How Does Your Sexual Identity Affect Your Relationships? | Tell My Story

It’s certainly easier to make assumptions about people than it is to spend time getting to know someone. We wanted to put assumptions to the test to see what we're missing out on because we're so busy assuming we already "know" a person. Join us as we discover why you should never judge a book by it’s cover in our series 'Tell My Story, Blind Date.'
We are all conditioned with certain biases. In this experiment, we challenged these biases by asking people to guess their blind date partner's interests and past experiences based only on their partner's appearance. When they learned their partner's real answers, they were shocked by how wrong they were.
Now tell YOUR story. What do people assume about you?
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[@spicyriice]

He seems like the type of person to reply with one word answers or just "k".

[@lilbabyangel125]

lmao i can see that

[@vloggetts]

yeah she talked a lot more than he did. I actually found her kind of annoying

[@hormigui88]

spot on

[@MultiFbaddict]

Miss_IGotBTS Her: "I am super grateful for my family...and they live so far away" Him: "wow that's amazing" Her: *blank stare* *rapid blinking* "Yeahhh :D..."

[@khiaindigo3967]

Armyy

[@celineak2121]

but...they didnt discuss their sexual identity?

[@Mm-ht9zu]

Celine Ak that's what I thought. I don't get the title

[@DaliaKhamis]

I think the site is clickbait. disappointed.

[@lotusnuss6056]

yes, I thought that too? like they talked about it seperated at the beginning but not to each other

[@DaliaKhamis]

Lotus // i actually caught on to the show because of the controversial titles and how it really wasnt clickbait and that interested me so much in it. Now im kinda meh.

[@heyhowareyou7777]

i would never go out with a person that is poly bc I'm mono and i would be pissed if they didn't tell me. (1 month later oh hey this is my other boyfriends!!)

[@mongolianbornaparte7217]

Dwarka is the name of ancient city of lord krishna in hindu mythology. It's believed that this city was distroyed in an epic calamity somewhere under the sea. It means gated city or city with grand or glorified gates.

[@BlackChanal]

"I would not date you" he: "k"

[@livmason7816]

they had chemistry, but it seemed like the kind of chemistry you'd see between best friends.

[@TheElenaNumb]

had the same feeling

[@warsinaction2450]

That's why they failed the physics exam

[@melissamalcolm1399]

Yea, I've noticed that this happens a lot of with bisexual women. They often roll differently than straight ones!

[@candysweet434]

more like acquaintances

[@ryansanteful]

more like a quick hookup

[@enigmatic9118]

Half of the people on this show say they would date the other person just because they feel awkward saying no.

[@lockedinforever5804]

sad

[@GlamsUnknown]

Did anybody else not only find him super attractive, but also his voice?! So calm

[@shivaputrabiradar6088]

No doubt

[@LoveCrumb]

Dwarka is one of the most beautiful men I have ever laid my eyes on, and he seems like such a huge catch. I would date him in a heartbeat!

[@dragonlordsaviour7005]

yep this comment section needs water

[@XGiirrll]

Gluten free Toast with almond butter is the most la thing you could say lol

[@1cor.13love4]

Dilara Okay! Lol!!!!🤛🏽

[@nepnuv]

Dilara no it's not

[@XGiirrll]

moonuve kid what is it then

[@k.s.6496]

The obvious answer is "Avocado Toast"

[@XGiirrll]

K. S. oh ok you got me 😂

[@ansohenqq]

Can we get an episode about how everyone is doing right now? Are they friends or maybe dating? We wanna know!😋 {EDIT: Woah, so many likes?? Thanks guys!}

[@xlyira7239]

I agree

[@yellowforever794]

Anne-Sophie Henquin YESS

[@gurpreetsingh-pt4fx]

yep agree

[@jud4312]

SOUL PANCAKE i know you're seeing this. pls bring them back!!!

