How Different Moms React When You're Depressed - Lasizwe

How different parents react when you tell them you are depressed.
Credits:
Head of Content : Simmy More (@SimmyMore)
Camera Operator: Kelvin Muvevi (@Kelvin_tanakaphotography)
Editor: Tumi Mamabolo

[@MandisaM]

Translation for black mom (I tried) Mom: sibongiseni, Haibo why is it so dark in this house like we’re practicing witchcraft. You know what the neighbors will say? They’ll say we’re practicing witchcraft, what? What? Sibongiseni: I think you don’t understand, I’m depressed mom: you’re depressed? Oh okay, so now if you’re depressed we mustn’t eat? Sinongiseni sighs Mom: no I was just asking that if you’re depressed so we don’t eat? When I come into the room you say I’m toxic, we’re not scared in this house. To speak the truth, you’re selfish. You’re Just like your father, your dad, just like him. Sibongiseni: just leave me along, can you just leave me alone Mom: this depression wherever it can from, it must go back. This impression it must stop now it must stop nxaaa(As she’s about to leave) I said the pots and dishes are waiting for you and I’m leaving going to the society I want to lock the house so wake up and make yourself useful nxaa ......busy saying depression depression, not here not in my house.

[@dianamatemera2185]

You're a good person. Thank you 😁

[@satisfyingadna5269]

Thank you mandisa

[@dihannarodrigues4018]

😂😂😂😂 Thanks alot

[@samuelmwangi4431]

You went out of your way to translate. You must be a nice person. 🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@wivinemasango1840]

Thank you for translating you have a heart of 💛💛💛💛💛

[@TiaraAries]

I once told my mom tht I was depressed when I was in high school and she said "but I bought you a blazer" smh thts black parents for you💔😂

[@bhoddd]

😭😭

[@GameOn71213]

I went through depression my colored mom was like wtf? Is that? And started saying it's the devil

[@TiaraAries]

@@GameOn71213 our parents 👐

[@lollypop79]

😂💔💔

[@TiaraAries]

@@lollypop79 shit is real😂😂👐

[@officially.marang4284]

My mom would have been like doing the dishes would cure your depression 😭😭😭😭

[@helenalategan3607]

Mine too 🤣🤣🤣

[@Sunshine_INFJ]

True story...though doing the dishes helps me with anxiety

[@ropa_rue8298]

Typical African mom kkkk

[@miajudith122]

It’s an issue unfortunately

[@GameOn71213]

Colord mom's really don't know the meaning of the word depression, when the lights of they come in and go why are the lights off

[@vibingwithviola]

This truly depicts how far we still have to go when it comes to addressing mental health issues in our country..

[@keyatecephus9144]

I know😭😭💔 they just don't understand

[@Sarah-em8ru]

I agree

[@jennyo9120]

Sadly, the older generations do not believe in ‘depression’. They simply say people are moody/rude/lazy/unfriendly. 😟

[@Kim88581]

Unfortunately

[@iamliterallysosorryyolo9161]

Luckily that is slowly getting worse or better idk

[@itskamo332]

If we consider the trauma & depression our parents have went through and never had the opportunity to heal from because 'life must go on' and survival mode was their auto pilot, it makes it easier to understand (not accept or condone) why they are unsympathetic towards depressed kids. Labantu deadass saw their friends being killed but couldn't mourn/heal from that cos life simply had to go on! Let's break these curses guys 💔

[@mazstone6787]

Thank you for saying it, and saying it so well!

[@itskamo332]

@@mazstone6787 🙏🏽😊

[@omoego5397]

Wooo Perfect delivery...you said it all

[@mazstone6787]

@@youngbaby464 yes that's fair but when people don't address the difficulties that they've experienced this then affects their behaviours subconsciously, how they treat others and effectively results in generational trauma. If we practice being empathetic and understanding we help to break these patterns of behaviour and break the stigma surrounding seeking help for mental health ❤️

[@aalialvy]

Spot on! ❤️

[@LasizweDambuza]

Can someone translate in comments section what the black mom is say🤣🙈 I forgot to add the subtitles 🤣😩

[@lilianotoigo9579]

Please add the subtitles, for us who don't know the language

[@yanelanbabz238]

