How DIVORCE Destroys Kenyan-American Women: Real Life Stories!

[@rebecahnjuguna3336]

Am a silent follower but this one hit home. Finally found a fellow Kenyan who actually sees and tells the truth I love your videos they are real keep doing what you are doing.

[@WuonOdidi]

Thank you so so much :)

[@pattyray328]

I love your channel, I wrote down notes from your channel coz I am Building at the Coast. Salamu kutoka Berlin. You are doing a good job.

[@WuonOdidi]

Thank you so so much :) Nimepokea salamu! I have to come to Germany someday!

[@elizabethwangui2008]

From Lynn Ngugi, actually my friend got divorced and she started instigating me to go through it, even though we did not have problems in our marriage.

[@WuonOdidi]

That is sad!

[@EverlynOluoch]

Am a new subscriber. I love the topic and sounds well researched and informative. We need more thank you Jakisumo Karateng

[@WuonOdidi]

Thanks and you are very welcome :)

[@bradleymbewa6717]

Please don't call it quit. I listen to your content and they are insightful. Keep doing this

[@WuonOdidi]

Thank you so much :)

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you just got a new sub from team LNN . I likr the way you articulate your word. Your story telling skill is splendid .

[@WuonOdidi]

Thank you so much :)

[@VisionCarrierDreamCatcher]

Very interesting content. You are adding lots of value with your posts. I typically do not comment, part of the silent majority I suppose. Please keep them coming. Perhaps also consider a podcast where you interview someone and provide us with 2 perspectives on a topic. You are good at this.

[@WuonOdidi]

Yes! I have been thinking about it! That might be the next step! Thank you so so much :)

[@ewaweru]

Thank you. Your content is 👍

[@WuonOdidi]

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[@Aokoliz]

This channel! oh woow This is Deep weuhu I love how you handle matters very open minded Don't quit we are rooting for you and cheering you on Fully Congratulations you are doing an amazing job keep moving

[@WuonOdidi]

Thank you so so much :)

[@bellaolum9768]

Vlogging, editing and putting it all together is a lot of work. Your content is good and you narrate very well. Keep the videos coming, 1 video a week is good enough Sir.

[@WuonOdidi]

YES! Thank you so so much :)

[@skeryl7426]

I agree…. I actually enjoy the serene videos and your beautiful kids little legs hopping on the screen…I randomly clicked on ur video on LNN and immediately subscribed!!! Your home in Kenya is magnificent! May you extend beyond ur dreams for you and your loved ones! You exude diligence, smart and def a great personality ! Your wife and kids are gorgeous

[@phoebejobando852]

You can't quit your videos are very educative tuko pamoja

[@WuonOdidi]

Sawa :)

[@ayuma4747]

Subscribed. Loving the topic

[@WuonOdidi]

Awesome, thank you!

[@brendakerubo7398]

Your content is highly valuable and appreciated... Learning alot...thank you 😊😊

[@WuonOdidi]

Thank you so so much :)

[@georgemburu4177]

Mzee, i love listening to you keep going. I live in Dallas, TX

[@WuonOdidi]

Thank you so so much :)

[@chroniclesofMumbi]

Love your content and your home is super beautiful 🎉🎉

[@WuonOdidi]

Thank you so much!!

[@shalom2346]

Love your content. Am learning alot from you as i plan to return home soon

[@WuonOdidi]

Great to hear!

[@smagythareborn]

Looking Forward To Podcast Sessions. This channel is amazing

[@WuonOdidi]

Awesome, thank you! I might just do that :)

[@erikaelia360]

Don’t quit you can always upload once or twice a week your videos are very good

[@WuonOdidi]

Thank you so so much :)

[@chrisogonas]

Incredible resource pool, Prof! Keep sharing. Shukran!

[@WuonOdidi]

Asante daktari!

[@philogada9186]

We appreciate you Doc..keep it up.. you are touching lives..!

[@WuonOdidi]

Asante jakarungu!!

[@naliaka9318]

Your supervisors are cuteness overload 😊. Please don’t stop, sometimes we don’t comment but it doesn’t mean we don’t appreciate you. Please keep vlogging.

[@WuonOdidi]

😊 thank you so much!!! This just keep me going!!!