[@I.M.N.L]

Anne-Sophie Henquin yes

[@Katyuwkaa]

Tf, why is he so handsome

[@shubhamverma170]

Kate Cherry Because he ia soooo Handsome. 😋😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣

[@Raja1938]

y'all are weird

[@sagarrathore6353]

Because he is Indian

[@notyourfriend-li7rq]

@Akmal Ahmad just assume that that person is Indian. There are roughly 1.33 billion of us. So they're most likely to he one of us😂😂

[@Dahmer_Jeff]

He looks dirty

[@keturahlove4500]

Can we talk about how handsome he is?!

[@hellnoo7802]

keturahlove4500 well we are only doing thay i guess

[@yv6958]

Dwarka is really handsome. Elizabeth does look hispanic or maybe even filipino. But the chemistry isn't there. I think he just said yes to be polite. He seems like the type of person who doesn't like to hurt people's feelings.

[@loguchennai]

Y v same thought 🙌

[@animais267]

I totally agree

[@aishwaryababu9352]

Y v or he doesn't find a need to contradict...you gotta choose your battles

[@learning.growing.1017]

Y v I agree...

[@bellawitz85]

See, I thought she was Native American/Japanese, she's so pretty!

[@violetvodka5508]

THUMBS UP IF YOU WANT THEM TO ASK A BONUS QUESTION TO EACH OTHER AT THE END!!!(that they've made up themselves)

[@Participant]

Ooo! Interesting idea!

[@violetvodka5508]

SoulPancake Thank me later 😎

[@kajavidic]

And a DATE

[@bekahlarue2212]

violetvodka x yaaaa

[@mijah9761]

“Your penis is 10 inches?”

[@amiladautovic5756]

he is so handsome wtf

[@NataschaO]

I feel like he is a lot nicer and kinder than she is and she is very domineering and bossy.

[@micacuyco]

the titles they put are always so misleading. they didn't even talk about their sexuality

[@sabinabashuk8257]

Mica Thought the same!!

[@katlynlarkins]

I'm SAYINNN

[@Babiisicko]

Mica they kinda did in the beginning

[@dipmalapatel4556]

Mica sex

[@mandymoore82]

Queer is a sexuality..🤔

[@vivimivi6521]

I would love to see a video of how mental illness affects relationships.

[@Participant]

Yeah this could be very enlightening. If we're able to find two people who would be willing to talk about that in a video, we'll definitely try to make it happen.

[@lydialaw2892]

how old do you have to be to participate because i'd be down lol

[@vivimivi6521]

SoulPancake That would be awesome, thank you! It would be nice too, if you would add in questions that pertained to the subject. It's interesting to see their opinions in the interviews beforehand, but it would be really cool to see how their (race, sexuality, illness, etc.) affects the way the interact with each other. 😊

[@eloragil]

SoulPancake how do you apply for this show I wouldn't mind talking :)

[@CK-wv5hg]

Yeah. Homosexuality affects it pretty harshly I assume

[@jaywilson239]

Who else crushing on him while watching this video?

[@DaveHumphrey2514]

WHEN HE LAUGHS, IT BRIGHTENED ME.

[@agnese7288]

I don't think they had chemistry, their interactions were a little cringy...

[@Aria1n106]

She reminds me of Janice from Friends.

[@dr.mohammedsohailsoubaansi9406]

rorschachova Ikr, even the loud tone, but kind of on a soft patch

[@loguchennai]

rorschachova hahaha😂

[@tomtom21194]

rorschachova ooohh myyy gooooddd you are right

[@missmajo0311]

Omg yes!

[@elijahheisenberg1672]

Ooh myyy Gawd🤣🤣🤣

[@name.7463]

That guy is so hot wtf😍

[@danisinoda7551]

liev megaslag yup

[@Raja1938]

his hair is ratty

[@lakshayking7063]

That's an Indian for you😎😎

[@labonnosikder7803]

Lakshay King lol 😂😂😂

[@notyourfriend-li7rq]

No. He's like average Indian standards.....

[@alexiacarolina7066]

Her exit was the most awkward thing I had ever seen

[@katielynn4438]

Alexia Carolina Oh my god trueeeee

[@asamsianida]

Come on, Soul Pancake, I know you could do better than creating intriguing title that has nothing to do with what's the video is about :(((

[@BLGhomiie]

Anida also known as the legendary term Clickbait

[@IamJacksColon4]

worst case of clickbait i have seen from a serious channel. disgusting.

