How Do I Shut Off Emotion , TIPS

[@jilbee9005]

I normally get emotional when I lower my standards. ONLY when I lower my standards. Don’t lower your standards ladies. He must like you more, and make him work. If you’re getting emotional, then he probably likes someone else more. Choosing the right target is so important.

[@cnmuchina00]

100% I realised that about myself too.

[@jilbee9005]

Mrs. Bags$$$ I’ve been married. And my ex husband really loves me. When it’s meant to be it will flow. And we lower our standards and get our feelings hurt, because they don’t like us enough. So, we try to do these things. When a man wants you, you can’t get him off you. And if he isn’t like that, it’s another woman. We love pretending that it’s not another woman.

[@littlelam3691]

Mrs. Bags$$$ your name! 😍🎉😂

[@pianotnt]

@@jilbee9005 true

[@manunascimxnto]

i'm just a teenager, but i noticed this in me too.... damn

[@roselinelee]

1. Think of it like a business - your love and emotions and energy is money, who's paying more? - if your emotions are more than them, then you're getting cheated, you quit - if it's paying you're staying, if it ain't paying you leaving - throw away "falling" in love, it is "growing" in love - look at gestures and actions not words, until you see actions you don't do nothing - take full responsibility for what you're paying out - don't give more than they're giving - sex does not equal love to men, the more you hold off the more they like you - if you're not getting more, you're paying him to be with you - money is the physical representation of emotions and energy, no money, no emotions 2. Self-control - stop and think --> shut off emotions - It only takes you a few minutes to think - "I need to think about this for a few minutes." - Don't go around aimlessly recklessly, you gotta think logically to get the life you want - Discipline your emotions, we have all this power, we need to know how to wield it - Don't allow them to control your emotions, you control your own emotions 3. Focus on leveling up Do men fall for sweet woman who don’t complain and go with the flow? Nope. They fall for women who make them work for the things in return. 4. Shutting off your emotions is a choice - When you find a man that has more emotionally attachment to you then you have to them, you don't worry about being cheated - If that person doesn't care about your feelings, that means you like them more, they like you less - find someone that likes you more - they will agree with you and give you your way - they will make you happy and comfortable - they will not try to put you down because they like you more --> that's why you shouldn't chase after men if you're chasing that means you like them more and you working for them, wrong YOU ARE THE PRIZE YOU ARE THE ONE THAT'S SUPPOSED TO BE CHASED - emotional wrecks are with men that don't care about them - start thinking of it like money --> you give too much, you realize you're robbed, you pull back

[@stefg7611]

Thank you for the summary

[@annaisis7510]

This is gold

[@tijanasokcevic216]

Thank you ❤

[@fabstouchcosmetics3191]

Smart, 👌👌👌

[@naeneco]

This !

[@nkreseknowledge2241]

Even if you love him, never be extra, just give him barely enough... keep him hanging on. The minute he thinks you're over the moon for him, he will change up. Don't call him, text, don't pick up his calls right away....make him earn everything.... and when he pulls back, let him go...

[@Vv-fl2rm]

That’s right ❤️!

[@leyland2725]

As heartless as that may seem it will work.

[@Luckimee]

I've always been like this! Being an Aquarius keeps me from displaying too much emotion, and I NEVER call a guy. I never thought it was cool to be all nuts over a guy. I'm thoroughly not impressed lol

[@SagRising19]

Absolutely

[@JessiCa-qd1nv]

@@etherealbutterfly4880 ggdjef

[@memoryrinehart]

Shera is confirming what my late mom told me. (The only real advice she gave me about men)--"marry someone who likes you more than you like them." My late sister (from her experience) also said, "Don't listen to what they say, look at what they do."

[@highdefinition8261]

@@PennyMsElite I have name seen u on this channel before

[@highdefinition8261]

@@PennyMsElite never seen your comment on this channel, so am assuming your new to this channel.

[@Lov3lychriz]

Wow thanks for dropping that jewel

[@tonismith88899]

My mom used to always tell me to marry a man that loves me more than I love him too. I didn't get it then but I definitely understand it now

[@firesign4297]

🙏💛💛🙏

[@gianabecker9288]

I think the best way to cure this is to test it out. Be emotional ladies.. & then see what happens. I’ve been emotional towards skinny, tall, fat, short, dark, light, broke, rich men and the psychology STILL remains the same. Being emotional will never work, I don’t care if that man is a pastor, you can’t beat basic male psychology. So go ahead ladies.. test it out yourself. The response alone will make you never want to be emotional ever again.