Translation❤ Black mom: Sbongiseni, why is it so dark in here like we're performing witchcraft? The neighbours will say we're performing witchcraft. What's going on? Sbongiseni: I think you don't understand, I am depressed. I have depression. Black mom: Oh okay, so now if you're depressed, does that mean we mustn't eat? *Sbongiseni sighs Black mom: No, I was just asking. So now that you're depressed like this, we're not eating. When I come into your room, you say I'm toxic. We're now scared of you in this house. To be honest...you're selfish. You're just like your father! Sbongiseni: Just leave me alone, would you just leave me alone?! Black mom: This depression must go back to wherever it came from! Go back! Go back! The "impression" it must stop now, it must stop! **Black mom walks out Black mom: I said...the pots and dishes are waiting for you. Also, I'm going to the society meeting now, I want to lock. So please wake up and make yourself useful. Don't come here saying you're "depressed", "depressed". Not here, not in my house!

[@Flower-dy4zi]

@@yanelanbabz238 Good job translating 👍🏽

[@yanelanbabz238]

@@Flower-dy4zi Thank you🌼

[@Lavida10]

Lolment 😁😁 no they will be strong

[@liniquedavids1490]

That coloured mother was so accurate, I can't...😭

[@osiiamumagudulela2830]

🤣🤣

[@tumelomothokgwane8994]

To be honest the black mom scene, Lasizwe killed it. He perfectly depicts a black woman. Excellent acting skills.

[@justit7992]

My mom be like: "In the name of Jesus stop inviting satan here!"

[@angelmadlala6353]

This sounds like something my mom would say 🥴

[@justit7992]

Yeah that's why we call them black parents 😂

[@luyandankohla5341]

......that's exactly what my mother would say too😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😊

[@nellym24]

😂😂😂 I can definitely relate

[@quinnspois3n268]

Your mom and my mom should meet 😂

[@ilzeamos274]

My coloured mom after my therapist diagnosed me with clinical depression: don't let the devil work through you. Don't bring those spirits into my house. Come, lets pray. We'll pray it away. In Jesus Name, Amen

[@LolaxRu]

I wish the black mom would also speak English...... you got international fans, now I’m depressed 😪😪

[@amahle6146]

Mom: Sbongiseni why is it so dark in the house the neighbors will say we're practicing witchcraft Sbongiseni: I think you don't understand I'm depressed Mom:You're depressed so when you're depressed we dont eat? When I come into this room you say I'm toxic

[@amahle6146]

Mom: Busy saying you're depressed not here not in my house And basically that's the translation

[@candicewilson1892]

There is a translation in the comments

[@PastaNoodle25]

Or subtitles

[@jeanlouw7240]

🤣🤣🤣

[@Khodani_official]

I like the humor in this but also how lasizwe is addressing a serious issue 💜

[@vibingwithviola]

I agree

[@orbitm935]

Luv, it's satire

[@chantalhartley2403]

I didn’t find it funny at all. I thought he was highlighting an issue and holding the mirror up to people to show them how badly some parents manage depression.

[@keyatecephus9144]

My relationship with my dad is like the white mom but he is black he just understands me💆😭😭❤

[@MrJamizee]

Wow...You're blessed😭😭

[@keyatecephus9144]

@@MrJamizee thank you 💎❤

[@nyamiokey]

Me: I think I'm depressed My dad: You watch too much TV 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@ceceblooms8666]

You are so pretty

[@nikiwe1307]

It's that phone

[@nyamiokey]

@@ceceblooms8666 thanks

[@ethanphiri5717]

I have an aunt who was like your depression is because of the shows you are exposed and I don’t even watch tv like that a🤦🏾‍♂️

[@thutomoekeletsi9771]

@@ethanphiri5717 😂😂

[@kaseywashington1477]

I don't even bother explaining my mental health issues to my family, it just makes it worse.

[@mmamokete7787]

Hope you have someone else to talk to. Love and light 🧡

[@PastaNoodle25]

It took forever for my parents to understand my depression. As a teenager they thought I was just being difficult and told me to get over it. As an adult my depression got very bad and their advice would be “exercise more, be happy!” Until it got so bad that I had a mental break down. I started doing therapy and started taking antidepressants, at first they were very against the medication, but as they saw me changing for the better they got on board. Now they bug me all the time to check that im still taking my meds.