[@stephinki5219]

Well she did say she was bisexual in the title.. and he said he was polyamorous.. both having to do with people's sexual identity

[@asamsianida]

Steph Inki yeah they said it at first but they didn't discuss it at all, so it seems like no one knows what each other has in store lol.

[@ryansanteful]

but they didn't talked it out with each other. which was the whole point of the video i was expecting. :/

[@joCagapw]

He has a beautiful smile.

[@aidam.3845]

He is so handsome and has a wonderful personality! 💗

[@suzystone244]

Elizabeth... I'm not sure how to take her. I get anxiety vibes... He's more chill and self aware to me.

[@susanmorano405]

Thank you. From her my thought was: hiiiiigh maintenance. I feel like she would be super picky and hard to please. Just an impression

[@chandnijoshi4527]

I think I'm in love with this guy

[@Lukas-kh5gu]

her eyes...amazing. 8:56 damn. And then "Like, yeah, I'd go out with you a couple times to see if we can ...." holy cow...

[@miasakura1933]

His voice or general the vibe i'm getting from him is sooo calming

[@pipipupu5104]

You like him

[@chandnijoshi4527]

He make a lot of eye contact ! Hot af

[@amnajaved6894]

There is a genuine air of sadness as well as something else...like the two are missing something and haven't found it yet in this episode

[@leahandtabi1]

Amna Javed i agree it definitely seems sort of empty

[@IncrediBelleJessi]

I wish that their sexualities would have been topic :(

[@amimusic3]

+

[@loguchennai]

IncrediBelleJessi he is so gay 😍 my type

[@missd5658]

JUSTin 😂😂

[@Petra-P]

my whole life i couldnt understand what it means when someone calls a girl basic. now i do.

[@gd.523]

PetraPe hahaha

[@shadiaalshawesh9887]

What is that mean?

[@jamilakatze2128]

lol, too true

[@jv_smile]

Hold up. So she's half caucasion, half italian and half japanese. I'm no mathematicial but this aint adding up

[@sufferingsweet]

Caucasian is an umbrella term for white basically haha. So when she said half Caucasian, she was referring to being half Italian.

[@jv_smile]

Ohh, okay cool. Thanks for letting me know

[@sufferingsweet]

Yup :)

[@AHamzollari]

She also said I am very east coast but used like every other word and spoke like she was from the west coast. 😒

[@ManabDasiammanab]

Angela Strawberry Caucasian isn't umbrella term of white. Color and race are not the same thing. Indian, Arabs, Persians, Afghans are Brown Caucasian. en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Caucasian_race?wprov=sfla1

[@basharshami3403]

still waiting for the day they will get a name right...

[@Lana-hz7tl]

king bisho they once did

[@afraakhan9725]

@@Lana-hz7tl Which episode???

[@damonkain9894]

You can tell that girl was definitely a party girl when she was younger

[@h3834]

damon kain and she's from New Jersey

[@jilla2288]

Aka Gray betch I'm from New Jersey and I don't party

[@Mary-tk8nw]

damon kain why can you tell?

[@rion4590]

Léon Espinosa Moreno Armyyy

[@jeet9058]

damon kain hahaha

[@mhatreify]

so im not the only one here who thinks he's super hot

[@mjade1673]

Lauukik Mhatre not at all 😊🙏👌

[@SnowFoxParty]

He kinda looks like my ex lol.

[@krishnalakra6013]

@@dev-ok1li abey chup

[@frog7195]

HE IS SO HANDSOME HOT DAMN

[@ccchanel3934]

Um this guy is super hot!! Idk how she remained calm LMAO

[@adamejiofor7]

NN HAAHAHAHAAHAA

[@lisaangerer8314]

Ohhh yes!😍 too hard to resist that guy!

[@candyfloss20000]

Didnt see any connection what so ever. It was very fake in my opinion especially from her side

[@prizren1998]

Mxalx completely completely agree! Even the end when she said "I totally go on a couple of dates with you"--- she basically verbalized that she sees nothing long term with him.