[@GoogleAccount00]

Wooooooow

[@nylaspeaks7272]

Giana Becker it helps in all aspects of life

[@jilbee9005]

💯

[@galaxygirl9253]

Ty

[@nylaspeaks7272]

Sabrina you can express yourself but it’s how you communicate it...but if you are feel like crying or sad wait a day or 2 and express it calmly...being less emotional is not being afraid to walk away If you are married then you are not just walking away but that’s when you have to get more mature on your communication style Never say I feel you...it makes you look like a victim and you are pointing the finger. You can say always start with that person’s behavior...such as it concerns me that you are yelling let’s talk when you calmer then nod your had as to say yes...you have addressed the behavior and you have told them and confirmed with head nod that you will not take it...you did not scream back..oh and don’t forget to walk away..if they follow you still ranting stay quiet and say that may be but I will discuss this when all is calm...if they turn abusive and they shouldn’t if they are mature get out of the relationship!

[@Vera-sc3ud]

She is not talking about money. It's very simple. Let them prove to you that they care. To those men you can show emotions. Dont chase, atract. You are all so worried about loosing a guy, not realizing you are already in his power just by being worried about loosing a person.

[@888agatha]

so true! when you’re not afraid of losing, you win

[@oa8463]

How to know if you like him more than he likes you: YOU GOOGLE RELATIONSHIP ADVICE BC YOU ARE UPSET/JEALOUS/UNFULFILLED. Trust me, he aint asking no one for advice. He is enjoying his time while you are fretting.

[@amychrisbam8823]

This is so true!!! I could totally relate!

[@annaisis7510]

💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡

[@carmellahoney3599]

what if he was asking his friends for advice about you but didn't chase?

[@khrisi9410]

​@@carmellahoney3599if he's not chasing then he doesn't like you more. He doesn't like you enough to chase you which means he's the wrong target.

[@mi.b.t]

Thats the one of the most true things I've ever rear on comment section. I was just thinking the same. He doesn't search for what I don't like about him. Me? Trying to find clues.😂😂 He says he loves me but he never tries to meet in the "middle" spot. He expects me to accept him the way he is.😂😂

[@Kashmir-lt4cx]

"You say nothing, you pull back in action, and energy!"

[@MarieAmicalola]

"Think of emotions like business and money." You could have cut the camera off right there. #anentireword.

[@jboopsie]

Marie The Alchemist EXACTLY!!!

[@firesign4297]

👏👏👏👍🏿👍🏿

[@shekinahfire5936]

🔑🔑🔑🔑🙌

[@destinyfloyd8925]

My

[@pepettehousemusic999]

I read a lot of self help books in my life but none of them changed me as much as you Shera

[@honeybadgernasty]

Same here. She's the best! Love her!

[@boldandcourageous4176]

Audrey same here! Life changing!

[@ashleyalexxis3442]

Audrey Villalobos fax!!!!!

[@kwclove7623]

Same 💐

[@mayana3718]

I know... she literally changed my life... ♥️

[@donnamcintosh2109]

I don't fall for the BS when men say that they like for a woman to approach them. Believe me, if a man wants a certain woman bad enough, he will approach her. Also, a man has more respect for a woman who makes him work hard for her.

[@Jane5720]

They like the women to approach them because I know they don't have to do the work then and they're going to be getting sex for very easy. It does not mean they we'll stay and most likely they won't because they didn't have to work for it

[@SupaSwope]

lso, a man has more respect for a woman who makes him work hard for her. no we dont

[@romeezy985]

Work hard for a bag, not a woman

[@RoxyCherryRozy]

​@@romeezy985😂 and what you do with the bag? Go bowling with your homies?

[@DubaiiMakavelii]

@@SupaSwopeso what is the truth

[@Kaykay-jh1zu]

If you are a very passionate and emotional person find a way to channel it through art, music, dancing or writing. This is a good way to express yourself and keep yourself emotionally healthy and balanced. It will also allow to not be overly emotional with men 💅🏿💅🏿💅🏿💅🏿💅🏿

[@naeneco]

This !

[@Ela_v8]

🎯

[@Ela_v8]

🎯

[@akosuaakos9336]

Wow, thank you for sharing

[@hannaparkhomenka6360]

It doesnt work. I dance and do so many things and I’m still emotional af 😂😢

[@Missthatgirl634]

There is something to be said about holding off on the sex. If most of us held off on sex as you look back you will discover most of the ones you laid down with would be a NO WAY. Sex means nothing.

[@issyo957]

It means nothing, and when I hold it off,I gained more.

[@number-uz1es]

@@issyo957I gained more respect for myself- every guy I could have had sex with would turn my stomach if I actually did it. I don’t feel like I missed out- I just feel stupid for even putting any type of energy to begin with.

[@oa8463]

Getting emotional is just a way of your body/soul telling you that you need to put yourself first and benefit bc you gave everything that you had away. You went too far and are self destructing. Emotions are there to help you stay healthy. Not press the gas and beg him. Stop everything you are doing for him. Think. And give to yourself until he or someone else comes and invests in you. Otherwise he will find you cheap, desperate, and annoying no matter how pretty you are.