[@kenshix7902]

@@PastaNoodle25 I hope I don't reach that point. Luckily I know how to block my emotions

[@marthamendonca]

I feel you

[@ncisept5900]

And they take it personal. Like, how did we get to the point of this being about you though? Yhio our black families are too much

[@dasspaseka5440]

My black mom would literally come snuggle with me and buy me all my favorite snacks and we would watch movies then she would schedule a phycologists meeting for me no matter what it costs 😂😂😂😌💜

[@filmsbynix]

Told my coloured mom i was depressed and she said I have no reason to be depressed we have food in the house 😂😐

[@puffyc6373]

😂😂😂im gone

[@tsireyas_queue]

Was she lying tho 😭😭😗

[@toxicshawty5908]

"uselfish" "ufana nobaba bakho" that is so relatable when it comes to South African kids😷😐

[@missp7800]

Make that it's related with most African parents and not just in South Africa

[@khanyimkansi2823]

Akuna depression under a black woman's house...

[@andileduma417]

My mom is not even that educated but damn the way she understands stuff is beyond amazing. She will even pamper you with food in bed thinking that you sick mara when you saying you're not then she starts with those short and warm encouragements that things will work themselves out. I honestly don't know what did I do to deserve such a parent😭❤️

[@sbusisilelushaba7064]

I was rolling on the floor for the black mom this is so true😂😂

[@001customized]

At least you’re breathing though 😂😂😂😂

[@samdubazane3979]

Me:"I'm depressed mom." Black Mom:"Your depressed ngikondla." Mara black parents guys yohh😂😂🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️

[@mogauledwaba9629]

🤣🤣🤣kungenaphi ukudlwa

[@dasspaseka5440]

😂😂😂😂💔

[@yandanimphakathi3373]

😂😂😂😂😂😂💔

[@ziningiphenyane428]

Noma kuthiwe ufunde kakhulu yini yona leyo depression 😆😆😆😆😆

[@keyatecephus9144]

@@ziningiphenyane428 my mom wathi iDepression yokunuka 😭

[@heinishaoliphant3996]

"Watse kak is depression? Wake up and go wash" 😭😭😭It's the flashbacks for me

[@ThabisoRatlou]

The truth is our Mothers don't want to understand how deep we are depressed as young people.We are facing a lot of things while trying to show up.

[@tsakanimalungane7563]

This is really touching because it is a true reflection of what is happening in our society. What mental health needs is more unashamed conversations indeed, we still have a long way to go.

[@thenysiakrishna1991]

Please add Indian parents reactions to these videos @lasizwe 😂😂😂😂🙋🙋🙋🙋 asseblief! ❤

[@jessw.6250]

Yes!!!!

[@saranghae2808]

YES 🙌🙌

[@anria85]

Open the window, go brush your teeth. You wouldn’t be depressed if you finished your schoolwork!

[@thenysiakrishna1991]

@@anria85 😂😂😂😂😂

[@razark7292]

I was wondering why we do not have an Indian mom

[@HopeMxathule]

You are such an inspiration to us Kasi kids who want to do what you're doing. Looking at someone like you and all the great things you've achieved, I only have one thing to say, you are bloody incredible.

[@donneabrahams]

This made my morning😂just wish u had captions by the black parent part ✨💫

[@cameronbrown397]

I love you Lasizwe💕

[@gloriaowoses5263]

Please add the subtitles?My mom in Windhoek claimed she never heard of depression. It must be something new. Living in Europe I realized a lot of behavior I used to ascribe to laziness was associated with depression.😭😭 Good to finally see you Lasizwe.❤️

[@_Minnie.shandu]

Just came out of a hectic Zoom class and this got me mad laughing 😭😭😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@DianaNtombela]

It is really sad how misunderstood depression can be. Particularly in African families. You can be depressed for years right infront of them but they'll never see it until you die by your own hand. Only them will they finally read the suicide note you have been living right in front of them, the whole time. 😔😔

[@kenshix7902]

Bruh this hits home. But I'm more worried about my mom tho.

[@DianaNtombela]

@@kenshix7902 what's up with her?

[@yolandaleso6116]

This impression its must stop. 😂😂😂😂😂😂 Lasizwe you the king!

