How food/sugar addiction ruined my life

[@aliviadandrea]

★ WATCH MY EMOTIONAL 6 YEAR JOURNEY IN THE GLOW UP DIARIES: bit.ly/37O0bX6 This video was originally part of Glow up Diaries Season 2 there is no longer a season 2. It’s just one series with a final film at the end.

[@mariajaseldelrosario5297]

Thank you 🥺

[@prapti1805]

OH MY GADD

[@Ridhi259]

*yes waiting for your merch to be available* 💚💚

[@namratanagesh292]

SO EXCITED! 💖😊 Gonna go grab a snaccc to get started on this episode! ( P.S. 37 MINUTES LONG!!? THIS IS AN EFFIN TREAT THANKYOU SO MUCH)

[@itishajacob9129]

Thankyou alivia 💫💫

[@blue______]

all those people saying your glow up was taking too long. You are the most realistic glow up I have ever seen. A glow up does not take 24 hours and it is not enough in a single video. All these fake glow ups only have girls doing their nails, combing their hair, bathing, exercising for about 3 days and making their bed. Everything looks so fake and they just put GLOW UP in the title to get a view. Please continued like this, you are real.

[@capricehamilton767]

Facts

[@user-jn9yg9hq6j]

Thx.

[@EM-cp8er]

Exactly!! Thank you for this comment!

[@goodvibes4833]

THANKS FOR SAYING IT

[@jhooldesai8255]

Thank you so much for putting this out their for the girls and boys that are falling for the bait of a “glow up” under “24 hours”.

[@user-xs7ks3ur7s]

she is the only person who shows her failures too

[@onussi3148]

Thats why i love her, most 'influencers' just show their success and it's hard to relate

[@shravanyaacharya3681]

She is so bold

[@Sasha-gl4ip]

Yea i could never its too scary😂 im happy shes gotten so comfortable with herself and life that she can i think thats true peace😌

[@eeshapendse592]

True

[@Saarthi-shetyeee]

That's the best thing about her

[@BlkMedusa]

The part where she says “there are ppl that have way worse problems, but this is my reality”. It’s so true. I dismiss how serious my problem is because it seems superficial. But really all that does is invalidate my feelings and makes me binge more to mask them.

[@tara1555]

Exactly. Irrespective of how big and serious everybody’s else’s problems are you are allowed to feel sad, low or whatever about your life at times. Yes it’s better to see things form perspective but you don’t have to feel guilty for wanting something to be different about yourself or your life.

[@mahvashghafari4734]

Felt 😭

[@NafAmer]

this post called me out

[@brigitblu4]

I cried when my tooth where pulled cuz I couldn’t eat what I want I’m always between binging and starving myself n taking lax cuz I hate myself the battle is so real n it’s good to see more ppl speaking out

[@linalina1534]

being the person who have a "bigger problem" i actually love watching this kinda of videos because it shows me the reality of being a human - there are always will be something causing pain and discomfort. not in an evil jealous way but in "life is kinda hard for all of us" way

[@courtneyann3732]

also REMINDER!!!! this IS an eating disorder. whether you see it just as a series of videos of her trying to lose weight or whatever but do remember that she is in real time real life going through this behind the scenes. she is struggling. why don't people see that and say positive uplifting things instead. this girl has just become my biggest inspiration and i thank God for finding ur videos and channel. thank you for this alivia really.

[@courtneyann3732]

i just finished the video and i am so utterly fucked up lol very much in tears. thank you.

[@alexhatfield4448]

What does that mean exactly Courtney? It's an "eating disorder" it's an addiction, same as heroin or crack, just a legal more socially acceptable one but an addiction none the less. The first step was realizing her part in this, which it's entirely her part as is usually the case. Her self awareness of her failings in discipline, honesty and just generally looking for an easier softer way give me hope she will get better and fix herself. It's totally doable, totally fixable and she's young still! Most people can't stand to be accountable for their mess ups. Over-eating, like drug abuse, is something totally in our control and can be fixed with diet exercise and discipline! Idk what you're going through, but keep going sis!

[@thngaiwei5420]

You're beautiful to me throughout the video and regardless of whatever happens you are beautiful. We all have different pains and sources of pain in life may you stay strong regardless and take care thank you for being an inspiration

[@olivianopales9843]

@@alexhatfield4448 it is an eating disorder though? the same way anorexia is an addiction to the happiness that comes with losing weight, bed (binge eating disorder) is an addiction to the happiness that comes with eating.

[@bloodyrosary]

NO! Overeating isn't something you can control! It's something called binge eating disorder. It can stem from depression, social isolation, boredom, etc. It can have many terrible health effects. Please educate yourself.

[@dormanthongjoong8873]

she’s the only person that shows the bad parts of transformation and vocalizes her real, raw thoughts and i admire that so much.

[@הודיהממן-ד1ת]

Exactly what i thought!

[@GenZGrandma]

legit yes! she's changing the game on youtube which is what inspired me to make vids called the Gen Z Diaries about how I found myself binging on social media/online to the point of having no life bc i was just watching others. so check it out if you want ❤️ but yeah seriously it took so much courage for her to film and upload all this, I can only imagine how embarrassing it would be for her bc mine were not as personal as hers but still! she's changing lives! ❤️

[@EnyaKellermann]

Totally agree! 💯

[@freakiniilse]

Yes, this brings depth to her story.

[@shan22777]

I agree, so many people only show the good and its unrealistic as heck

[@ellamae1472]

"i don't wanna die at all but... it seems easier than living life" i felt that...

[@michellelennonmccartney]

me too:(

[@theangrykittycat2256]

Same ;'((

[@lauraloulou5971]

me too.. and it makes me sad and i’m so mad at my self but it’s true.. i wish i wes as strong as her..😞

[@sophiependragon8485]

@@lauraloulou5971 Oh, but I'm sure you are! You just have to find that strength to carry on. I promise that thinks will get better soon. Take care, please ♥

[@bapbirb]

Seriously? She lives such a privileged life. Im sorry its a sad thing that she has an eating disorder but part of me just thinks thats all she has to worry about because she got nothing else in her life thats lacking. She probably wants to be model beautiful. Thats her standard. Thats the cost of being a perfectionist that has lived a privileged life: wanting more and desiring perfection.

[@domenicavukic5337]

“you have so much potential but you hide it behind oily hair, glasses and body fat” this is so similar to what i’d say to myself when i was battling with anorexia. can’t believe her sister would say something like that, be careful with your words people

[@ninangin167]

those sisters or so called family members are toxic, and no one come at me. Your immediate family are suppose to support you through the lowest and highest points of your life not criticise you, she was struggling and to make a statement like that, I’m glad their not my sisters, just wow.

[@lenaramoon4617]

@@ninangin167 yeah i think it has a lot to do with colorism within the asian community. Her sister has more caucasian features, therefore treated better and feeling entitled to put her sister down. I experienced the same

[@ninangin167]

Lenara Moon I’m sorry you have experienced it, it honestly goes to show that some people can’t see past superficial things, at the end of the day they are all related, your siblings are meant to be your first friends, sure joke/banter but never degrade you and make you feel unworthy

[@lenaramoon4617]

@@ninangin167 it's ok! I'm already healing and moving on with my life, i just wanted to share how colorism doesn't just affect people in wide society but also in their interpersonal relationships.

[@lauren-rk1kc]

made me so sad when I saw that clip

[@biophype]

Her dad begging her to not make the mug cake was heartbreaking

[@miurtouissi1093]

​@@hikinono i found it heartbreaking too honestly

[@biophype]

@@hikinono omg I can't believe Natalie Portman replied to my comment 😍

[@biophype]

@@hikinono well it doesn't make me want to die any less

[@Nick199607]

He was right tho, there is no reason to eat at night.

[@Pinkteddie]

It really wasn't. It wasn't about the disorder It was about rhat it's late at night to eat

[@rainepanda]

this is literally like watching a documentary about a drug addict. Depression and food addiction is no joke. Glad you aren't giving up!

[@kristymarie6065]

So true

[@sanaaalamine8915]

True

[@piperang1536]

100 true and it makes me realize I am at stage as well

[@sammisaylor2173]

Fr it’s tough

[@helenalovelock1030]

So true. It’s terrible.

[@bunnybeetle1304]

‘If I can endure in self-destruction, I can endure in self-improvement.’ That sentence alone was awesome, let alone the entire video. Thank you.

[@CatieChapman]

16:01 if anyone wants the time stamp :)

[@lenore.delore]

Wow. That is exactly what I needed to hear

[@Madedanielle]

This sentence got me through the last 15 mins of cardio. I'm on this journey 😢

[@AvaHandponies]

I was reading comments as the video was playing. As soon as I read that the girl in the video read that. 😅

[@lolahill1145]

People need to realise that binge eating is not just a lack of self-control or being greedy. For me, it has been feeling sad or lost so turning to food for stability, eating until I am sick and then feeling all this guilt and disappointment in myself for eating so then not eating for whole days. When I have binged the day before but start to feel hungry I ignore my hunger and see the feeling of being hungry as a reward for not eating. But eventually, my body is so hungry that I have to eat and once I start I don't stop. The cycle continues. I feel like there is not enough recognition of binge eating being a mental disorder rather than just a lack of self-control but videos like this help people (me) :) to feel like I'm not just being stupid xx

[@Sunflower_that_loves_you]

I felt like I was reading my thoughts.... Are you seeing a therapist? Seek help if u can plz :)

[@priyankajaiswal7756]

I can so relate to this!!! This is so hard I just feel disappointed on myself everytime I binge 😭

[@katerinap.5662]

I understand where you're coming from and I used to binge a lot. I do now to an extent too, but not half as much. The problem with blaming binge eating on having a mental disorder is a temporary relief - "It's not my fault", you say. And it truly possibly isn't your fault. Your environment and people around you influence you greatly and not everything is in your control. However, I've noticed that for as long as I let myself think "there's something wrong with my brain that others don't usually deal with" (mostly for other issues that I had, not only binge eating), I didn't work half as hard to get out of those mentalities and anxieties. Once you realize that, even though you have no control over your past or even your environment some times, and that the only thing you have control over is yourelf, its sooo empowering. You're not stupid, everyone has their own battles and journeys towards self improvement.