[@butterflylovenj7300]

Well said. I needed to see this.

[@prosperous_berri_x]

He literally called me annoying when I wanted to hang out with him more

[@jacquelinellamas3197]

I screenshot this cause yeah you right

[@naylagomez6716]

^ SAME AF

[@Sheisneika0976]

Thank you for saying this!!!!!! Baby I needed to read this this morning♥️♥️♥️

[@jboopsie]

Set standards and don’t be MOVED for nothing unless MONEY!!! God said cast your Cares onto Him, that’s what you do with them Emotions and Cares...don’t throw them on ppl lol frfr tho

[@genj6630]

I love that thank you!

[@ReformedR]

God also said you can't have two Gods you either hate the one or love the other. Either God or money. Go and actually read bimbo

[@cosmospray]

Ahah I don't care about him I just had 1 date with him, im still at the evaluation state ;) thank you !!

[@reddfox5966]

@@ReformedR it's good to see someone put God before money.. 💗

[@jboopsie]

Captain BLOODCLART U FUNNY....I didn’t say love money I said don’t be moved...ex....when u get up EVERYDAY to go to work to be SECURED in a check,even when u don’t “feel” like it...u ARE MOVED cuz of the money , 🤣🤣🤣 ( Can u read, while u busy calling names...so immature) Money brings security IN THIS WORLD, which I believe my Father wants me to consider..NOT to be secured in NO EMOTIONS. 🗣ByyyEEEEE , good day

[@SagRising19]

Yes, you have to train yourself on how not to react and be emotional. "Money is the physical representation on how he feels about you" Absolutely Shera!

[@mstwelvedeadlycyns]

Wow

[@debbyluxe]

So true!

[@itsBenzie]

How do you not react if you see that he has plenty of friends that are women and that he is a little popular? Do you ignore and just try to get the bag/ring?

[@number-uz1es]

@@itsBenziejust ignore it- it becomes infatuations at a certain point when its one sided- don’t let it get that far, and if you start to get worried - get a back up plan (another man, maybe a few of them).

[@yakkkimitsu5088]

Ladies, once you ve ghosted someone once, you are addicted To this emotion of power. Try it!

[@AliWellness]

Shera got me triple checking my looks & outfits before I leave the house. Saying “is this leveled up enough?”

[@sunrise8590]

I'm checking too Sis.

[@yellahellraizza]

Yes indeed.

[@ruru5862]

Shera is right. We need to be more like men in this regard, guard our heart. And think logically when it comes to love. Dont fall. Watch him, listen, and decide if you want to show and have feelings.

[@ilad3689]

Thank you Shera! Yesterday a man started hitting on me and instead of getting emotional and excited I toned it down and played hard to get. He proceeded to come after me again. What she says is the truth, men are hunters, period.

[@gracegrace3288]

I have made a habit to ask myself is this Good for business , does this benefit the business , it has saved me from alot of stuff.

[@moons4363]

Yes, controlling emotions is for all areas/aspects of life 😊

[@Jaythecook]

OMG... thanks for this. I'm sure it will help me as well.

[@ashleyalexxis3442]

Nawa Muyatwa I like this !

[@EmpressofChrist]

Now that's a great way to look at it💕

[@EmpressofChrist]

@@moons4363 def💞

[@kenniel1756]

I have learned my lesson on “overly liking” someone because when I say this man chased me down bc I wasn’t paying him no attention, WHILE he was being chased down by other women. I gave in after 1 year and boom! This fool played the snot out of me after I confessed I liked him. I will NEVER ever ever ever ever do it again. Especially after 3 years and him finally saying,” you’re too emotional”

[@aprillemightknow]

Snot is crazy 😫🥹

[@ishaw500]

STOP GIVING SO MUCH. CONSERVE YOUR ENERGY AND LEVEL UP LEVEL UP LEVEL UP..LESS wrinkles and edges maintained until you get what you deserve. I am learning and practicing this daily. Thank you SheRa...xx

[@tijeraslack3]

Isha Webber Yes!!

[@sprinkles1246]

I love it!!

[@love.1995]

Absolutely! By the way, you're so beautiful girl.

[@UniversoSpiritualUnido]

Edges maintained ❤😂

[@Mint9000]

Very true...as Tyrion, a character in The Game of Thrones said in the first episode of season one, ”Never forget what you are. The rest of world will not. Wear it like armor, and it can never be used to hurt you.” Own your flaws, and don't forget them, then it can never be used against you.

[@jessio4312]

Love this quote. Thanks for sharing

[@moons4363]

Very true 😊

[@blessedchildofgod9112]

Love it

[@sadelorraine8437]

Game of Thrones had so many female characters that basically embody the cunning seduction and strength of femininity. Cersei Lannister, Sansa Stark, Daenerys Stormborm aka Khaleesi were such powerful feminine women. I advise women to watch these characters to pick up some tips on how to benefit in a world run by men

[@Mint9000]

sade uh I totally agree! They had game on top of game lol.

