How do you know when someone doesn't like you as much as you like them?

[@checoPH]

You are a very smart woman.

[@whylliecoyote9675]

This video is absolutely spot on. There comes a time to be objective and realize that if it's not there, it's not there. If you continue to pursue someone who doesn't show the same interest, you are robbing yourself of the opportunity to meet someone whom might be a better match for you. In any case, don't sacrifice your dignity because trying harder doesn't always get the results you want, it may even make you look very foolish, and no one wants that. One technique to try, is to pretend you are observing someone else's interaction's, that you have no vested interest in the outcome of, would you think there is a mutual attraction based on what you are observing, or not. But in the end, be a good sport, continue to be polite and friendly, but definitely take the blinders off and keep your options open, who knows, maybe it's for the best.

[@anayatallah4671]

Sick, sad world.

[@ando1135]

Why do I always find myself in these situations. I should just accept the fact that i am not meant to have a friend or friends and that being alone is the only way I will exist. Every time I try to make friends I end up being so hurt and anxious, no one likes me back or wants to make an effort so I end up feeling hurt, used, and tossed aside. After this current friendship end (basically on its way out) I’m just going to avoid people all together, it hurts too much each time to go through it again and again.

[@sidnacos]

Same here.

[@ARINOXMUSIC]

Hope you doing alright

[@madisonj5136]

Honestly I’m the same way, and what I learned is look at peoples actions. Most people say things they don’t mean and lead people on trying to be polite, and hoping you’ll catch on their hints. What help me is having no expectations and look at peoples actions. Their actions tell you. Hope all is well for you now 😊

[@danieldelarocha1731]

We love you, Marie!

[@mariedubuque]

Thank you, Daniel, you made my day!

[@joydivsion77]

Great advice. I'm in this situation right now with a girl; I like her far too much and the feeling just is not being reciprocated.

[@Cerieous]

feel like I owe you money...thank you..broken down into 4 minutes...fabulous.

[@thevisionary5883]

thanks for this. what im doing was right. i feel better being alone than being with a person that makes me think im alone.

[@mrs.camillewarrenempress3115]

the Visionary that's right .. the onlying people you should have is your family's and the ones that love you onlying.. I am the same way .. I stick to myself and my family and my kids ..ain't got time for friends at all

[@MissPinkapples]

I enjoyed watching this video. I find myself sometimes getting anxious when I meet new people in hopes that we hit it off and become friends right away. I tend to scare ppl of I think with my availability and being to needy.

[@mrs.camillewarrenempress3115]

Miss Pinkapples try not to be so nervous and just relax and take your time .. I know what you mean .. just do right and Everything will go right

[@ando1135]

My anxiety makes me clingy too...I feel like if I don't have constant contact that the person just hates me or hates being around me. Trying to be closer, faster, actually works in reverse, it pushes people further away because it crosses into their personal space. It's affecting a good friend of mine right now...I don't know if I can repair the friendship but I will try...otherwise I will have to deal with the fact that he just can't handle me and my anxiety anymore.

[@jhonjohnjonjondoe5011]

wtf is wrong with men? I am not needy but i tend to like girls i am interested in when they are needy for me. I don;t mind a girl chasing me not one bit. I have found most men are the same way.

[@jhonjohnjonjondoe5011]

ando1135 I will give you a tip that works very well for that situation. Start by only txting once a week for a while until he starts to reciprocate and move at his pace once he starts to txt back. Txt most of the time on a wed or thursday and make plans with him for a saturday or sunday. Dpends on the sports he likes. If he likes boxing or mma then schedule for sunday if he likes foot ball schedule for saturday. Don't txt inbetween that time. you want about 72 hours of no talking to him before that date which is why i gave you both those days. When he starts to txt more often do not respond right away and inbetween those times make sure to hang out with friends and let him notice you are having a good time with out him. Also make sure to hang with gay guys or guys who you friend zoned. post pics on social media. But move at his pace since you move to fast will normaly work pretty well. I always go from the start at the girls pace.

[@Feber2001]

Relationships are hard...lol

[@CariBaez]

I DON'T WNAT TO CHASE ANYONE IN ANY WAY!! 😒👍😅😅😅😅

[@swanm3ta850]

Unless they owe me money...

[@henynua3405]

That’s me if I call you or text you ones or twice if you lucky and you don’t respond texting or calling me back after when you can you won’t hear from me again. I feel guilty of it sometimes but can’t force anyone to be a friend or a companion.

[@Goodwillwinoverevil1984]

@@swanm3ta850 Nah not even. You can just sue them small claims but money's not worth THAT much that people make it out to be! Good luck everyone. No one is kind with a heart anymore.

[@grey_vetiver]

Well there goes more than 99% of my friends lol

[@ivanafox4433]

You are wonderful..always giving the best advice.

[@abigailp.1252]

I totally agree with you Marie. If a guy doesn't pursue you from the beginning , he will be cold in the relationship if he eventually goes out with you and the relationship won't be mutual. same goes with a girl. Even a really shy person will do anything to approach their crush.

[@hamza12028]

You should be on the View like if you agree

[@veroosh]

Your lessons are invaluable.