[@folacantube]

Omggg I'm tearing up reading this because this is exactly how I feel. It's like you're in my head rn. I want to cry. Idk how to do this. I feel like a waste of space and a liability to everyone. Sometimes I just want to give up

[@Justgotfit]

This is really true

[@lauraguzman3617]

When your dad called you selfish I started tearing up for you, broke my heart.

[@not-a-ghost2206]

Jup her family is at the root of the issue whether she wants it to realise or not. This isn't tough love or concern or whatever she wants to interpret it as. It's cruel and words matter. Especially to mentally ill people.

[@sorae1345]

I don’t know… her dad seemed to help her but at the same time he probably doesn’t know how to help? 😢

[@uhhleeuhh]

I’ve never seen someone talk about the struggle that I’m currently feeling. Jesus. Thank you for making this.

[@anti-social206]

You’ll get there and remember Jesus loves you ❤️❤️you’re beautiful

[@breerichards7661]

Binge eating is not talked about very much it's sad I struggle with it a lot

[@JesusLovesYouSoMuch1]

Jesus is amazing and he can help you through anything. He loves you so much.

[@alicecavalcante4648]

Please go see a psychologist and a nutritionist. KZbin videos or coach's books won't solve addictions.

[@tinachaney2332]

Ditto

[@alyhanieabejan7664]

People tend to forget that a “glow up” doesn’t happen overnight, instead it’s an extremely long process without a definite destination since you trample down a lot along the way and that’s normal.

[@neyive9352]

People tend to forget that a mental glow up is much more useful in life then a physical one. Somehow nobody deals with those in the right order

[@monilove4088]

@@neyive9352 every person that has had a physical glow up either in my personal life or online they always say the first glow up is mentally then physically

[@neyive9352]

@@monilove4088 exactly

[@zenakouwenberg737]

Exactly! Years i heard i just needed “to cut the food” even from family, that was the worst part. Just recently discovered i have BED... im in the process and half way there... but it takes time and it sucks sometimes. Luckily i had the courage to come out to my friends about it. I hope people know its not their fault and not alone...

[@genzwithinternet]

It sucks to see that instead of of being compassionate with herself, she's tearing herself down every couple of seconds. It hurts to hear, because I've thought that way too. It won't help in the long run.

[@BrendaFOBRocks]

she still has a really bad outlook on her body/food, regardless of what she says... this was hard to watch.

[@giaxmich]

Well look how the people in her life critique her.

[@Alex_in_Wonderland111]

@@xXx-ji5ph But that’s what our past selves do. We look down on who we used to be because we never want to be that person again. That’s why people cringe when they remember a past mistake. It shows a want to grow and progress in doing so. Not everyone needs sweet words and kindness with everything coated in honey. Some of us need tough love to get our asses off the couch and into shape. Furthermore, she did think positively. That’s what the PINK campaign she took part in was about

[@Black.Girl_Melanin519]

Same , sometimes I look in the mirror and criticize my body but it’s like I been doing it for so long it dosent make me feel bad about myself it’s just like normal ig but I’m working on being more confident 💜

[@anoni6108]

@@Enchanted_Owl the couch part was Jan 2021 some people are only going to see this and assume what she says is the truth and that the "inspirational part" as how you do it, she should have adressed how toxic her mindset at the time was or put it in a comment or something

[@omaymatrabelsi8145]

22:44 honestly this part is heartbreaking, the way she changed, wen her dad miss understood her struggling and called her selfish, the way her facial expectation changed, it’s heartbreaking, I seriously just want to give you a big hug.

[@lollie6760]

I thought that too. Telling her in her lowest point that she’s so selfish instead of “well… lets get you some help” My parents would have said something similar which would’ve made my anxiety horrid… then I’d be turning to my drug of choice. Yes I take responsibility, but parents need to see WARNING SIGNS instead of making judgments. It’s clear that judging is a go-to in this family. Everyone featured is hella judgmental. She just smiles thru it… that’s not normal.

[@fiona2874]

This is the most realistic glow up series. She talks about everything we go through and doesn't try to make it look fabulous. I always felt less than when I watch videos of glow ups where they make it look easy. She makes me feel normal, like I can beat my struggles and I am not alone. It's an amazing feeling. Her words are the thoughts I have that I would never share with anybody.

[@Rosie-ii7jy]

Same

[@yuriebridget1313]

Word girl ✊✊👏👏

[@fiona2874]

@Lucy M Her content may not be realistic to you but it is to me. And I did not say it's the only realistic video I could find.

[@fiona2874]

@Lucy M I think you are misunderstanding me. These are MY thoughts and they in no way dismiss anyone else's thoughts. Its the most realistic to ME. It does not have to be for you or anyone else. I'm not saying having an eating disorder is a good thing, I'm saying the video gives me hope. What she shows and how she talks to herself is exactly what I do. And she's clearly doing better so I feel inspired and full of hope. Most days I am on the verge of giving up. And most other videos make me feel like its my fault I keep failing coz it looks so easy for them to change. She shows the ugly. I like that. I also think the point of the video is to show the ugly side of overcoming an eating disorder. And it's okay if it is not true for anyone else coz these thoughts and struggles are mine.

[@fiona2874]

@Lucy M yeah exactly

[@itsarali]

Showing yourself in this state is really encouraging beyond belief. Especially for people who are going through mental health struggles it makes us feel alive, because you are being so incredibly honest.

[@claralobato8479]

!!! Thissss

[@johannajamsen1644]

I agree, it's so brave to show all this, I keep thinking about it all the time while watching. I don't think that I could, but it's important to. Thank you Alivia 💜

[@nichtsoviel]

Yes, but the whole premise seems to be that someone with disordered eating just needs to get healthier through will power. As someone who works in a mental health related field, I think it would send a better message to at least suggest the possibility that talking to a counsellor or therapist about why her relationship with food and self esteem was so bad might be a more sensible long term solution...

[@futuristiccat5636]

Yes. It’s refreshing to see a human... show that they’re human. Not some perfect image

[@cheetoloverxxx9107]

@@nichtsoviel I totally agree, i am lucky to live in a country where therapy is free, but unfortunately some people just can’t afford therapy..

[@Ashley-sp8xc]

when her sister said "you have so much potential, you just cover that potential with oily hair, glasses and body fat", I felt so bad for her. My family does the same thing, and it really hurts your self esteem even if you don't show it

[@emmamorimoto834]

I’m sorry if I interpreted this wrong, but i think she was just trying to make her feel better. I think she was just saying that she is already pretty but her true beauty is covered with oily hair, etc. Update: I now have a better understanding from other people’s replies and comments I see. I know everyone has different thoughts and interpretation so I’m glad to see, hear and understand all of them.

[@fibromiteready2fight809]

@@emmamorimoto834 even people with the best intentions can say things that cut deep. It could have been meant in a "why do you let yourself go" way, but she isn't actually doing that she appears to be struggling with an eating disorder. And with those comes negative self image and thoughts in general. It isn't her fault and an (possibly non intentional) accusation of such will make you feel even worse

[@urbutholstinks2304]

@@emmamorimoto834 bruv no just no

[@anneliseraedy]

I know, I was so shocked by that.

[@bunnywavyxx9524]

agree & I know people lots of people are saying "families joke like that" she's just kidding" but comments like those can seriously stick with you because those are the people you're around the most & see your flaws more than anyone

[@thefather757]

“Dad, is this what growing up is? More sad days than happy days?” that hit me hard!

[@bullitt0713]

The comments that her sister made about her extra body fat, dry hair, and oily roots really hurt my soul.

[@edithsmith1524]

Kids are shallow, dumb, and mean. They don't care about other people's feelings.

[@bullitt0713]

@@edithsmith1524 but she’s not a child. She should know better than that.

[@kikifox7111]

@Tshego Makgato that’s true, but you can clearly see Olivia wasn’t doing well mentally, so commenting about her appearance, no matter if it’s the truth or not, obviously doesn’t help

[@emmasch]

If someone was mentally stable, yeah, maybe you could say something like that. But if shes definitely not doing mentally ok like this, she shouldn't have said that

[@Echolyris212]

I know. That was rude. I could never imagine my sister telling me that. She is so kind and positive. Ok, now I miss my sister😂

[@aliceinwonderland42020]

I truly dislike when people say „oh people have it worse“ that doesn’t matter. Your problems are valid. Yes sure someone always has it objectively worse, but that doesn’t make your problems feel less bad for you. Being grateful for the privileges you receive in life is important but you are allowed to feel sad and be selfish at times. That’s part of being human.

[@linoush8521]

Thank u .. needed this❤

[@aliceinwonderland42020]

@@linoush8521 happy to read this 💕

[@gdaym8y]

I hate that too. Your problem may not be the worst in the world, but it's the worst in your world. So it should be a big deal. If you had a broken arm you wouldn't AVOID getting it fixed bc "other people have two broken arms" or "other people's bodies are hurt more", doesn't matter, you go get the broken arm fixed 💪

[@aliceinwonderland42020]

@@gdaym8y exactly!

[@metalhead6548]

My old best friend told me that her problems were more important than mine, they bigger problems but when I told her what I was going through she said that my problems ARENT IMPORTSNT and DONT MATTER. I’m so happy I dropped her.

[@ayaelh3980]

haters think a "glow up" is getting your nails done or your eyebrows waxed But no.It's way more than that

[@a_mint3912]

literally, what people don't see is that it coming from the inside out, just how Alivia's done it

[@sarahiespinoza4349]

@@fraise_fraud the people on 7:00 what they said

[@justworking2272]

I think it is about self love without filters

[@ennycho8431]

exactly. said exactly the way it should. when quarantine came I “glowed up” not only in terms of losing weight & exercise, but I was able to calm down my anxiety and work on my mental mind overall. you could glow up physically, but that doesn’t necessarily mean you are healthy mentally. hopefully more people realize that, and imho, mental glow ups feel so much better than physical glow ups. ✨

[@a.bhardwaj8262]

Literally so true

[@ellinorsvensson4970]

This was a wake up call. Ive had anorexia and binge eating disorder previously in my life. Ive started slipping back into the binge eating habits of having multiple dinners at once and constantly being aware of when I can eat next. I'm so grateful that you let me watch your journey like this, I wish you all the best in the world, you deserve it. You're such a strong woman and such an inspiration ❤

[@hanne8285]

Please take binge eating disorders seriously everyone. It is an illness not just weakness!

