How do I deal with life feeling meaningless after loss?

[@nancyschaefer9748]

Material things mean so little now. The care you gave your loved one has no where to go…

[@maryannmartinez9425]

I havent cared if i lived or died latly.i feel so empty

[@ells80]

I’ve felt this way most of my life. It’s baffling.

[@meeluanistyn1644]

Two days ago I went for a long 55 minute walk in the nearby countryside. Blue skies, fluffy clouds, warm spring sunshine, birds, wildfowl on the lake. My body went for that walk; my head was elsewhere and I kept asking myself “What’s the point of anything anymore?” I cam home feeling tired but unsatisfied with the walk - it was just mechanical exercise with no engagement with the beautiful natural world around me. That’s so unlike me.

[@kerryfoster1]

I also went walking and felt empty, However during the walk I saw butterflies fliting around just doing what they do. They don't question what they do they just live their lives and die. That is what I do now. Despite such painful loss and sadness and wanting to be with her. I must go on for the people who WILL NEED me in the future. That is the point - I will be needed by others. I will give them whatever it takes. THAT is why I remain! xxx

[@meeluanistyn1644]

@@kerryfoster1 Just revisited Megan's wonderful video and re-read your beautiful reply. Things have moved on in the last 6 months - the grief is always there however I'm giving to others through volunteering and that is a purpose I have in life. I'm also moving house as I've decided that I want a fresh start and need to honour everyone I loved who has died by creating my own new life and making the very best of the short time we all have on this earth. Your comment "I will give them whatever it takes" resonates with my mindset now. Thank you for your reply.

[@JoellePretty]

There's just no joy. Everything is shades of gray. Losing your person is not something I thought I would have to deal with at this age. I genuinely don't know that I want to be here without them.

[@michaeld.williamsiii9026]

I feel the exact same way, sincerest condolences to you also, @Joelle. 🥺😰😔Being parentless and adopted so much loss. So much stripped away, I don’t see or feel the point of being anymore…💔🌏😢 #GriefHurts 💔🥀💔

[@JoellePretty]

@@michaeld.williamsiii9026 I am so sad with you, Michael. I realized this weekend after a really bleak moment that I actually have the tiniest sliver of hope that things will get better. I want that for you, too. 💗💗💗

[@Supportdog2020]

The pain is so unbearable sometimes but we must try to keep busy and not dwell on the loss I am struggling can’t even function lost my job don’t want to go on it is just hard to survive I don’t like meds and can’t afford therapy I have a couple of people I can talk to mostly by text because I’m such a mess

[@JoellePretty]

It's truly trying to live moment to moment and not listen to the stories we tell ourselves.@@Supportdog2020

[@d2B2023]

​@@Supportdog2020sending you so much love and strength. Feel so very much the same

[@Sueh2112]

He was all I’d ever known and in a FLASH he was gone. We were together since we 16. We were married almost 40 and I don’t who I am without half of me missing. Just can’t seem to navigate this mess.

[@maryellenstankovich1511]

I don't make plans these days. I just do my life day to day.

[@kamaldeepjohal9372]

I just don't fill in my diary anymore.

[@caty9995]

One day at a time is all that I can do.

[@dburch7894]

I don’t know what I’am doing here anymore.

[@sherianderson22]

My husband of thirty years, was the only person who really knew me and gave me purpose.

[@bipinparmar7645]

Yep life still sucks after 2 and a bit years of widow hood, in the kitchen now listen to your vid and thinking WHAT IS THE POINT of carrying on, but I do and I am still here just not got the bottle to do any thing about it sad isn’t.

[@carolyngreen223]

I so needed this message today. Breathe….widowhood sucks

[@anthonyd7425]

2 years out and I feel exactly like you explain. It's so freaking hard sometimes. Thank you for this.

[@jennifershort3104]

Since both my parents died within 15 months of each other I realize how much really doesn't matter. I am in the exploration of what I want in my life 8 months after my mother's loss. It's a real challenge. I have to take it a day at a time, even an hour at a time, because the future isn't reality. I can't even allow myself to imagine it. It's too overwhelming. It truly sucks.

[@jennifershort3104]

It's a whole life change. It wasn't my choice to still be here. Every. single. day. is. a. fight.

[@d2B2023]

Thank you for this sooooooo much. ❤ I lost my partner almost a year and a half ago and this resonates sooooooo very strongly . Yesterday I felt like I was at Day 1 again. Just soooooo exhausted of asking "What is the actual meaning"

[@MrCanuckDon]

Thank you! "Right now it is like this" is what we have to keep reminding ourselves. I adopted the two words "for now" over this past year since losing my partner. I hate how my everyday is but then I add that it's this way "for now". I force myself to say it. Today sucks but there's a possibility that tomorrow won't suck as much.

[@finquero74]

Thank you for your words. It does help to think like that..."for now". I am so Sorry for your lost. My partner died last year. Thank you

[@mariacvonloewenfeld6713]

A year ago , when I moved to my new house, I started to feed the birds everyday. It took qiet a while before the started comong regularly. That me smile and give some purpose to my life. Then I added lots of flower pots, and too make feel glad. Last but not least, i have been the happy care taker of one humming bird who refuses to share his yard or feeder. Small steps but oh so meaningful in my broken hearted life. Hope I can find more to fill this gapping wound caused when my love made his transition into the Spirit world.

[@charlesfleming6779]

Beautiful.

[@nanceenurse]

I feed the birds everyday, too. They wiz by the window if the suet feeder is empty. It's such a simple pleasure, caring for them and watching them. But, they are giving me more that I am giving them. They keep me grounded.

