Interesting comment… so many possibilities of what was really going on. Of course I have no idea if the truth of things really.

[@damnedifidonut]

​@@GeorgeLista I'm only assuming, but I think our buddy RolanMar here is a guy And the man he loved wasn't into guys (?)

[@esthermubiana7651]

I can totally relate to this

[@happygucci5094]

Wow 💗

[@xx_young]

When he said, "You are my peace". That's it. That's the comment.

[@offbrandrew]

You’ve clearly got some sort of magic in the way that you approach people, because everyone always seems so relaxed and comfortable when they’re in front of your camera! It’s incredible to see people smiling and giggling while answering a question from a stranger they just met on the street. I don’t know how you do it, but it’s absolutely fascinating and so incredible the way you just bring out the beauty in so many people and invite them to be their genuine selves, because that’s really when the most beauty is brought out in people. It’s not only beautiful to see people’s faces on camera the way you do, but it’s also beautiful what you do off camera because clearly you have a one-of-a-kind warmth that brings such a transparency to your videos. Always love your content❤

[@jodis2333]

Yes definitely magic! I wish they would finished every nightly news report with one of your interviews so it would bring people back to what's truely important in life. Our connections with each other 💕

[@lucidmaya]

Soooo well said!!! ❤❤❤

[@aaronzever4643]

“Most of us are addicted to the chaos in relationships” deep

[@RafunzelReyes]

I just want peace. Real peace. But in this world where there's a lot of choices how can someone make me feel like I'm the only one? Everyone asks for loyalty and peace when they can't give it themselves.

[@shaynestanz1]

Being told you are someone's peace is an S-tier compliment. There's no better feeling.

[@RafunzelReyes]

Peace. A home. A family of my own. These are the real goals.

[@RafunzelReyes]

💎

[@TheM7373]

Love is when the honeymoon phase ends and you see the person in their entirety: the good, the bad, the painful, the selfish, the ugly and still choose to love them everyday.

[@phillipinek1856]

I really felt for the last girl. I’ve been there too. It’s so painful to know that you don’t know what love really feels like. I’m not sure I do yet, but I’m starting to.

[@spookywitch0x0]

It's the same for me, i feel her emotions.. i've experienced a very similar relationship, was my first and only so far and i'm not sure what love is yet too, but it's getting better and maybe i found it or have found a best friend

[@randomonnet]

Yeah i can also relate ppl often says that m loving person but when they ask m about love i just went numb. For me definition of love was my 5 year relationship earlier but when it faded, every relationship then after i went through felt like i was in confusion whether this is love or not. Its like he is doing everything according to him to make me happy n feel secure but am not able to feel tht kinda safety n peace which i used to feel before. I cannot differentiate whether this is my gutfeelings or m pretty anxious . Am just so fucked up n confused tht i sometimes ended being alone for days n weeks to love myself to just ran away from all those ppl who ask me about my love life or how i felt being in a relationship where i genuinely find no reason of staying bcz m internally broken into thousands of pieces from which each of them are asking whether love make u feel like this. Sorry guys it was long enough but its just wat i m feeling since long.

[@daijay9084]

The first guy expressed his love so well to the girl who broke my heart in her previous appearance. So glad that she has found comfort and then to have it reaffirmed by their friend at the end. Their story giving her hope. Brilliant bookending.

[@alyssamartinez2661]

To the last woman who felt like she didn’t know what love was anymore because of some trash person, the right person won’t make you feel that way. In fact, they’ll see all of the wonderful things about you that you didn’t even know existed. Wait for that ❤

[@HouseMDaddict]

And I think her having a best friends who's in a healthy relationship will help her see what a healthy relationship looks like. I liked all three of them very much!!

[@lilocee8230]

Thank you, I’m keeping my fingers crossed, and yes indeed having a best friend that has such a healthy relationship and seeing what love is is helping me see what it is 🫶🏻

[@adevore1971]

​@@lilocee8230you're a beautiful person and you deserve the best 💖

[@Autumnstarrify]

Or that won’t happen. I relate to her so much, & I’m 49. I have loved deeply, safely, was content, was loyal. But that was never reciprocated forever, like I loved. I loved forever. The last one knew my past, played the role, until he didn’t. I BELIEVED in him, felt safe for the first time, and he wiped the earth w my& children’s souls. I will never love again,

[@DiamondsRexpensive]

​@@AutumnstarrifyMen. That's why we make them sign marriage papers and give us money and property before laying in bed with them and having their offspring.