[@andalimay9405]

Great content here! Watching your Chanel from Austria. I experienced the same after my divorce . My kenyan friends treated me differently. Some avoided me. My family were more surppotive to my abusive austrian husband. Such a pity. But it's the Best decision ive ever made.

[@WuonOdidi]

I am sorry to hear that and hope you are in a better place???

[@naomimoraa1493]

Don't quit im learning even though im new here Planning to move to Europe as God leads

[@WuonOdidi]

Thank you so so much! we are not giving up!

[@mercyk2672]

In my case, I was in a relationship with someone who was an alcoholic and very irresponsible. I didn't realize all this until a few months after we moved in together and had a child. I tried everything in my power to help him quit drinking, plan his finances and keep a job but it was all in vain. Eventually I left him but everyone, including my family and his blamed me. It all boiled down to the fact that I was seen as successful and stable and was supposed to take care of him. I couldn't do that in good faith since my daughter was watching and I didn't want her to live in a dysfunctional home. I never asked him for a dime in child support, I've been taking care of my daughter for 8 years, it's very hard being a single mom in America but I wouldn't have it' any other way

[@WuonOdidi]

I am really sorry to hear that! But so glad you and your daughter are in a better place! Sometimes families can make things worse :(

[@florencejones8870]

Wuon Odidi un kare...watching from London owada....enjoying your content Nyathiwa...be blessed

[@WuonOdidi]

An karateng nyathiwa: Erokamano ahinya!

[@zedekiahkwame640]

Why quit?,, you shared here you need just slow, down,,take it easy,,we all go through such times and here we are together to share,,,‼️🙏

[@WuonOdidi]

YES!! I am doing everything to keep going friend!

[@L-ameck]

I have officially subscribed.

[@WuonOdidi]

Thank you so much :)

[@maryachieng1665]

Keep going,your videos are very good 👍🏽

[@WuonOdidi]

Thank you so much :)

[@CyberTechFreedom]

Unfortunately this topic has hit the Kenyan-American community hard. Greeting from Dallas, TX.

[@WuonOdidi]

Sadly :( :(

[@brendakerubo7398]

The trees are so beautiful ❤❤❤

[@WuonOdidi]

Thank you so much :)

[@DorisL-ti6yn]

We used to harvest guavas when we were young. We would never wash them😂. We would eat them like that😅. Even mangoes and other fruits. Children these days are so different😅.

[@WuonOdidi]

AND we did not die :) :)...these ones can diarrhea all night!

[@DorisL-ti6yn]

@@WuonOdidi exactly 💯.

[@passportandbeer]

Marriage is the number one cause of divorce

[@WuonOdidi]

True :)

[@sallyolembo9099]

This guy is stating just facts . Good job this is great education.

[@WuonOdidi]

Thanks!

[@dorothyymiruka3615]

You are doing a great job wuon Odidi, keep going.

[@WuonOdidi]

Thank you so much :)

[@annecalep5966]

Greetings from Papua New Guinea 🇵🇬

[@WuonOdidi]

Thank you so so much :) I'm glad to hear from you!

[@lynlassiter5033]

Team Jael here🖐🏾 Hot topic of the week! Discuss more on this. Thanks.

[@WuonOdidi]

My fan number 1!!! Thank you so much :)

[@mustaphacamara130]

Please don’t quit, we are learning a lot from you 🙏🏾

[@WuonOdidi]

Thank you so much :)

[@WILMA_]

Sasa wewe unakula mapera peke yako 😢😢😢😢😢 Hata hutukaribishi. 😜 Thanks for sharing your video with us. BTW, you have such a beautiful home.

[@WuonOdidi]

:) :) Mapera is for high table only :)

[@WILMA_]

@@WuonOdidi - 🤣🤣

[@pattie254]

thanks for this topic

[@WuonOdidi]

Thank you so so much :)

[@mikekiguta724]

Interesting topic. Very insightful and really speaks about some of the residual cultural norms still held on. Blaming womem for the marriage not staying intact fails to recognize that it takes two people to tangle. Continue making great content. I watch you from the diaspora.

[@WuonOdidi]

YES!!! Unfortunately!

[@elizabethawuor2665]

Truest for stay at home women after divorce. I have not found my footing ten years later..

[@WuonOdidi]

I am glad to hear you are in a better place!

[@kentoskentos8428]

Another good one.

[@WuonOdidi]

Glad you think so!