[@jessohara7521]

This is part of the Ed not thinking you have a problem :(

[@Mazadepizza]

@@jessohara7521 i think alivia knows its a problem its just that she has a different, and in my opinion, wrong view, eating less healthy or being obssesed with food is not a weakness or being stubborn, it can be a disorder and it expresses psycological and neurological unbalances oftentimes. I think its getting a little dangerous bc shes in a way emcoraging this opinion in other people that, like you mention, have a serious problem that doesnt allow them to realize the truth :(

[@MolyBDenum-lh3wy]

I love how you said this...it's so true!

[@Mazadepizza]

Btw Im not trying to diagnose her i think she needs to take a break from giving advice since she has a very biased take on eds

[@jessohara7521]

@@Mazadepizza no no I completely agree, but she’s in denial and that’s what I was like, but thank you for explaining this to me :)

[@alyssajoy2670]

i love how this glow up isn’t just like a “24 hour transformation” she’s genuinely improving every aspect of her life over a long period of time

[@jessohara7521]

Yesss agreed!! It’s not just putting on make up and stuff it’s changing her current mindset

[@catalinaramos689]

I believe her issue is deeper and she’s not doing a lot about it, she should go to therapy first

[@terry4berry]

@@catalinaramos689 um..well she’s obviously trying so give her props for that

[@jeanettegutmann1630]

yess, in a realistic way

[@catalinaramos689]

@@terry4berry as I read in other comments, trying to do all of that by yourself could be worse for an ED, and it seems really misleading to younger people .. not trying to be negative, it just worrying how people praise her

[@andreitablogger332]

Just because people have worse problems than you, doesn’t mean your problem is not bad. Please remember this people ❤️😔

[@sobiahkhan5496]

louder for the ppl in the back!!

[@Lucy-nv2oh]

yes exactly her problems are rly valid that part where she feels like she has to excuse herself for complaining abt her life is bothersome and made me a lil worried. even tho ppl may seemingly have it “worse” her problems need as much care as others. same with her dad talking tk her about the opportunities she’s throwing away

[@andreitablogger332]

@@Lucy-nv2oh yes I got worried too, I also got a little mad when her sister told her all those things about her hair even though siblings can be mean that was unnecessary:’(

[@ahhhhhbug5794]

i kinda like that lmao but yeah that's completely valid

[@nazsalabarria860]

@@ahhhhhbug5794 I think you mean vapid

[@elizabethjohnson4623]

I am in utter shock with how close this is to my relationship with food and my body. Watching this makes me feel way less alone, embarrassed, and isolated. Thank you Alivia.

[@ellalbn]

why were people getting so impatient and disrespectful about "prolonging her glow up" ?? glow ups take time. don't expect someone to heal mentally and physically in just a year, that's ridiculous. we're used to fast physical glow ups but those aren't real glow ups, nor are they sustainable, you'll end up reversing all your results much faster than it took to get them. alivia's glow up series here is true healing and growth, that's why i respect this so much. edit: all these replies are so heartwarming and enlightening, thank you all for adding onto the conversation :D real glow ups take time and are different for everyone. we can't compare our journey to someone else's, but we can take lessons and inspiration from how they fail and grow. let's keep supporting her series loves

[@irrelevance3859]

Exactly. Most glow ups aren’t actual glow ups lol. Put on make up style their hair and put on some nice clothes maybe get nails done and eyelash extensions. That’s not a glow up. Just a makeover.

[@ITSLIZZ111]

Right? This isn’t some TV show, its REAL LIFE

[@stargirl8946]

Exactly... and that's what makes her diary accurate and REAL!!! I used to feel SO BAD after i fail multiple times... But now we know that it could be like that, she didn't romantecise the glow up like too many youtubers do.... She gave us a real self reflection!

[@sm0rie]

I agree but I also felt agitated as well. My annoyance was not at her but the process of it all and since I've been watching from the beginning, it was hard to see her fail and constantly relapse especially when I was trying to get my body and mind right along with her. I was getting selfish to the point where I would blame this series on my lack of motivation and I was blinded it. Now that she's back, im happy for her genuinely instead of relying on her. And I realize tht this isn't just a chloe ting work out with me video that will be time lapsed, this is real. She's going through mental and physical changes that don't happen over night and everyone needs to realize that

[@chickenbroth5]

As she said herself, it's the truth she didn't want to hear. It's a harsh truth, but also an absolutely necessery one to be said. It's positive feedback from people who actually paid attention to the series. Her loved ones could be doing the same thing behind closed doors, for her own good.

[@r.e.485]

This series is different to anything ive ever seen before and thats how im hooked. I get how other people might've gotten frustrated with the cycles in the first season but i believe its because of many other "glow up" videos where all they do is buy face masks, get a blow out, put on make up, and call it a day. Thats not a glow up. If anything, a morning routine. This series truly shows what a glow up is realistically. She shows all of the in between from going to a terrible state to a great one. Its not easy, especially with what she's going through. And it shows many other people that having a rough time getting out of cycles and mentality can be hard and that is normal because its such a HUGE change. Personally, i go through the opposite. Where i fear food. I fear that it could get me sick and because of that i am very skinny. I didnt always used to be like this and getting comments like "if you eat, you'll get pretty" doesnt give you the besf feeling. But i can still learn from the lessons in this series because it focuses on the change of mentality and cycles which anyone can learn from in any situation.

[@_lisi_531]

Exactly!! 🙏

[@daughterofgod4927]

Ahh, gotcha. Jesus loves ya hun❤

[@MolyBDenum-lh3wy]

Was thinking the same thing...well said!

[@yakob1248]

I agree with you. Her glow up was real and not sponsored. Thank you for your words. I bet you’ll get better with your relationship with food!

[@valquiros6998]

Gosh, I'm the opposite too, I have anxiety and one of MY symptoms are low eating, even when I'm hungry. Obviously I knew that what I have to change is my mindset or improve my mental health. So I'm glad that Alivia shows that part of "glowing up"

[@avesaryanna2865]

why did 0:49 make me so sad? "you have so much potential but you cover it up with oily hair, glasses, and body fat" that broke my heart. you were always beautiful.

[@nataliagon]

i knowww why would you say that to your sister? I got soo angry

[@abigailkeenan9698]

ikr that was so mean, that’s not even like a sibling thing

[@arwen9129]

@@vanessa5374 that's sad :( I hope you're doing okay.. hold on💕

[@nataliagon]

@@abigailkeenan9698 ik. especially when you've seen her youtube videos. if you know your sister is struggling like that, don't say those kind of comments.

[@abigailkeenan9698]

@@vanessa5374 that isn’t okay :(

[@carolinareaper444]

I’m surprised no one has mentioned how being overweight and emphasis on physical beauty/thinness has a huge value attached in many Asian cultures , I could definitely see that social stigma about her eating and lack of support definitely playing out in her family members attitudes and comments. Keep in mind as well, that many Asian cultures, and other cultures, pass down taboo attitudes about mental health and may treat mental health issues as non existent and just blame the person for their actions, ignoring the disorder/illness. I’m sorry your family raised you to think you’re the problem and have low self esteem, no recovery is possible if you don’t have self compassion.

[@jamesdeclan7538]

Yah but fat acceptance is toxic asf. I don't think she had that cultural stereotype pushing her. It sounded like she was genuinely worried about her health and how it turned into a mental health problem. Physical health is one of the biggest factors of overall well-being, with poor physical health, you will be miserable and depressed and lost. It's simply because of our body's chemistry. We need to eat, sleep and exercise, and it will to better overall mental health, motivation, and happiness. It's not necessarily about body image every time, but overall health. And if you deny all of this I am sure you denying how miserable you feel.

[@zilaxia]

​@@jamesdeclan7538fat acceptance is not toxic...you can be fat and be healthy. Some people simply dont care about being fat and make sure to keep it healthy. Theres a big difference between being 180-210 pounds and saying "accept me! and being 300-400 pounds and saying "accept me!"

[@youre764]

@@jamesdeclan7538nobody said anything about fat acceptance

[@justateapot3847]

@@jamesdeclan7538good job for missing the entire point

[@fighterflight]

@@jamesdeclan7538fat acceptance is not what’s being discussed. people who immediately think self love means “fat acceptance” are just showing they’re in that toxic mindset and can’t actually conceive of what self-love is. it’s unconditional. you don’t have to be skinny to be worthy of self love. or healthy. the two have nothing to do with each other. body image is different from self image. they are separate. you don’t seem to understand this simple fact.

[@hamstershimei144]

Alivia's dad is so connected to her that he's worried about her more than she knows

[@sarahl7103]

Ik it's so sweet

[@heraday]

And then there's me. All my dad cares about is me to lose weight do I can find a good husband

[@solus8685]

Meanwhile my dad is the main reason of my problems🗿

[@loubnathelonlygirl3431]

Emmm you guys have a dad ?

[@mewmewkissycutie1028]

Our dads left us gang

[@2001ju]

She is so realistic, relatable and so close to us

[@tropicalmk3519]

37 minutes??🥺🥺y’all don’t understand how blessed we are, we literally used to get 10 minutes each week in season 1🥺

[@raghadelnaggar9110]

Fr 😌😌

[@kateri7404]

Ikr! I finally understood why it took her so long to edit

[@kateri7404]

@Xantair yes!

[@juanaae7977]

this made me really emotional because I went through this and now i’m working out all the damage I did. I understood you so well…proud of you

[@raynajcarter]

baby, you’re not “disgusting” or “horrendous”. in any state. beauty is what you make it.

[@sophiaengel4114]

i think i would just like to clarify to some people that disordered eating and mental heath struggles do NOT equal weakness

[@sydneyfarr8120]

love this, thank you 🤍

[@pippistyles]

❤️❤️

[@mayonakasei5312]

Thank you

[@Lickgloss]

then what is it?