[@C.C.369]

To the Mom of the "more balanced girl" : 🌟HELL YEAH YOU DID A GOOD JOB!!🌟 And you're still doing a darn good job!! - Such honest reflection about your vs your daughters statement - and admitting in front of your daughter AND the camera that her take might be healthier is just so wholesome and awesome! I have so much respect for you Lady!! ❤️💯

[@user-hk3qy3hr8u]

That's true!!!!

[@yro82]

Love isn’t a one size fits all. We all have different experiences and needs. All I took from it was that the mom’s life was different than her daughters.

[@ariana.billett]

My GOD 😢 The first guy made me cry. It was when hes standing next to her and shes talking and he's looking at her. You can tell he is deeply in love and it is so beautiful and raw and pure.

[@bubba283]

I think I'm in love with gfs brother but he don't know, since we're both guys I just hadn't said anything

[@rml9629]

This made me cry ❤ I have been married for 18 years and sometimes the comfort of our relationship causes me to take some things for granted. I just sat here and thought about how we got together and all that we have been through. We really love each other so much. Thank you for reminding me! I needed that ❤

[@lovelivi1591]

Same.. 17plus years and it's hard not to take thing for granted but I found I diamond for sure and he reminds me all the time why I love him!♡

[@ijustneedmyself]

Sometimes we need a reminder. That's okay. I lost my husband in September after 17 years together. Depending on how your brain works, it can be all too easy to focus on the bad things. I can't help but think I could've and should've done more to show my husband how much I loved him and wish I would've been more present with him when he was dealing with cancer. It sounds so cliche, but the happiest people are probably those who live in the moment because that's all we have. It took losing my husband to appreciate those mundane moments a lot more. What I would give for just one more chance to lay on the couch watching TV or go grocery shopping with him.

[@xvmmazy4398]

W mom for noticing she might be wrong and her daughter right. Showing your vulnerability to your kids once they have grown up is a very good thing to do. Hope she will find someone that makes her come to terms with her definition of love

[@patricklacaille8528]

Oh my gosh I’m bawling. You do such amazing work. I was thinking about my wife through this whole video. I love how so many people talk about they knew it was love when they had a sense of calm. That’s how it is with my wife. There’s no silly games. She gives me such calm and such peace… I literally can not picture life without her.

[@thestrangequarksexperience501]

i feel most calm and at peace, when im alone, maybe im not made for a relationship?

[@NameNik223]

@@thestrangequarksexperience501 I believe there are right people in the world for almost everyone. My grandparents were together for 47 years. They were living in separate rooms in the house and just meeting in the kitchen or when going somewhere outside. My grandpa would work in his room while my grandma was usually somewhere outside. And yet, they were probably a perfect match for each other. Whenever they were together, they were acting as a team. It's just that they needed their own private space in the house and they respected that. So I believe you will find the right person that will enrich your life and at the same time will let you feel at peace without the feeling of intrusion in your private space.

[@thestrangequarksexperience501]

@@NameNik223 well im 42 now. i had one longtermrelationship. for me it felt like beeing togather with my best friend. i ended the relationship, but we are still friends. i dont understand what romantic love means... especallily i dont understand, the "the 1 woman with the 1 man"-thing... isnt that just the instinkt to procreate?

[@meghansullivan6812]

@@NameNik223 I love that they had separate rooms!!!

[@WiWillemijn]

I love how you made the first guy feel comfortable 😊❤ Edit: and I'm happy you did because omg what he said was so beautiful!

[@kakathi4776]

To me personally, love is not something that your brain knows but what your heart feels. Something i cant explain. 💕

[@Aceofspades737]

Is it possible for you to love someone but for them to not treat you like they love you back?