[@mariedubuque]

Thank you so much!

[@schneiderjudit2650]

Tarot and astrology is formt he devil. Please do not be decieved. LORD Jesus Christ is the way , truth and life..please do not be decieved by astrology and tarot and all occultic practices. I nearly died becaus eof occultic practice ( transcendetla meditation) but the LORD Jesus Christ saved my life. He also heale dmy skull . All praise and glory to Him. Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today and forever. You can have real relatonship with God becuase of Jesus . 2 Corinthians 5:19 King James Bible : "To wit, that God was in Christ, reconciling the world unto himself, not imputing their trespasses unto them; and hath committed unto us the word of reconciliation." If oyu are looking for truth.. for Life.. the Way.. turn to the LORD Jesus Christ as He is the way truth and life. He is your shepherd. I thank HIm that he saved me and revealed to me that astrology, horscopes, tarot.. etc all occutic practices are indeed a lie and all occultic practices.. are form the devil. turn away from all these occultic practices and seek Jesus for truth. The transcendental meditation neraly killed me if Jesus had not saved me form beign physcially possed by deoms.. The spirtual world is real.. But the hOly Spirit is of the LORd. Is truth. Jesus gives His Holy spirit to thos ewho believein Him... We are sealed wiht HIs hOly spirit and become adopted children of God .. redeemed by the blood of the Lamb being Jesus. He Came from heaven to save the world. To save His people form their sins. To reconcile you to God ( Himself) by his sacrificial blood. He paid the price to redeem us with his own blood and life. He gave His life ot redeem us from the present evil world. The Holy spirit that raised the LORD Jesus Christ unto life will raise us up also.. we have passed from death onto life becuas eof Jesus . Thank YOu Jesus! King James Bible Ephesians 2:8 For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: He is returnign at any moment. Thank you Jesus.. Whoever believes in Him in the LORD Jesus Christ, has eternal life. Astrology and all occultic practices are lying spirits form the devil. PLease do not be decieved. Devil is liar and cam eto kill, steal and destroy. I rebuke all evil spirits out of you in the name of the LORD Jesus Christ. Jesus is the only way.. He gives life. Jesus loves You please turn to HIm for life.. For He is the way, the truth and life. God shows his love in Christ. He is real. please turn to Him. John 6:29King James Bible "Jesus answered and said unto them, This is the work of God, that ye believe on him whom he hath sent." John 5:39-47 King James Version (KJV) 39 Search the scriptures; for in them ye think ye have eternal life: and they are they which testify of me. 40 And ye will not come to me, that ye might have life. Jesus is real may all turn to him for life

[@gabrielcundari3104]

Word to that! No matter how shy, if they want to know you, they will try.

[@jstnhnh]

Thanks for this, Marie. Recently, I met a girl who seemed interested in me, but after I hung out with her twice, I realized she was making no effort to pursue me back. So, I stopped texting her and moved on with my life.

[@elloumidouaa6394]

i can't explain how much i'm in love with you

[@user-xy4ff5yp7b]

Your advice is so awesome and delivered with sincerity and without pretence. I love it!

[@sydwillis2520]

Free therapy, thanks

[@jaxflfreebird]

Wow, someone who actually responds to posts. That is simply amazing. Ok, maybe you will respond to me. I like a girl at work. We are both 51. Once we had an argument 4 years ago, but this year she finally seemed to let it go and she talked to me. We drive school buses. Long story short I would see her at a middle school but I lost parts of my route and this took about two months. I developed a crush on her and I decided I had to tell her. I also told her I had trouble in the past with anxiety over rejection and stuff. She also went through a very tough divorce which is most of the reason she projected onto me in that argument. Anyway, I was enjoying talking with her and then I couldn't. I told a couple of weeks ago that I've had a crush on her. She didn't say anything negative and she was pretty positive about it, it seemed. Meanwhile, I go home in the morning after my run bu she lives out of town and she sort of parks near a guy who lives on the other side of town because it is also too far for him to drive home. Long story short, I got cold feet as experience warns me about girls with guy friends. And he has hours to talk to her if he wants. She seems to confide in him. I don't know what they talk about but I also can tell that she realizes that my heart would fall when I would see them walking or talking together. I asked her friend about this situation. She said the girl is not dating and that she would talk to her for me. I think I might have scared her off with the anxiety stuff or my complete lack of confidence. I had thought I had communicated with her on Facebook and I sent her messages. But since I never got one friend I didn't have any "connections" to anyone so I think the messages went nowhere at all. She didn't seem to know anything about my messages which was really a very good thing because I had come on quite strong. Anyway, I really like the girl but I've been having to try to control my feelings so I won't hurt myself and this forced me to stay away from a girl I liked which could have been a mixed signal. I had to have time to get my mind together and my feelings. I still have strong feelings but I had to dampen the whole thing because I was afraid of crashing and burning hard. I had to consider my mental health. I've never married but she's a grandmother. She has grown kids and one girl from her second marriage. Her first husband died a year or so ago and she had a painful second divorce. Now the friend guy may be friending himself into much better situation with the girl. And if the girl isn't mad or annoyed with my behavior then I feel it must be the case that she really isn't interested in me. She is from the country and I really am not. She hunts and it's a passion of hers and beyond that I don't know much about her. What I do know is that I probably should know a lot more before I go trying to fall in "love" with her. Love is a great feeling but it ought to be based on knowing someone. I made a conscious attempt to pull my heart out of the lead of this so I could not get hurt badly for over feelings that perhaps I shouldn't even have. I'm just saying I thought I really better slow the hell down because my heart was fixing to make an even bigger fool of myself than I already have in person. I'll probably know just how to feel tomorrow. I'm just super lonely, and I live alone, and the holiday season is coming too. "Dave" has the complete advantage with Sandra here. I think they might be going to church. I really don't know what to think. But I should know something more very soon. Sandy is just the first girl that I have liked in about 9 years, so it was that old feeling again that had led me into a lot of misery in the past when I was rejected before. That said, I've lost like 30 pounds and this situation makes not eating even easier. I'm barely eating which really should help the pound to fall off. I'm not really fat now, not at all, but I still want to lose about 20 pounds to get back to my weight of younger days. Bus driving is hard on the body.

