How I FOUND OUT MY FATHER MARRIED ANOTHER WOMAN + STARTING COLLEGE

Read my diary written when I was 18. #storytime How I found out my father married another woman while still married to my mother plus the trials of starting college at Cornell University #immigrantstory #familydrama
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[@Kenton-Habiba]

Thank you for watching and listening! This was definitely a trip down memory lane. I genuinely forgot most of these details and I am thankful I had the foresight to write them down. It is not all pretty but it is all true or at least from my point of view. Ps. link to Tea bloom in the description box above.

[@poochielue68]

Whaa gwaan Habiba! earphones in...listening while working....I dunno what to say....I feel for you the kids and Aunty Barbs to have found out the way you did about your Dad. Water under the bridge now I suppose. Kinda like how my Mom found out about my Dad......:(

[@TheDarkDresser]

I just love listening to your journal readings. It's like listening to you read a story, which in a way it is. As you're reading, images of the people and places form in my mind. Very interesting teen years and many good memories. Thank you for sharing them, and I look forward to more readings. When I was 17-18, I was fearless; I just didn't know at the time that I should fear certain situations or people. I believe that I was born loving antique furniture. My mother learned of my father's second marriage in the US from someone else. Btw, the dried flower teas are so beautiful; they were meant to be served in a clear teacup.

[@Kenton-Habiba]

Thank you for your thoughtful comment and appreciate you watching! 💐

[@emmyweels]

Oh Habiba, how I wish I kept a diary. I would have loved to know where my head was during the time when some things happened. I enjoy these diary sessions and I hope we get many more 😍

[@Kenton-Habiba]

Thank you for listening. 🌸

[@sherjones5385]

Memories, they can be good, bad or sad . It's how we handle them. I have seen the way you show " love" to your family! May the Lord continue to bless you all.

[@Kenton-Habiba]

Thank you 🙏🏾

[@priscils6642]

Enjoying the journal entries. How I wish I had kept a journal. I dont remember many events when I was a teenager... Thank goodness my younger brother has a photographic memory👍🏽🤗

[@Kenton-Habiba]

Yes a journal 📓 or diary 📔 is definitely a good thing especially for someone like myself who may either block out traumatic events or forget the details of good times. Life can be hard at times but we have all had positive life changing moments that we may have overlooked and it’s nice to have a written record.

[@sandmors7998]

It's amazing that you still have this diary to share with all of us.

[@MsMaryMacc]

Hi!!! I just want to say, I love story time and so happy you decided to share. Many Blessings ❤️

[@anonnona6433]

There is something beautiful about old pictures 📷 I can't explain it 🥰

[@NadiaZoe1111]

Journal is such a great way of going down the memory lane. It keeps the good, bad and the ugly but shows how much you've grown from the whatever the situation was. I'm a tea drinker as well. Cerasee for me before bed. I love the bitter taste

[@nicolemaddix4291]

Further Education in so important to Jamaicans and even more so to Nigerians, I can imagine how proud your entourage felt to see you make this right of passage to go off to an ivy league College. Your diary is a precious treasure, more valuable the the contents of your many jewellery boxes.😎🏁

[@birdervaughn7902]

Thank you for sharing Habiba. I love writing in my journal. As a retired educator I required my students to write journal entries daily. I hope that these looks back into their younger memories will be memorable.

[@fdoctor79]

First of all, thanks for your willingness to be transparent about a very sensitive and yet special time during your young adulthood. Believe me everyone has a story! But you have came out on the other side beautifully! Tfs

[@shonnie089]

Such interesting journal entries. Reminds me of my first week in college, living away from home for the first time and that feeling of homesickness. Wow, I haven't thought about that in years. Your reading gives me the idea that your father was afraid to tell your mom of his new marriage. Pretty amazing! Can't wait for the next chapter of your life at Cornell.

[@Kenton-Habiba]

Thank you for listening 🙏🏾🌸

[@rosalinedrakes2069]

Love the diary reading and the old photos of you and your friends ❤ 💕 ♥

[@Kenton-Habiba]

Thank you 🙏🏾

[@TheCrystallorraine]

Yay!!!! Diary time; thank you!