[@douweevenhuis9812]

I would not suggest to take this kind of personal advice from random strangers, but my take on this limited information is: Talk about how you feel with them. Ofcourse it is possible for somebody to treat you like that. And yes you can still be in love with someone that does that to you. Heck he/she might be actually in love with you aswell but just has some issues he/she deals with like that. Talk Talk Talk. The only solution to find out. if it turns out this person does not actually love you. The healthiest thing to do you is to break it up probably.@@Aceofspades737

[@felipevinicios]

@@Aceofspades737 I think that is exactly what happens most of the times

[@Aceofspades737]

@@felipevinicios yeah most people I love just love the attention I give them. Maybe I'm jaded but people are generally selfish and I'm not for it

[@morganbaldwin4828]

Your heart pumps blood, trust me it’s your brain that knows

[@lorettahiggins3717]

I had real, true love with my husband until cancer took him. I was blessed to have had over 30 years of patience, support, comfort, being loved for who I truly am. My Michael was the calm to my storm and made me feel safe, always. When he died I lost my joy. They say that the deeper you loved, the longer you grieve. It's been seven years now and I miss him every day. I loved him from the moment I met him and will continue to love him until I see him again someday. 💙😇💙

[@sonyavincent7450]

Same here. I knew the night I met him I would spend the rest of my life with him. But I was wrong. I spent the rest of his life with him. He died of a heart attack in front of me five years ago. It's been agony since then.

[@alexiswrites9264]

It sounds like you two had a beautiful love together!

[@mythicdw7826]

Oh my gosh😲... I'm sorry that happened to you. 😔💐💟 Much condolences to you.

[@nahemadee448]

… the way everybody’s eyes just started to sparkle when they described their love for their partner…. something, that can’t ever be faked

[@blinky007]

"...as I hugged her, she just fit differently." ♡

[@sandra8991]

The first guy gives me so much hope. And I can feel so much with him relating to how heavy life can be just by yourself. I'm really looking forward to such a relationship he and his beautiful companion have. They look so happy together.

[@portia547]

The fact that she felt she was too broken to ever be truly loved made me cry - I actually saw that video. Seeing it come full circle. So BEAUTIFUL. I’ve been where she was, I won’t give up hope ❤

[@jadyncarpenter1482]

“Is this love or is this a mental illness” ☠️☠️☠️ too real

[@ccrisvalue]

I think it' s different being in love than loving someone. Butterflies, not sleeping, being anxious feels like being in love. When you get to know that person, know their ups and downs, accept them, and feel calm and in peace in their compsny,, that's love. You love that person

[@valeriapasquare8459]

Because his presence emanated that mix of warmth and solace similar to the very distinctive feeling of coming back home after a very long journey

[@WearySecret]

Because home is a person

[@krissifadwa]

The third girl nailed it. Those couples that seem to last for a tremendously long time, grow mature with one another, like a team... they often fall for each other through calm. Not through a gigantic explosion.

[@annavarghese4269]

"I think I knew it was love when it ended" 💔

[@nyomiromero5468]

I love how the last girl describes love as her best friend's relationship, but you can really see the love between friendships as well. Her face changing into a smile out of no where with her..that is love.

[@melonie_peppers]

I love that the mother learned something new that day. Older generations didn't get the chance to re-evaluate toxic relationships

[@FedeMartin16]

"Hopefully I will find what she has" She may be heartbroken but that girl at the end has hope. And as long as there is hope, there can be love in her life. Hopefully she finds what she deserves. Beautiful video and couples. Thanks fror sharing, Thoraya!!

[@lilocee8230]

Thank you this really did make my day ❤️

[@FedeMartin16]

​@@lilocee8230OMG IS IT YOU??

[@lilocee8230]

@@FedeMartin16yes it is

[@FedeMartin16]

@@lilocee8230 Girl, you DESERVE all the best. I don't know how long has it been since the video, but I wish you are happy and if not, hopefull that every little thing is gonna be alright. Cause you deserve it. Thanks for sharing your story and being so inspiring. I didn't need to be in your shoes to notice your strenght, so thanks for telling the world about this part of you. 🙏🏻 hope you have a wonderful weeknd and a wonderfull life.

[@jessbarry856]

Last girl… the love you’re looking for is with yourself. ❤

[@nanaisloved2736]

I was avoiding dating for so long after losing a beloved person to suicide, I was really shutting down my emotions. Not wanting someone else to influence my decisions or take away freedom from me. The girl who said butterflies are no good indicator is so right, actually butterflies are more of a warning sign from the body, whereas calmness and peace are wonderful signs of a good match. I am slowly opening up again and really hope to find my peace too someday

[@amberc3728]

❤

[@ramyanagashree]

All the best to you!