[@mariedubuque]

jaxflfreebird I would go with what her friend says...the one who is going to talk to her for you. She sounds like a straight shooter. If she says this woman is interested in you, by all means, ask her out! But if the friend comes back and says no she's not, then consider her just another co-worker. But when you run into her, still talk to her as if nothing happened. It might seem weird at first, but soon, conversations will be back to normal. No matter what happens, don't sit at home! You said she likes hunting. Find your own passion...you could start by doing something fitness related, like join a gym. You lost all that weight. Now is the time to continue being active, and socialize while you're at it!

[@jaxflfreebird]

Marie Dubuque I still don't know the outcome over whether the lady I was liking at works likes me or not. We drive school buses. I am on a new route now and we both go into the same school. I could have approached her last week but I decided not to. I don't want to seem to eager or to give her some reason to moan about that dude that must obviously like her. Yeah, she knows I asked her friend about her relationship with that guy friend of hers. He is her little lap dog that follows her around. I go home after my route she stays at work or in town as he does. They talk some and pass the time. I can't begrudge the girl for having a little company at work. And if she does like the guy then they have a lot of time to talk and to get to know each other. Me, I am ten minutes from the house and I go home and frequently I'll have a nice two hour nap or more. And the guy who is a friend seems to be a decent guy so even if I am a bit jealous I just try not to worry about their relationship. And I don't want the girl to obsess about whether I like her or not, and I mean in a bad way. I think it is only proper and fine that the girl knows that I'm a fan of hers. I haven't asked her out so I haven't been rejected. Maybe that is a little pathetic on my part bu we WORK together and I don't want a scene, or some heavy rejection. I am basically afraid of women and relationships anyway and at 51 I'm probably not going to change a lot. I am used to being ALONE and UNHAPPY over the holidays and also DEPRESSED. As sad as that sounds I don't know much else and trying to set up a girlfriend for the holidays doesn't sound fun to me. I mean, I want a girlfriend regardless of what time of year it is. I don't want to be used over the holidays and then discarded in the new year, any more than I want to be used or discarded at any time of the year. So that door to a relationship is propped open. I neither close it or try to open the door. I know I turned her on when I told her I had had a bad crush on her. That she seemed to like and enjoy. Then I lost my nerve, and I got too emotional even to be around her because I was "in love" for lack of better words. So I've tried to compose myself back to that guy who doesn't care so much, to that guy who cares less who isn't hanging on whether she could like or love him. Jeez, I feel a bit pathetic some times.

[@bartdude82]

Lol it's sooo funny how much I needed to hear this right now. I am done with the chasing. If only I backed off sooner so he could notice it...

[@xvladimirxfizzy9764]

Your channel has really given me some good advice, thank you!:)

[@SergioMartinez-pp9em]

Pure Light these comments are extremely acqurate for relationships thank you very much!! ;-)

[@Killua-ce3kt]

Thank you very much you have no idea how much this helped me!

[@andreasimmons3211]

Oh my god, you are so right, thank you for the eye opener, so helpful

[@geegorgeous8364]

thats awesome,I understand now.thanks dear Marie.

[@cupcakes7103]

Thank you for your great advice! :)

[@Veilfire]

thank you so much for creating this channel Marie, your insight has helped me with my problems countless times :)

[@schooder]

With all of this human "dancing around with each other" is over you must have Friendship, Passion and Respect to make it all work. If you don't have these , you just a house of cards.

[@chloefoster5644]

You are so good at making theese type of videos!

[@jamest681]

When you like someone and want to be friends with them, what is your mind set. Do you want to get something or do you want to give something. I just personally find that when I meet new people who I would like to be friends with, my mind set is always to give something. It just creates an over all better vibe. It's always a nice positive feeling anyway to be a giver. If you don't expect the other person to give you back, I think they sense that and the soil has become much more fertile to grow a friendship. If it does not happen then it is what is it. Friendships can take time and if you try to create something or expect something faster than it would naturally occur, that could make the other person uncomfortable. Like if you were coming on too strong. If I go into a relationship to give, then the other person may think, wow that's a person I would like to be friends with.