[@serinaangelini7817]

Thank you once again for sharing your lovely journey so blessed 🤗 You look so beautiful in your yellow!God-bless you and the Family 🙏🏼💕

[@MissBunnie0407]

Oh, I enjoyed the diary reading. I remember some of the happenings of the time very well, as we are about the same age. Thanks for sharing.

[@Kenton-Habiba]

Thank you for listening!

[@sweetcakesmarie6566]

Hello beautiful family and may God continue to always be with you all 💕💕😇😇😍😍😍🤩🤩💖💖❤️❤️👍👍👍👍❣️❣️❣️❣️♥️♥️👍👍👍👍👍👍❣️♥️♥️♥️🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏💌🙂💗💗💗💗💕😇😇😇👍👍👍💖❤️❣️♥️

[@danadeeoto5030]

Habiba you are so blessed to have been able to keep a diary and confidently jot down your deepest thoughts. I tried when I was younger however being of Nigerian decent, my privacy kept on being invaded. I guess I liked to use it for my private thoughts, feelings and secrets. I am thinking, now that I am a grown woman with adults kids, I may start up again it maybe therapeutic.❤️Thanks for sharing

[@TheMoadika]

Thanks for sharing, Habiba. That was very deep, especially towards the end. Lots and lots of hugs.

[@Kenton-Habiba]

Appreciate you for watching and commenting!

[@yvettewilliams5967]

I enjoyed your reading your diary. Amazing info. diaries keep. Thanks for sharing your personal experiences.

[@nzuix]

Quite a good read and looking back in your younger past is quite introspective. Thank you for sharing a very personal past of yours and be truly blessed. Our regards to your family.

[@katenkosi1389]

Habiba I love ❤ the journal it's bringing back all the memories it is so nice to listen 🎶

[@viviandavenport3935]

That was so fun listening to you diary history Be blessed.

[@lizohonsi1013]

Hi Habiba, l just bumped into your videos and I am loving them. I'm a Nigerian from Jos - North Central Nigeria 🇳🇬 so l understand where you are coming from after watching your video on how you immigrated to America. You and Ken are made for each other, l'm inspired...

[@Kennedy007ism]

Very interesting Habiba! Always love your diary sessions😃. Lovely walk down memory lane....well, mostly.

[@Kenton-Habiba]

😅🙏🏾

[@Harmony2766]

So much touched by your story🤗🤗

[@maryannbryant2171]

I enjoyed you reading from your diary. You are a great story teller want you to know I order Lume from your link, can't wait to receive it. Thanks so much, I hope one day to meet you. My husband and I moved from Jersey City to South Carolina about a year ago. Look forward to more reading from your diary. Love to your family

[@RoseAngella]

Wow. Thanks for sharing. 💜

[@adamakamara9905]

Amazing stories beautiful ❤❤❤

[@latonjiastroud5191]

That tea looks amazing

[@annmatthews9474]

You are so right Habiba king plaza was the place to go back in the 80 the movie theater was thing back then , nice blog thank you for sharing your dairy with us your subscriber .

[@chezniki]

I am class of '89 and I lived in Ujamaa all four years. Thank you for sharing your pictures and your memories.

[@Kenton-Habiba]

Wow awesome 👏🏽 Cornell in the house ! 😁

[@taralalla50]

Thanks for sharing your life with us quite interesting.As you say we all have issues growing up and its all water under the bridge.

[@Kenton-Habiba]

😊🌸

[@aminahforever4277]

What a better way to relax after a full day’s work. Your voice is so relaxing. 1988, I had a 4 year old girl. She will be 38 in August and she cringe whenever I tell her, I still keep her teen age diaries and high school log book (scrap books) she shared with her classmates and some of their photos. I am beginning to think that she will eventually thank me for keeping them. At the moment, I understand that her hands and mind are full attending to her 3 sons.

[@MunchieAGoogleUser]

Thank you for sharing….

[@barbaraanntunau9453]

Thanks!

[@Kenton-Habiba]

Why are you thanking me mummy?! and sending me money?? Either way I appreciate it! xoxo

[@estherekpo4937]

I love your stories, very inspiring and you are blessed! Thanks for sharing.

[@Kenton-Habiba]

Thank you 🙏🏾

[@annharradan4316]

Hi Habiba plants get a lot of water rainy weather love all the fancy tea your diary has a lot of memories your journey with people, places and dates thank you for sharing your journey ❤️🇹🇹👌🙂

[@Kenton-Habiba]

Thank you for watching! 🙏🏾🌸

[@mukailaalani1643]

Dr. Habiba you know you look so much like your dad.