[@Angele21]

It's so annoying when I have to shut my emotions off but it's so beneficial. A lot of the guys i date say that I come off mysterious and aloof.

[@judzelriley9448]

That part

[@missiamtwinkles0169]

YESS

[@Teez395]

If I get emotional, all I have to think of is Shera saying “sprinkle sprinkle” and I snap right out of it. 😂❤️😘

[@loveatlast3927]

Period

[@Evaselfmade]

😂 true

[@sisterkamilah4373]

😂😂😂

[@nyawirawanjohi5937]

Activation code 😂

[@jemallamorgan49]

😂😂😂right

[@Lovergirlstudiio]

This hit so deep. It makes so much sense now. It’s when you let yourself slip up too and get comfortable with men then boom they switch quick. Gold information.

[@chloechen2305]

Yes having lived in Europe and Asia, at the age of 30,“ i finally come to the realization that adult relationship is indeed a business because it’s political in nature. There’ll never be 50/50 power distribution in the relationship. Either you take the upper hand or he does. We all know what will happen when the man doesn’t care. Ladies take your business seriously, as Shera said watching for the other‘s behavior rather than their words.

[@white2925]

50/50 is all about loss for the woman. I was there and done that. The man has a lot to gain about this mindset. To go 50/50 with a man is the perfect trap they invented to make us used up and then left behind. There are many people who lives like that and they look like completely strangers. I can see absurd things where I live and it's a shame. For me 50/50 is him being the provider and leader of our family and me being his wife and mother to his children and taking care of them. There is no other way around.

[@trinityp8575]

You take the upper way in a “submissive” way. Soft and gentle but firm and strong inside. Controlling emotions is the best advise.

[@greyahmarie0905]

THINK BEFORE U FEEL LADIES ....Idk if its because im a virgo but im super logical over emotional I thank God for that💚

[@greyahmarie0905]

@@pinkblossomrose8072 u got it babe... i had my moments but always snap out of it because if we dont care about us no one will. Cold world

[@Miss.Bri_]

I’m a Virgo too!!

[@Miss.Bri_]

Yes when I really like a guy lord i loose my damn mind sometimes😩 @pink blossom rose

[@greyahmarie0905]

@@Miss.Bri_ cant lose ya mind babe its urs to care for .... u got this queen 💚

[@greyahmarie0905]

@@Miss.Bri_ so u def can do it

[@Peace-Love-Light]

Use your emotions as a tool. They help in certain situations but won’t work if you pull them out all the time.

[@calvinriver9834]

Exactly. They work in certain situations but won't work all the time. At times it's necessary, to let these men have the RAW version & let them have it because they deserve it. Especially when they slip up on some disrespect B.S!!!

[@quickzotic5]

"money is a physical representation of what you're doing" bruh we get this iconic wisdom for FREE? i love you shera thank you for your time and energy

[@musherr6535]

Shera out here speaking facts all day, my grandma tought me how to use the power we have as women, "men are like babies " is up to u as a woman to use them how u want and 'A MAN HAS TO LOVE U WAY MORE THAN U LIKE THEM', that's the only way u can be in control. I am 28 and my man is almost 60 hes a BILLIONAIRE, Girls u need to take emotion out of relationships with men, that's the only way u will get what u want... thank u shera

[@zoenzimande535]

😭😭 hunny I need a 60 year old man! When Freestlying I never find those type of men it's mostly 30-45 years who are rich and too picky

[@love_reka_8877]

60 🤢

[@DD_MENEN]

👏👏👏get it gurl

[@true4585]

@@love_reka_8877 A 60 year old *BILLIONAIRE*

[@phugh3878]

Congratssss girl

[@tijeraslack3]

Just feel no ways. That’s it! I learned how to stop being emotional. It’s better that way and you accomplish more.

[@arasimick7413]

How did you do that? I need to do that too

[@CitygirlRayA]

Ara, for starts, just don’t have any expectations because expectations leads to disappointment which is associated with emotions activating. So have a neutral attitude because if he ever flips then you haven’t invested all of your energy and emotions in some clown.

[@arasimick7413]

@@CitygirlRayA Aww, thank you Tijera. Its hard to be emotionally strong because I was pretty much abandoned by my parents as a child I am working on it though .

[@CitygirlRayA]

@Ara, dang I’m sorry you went thru that my love. I’m glad that you’re bringing self care to yourself and working on that.