[@MeganRuth]

For me it was when I realised I didn't want to live a day without him in my life. We were best friends, and now we've been dating for almost two years.

[@Dragonmoon8526]

Love to me is feeling safe and accepted. Just a feeling of peace and security. Great video.

[@rawsushiiiii]

I thought of my husband throughout the entire video. Peace is the best way I can describe love. Amazing video as always ❤

[@josiahklein70]

Don't neglect your friendships and the family you choose! Romantic love is not the only kind out there.

[@theabbychronicles-p]

For me it was when I knew I stopped masking infront of him

[@Theyorkiegamer]

Being lonley is hard , trying to cope with it is harder

[@YBCause]

I think I met my soul mate about 10 years ago. I haven't seen him for 6 years now, but I still feel grateful to have met him at some point in my life. I knew it was love because we laughed at things that people didn't even know could be laughable. Things were so easy, we could communicate so well. I'm living my life without him but I know he exists somewhere, and this makes me happy. I don't need more.

[@luisaruiz5030]

People are so beautiful in so many ways. So many emotions that cannot find words, so much that one keeps and that in front of the camera explodes in the form of tears. How nice it is to meet beautiful people. Thank you for your sensitivity to them and to us who see and hear them.

[@mohitgandhi8261]

Always Loved the kind of videos you bring out. Lots of Respect and Compassion from India. The world is 12 min. 43 seconds brighter and kinder because of you.

[@PatriciaBrown1711]

Defintely.

[@Kams3]

This made me cry. I never really opened up to someone because of past traumas so I actually haven't experienced that genuine kind of love. It scares me to be vulnerable. But the thought of that calm and gentle kind of love, I think that's beautiful ❤

[@bigmouthshlee]

I just want to give the last girl a hug. She seems like a very kind and loving person. I hope she finds someone who loves her for exactly who she is.

[@studentwolf1538]

The way the first person looks at his girl. My heart melted! Young love ❤

[@elibox2456]

I knew it was love because I ached when we were apart. I knew it was love because I felt like myself. I knew it was love because we laughed. I knew it was love because I could decompress from the rest of the world with them. I knew it was love because it couldn’t have been anything else. I found my people, my family, with them. And now I’m never lonely, even when we are apart, because the weight of the ring feels like holding their hands.

[@f4iryc4tm0th3r]

this made me tear up omg you write beautifully 😭

[@ZB-esque]

A relationship should bring peace. The first couple are so sweet, hope their love and relationship lasts forever.

[@GregO0oo]

@1:42 "...it's just peace; you're my peace!" Many ladies don't realize how profound and how important this is to a man!

[@WearySecret]

@Greg00oo could you elaborate why this particular word has such a meaning for the recepipiant?

[@GregO0oo]

@@WearySecret We face many battles every day we go out into the world to hunt and to provide for those who are dear to us. The last thing that we need is schism at home or battles against the very same people that we are striving to provide the best for. Our home (however you want to interpret this) is our castle where we return to recharge for the next days battle against the world...

[@InternetNonsense]

@@GregO0oo It works for women too, love is essentially teamwork. Not someone being the stressor and other being the quiet sponge of all negativity. Part of why many women are choosing to be single because many men are used to lashing out on and putting extra load of labour on women's heads as if a given. It pays to wait for the right one that lets you be soft and in return soothe him too, not some games, competition trying to outplay and fleece each other and brag to the rotten part of the world about it. Too many feel the need to piss in someone else's pool of tranquility, only doing "take, take, take" part without a "give" to balance it out and make it worth it. It is kind of sad how the trust needed for said peace is often missing and given more reason to be so.

[@GregO0oo]

@@InternetNonsense Ok! You’re right…and trans women are men too! 👀😑

[@PRETTYPINKZOEEE]

Oh my goodness I need to always remember this. “Butterflies are not the signifier of love , it’s excitement. But when he made me feel calm and safe.. that’s how I knew it was love. I felt comfortable calm and content”

[@annasoloviova911]

I love to hear people being open about their feelings, and to see people who are accept and nourish each other in their love.