[@chionwachinwuba740]

Really captivated by your dairy reading.

[@Kenton-Habiba]

Thank you

[@nolahester493]

I now remember my pre-freshmen summer experience 4 years before yours. Thanks for bringing back those treasured Cornell memories. Is the food truck still in front of Balch Hall?

[@Kenton-Habiba]

Thank you for watching! Cornell in the house 😁🙌🏿👏🏽 It has been a while since I was on Cornell’s campus but at the last reunion I attended ( 10 years ago😯) the truck was still there!

[@shirleyfretty487]

You've had an interesting life Habiba. Enjoyed the video!!!! It is so heartbreaking about the many people shot here in Texas, my heart goes out to them!!!!

[@Kenton-Habiba]

Thank you 🙏🏾

[@anonnona6433]

Healing for all 🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@maryannjefferson2234]

INTERESTING DAIRY, WISH I HAD KEPT ONE.

[@aquanettagardner9722]

Thank you for going down memory lane I enjoyed that I hope your mom and brother is doing well I really miss seeing them I know your brother working 2424 I know my Soulja girl she's all over the place🤣🤣🤣 I would like to see what she have really done to her room and the whole house I know she has some beautiful flowers out there on the deck tell her we miss seeing her and your brother may God continue blessing you and your beautiful family stay strong it keeps bringing in those beautiful stories and your peaceful surrounding on your deck I just love it have a blessed day God bless🙏

[@Kenton-Habiba]

Thank you ☺️ Maybe they will read this comment and send me some video clips to share!

[@lanellvital7312]

Hello Habiba and Kenton , Dairy's are good memories 🤗 Habibi you came to the US at the age of 15 from Nigeria and you have no Nigeria accent , my Nephew dad from Nigeria been in the US more than 30 years and a educated man still have the accent .

[@Kenton-Habiba]

I don’t think I ever had a “Nigerian accent “ unless I was speaking in Hausa or pidgin English. My mother was raised in England where I was born so we always spoke English along with other languages. I can put on a stereotypical accent when I want or when I am trying to be funny 😆

[@alicegauteng2358]

This wss a good dowm memory lane. I wonder what happened to those "fast girls"😂😂😂

[@lotus9259]

I lived across the street from Kings plaza(I remembered when it was THE SPOT😊😊) And I graduated from Brooklyn College with my BA😉 PS. I don't think the package was sent by a male but rather his new wife. Those ladies can be very warped with self esteem issues.

[@Kenton-Habiba]

I used to be obsessed with the warm cookies 🍪 chocolate chip pecan at Kings plaza! 😋 Brooklyn College was also a big part of our lives and our high school 🏫 held graduation 🎓 there.

[@maureenburrell5452]

This. Story. Sounds. Very. Interesting. I. Could. Be. Here. Listening. For. Ever

[@Kenton-Habiba]

Thank you for listening. Check out my storytime playlist for others.

[@misszwheels6969]

Very interested 🤔 recap of college years. I know your dad loves his first family. Your Dad was no ordinary Nigerian man his family had status and not easy to give up if he was ordinary he would have been in America.. It was difficult and you had grandparents support. Making no excuses Life is unpredictable but forgiving and healing is the answer to move forward. I pray 🙏 both families will unite as one in the future.

[@rhogan7312]

Hi Habiba, enjoyed your video today! So sad that families go through some much trauma but ironically it molds us for life. Glad to see that though obviously scathed we can still be productive human beings 💯💕💕💕from Chicago (Chi-town)

[@Kenton-Habiba]

Thank you for listening 👂 🙏🏾🌸

[@journeyg7505]

Your mom is so beautiful

[@maxineking5073]

🙏🏽⭐🌈🤗⚘ from London city

[@TheCrystallorraine]

So interesting. Reminds me of myself during that same time period. Thanks for sharing.