[@arasimick7413]

@@CitygirlRayA thank you 🙏🏽

[@benedictaamankwaa1844]

I love this woman she’s a mother that many women never had

[@bilochka2101]

Same thing I feel❤

[@RescueAlwaysOfficial]

💯

[@IzzysDiaries97]

This also applies to friendships with women as well! Hear me out!! Too many women out here will not be there for you how you would for them. That is why it's very important to guard your emotions. Don't let any drain you and never give more then you get! I recently got into a bad accident after trying to celebrate a friend's birthday who didn't even come to mine.. the lesson is I gave more then I got and ended up in a worse situation... NEVER give more then you get...

[@mmabasothoraditladi2718]

Very true

[@5t4rrgirl]

facts

[@Lovergirlstudiio]

Sometimes I question this way of life with men.. then after they start playing games I always end up back to this channel. Back on my ish 💄💅🏽👛👑💰🤑

[@Kaykay-jh1zu]

Yessss

[@angelapatton1296]

So true!

[@shanaandshane]

Shera gonna keep us together 😂🎉

[@fhulufhelonemathaga3986]

I still remember having a conversation with my daddy two years ago about marriage. He advised his little girl (me) to marry a man who loves her more than she loves him. I didn't get it then, until now.

[@aalluria6462]

Here 2023. Shera, you’ve reached a whole new sector of women and your message is doing wonders for us all. Thankyou.

[@GREENxTARA]

the only emotions to give men is gratitude.

[@amorjahz2823]

Her videos are like meditations my anxiety always subsided cus she slap that common sense back into me real quick sprinkle sprinkle 🤣🤣🤣

[@spilltheteaalloverme8810]

I married for looks and he was a prick and cheated and verbally abusive so glad it ended, the worst 3yrs of my life, my bf now treats me like a queen and has put up with my crazy/ but he said he notices a big difference in me lately-thank you Ashera seriously

[@spilltheteaalloverme8810]

@Blue Eyes the way he started treating me made him look ugly in my eyes and I could tell he loved partying more than me- he was easy to walk away from actually, he still contacts me thru our oldest son and regrets how he was- he got fat and looks bad now- sometimes looks don’t last

[@spilltheteaalloverme8810]

@Blue Eyes thank you my current boyfriend is attractive just not as attractive as some of my ex’s but I’d rather be alone than treated badly- my most attractive boyfriend let me know how he could easily replace me so that was such a turn off for me at my age (50) treatment trumps looks- best of luck to you hope you find a hottie that will worship you like you (we all) deserve

[@spilltheteaalloverme8810]

@Blue Eyes good for you, yes ma’am I avoided drugs and alcohol and drank lots of water and worked out over half my life, there is a way to grow old gracefully but partying really effects the skin, also I only use natural products on my skin so I think that helps, no chemical stuff only health food products 😊

[@spilltheteaalloverme8810]

@Blue Eyes backatcha 😊

[@white2925]

@Blue Eyes hello dear, me too I like good looking men but in my experiences, especially nowadays in social medias technology era, they act as they are the prize and they are selling you their physical beauty. In my opinion the best thing to do is to find a compromise. When it comes to a man to be good looking to me, I require a pleasant face (eyes and smile above all) and height, and also a nice healthy figure (not fat) . I try to not be too much picky, because then, if you are extremely picky, you won't win at this game especially if you want a serious, masculine, provider man. For instance my current partner, he is from a Viking land, he is tall and has a nice face but he is not an actor, model man. For me it's enough because I like his presence mostly and how he carries himself. He is not super fit like a Gym dude but that's OK with me. I am fitter than him and also younger( I am 26, he is 48). So visually I am the prize anyway. That is extremely nice to feel. He is a professional and makes good money. The bottom line is, find someone who is the right compromise for your purposes. That is my 2 cents about it.

[@JaneDoe-or8nr]

@31:37 I regret marrying a pretty boy. He took care of me but it was young love struggle and he was a dog. The one blessing that came of it is a beautiful daughter graduating at the top of her class this year🤗 At 39, I’m now ready to remarry a man who will provide more and is too old to cheat😂

[@mstwelvedeadlycyns]

Regardless of age they still cheat.

[@JaneDoe-or8nr]

zoeydebra Ok “Debra-downer”😂😆

[@sharij915]

My ex dusty was a pretty boy scorpion🙄 NEVER AGAIN WILL I ALLOW MYSELF TO GET PLAYED!

[@labornurse]

Amen

[@labornurse]

I imagine the less mobile and agile they are, less energy to cheat! Kinda kidding gals!😁

[@Ariasosaxo]

Had to watch this bc bf is looking somewhere else… so what did I do? Level up ladies… bought new clothes new shoes and started working out more.. thank you shera I listened to your advice and I found my self a provider I cannot thank you enough for guiding me into a better lifestyle

[@girlnextdoor2836]

He surprised me today by telling me he wants to get (buy) us an apartment.! I haven’t even kissed him.Only holding hands ! 😄😄😄Its really true that the more you hold out the more they love you

[@SarahBenhamadi-cx2pp]

Girl Nextdoor how long you been together?