[@Xbot4Life]

Wow, you are really good, you have helped a lot already. There is a girl im fond of, I've texted her a few times, noting romantic, just saying "Hi, whats up" etc, she always responds but its always quite to the point and she has NEVER sent me a message first, I always initiate. At work she is very quick to get into my personal space when I call her over to my desk or want to speak to her so thats a little confusing.

[@evlish8771]

i love you yours videos always help me to understand people

[@charward8109]

I really enjoy your videos! Thank you!

[@MasterOfNintendo99]

I love your videos so much, they're so helpful and informative. I am going t try a few of these with some older friend and even try to make some newer friends in my first year of uni. I'm either too elusive to the point I look not interested (although I am), or too much going after. i gotta find a balance I think :)

[@popfanism]

Thank you, this seriously helped me so much!

[@returningwhisper]

This is really solid advice. Thank you.

[@insanity23mike]

Now she says hi and all.. I just smirk and ignore her(kinda). I just don't show same interest i used to. She still with her big gorgeous smile, giving me the look that she wants to start a conversation(Jan) since we haven't seen each other in months. I just walked away! Thats what she gets for not responding to my last text in july

[@Vision-lz4ru]

Kobe2Prison wait so is that what my crush is doing? She used to show interest but now when I’m talking her she doesn’t seem like it

[@fantaclaus7053]

Zavala 956 ....best way since three of the female idiots I dated laugh and giggle as they scoot off when they see me. Frankly don't give a shit, they act like fools.

[@SeriDA77]

so true. I agree. thank you

[@jelaienfinue]

Thank you for the video, great advice !

[@shan4883]

His friends got too involved and I backed away and felt very hurt from them not actually knowing me, which to them thinking I wasn't interested, but have so many personal problems I'm dealing with and I'm working when they are bothering me so much. They work across from my building and this guy who I have liked for months likes me too and has been trying to approach me for the past month now and his friends get so upset and frustrated along with him that they start to say all these awful things about me thats not even true! They never ask him how I am doing, but get ideas in their heads since I'm guarded with myself as a 5'2 woman who has to work and I have a time limit now at my job. My supervisor has been upset with me and I've been under a lot of stress from them working faster. Now, they are thinking I'm too young for him and got this idea after he stood there near my building smiling and his friend calling me cute trying to let me know he's into me, but I felt so hurt by his friends so much that I couldn't trust him after that. Hes a very nice guy up until his friends get involved. I'm very upset and hurt by him now. All happening right before Christmas too and it just ruined my entire week from his frustrations and assumptions about me. I thought by now he would at least say hi to me after all this time, but is too nervous and I have smiled at him and everything, but got to the point of being too drained emotionally from stress that I don't smile anymore when I come into work. My friends think I need to take a break from him. The building that I clean across from them will be closed for a week, so that will help me settle my stress and nerves even though I will miss him, but if he wants to approach me again, I hope it will be in a better more relaxed way. He's an anxious person and his friends arent making it any better for him.

[@zipporahdailey]

This was really helpful. There was someone who i met at work. And we would talk occasionally so i thought they wanted to be my friend. So i asked them for their number and they gave it to me. so we texted once and they replied one time then after never responded. i got the courage today to text them again. you know say hey whats up. no reply. so maybe they don't w'ant to be friends after all. thanks for your video. i would like someone to rather say they don't want to be my friend then ignoring me.

[@siraphopsrichoo7538]

The fact that I have to accept it makes me so sad.

[@DGneoseeker1]

Well, this is exactly what I'm currently paranoid about... Girls don't exactly talk to me much generally speaking, so I'm likely to overreact when someone does. While the girl I'm interested in HAS initiated conversations, it hasn't been on many occasions so far. But then again we're usually in a work environment where it's not very easy for one to take place for long. I'm not sure how *often* I should be looking for them to make a first move before I should conclude they might like me.

[@mutantapk5903]

Well I talked to that girl on phone because I was wondering where she was, because she wanted to hang out on tuesday and Thursday. But it turns out that after class she had to go straight home. I told I was worried about her, but she told me not to worry about her. Is this a good sign. To be honest she sounded like she was a little glad to be talking to me.

[@sebastienb3716]

I'm a Junior in High School and I just told my close friend of around 13 years that I liked her as more than a friend. She is a Senior in High School (only 9 months older) and upon telling her she didn't actually say whether she feels the same way or not. She said that she doesn't want to get into a relationship because of college and what not but I don't honestly know how to interpret that. People I ask tell me that she is "thinking about it' but I really don't know how she really feels and it is tearing me apart.

[@mariedubuque]

***** if she has to think about it, you need to move on. You can still stay friends, but realize the relationship won't be anything more than that. I know it may seem weird at first, but pretty soon you will be talking the way you used to before she found out you were interested in her.

[@yverma1087]

thank you very very much this helped me a lot .............

[@feloniousmonk321]

The problem with advice is that it is all based on how other people will see you if you do or don't do something. For example, 'you don't want to be seen to be anxious'. Well why not? How at ease with myself can I be if I simply do or don't do what will make me look bad or foolish or silly by others?