[@my0.02cents]

your content is good. It really is. There is a calibre of us doing well in the west. Not slaving. You make life at home look very sweet. Really. talk about faming next please. I just aquired 53 acres. all i here is that i have to be on the farm is there such a thing as remote farming.

[@WuonOdidi]

Thank you so much :) There is definitely a couple of videos on farming coming up since this is big topic. Where is your farm?

[@my0.02cents]

@@WuonOdidi Shimba hills coast area. land is plentiful and cheap. But i hear nasty things about the locals. Theft, laziness etc etc

[@Spicy248]

Awesome video thanks for sharing,

[@WuonOdidi]

thank you :)

[@NyadiemoMinMor]

Sensitive topic

[@WuonOdidi]

YES!!

[@irenegaitho2603]

waaoh keep going it perfect and unique❤

[@WuonOdidi]

Thank you so much :)

[@irenenjeri8720]

Everything you say is so true even in Kenya

[@WuonOdidi]

I am surprised!!!

[@stevelumumba1824]

We really appreciate your time and don't take it for granted Wuon Odidi, we get a lot of information over here

[@WuonOdidi]

Thank you so so much :)

[@WinnieWinnie-l3r]

Good work sir

[@WuonOdidi]

Thank you so much :)

[@RuthOgweno]

🤣🤣 snaking from the trees

[@WuonOdidi]

YES :)

[@AtabongMillie]

solution: keep your name, separate finances

[@WuonOdidi]

YES!!!

[@katemugambi2135]

Hi I would like more information on this topic how can I reach you privately?

[@WuonOdidi]

Yes: Whatsapp me: 0708118288

[@RachealKibaiya-r2p]

Just enjoying even the house... please keep going......I have questions but they are about your life

[@WuonOdidi]

Please ask :) Life is what we talk about here :)

[@GraceMidega]

No quitting wuon Odidi.Lets keep this going Meanwhile link me up with your solar guy . Am in Florida

[@WuonOdidi]

Thank you so much Grace :): Can you email me: [e-mail] Please remind me here in case you do not hear from me: sometimes emails bounce

[@gracewaithira2512]

You're blessed

[@WuonOdidi]

Thank you so much :)

[@otown1714]

The important point you made is that ""slot of people who didn't go through yhings like that or been close yo, do not get it'''

[@WuonOdidi]

YES!!! Unfortunately :(

[@magarematara8919]

Thats the worst fear,i have seen some of my friends going America as couples but less than a year,you hear them dancing from different script,most Kenyan women find a lot freedom the the Ameican system n humiliate their husbands,the reason those who left Kenya single find it hard to marry there.

[@WuonOdidi]

Very sad!!

[@andymike5909]

Good job Eddie

[@WuonOdidi]

Thank you!

[@englishwithnelson6138]

Keep going

[@WuonOdidi]

Thank you so so much :)

[@hayonimengi4171]

I agree with most of what you are saying but something you mentioned in passing or did not mention about couples in divorce is that most men are socialized to take care of women. So whereas many of them can hire good lawyers and fight women in court, most do not because they do not see the need to, or do not have the will to fight women the same way women may fight hard against a man. In other words men tend to go easy on women. Also, research shows that men are less likely to demand child support even when it is owed to them. I know two Kenyans who are divorced and although they ended up with the kids and are owed child support, they do not go after the ladies for it. Men tend to believe they do not need anything financial from women but women on the other hand will go all out to get that support and use whatever means to get it, etc.

[@WuonOdidi]

That is very true!!

[@GregO0oo]

In the west, there is a misconception that "the law favours women"! The reality is, that bills that become law are written to be fair/balanced; especially family law. However, the fact that women are *"hypergamous"* is lost on many; they always marry up! Only under extenuating circumstances will you ever come across a woman who marries down. Spousal and child support are calculated based on a table/formula; usually the higher earner ends up paying to the party earning less income. Men usually don't go into marriages with this in mind. Men are attracted to beauty, femininity and nurturing qualities in a woman. Although the interpretation of laws by judges can be questinable at times, there are checks and balances that can be employed (pre/post-nuptial agreements and the appeal process).

[@WuonOdidi]

Very true! These are the details lost to the many folks out here!

[@Hawi800]

Awesome wuod nam

[@WuonOdidi]

Thank you :)

[@60minuteseastafrica10]

Super needy for me bro.