[@Jayariee]

I think it was that she would try but she doesn't necessarily want see it working

[@sara-gw4dy]

Oh really! i thought his side was a bit cold , she was trying hard in my opinion but he was not into at all

[@candyfloss20000]

Sara Alwadany you can tell near the end how fake she was being 😂 Body language was sending so many signals

[@sara-gw4dy]

i mean all the time he was saying oh yeah ,okay ,wow. he didnt participate in any of her conversations or gave his opinion. i feel like he waited for the time when it is over and she got the same vibes i got that is why she was surprised when he marked ( i would date u ) cause none of his postures said that :(! and for me, she looks like an honest person. after all people see different things and that is what I saw .

[@ChaoSSxRiot]

darker shade John Snow.. am i the only one seeing it?

[@parikshitrao4208]

seconded

[@notyouraverageglowup1057]

I'd totally date him 😍

[@ryana-6762]

@@Pankaj-ti8rv ??? not about skin color or looks, much better to date someone who shares similar interests, a great personality and can make you laugh?

[@MandyBuglet]

@@Pankaj-ti8rv WTF?!

[@sweetneymateo2381]

x2

[@kikit7262]

@@ryana-6762 wtf?

[@kikit7262]

@@ryana-6762 racist

[@Luucie98]

Okay that man should play Aladin for the film like I swear he has that same cute charming smile as the animation and there is even a similarity in the eyes ! Am I crazy for thinking that ?

[@annapelch29]

Fratila Lucie I can totally see that!!!

[@yv6958]

Aladdin was a teenager. He looks like a grown (handsome) man. Plus Aladdin is supposed to be arab. So I don't agree. Lol

[@notusinganymore7477]

Y v same

[@beigelover95]

Fratila Lucie i see it too!

[@emergephilippines4999]

Fratila Lucie hi

[@jmariwright]

Neither was into the other. Their responses were to make the other not feel awkward. She would do better with an aggressive dominant man and he needs a more "chill" woman. Keep the episodes coming.

[@mackenziemaher9339]

Bill Adams So... You are looking at Indian men's penises huh???

[@KS-nc7mm]

rajesh raj The sad thing is you actually believe in the alpha/beta nonsense.

[@missd5658]

Jennifer Wright true

[@learning.growing.1017]

Jennifer Wright yes, definitely.

[@hiteshitta8986]

Jennifer Wright couldn’t agree more

[@ashkelly9781]

She seems confused and unsure about generally everything. Its almost as if he can read how unauthentic she is.

[@jordie1x]

He’s so handsome 😍

[@kylarduncan00]

i liked the guy a lot, but i got this weird vibe from the girl that she just wasn't genuine. just me?

[@loguchennai]

Kylar Duncan me too :(

[@blackheartcardigan]

More like nervous energy

[@SG-pc4sv]

Spot on Sir, ive actually known a manipulative narcissist woman who had the Exact same personality as the girl in the video.

[@reuben2214]

I was the other way round tbh

[@natalieeeee3597]

Her voice was really annoying too

[@indianloveSRK]

He is very attractive!!!

[@Alexis-dl5qn]

that boi is FINE

[@holisticmaya]

wow Dwarka seems like such a kind person. Something in his eyes and his smile... He is so calm... And hella handsome : D

[@sarahboden]

I saw more of a friendship spark between them. They both seem really sweet though

[@hello1721]

No questions on sex with the title being about sexual identity

[@akaededeval374]

Her voice its what nightmares are made of

[@faithwahomedon3158]

AKAE DE DEVAL I swear her voice is so annoying

[@ikemyung8623]

I wouldn't date her because it seems like she talks too much, her voice is annoying and she seems like a bit of a drama queen. But the voice....just NO!

[@tiibbo]

You are ridiculous.

[@ME-vr1qi]

He would have to be one of the most attractive men I have ever seen 🌺

[@priscilla9995]

Damn I like him

[@denarozario6282]

Didn't see much of a connection going on here

[@flamecrow]

Dena Rozario she was too dominant like "let's do cartwheels" and then "no don't do it I was just kidding" like dude felt really awkward because he seemed very introverted.