[@adeotano9620]

What if 'they' like me, more than I like them.

[@CariBaez]

😒 true, well. be nice. 👍

[@lindseyhebert5568]

I feel that way they used to like me a lot at first now I feel like they don’t like me as much I don’t know why I am scared text them like I have nothing to say to them most of the time I used to have a commitment relationship sometimes it takes them 2 days or longer to respond it gets frustrating they say they like me but they don’t show it I’m always the first one to text them sometimes they treat me with true and loyalty at first and used to say how sweet of a girl I was now I don’t feel it like I used to

[@ando1135]

Lindsey Hebert good riddance. I’m in the same boat only this friend of mine will always agree to hang out and do stuff but he never initiated anything or ever asks how I am and has started to ignore texts. I’m just about done with it all.

[@MissGarland1986]

Hi, thank you for this video. What about if you want to arrange a meet up with a friend you went to school with? I am always the one in the friendship trying arrange a catch up after a good number of years - even though we live in the same town. Each time I ask my friend when are you free for a catch up? She always says "I don't know what I'm doing" or "Sorry i'm busy". But she's not busy because all she does all day is watch horror movies and post about them on facebook and she is unemployed. She said she was too busy to meet up with me on that particular day....busy doing what? Watching movies all day does not qualify as "busy". A full time job does. She is a goth...but I don't care if she is a goth or not. She is my friend, so it doesn't matter to me. But I get the feeling that's why she doesn't want to meet up with me. Because i'm not a goth and she doesn't want to be seen with me because I don't follow the same lifestyle she does. Again, I don't care if she is a goth, I wouldn't care if she wasn't one. That's who she is and I accept that. What have I done wrong? All I want to know is why she keeps blowing me off.

[@mariedubuque]

MissGarland1986 it could be a number of reasons. She could be embarrassed because she is unemployed and you probably have a good job. I think it is hard for people who aren't doing well in life to get together with people they grew up with who are. So, I would keep in touch, and every once in a while, suggest meeting up. But if she turns you down, don't take it personally.

[@MissGarland1986]

Marie Dubuque But I don't have many friends as it is and she was the only one I hung out with at school. I invited her to even be a guest at my wedding and she said she can't come. she hasn't given me a valid reason as to why so I think the reason is because she doesn't want to be friends anymore, which is really really hurtful. What do I even say to her now?

[@Gunnergirl56371]

To be honest, I'm starting to feel doubtful.

[@MRDeathFX]

That's the synopsis of my life right now

[@lindseyhebert5568]

I really like them more than they like me I don’t understand why they don’t like me as they used to I feel like they gossiping to someone else they said I was the sweetest girl to them they were interested in me I want to be so interested to people and I try to be friendly to show them how much I like them

[@fernandosalas8589]

Back in the 80s I liked a girl in the church I attended to. I told my friend Lewis to tell her I liked her so he did. Every time I saw her in church she would hide so I told my friend Lewis to set up a group to go out. So her sister and my friend Lewis would go together to eat pizza. But she was kinda cold so I gave up. About 5yrs later my cousin tells me one day so what happened between you and Diane? I said nothing happened she didn't like me. Then he tells me that's not what she told me she said your cute and smart she wanted you to keep chasing her. So she did a good job on acting as she didn't like me. But she was very cold to this day I don't know why she did that. My cousin had the same experience he liked girl in the neighborhood but she showed no interest then years later as adults she told him she liked him.

[@clodettelee9392]

what happens if she responds and talks to me when i talk to her only and she is normal around me but she cannot hang out with me

[@novelist99]

What if their actions say one thing and their words say another? My adult, estranged niece came into my life after my brother recently died (we had a falling out 18 years ago, and he wouldn't let me see her). She repeatedly hugged me, told me she loved me, and wanted me in her life. We got together a few times, and had a wonderful Christmas, and then I heard nothing from her for 5 months. She didn't email me, call, or respond to me on FB. I was crushed. She finally came over, acted somewhat aloof, and claimed she'd been too busy to contact me, working 80 hours a week. I don't buy it as she frequently posted on Facebook, including photos of other people she'd visited. I've taken a step back, deciding I'm not going to push my way into her life, but I feel a bit confused about our relationship.

[@maxwillson]

You know whats worse then knowing your crush doesn't like you? When a clueless idiot doesn't realize your crush likes him! I'm almost tempted to tell the poor idiot to ask her out!

[@mentuemhet]

A symmetrical relationship is the ultimate goal. I had that with my best friend since the 4th grade before he died at the age of 27. Now, and all the time, I like another person more than they like me. It's so stupid. Why must we play these stupid games of when to engage and when to back off? Surely, we can find a "carbon" copy of ourselves in someone. You don't have to reply if you don't want to. I'm just ranting.

[@silver333555]

Thank you so much!

[@natalieabumariam8573]

thx these videos help alot

[@ed684]

Wise words

[@austinsharp7717]

So I just started a new job about a week and a half ago and there is one girl that I am interested in. She's come up to me to start conversation a few different times, when we talk she usually keeps eye contact the whole time, and she always asks me how I am doing. She seems to kind of always be wondering how I am. Because of our schedules, we don't work together very much but I am wondering if I should try to talk to her more, get her number, or if you even think she is interested in being more than friends. Also, how long I should wait to ask for her number if I do that?