[@megrandall9687]

I love that you asked that last girl what she would imagine it could be like. It’s a way of supporting her in considering new possibilities & moving towards that.

[@Erica-en2qz]

I was so touched by the first guy's answer. It's so clear they have a beautiful love. And kudos to you, Thoraya, out of all the people you've interviewed over the years, for remembering his girlfriend specifically. I love that twist to her story 😊. I hope they continue to have a strong and long-lasting relationship.❤

[@estrellaverbeck]

"Calm and Safe and A little Sleepy." That's peace.

[@savannahleeross7373]

This 1st guy, he is spot on..... He is definitely smitten ❤️ He is a keeper, husband him up girl ❤️❤️❤️ You 2 are adorable together ✌️

[@craigfreeman7665]

I fell in with my wife when we first met it was love at first site.we met at my graduation party in 1988 and married in1996 and we are going strong in 2023 my heart still skips a beat every time I see her.

[@Larissa_Maciel]

Amazing how his description of love is exactly the one in Genesis, it is companionship, it is peace, it is being one flesh (the part where he says that she is like an extension of him, is almost quoting what Adam said to Eve when he saw her). Love it.

[@dopaminee00]

“i didn’t know it was love until i left.” i felt this one to the core, you don’t know what you got until it’s gone.

[@jayamarillo628]

I already knew my partner had self harmed in the past, but today I noticed a scar on him that was only a couple weeks old. We've been together for just over a month, so to know that he still does it was really, really painful to me. We had a conversation, and I could feel myself coming up with all of the correct things to say to him to comfort him (I'm just the type of person who never, ever says things right) and, just how strongly I felt the pain from him hurting himself made me realize just how much I truly love him.

[@Dontrolling]

That’s how my relationship started, I showed my boyfriend and had pictures in my phone which I used to stop myself if I thought about doing it, he deleted all of those photos and simply asked why, I explained, he listened and didn’t judge. From that day forward I was at his house everyday, he showed me life, got me in the gym, showed me how to positively channel my pain into building myself, everything healed (haven’t cut since that day), his family brought me closer to God and he’s still my favorite person. Just listen that’s all I can say.

[@Blobri]

Honestly, love is not hard, and should not be hard. People doing so much, trying to hard, etc etc... that's not love. Everyone should be comfortable with each other and working together. There is nothing behind it, just.. what it is. That's hard to find!

[@Nerdgirl1648]

BEAUTIFUL! All the perspectives are incredible and shockingly relatable. Honesty is hard, props to all of these people that have clearly been through so much. Cheers to those who have found it, and good luck to those that are still searching; it’s real and it’s out there for each and every one of us.

[@xchalky1989]

One of my favorite interviews. Shawn, you’re making the world a better place. Thank you.

[@sunnni_]

The first couple is the love I desire and want to experience just once in this life but the last girl was a similar love I've received as well. I thought I knew what love was and how it felt but I learned that I don't. But now I've taken on a new perspective to give myself that love first so when I get that love, I won't push it away but accept it full on. I normally would cry when I see things like this but I had the biggest smile and heart was fully open. I hope everyone including that girl finds a love that brings them peace, tranquility, and friendship ❤❤

[@kathleenoconnor8155]

I have only recently found your videos and I so enjoy them! Your questions are so deep and thought-provoking, and really allow us to see the real person that I think a lot of people don't really see. You can even get shy people to open up. This question was probably the best question so far. The first couple were amazing!

[@godzillanightmare]

Its great seeing people that normally I would think are so tough and cold based on their looks open up about such a subject as love. It shows their depth I would not normally see on the surface.

[@saripotter9214]

I knew it was love when I wasn't scared of what was to come anymore because I knew he'd be by my side, cheering me on and reminding me why life is such a beautiful, fascinating thing. I knew it was love when he made life feel worth living.

[@saripotter9214]

anyways he broke up with me-

[@shivalichopra2902]

The first guy made me tear up. He explained it so beautifully ❤❤

[@amelajay]

My goodness this brought tears. Thank you for your lovely contribution to the world!

[@BellaWarhol]

Awww the last girl.. I hope she found love.. what an amazing human being, with so much to give and so much love inside of her .. she truly deserves everything and beyond .. and I hope her friends love was a great inspiration for her .. because how he loves her, is just everything

[@sarahsmith1418]

I LOVE the variance in answers and experiences. Very very good guidance in the questions too, this is great.