[@naomiiyt2435]

Yess thank youu❤️

[@trulytrish]

“happiness doesn’t start with a degree, a job, a relationship, a body.. it starts with your own thoughts” It’s crazy how fear can feel like a more realistic emotion than any other thought or feeling, but fear is just False Evidence Appearing Real and once we can overcome that, change starts to happen. Thank you Alivia❤️

[@lesbiangoddess290]

The queen is teaching us what school never could🥰

[@Chskss-mx4zl]

I'm so happy this video exists. I always hear from people talking about their experiences but actually seeing someone record it makes me relate more

[@heybunny2888]

People are complaining about his repetitive content and here I am admiring all of these because it yells reality, the ups and downs made me realize that everything that I've been experiencing was normal and I just have to push myself a little bit to see what I visualize myself to be.

[@Aya-ej2eu]

Damn you put into words what I was thinking better than I could've!!! Our lows are totally normal, but we need to stand up again. I hope you'll get where you want to be 💙

[@chassy._.s]

it broke my heart to see how her family talked about her. she was obviously going through something hard mentally and what she needed was not criticism and harsh words but love and compassion and patience. her family wasn’t helping her despite what anyone thinks.

[@aurorabuciochavez7782]

Agreed. There is a way to go about saying things and that wasn’t the most productive or kind I think.

[@DaughterApollo]

Truly. Her family is god awful.

[@rebekahfunches6876]

OMGosh SO Unlearned and Unsupportive!! This is how people off themselves. Ignorance and bad thoughts 😕😕

[@ohmarvn]

i was thinking wow she speaks negative enough about herself and her dad and friends are being disrespectful and disgusting 😊

[@chrissies6400]

Oh noo, what about the family who doesn't talk about you at all nor with you:)

[@missbeaussie]

I actually started crying when you're Dad said you were being selfish. It was such a vulnerable moment. You're depressed and he made out like it was a conscious choice.

[@ajafrei2442]

She was

[@milliesmith1900]

@@ajafrei2442 she wasn't i'm not a doctor but i'm pretty sure she has a binge eating disorder where the eating disorder controls her.

[@hellopeople1748]

@@milliesmith1900 but she’s literally promoting it by saying we should be hungry

[@evelyncalderon5034]

I feel like her dad was just having enough abd trying to get through to her because very early in the glow up series she asked her parents to help her to help her stop eating i haven't gotten to the part where her dad says those things but everyone was raised differently especially those parents its especially hard when the parents have never seen or heard of alot of the ed and mental illness im sure her parents love her and maybe have apologized im not making excuses because you should never say that to your kid no matter how old but everyones human even parents they are allowed to make mistakes as well they are learning with each kid

[@missbeaussie]

@Smurfette Did It depression is a conscious choice?

[@chloecordoza]

I know this is an older video, but I want to say i’m sorry the people in your life said such hurtful things. It’s exponentially harder to to grow in an environment that’s pushing you down, especially when it’s those you love most

[@LuluBeLulu]

Her friends were kind of mean. The “you’re really not bad looking” is such a back handed compliment. You are gorgeous and now you’re just working on helping yourself feel how you are and be healthier. It’s ok to want to be better, that doesn’t mean you’re worth any less now, you are simply changing and that’s a part of life!

[@livr7526]

*sisters

[@user-xs2gf]

But maybe they meant it as like they do REALLY not believe that, idk but if I use that sentence it’d be to add reassurance to the person “*blank*, you’re really not bad-looking at all! I think you’re pretty”, but that depends on povs

[@jaydaappleton8408]

I personally think everyone should stop directing hate towards her sister because when people make jokes like that they usually regret it right after and she probably already beat herself up about it and Alivia probably already forgave her, these comments are just reopening old wounds.

[@theobubbles6874]

I think these comments were just for the camera, because afterwards her sister said : "that was good". So i think she wanted the scene to be a little roast from people surrounding her to portay in how bad of a mental state she was in. Just my opinion though.

[@livr7526]

@@theobubbles6874 I think she meant that her own joke was good...

[@baracincurova8593]

"If I can endure in self-destruction, I can endure in self-improvement."

[@mxgicsparklez]

girl please be careful, this is a textbook eating disorder. it would be advisable to talk to a therapist because even if you feel you’ve sorted it, relapse can creep up on you especially if you haven’t addressed it properly. you’re not weak AT ALL. it’s not you and you’re not alone. please be safe and reach out if you need help

[@meditationrockerchick]

Dude this video is so real. Wow. And it is even more fascinating to watch it happen to a person who is young, pretty, outwardly successful and financially well off. Its a true testament to how much food addiction can destroy anybody's life. Your story is important to spread awareness, and it is a very well made video. In a lot of peoples minds, i think they imagine food addicts like on TLC, living in a rural area in the south and being unemployed. This shows that it can happen to anybody, and they dont have to be morbidly obese.

[@TT-pe1dp]

i understand people are/were mad over her never "glowing up" but people need to understand it's not just the end result of becoming a different, pretty person. glowing up is and can be a long experience/journey. i truly enjoyed season 1 because it was showing her thoughts and experiences in the beginning and that was something that really help build up to her issue with binge eating/food/diet. if you are mad about her never giving you the motivational tips you wanted to glow up or that she didn't go from slumps to glam up in 4 videos (which would've never made us truly understand her struggle with food) then you only see glowing up for its end goal.

[@Karin91730]

True!! BED is such a hard struggle and I'm still struggling after 2 years🤷‍♀️ a lot of ppl dont understand that recovery is not linear

[@Jade-ns5dm]

you shouldn't hate yourself into losing weight. you shouldn't hate yourself into glowing up. you shouldn't hate yourself into changing.

[@angelsxdior]

Honey if you don’t like something about yourself you change it period.

[@Jade-ns5dm]

@@angelsxdior yeah, sure. but don't beat yourself up during the process tf.

[@anga1721]

@@angelsxdior this so just toxic, give it to the username

[@Selnawel]

It's HARD

[@alyssanering7454]

@@angelsxdior yeah that’s definitely the wrong mindset to have.

[@marshamarsha5680]

When you’re 35 and still have the same struggles you had when you were 8 years old. Food addiction SUCKS and takes over your life. Feels like you’re never going to get out of it.

[@sowhat5558]

I never experienced something like this and therefore, can never fully understand what you are going through. But I can imagine that it must be exhausting. I wish you the best. Never give up hope, even though change might seem unlikely. Addiction is a serious problem, but it is not impossible to beat.

[@tiwiogunye]

Please get professional help. You can still beat this

[@a.l.a7901]

I am 34 and feel this. I went and had gastric sleeve surgery. This is the tool helping me on getting my eating habits right and I'm seeing a mental health professional for the food addiction and binge eating. I feel I FINALLY will get through this. The cravings I have now are mental. I'm almost a month post op. Start of the journey. The way I am doing it wouldn't work for everyone. But it's how I chose to do this. Take it one day at a time. That's what works for me. Celebrate the small victories.

[@wrldofdeee3083]

Jesus Loves You Alll ❤️

[@racketcat8594]

Spot on. Exactly this.

[@anacristinaperez2252]

I remember I watched this like 2 years ago, wishing I would get where she did, and thinking I never would. I related with everything she said so much. Eventually I got there, I’m the happiest I’ve ever been :))

[@Carla-wk3mz]

I'm so so so proud of you!!

[@makiniita]

Same here, I randomly remembered her and I used to relate to these sm. Now I’m watching for nostalgia and it’s nice to see how far I’ve come

[@tible_toble_table_top]

I'm just about to start improving myself, after seeing this video. I've tried so many times but never keep it up so I'm gonna persevere this time

[@SoulieNovamusic]

I’m currently working on the same journey as her

[@chloesalo3502]

Imagine being as open about your life journey as Alivia I could neverrr

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

I don't want everyone to know my dirt and emotions, idk how she does it. Especially the episode with the fight with her mom, I could just picture her mom seeing it and crying

[@II_Emilia_II]

Same

[@veesancez]

@@pollyandrade2125 ppl have enough anxiety let's not shame ppl for knowing their boundaries

[@she.sdeadd0767]

that’s so backhanded

[@bellashawol9951]

@@she.sdeadd0767 for real, i can’t tell if that’s shade or a compliment

[@madisonfitness332]

The dad trying to help but not knowing how to help effectively is so heartbreaking :(

[@supersugarysweetgirl]

literally, “fat surrounding ur organs, remember that” bruh that can give some people an ed like anorexia or R.E.D… guilt when eating and stuff.. yikes just yikes the siblings too “oily hair glasses and body fat” wtf..

[@pluto3603]

@@supersugarysweetgirl what else are they supposed to say? its the sad TRUTH.

[@jennyB07]

Nah he was just sick of her excuses and repetitive behavior……. Let’s be real for once

[@cattofa7035]

@@supersugarysweetgirl he was right, how was he supposes to say that in a convincing way?

[@denkinoms]

That part made me uncomfortable. That's what would make me hide food and the guilt was awful. It made my weight gain worst that's 100% not his place.

[@mymistake8214]

To those naive idiots commenting "it shouldn't take this long" and "hurry up with your glow up," if you wanted to watch a Disney movie, click off this video, and I do recommend Princess and the Frog tho as it might teach you guys a thing or two about hard work and dedication

[@T7d534]

Lmaoo💀 but fr tho

[@moon.937]

@@T7d534 people don't like being told they need to actually put effort in order to improve themselves. They want a temporary and superficial solution to all their problems🤡

[@OO-ct4hq]

They were expecting a make up and nails transformation when they clicked on this series with some fitness music added. They just couldn't handle how serious actually the situation is.

[@kateri7404]

Lmao

[@lesbiangoddess290]

Go off girl😲

[@pawgava]

This made me cry, because you’ve put everything I feel about myself in 33 mins. This was extremely vulnerable & im extremely appreciative of you for making this. I’ll be moving forward with your literacy in mind. Thank you.

[@hunter1739]

the dad telling her how selfish she is, was heartbreaking. that would stick with me for a long, long time.

[@itsmeallday2926]

The dad spoke from a good place you should see that

[@SB-ls7qj]

@@itsmeallday2926 but he could have said that better, instead of expecting his daughter with already low self esteem to understand what he is saying comes from a good place. Yeah I’m sure he wants the best for her but people need to learn how to talk to others. Saying “you’re selfish and you’ve been handed so many opportunities and you just waste them” sounds so cruel. All it makes people with eating disorders do is binge/restrict more. I can’t imagine putting my daughter down like that

[@flyingfeathers_]

@@SB-ls7qj because you're too woke and polite for your daughter's good.