[@WuonOdidi]

Okay?

[@salomenewsome4188]

Choose your life partner keenly. If you fall in a bad marriage get out

[@WuonOdidi]

YES!!

[@mercyk2672]

I've been wondering what happened to you since you don't post anymore

[@WuonOdidi]

Actually I post 3 to 4 videos a week! Just not everyday

[@trinishah]

🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️

[@WuonOdidi]

Thanks!

[@trukenyan]

Keep going Sir!

[@lynlassiter5033]

Jael's Team Here🖐🏾 Karateng to the world! Sensitive topic with insightful facts. Thanks for sharing.

[@WuonOdidi]

Thank you :)

[@vn1488]

I have never been married but for some strange reason the independence thing is real ...so i have been single out there and also in kenya for the sqme reason ...talk about a prolonged dry spell. And i can tell you as you get older you get lonely..

[@WuonOdidi]

:) That part of prolonged drought!! I thought can be fixed even without marriage??? But what do I know!

[@MoureenAkunya]

❤❤❤❤

[@WuonOdidi]

Thanks :)

[@beatriceetima]

Yes your massage is good 🎉🎉🎉

[@WuonOdidi]

Thank you so so much :)

[@salomenewsome4188]

Massage? 😂

[@Awuor62]

Dont the support is at 105 😊road to 15k

[@WuonOdidi]

YES!!!

[@mamageorge8289]

Marriage is not for children and immature people. The earlier this hits home (may be at teenage ) the better so that one can avoid potentially immature and sick people for spouses. Divorce is better if both of you are naturally mature! Keep talking about things that no one wants to talk. Poor families will disown their female relatives over fear of loss of income or any other thing they fetch from the marriage. There is also unhealthy jealousy in families.

[@WuonOdidi]

Unfortunately this is true :(

[@ConfusedCardinal-of7qz]

The children does not like mapera yawa ?

[@WuonOdidi]

It was a little weird the first time!

[@Nyadiemo69]

mapera no mit

[@deniswxyz]

Unfortunately out Kenyan women in America want to live and have a modern man but with traditional values. The guy should bring all the money but also do chores at home

[@WuonOdidi]

I'd use the word some women :)

[@Sharonakoo]

It's that guava for me ler, nice video ❤

[@WuonOdidi]

Thank you so so much :)

[@thepassportlife]

Is that a guava fruit?

[@WuonOdidi]

Yes! Organic guava!

[@thepassportlife]

@@WuonOdidi Thanks. Plan to visit soon. I am in New York

[@emmangumo3375]

Your babies are so cute❤...

[@WuonOdidi]

thank you so much :)

[@enn4983]

What you are exposing is how poorly women are treated in society. Women need to be treated with dignity for who they are, looks like people thing women have more value because of being married.

[@WuonOdidi]

I could not agree more!!

[@wangui26]

You hit the nail on the head. Unfortunately our married Kenyan women are the worst and treat their so called divorced women friends like lepers, completely isolating them. The family will beg you to stay in abusive relationships and remind you “si uliwachana na bwanako?”. It seems one is more valued if they die from the abuse without having been divorced. Let’s normalize healthy relationships and walking away if one of the parties does not adhere to the terms of the marriage.

[@WuonOdidi]

Absolutely!!! We just need to be more kind to each other!

[@lusigijustus7274]

What do you mean kenyan American? You can't be both. Choose one.

[@WuonOdidi]

I did not know that!

[@RachealKibaiya-r2p]

Can you tell us how much it costed you to construct the house or houses...

[@zedekiahkwame640]

I'm waiting,to hear,this is top end, don't want share my estimates here for now ‼️🙏

[@WuonOdidi]

If I gave you an exact figure I might be wrong....so much changed over the 4 years that it became very difficult to keep track. But you are looking at not less than 50m

[@WuonOdidi]

If I gave you an exact figure I might be wrong....so much changed over the 4 years that it became very difficult to keep track. But you are looking at not less than 50m

[@zedekiahkwame640]

@@WuonOdidi not surprised,, you are courageous to mention here,,,jaluo ok sechi,big challenge to all especially from the diaspora,, enjoy your life together with family ‼️🙏🔥

[@RachealKibaiya-r2p]

@@WuonOdidi Polite way of saying....as they say in America, NA Nya!😁😁😁😁😁