[@SaraKassab]

ive been nice with someone since the first time i met them, i really want to be friends with them but that person doesnt seem do understand what im doing (i think) and that someone is friends with all my friends and i want to get to know her. And that somebody is always nice with me but i also feel like she's rejecting me. what should i do ?

[@mariedubuque]

Sara, I would not push the friendship. Sometimes, it's better to be an acquaintance with someone. Sure, try to initiate conversation every once in a while, but if she doesn't respond, there is really nothing you can do. I know it's frustrating, but it doesn't mean this person dislikes you...just that you don't click.

[@SaraKassab]

+Marie Dubuque oh okay, thank you :) ♡

[@chaskanawi4309]

I have a problem..there's a guy I like.. He is very nice, innocent and outgoing. At the beginning I often started the conversations. After some time he regularly responded to my Whats App stories. He invited me two times to zoom meeting, one time with his sister the other time with his best friend.. and he invites me to group hang outs on zoom for playing games. On any other guy I would have suspected interest but with him I'm not sure don't want to believe it's true. what if I'm wrong? Because I saw that he treats all the girls so nice like me. So I'm confused...

[@lukehall2555]

THANK YOU VERY MUCH.

[@pennyh7674]

Okay... So there's this guy at my school and he's a year older than me. But we see each other a lot. Only because a few of my friends are really close to him. We have the same interest like Music and theater. We also were in the spring musical together. And every once in a while we would talk. But nothing really serious. Now since the musical is over I'm really wanting for us to still talk. I saw him the other day at the concert that I was supposed to be singing at with one of my friends. After doing a Mic check I walked out side for some fresh air Because I had a head ache and I was sick so I knew I wasn't going to sound good. But I didn't realize he was out there till I walked outside and when I did. He said "You guys sounded pretty good" Which i thought was a total lie because I knew i sounded really bad. I replied with "No we don't we're going to suck" And he said "No you won't sing" and i refused to sing and he kinda just looked at us saying we would do good. Then when it was time for us to sing we failed so bad and I walked off Sat down and just looked around in disgusted at how bad we were. When he noticed what I was doing. He looked at me and smile and just like that I seemed to become happy again. It wasn't until a few days later that i thought about it and kinda realized I might be starting to like him and when I did I got scared and told my mom I was too sick to go to school. Just so I could avoid any awkwardness because I wasn't exactly sure. Now this school year is almost over and next year he will be going to high school. Do you think I should tell him that I like him before he leaves this year or wait till high school? What do you think I school do in general?

[@kevinstatic]

Hi Marie, I'm currently 22 years old and I was wondering what are your thoughts on me dating a 18 year old? I know it's a four year gap, but I'm not so bothered by it, but I'm afraid of her parents not approving since I am 22 years old. What are your thoughts on year gap and the relationship? Should I wait for her to be a little older? Thanks, kevinstatic.

[@mariedubuque]

kevinstatic, I would wait...not only because she is so young, but the sheer fact that she will change so much. Give it a little time and see if you both feel the same way about each other.

[@kevinstatic]

Marie Dubuque Once again thank you very much!

[@NorthernLight222]

HI Marie, I wonder how many necklace you have got? They're so nice. I noticed you wear different one in every videos hehe.

[@falloutboy895]

So I this girl I've liked for a while ( a year or so ) pours out her feelings about me. (I like you a lot, and just telling me all this stuff on how much she likes me) Then when i start to show more interest she kinda brushes me off. I'm kinda confused on what it is shes wanting. We talk regularly (Texts, in class, etc.) So that night when we talked in a phone call we both kinda poured out our feelings for eachother, but whenever i try to make a move she just kinda smiles and nods if that makes sense. I'm just confused and I just need some advice. Cause i feel like im falling head over heels and she was too for a time then it just stopped. Help is appreciated

[@mariedubuque]

falloutboy895 definitely be a little less available. She is playing games. And the more hard-to-get you play the more interested she will be. But is that really the beginning of a relationship you want to be in?

[@coachemilythetriumphant3883]

Spot on.

[@mercyadejumo5779]

love the channel

[@hannahnickels6586]

I have been hanging out with this girl for about 2 months now and we're friends kind of best friends but it kind of seems like she doesn't like me and I don't really know what to do because she is short with me we don't really hang out as much as we used to what should I do?

[@Nepthu]

This advice is simple but rings true. Anytime I've tried too hard to make friends, it hasn't worked out.

[@lastkilla6076]

Hey Marie I need your advice I found out my ex girlfriend which I dated for 3 years which I really love is playing with me I'm just tired of being her 2 choice she tells me she missed me and love me but after we talk for couple days I find out that she is talking to her other ex I don't knoe what to do Please Help Me ?

[@jonathan5371]

my best friend made a new friend and now they haven't talked to me in a month. I don't know what to do. I'm the person who only ever has two or three friends so its getting really hard.