[@Edible_Kittens]

@@flyingfeathers_ This is not about “wokeness” or whatever buzzword you’ve rotted your brain with, it’s common human decency. More than that, it’s the respect you should give to your own daughter, your own flesh and blood.

[@fuhgetabatit1051]

My mom said the same thing when I was bulimic😵‍💫

[@marykateguiang6002]

I used to think "glow up" is about glowing up physically. But ever since I watched you, I realized that glow up is improving yourself mentally not just physically

[@annaluca29]

I think her sister’s comments about her “having potential, but...” were low key cruel and reinforce the negative self talk Alivia suffers from

[@honeyandlavender_]

Yes. All these insecurities and low self-esteem have their roots. Comments like that just make you feel more like shit and slows the process.

[@lostchild3878]

Yeah I feel like her sister was WAY too harsh but, maybe that's the way they joke around with each other because my older brother and I have a similar dynamic but we know what lines not to cross, you know? Words hold a lot of power.

[@rubyxx9803]

exactly what I thought it was so rude and insensitive

[@ryleigh-1611]

Ya negative comments like that are not as encouraging as people think

[@juelrose7072]

I have sisters and I think sometimes that’s sisters way of joking around with one another, my sister and I don’t take comments like that seriously☺️

[@lisaswrld]

What’s crazy is the level of self awareness, but the inability to stop the self destructive behavior. I’m glad recovery is at the end of this tale. It’s puzzling how you didn’t blow up to 300lbs.

[@keepsmiling4715]

Came to this cannel looking for a way to “lose weight “ got out out of it WANTING to change my life my eating habits to the better I don’t think you realise how many people’s life you changed you are an inspiration WE LOVE YOU I can’t thank you enough 😭❤️❤️❤️

[@aja6724]

@@fraise_fraud Wow we don’t need your negativity here

[@heatherbrody6167]

@@fraise_fraud as someone who has been watching these since the first episode, her reason for these videos has completely changed over the years. It used to be exactly what the op said about “losing weight” and just trying to glow up physically like getting rid of her acne and getting into college and becoming fit all that. It has now totally evolved into a mindset and lifestyle change for her, so no, I doubt she actually knows how many people she’s helped because she actually created this series having no idea what it would become

[@noelialozano3532]

I agree🥺💖

[@keepsmiling4715]

Gdvshsgs

[@keepsmiling4715]

Hahahagssg

[@kieramcmahon305]

the way her family talks to her about food and her body is not okay, and it's probably a big contributor to her skewed mindset on her eating habits and "weak" mentality

[@fatouwadda9393]

I agree and also her freinds instead of supporting her they made fun of her body

[@shamanlilac260]

Welcome to being raised in an Asian family...

[@shamanlilac260]

I should clarify that I’m also Asian. You grow up being told “you’re getting fat” as soon as you gain 2 pounds.

[@_laurenolo_]

I have to agree here. I went on a similar journey to Alivia and am finally learning to love myself. I think it maybe started 8 years ago (I was 14) where my family made a comment at the beach that I would be pretty and have a nice figure if I lost weight (I was by NO means obese, only just barely overweight) and instead of being a push to get healthier it made me spiral into self loathing and I've spent nearly a decade hating myself and yoyo-ing. I haven't worn a bathing suit since then and became more introverted than ever because I didn't want to show myself to the world and I missed a lot of opportunities and friendships because of it. One bad comment sent me down a near decade long path of self-loathing. Some families may think it's a push in the right direction and for some it may be, but for others it can cause irreparable damage to one's self esteem and view of yourself forever.

[@marikakielbiowska5846]

I don’t think so... I feel like they want to help with all that they have just don’t know how to deal with a person that struggles with binge eating... Everybody learns here- Alivia, of course, but her loved ones too... just don’t want to demonize them so early- I knew she wouldnt like to hear that. Cause it sounds so hurtful. Please think

[@cguibcx]

The way the dad was begging her to not make the damn cake in the mug is heartbreaking. I'm going through my own addiction issues right now and it reminded me of how my boyfriend will beg me not to spend money on my chosen substance. 😢😓

[@buccimoobiess4744]

They did it out of concern. Imagine if they hadn't said anything at all?

[@Pain_Ito]

@@buccimoobiess4744they didn’t say that it was bad

[@buccimoobiess4744]

@@Pain_Ito The way that person described, it is pretty bad

[@diamonddope0039]

@@buccimoobiess4744 no they didnt lol

[@buccimoobiess4744]

@@diamonddope0039 Wait, what are you talking abt I am so confused.

[@sades_05]

as someone with anorexia i found myself relating so much to this, I didn't expect to, but I see and feel your pain of something as simple and necessary as food controlling your life. I wish you nothing but love and peace

[@peachbooks3199]

ppl might think its repetitive but THIS is the reality. people yo-yo. people struggle all their lives. thank you for sharing with is always alivia

[@helenalovelock1030]

Yes it’s like a yo yo nightmare of a merry go round.

[@rubysbiggestfan]

what does the expression “people yo-yo” even mean

[@sadia6503]

​​@@rubysbiggestfan sometimes people use nouns as verbs if there isn't an available verb that fits right or for humor. In this case, yo-yos go up and down and are stuck on tha track so it's the perfect way to describe how people are stuck going up and down in weight in a bit of a cycle. But honestly I absolutely agree with the original comment. It's such a vulnerable thing to share with us all but she did and we're all deriving a lot of comfort from that because the experience is so relatable to a lot of people. Painfully so in a country like this where everything not made at home is made to keep you addicted in the pursuit of capital

[@lauramarie9342]

I am feeling so twisted about this video. I don't know where Alivia is standing right now with self-love and mental health, but this video feels like someone who despises themselves is telling me to accept myself. She is wonderful and raw and real but the whole glow-up diaries series approaches really tough mental health issues in a way as if an eating disorder could be overcome with willpower, workouts, and a sparkly diary.

[@HalfBakedPotat]

Yes. It van be do damaging for people. First impression can be "wow its so inspiring" and, dont get nr wrong, I think Alivia is very brave and strong.but this is not a healthy approach and may make people not seeking professional help because theh will also think about their mental issues as "weakness" and try just to "get themselves together".THIS APPROACH CAN LITERALLY MAKE PEOPLE KILL THEMSELVES. this is why so mamy people just can't live like that anymore

[@lucyd.3067]

warning: rant incoming Honestly watching these vids make me so sad. I'm a bit older and I have recovered from a similar eating disorder (I have no shame calling it for what it is - it was disordered, it interfered with my happiness and my life and my self-concept)...and I definitely did not recover by calling myself "weak-minded," the part of us that binges is a coping mechanism we develop to deal with underlying emotions we do not want to deal with - those underlying emotions and destructive patterns are only reinforced, amplified and perpetuated by shaming ourselves. all I see here is a lot of self-shaming, she criticizes herself for criticizing herself in the beginning of the video, but does not seem to have the awareness that this will only lead to more pain - she calls herself out for being self-deprecating and then in all sincerity calls herself 'weak-minded' - our coping mechanisms don't make us 'weak.' For me, I could not control myself out of an eating disorder, the more I tried to exert control the more shameful I felt - I had to create a trusting, healing, nurturing environment in myself in order to change. I had to acknowledge that those patterns were serving a purpose, those parts of myself that were addicted to food and addicted to the internet (I've had various issues with different addictions), were attempting to protect me from intense emotions I did not feel like I could deal with on my own. I had to address those roots in order to heal (therapy helped greatly with this). all I see in this video is a person still in the depths of their eating disorder doing everything they can to justify their need to control and coerce theirselves out of it, sadly that's not how sustainable, meaningful healing works. that intense longing for control is actually an aspect of the core issue - and it only makes her panic and hate herself and relapse into old patterns as soon as she eats a trigger food. I see a lot of demonization of foods, a lot of food-blame (blaming junk food for 'bad thoughts') as soon as I began to forgive myself *completely* for my binges, to recognize the purpose it served and respect and honor the parts of myself that were misguided, that is when I began to heal. I know it sounds bizarre but actually entering a conversation and +thanking+ the parts of me that I previously demonized for trying their best to protect me (a core part of IFS therapy that really helped me), allowed them to loosen their panicked grip on me. The more we try to hate and remove our misguided extreme 'protectors' (the parts in us that try to protect us from our emotions/traumas with our addictions), the stronger they tend to become...that is what I keep seeing from her, the more she tries to force herself to change..the harder it is to escape the pattern because there's s much shame and panic and fear involved. I can eat 'junk food' (which I do not call 'junk' anymore, it's just food) in moderation now without feeling a compulsion to binge because my brain does not have a constant running commentary about how 'bad' I am for eating it and how 'poisonous' the food is (in moderation, no food is poison, and I believe it's especially destructive for people with ED issues to see it that way). this vlog is so food-focused, so disorder-focused, so obsession-focused, I honestly worry for girls watching this who may be in the throes of the same thing. this would not have been healthy for me to watch years ago. sorry for ranting at you, this just brought up a lot of my past and a lot of thoughts I've had on this issue... even how the trailer for this season is posed as a before and after reveal picture is revealing to me...you are not automatically healthier/happier because you are skinnier ("your body is a reflection of your behavior" - I know a girl who looks so athletic and 'healthy' and yet I know behind the scenes she's killing herself with an eating disorder, that sentence and sentiment she shares in this vid really isn't remotely true). self-improvement does not innately = being slim at all costs. she is addressing the food/weight issue but not the root cause of what is causing those patterns in the first place...if we don't address the roots, we will repeat these behaviors until we die because we aren't alleviating the issue that the 'protector' mechanisms want to solve in the first place. I've found a lot of peace and sustainable change in letting go of 'cure-mentality,' my brain now trusts and understands that I won't abuse myself if it falls into old patterns, so it is easier for me to more easily come out of those patterns because I know how to self-soothe and relate to those parts in healthier ways. that said, it took me many many many years to gradually grow out of my old thought processes and stop demonizing foods and stop demonizing myself for eating or 'indulging' when I wanted (this meant becoming a healthy parent for myself and counterintuitively nurturing the parts of me that felt hurt and were destructive). and I can't imagine healing in that way in the public eye...I just really hope she finds the help she needs and the peace and self-gentleness and nurturing she deserves. I feel like she spins her issues into a before-and-after inspirational story but that puts too much pressure to produce an 'after,' often our journeys aren't like that (most health/self-improvement channels do this, I'm reminded of Stephanie Buttermore talking about how pressured/overanalyzed she felt on her all-in journey)...relapses/repeating patterns are just human nature, it's a part of the process and it's okay!! I really want us to stop calling ourselves 'weak,' for struggling, every part of our psyches are trying their best to survive and we are extremely, incredibly strong to live in this chaotic, stressful world. now I know if I ever do binge again, my brain will not panic and slide into an all-out war with itself and cause that pattern to continue, because I 10000% believe it's completely okay to get 'out of control' sometimes, and to understand that our brains are just trying to cope with something that is too large for us to bear in that moment - then we can learn what was happening in those moments and how to cope with it in healthier ways. it's about being nurturing and resilient, not perfect, not constantly 'in control' (our brains don't work like that and we have to learn to be accepting of that) honestly I hate the books Can't Hurt Me and "brain over binge" which I think she mentioned in another vid..books that emphasize hardcore discipline over relational healing and understanding and nurturing of ourselves. In Can't Hurt Me he literally runs on broken legs and brags about it like it's healthy and worthy of praise...he focuses so hard on his selfimprovement goals at the expense of his relationships, friendships and his wellbeing as a whole...notice that he doesn't really talk about nurturing loving relationships in that book or actually feeling meaningful contentment and peace or even being a kind, good person or processing his trauma in ways that allow him to heal from that...instead it's kind of like he just changes his preferred outlet for obsession into athletic workaholism, and because we value those accomplishments in our society he spins it like a before after success story when if you actually read about the man, his relationships have been fairly miserable and it's not really a life I personally aspire to want to have (but that's me). when she says: "I will never experience happiness if I stayed on my current path.." - NO, find happiness and small gratitudes and meaning NOW where you are, even (and especially) if you feel completely lost, even if you feel completely broken even if you hate yourself and where you are in every way, you only have now, today, the moment, learning how to find those moments *now* is how you heal!! you cannot heal when you say to yourself "when I do this..I'll be happy" "when I look like this..I'll be happy" "when I can control myself THEN I can be happy," or equally as bad exchanging the word happy for "if..(insert any condition)THEN I'll love myself" :::start practicing loving yourself *now* start practicing valuing yourself now, wherever you may be!! even in super small ways!! the change will feel glacial and at times agonizingly slow, but that is how meaningful change starts!! rewiring neural pathways takes a lot of time, we can only get there by creating a loving environment for yourself.. that is the true path towards healing...because when you love yourself unconditionally and meaningful, you will naturally learn to nurture yourself in healthy ways... and your happiness won't be conditional, it will fluctuate just as all things fluctuate in our human experience but it will be more and more possible for you to access the place where you can meaningful experience joy because you will not be denying yourself happiness simply because you don't meet some kind of arbitrary expectation you have for yourself. /endrant thank you for listening, and thank you to all the commenters below discussing this and expressing concern over the attitudes presented in this video