[@littlelam3691]

That’s a little much..

[@littlelam3691]

I do hope it works out though! There are always exceptions

[@deed1436]

@@SarahBenhamadi-cx2pp make sure he’s really buying an apartment. He might just be pretending to get you into bed. I’ve had men book me breast augmentation appointments that they never paid for and also buy me fake engagement rings. Beware!

[@iStorm-my5fp]

Yes girl

[@sphinxkitty4951]

Got into an argument with my boyfriend last night and things are looking uncertain. He said he needs time to himself so I’ll give him that and shut my emotions off in the meantime 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@sphinxkitty4951]

Update! We’re still rocking and rolling. Sometimes you just have to relax and NOT assume the worst. Best of luck to all the ladies! 🎉

[@sis3683]

Update???

[@aprillemightknow]

@@sphinxkitty4951same.. removed myself from situation and minded my business and a day later he was running back. now working on regulating my emotions

[@Movethroughlifewithgrace]

I feel like I can ask for my money back from every therapist I was forced to talk to and then ask for retribution because this content just set my head straight. I’m not young or even looking for a man. I’ve just been looking for safety within myself and I undeniably just found it. Thank you, ma’am. Sprinkle sprinkle.

[@mulberrymugwump2920]

Grow in love vs fall in love. Until you see action, don't respond. Always be on your A game. Don't give so much when no one asked you to. Thank you for the reminder Shera! ❤

[@Kaykay-jh1zu]

When no one asked you to 😂😂😂😂😂

[@ladaishawilliams746]

What is action

[@mulberrymugwump2920]

@@ladaishawilliams746 action is efforts from the man's side

[@robertandrocky5004]

When I emotional , I overshare valnerabulitues . Later when I back to stable stage , people still judge me based on my emotional stage of oversharing ( they keep bringing up what I said ) , I keep on explaining that I was overwhelmed than but not now

[@mstwelvedeadlycyns]

That is the bad part including men use against you.

[@Chichi-dc9rd]

I hate this Part of me... they use it when its time...

[@lucky0197]

Same here 😢

[@shondawilson7079]

My man took care of me, but was verbally, and emotionally abusive, and showed the tendency for physical abuse... grabbing and squeezing my arm, etc. I had to let him go. On to the next I guess.

[@firesign4297]

🙏💛👏👏👏👍🏿👍🏿💛🙏

[@kawaiisakura23]

Shonda Wilson that’s what I’m talkin about sis 💕💕💯

[@WealthybyNature13]

No my love, not "on to the next." Take time to HEAL your Inner Child. And you will stop attracting that abusive Mess.

[@amandaspaintinglessons9908]

So then he actually didn't 'take care of' you..

[@shondawilson7079]

@@WealthybyNature13 you're absolutely right. I am now doing just that and I've never been happier as a single woman since I've addressed those issues. My previous comment was a year ago.

[@mw2543]

Right never chase a man!! Follow the correct order is so right!! Even the SPERM chases the egg and the BEST sperm fertilizes the egg!! Giver and receiver order as you discuss often

[@sarahlpw]

Actually, research has come out that proves the egg chooses which sperm she allows in. And then kills the ones she doesn't want.

[@ultravioletpisces3666]

“Who cares what they’re asking, what do you want them to know?” GOLD

[@b.freeman2118]

🎯

[@adriennerobinson4668]

I keep certain people on a need to know basis....you don't need to know shit!!!

[@Embodied.bliss.somatics]

I’ve been binge watching this channel, for HOURS AND HOURS ! Soo much info sinking into my energy and bones! Level-UP

[@user-by2tt7cw4s]

THIS! i literally feel like a totally different woman. 💖

[@Clairewithvertigo]

Me too!

[@obengjemima6477]

Me too

[@eugeniebryan538]

The thing that you said about children learning from their parents is so true I have issues with controlling my anger, and I think I picked this up from my mum. I realise that as an adult I am fully accountable for my actions though.

[@shydobaankween]

You saving lives. I wish I heard you 10 years ago.

[@TheSandrafabian]

I just created a Playlist titled “Shera’s Wisdom.” I kept liking them and realized I needed to have a Playlist of only her wise videos.

[@pianotnt]

That's why you always get THEM more emotionally attached to you you lean back and recieve the benefits from it you can get them to do anything with emotional attachment just dont fuck it up

[@dadecountess305]

It is a businesssss darling ! 💯

[@latoyambetshu740]

Your videos are definitely for me. I have an obsessive and addictive personality and I'd imagine that to be overbearing for a man and I'd obviously be the loser who loves more. So I need to not be emotional.

[@tatendam2341]

Have you ever heard of limerence?

[@gzt4377]

@@tatendam2341what is it?