[@amethyststar4688]

u understand me soo much man

[@lukamelukame584]

@marie Actually i'm in college. Thanks for the advice and replying to me! ^_^

[@LifeIsKhu]

Hey Marie , you have great advice:). My name is Angie and I need some help.. So I want to talk to someone. We used to talk a lot, we were close friends, a year ago. I messed everything off and cut them off, and now I miss him so Much.. It really is affecting me. I don't know what to do because I feel to embarrassed to say hi and I feel as if he might not be interested in me or a friendship. Could you help me out with some advice?:/ thank you.

[@mariedubuque]

awsome, you say you are embarrassed to say hi. Why? Ask yourself what is the worth thing that could happen. Sure, he could refuse to talk to you...but I doubt it. Just say hi, and try to start a conversation. If you get shot down, so what. If you don't try, you will never know.

[@bendhimanish]

What if some one is talking to me when they have some work with me and the rest of the time they ignore me ,and when i meet them they are good and what if the person is a women that i proposed to and got rejected

[@musicalroly]

Marie, if my friend doesn't text me or call me first, does that mean they don't like me?

[@preeyahx3010]

i have a question, signs hes denying his feelings

[@lindseyhebert5568]

I deal with that why do I like them more than they used to like me I try to be confident I miss a lot of communication I feel like way when they don’t care as much as they used to it hurts me I’m crying I even felt forgotten by them sometimes we were interested in each other at first sometimes I feel like they like me pretty much and sometimes I feel like they don’t like me or as much

[@marnabs5397]

What if she told me a secret only her close friends and family know despite only starting to talk to me after a month. She also said she doesn't like other people knowing without her telling them directly. And I confirmed it to be true.

[@brianajimenez5428]

Marie I need Your help my friends we were going to PE and one of my friend went to art so when I was going out side she looked at me and smiled big then my friend that looked at me looked at my other friend she made a mad face then at break I heard them say somthing that if you like her in a secret. And I don't know what to do I'm confused and i don't know if she likes me or not Marie please help😘

[@lukamelukame584]

So there's this girl I wanted to befriend. She was in my physics class last semester. The first day, she walked me all the way to my class and seemed friendly. After a few weeks, she didnt do that anymore and she'd say bye afterwards. When I talked to her, she would just talk about herself, and not ask questions about me. But whenever I passed by her, she would always be the first one to spot me and give out a friendly hi. Then, even though she had another friend in her physics class, she would constantly ask me for help... but I was never able to help her with hw. But she still asked me. I told my boyfriend I was overreacting, but I had a gut feeling that she wasnt interested in a frienship, but i tried anyways. So I texted her asking her why she wasnt there for finals. she said her reasons, then all of a sudden she said that we should get lunch together. but we then changed the topic. a few weeks later, on New Years, I asked if she wants to hang out. so we planned it and hung out the next few days. When we hung out, she was an hour late, because her alarm didn't set off. but she said sorry. She talked about her boyfriend a lot, but she didn't ask me about my boyfriend. She shared with me a lot of personal things. she also mentioned that she would love to invite me to the gym with me with her friends. She said she was supposed to leave at 4, but she stayed until 6. so we hung out 11-6. she said some of her friends are annoying, amd she does want to find new ones. i said that i didnt have much friends, and i said i had a bad ex that broke up with me in disneyland, but i didnt go into much detail. My mom texted me and i was acared i might get in trouble, so she offered to meet her. In the car ride, she mentioned to me how she wanted to be friends with this one girl in the tennis team, and she admired her, but she was too shy to talk to her. i felt awkward hearing that, because that's how i felt about her, except that I didnt really admire her, I just wanted to be close friends with her, it made me wonder what she thought of me. Then she dropped me off, and said she didn't feel like meeting my mom this time. This happened during Christmas vacation after New Year's. She didn't contact me since. Okay and today, I texted her to follow up. Here's the convo in a nutshell: Me: hey what's up. how was valentines? her: oh i worked. didnt celebrate it me: aww how come too corny? her: yah a friend kind of ruined it a few hours later... me: how are your classes so far? 4 hours later.. her: i only have one class. do we have one school tomorrow me nope wow sounds easy her: btw ill text you later, im watching walking dead So she didnt ask any questions about myself, and she just answered my questions. Plus she kept repying really late. I told my boyfriend about this, but he said nothing bad happened, and that everything is fine. but i just knew he was wrong for some reason. I told a random person on blahtherapy, and she said she isnt interested, b/c she treated people she didnt like like this. What do you think? Part 2: Well and I get jealoud of how my boyfriend found a group so easily! he started off more shy then me, then all of a sudden he found a group of friends to hang out with. they all hang in one room and are gamers, and its easy for him because they all hang in ONE room. for me, when i have to hang out with someone, i have to text initiate, plan a day, and time. For him, his friends are there in the room everyday, on a timely basis!! so he doesnt have to try as hard. but i do enjoy their company, I hang in that group too, but they only hang out with me when my boyfriend is with them. But, they're not my individual friends. I mean I have an amazing boyfriend, but I have little friends. I have aclose friend in hs, but we dont share common interests as much, she doesnt like going out as much as me, and shes very playful, so I can't really go to her for advice. because she usually says she doesnt know what to say, or jokes about it. my other trusted friend is very mature, and we connect, but we aren't that close to hang out all the time. i have tried in high school... ive joined clubs, joined homecoming lip sync, ive been very active to an intent just to make friends. but i would have it, but it wiuld drift eventually. i've always desired one day that i'll find a group of girls that accepted me and that i'm comfortable with. i had that, but in the end, they would either betray me, or i wouldnt feel like they include me enough. i also feel that i had something close to that, but i drifted. sigh I just want a group of girls that accept me. I'm in community college, planning to transfer and I never experienced it to be successful. It's harder now because in college, everyone has a different schedule. It's what I dearly wish for, then my life would be balanced. I also have a sister where we're not in good terms with each other. We're not talking right now. Anyways, i'll talk about it later.