[@noaverner]

yes

[@jjjazzy5026]

@@lucyd.3067 this was put into words PERFECTLY. I am so proud of you for overcoming things the way you did and your story is very inspirational, thank you! You are absolutely right! If you can’t learn to dance with and accept your shadow, if all you do is run away from your deep rooted issues and just build on negative self-hate thought patterns and always reaching for a higher goal, you’ll end up worse off and always in the same place. Practicing small gratitudes for even BREATHING over time makes everything slow down, makes everything mean that much more. Also celebrating small steps not just the after image which is such a damaging thing to chase after. If you can’t be grateful and celebrate simply waking up and taking a drink of water and you’re hyperfocused on achieving only that future image in your mind that takes tons of work, you will be burned out, devastated, etc. I do agree this video is a downer because unfortunately she is stuck in generalized societal, “time is money, emotions are a weakness, it’s all about future you, WORK WORK WORK” mental state and it’s quite damaging to others currently in that state feeling trapped and seeing such influencers even in their worst who ARENT showing a different perspective which is what our world needs rn. So again, you said this all perfectly and I really admire you and your story, I wish you only the best on your journey thank you dear💛

[@lucyd.3067]

@@jjjazzy5026 thank you so much, reading your comment truly made my day. I absolutely adore how you wrote about 'dancing with the shadow,' I also want to emphasize that this is always an ongoing journey for me as well and that's the beauty of it!! I'm definitely not an 'after story,' and I no longer need to see myself in those terms and that is profoundly liberating. as you wrote so beautifully, "slowing down," and learning true restorative restful practices has also been key for me. I have been keeping up with Alivia for a while now because this particular struggle of hers reminds me so much of myself when I was young, I think she's a very insightful person and I know eventually she'll get to a more nurturing place, it's just so painful to see it play out on screen!! (but I think it's vitally important to discuss these issues). I'm super grateful to you again for your words, and there seem to be so many loving, wonderful people in these comments discussing this issue and I truly just wish us all the best. it's difficult because I do not want to criticize Alivia or make her feel bad for the content she presents, but I do hope she reads some of the comments and maybe begins to experiment with different forms of self-therapy. My priorities now have shifted immensely from my shame-fueled mentality when I was younger, I just want to be a playful, loving parent to all my parts, I never want to shame any part of myself even if I 'hate' what it's doing, there is always a reason behind why we are behaving the way we are...our actions are always communicating something and when we learn to lovingly listen to those internal communications then we begin to understand how to truly alter our habits...Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and Internal Family Systems Therapy have done the most for me in terms of shifting my perspective but I believe it's different for everyone and it definitely always evolves depending on where you are in life!! I now see it as an exciting creative process to re-parent myself and express myself in the most loving way I can (towards others and myself), that is my priority now and though I still struggle with many things I have never felt more free.

[@irenicrose]

"The pain that you've been feeling can't compare to the joy that's coming"- Romans 8:18

[@tropicalmk3519]

AMEN!!

[@jubileeemeli]

yes!

[@essiea6429]

Amen!!

[@maryk7764]

AMEN!!

[@lukairrahe]

AMEN!

[@chanelleo20]

this broke my heart because it hits so close to home. thank you for this, the vulnerability and realness in this video is so deeply appreciated. you’ve helped so many people with this video alivia.

[@screenname713]

The moment her dad catches her making a snack at night hit close to home, my dad used to tell me not to eat night but I would get so defensive and vulnerable that I thought he was attacking me or denying me food but really he was just trying to help me from creating a bad habit or becoming unhealthy

[@diddntuno]

That guy sounds JUST like my dad.

[@aka-.-1981]

me too man...

[@rosa273]

Same bro and that’s how I got anorexia kids

[@striker51ful]

@@rosa273 someone tells you not to eat at night and you become anorxic ?

[@rosa273]

@@striker51ful im not necessarily talking about the night eating behavior, I’m commenting more towards family members commenting towards your eating habits and my ana brain would put that comment towards my body

[@elinamarttila2342]

"i don't wanna die at all, but it seems easier than living life" that hit me so damn hard

[@mistykruk7342]

It's so true it hurts 💔

[@31oise]

@@mistykruk7342 I hope you guys are ok and soon realise you're worth it

[@futuristiccat5636]

I mean yeah it is. Earth is the most hardest planet to live on. Working for 60 years just to get enough food to eat and shelter? Lol such a scam. Hope we can change that

[@_aiko020]

Felt that

[@mistykruk7342]

@@31oise I am ok now. Thank you

[@jameemai]

if my dad saw me making a cake in a mug in the middle of the night he'll probably ask me to make one for him too

[@Sam5555_5]

Same sis

[@tusharmehta653]

Same

[@dianalove539]

It’s different when your parents know you have a problem/ issue with food... you wouldn’t encourage an addict would you?

[@rigmor8588]

Yea dude

[@Adi-tt7od]

Same.

[@LuraEdney]

as a teenage girl, overweight for my age, this motivates me so much more than you could imagine. it opened my eyes and made me smell the coffee. it's now 2024 and i want to make this change in my life way earlier before my real life starts. 2024 is my year and i'm gonna take advantage. i'm gonna make this my devotional year.

[@mochalatte8202]

Good luck. Don't beat yourself up if things go wrong, just try to do better the next day 🩵

[@jessaaredidon7435]

"Self love is discomfort." -Alivia. She's intelligent and beautiful. I just love how vulnerable and inspirational she is. She's more than just those girls from Tiktok. She's not below average, but exceptionally a role model to everyone out there. Looking forward to the next chapters. Thank you Alivia. God bless you more!

[@pickleditto]

As someone that’s dealt with anorexia and binge eating, you will never fix the problem, instead you learn to overcome it everyday. Moreover most of us do this not only for control, it is to feel free. To punish the people and conditioning that confine us. Alivia, Maybe you’ve already done it, maybe it’s just the way your family is presented on camera but you need to confront your past not only as your individual scars but how your family and environment has shaped them. If you don’t and keep blaming your failures on your weak will and poor mindset you will never truly understand why you do what you do or how to properly maintain recovery. This might sound real preachy, I’m sorry if it does. I just hope you and the people who watch his video will look deeper into their mental health and not only try to power through it but understand it so you can live a fulfilling life.

[@diesealina521]

Agreed! And maybe seek professional help if u can afford it. Best decision in my life was to get a therapist!

[@viktoriakokkinos6256]

@@diesealina521 apparently she doesn’t believe in therapy :(

[@bloeser]

She approaches mental health very sadly. Saying struggling is weak and other things. She thinks having low self esteem makes you weak, when most of the time, having a low self esteem stems from other problems in life. It is very sad to see. She would have recovered so much faster and better with THERAPY. At least trying it.

[@kstadlerova]

@@viktoriakokkinos6256 well therapy, like everything, isn´t for everyone. it´s not that she doesn´t believe in therapy, she doesn´t believe in therapy FOR HER, which i absolutely understand. it´s just not always the right solution.

[@hihigh1196]

@@bloeser i agree a lot.

[@nataliejade1051]

"You have so much potential but you cover it with oily hair, glasses, and body fat" I fucking hated this part just straight out rude and toxic

[@mississipi1103]

Yes, I know that siblings can make jokes like this but it wasn't EVEN a joke. :/ It was straight up mean things.