[@anouckkloosterman5827]

Dena Rozario i

[@jaywilson239]

Who else click on this because the man fine?

[@sofiae6867]

she doesnt look hispanic, she looks filipino

[@rgonzales1657]

Sofia F Oh, but Filipinos are the Latinos of Asia so...

[@misseydj123]

Sofia F Hispanic isn't a race... Hispanic people don't have a certain look. You can be any race and be Hispanic. Please educate yourself

[@alphacentaury]

@misseeydj123 1: of or relating to the people, speech, or culture of Spain or of Spain and Portugal 2: of, relating to, or being a person of Latin American descent living in the U.S.; especially : one of Cuban, Mexican, or Puerto Rican origin So, I don't think any race can be Hispanic

[@misseydj123]

Ben Ar What you "think" is not correct. It's really not that hard to educate yourself on what "Hispanic" really is. It focuses on Spanish speaking origin and culture. There are black, white and Asian hispanics..so what do you mean you don't think they can be any race?? You literally copied and pasted a definition of "Hispanic" and you still couldn't figure out that it has nothing to do with race...

[@sofiae6867]

R Gonzales filipinos are not latinx hence LATIN AMERICA

[@ifann88]

I'll admit as I was watching the lady, I think she was fronting the entire time. I know I'll get hate for it but I didn't get the feeling that she was being authentic. I say this because I've acted like her when put on the spot.

[@cjo4210]

Yeah, something about her rubbed me the wrong way. Also, I think he only would date her because she was conventionally attractive. But as for he personality, something was off.

[@ifann88]

Phew, okay I'm glad I wasn't the only who felt it. Though I want to avoid bashing a complete stranger online, I am open to this thread becoming a healthy discussion that can evolve into wider conversations about first impressions, how one decides to share themselves with the world, others' perceptions of those decisions, etc. Anyway, thank you for the reply!

[@beigelover95]

Mark I agree

[@blackheartcardigan]

She appears uncomfortable and nervous.

[@tati9071]

I disagree. she's just very upfront, honest, genuine, quirky and she's staying true to herself. that can come off as "fake" to some people. it is all about PERCEPTION. she is SO comfortable with herself and with her life, that unfortunately some people do not know how to be around some one that IS so comfortable with themselves. she is naturally also very bubbly and fairly optimistic. but most importantly, GENUINELY HAPPY. others will feel "threatened" by a person like her. I know cuz I can relate. she's very free spirited and hey we can't like everyone we meet. But we can at least respect their opinions and lifestyle.

[@janetgela]

His laugh is so adorable

[@pipipupu5104]

You like him what's your ethnicity

[@akanaistyping]

he's beautiful uGH

[@jaywilson239]

His smile got me😍

[@jamilahhadid8109]

He's so handsome

[@Zeynep-qc6zr]

She is just perfect. They were so comfortable with each other. That was great

[@vishualee]

Everytime I watch these videos, I try to catch the duo's expressions when they open their eyes and see each other. This one lacked joy.

[@sarahweldy1262]

Wow, he is so attractive.

[@nikitadebnath685]

His eyes makes me feel happy.

[@Tigris797]

omg anyone who finds his insta, tell me. i wanna stalk it

[@Tigris797]

rajesh raj does it matter? 😂

[@fifi.6284]

let people like who they like, damn.

[@gwenv3409]

@dwarkapaz you're welcome

[@nadapoi]

Dwarkapaz. You're welcome. (I can't believe that my first comment on KZbin is the result of my ridiculous stalking abilities)

[@nobutreally5948]

rajesh raj I'm greek, so like white af, but I find him very attractive.

[@littletownlongboarding5741]

This series gives me life oh my god. So wholesome and genuine.

[@charliecastillo2011]

This was a really good one. Not necessarily because I ship them, but because of the questions asked and the flow of their conversation.

[@sheilaxoxo4720]

He is soooooo hot

[@shreyathapa1695]

Dwarka is so adorable and genuine 🤗🤗😃 Damn his teeth are just beautiful

[@char....]