[@nadir1378]

😂😂😂

[@georgeshohi6619]

I am not South African but somehow I can understand what he is saying 🥰🥰love from Kenya

[@junemuch5650]

We’re 1 people cx

[@georgeshohi6619]

Yes we are

[@biankaswanepoel7833]

Me as much as most people can understand depression. Its no joke although your videos is funny. I went trough this as a child. A very dark place to be indeed

[@modisedaeswatiniprincess6944]

I'm glad you pushed through and got help, today is "Not on my watch Thursday" in RSA ❤ I hope you doing good today and helping raise awareness on mental health

[@biankaswanepoel7833]

@@modisedaeswatiniprincess6944 thanks yeah. I was in rehab for two weeks. Had severe bullying in school. I raise awareness as much as i can. Married and have a beautiful son❤️

[@mosaramatsie3375]

My mom whenever Im depressed she would just say it because I haven't taken a bath yet and I should eat, 😭😂now whenever I'm depressed she brings me food and forces me to take a bath

[@sesimagubane2156]

The way the black mom looks up and around when the boy says "I am depressed" and that open mouth. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@zainabtasmeera9869]

When your pa left me killed me😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@redeemablesoul]

In the coloured community a lot of men impregnate the ladies and just leave....We call it"he went to buy soap at the shop and never returned"

[@lol-rk1qg]

@@redeemablesoul the last phrase u wrote Yohh That's just sad and quite funny lmao

[@justsiphe4281]

AAAAH NOTIFICATION GAAANG

[@lorenzothomas5114]

You forgot " en maak skoon die foken kamer" when the colored mom walks out

[@nthabisengmthimkulu3996]

O selfish.. Nje ngo Babakho🤣😭😭😭😂😂 wow aboMama kodwa🙊🙊 nice one lots of humor and very educational👏👏👏

[@shadawneybezuidenhout8739]

That coloured mom ON POINT!

[@Retired_Ndebele]

" u depressed? Ooh, okay, so no depressed thina singadli? "😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣 legit black moms, they will make your depression about them

[@SebsTwins]

My favorite KZbinr ❤❤❤

[@vannymakibinyane522]

I must say although we make it a joke, it’s not. I can relate. Our parents don’t understand especially black parents. They’ll be more concerned about you doing house chores and cooking than your mental health. I actually ended up in VISTA for 3 weeks because of this.

[@aukhumescherley702]

This is so true 💔

[@mycatisaslayqueen9778]

Your dp is 🔥🔥🔥. Hope you are doing well

[@redeemablesoul]

Im sorry to hear that...i hope you doing well now.

[@leighannjosephs9998]

Remimds me of the time..bella from twilight when she didn't come out of her room for 4 months because Edward left her

[@16224]

Yazi black parents always have a different way of dealing with something and it's long😭😭😭

[@imanabkr]

“Watse kak is depression!? Are you mad?! Dit is my his" THE ACCURACY!

[@Tiah734]

My parents they only notice your mistakes they never notice your pain and struggles

[@jessw.6250]

Big FACT ....they don’t care

[@tabisileijoma2685]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣I love lasizwe, Black moms 🤣

[@-zunaid2124]

Bruhh they love to guilt trip you 👏🏻👏🏻 yup it’s my fault I’m depressed. I was looking for depression. Thanks Maa

[@sianthompson8638]

Bruuuh this ...parents tho...it's always our fault

[@sum532]

Lol Afrikaans and Colored mom more or less the same... she would just tell him to lift his bum or his father is going to give him something to feel depressed about.

[@jennyo9120]

I agree. Reactions would be different for British (English), Afrikaans, Portuguese, Greek, Jewish, etc etc.

[@Ojiro_Kimberland]

YOH, when she says the pots and plates are waiting for you😭

[@kesegomodibedi]

Looking at this made me realise my mom doesn't know what I am going through! 😭I'm trying! 😩😭 Thank you Lasizwe your videos make me feel better ❤️❤️

[@EdnaMuianga]

Please we need subtitles 😭😭😭 Still funny though ❤️

[@name_not_important7757]

What’s sad is that we don’t realize how toxic our parents are when they do this 🙁

[@PastaNoodle25]

That must be a Constantia white mom, because my afrikaans parents reacted more like the coloured mom. When I said I was depressed and wanted to see a therapist they said I must get over my “kinder kak” and be happy.