[@aah-nanana7341]

If I had her sister as my sibling I don't think we would have a good relationship tbh. No matter what relationship you have with a person it is not okay to say stuff like that. It's just straight up rude and assholey, especially when the person you are saying it to you know is going through a hard time

[@Hope-si1kb]

I HATED that part. That disgusted me

[@hanie2350]

It wasn't toxic. It's called telling the truth. Only family can do that. My sister has told me something similar.

[@nataliejade1051]

@@hanie2350 I was overweight too and my sister was always honest with me but she had never hurt my feelings or said something that would put me down You can be honest and encouraging without being this rude and inconsiderate

[@mariestufflebean3057]

I know I'm a couple of years late, but this video is so raw and real and I have never been able to relate to anything more. You explained everything that I have never been able to put into words. You have truly inspired me to make a change and shown me that it is possible to come out on the other end of this. Thank you.

[@Nehway]

Be gentler with yourself, Alivia. This goes way, way deeper than simply weakness or a lack of discipline.

[@berraksenocak]

GIVE THIS GIRL A SERIES PLEASE THE WORLD NEEDS TO SEE HER

[@SkittlesLuver38]

At this point I think serious professional help would really help her. It’s not about the weight and the “glow up”. It’s the mental illness that doesn’t seem to be addressed at all. But then again I don’t know her at all so idk her life

[@alicehillman]

that’s so true

[@julija8142]

What she is showing is videos of her past, when she had this problems. She is way better now and she is showing us how she came to the point she didn't have problems with food anymore

[@life-wz8jk]

These are old clips, shes actually doing good now!

[@jaydaappleton8408]

@@julija8142 I agree. Posting something like this is very brave and beyond selfless, it really takes guts. Also, can we just truly admire the fact that she still shows up even after all the hate.

[@florasdiary1122]

@@julija8142 yet her voice over and 'story telling self' still talks about her past self as if she was lazy and disgusting for binging, idk her life obviously but from what i can see it just sounds like she shifted eating disorders

[@koichimi8475]

this is the most raw video i’ve ever watched about eating disorders and i cherish the fact that it exists. there was a comment saying it deserves an award and i agree.

[@fenne8087]

I struggle with anorexia and it's kind of interesting how the core of the problem is exactly the same: enduring hard emotions.

[@katymello3547]

Same with all addiction. Gambling, heroin, alcohol, food, shopping. All addiction is the same animal and we all go through very similar experiences, just different substances\behaviors.

[@Fierie333]

therapy, accountability and taking action is the key

[@bubblegumelectric1]

Hard emotions regarding dysfunction in relationships or? I’m curious because I’ve been battling this most of my life. I’m the heaviest I’ve ever been. I was the smallest after facing trauma and loss. I lost all motivation to eat.

[@moon.1116]

⁠@@bubblegumelectric1Hii, I dont know your exact situation, but you said that you were the smallest after the loss and everything so I assume it was a little time ago. I’m not sure if you got better or healed from it, but if you got better maybe you focused on food? Thats what i did when I binged like a lot, it started of with me being unhappy and eating lots of candy, I mean who doesnt like candy, and it made me happy, so I was like always focused on food and was even eating when i wasnt hungry, but the problem was that after time and time it became a habit that i continued to have even when my problems went away. It was just normal to me, so i didnt even notice I was like binging daily, I only noticed when I was getting unhappy with my body. Idk but maybe this helps, sending much love💙

[@janina4271]

Yes, I've been there, too. Wishing the best to you ❤

[@ashlyn3474]

I know her dad and sister care abt her but their comments were so mean. Those comments can trigger binges even more bc you feel ashamed to eat and feel the need to hide you eating causing binges ):

[@whatamievendoingwithmylife429]

Honestly it's better to get motivated by mean comments than to live on with a binge ed. And it wasn't even that mean-

[@PurplePeepsPrincess]

@@whatamievendoingwithmylife429 regardless if you see it as mean or not, people handle situations differently and those comments can do more harm than good.

[@TheDilemma76]

@@whatamievendoingwithmylife429 There has been enough research and studies to show that shaming or bullying people over what they or their size, does far more damage than it helps. It does send the majority of people to a binge. This idea that it helps to motivate people is just a way for people to bully people.

[@pranishaattri8025]

You all are over-sensitive.

[@pranishaattri8025]

@@TheDilemma76 You are right. Majority of the people are weak too.

[@aislinnmcmurtry5893]

I want to apologize for being impatient, I was extremely rude and did not take consideration into what you were emotionally going through. All I can say though is the wait was worth it. This episode was 100% effort and quality. I am very excited for this season of the glow up diaries.

[@thatotherchannel7945]

It takes a big person to admit they were wrong and to apologize, super proud!

[@tomokokuroki7107]

Thank you for apologizing! I'm proud!

[@anna.augustinova]

I related to this video a lot; the history of eating disorders, the self-hate, the crippling loneliness and emptiness, everything... I appreciate you sharing your vulnerable moments with the rest of the world.

[@alicehillman]

it made me really sad how she kept calling herself weak and stupid. it’s obvious she struggles with an ED and insulting herself isn’t helping. im watching this rn and she’s being really hard on herself. i hope she knows that she’s beautiful no matter what her weight. this could potentially trigger people with EDs too so please put a trigger warning!

[@coolum.5226]

This is her journey. A journey where you can see her lowest points in life. She’s trying to help, not trigger any bad feelings. This is the reason she left social media for a year.

[@trinentity]

Accepting your flaws and criticizing yourself are two different things. In order to get rid of the issue you have to accept that it’s an issue first which she did more so towards the end. 👍

[@premapepper70]

I think that is part of the deeper recovery is that self compassion and unconditional self acceptance...not easy in this culture!

[@emilyh8389]

You clicked on a video saying my journey with food addiction. That was an ed trigger warning in itself

[@meowitsChloe]

I understand the point of this series and the idea of a long term rather than short term process of glowing up and transforming your life. BUT I feel the need to say that, like any mental illness, seeking professional help is the most important thing when it comes to healing. It’s damaging for you to say in this video that your ‘weak mind’ caused your binge eating disorder. It’s not about weakness and laziness-eating disorders are often rooted in depression or chemical insufficiencies in the brain. You’re not lazy because you’re not lacking an aesthetic glow up process. You’re mentally unwell and need professional help and therapy which will help you heal alongside the techniques Alivia mentions in the video.

[@marining]

please wait a bit more, this is just the first episode and right now, she has changed so much, it is so encouraging that she’s actually sharing her life to others even though she knew people would disagree with things that she said but I feel that the main idea of this season is glow up and I believe we will see her glow up all throughout the season

[@shaai4227]

she was explaining her experience which I think she knows more about but this could apply to other people.she said that she does not have an eating disorder. she just has disordered eating which is different as she explains :)

[@ohmygoodnessgoddess]

Her family seems to have given her a lot of guilt surrounding food and weight loss which is super toxic. I feel like her main problem is self-sabotage. She's always calling herself names, comparing herself to social media, saying she doesn't believe in herself. She's very focused on the eating but I think its coming from the fact that she doesn't love and respect herself. I think having a stronger support network eg a therapist, a personal trainer, a life- coach would have made this a lot easier for her. No one should have to go through this stuff alone.

[@ohmygoodnessgoddess]

Yeah I feel like her family makes it so much worse! In the last season her mom would make comments about her eating too much, and she’s even dreaming that her mom is mad at her for eating. She’s making herself so vulnerable, and they’re tearing her down even more. Obviously she comes from a Christian family, like me, and I also grew up with a lot of self-hate and inadequacy that I have only learned to confront through therapy. Unfortunately, a lot of Christians believe we should only look to God for answers and help not therapy 🙄

[@brigluigi3465]

Oh my gosh my family is the same way I am literally 20lbs heavier and I know I am aware but my mom reminds me every morning every time she sees me eat anything every time I am cooking and sometimes if we r just watching a movie it’s I hate it

[@JulyzaUy]

@@ohmygoodnessgoddess as a girl coming from a Christian family my family don't think that way but they support me with my weight loss journey. I think one of things that help me with it is them! And I definitely agree that families are a big part of your health and will also help either you succeed with your weight loss or not

[@blythe9703]

Yess I was also thinking I can’t believe she (seemingly) didn’t have a therapist this whole time. I feel like even though she seems to be in a better place right now, I don’t know if she’ll ever truly heal without the help from a therapist because carrying all this self sabotage weight by herself, not to mention the weight her whole family puts on her too, is too much alone no matter how much any of us wanna be able to do everything alone.

[@blythe9703]

It looks like later in the series she got a personal trainer tho so idk maybe some of that need to share the burden came out in that process

[@Mkap539]

You are NOT selfish. You have so much courage and vulnerability for sharing this! ❤

[@P21-j4t]

i found some of the comments from her family problematic, but her dad seemed really nice and supporting!

[@nodgwig8948]

he did call her selfish for not wanting to facetime people, and told her basically that other people had it worse and she wasn't valuing what she had. that was kinda harsh imo.

[@Nikitapandey515]

@@nodgwig8948 at times you need people to be blunt and honest with you without sugar coated words , as a father of course he would want the best for her, if it means being a little harsh, so be it. I honestly think too much pampering just ruins you. Well this is my opinion anyway.

[@lenkasustackova4560]

@@Nikitapandey515 But comparing her problems with others and saying "others have it worse" doesn't help her mental health at all.

[@Nikitapandey515]

@@lenkasustackova4560 well yeah I agree on that one, everyone has it different.

[@ZhaiiYou]

Her family is not problematic at all! They are honest and that’s important 😊

[@glo6503]

I know everyone is saying this in the comments already, but: - this is her journey and her transformation and the things she say ONLY apply to her situation - and most importantly, if you are struggling with any type of mental health disorder, please please please seek help and don't think that you're just lazy

[@kelsey.is.offline]

this comment 🤌

[@glo6503]

@@kelsey.is.offline wait is that a good or bad emoji lol?