[@WhereTheRainbowEnds1111]

Awe this was so sweet. Made me teary eyed! I love hearing people talk about this subject. There is so much sadness in the world right now, its great to see some feel-good on the internet 💜🌼💜

[@evonne315]

These are some of the most beautiful inteviews on the web. So grateful to hear how many people are coming to a healthy place in love and in life ❤

[@chia6459]

The way the first guy looks at his gf, that's what we all want. ❤ A girl should give peace to her man and a man should put his girl above himself.

[@majchalajdu]

Your videos always make me cry but in a positive way :) Thank you for sharing!

[@laurarepetti3449]

This was such a wholesome ep, as someone who's never had the chance to be in love (yet!) it's so heartwarming to hear more than one person in the vid reflecting on previous hurt and still finding love ❤

[@jaelahd936]

Don't ever stop doing what you do, Thoraya! Thank you so much for this video ♡

[@mariamb344]

This is so wholesome and heartwarming. What a bunch of incredibly smart, raw, and insightful people! Thank you.

[@yeseniacontreras3287]

I would love to reach out to the girl at 11:30. I had a similar experience where I was deeply deeply infatuated with a guy. The whole time we were together he had a girl best friend who I was extremely jealous of, I changed myself to fit her image because I felt that was what he wanted. I started listening to different music, dressing differently, watching different shows, my whole identity changed. For two years we went back and forth, he would leave me for her and then he would come back telling me he had made a mistake. Then one day, after he had broken me down over and over, he told me that he was in a good place and that my mental health was dragging him down. A few weeks later i found out that he had told the best friend he was in love with her the whole time. It’s been about 5 years but I still find myself putting the pieces of who I was before him back together.

[@chasing_the_good7260]

It sounds like you experienced narcissistic abuse, I'm so sorry and I'm glad you aren't connected with him anymore. You deserve to be loved for who you are, and made to feel good and supported and happy in a relationship ❤️

[@ramyanagashree]

From my experience, I think we can't go back to the older version of ourselves before things happened. Definitely trauma will leave a mark. But we need to learn from that and move on with hope. And ofcourse, love ourselves (that's something I realised after going through so much, giving to people so much). Take all the time to heal. Not everyone can heal in certain amount of time. Also we feel that we have healed but then get triggered by something that brings all the pain from the past. Eventually we will heal and become the best version of ourselves. All the best 👍

[@nannoreul]

Put yourself back together and never ever accept behaviour like that again. If someone leaves you, let them and never let them come back because it sets a precedent.

[@carolyndamico2924]

My heart still hurts, from a lost love over 50 years ago. Still recall how he made me feel. Safe and complete. Am married now to a different person. But my feelings are so different with the present person. I know will never feel ,like the way I did back 50 years ago. A love tucked into my heart forever. ❤️♥️

[@temperance1211]

I feel this so much! I'm afraid I'll never feel that way again, but so grateful to have had it.

[@carolyndamico2924]

@@temperance1211 yes agree. To know true love. Is such a beautiful gift.

[@tangerinetundraag1014]

the lady at 9:08 was really sweet and then I was like oh...OHHHH SNAP kinda feel bad for both their spouses honestly.

[@thefoolmountain9481]

The way those best friends looked at each other, that's love too ❤️

[@redrobin0220]

Your videos are so wonderful. Humbling. A beautiful insight into the lives of strangers. Makes us feel not so alone ❤

[@elinacara6]

to the last girl; you will find someone that will make you feel at peace and feel like you are the best and most beautiful person in the world. This person should make you feel like you are the best truest version of yourself, and i have no doubt you will find when the time is right ❤

[@Mel.H_]

The woman at the end was describing what a trauma bond feels like. I hope she figures that out for herself soon. ❤❤❤

[@kauneyli]

How beautiful it is to see people talk about their loved ones

[@lydiacoffey2003]

Whenever I’m feeling down I come here to restore my faith in humanity…so thank you for sharing the beauty of human kind in a world that focuses on the darkness rather then the light❤

[@ymb6987]

That was pure and so sweet - especially the first couple! Love these questions Thoraya💖

[@Dontknowwhattosay]

i hope the last girl gets to find love