How do we get a sense of who we really are?

A common feature among those clients who have experienced a challenging upbringing, often referred to as complex trauma, is a sense that “I’ve never known who I really am,……often associated with a feeling of emptiness.
How does a child develop a sense of identity? Knowing they matter? Knowing they make a difference?. Knowing they have value? Knowing they are loveable? or desirable?
In this video I look at how we defend against shame, as well as how we can begin to heal from Shame.