[@wilmajansenvvuuren841]

Thank you for A dressing this!I am so glad you are back lasizwe!🌸🌼😷

[@vuyanisibisi495]

I am absolutely obsessed, Team Lasizwe 😍♥

[@itiswhatitis.4122]

"wat sé kak gaan hier"😂😂😂😂😂😂 i died

[@juiciliousjaftha8762]

🤣🤣🤣🤣 I've never laughed as much as I did when u did #ColouredPeople 🤣🤣🤣🤣.. Was abit passive compared to how we really are but well done Sizwe. Loved it. My parents would've said "Depressed vi wat, Kom k## Praati"

[@natashatessbirds8280]

lol, jy kyk te veel TV kom K@k praati met my nie lmj

[@somewhereinafrica6572]

It’s funny that I only got the part where the black mum said you are like your father, it sounded close to the way we say it in Swahili

[@olivialivvy998]

Lasizwe that's really a coloured mom for u😂😂 I grew up with one

[@ayandathembelihlemaphisa3022]

Black mom😂😂😂😂😂😭 anyways I just love you ❤

[@TheGatewayProductions]

Many thanks for this upload! Depression is horrible but we can crush it!

[@glorydjani5132]

I love the coloured mom the Afrikaans part man

[@dipuomokgadi3862]

Early I love your videos🥰

[@GreyKoba]

The way this comes out right after my class and i had a whole discussion about what depression and how parents react is just yesterday!!! And it's Sooo truee

[@sibusisoziphozonkemakhaye2007]

Thank you Sizwe 🙏🏿 This is enlightening🕯in layman's terms.

[@Solofears]

It's shocking how accurate this is 💔

[@shainemacheche5345]

We need more of these 😭😂 bring them back😍

[@YourMomsSideHoe]

Eish I have a white mom and if I say that she will just be like "You are just being dramatic" "Let some light in" "Get up" She wont even ask if I am ok😭

[@masegoboikanyo665]

We have a tendency of thinking all white parents are soft,sweet and spoil their kids rotten...but to be honest there those who don't take nonsense 😅

[@faithsamwele6393]

First here😍😍🤩🤩😊☺️

[@nonhlanhlatlhogi5204]

Here for it❤

[@ofentsekgwedi8543]

YESSSSSS😭😭😭black parents and saying you are selfish!!!! ⚰️⚰️

[@cintiamasuku80]

Yoooh.... I love you Lasizwe!!!

[@bonakelesithole5014]

Love it!!! Funny too👍🤣

[@liwengkebooisen1180]

The way he did the coloured mom, I'm dead😭😭😂😂😂

[@nthatyseipati7937]

First one Yaay💃🏻💃🏻❤️

[@lizzymalindi1219]

Ufana no babakho...😂

[@moemo4016]

You're something u know Lasizwe..😊😊

[@terimurphy4009]

Sadly I relate. Thanks for raising awareness. No wonder we all so messed up

[@meaganf2069]

So true 🙌💯

[@valeskalesliedasilva5769]

First yishh

[@jadekotze3026]

The way Lasizwe captured the coloured mom, is so on point. #RaakWys #awe 😅

[@LesLoo_1]

Oh my word! You're so talented! Killed em all!😂🤣

[@charlidamelio876]

You are always the best black mom

[@Brenda90210]

I was severely depressed at age 17 after losing my mom suddenly from a very aggressive pancreatic cancer . It was extremely difficult to get well again . Years later I was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis. One of the causes they think could trigger the disease is traumatic events . People should please take depression more serious and be kind to who suffers from it so they can heal again .

[@thithinotorious5210]

Notification gang, gang!! gang!! gang!!💃💃

[@francoisec6628]

Your brilliant, don't stop xx

[@petronellambele4494]

Lol as for singadli, my mom would say manje ku shone bani, No one died so vuka lapho lol.

[@reubengelant1498]

Wheres the " moenie my bors warm maak nie " for the coloured mom's part , u for got tht. 😂

[@roewaydaarendse4213]

Spot on with the Afrikaans. You getting better with Afrikaans more words now

[@mandisa8429]

Yho!!! This is so true. Dark humor - Got it Lasizwe

[@mbalinyati4011]

Gang gang gang ganggggg!!!!!! ❤️❤️

[@2stm560]

Love your content

[@lil_shawtyk5092]

You put in loads of hard work Aswome job🇺🇸

[@SimaFiyo]

First one here😍

[@esonanyoko3881]

hai lasizwe maaan you are so talented🥺🙆🙆

[@gracelind6455]

The African mom made me think of Lindiwe from the river🤣🤣specifically those clicks and side eye looks

[@roscoebarker6767]

The coloured mom though😂- on point: "Watse KAK is going on here😅?! Watse KAK is depression?!🤣"