[@nanceenurse]

It's absolutely so difficult at every level, mental, emotional, physical, spiritual & financial. It's so disorienting. I had prepared myself somewhat, but you never really can, the void is so large now. We all need hope that these feelings are what grief is and can share with others our pain and to continue to just go through this. It's so hard to articulate how awful it feels.

[@terryparrish8477]

I agree. The complex feelings of the emotional turmoil of deep grief can't be put into words. It's indescribable. It has to be experienced in order to be understood. That's why no one could've ever prepared me for it. And this is why it's so hard to talk to anyone else about it. (Unless they've gone through (or, are going through) something very similar.) And, the other part of it, is our now changed life (from top-to-bottom, now that we've lost the most important person in the world to us.) For most of us, this has absolutely rocked us down to our foundation and made every aspect of daily life these days very different. (And, not in a good way !) I can't help but look back and think that I was living a charmed life, before (compared to the life that I have, now.)

[@nanceenurse]

@@terryparrish8477 Exactly how I feel. I thought I would "handle" this better than I have been (loss of spouse). He was my emotional center so it's difficult to explain in mere words.

[@rhondabarlow860]

I thought we would grow very old together and die together.....hours, days, months apart. We aren't....he wasn't....old at all. When he died, I literally thought my heart would stop beating -- it didn't. My son's beating heart called out my shattered weeping heart and demanded it continue to beat. It did. My heart is still shattered and it weeps almost daily BUT it now wants to beats.

[@starstuff5958]

yes, I cry daily also..it's 4 months and I just spent two days in bed wondering why I'm still here....what is the point?? Someone tell me that.

[@rhondabarlow860]

The point is there are people in the land of the living who would benefit from you sharing your life with them. There is meaning in getting up and out to sprinkle the community with love and care. Loving on others who need the love, pumps life back into one's soul.....heart.

[@pippajennings5856]

I lost my dog 6 weeks ago. He was my life. I also developed some chronic illnesses at the same time. I list my purpose, my routine, my dreams and my only friend all at once. I hate my life now and I desperately want to change it but I have absolutely no idea what to do. This has really helped me realise I dont need to make a massive single change, so I don't feel so overwhelmed. Thankyou Update: 6 months this week since he died. Still cry and miss him every day. Still feel life is fucking meaningless. But I do try to do something that doesn't suck every day and keep hoping

[@caty9995]

I hear you. I lost my 2 girls ( cats ) 16 months ago. I have lost my only true friends. They were all I had really.

[@pippajennings5856]

​@caty9995 bless your heart I'm so sorry for your loss. Its been just over a year for me since my boy passed. I got a cat a few months ago and he has really helped. Maybe in future you might feel ready to adopt again but there's no pressure. I don't really have those thoughts anymore about purpose, I think that was heavily grief related. I still miss him but when I think of him now it's not like a knife through my heart. Just take each day as it comes and try to look after yourself ❤❤❤

[@caty9995]

@@pippajennings5856 thank you. So happy for you that you got a cat and that it's helping you. I am thinking about getting another cat maybe in the new year but only one this time. A lot of people tell me to get 2 but I'm at home most of the time so she won't have a chance to get lonely. Two cats are good for people who work long hours so that the cats can keep each other company. Thank you for your kind words and take care.

[@anoukgoosen2109]

thank you 🙏 super helpfull 🤲🌺 a healing flower for everyone's heart here 🍀

[@mathildewilliams9608]

I really needed this message today. I just can't carry on the way I have been. It's so empty. I'm so lonely. I miss just having someone around, someone to talk to, someone to laugh with. My life feels like endless, repetitive drudgery and it doesn't make sense. There were so many things my husband still wanted to do. I should have died and he should have lived. I don't understand why I have to go on living or how I'm supposed to do it. I'll just set myself tiny goals for today, this morning. Maybe that will make me feel better.

[@refugeingrief]

That sounds incredibly difficult. Very glad this video found you.

[@janingham1823]

Thank you Megan…. I wonder if there is a video on suicide. I see other posters have commented on that as well. My husband and I had a pact that we would go together. Cancer took him far too early Part of me wants to honor that pact……. And everyday I plead to him to come back for me so I don’t have to make a conscious decision. 4 months in…. 💔. I don’t want to live without him. I don’t want an empty life of filling in the blanks. I don’t want to live a life of missing him, and just learning to deal with the pain. It’s been a long painful journey to get to my age…. And I am tired.

[@refugeingrief]

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[@JoellePretty]

To your last comment, I think it's more about the "why should I" than the "how..."

[@gregap8282]

My dad died on March 31, and ever since I can't stop thinking that life has no meaning, you come here just to die. I feel an odd emptiness, an indescribable sadness. I've suffered depression in the past, but this feels different.

[@amandameunier4157]

These are great life questions regardless of whether or not your grieving. ❤

[@videosparaprek7243]

i want to care for street cats now! like with intensity…it is what literally gives me a sense and physical strength to get out of bed…my own furry children don’t inspire that anymore….😢 they will go too sooner than later and it will crush me again…the street kitties force me to live in the moment…i say goodbye to them everyday because i don’t know if i will see them alive next day…do i make sense??😢

[@rhondabarlow860]

Yes........

[@pippajennings5856]

I think that is a lovely idea and I wish you well with caring for the cats that need love now x

[@goga5104]

Yes you do.

[@susanbusby46]

Thank you, your words are so true and realistic, it was good to hear something describe how I am feeling

[@pjones7012]

thank you for your time and effort with these messages. i/we need your help.

[@Dontknowanymoreee1]

I miss my fiance badly. Without him I don't remember who I am, what I wanted. I don't want anything anymore, I don't have any goals. Life feels like a prison sentence

[@KathyAlone2023]

What doesn't suck today, that'll work.