I love the comment section on this channel so positive

[@JuJu1ROCKZ]

Keep making these!! Each and every one is so interesting

[@Jemike5]

Elizabeth's reactions in the beginning were definitely saying would date, which is confusing. I feel like she doesn't have much success dating because she judges quickly and compensates with her bubbly personality.

[@C.kirk1287]

He is really handsome and she’s very beautiful ❤️

[@Shockwave33333333333]

"I am so grateful for my family" The world needs more women like this.

[@stephanynoemi3170]

I love this!!!!❤️ binge watching since last week!

[@sophiex.1058]

Lol most Indian people who grow up in America don’t have an accent. It’s an assumption I hate because people always assume that I was born in China and therefore should have a Chinese accent. 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@gdsamra9861]

Really? He must be from a pretty ignorant part of the US for people to assume he's got an accent. Given Indian-Americans are the highest income earners per capita in America. Probably from an area that has more Indian immigrants than Indian Americans (born there).

[@bournazianvahan]

In Sanskrit Dwarka means "Gateway to Heaven" .... His name suits him well.

[@90amankumar81]

You are westerner ,how do you know that

[@bournazianvahan]

@@90amankumar81 I did Internet search

[@elisajackson7792]

New to "SoulPancake")) Love every episode!

[@alifcullen7027]

the guy is super handsome, the way he talks and sees is really relieving

[@welikelethabo]

He has such a beautiful smile

[@wafflekiller1727]

I disagree with a lot of the top comments, I definitely saw some chemistry. It was kinda awkward at times, but it seemed to me like they were both a little awkward and out of their comfort zones but the conversation flowed well and they both seemed legitimately excited to hear each others decision.

[@latebloomer.]

Damn, he's fine

[@sheffanesseabrown2811]

I lived in India for 2 years and trust me there are men there that are way hotter .

[@Toxic-th4si]

Why were u there for 2 years?

[@Rahulbajaj561]

@@Toxic-th4si bob vegene

[@bobsingh5521]

The last time I took shower was No Bob Singh

[@Sweety-ut8zw]

Pakistani men are hottEr😍

[@welikelethabo]

😒so uncalled for

[@lascatnero1418]

He's so hot, he could be an Assassin's Creed protagonist.

[@renkunn]

He's hot xD

[@beigelover95]

Ren Kunn he is and I loveee guys like him with chill personalities

[@rukhsanazaidi629]

+Iqra Ahmed What's your ethnicity ?

[@prateeksharma5180]

Ren Kunn once you go brown the other colors let you down. Hahahaha

[@beigelover95]

bettahthanyou Somali babe, you?

[@MRCODMAN44]

wtf Racist much +Bill Adams

[@lovedance631]

His smile💕

[@babycat9351]

I would totally date him he is sooo cute!

[@mervealsan6782]

the ending is super cringy

[@aleisharoussel9198]

:) I love this show it's amazing:)

[@THEFEMALEMONSTER]

His smile is healing.

[@samstripeslove]

-just caught up to this this morning. This series is amazing, I got hooked from an episode I saw shared on Facebook, went straight to the youtube feed, and I find this a creative concept, however i personally think you should continue this minus the would I date you part for those who are taken but would enjoy experiencing something similar but keep would I date you?. Their reactions upon how nothing is as it seems.

[@snjezanasimic2396]

You can be vegan and eat pizza...or am I missing something? 😂

[@lubnalakhwala5964]

snjezana simic cheese is dairy, so pizza typically isn't vegan

[@fathiaa2591]

unless its nondairy cheese, you cant eat pizza while vegan

[@aminasn991]

she means authentic pizza made with real cheese which is what most people refer to

[@newwi6456]

In Italy they actually eat some pizzas without cheese.

[@summi_kat]

Catherinne Bustamante vegan pizza exists lmao

[@zoegraziella5431]

They are both so adorable. I like them together.

[@Kavitayourcurlfriend]

He's sooooo gorgeous and his voice 😍

[@gigicalicchia4648]

I relate to her so much. I'm Italian and Japanese so the same happens to me often.