[@Hijabibti925]

"Changing the target" is KEY....you think these men don't have high standards and don't change target, they show it in so many ways when they lose interest. Level up and keep it moving.

[@Jeniffer61867]

I love Shera. She is giving me what my own parents are incapable to give me.

[@vernita0216]

Facts!

[@userfairymermaid]

same

[@TooPrettiShow]

I was just thinking about this... I wanna call her Mama Shera soo bad lol😅 I'm thankful for her.

[@gigib6105]

These are facts! My husband gets super spooked when I’m emotionless and he is more emotionally invested! I always stop doing everything 😅 when he complained that he was doing it all I said I don’t care to hear any of that🤪I give him what he wants when he’s doing his part😊

[@Tanya-nn7et]

This woman is a blessing. ❤️

[@asiyawhaa1169]

I feel so much better when I don’t care💯

[@scarlett88888]

When I acted overly emotional I can see how turned off he was.. it was such a horrid feeling being weak and not controlling my emotions. Live and let live ✨️ I can't control him.

[@memoryrinehart]

My own uselessness was real. My friend once told me there was a new woman in his life and he wanted his space. I responded by exploding and interrogating. He responded by saying I was like everybody else (in responding like this). I guess I was, I thought at the time. Who wouldn't be? My reaction served nothing. I disappeared. His association with the other woman was short-lived. (She discovered quickly what he was about.)

[@kwclove7623]

Tall women are stunning and impossible to ignore with heels on. I’m 4’10”. I should know. Own your long beautiful legs and the attention they bring you ladies. ❤️

[@Jane5720]

You mentioned you're only 4 feet 10 in so how in the world would you have long legs

[@Jane5720]

@@luxuryqueen42 that doesn't make your legs longer. Still, 3 inches is only 5 feet.

[@nostalgic_xo]

@@Jane5720 She's giving a compliment to the girls who feel insecure for being too tall I guess

[@empressqi1722]

@Blue Eyes Height is very important and can be a huge insecurity of men...take it as a compliment and use it to your advantage. One look from an attractive and confident tall woman can break a shorter man. I've seen it happen and it serves them right for everything they put women through.

[@chickenempire1017]

​@@empressqi1722😂lol

[@maerose5053]

Was just looking up detaching emotions this morning..right I’m time!

[@Solov_d444]

I don’t have words to explain the blessing u r to women ❤️❤️❤️ I appreciate u deeply girl, u found ur purpose and its fascinating to see and learn😍😍😍😘

[@vernita0216]

Shera... your wisdom is out of this world... The women in my community did not operate with such self-worth and innerstanding... Thank you for your teachings!!!!

[@thekey_2024]

The way she be addressing ppl is so funny!!😂❤️ #GOALS I seriously need that kind of fierceness about myself because I’m too nice? She just gave me the keys to unlock a lot of hidden knowledge concerning men and this makes perfect sense? Now I feel completely stupid for allowing myself to be drained and treated less? HELL NO? Knowledge is power ladies👏🏾❗️

[@jboopsie]

Saw the TITLE, and said 🗣 Yes, Shera help em girl!! Help us ALL 💜💜

[@Sheisneika0976]

Man when I tell you these videos have helped me so much!!!!! If it wasn’t for Sherra my ass would be emotional and all out of control around here. And everytime I feel myself slipping I come watch her videos 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@aprilshowers3331]

I gotta revisit this vid every so often to stay focused. Thanks for all you do Shera!❤️❤️❤️

[@bettylegal]

This video was so needed for me back in my teens and early twenties. I definitely know now in my late 30’s

[@melaniedonoghue8103]

I got married 5 weeks ago . I noticed my Husband just stepped down . I usually let things go . Even though I noticed all the things he wasn’t doing. He wasn’t wearing his wedding ring . Sleeping on the sofa . Stepping out from my kids . I’ve started treating him the same way and he is angry and pissed with me .

[@Cat-es9rq]

Hehe.. I got married 5 weeks ago and he didn’t even take me for a decent honeymoon but as soon as I left for work to another country, he went to an expensive tourist spot with his friends to celebrate his friends birthday. Ironically the same day was my birthday too. I got a call from him but didn’t even bother to pick up😂 next day his friend told me that she reminded him to call me at 12am wishing my birthday. You know what I’m gonna do, I’m gonna book a vacation to Europe and treat myself like a queen. Let’s see who get jealous

[@tequilabumbum4373]

Wow that was quick 😒 Did he got better?

[@tequilabumbum4373]

@@Cat-es9rq good idea!

[@alstilwell466]

Keep reciprocating that energy!!!

[@DivineChakras777]

Ask JLo if she hit the wall on that pole... I'm way younger than her and I can't even pull my a** up 🤷😝😂 Runs to pole classes... 😭😭

[@lunalu552]

I started a relationship with the guy asking for it. He also said "you have to love me with all your heart in order for us to be a couple". So he started by actually asking for love! It was his requirement. I was still being used as placeholder and dirty little secret.