[@Kenton-Habiba]

Awww thanks for watching/ listening! 💐

[@amyokoyetv]

Dr Habiba, thanks for this video. How can I raise my daughter to become a medical doctor? She starts reception in September, here in the UK. She is turning 5 years old this year. Any advice? Or to rephrase the direct question, how do i raise a child who enjoys learning? I❤🙂🇳🇬👍

[@Kenton-Habiba]

I can do my best to give you a short answer but I am sure it goes beyond what I say here. 1. Let your child be a child and allow her plenty of time to play & express herself. 2. Expose her to as many fun educational experiences you can afford like age appropriate museums or art galleries, book stores .l love seeing kids picking out their own books at the kids section. 3. Encourage her to ask questions or ask her how she feels about what she sees around her. This encourages her to think for herself and express herself. 4. Show her what it means to be a good person and what serving others looks like. Be her first great example. 5. Read books or find books with people who “look like her” doing positive things. Role models early on are important. When she is older have her shadow a doctor or spend time with a medical professional. 6. Teach her early not to be mediocre. Always to do her best even when it comes to basic non educational things. Always positive reinforcement without being overbearing. Hopefully one day your daughter will want to be a doctor 🥼 but if she grows up and wants something different-it is not the end of the world. There are so many other professions of which she can be of service. 🧚🏽‍♂️I think in the end it is important to raise a good human.

[@amyokoyetv]

@@Kenton-Habiba wow thanks for taking time out to reply. I was chuffed to receive a message🙂. Great!! Advice later today we are visiting a book store....though we do have a library too with not enough books on people who look like her. Museums we will be visiting....thank you and each piece of advice is well received and will be put into practice immediately. ❤🥂🙂

[@cathyholoway722]

It is 19 Children and 2 Teachers.

[@Kenton-Habiba]

Yes 😞 so sad.

[@rosemkini719]

If you all ran away from him. What did you all expect him yo do,? It would be very unreasonable.to hold it against him. Correction.to do.

[@rosemkini719]

Amazing even infants use the computer fairly well now.

[@Kenton-Habiba]

Yes we "ran away' from him but 1. I would have expected him to divorce one wife before you marry another 2. not string along your first wife and have her believing you plan to move and join her 3. Not give up entirely on your children just because you are not with their mother 4. Tell the truth. Like I said it is what it is. We live and we learn but that's how I feel.

[@Kenton-Habiba]

@@timstrong2036 Perhaps it was not apparent but my father was quite westernized and educated in England where he met my mother. He may have been raised in a polygamous culture in Nigeria but while they were married he made it clear he was only interested in one wife. Anyone who knew him new that. He made a choice to marry a christian woman ( my mother) and made some promises to her parents. You said family is" very important to his People" I am sure it is very important to any culture and so is taking care of your children. Like any relationship they had their ups and downs but setting expectations and honesty is very important regardless of your religion. Ps I embrace my Nigerian bloodline as much as I can but I am also aware that some of my values are not the same as a typical Hausa woman and will never be given my upbringing and circumstances.

[@rosemkini719]

Maybe you are right.an I'm sorry if what I said was wrong.but the world we live in can sometimes rub us the wrong way.but we continue living OK take care.

[@rinajohnson7373]

Sometimes, it's not what you do but how you do it. Context gives the full picture.

[@valdenelucas2349]

Thought that was a African culture to have more than one wife, correct me if I'm wrong..

[@Kenton-Habiba]

I am not sure I would go so far as to say it having multiple wives is “African culture” because not all Africans are Muslims or believe in polygamy.

[@TheCrystallorraine]

You should pledge AKA; you'd make a great AKA.

[@chimeneliburd5133]

Yes she would!-Chimene the roommate in the diary😉

[@Kenton-Habiba]

@@chimeneliburd5133 Girl you are too funny 😂 nice to see you here! 🌸

[@ChiChi-gd8tb]

Dear Habiba why not let sleeping dogs lie. Digging out family past hurts especially reading it out to strangers is strange to me, or is it kind of healing to you. At the end of the day he is your father please don't indirectly put him out for trolling.

[@sandmors7998]

Is your dad still married to the second wife, are you cordial with the second wife etc.

[@Kenton-Habiba]

Yes my dad is still married to his second wife. I don’t know her, have never met her ( because I have not been to Nigeria 🇳🇬 since we left)

[@werqzeleke2815]

Why were you surprised to find out that your dad as a Muslim had taken a new wife? Your mother knew he was a Muslim shen she got married and he would marry a second wife, I never can understand why women complain when the man does that especially when the man is a Muslim. By the way Christian do it too and it's not illegal in Africa.