[@futuristiccat5636]

The second one is true but we should also abolish the systems that are causing mental health problems. Problem is that people who made those systems don’t care. They only care about money

[@Grace-sc5mm]

YES

[@GenZGrandma]

Preach you said it allll ✨💕👏🏻👏🏻

[@sarahelverd]

"I didn't even know what hunger felt like anymore". That's when you realize you have a food addiction.

[@pistachioonut6683]

I used to binge and be addicted to food, now I am on a weight loss journey and eating in a calorie deficit I still don't know what hunger feels like. I eat to satiety and don't deprive myself.

[@Macriné98]

I don't know what satiety feels like, for more than a year I've always been hungry and I don't even restrict that low :( I literally fantasize about eating before I fall asleep.

[@sarahkensok4207]

@@Macriné98 sorry if this is personal, and you don't have to answer but how much would you say you eat in a day because it sounds like you aren't eating enough

[@Macriné98]

@@sarahkensok4207 Oh, hello :) For the most part I ate around 1600-1800 calories, but I exercise very hard so it barely feels enough. Sometimes I don't eat at all or I eat much less. Recently I've been eating 500-700 cals. I don't know where I'm going with this but living with my family stresses me out so much, they're always eating delicious foods (baked things, cakes etc) and I get triggered 😔😔 If it wasn't for that, I'd be much better at restricting. I also have to fix my digestion and stop drinking laxatives, but that gives me anxiety (for obvious reasons) so I just don't wanna eat at all, which again, is stressful in the given circumstances. Sorry for blabbering so much, just couldn't figure out how to put it shortly 😟

[@kirstin1000]

I've never seen a single video of your's before but this popped up on my feed and I'm glad it did. I relate to this so much, even if my challenges are different from your's. You made yourself so vulnerable to share your story and your bravery humbles me. Here's to finding the bravery to commit to change.

[@serenaalnuaimi]

"If I can endure in self destruction, I can endure in self improvement." Powerful!

[@Megan_nosse]

Her dad telling her not to eat the cake at night sounds a lot like the voice in my head. I truly hope she’s doing well and found some peace

[@mcakela13]

it was almost eerie sounding but you’re so right

[@anna.augustinova]

In the start of the video I really thought it was a reenactment of what having an eating disorder feels like, I didn't think it was an actual person. :o

[@TheJulithegreat]

My dad acted like that when I made a lettuce sandwich, except more anger.

[@sanaaniz]

@@TheJulithegreat do you know how greedy you have to be to make a frickin lettuce sandwich

[@TheJulithegreat]

@@sanaaniz I was trying to lose weight. I hadn't eaten all day and it was after school. Dad went CRAZY.

[@jordanstone243]

If you’re struggling with a binge eating disorder and watching this, please please know you do NOT have to hate yourself like this girl does. You are NOT weak. You are not sad because you don’t like your body. She is judging herself out of self hatred. PLEASE listen, you are perfect the way your body exists in this moment. Even if you have just binged 10,000 calories. Every cell in your body is fighting to keep you alive. If you step back and release the judgement of the binges, of your sadness and just see it as a thing that happened, you can then decide to just love yourself where you are at. Make a positive next move WITHOUT the guilt attached. That’s how it becomes a habit. She was never weak, only refusing to love herself and release the judgement. Like all addictions it isn’t about being weak and then strong, it’s a slow progression of release and love. I’m still on the path to recovery years in.

[@alexk7937]

Thank you so much! ♥️

[@FiMilton]

Thank you! And am I the only one who finds these videos very triggering? I don’t know why I keep watching but I always binge after.

[@jordanstone243]

@@FiMilton it reinforces that we feel we are weak. I have been feeling the urges to binge so much lately. I shouldn’t be watching any videos about food 😭😅 I’m trying to stay off of tumblr too

[@Emma-tp5lu]

YES! YOU ARE BATTLING YOUR ILLNESS, NOT YOUR BODY!!

[@jordanstone243]

@@meowv34 it’s okay that you binged! Know that it wasn’t good or bad that you binged, it just happened and you’re free from any judgement or guilt. Just keep living for right now, this moment. ❤️

[@perfect-jw5id]

i relate to you so much. i got to the point where i would imagine myself ripping off, cutting off the parts of my body I didn't like and it seemed much better than dealing with these parts, looking at them in the mirror everyday. trying to fix it SO MANY times and being disappointed in the end just makes you feel tired, jealous of people who just happen to born the way i always wanted to be, effortlessly. it just kills me. hope i can overcome this one day. good video!

[@s.d.8350]

opening up to your dad about how low you feel and having his reaction be "you're selfish and ungrateful" instead of "I love you and support you no matter how you look and I want you to be happy and healthy" is absoluely contributing to the emotional issues you're treating with food. Then telling yourself you're weak just furthers the unhappiness and guilt. As long as you have people in your life making you feel bad about yourself and not being there to support you emotionally, you'll internalize it and continue hating yourself and covering up your sadness with comfort food.

[@May04bwu]

You're blowing this out of proportion. I had an eating disorder and I agree with her dad. You don't know him and you don't know what he said to her off camera, when she wasn't recording. Judging someone based on this is stupid. Also don't forget people don't always understand how serious our problem is because we don't fully open up. He didn't criticize her appearance or anything, you're comparing two completely different situations. He can find her selfish and also care about her physical health - in fact, that's exactly what he means when he's talking about fat surrounding organs. Extremely dangerous in the long run. I honestly WISH I still had my dad in life and he would actually care to this point. Genuine concern makes things easier for me. I wish someone would come to me at night and beg to not eat or even binge because they don't want me to get sick and unhealthy.

[@sophiec9090]

@@May04bwu No, her dad is completely toxic for saying that. Your experience with an eating disorder is not everybody's experience. I am suffering at the minute with an OCD induced eating disorder and once the thought of food gets into my brain I cannot get it out, because of a mental illness. Having an eating disorder doesnt make you selfish, you obviously have a low opinion of yourself so youre projecting that onto other people with eating disorders. Theres a difference between constructive criticism and just being rude, and her dad was just nasty for the sake of it.

[@Faethehippie15_]

@@May04bwu of course we don’t know him or what he does off camera. HOWEVER what he did say in that moment CAN be extremely harmful. Especially since I noticed her triggers are emotional & mental stress. It is never selfish to be struggling & you feeling out of control. You’re a human for a reason. No body likes to struggle or have addictions. But addiction is an illness for a reason. You become dependent on your behaviours. But the real question you should be asking is “what certain event or emotion triggered all of this to start happening in the first place?” Not “ooh you’re selfish” because that can trigger an episode because now you made that person feel guilty for something that’s completely out of their control right now. Saying that is destructive and not constructive. What he should’ve did was listen to her, validate how she feels, and then ask “well what can we do about this to change this” “would you like professional help?” There’s other constructive ways to go about helping someone start being held accountable. Saying someone is selfish when they’re not creates unnecessary guilt, anger, sadness, & stress and does absolutely nothing but add to the addiction that the person is suffering from.

[@Faethehippie15_]

@Carolina Vasquez being held accountable for yourself especially in situations like this means you need to find the root cause of what event or feeling triggered you to start this habit that eventually developed into a disorder. And in doing that requires help from professionals like a therapist, psychiatrist, a doctor or therapist that specialises in eating disorders & addictions. Possible rehab clinic. And a whole lot of love & support from your friends and family. Because over coming an addiction & a disorder requires a lot of patience and understanding. Telling the person that you’re supposed to love & support that they are selfish for their disorder especially when they had the courage to come to you to be vulnerable is absolutely NOT okay. It’s disgusting, destructive, triggering, & discouraging. You don’t say that to someone who’s very obviously struggling. You absolutely cannot overcome an addiction on your own and you definitely cannot “just be strong & push through it” on your own. Because that’s the quickest way to relapse 1000% worse than it already is. Tough love is not verbal abuse. Tough love is saying “you need professional help & im going to be the person that’s going to get you help whether you like it or not” THAT is tough love.

[@nigarsultana7865]

Y'all should have born in a brown house hold and you would have understand... That's how it is..Asian people don't really sugercoat stuff

[@Madisonnt1233]

This sounds like depression to me. Your brain craves that happiness and comfort when your depressed and it tends to lead to an eating disorder :(

[@AW-1811]

Yea that’s what I was thinking, the documentary I think could push others towards thinking mental problems are just lack of will power ;(

[@AW-1811]

@Martha Estrada Baca seek help from professionals, especially a nutritionist that specializes in eating disorders of ALL kinds.

[@AW-1811]

@Martha Estrada Baca no problem! I had an “on the verge” eating disorder a couple years ago and I went to a nutritionist and it helped me so much. But it sounds like u may need a therapist too:)

[@Ella-rw9oc]

Very true. This happened to me last year and instead of gaining weight I lost weight, could not eat and is still battling with eating.

[@rowie6666]

@Martha Estrada Baca i had a a binge ed and i am doing so much better what helped me is to not weigh my self not count calories but instead eat things that made me feel good emphasis on no restricting. i make small meal plans that help with food guidance through the day but it’s not essential to follow. i also found i helpful to avoid a diet mentality. for me that ment still incorporating some sweets and meals out every once and a while. above all the like other comments have said seek medical help. i talked with a therapist and there was other issues i had under the surface which was helpful for my recovery! good luck you’ve got this 💘❤️

[@HannahKristaAPula]

Hot take: People need to know/learn about the true meaning of eating disorder.... It's not just this thing that we have that we can't control it's more than that... it's beyond that. Argh I hope people would understand ☹️😔

[@iceeprincess1]

Agree!!

[@31oise]

Thats why comments are telling her to go to a professional, majority of people are just speaking from their own experiences and what they've been diagnosed with as well. Like what you're supposed to do in a comment section :)

[@krissy5089]

How would you describe it? I deal with BED and I never really know how to describe it myself other than feeling like I have no control over it. Sometimes I feel so empty (not physically in my stomach but emotionally) when trying to portion my meals, and I come to food for comfort especially when I’m sad or stressed. I could be in pain from over eating and I will still eat because of how I’m feeling. It’s really hard to explain

[@Cantbebotheredbyyouanymore]

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, if you haven’t had an eating disorder, you won’t understand it. I think it’s always going to be hard for people to try and understand if they’ve never gone through it

[@hailzpw9100]

She for sure had an eating disorder though. Not sure if that’s what you’re saying but she does:)