[@swiitdoll]

Men who ask for love have nothing to offer. They just use love as a front

[@ogeesther5150]

I LOVE THIS WOMAN , ALL THE WAY FROM NIGERIA

[@true4585]

Yesss

[@fia2709]

Shera, I admire your wise advice. I’m only sixteen, yet I feel so enlightened. Thank you.

[@user-cp5yi8cr5w]

To sum it up ... Check yourself before you wreck yourself !

[@zainabazeem8478]

I think the more you care is the less the guys care... once you realise what you are doing you leave the guy and move on with your life and I am very sure that you will meet someone that will treat you like a queen 👸... what I know is that, if a guy truly loves you no matter what you do to them they will never raise up their hands to beat you... Have one thing at the back of your mind that’s self esteem.

[@landriahm6161]

Holy crap! I never look at things this way!!! I am being cheated! I always detached emotionally from my boyfriend and over a year still never chase him bc I feel like he’s not giving me enough

[@oia5882]

You're healing all my wounds. You're better than my therapist. I'm ready to quit my therapy. Thank you🌹

[@Beauutyy1]

Energy is definitely the metaphysical form of currency

[@agnesonyekwere2556]

you have all the power but you don't know how to wield it--needed to hear this

[@hannahjacobs4244]

I love how straight forward she is😂

[@vibingchakras]

Everytime I see the last digit in your subscriber count go up I JUMP FOR JOY 👏🙌🎉 your patience under stress & pressure is AMAZING, & I truly love how unbothered you are! ALWAYS & FOREVER THE PRIZE!! 🏆😁👏❤️💎

[@Moon-ld8ii]

Every woman needs this advice! Thank you 🙌🏼

[@shilohthebeagle1430]

As women our gift of emotions and love is for our Lord Jesus. We were made to praise Him! But nowadays we give all that to the men in our life 😮

[@happynightmare4653]

True from a Christian standpoint

[@juansmith4408]

My word of advice to anyone trying to get over a dusty, just go to Miami and get a rich man to ball out on you. He will be crying at home 👏🏼😂

[@mstwelvedeadlycyns]

Or Las Vegas

[@annaisis7510]

You can never go wrong with displaying a richer man they really fall for it 💀💀💀

[@number-uz1es]

@@annaisis7510it’s the same as him getting a prettier girl 😂. But at the same time if you know what time the man was on- you won’t really care as much. The main hurt comes from knowing you lost a real one- not necessarily who you lost them too- but it’s part of it.

[@dreamceline2093]

I’m a fire sign (Leo), I definitely need this help!

[@iamme9743]

Me too lmao I'm an aries I needed to hear this

[@TheDevilWearsPrada.0]

Not a fire sign but I got a sag rising and Scorpio moon in super intense explosive emotions I got to tap into my other energies lol I get it

[@naeneco]

@@iamme9743 Aries too & same .

[@BrendaBaBoom]

I agree that they will always DO what they say they’re going to do and make you HAPPY.

[@musicvideolivetv6892]

I don't get why people say Shera is Toxic. This is the simple teachings of our Ancestors. Ask your Grandmother - these are old ancient African ways women used to carry themselves. The Western World has you acting dumb and giving your power away!

[@Lilypuddle]

If you ain't getting paid, youre getting played

[@missautumn1280]

Shera!! THANK YOU! Your manifestation videos are the TRUTH! I have a journal I’ve been manifesting in for only a week and I’m already getting big time results and blessings!!! PLUS your tips and tricks help not only me but women as a whole. You are my fairy godmother✨ SPRINKLE SPRINKLE

[@missautumn1280]

4The L0veofBeauty hi love! I watched a lot of manifestation, law of attraction, scripting videos... a few of my favs from Shera are ,”How to Manifest Faster” “Manifestation Journal Demo” and “My Secret Manifesting Tips”.. start with those to get an idea... or you can search KZbin for “ Sheraseven1 manifest” and all her videos regarding the topic will pop up🤗 Happy Manifesting!! SPRINKLE SPRINKLE ✨

[@phi-losiphy2038]

What manifestation videos of hers to use pls + how are you journalling?

[@beautifullymade4943]

I truly enjoy listening to her.. she changed my whole entire outlook when dealing with men..

[@TanyaBrightFuture]

This is my issue - I was too emotional and I paid with my energy😢

[@shanicka1201]

I needed to hear all of this. I am currently resetting myself!! I cared way too much.. smh..

[@acousticsoul2580]

I came back 3 years later after I saw I was the problem thanks

[@PJJBOSSMUSIC]

YOU INSPIRED ME to make a song to tell them men wire me money. Lol i now put it up. Keep being amazing SheraSeven