[@mariedubuque]

Lukame Lukame it is hard to find a group of girls in high school where everyone gets along. If you have one or two close friends, you are doing great. It sounds like that girl wants to be your friend, but isn't all that motivated. So, let her contact you next time. I bet she will, it just won't be as often as you might think.

[@seanng8502]

I've got a question: How do you know difference between approaching someone too much and not caring about that person at all (Because that person has show no interest in you ) ?

[@esb618]

Rule of 3. Approach them 2 or 3 times to let them know you’re interested. But never do it 4 times. Wait until they approach u. If they don’t, then there should never be a 4th time. Me personally, i have too much pride so i wont even approach them a 3rd time.

[@jaidahaag2233]

How to you handle a crush that liked you and you liked them back but they moved far away??

[@mariedubuque]

jaida, I would keep communicating with this person because you never know what could happen down the road. But I wouldn't put your life on hold for this relationship. Because long distance doesn't usually work out. But fate could play a part; in that you might actually be in the same city at some point.

[@bernie6355]

so wise

[@guidofeliz8384]

How much of the advice you give to others do you apply to yourself?

[@lindseyhebert5568]

He used to like me a lot at first then now I feel like they don’t like I don’t know why I’m scared to not talk or be that way back at them I am afraid to make them say something like what happened she no longer likes us what did I do to hurt this girl we had she was a sweet girl it’s like they saying we don’t you to go away

[@mmmyea7673]

There is a guy that I have a huge crush on from the moment I've seen him for the first time (5 months ago). Now we're friends. Unfortunately he has a girlfriend, and it seems like a serious thing. I think I could deal with it but too often I catch him staring at me. Is it possible that he likes me? I don't know what to think, how to act. I don't want to ruin their relationship. How to know he's not into me?

[@mariedubuque]

Mmm, be careful, he could be a player. If he really cared about his girlfriend, he wouldn't be looking at you. See if they break up, Until then, keep a little distance.

[@mmmyea7673]

Marie Dubuque Thank you for your answer. He is such a good guy though. I don't think he would hurt anyone.

[@fantaclaus7053]

Mmm Yea....you and so many others posting here surprise me! The friend zone BS is usually a male nightmare and here you gals are weeping because you rightfully got your BS shoved up your asses for a change. No pity. Good! Suffer!

[@chloemartin48]

I don't know if I fell out with my best friend she just ditched me for this girl what do I do I always cry when she plays with the girl who bully me plz help yours sincerely chloe

[@carneythegamer]

hey marie, I am good friends with this girl but she doesn't take me seriously, she just wants to be friends. I was planning to ask her to prom, my friend messaged her and told her that I am going to ask her to prom. she told my friend no and now she is also avoiding me. what should I do?

[@mariedubuque]

can, it probably has nothing to do with you. She might have an old boyfriend come back in her life...you don't know. But don't ask her to prom. Find another girl. And you will be so glad you did.

[@billingino354]

Im subbing your videos help me on very specific topics please keep helping people

[@SuperSummersm]

Hi the other i was going to the bus and saw my friend and my other person came behind me and started talking to me and asked if i am in a hurry to get out of here and i said yes ,this place ,stinks ,but i used the other word for stinks ,also starts with s' and one of my friend laughed but the other one did not and my other friend ,was acting strange ,we don't talk anymore ,long story but my friend did wave to me but was walking kind of slowly to get to the bus. and when my other friend went away ,i wave to the other friend and he said i don't think he saw you but he did and i think my friend kind chunked, the one i waved to. do you think my friend hates me or is jealous that i am not taking to him? Then the next day i saw and he waved to me first then at the bus i saw him he was walking slow and i was behind him and when he saw me about to pass him ,he turn and look at me and waved and someone i knew said hi to me and he was near by walking slow and i wave again ,when he got to his bus and he wave again. why do you think he was walking slow for ? BTW we are both males

[@crystalgrose]

True!

[@jordanaw8125]

What if you like someone but they say " I don't not like you" what does that mean???

[@mariedubuque]

Jordana, it means you should run. This person is demeaning and is not worthy of your friendship.

[@GuitarGuy5000000000]

Hi Marie, what about when it comes to social media - should you stop "liking" their photos and status updates, in addition to not talking to them?

[@mariedubuque]

I would. I treat social media the same as real life interactions. So, however you would act in the physical world, do the same in the virtual world.